hardenup12345 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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2	Men have the Right to Opt Out of Society/Work/Women and focus on themselves. Yep. Everytime someone says what you just said I think of this Twilight episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3HF70gOQimo	/r/MensRights	27/03/24 08:14 AM
0	I feel men suffer but aren't allowed to be weak, like they are the silverbacks of humanity Unnecessary crying is a weakness. Maybe, but I don't see why men should be constantly obligated to subject themselves to emotional torture so as not to been seen as 'weak'. OK, so the man appears weak... and? Does the work still get done? Do the roads still get built? Do the kids still get fed? Women cry all the time while still fulfilling their societal roles and obligations, I'm not sure how crying prevents men from pulling their weight. It's a hell of a lot better than coming home in a pissy …	/r/MensRights	27/03/24 08:00 AM
2	I feel men suffer but aren't allowed to be weak, like they are the silverbacks of humanity men have a higher "sadness tolerance meter". See, I'm not sure I agree with this. I have worked in female dominated workplaces and it was common for the female employees to cry, usually in response to a really nasty customer or being overworked while being understaffed. Honestly, I didn't blame them. There were some days I wanted to cry too, but unfortunately I knew that if I shedded those tears in public I'd be seen as weak and out of control. People would question whether I could cope with my …	/r/MensRights	27/03/24 07:48 AM
3	Why does a man always have to apologize and be the first to admit wrong? OP, please read this! Are you sure you want to get this woman pregnant? Because once you have a kid together you are going to have to deal with her for at least the next 18 years , as even if you divorce, you will still need to interact for the sake of the kid. Life doesn't get less stressful once you have a kid, so if this is the way she is handling stress now, things are almost certainly going to get worse once she has the added responsibility of a kid. Maybe it is hormones, but hormones don't…	/r/MensRights	25/03/24 12:09 AM
3	What is your response to women when a man is a DV victim and they say “why didn’t he leave? He’s a man” I don't doubt the truth of your anecdote, and I've heard similar experiences for other men. But you must realize you were playing with fire, and that those altercations could easily have easily ended up with you having a criminal record and being renowned as a woman beater by society and your family? Hitting a woman back is a lot like a black man slapping a white man back in the 1940's. It might give them pause, or it might end up in your being lynched (metaphorically, and in some cases literall…	/r/MensRights	24/03/24 11:33 PM
15	What is your response to women when a man is a DV victim and they say “why didn’t he leave? He’s a man” Just because man is bigger doesn't always mean he's stronger. Best analogy you can give: Who had more power in the medieval times, the huge jacked serf who performed 10 hours of manual labour a day, or the foppish aristocrat who had never lifted a shovel in their life?	/r/MensRights	24/03/24 11:32 PM
2	What is your response to women when a man is a DV victim and they say “why didn’t he leave? He’s a man” So he stayed for the kids I'm not sure if that's the entire reason, but it's a pretty solid reason. If you're a man being abused by your wife in a marriage where you have kids, you are in a catch-22 scenario. If you don't leave, people will think you are weak. If you leave, there is the question of what happens to the kid. If a husband were abusing his wife no-one would condemn the wife for leaving the relationship and taking the kid with her, but this doesn't work the other way around. Most p…	/r/MensRights	24/03/24 11:30 PM
2	Women making fun of a man who’s sick good thing men are not machines created to do specific tasks on command Oh, I agree 100%. Again, not only am I against gender roles, I'm an anti-natalist. I'm against imposing social roles on people in general, and I'm against imposing LIFE in general. And, I mean, even if you were to take a purely 'it's nature baby!' stance, nature gives men feelings as well. It gives them tear ducts. So our natural state is to cry and feel. But I know I'm preaching to the choir here. I wonder how would be th…	/r/MensRights	13/03/24 08:50 PM
3	Women making fun of a man who’s sick Maybe, but I'm reluctant to chalk it up to biological differences. I think society socializes us to be more sensitive and reactive to signs of weakness when exhibited by men, since we expect them to be the providers and protectors. Nobody cares if your pencil necked accountant is sniffling and sneezing. But a soldier who is entrusted with protecting the nation? You need to shut that shit down, likely with a massive dose of shaming.	/r/MensRights	13/03/24 11:23 AM
4	Women making fun of a man who’s sick When s woman gets sick, some men expect her to "suck it up" and continue with caring for the children, cook dinner, clean, work, and do errands. Agreed. There are some men who are incredibly selfish and lack empathy. I also think that there is probably a degree of socialization where some men take for granted the fact that women who adopt the carer role often have to undertake that role when they are sick themselves. I think that society in general doesn't appreciate that carers (including carer…	/r/MensRights	13/03/24 11:20 AM
5	Women making fun of a man who’s sick Or it could just be that society has been primed to show more disdain to a man who is sick.	/r/MensRights	13/03/24 11:02 AM
9	Women making fun of a man who’s sick Wouldn't you get angry if your car wasn't driving properly? If it sputtered and spewed fountains of black smog out of the exhaust when you tried to drive it? If it conked out every few miles? Wouldn't you get furious at a printer that kept jamming? Or a PC that kept blue screening? Wouldn't you get angry if your pack mule became listless and started staggering when carrying its load? Unfortunately pretty much every society on Earth socializes men to be human doings, and when they start to strugg…	/r/MensRights	13/03/24 11:00 AM
5	Women making fun of a man who’s sick While I'll be the first person to say not all women are like that, there is a definite bias in society where men are shamed for getting sick or showing any sort of physical weakness. It's not just some Tik Tok trend, I've observed women talk pretty condescendingly about their partners when they fall sick, and have also had a female employee ridicule me for having 'man flu'. Note that I have taken 2 sick days off over 12 years of work, and I was actually at work when she ridiculed me. She took si…	/r/MensRights	13/03/24 10:49 AM
1	Why women always trying to prove that they are better than us? What I'm saying is "carrying on like a woman" is a woman expressing herself. Usually it's said in a dismissive and condescending manner, with the implication being that women have a tendency to overreact or make a big deal over nothing. 'Acting hysterical' is a behavior usually associated with women, not men. It's sexist, yes, but isn't it also more permissive for girls and women? Yes, it's permissive, but also dismissive because it's regarded as a failing that we 'permit' them to have. If I s…	/r/MensRights	11/03/24 07:25 AM
2	Why women always trying to prove that they are better than us? This kind of stuff is always perpetuated by other women though Always? No way. It's perpetuated by many men and women. With beauty standards, for example, feminists always blame men for them being too high when, in reality, we don't like tons of make-up and plastic surgery. Gender-specific beauty standards are perpetuated by many men and women as well. You're doing all that to be validated by other women, I'm not female, and I don't completely agree with your above statement. I think some wo…	/r/MensRights	11/03/24 07:14 AM
6	Why women always trying to prove that they are better than us? I hear this a lot, but I don't know how serious the claim is. "Don't cry like a girl" could mean "they're allowed to cry, you're not." I'd say that a lot of people from the older generations pushed the view that males should not cry, and that tears were seen as 'womanly'. I've read many anecdotes of young boys being punished for crying because they weren't conforming to gender roles: One father threatened to put his boy in a dress because 'If you're going to whine like a girl, you will dress lik…	/r/MensRights	11/03/24 01:06 AM
-3	Why women always trying to prove that they are better than us? To be fair, historically women have been looked down upon in certain aspects. I grew up being told 'Don't cry like a girl', 'Not to carry on like a woman', and 'Why can't you lift this heavy object, are you a girl?" It's pretty harmful to tell men they can't cry, or to shame them for not being able to lift something heavy when they are 7 years old. But there is also an implication that women are inferior to men. "Ugh, you don't want to be like those women, do you? The ones who cry over stuff tha…	/r/MensRights	10/03/24 09:49 PM
6	A loving marriage ❤️ "Husband, I'm giving birth, can you please come to the hospital and support me?" "No wife, you need to handle this on your own. But I'll be praying for you!"	/r/MensRights	07/03/24 09:00 PM
23	A loving marriage ❤️ Doesn't care? Hey, she prayed for him.	/r/MensRights	07/03/24 01:37 AM
1	100% Honestly, if I’m wrong I’ll apologize. No doubt you should support your partner, but is the expectation really to elevate them over your own blood and family who has contributed far greater to your life than your partner? In some instances, yes.	/r/MensRights	20/01/24 01:37 PM
3	100% Honestly, if I’m wrong I’ll apologize. So? It's putting your mother over your wife not acceptable? Depends. I think relationshits are a net-negative, but if you choose to enter one, you are signing up for certain obligations, which include supporting your partner. Especially if kids are involved.	/r/MensRights	20/01/24 01:35 PM
5	100% Honestly, if I’m wrong I’ll apologize. Lately my wife has been feeling as if I don’t appreciate her, Yeah, I dunno, once either party feels that I think it's really hard to win them back. I'm not saying she is right in her beliefs or feelings, she could be completely delusional, but those sort of beliefs are really hard to reverse. We’ve had these arguments for years, Further evidence that you probably can't reverse the damage. It would have been best if you'd addressed this issue early with therapy before having a kid, or just cal…	/r/MensRights	20/01/24 01:31 PM
2	Men are opting out. No, you are far from feeling alone, I think a lot of younger men are opting out of marriage and relationshps in general. From what I've seen relationships are often like jobs. You both put your best foot forward and start out on your best behavior. Then there is a honeymoon period where everything is great and rosy, and you are both completely into each other. Then over time the novelty wears off and you start to accumulate grievances. I've lost count of the number of women I have seen who start…	/r/MensRights	20/01/24 01:15 PM
1	Tired of conditional love ALL love is conditional. Some people may have to jump through fewer hoops than others to gain that love, but at the end of the day we only love someone because of something they give us, or because of a characteristic (or set of characteristics) they possess.	/r/MensRights	27/12/23 07:06 AM
5	An Analogy for "Having sex can lead to a child therefore you made your decision when you decided to have sex" all you have to do is consider that "you consented to sex so you consented to children " I would say it's more like "You consented to sex, therefore you consented to having to support children that may arise as a consequence." Much like how you can't come back and sue the surgeon if you suffer from impotence if they told you that was a potential complication of the surgical procedure you consented to. The fundamental fact is that once conception occurs a man has very little control over whether …	/r/MensRights	07/12/23 07:21 AM
0	An Analogy for "Having sex can lead to a child therefore you made your decision when you decided to have sex" I don't agree with the analogy. If you have sex as a man or woman then you aware that conception is a very real possibility, you are effectively signing up for the 'risk' of conceiving a child, just like when you agree to undertake a surgical procedure you sign up for the 'risk' of suffering from complications. Probably the only circumstance which I'm still unsure of is if a woman knowingly misrepresents her chances of getting pregnant by lying about taking contraception. I still think the well-…	/r/MensRights	07/12/23 07:14 AM
1	Reddit has an obsession with seeing little male teenagers getting the shit kicked out of them for kind of annoying but mostly innocuous behavior. I believe just one of the many reasons feminists have so much entitlement and so little respect, is because they have no risk of physical altercation. I disagree. Physical violence usually engenders fear and compliance, not respect. And people become entitled due to personality defects or social conditioning. If you're constantly told you're special and catered to then you're going to develop an entitlement complex. OTOH, if you're neglected then you could also develop an entitlement complex in …	/r/MensRights	06/12/23 09:26 AM
1	Reddit has an obsession with seeing little male teenagers getting the shit kicked out of them for kind of annoying but mostly innocuous behavior. In all fairness, boys that age do need an ass whoopin now and again to keep them in line… No, they don't. The fact that multiple countries have banned physical discipline as a form of punishment and haven't descended into a Mad Max wasteland (minus the Aussie accents) is proof of that. little bit of physical pain could have avoided a larger amount of all kinds of pain down the road Speculation, you could easily have turned out worse.	/r/MensRights	06/12/23 09:18 AM
2	Reddit has an obsession with seeing little male teenagers getting the shit kicked out of them for kind of annoying but mostly innocuous behavior. There was a popular thread going around subreddit a few months ago where a 13 year old (?) slapped his girlfriend, and the parents responded by taking away his video games. Almost everyone in the thread was saying the mother didn't go far enough, and shaming her for not beating the hell out of him. I got a lot of downvotes in that thread because I attempted on multiple occasions to patiently explain that: Available scientific evidence suggests that on average using violence against children as d…	/r/MensRights	06/12/23 09:08 AM
1	Wife hit me, I called cops, now what…? The government was going to come anyway, might as well invite them in first so the other person doesn't twist the narrative.	/r/MensRights	22/11/23 09:29 AM
1	Wife hit me, I called cops, now what…? shell be the one calling the cops next time and this will happen. Which is precisely why he should follow through with the charges. The cops come to a domestic violence incident and it's a 'she said, he said' situation. Who are they more likely to believe, the one with a criminal history of domestic violence, or the one with a clean record? You seem to think that if the husband doesn't push for charges then the wife will be grateful and play nice. She was punching him while he was holding their …	/r/MensRights	22/11/23 09:27 AM
1	Wife hit me, I called cops, now what…? I understand your wife was under a lot of stress, but so were you. In no world does being under stress make it acceptable to start hitting your spouse, especially when they are holding a baby. It doesn't help that she then said she was going to call the police on you simply for defending yourself and the infant in your arms. The way I see it, your wife is probably always going to resent you for calling the cops, if you decide not to follow through with this it will be a classic case of you havin…	/r/MensRights	22/11/23 09:19 AM
7	False accusations are happening as early as elementary school Going to an all-boys school wouldn't be a punishment.	/r/MensRights	09/11/23 01:43 PM
5	False accusations are happening as early as elementary school LOL. Our country is also pretty strict about not punching people in the head, but that doesn't mean we suspend 9 year olds from school for doing so, because we realize they are little kids who aren't too bright and don't possess a fully developed sense of empathy, forward planning, and social convention. Assuming little Timmy did grope someone you tell him to keep his hands to himself, explain why, give some sort of annoying punishment like detention or trash pick up, and keep a close eye on him…	/r/MensRights	09/11/23 01:38 PM
2	My life My homelife is reduced now to getting home from work, drinking (about half bottle wine, NOT getting drunk) and sitting on bed reading or on laptop watching TV or Youtube. Don't feel bad. I'm a middle-aged single man and my life is pretty much the same, minus the wife and kids. I do feel that as we get older everything gets less novel, we get more burnt out and jaded, and we become far less interesting. Once you 'know your place' in life you are often just going through the motions. Youngest on…	/r/MensRights	09/11/23 06:34 AM
7	False accusations are happening as early as elementary school We don't know if our next door neighbour doesn't have a martian in their basement. We don't know if our best friend isn't a serial killer. We don't know if a family member doesn't work as a secret agent for the CIA. We assume they don't because there is no compelling evidence they do. People shouldn't be punished over unsubstantiated allegations of a serious crime.	/r/MensRights	09/11/23 06:19 AM
25	False accusations are happening as early as elementary school OP posted about this the same day it happened to complain and made clear he was appealing the suspension. So not only is it a bit unreasonable to expect them to have moved heaven and earth so soon, he is actually acting. The problem is that the school sort of has the parents over the barrel, it's getting harder to find schools and it's not always a good idea to burn your bridges. Sending the kid to school despite the suspension is also going to be bad for the kid, I've been in situations where t…	/r/MensRights	09/11/23 06:11 AM
7	False accusations are happening as early as elementary school They suspended him for 5 days? Are you in the U.S? Because in my country you'd have to practically murder someone to get suspended in primary school.	/r/MensRights	09/11/23 06:05 AM
1	A mom-of-two has taken the internet by storm after teaching her seven-year-old on how to be a good husband. Preparing a boy to be a good husband is not a bad thing, really. Yes it is. Men do not exist to serve women. Boys should not be groomed to be husbands, especially the sort of husband that mommy would like them to be.	/r/MensRights	14/08/23 01:58 AM
1	A mom-of-two has taken the internet by storm after teaching her seven-year-old on how to be a good husband. Great analogy.	/r/MensRights	14/08/23 01:56 AM
1	Women called 911 to scare her boyfriend. He got tasered she got arrested. He came out ready to fight because he assumed his partner was being attacked and wasn't aware that the people outside his door were the police. Once he started to realize what was going on the aggression leaked right out of him, which is why he lowered his fists.	/r/MensRights	14/08/23 01:49 AM
1	Women called 911 to scare her boyfriend. He got tasered she got arrested. Those weren't the only two options. The dude went from aggressive (because he thought his girlfriend was being attacked), to defensive and confused when he realized she wasn't being attacked and the people she was screaming about were cops. The officers could have de-escalated the situation verbally, but I guess they were also overwhelmed and jumped to the quickest way to shut things down.	/r/MensRights	14/08/23 01:48 AM
1	Women called 911 to scare her boyfriend. He got tasered she got arrested. He then put his hands in the air for about 1 second before pulling them back down into a less aggressive but still somewhat defensive position. LOL, I wouldn't call his stance 'somewhat defensive', and being 'somewhat defensive' in a crisis where you fear for your safety isn't unreasonable or an excuse to get tased. Being 'somewhat defensive' is not an imminent threat to anyone, let alone police officers who carry guns and tazers.	/r/MensRights	14/08/23 01:45 AM
1	Women called 911 to scare her boyfriend. He got tasered she got arrested. I do blame the cop. That dude was unexpectedly thrust into a chaotic situation. He hears his partner screaming for help and reasonably assumes she is being attacked. He has his fists up to defend himself and her. Then he sees that they are cops, pauses and starts to process the situation, lowers his fists, and then is tazed. Upon watching the video there is nine seconds between when the guy opens his door and when he is tazed. Nine seconds to think about WTF to do when you hear your partner scre…	/r/MensRights	14/08/23 01:40 AM
1	Stepparent Disciplining Child It blows my mind that children are punished for wetting the bed, they can't help what they do while they are asleep. It would be like punishing a grown adult for snoring, cruel and pointless.	/r/MensRights	29/07/23 09:43 AM
1	What’s Your Opinion on Dress Codes I have no problem with dress codes as long as they are equal for both genders in terms of effort involved.	/r/MensRights	18/07/23 09:35 AM
3	Female perpetrators of coercive control The day I informed her that I had spent the day looking for apartments to rent, she took out her phone, showed me she had the phone number of the local police department called up, and I panicked, hurriedly packed a bag, and stayed in a hotel for a week until I arranged for the movers to come. It was the most traumatizing and infuriating experience of my life. It sucks that good people still feel obliged to play by the rules of common courtesy when dealing with manipulative and controlling peopl…	/r/MensRights	18/07/23 09:20 AM
1	Are we dating the same guy groups - Potentially very harmful I understand what you are saying, if your wife is the paranoid sort or tends to assume the worst then she may not believe you. But if she finds this profile and discovers you knew about it but didn't tell her, then you are going to look even shadier in her eyes. If I were you I'd tell her the truth ASAP. "Hey wife, a friend of mine just informed me that someone has been using my photo on dating sites." People steal other people's identity to catfish people, defraud them, or to ruin the victim's …	/r/MensRights	08/05/23 10:05 AM
2	The viral trend of labeling every man who finds younger women attractive as predatory has gotten wildly out of control The whole 'the brain only matures at 25' stuff annoys me as well, since it's a gross over simplification, as our brains never stop changing. Neural networks are constantly being formed, and new neurons can grow after 25. My other issue is that people assume that full brain maturity is required to make sensible decisions, which is a false dichotomy. It would be like saying you need to reach peak physical maturity to run a mile or lift a 6kg weight.	/r/MensRights	07/05/23 09:11 AM
2	The viral trend of labeling every man who finds younger women attractive as predatory has gotten wildly out of control Your 18 year old sons and daughters are going to be signing all sorts of contracts with people who are far older and have more knowledge than them, including employers and landlords. You can even join the military at 18. The determination of whether your adult children are being used is ultimately made by them, not you.	/r/MensRights	07/05/23 09:07 AM
2	I was locked in a room against my will by woman I was dating, called the police, they came and just left me there locked up It's pretty easy for her to play the victim here. "He kicked down the door and came at me!"	/r/MensRights	07/05/23 07:37 AM