happyyalobusha Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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4	She is giving hints that she misses me. Im not strong. Opinions? advice? help? And, froy may have given her herpes so don't go to that shit man. Herpes is a big deal!! And cheaters seem to be contracting and spreading it more in the last few years. So be very aware that you should be wary.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/04/22 12:27 PM
1	I need some support I read your previous post and feel that she is enjoying playing with your emotions and driving you to drink and become addicted to alcohol! I feel that she wants to play victim and wants to destroy you and is telling friends and lovers about what a bad person and alcoholic you are. She is meeting with you and keeping you close so she can enjoy what she is doing to you. I think that you need to emotionally detach from her and checkout of your marriage mentally. This woman does not deserve you!	/r/Divorce_Men	13/01/22 11:55 AM
3	Another Man Will Have More Time With My Child Than Me I have a feeling the other long game is to move out of state True. But another even less politically correct long game is to marry another woman and quickly have more kids. The family courts are encouraging you abandon your kids with your ex. Having a new baby and experiencing the joy of a new family can do a lot to soothe the hurt that you are feeling now. Maybe making that your goal instead of fighting a stupid and clueless court system is the best long term move.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/11/21 11:11 AM
11	This sh*t sucks.. My lawyer isn’t returning my calls Maybe it is time to find another lawyer. The longer this situation goes on the more likely a judge will rule for her to keep your boys away from you. The judge will look at this new status quo and determine that you didn't care or you would have objected in court.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/08/21 11:21 AM
1	The Pettiness is the Worst If you give in to her now, you are in for a world of pain for the next year as this continues. So true! You must act to shut this down now! If the legal system supports her then at least you have documentation that you did what you could to keep your children in your life. But unfortunately you must realize that some courts and mothers do not realize the importance of keeping the father involved in their children's lives. That is why some frustrated fathers just give up and walk away. So sad but…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/21 08:39 AM
2	The Pettiness is the Worst the pettiness is her way to try to get you to mess up. So true!!! She wants to pile as much stress as she can onto you! Now you know what you are dealing with - that she won't keep her word and wants to use your children as leverage in the divorce. Think of this every time there is contact with her.. Document everything and purchase a recorder to record what she tells you. Involve your lawyer ASAP. If you allow her to continue it makes it harder to enforce her agreement in the future.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/21 08:26 AM
3	Divorce as it happens. Very important for you to realize: Your wife has been planning this for a long while. She is already three moves ahead of you.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/04/21 08:51 AM
2	Actions make No sense One way out theory to explain her strange behaviour: A possibility that comes to mind is that she had a ONS or short PA and found that she had contracted genital herpes. The shame and fear of giving the genital herpes to you would explain her strange behaviour.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/04/21 09:09 AM
2	Trial Separation - Any Experience/Rules/Advice? "Trial separation" is the first tool women use to screw men out of 50/50 custody. Every divorced woman over 30 in my office is practically a paralegal at divorce law. This is the first thing they counsel other women to do. Second most common piece of advice is making allegations of abuse to get a restraining order. OP needs to read this over several times - and take it to heart!	/r/Divorce_Men	15/04/21 08:40 PM
1	This is really hard you will be in a world of hurt if you do not act soon YESSS! Get a lawyer and file ASAP. Protect yourself!	/r/Divorce_Men	13/04/21 03:04 PM
2	This is really hard Get a lawyer. YESSS! Get a lawyer ASAP. By leaving and taking the kids she is setting up things for a messy divorce where she gets to take you to the cleaners. File for divorce before she does! Also expect her to continue to play by the cheater's handbook and accuse you of being abusive and an alcoholic and an illegal drug user. She will tell friends and parents that YOU are having an affair, etc. She may try to get you fired from your job. She is firing the first shots in a war to destroy you. …	/r/Divorce_Men	13/04/21 02:59 PM
2	This is really hard She may simply plan to falsely accuse you of domestic violence and get a restraining order to remove you from the house once she returns. This happens often. Best bet is to NOT let her return if possible. But if she is able to return have video cameras and voice recorders installed to protect yourself.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/04/21 02:52 PM
1	This is really hard Do not permit her to establish status quo with the kids living elsewhere. Very important! File ASAP. You can always stop or delay the divorce process - but starting the divorce process is SLOW. You should also remove her from your will and from any life insurance accounts. Cancel joint credit cards and talk to your lawyer about taking half of all savings accounts, etc. You should also talk to your lawyer about installing new locks and preventing her from getting into your house to steal things w…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/04/21 02:49 PM
2	Advice to get back Be prepared for her to move all of your savings into another bank account in another bank in just her name. She may also max out your joint credit cards. Since she has moved out see if your lawyer can get a court order to keep her out of the house. Consider installing cameras in the house so you can be alerted and watch if she breaks into the house and plants illegal drugs.Her having access to the house gives her lots of opportunities to pull dirty tricks on you per the cheater's handbook. While…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/04/21 04:22 AM
1	2 days ago in love, today everything is gone drinking too much this weekend You might want to stay away from alcohol or drugs. One thing that the cheater's handbook recommends is that the wife tell friends and family that that hubby is an alcoholic and has a drug problem. Also claiming that you have mental health issues is recommended. The purpose is to keep you from getting support from friends and family and make you face the divorce alone and stressed. She wants to stress you out with false accusations and dirty tricks. She may call pol…	/r/Divorce_Men	31/03/21 09:33 PM
2	2 days ago in love, today everything is gone They are convinced that she is a victim of terrible circumstances, and that I, and my kids from a previous marriage are the cause of her mental anguish.. She wants to make you look bad so friends and parents won't see how bad she is. This is from the cheater's playbook.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/03/21 09:22 PM
2	2 days ago in love, today everything is gone You have nothing to gain by talking to her. She is playing hardball and she has shown that she is willing to lie to get a more favourable position in the divorce. All communication to her should be through email or written text ( save the emails or texts to refute her lies ) - and you might want to have all communication go through your lawyer. Ask the lawyer. If she shows up at your work or home to talk you should record her. Small spy type voice activated recorders are inexpensive and easy to …	/r/Divorce_Men	31/03/21 09:20 PM
2	I may have had enough.. Sounds to me like it is time for you to cut your losses and check out of the marriage. There are so many wonderful women out there who are searching for a treasure like you!	/r/Divorce_Men	29/03/21 10:57 AM
1	2nd thoughts I’m in the best shape I’ve been in, in 10 years and have multiple women looking at me with “eyes” and to top it off, I am a bit inexperienced.. and always thought I was “lacking”.. but also found out I’m in the 95th percentile and have no trouble “performing”.. so I wonder what the fuck she is thinking, when she has a hunk of a man in front of her willing to do whatever it takes to keep the family together? It sounds to me like your wife is a lost cause and that she is pulling you down. Maybe it…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/03/21 10:53 AM
1	Am I in the wrong? A few things you might want to be prepared for when you attend the hearing in court on your temporary restraining order: (1) She may be there with her lawyer to make the TRO permanent. Looking at the TRO paperwork may reveal if a lawyer was involved in filling out the TRO form. If she and a lawyer are there it probably means that they have some sort of "evidence" that you are a danger to her. Hopefully, there is no lawyer and she is surprised that you are there with a lawyer. So it is best for h…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/03/21 12:25 PM
2	Am I in the wrong? She got upset, yelled at me for spying on her. Now because things have been getting rocky she avoids me all the time. She’s tired, she’s exhausted, doesn’t feel good these are the only responses I get from her. She is deflecting - clearly a sign that something was going on that she doesn't want you to know about. It is probably an affair. And I got hit with a restraining order for 2 weeks. States she fears for her safety now..... The restraining order makes it illegal for you to contact or commu…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/03/21 09:20 AM
1	Am I in the wrong? If she refuses to sit down with her husband and have an adult conversation about her actions and who this guy is then you need to tell her you cannot continue your relationship as it is now. That train has already left the station. The restraining order makes it illegal for him to communicate with her. So she intentionally shut that conversation down when she got the RO. She is very evil and manipulative and has made it impossible for the marriage to continue. OP will NEVER be able to trust that…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/03/21 04:44 PM
2	Am I in the wrong? Now it’s the waiting game. OP should be careful to be Saint while the waiting game is on. The STBX and her girlfriends are probably having a great time destroying the OP's life with false accusations and using the law as a weapon and the restraining order based on lies. Next they will probably start spreading false rumours that the OP has a drinking problem and is a druggie - right out of the cheater's playbook. So OP needs to be VERY careful with alcohol and stay away from drugs. OP should prob…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/03/21 12:58 PM
2	Am I in the wrong? She’s calling my family and friends stating she’s worried about me and doesn’t know what to do. She is trying to destroy your reputation. Once she has turned your friends and family against you she will move in with the AP - or move him in with her. She will portray the AP as her protector - to protect her from the crazy you. It is very important that you maintain no contact. She is looking for anything that she can twist to use against you - to make you look crazy. Push hard to get the divorce …	/r/Divorce_Men	27/03/21 08:15 AM
1	Am I in the wrong? Just say it's a shame when someone you love betrays you and then tries to make you the bad guy to cover up their actions. Not a bad idea!	/r/Divorce_Men	27/03/21 08:00 AM
1	Am I in the wrong? Don't be alone with her after the RO is up. Which pretty much means your marriage is over but it was likely over anyway since she was hiding things and refusing to speak to you. This is important. OP will need to get his belongings from the residence - so will need to plan how to do that. Violating a RO is a serious legal offense and will result in jail and probably his job loss. ( Employers often fire anyone with legal problems as a policy. ) So OP will need to work with his lawyer on how to re…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/03/21 07:30 AM
1	Am I in the wrong? Did you give her reason to fear for her safety? It doesn't matter at this point. She has used the law as a weapon to portray you as a bad person - an abuser. There is no coming back from this! its a toxic relationship either on both your parts or one, not sure who and that this relationship should be ended for good. You need to RUN, not WALK, away from this relationship! You should tell your parents and friends what happened. She is probably telling lies on you already so it won't look so bad wh…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/03/21 07:56 PM
1	Am I in the wrong? It is so so easy to get a temporary restraining order where I live too. You just have to claim that you feel unsafe - no proof or explanation necessary. After the two weeks the restraining order will be continued unless you contest it in court and the judge believes you. Evidence may be needed when you actually get to defend yourself in the hearing. You must get a lawyer ASAP so you can defend yourself in the hearing on the restraining order! If the restraining order is not removed it makes it v…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/03/21 07:38 PM
4	Am I in the wrong? Maybe she wants you out of the house so she can move the AP in. She has declared war on you. She is destroying your reputation and trying to set up a more favourable position in the divorce. You need to accept that the marriage is over and that you need to protect yourself legally and emotionally. You need to find a good lawyer as soon as possible and see what your options are. She is toxic and getting away from her as fast as possible is probably your best move. I hope that you have gone NC alr…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/03/21 09:28 AM
12	She wanted just sex for awhile, now she wants something much more for herself and all her kids. maybe he was serious and she shook him into a decision about his GF That's what I think. The man was simply wanting to check back in with a past love and make sure of his feelings before he asked his present GF to marry him. Now he will never have doubts about his feelings for his past love. He knows that she needs to stay in his past.	/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen	11/03/21 09:27 PM
3	Kids Backing Away In my opinion, your analysis is right on!	/r/Divorce_Men	03/03/21 11:51 AM