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I don't know, chief. I watched WrestleMania last night and the men were looking awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 04:14 PM
0

Men should stop giving attention to women who don't want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 04:04 AM
2

I'm Indian and I wouldn't accept an arranged marriage. I want to fall in love and progress from there. If I accept an arranged marriage now, that just means I'm a double failure. The other failure being that I couldn't find a woman who could love me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 10:21 AM
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I would be cautious. I won't be initiating sex for the first time. She'd have to initiate and the longer she takes, the chance of a relationship fades - of course, it is a given that the dates are enjoyable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 09:32 AM
2

Well yeah. A woman always holds power in dating. No matter what the post is, at the end of the day, a successful dating life is a choice away for a woman. Anyone disputing that is just a stupid person.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 04:20 PM
1

Because men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 05:49 PM
1

I'd be prepared for a cheating scenario. I'll trust her until she breaks it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 12:06 PM
-1

You have exactly my thoughts, just in a more aggressive way....Glad to know I'm not the only one who thinks this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 04:04 AM
1

They do have a lot of control and they just don't know how to use it properly. To be fair, I want a world where men stop chasing women so much that this control will eventually fade .
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 03:36 AM
1

Over the years, I've realised that I'm not wanted/desired by women. I'm an incel currently and I'm bowing out. I can be a good friend to women and nothing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 05:39 PM
1

Bachelor for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 02:45 PM
3

There could be. All I'm saying is that it is possible for the man to have no flaws and still strike out in dating because women simply don't have an interest in him. There's nothing wrong with it. It's simply an effect of women's freewill. Bottom-line : There doesn't have to be any other reason stopping a man from dating other than "women are not interested in him"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 09:52 PM
3

There definitely is. One is voluntarily single and the other is an incel. The two guys may not have much difference on paper and the only variable is women's interest in the guys. For one, it is present and for the other, it isn't. No fault on the male side.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 09:28 PM
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I think he's trying to say that people who struggle with dating don't necessarily have a flaw. A man could lead a perfect life and still not find a partner. Nothing wrong with him and women are simply not interested in him.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 04:19 AM
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It's a choice, my friend. Men don't get to choose because there is nothing to choose from. Women get to choose because there are all these options. She can choose to not date, date, just fuck, not fuck from the 100 that approaches her. Not even started on the ones she can approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 08:44 AM
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No, I don't think promiscuity is natural for people except for the non-monogamous ones. However, I do believe every woman I meet is promiscuous (simply because it cannot be proven otherwise)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 08:28 AM
1

Saving this as a reminder.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 03:02 AM
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Very true regarding certain individuals. They just don't realise that the best thing to do is to just ignore the complaints, sit back and enjoy life otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 01:10 PM
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It'd be really helpful for me. I'm basically an incel but I didn't feel any loneliness. I'd like my sex drive under control. It's the only thing that still makes me look at women dressed provocatively and I'd have to force myself to not think about the image. A pill like this should help me with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 02:18 PM
1

I think it's just a fact that small-penis guys have to accept. Basically, you can go faster in a Lambo compared to a Toyota. It's just a fact that Toyota needs to accept. Similarly, controlling for a women's anatomy, anybody smaller than her ideal size wouldn't be as pleasurable.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 04:03 AM
2

No.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 03:28 PM
0

Basically, women are just saying - Cheat or not, there's nothing men can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 11:00 PM
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did the “actually talk to women like normal people, and as individuals with their own thoughts and desires." That's not enough though, is it? Women would say that's the bare minimum. The woman has to find you attractive too, don't you think. It's not like talking to them and treating them as normal people is going to make you attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 07:45 AM
1

Care to explain? Casual sex requires looks Relationship requires looks + a lot more. A woman doesn't want to have casual sex with you, she doesn't find you physically attractive. Then she wouldn't want to have a relationship with you either.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 11:02 AM
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Yeah, and if you've never received any signals from any woman, well now you know how attractive you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:18 AM
1

Eh, 80% of women have had casual sex, so she's probably lying. Anything other than a "yes", you now know whether she is attracted to you physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 04:16 AM
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All I know is that if a woman doesn't want to have casual sex with you, she wouldn't want a relationship either. Casual sex will let you know how physically attractive you are. I think it's a really good question to ask a woman you're dating: "would you have casual sex with me, if given the opportunity?" She says no, she isn't that physically attracted to you. She says yes, you're good.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 07:54 PM
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Yeah. I wish I was only as attracted to women as they are attracted to men. I'm working on it, treating them in the exact way they treat me and it has been amazing. I've also adopted the women's style of romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:54 PM
1

Yeah, everyone would like to be wanted/desired by the person who interests them - no matter how attractive/unattractive they are. However, for unattractive people like me, the people who I'm interested in will not share the interest back. So, I don't know what it feels to be desired/wanted and hence, I don't miss it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 04:15 AM
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Personally, you don't miss something you never had. Good for you that you at least have some experience like that. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 06:30 PM
1

That's the neat part. I don't have to. I'm invisible in women's POV so I get to live carefree
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 07:25 PM
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In relationships, outside of them, women are going to do what makes them comfortable and happy and it's outside of any man's hands. Ba dum tssss.....
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 11:03 AM
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I said only men stopped approaching every woman they were attracted to. Women can still do it. Are you saying if men stopped approaching, the world will no longer have love/sex/intimacy? And it would truly show us how much women want us. If I die alone in that world, that simply means that no woman desired me or wanted me in her life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 02:48 AM
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Have you ever been approached in a social setting by a man, who either wanted a casual or serious relationship with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 02:39 AM
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This can be a reality, where no man acts on the sexual urge he gets when he sees a beautiful woman. However, convincing 4 billion men to do the same thing will be quite tough, I'd say. It'd be a glorious world though, sort of like rebelling against nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 02:46 PM
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None. I don't have any qualities that a woman would find attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 09:01 AM
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Nobody will ever know the truth. That's the beauty of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 06:01 AM
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Censorship.... niiiiiiiiice. Didn't think big words like this would get thrown at me. And dude, you ignore this and it will only make your life and anybody else's lives better. But hey, you want to join in on the negativity? have fun...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:16 AM
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A lot of people will be saved if that happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:14 AM
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Unless you're one of the men who has dated these women, I don't think you should comment on this. It is irrelevant to our lives and hence, it should be promptly ignored. Women can handle their own issues with dating with the help of other men. Men who haven't dated them shouldn't bother with it and should leave them alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 05:56 AM
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It's not that every woman is a CCC rider. It's the idea that any woman can and as such, men should either prepare themselves mentally and be ready to find out one day that his beloved wife got gangbanged once in college or they should just stop dating women all together (which I guess is something women would be really happy about)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 05:40 AM
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and yeah I’d rather have a lot of guys wanting to fuck just because, rather than not getting any matches at all, She said it. She said the thing. End this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:49 AM
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The answer to that question cannot be proved no matter what it is and is something only the woman knows. It's best to assume promiscuity and start from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 07:58 AM
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Both only matter if it's from the right person. However, respect can be earned and desire cannot (should not) be.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 02:53 AM
2

Men should start leaving women alone. Both groups will be happier for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 05:04 PM
2

If done right, dating apps would be perfect for women, with all their options. As for men, I wouldn't recommend it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 06:32 PM
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That they existed. I didn't know at all about things that should be done because of their gender. I don't follow them at all because that's not what I grew up with.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/23 01:57 PM
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That it doesn't have to be a fixed set of rules. I get to define what kind of a man I am. People can mock me for it and I'll ignore them. People can like me for it and they'll be my friend. Stoicism isn't my forte and I cry like hell when watching sad moments in anime.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/23 01:55 PM
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Nope..they don't even know about this. Far too busy with their own lives for this. For them, I don't think they've ever questioned their masculinity because most of them follow the traditional way. Only certain people like me don't.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/23 11:13 AM
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Superman when it comes to masculinity. As for gender roles, surprisingly the sub Purple Pill Debate.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/23 04:08 AM
1

Women don't ever think about the case where the test is taken and it comes out negative. They're basically saying, "yeah, we cheat and you'll never know". Personally, if the test fails, the first thing I'd do is maternity testing as well (in case there was some swap happening)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 03:35 AM
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Whenever I've asked myself the question - what qualities do I have that a woman would find attractive? - I always come up empty-handed. I'm just unattractive. That's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 02:32 AM
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Ay ay papi...making some good points ova here...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 05:34 AM
1

If women want me to leave them alone, I'd gladly do that. It's not "I cannot trust you", it's "I trust you (just need to verify)." Come on now, misogyny. You really don't think women could cheat? I mean there's stories about it right here in reddit - the numerous posts about men realising that none of "his kids" are actually "his". Although at that point, they are his kids out of love. Point being, it has nothing to do with misogyny - simply a verification of trust. Tests should just be made eas…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 04:18 AM
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To me personally, it just says that I'm not attractive enough (and that's okay). At the end of the day, I can't force a woman to do what she doesn't want to do and unfortunately, I've found out that I'm the kind of guy that women will always wait with. Guess I'm one of those "losers" that'd have to wait. And speaking of "sluts", the only group of women that normal men probably wouldn't want anything to do with is "reformed sluts", regardless of what their beliefs are.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 04:37 PM
1

Every man trusted his wife before she cheated and had another man's baby. Then again, paternity tests should be just made available at a common medical store. Guy has doubts, busy one, uses one, finds out the truth - end of story. No big deal. I swear the subject of paternity tests riles up women so much, it's funny at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 04:19 PM
1

I don't understand. Either way, it doesn't matter which one is the consequence of what. Women have the upper hand in dating because they are approached.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 12:05 PM
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Personally, I do feel expendable. I could die tomorrow and only parents would feel some kind of actual loss. However, just because I'm expendable doesn't mean I'm not free to do whatever I want. As such, people can treat me like shit and I won't care. I think I can live a happy life without anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 04:44 PM
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Nah, as long as the majority of men are still the ones asking out ---> women will always have it easier in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:15 AM
2

Welcome to the band, my man. I realised that for myself as well. If I were to stop being an active pursuer, I would end up alone. I'm not attractive enough to warrant an approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 05:03 PM
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This guy has a point.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 07:00 AM
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I'm not so sure. I think women are pretty active if it's a guy she finds as attractive. That's actually a really great filter as well. In a social situation, if the woman you're interested in is not at all active in her own pursuit of you, well ---> take the hint and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 07:41 PM
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They're not lonely. They're alone by choice. Big difference. And they only mean it as "they don't have a relationship", they definitely fucking on the side.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:19 PM
1

Nah, man. He can ask her what he did wrong and maybe learn from it. To be fair, he can leave a girl if she's just a starfish, so....
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:16 PM
7

Come on now. That's not how it is for every woman out there. They're doing it plenty.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 07:38 AM
1

That's the neat part. You don't. You simply forget it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 06:26 PM
0

Your existence is probably twisting some panties out there...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 07:30 PM
2

Well what do you want people to do then? There's a limit to where a person can beautify themselves. Unless they are willing to accept that they may never get to experience genuine lust and make peace with it (like me), men are always going to be looking for alternative routes to the prize that is being attractive
/r/AllPillDebate23/03/23 03:07 PM
3

Ay ay...lower his standards?? Eh no.. that'd just make it worse since he only has reasonable standards. Meeting more women, yeah, I can give you that but that'd just mean more rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 02:58 AM
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These could be true. But there's always the case that maybe women just aren't attracted to him. He can be a perfectly good person with interesting hobbies and platonic friendships with women. He simply isn't attractive to the women he meets.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 05:39 PM
0

They probably would do it for a second date or something. That's something one has to discuss first before even going on the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 11:19 AM
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Yes. However, there are women who ask out men too, so...for the majority - this is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 07:12 AM
1

Cheap living and food are basic human rights. I don't know how you make the connection between those and women's dating power. I don't understand your last paragraph. If women are independent of men, then they shouldn't get any benefits ??
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 02:19 AM
1

I don't think post-nut clarity lasts that long. A pill would be an easier way to get the same job done.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 02:16 AM
1

As long as men expressing frustration doesn't make other people's lives hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 02:14 AM
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Nah, man. I don't think women's "sexual bargaining power" will ever decline. Unless men across the world took a "pill" that lowers his sex drive to the point he can spend an entire day without ever thinking about sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 04:22 PM
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If women being free means a man is not able to find a partner, then that's how it is always meant to be. If women are only turned on a small percentage of men, then whelp!!! Bachelor life, it is for the rest of us. One has to accept that one's happiness should never come at the cost of another's freedom.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 03:58 AM
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So what if other people think you're useless? Do you think you're useless? No, then there's no issues and have fun with your life. Yes, then make yourself useful on your own way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 03:35 AM
2

Eh, more like "you can get away with a lot of things if you're attractive enough". However, the bottomline is 'be careful'. You could get called creepy on a social platform for thousands of people to judge all because a woman says you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 04:45 AM
1

Lucky guy, you mentioned... Now he's attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 10:09 AM
3

It doesn't have to be about power dynamics. It can simply be about freedom. There are a lot of things that men "have to" do in dating which women "don't have to". Eg: a man has to approach or he will end up alone. A woman can choose to wait and never approach, still ending up with a happy relationship. A lot of these will get neutralized if men increase their standards as high as possible - whether it's career, income, personality, ambition and if men stop giving women free attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 08:59 AM
1

Oh, if it worked for you, I'm happy for you. I was just saying it from my experience. Why waste time worrying about women who think they are happier single, when you can go after women who want to be in a relationship with you...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 02:06 PM
1

It's a waste of time to notice all this when you could live your life as much as you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 12:23 PM
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If women believe that they are happier single, then no study proving otherwise will convince her. Let her enjoy her life and let's live ours in our own ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 04:45 PM
0

I'm conflicted but I lean more into "if you're attractive enough, she'll do it for you." At the end of the day, a woman decides what she wants to try and with whom. You shouldn't force it out of her. If one feels like she finds you less attractive because she refuses to do this, leave her. No harm there. If one doesn't feel like that and has no doubt she is attracted to you, stay. No harm there either.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 04:01 PM
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Hey, that does make sense. Although, wouldn't it depend on the situation? If she is in a group and she rejects you outright, she could be confident because she has backup and will mess you up if you try something dangerous. If she is alone and she rejects you outright, there's a possibility she perceives you as harmless and as a person who can take a no. Whatever it is that she is thinking, end of the day, it doesn't matter. She rejected you. End of story.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 03:50 PM
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I'm for it but it's always hilarious to see women defend "not taking the test".
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 05:09 AM
1

Pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:41 PM
1

It's fine really. My problems with men's fashion is my own and I've stopped seeking people's approval a long time ago. Gotcha, I can imagine if you're covered in dark hair back to front that's a hell of a lot more work Genetics didn't really help my case there. I've definitely felt self conscious and worried about what people have thought about my fashion sense before, especially back when I was in school. If someone had outright mocked it my self esteem would've taken a big hit. When you're a k…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:40 PM
1

I guess we kinda have different problems with body hair. I'm looked at differently if I want to shave all my body hair. Still could have been easier if it was thinner. You're looked at differently if you don't because it's expected of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 02:40 PM
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What do you mean by this? Like that it'd easier to do as a woman or more socially accepted? I mean that men generally have denser body-hair meaning even if they wanted to, it'll be a hell of a lot of work compared to women who generally have thinner body-hair. I tried and by the next day, the smoothness was gone. There's definitely a sense that women have more flexibility and freedom in what they can wear. I imagine I'd feel pretty limited if I only had the options of male fashion. Hell yeah, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 01:24 PM
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I'm a guy and these are things that I'm jealous of women (because I believe they are benefitting from them) Wardrobe Maintaining a hairless body Dating That being said, I'm more happy for them than I'm jealous of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 09:28 AM
1

As a liberal, I can see the appeal of conservative men. Looking at one of the articles, the way women speak about their partners who are conservative - ooh, kinda jealous. I guess men stick to their gender roles without expecting the woman to stick to theirs will always win over men who want nothing to do with gender roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 02:47 AM
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To me, a nice guy is someone who's nice because he wants to. People may describe him as nice because he has no other redeeming qualities. The reality is just that they find his way of a satisfying life simply boring or uninteresting - nobody's fault - just different perspectives. There's nothing wrong with being the nice guy - if it makes one happy and satisfied - as long as one doesn't hurt others.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/23 04:57 PM
1

Most women probably don't approach because they don't find him attractive enough to risk rejection. Because why wouldn't you go after someone you are really attracted to and want to be with?
/r/AllPillDebate20/02/23 07:39 AM
1

To ask for tax incentives because I'm not having sex, ugh..... Basically saying I need more because I'm a loser. That takes away any and all forms of motivation to become better.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 07:22 AM
2

As a man, I don't think I've ever felt insulted this much until I read this statement. Now this is true delusion. Wow, congrats OP, you've opened my eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 04:32 AM
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Let's just say she absolutely believes everything she wrote in that song. Take me on a date, I deserve it, babe And don't forget the flowers every anniversary 'Cause if you'll treat me right, I'll be the perfect wife Gender flip this and it's still applicable. Men deserve to be taken on dates and be given flowers on anniversaries. Or are you of the opinion that it makes men entitled? You got that 9 to 5, but baby, so do I So don't be thinking I'll be home and bakin' apple pies I never learned to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 04:51 AM
2

I think it's about desirability. They believe that the men she got with while in her cc phase was more sexually desired by her while the men she gets with after "maturing" isn't desired like the ones before. Personally, I wouldn't know. I've never been the former guy and probably end up as the latter guy.
/r/AllPillDebate17/02/23 02:16 PM
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I said that women say yes to desirable men and say no to undesirable men - pretty straightforward. What TRP says is women say yes to desirable men and say conditional yes to undesirable men - that's not how it should be and I don't think it is that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 03:52 PM
0

Really? I Like to think that my opinions are blue, through and through. What makes the distinction here?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 01:52 PM
2

What's the worst that could happen? There's 8 billion of us out here. Let the women choose. If there ain't enough mr.rights, then so be it. Why should women lower their standards and suffer for the rest of their lives? Why should men live up to standards kept by random strangers?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 01:50 PM
0

Are you a woman speaking from personal experience or are you a man speaking from personal experience? Either way, the point is women do approach men they want - if it's rare, then now you have an idea of how much women actually want men. Men who get approached by women probably would be busy with living that life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 12:18 PM
2

Well, that was my point. There are men who women desire, they'll get asked out from time to time. There are men who they don't desire and they never get asked out
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 11:03 AM
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Women do make the first move with the men they want. If you haven't yet experienced it, we'll, I've got news for you mate - you're one of us undesirables. If you have, then I'm happy for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 06:17 AM
4

Everything about it is. Then again, I'm of the opinion that if women don't find me attractive, I'd rather die a virgin than be a "beta-bucks".
/r/AllPillDebate10/02/23 04:53 PM
3

Not gonna lie, one of the few instances that makes me laugh hard is women trying to justify not getting a paternity test. Basically saying, "oh, you will never find out if I had another man's baby".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 04:50 PM
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The day women stop labelling consensual sex as "he was using me", the idea that "woman gives, man takes" will die off.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 04:44 PM
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Whoa whoa... If you're a guy, calm down with the negativity, bruh. I'm a straight guy and there's plenty of attractive men out there. With a little bit of grooming, the right style and a mind-your-business attitude, trust me, men can be attractive. If you're a woman, no comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 04:41 PM
2

I found it hard to believe that he actually believes in his takes at first. But I'm convinced that some people are truly delusional. So, now I'm just enjoying his takes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 06:27 AM
3

I'll be honest. His takes are delusional to me but the fact that he believes in them without a shadow of doubt makes me laugh like hell. You could say, I'm a satirical fan of cobratate.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 04:35 PM
1

Alright. I rest my case and trust that you're honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 10:04 AM
3

I can’t think of a guy I’ve been wildly horny for who has bought me literally anything, certainly not prior to me wanting to rip his clothes off. Wait.....So, when you're going on those first few dates, you always pay your share?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 05:16 PM
5

I'd like to look into her eyes without having to look down. It does make it harder to find someone with that criteria in my area.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 05:30 PM
3

If she can make me laugh and vibe with me, we're halfway there. Honest, kind, caring and can take criticism well, reasonably healthy/fit, likes the outdoors. Extroverts preferred. Superficial traits include - not too slim, not too short, not obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 05:14 PM
1

Everything you listed makes a woman unattractive to a man with standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 07:34 AM
1

Haters gonna hate...
/r/AllPillDebate06/02/23 07:29 AM
2

If AI and sex robots will keep certain predatory individuals away from real women, wouldn't that be a good thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 04:34 AM
2

NaaaaaaNiiiiiiiii.....did you mean to say "men can't love" ? Eh...let's agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 02:37 PM
5

Nah, single women are happier than women in bad relationships. Women in good relationships are just as happy as single women. The former includes love, companionship, right treatment and a future to share with while the latter includes a higher form of freedom, sexual variety and probably other things that I can't really think of at the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 04:45 AM
1

Why should they? And why would they? They have all the options, all the "real men" who believe that men should worship women and do everything in his power to make her feel like a queen. I mean, think about it, why would she settle for an equal partner when she has someone who'll treat her like a queen with no reciprocation expected?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 04:32 AM
2

Now that made me laugh...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 02:04 PM
1

Steve Buscemi could do the same thing Debatable. the confidence is eroded by the realisation of how much of it is down to money Eh, even without the money, I think Leo could do it - the man is attractive after all, so I don't think his confidence will erode even a little bit. Quite a few women wouldn't, genuinely. She's feel too 'bought' and, believe it or not, many women aren't golddiggers. But yeah, there's definite appeal for many. I mean, it doesn't have to be about money though. Just dating…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 11:17 AM
1

No way. Sex/sexual intimacy is a natural desire and no amount of money is going to make me say "No" to it forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 10:04 AM
2

"high value men" don't care what other people think of him. He's too busy living his own life to the fullest. As for Leo, for me, it's not that he exercises "dating models only below 25", it's that he has the option to. That's probably the greatest source of confidence there is - I think the pillosphere calls it an abundance mentality. I think he and the models just have an agreement - date Leo until you're 25, go to exotic locations, exposure with the top brass - what kind of a girl would refus…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 01:44 AM
1

Eh, no. Charming, mysterious and funny men don't necessarily leave women like that. It does happen but not as much as you'd assume. I'm sure the kid that grows up without a father will have his/her issues and it's really cruel if you think from the kid's perspective. However, the mother shouldn't be the only one blamed for what the father willingly chose to do - leave. She chose what she thought would make her and, hopefully, her future kids happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 01:13 AM
3

Nah, plenty of good men out there, doing great things. Being a good man makes him high value to me - hard-working, ambitious, focuses on a hobby unique to himself, kind (because it makes him happy). But being a good man doesn't mean he's attractive to women. To be marriageable, he has to be attractive. To be attractive, he has to be charming, mysterious, funny etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:48 AM
3

Honesty 💯
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 01:45 AM
2

Yeah...women treat different men differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 03:53 AM
2

Whoa...that's a lot that you did for her but yeah, some women are just stupid and assholes. I'm sure you'll find your love one day. Try to not Harbor negative feelings for that woman, it's just going to harm you only.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 12:18 PM
1

That last sentence made me your fan. Up top, my man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 09:59 AM
1

Forever. You'll get over this feeling after some time. Why would the privileged give up their privilege?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 05:44 PM
6

This guy gets it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 05:31 PM
4

Ofcourse, I don't push "Indian" as my major attribute. There's a lot more to me. I do get called crazy for my way of living life. However, As far as dating skills are concerned, I don't think I have them because quite frankly, I don't even know what these "skills" are? People wouldn't describe me as charming, charismatic or funny but I do enjoy my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 05:29 AM
11

Women can think we're creepy as much as they want, it's their choice. I don't get why "Indian and over 35" is creepy behaviour. As far as having it hard, I welcome the challenge. There's really nothing to lose, so...
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:51 PM
2

Not really. Once you start enjoying life in every other way, this kind of treatment by women is just water under the bridge. Start caring only about what makes you happy and all of this is just meh.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:30 PM
3

They do it because they can. As an Indian guy, just gotta accept the world as it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 12:18 PM
3

The woman
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 12:07 PM
2

It's the energy I have because I do have a small penis. It lets me do a lot of amazing things everyday and helps me inch closer to my dreams.
/r/ExRedPill31/12/22 04:24 AM
2

Whatever the choice fellas, don't let hate cloud your minds.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:16 AM
37

If they split up Asians into Japanese/Korean and Indian/Pakistani, the results would vary for that entire group. That being said, as an Indian guy, I'll never give up the spot as the least desirable race. Atleast, I get to be first at something.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:57 AM
4

I don't know chief, Indian women would probably have a good stat as well - maybe not as much as Japanese women but still a good stat
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:48 AM
2

And being a hotwife is probably the best life a woman can get as well (sexually atleast).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 02:56 AM
2

I think some guys just see what women like, mold themselves around it and are sometimes confused about those choices. Loki, the guy who invaded earth, is considered far more attractive than captain America who is always trying to save earth. Daemon Targaryen, the guy who killed his first wife, groomed his niece and has angry outbursts, is considered more attractive than Jon Snow, who was broken when his first lover died due to his allegiance and always beloved in doing what's right. When some gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 02:53 AM
13

To be honest, you nailed it. Women do like attractive people who are unique in their own way and different from one another.
/r/AllPillDebate29/12/22 01:05 PM
3

Nah, women don't shame men for not dating them. In fact, they'd avoid most men, especially if those men are concerned about her past. If you're a man concerned about a woman's sexual experience, either accept that it's how the world works and move on or stop dating women completely. No harm no foul.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 02:55 AM
3

While I do agree that women have more privileges when it comes to dating/casual sex, I don't think they're complaining much. I think they're exploring and gaining a lot of sexual experience - basically they are enjoying their lives as much as they can (the recent abortion debates have not helped with that and I do feel bad for them). Last but not least, I dont think complaining about their privilege is going to help. Take a step back and try to enjoy your life as much as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 06:05 PM
28

Come on now, feminism isn't the reason for the things you listed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 06:04 AM
11

Wife material...👍
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 07:05 AM
1

There's nothing evil about wanting to have sex.So, no, men are not evil for wanting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 04:45 AM
3

Hot damn dude......
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 04:55 AM
1

Now that's the talk of a true CHAD. Happy for you, bruh....
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 09:45 AM
2

Not really. Been doing fine without sex for years now. I'm not a remarkable person by any metric and probably the bottom 20% by PPD standards. I'm pretty happy with my life at the moment. I know that it's tough when sexual imagery is everywhere around you, when there's romantic stories at every corner and it looks like everybody is fucking around. I got through it so can any man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 05:46 PM
0

So what? Be the nice guy (living a life that you find interesting and fulfilling without a woman). Just because women don't find that attractive shouldn't be a reason to stop being one (ofcourse, it also shouldn't lead to being hurtful towards them). Don't be anything else other than what makes you happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 03:36 PM
1

I do. I made a mistake here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 02:37 AM
3

Oh my friend, let them complain. It's not like they're hurting anybody with those complaints. It just makes them look silly. I've noticed that some of the most bitter women are single women, they are not married, so something happened to them that made them not want to be with a man who is good for them, that's just a mental illness. There could be a lot of reasons for someone being single. Mental illness is one of them, just like standards, compatibility. The same could be said for men as well …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 03:04 PM
3

It is hard. I give you 50 apples with 25 of them poisoned. You'll definitely think twice before choosing the one you eat (the woman's case) Ofcourse, your probability of getting poisoned is less here compared to the case where I hand you 10 apples with 5 of them poisoned (the man's case) I believe that women have it easier but not without their own struggles. Edit: damn, I made a math error there. The probability is the same but you get the idea, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 02:46 PM
8

No, I never said it's equal difficulty. I believe that women have it easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 02:43 PM
9

You can be a good guy and still not be right for a woman. Neither his nor her fault - simple incompatibility. That's why it's harder for any person to find the right person - there are plenty of good people, they may not be the right one. Women sure have a lot of options and this is where they face the issue. Men, from the limited options they have, also face this issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 07:35 AM
1

What I meant was that: A few years ago, I didn't know about this "making some men wait while not others". If and when I find out about it, I'd have felt hurt, humiliated and would probably leave the relationship right away. But now, I know why women do this and I don't feel hurt by it. There could be plenty of reasons all of which can be generalized under "women treat different men differently".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 05:41 AM
1

Not if he knows about this. This "making one guy wait but not others" is probably something lots of men know. Either they stick with the women because she's cool otherwise or they leave because they're incompatible. No need to make anybody feel miserable. No need to add negativity to this world. Just enforce your boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 03:39 AM
1

Nah, why would you want to be cruel to someone? That's just downright bad. She didn't even do anything that bad. They're just incompatible and he should leave on his own terms, no need to be cruel.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 04:03 PM
1

You're never going to change their mind. Being approached all the time, being chased - it's one of the advantages they have in dating, why'd they do it any other way?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 02:12 AM
0

Nah. She'll be hurt but she'll just move onto the next guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 02:03 AM
1

Well, you're a man whose dating a woman - you can only accept it and move on thinking - It is what it is. Obviously, as long as you don't lash out or shame her, you can just leave.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 04:11 PM
1

Different men get different treatment. I don't necessarily agree with women's reasons for doing it but at the end of the day - their body their choice. I think the manosphere is saying the same thing - if she's making you wait, she isn't that into you. People have that knowledge and they can act accordingly. As for "not looking easy", I believe that women are pretty "easy" for the right man and I accept that that may not be me for a particular woman. My advice, don't try to make sense of women's…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 04:00 PM
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Uff..dude, let her down easy. It's going to hurt her a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 03:50 PM
2

I agree with you. However, it was really helpful knowing that my personality is seen as downright boring in the eyes of women. I can finally live my life in peace knowing that I am simply built this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:43 PM
1

I stand corrected. What the woman wants at the time affects the kind of relationship with a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 02:51 PM
2

Eh. With some men, women need that emotional connection to feel attracted to. With some men, they're ready to go without it. You could relate that to the man's attractiveness and the woman's needs at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 04:34 AM
15

"Yeah right."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 11:19 AM
1

Eh ..you can still live an awesome life
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 03:13 PM
0

Oh come on already, let's move on to a world where men either come to terms with women sleeping around or remain a bachelor. This post ain't helping that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 05:04 PM
1

I think the bad-boy attitude should come naturally. It doesn't come naturally to me so I don't try to mimic it. However, I do feel jealous of the men to whom it does and that's because I've seen how much women are attracted to it - uff, now that's a sight to behold.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 09:01 AM
1

Eh, I can be blue-pill and at the same time admire the better archetype.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 04:02 AM
1

Ah yes, the bad boy. Such a fascinating archetype - not gonna lie, I'm jealous of the men who can channel this archetype naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:08 PM
1

I hope the men YOU CHOOSE will get it one day and give you what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 04:24 AM
2

Oh its true.....it's damn true.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 04:50 PM
1

Liar....
/r/AllPillDebate17/11/22 04:41 PM
2

I doubt a promiscuous woman is equivalent to a fat, short and broke man. I don't think I'm in the minority. I'm actually in the majority who realises that the gender that dates men will always be very sexually experienced and that's part of personal freedom - no point in trying to resist the inevitable. The minorities would be religious ones, redpillers, men who don't have casual sex (and who want a woman like that). Most men care about a womans past same as most women care about the mans future…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:31 PM
3

Neil Strauss's The Game and Neil Strauss's The Truth sound really good for a two-parter movie featuring two teenaged boys who start at the same point (unsocial incels) but grow into different men through college/adulthood.
/r/ExRedPill14/11/22 03:24 PM
18

100% as far as I'm concerned. Promiscuity is something that's unverifiable. The only thing that matters is how the woman treats you or how is her personality. The fact that there's born-again virgins among women means that promiscuity is unverifiable and unreliable. I'd suggest to stop letting a value out of your control to dictate your happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:57 AM
4

My ideal girl would be darker skinned, tall and thicc (describing just the physical traits). That stands opposite to everything the media here in my country pushes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 04:42 PM
5

They are cool people. Some of them like anime and like to discuss it, some of them are funny, some of them are really smart, most of them are really caring. Whether they are best friends or girlfriends, I believe a majority of them really make you feel awesome. My only concern is that unlike men, sometimes I have to filter my conversation in front of women - I feel less free in a way with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 05:06 AM
1

Welp, we men are on our own. Yep... Being an asshole is a gender-neutral thing - every single one of them who tried to justify it as the man's fault is an asshole and is victim-blaming. I guess some men among us balance it by blaming women who are rape-victims so I guess we can call it even.
/r/AllPillDebate04/11/22 08:45 PM
1

They keep demanding that men need to stand up to men who rape and harass Again, you can ignore this, you have every right to. However, I'd say it's a choice to stand upto abusers and harassers - it should be selfless, not demanded from you. Sorry sister, you are on your own. A little insensitive but true nonetheless.
/r/AllPillDebate04/11/22 04:56 PM
2

Except then they turn and come after us and say men are trash. Really? Even if they do say it, who cares? Just don't bother with it. It's not like they're gonna hurt us in anyway. Their dating problems are theirs and their chosen men's problems - I'm not one of those chosen men, so I don't have to care.
/r/AllPillDebate03/11/22 03:14 PM
4

Don't point out what's wrong with women's dating experiences. Let them sort it out, don't waste your time on it.
/r/AllPillDebate03/11/22 07:41 AM
1

They'd probably avoid both for relationships early on. So, there won't be any gaining or losing...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:36 AM
3

No, some women follow that. Some women just sleep with whoever they find attractive irrespective of whether he is an asshole or not. I just see the reasons stated as perfectly reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 09:53 AM
3

Are you serious?Could you explain why the reasons for "why is it easier to sleep with men who are assholes" are "perfectly good reasons"? If a woman sleeps with an asshole whom she hates as a person, she won't catch feelings for him after sex. He's probably a good partner in bed, not so much in other parts of life. So, she'll sleep with him for some random sex. No hurt feelings, just fun sex. I don't know if this is or isn't sarcasm and the "Blue Pill Man" label confuses me more lol I'm a self-p…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:03 AM
5

it ends up rewarding bad behavior in guys, and then other guys try to copy what they think is attractive asshole behavior. Hey, more assholes -----> more attractive assholes ------> more casual partners for women. I see that as an absolute win.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 12:57 AM
1

Not just a blue-pill fantasy....It's a fantasy through and through, no pills required.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 03:26 PM
4

Perfectly good reasons for "why is it easier to sleep with men who are assholes?" and the whole "making one guy wait, not another"...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 06:17 AM
2

Not necessarily. I simply realised that sex is a two-person tango. It requires enthusiastic consent from two (or more) people. Refusal from one person is simply an expression of freedom of choice. I respect it and don't take it on myself personally (anymore). Also, positive vibes only.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 05:48 PM
1

Depends on definition. PIV - yes Other sexual acts - no
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 05:35 PM
1

Damn, I didn't make the cut.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 05:10 AM
13

Think about the hypothetical where you have the opportunity to have a gb with 3 women at the same time - if you feel like it's wrong, then your values are not the same as hers, it'd be best to leave. If you feel that it's awesome, then think about why you find it wrong for her. As for jealousy, hey man, nothing you can do about the fact your girlfriend has all the sexual options she wants. Push out the jealousy slowly by enforcing the idea that it's out of your control and you wouldn't let your …
/r/ExRedPill27/10/22 05:55 AM
4

Nah. Women are easy (to understand) in a dating perspective. You're just not attractive enough to get that treatment. Don't worry, there's a lot of us on that side - just don't let it get to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:01 AM
3

I agree. Women should be free to have sex with whoever they want - why is it considered bad if she also agrees to take money for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 01:39 PM
2

I once invited a woman who was just a friend to hang out. We were really close friends who had known each other for over a year. She instead went with a guy she met a week ago who had a car. I always wondered about it but after coming to PPD, it made sense. Women want to have fun and guys with cars/who are rich can show them a really good time. It's the same with relationships - women want to be with guys who are rich enough to have fun. It makes perfect sense and I don't think that's a bad thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 01:29 PM
11

Unless she's your actual...wife...or direct family...never save a woman. You will always lose Damn....now that's a thought for the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 01:08 PM
1

Yes. A man with a high count probably is really attractive, fun-to-around, charming and has an amazing personality. Women are picky and a lot of them picked him - it is impressive.
/r/AllPillDebate25/10/22 02:44 AM
2

Exactly, my man...He truly believes in everything he says and that makes it even funnier.
/r/ExRedPill23/10/22 03:47 PM
4

I'm a fan of his. His videos make me laugh so hard. It's the fact that he actually believes everything he says. I do realise that to women, he sounds dangerous and hence, I wouldn't want him promoted anymore than he already is.
/r/ExRedPill23/10/22 03:09 PM
1

That's the spirit. Go for it and have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 02:57 PM
3

Oh..That's a very good reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:25 AM
1

Ah...then it's cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 07:45 PM
1

I'll give you "making children". I didn't ask biology to make it so that the woman takes the brunt of pregnancy and I can't do anything about it either. Cleaning and cooking can be easily done, hell even entirely by the man - no problem in that. As a side note, I now remember the commentor that I replied to - she is more on the traditional side and her definition of a "real man" is polar opposite of what I believe it is, in certain things.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 04:52 AM
0

Sounds easy. Anyway, are you one of those women who believe in traditional gender roles?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 04:47 AM
1

So it's a man's job to approach a woman. Do tell, what's the woman's job then?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 01:35 AM
1

Not really. I've never cared about that number and all that matters is how she is as a person. I refuse to let my love life be hampered by a number too easy to lie about and increase.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 01:26 AM
-1

All of this is unnecessary. Women like sex + they have options = Women have sex. That's it , end of story - no explanations needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 02:44 AM
3

I think the one iteration of this 80/20 rule that I sort of agree with is that 20% of men get to experience genuine attraction/lust from 80% of women. Every other iteration sounds dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 07:26 PM
2

I'll take responsibility for the consequences of the actions that I took. Carrying a child to term is not my action, it's the woman's. Why should I take responsibility for that? But I know. There's no convincing women about this - ironic considering how women have worked hard for their freedom of choice is actually trying to reduce men's freedom of choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 02:00 AM
2

This keeps getting funnier everyday ...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 01:48 AM
1

Bcuz the guy doesn't know she's a hoe. The guy is getting the short end of the stick. Assume that all women are hoes and choose only the one that treats your right...see, problem solved. Most women don't really get to find attractive stabe guy Yeah, they do.
/r/AllPillDebate12/10/22 12:17 PM
2

Thanks man, needed that laugh today.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:34 AM
1

Like......?
/r/AllPillDebate12/10/22 02:09 AM
0

Cancer is a fatal disease that doesn't care about the consent of the patient - whether they want to live, what their dreams are etc. By trying cure cancer, you're saving lives, giving people the choice to live more. Sex is an intimate act where consent from all parties involved is important and shouldn't be negotiated. Sexlessness isn't fatal, doesn't cause any real harm and people can live full lives without ever having sex. Both cannot be considered equal. And let me ask you this - how do you …
/r/AllPillDebate11/10/22 07:07 PM
3

Bcuz women have unrealistic standards. Even so, if they have unrealistic standards, that's their right to have them. They should keep it as high as possible because only the men who clear those standards will experience true lust from them. Bcuz unattractive men are often stabe and agreeable with women and trests her like princess so poor helpless women end up lying and manipulating these guys for signing legal contracts. If the guy is happy, then what's the issue? If the guy's unhappy, he shoul…
/r/AllPillDebate11/10/22 07:01 PM
1

Bcuz these same women will marry these sexless men by lying and manipulating. Sexless men are sexless cos they are unattractive to women. I don't think they'd become attractive overnight. Even then, why would women lie and manipulate to get with unattractive men? If the man ain't happy, don't commit - easy peasy.
/r/AllPillDebate11/10/22 09:21 AM
1

Who is even talking about forcing women? Is there any other way "the rising sexlessness of men" can be solved, in your opinion? So you're about forcing them to be a social being when there's no reward for it? No. Nobody should be forced to do something. The reward of being a social person is companionship and memories, not sex. If you place sex as reward, you'll be thoroughly disappointed, especially average men. Name one civilization that has survived 500 years. One. And China doesn't count bec…
/r/AllPillDebate11/10/22 07:06 AM
4

If you think about it, that number actually doesn't signify anything important. Combine that with the fact that it's too easy for women to increase that number and lie about it - why do guys still waste time thinking about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:26 AM
5

It's bad for large populations of men, even though sex is not a fundamental righ You can't force a woman to have sex with a man. If it's that bad, how will you mitigate it if I may ask? This is what is causing men to drop out of society Then they were never worthy enough to be even born. Imagine giving up on being a social being because of not having sex and again, I say this as a sexless guy. This has happened many times before, and every time it is followed by a society's collapse. Which is wh…
/r/AllPillDebate11/10/22 05:30 AM
-3

That's not a bad thing. Sex is not a fundamental right and I say this as one of the sexless men.
/r/AllPillDebate11/10/22 04:50 AM
-5

Even if women are sharing "Chad's", what's so bad about it? I don't know any feminists and "blue-pillers" still say that but hey, they could just admit that it's true and end this stupid discussion.
/r/AllPillDebate11/10/22 03:48 AM
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Freedom of choice, my dude. Should never be complained about as long as it doesn't hurt anyone.
/r/AllPillDebate11/10/22 03:31 AM
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Do your own research on feminism. It’s not my job to educate men. I agree. I knew this was going to be your answer but I hoped you'd give me your perspective on it. Cool. Will do and say anything to justify their porn use. I can't speak for a whole gender but if my personal use of porn doesn't affect any woman at all, provided the women behind the videos have not been abused and did it on their own volition, why should I stop? Feel entitled to women performing labor for them. I don't think there…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 12:08 PM
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Alright, let me hear your definition of feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 02:26 AM
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you still believe porn is an anti-rape device. I don't. Suppose all the porn in the world is removed and men dont rape any women at all, I'll admit I'm wrong and say that porn isn't an anti-rape device. But if men start raping more women because they don't have any other sexual outlet, will you admit that porn did keep some men at bay? Are you hoping if you say it enough that it will be true, or are you just a rape apologist? Not all porn is rape and supporting porn doesn't mean I'm a rape-apolo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 12:58 PM
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Go and do some research on choice feminism (aka liberal feminism) and come back when you’re better informed. If anything, feminism means giving women the choice to do what they want their bodies and lives, just like men do. Being able to produce and star in porn because a woman wants to falls under liberal feminism. All porn harms all women. How though? It's just women having sex with who they want and posting it for other people to see - atleast from an onlyfans-perspective. Is there porn that'…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 12:45 PM
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Oh you're at the extreme end of opposition. How is onlyfans harmful for women? Doesn't that make life a little bit easier, atleast for attractive women or women who focus on a particular niche?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 04:50 AM
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How far do you think you’d get selling a product if you went online and publicly denounced it, saying it’s terrible trash, rubbish, toxic and bad for anyone who buys it? It makes sense. If it's terrible, trash, rubbish and toxic, why do people still produce it? Why do these women keep doing something that they absolutely hate? I admit that some of them were coerced or trapped but that was a long time ago. Nowadays, women produce porn because they want to, not because they're forced to. Aren't yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 04:48 AM
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Okay, let's take out the commercial porn from big production houses where, according to you, the pornstars lie about how much they enjoy producing it. What's your opinion on onlyfans - isn't that touted as a platform where women can proudly sexually liberated and also make money showing it to the world?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 01:52 AM
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Porn does not stop women being raped. At all. There is zero evidence to support this theory, so stop promoting it. My standpoint is - IF porn decreases rape, I'm all for it. IF porn increases the number of rapes, then I'm all against it. We'd have to erase all porn in the world and see how some men would react to it. Women in porn are routinely raped, beaten and traumatized, why are you okay with them being harmed? It happens for sure and I'm not okay with it. I want women to participate in and …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 01:49 AM
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Sure, in the earlier days there was abuse behind the scenes. But with onlyfans and women-directed porn productions, I definitely think the porn industry has become better. Anyone who says different is being deliberately naive. Can we trust the pornstars themselves who say that they enjoy their work and definitely keep producing it?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 08:12 AM
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You know, when men threaten to rape women if they can’t have porn, we know society is truly lost. What a disgusting leap. To be honest, I don't know what will happen if all the porn in the world disappeared. Rape and Porn are independent of each other. Men threaten to rape women because they wanna have sex with them but the women don't. Men existed for centuries without 24/7 hardcore porn. And Men raped women for centuries without porn. If they genuinely believe that the alternative is rape, tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 08:08 AM
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All that ("too picky", high n-count and "making you wait") can be easily found in one woman. With her standards and her options, a woman can afford to be picky and that's their freedom of choice - however, this need only to be applied to relationships. She has her pick of the litter in casual sex so...(a count of 5 is like a week's work for a woman). Finally, she can just make some guys wait while not others - men probably don't want to be the guy she wants to wait with. Finally, women have the …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:37 PM
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If you were to wait Today she'll probably be screwing someone else while you're the idiot paying for dinners. "If she ain't banging you, she's banging someone else". That's funny af and hey, what the hell can a guy do - it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:29 PM
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Did you know that it’s possible to masturbate without porn? The two are not the same. Men who conflate porn use with ‘release’ need help to re-wire their brains Probably true.. however, porn is an easier way for the release than imagining stuff. Women who purport to ‘enjoy’ making porn usually do so because it’s what they think their buyers want to hear Some sex-workers probably are like that but there are ones that genuinely enjoy what they do and they just show it to the world. Sadly, research…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 02:44 PM
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Did I say women don’t watch porn? No, I didn’t. True ... Because some sadly believe it’s ‘empowering’ to make a few bucks off male depravity that is going to exist whether they try to exploit it or not. That's one reason I agree. Another is that they do enjoy every second of it and make it because that's what they want to do. Do men really, truly believe that watching degrading abuse porn makes them somehow cool? Nope. It's never meant to be cool. It's just a release, I do agree that some forms …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 12:49 PM
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Women watch porn too. And from the looks of it, women are pretty enthusiastic about producing their own, in categories I was very surprised to find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 12:28 PM
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Nope. I see no physical difference between a woman who had sex a 1000 times with 1 man and a woman who has had sex 10 times with a 100 guys. The only difference could be in her personality which is the metric for me to judge her when I'm considering her as partner. The kind of woman I want will self-select for sex-positive promiscuous women so I had to unlearn slut-shaming tendencies and I'm okay with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:36 AM
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There is an infatuation/erotic component to this type of 'love' and it feels great. It is a super high. But it is not the only kind of love a couple can have, and it is probably not the deepest or most profound form of love. You could characterize it as lust, which can be separated from love. Both can exist without the other. It is also, given its hypergamous and erotic character, maybe something that was never possible for many men, who simply will not be physically attractive or charming enoug…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:14 PM
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Yep. Stronger and longer orgasms, more pleasure points, wanting to be the centre of attention - I believe there's a pornstar in every woman or atleast they are capable of it. With the right guy (or guys), it's possible to bring the animal inside her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:57 AM
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Stop wasting money on porn/onlyfans.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 06:15 PM
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So what? That’s literally a factor in every other part of life. Rejection doesn’t kill a person, never has. Rejection is a part of life - I agree that it doesn't kill. However, I also say that you don't have to be rejected anymore than what's necessary. If there's a way of getting somewhere without facing a 100 rejections, I believe it's better to choose that than the way where you have to sit through a 100 rejections. Again so what? The social contract of being outside in spaces with strangers …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 05:50 PM
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Straight up asking is a good way of eliminating any sort of doubt. However, that would result in you facing a lot of rejections that you shouldn't have to go through as well as cause unnecessary discomfort to a lot of women (who just want to go about their way). Choosing the right place and the right time should help reduce that - ofcourse, choosing the right person would make it much easier. I keep asking people about these obvious signs - none of them ever seen to answer it. I understand if th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 03:01 PM
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Why do you keep trying to insult me? What have I ever don't to you? You're free to do it ofcourse. My question is simple: what are these very obvious signs from women that men are too obivious too, that men are too emotionally unintelligent to notice? Look, if you don't want to answer, that's cool - that's honest and direct - which ironically, you don't seem to do here. And I've always been a proponent of direct and honest communication - you know who stood against me everytime I bring it up - w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 02:17 AM
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Promiscuity is the assumed baseline, unless proven otherwise. Better for mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:01 PM
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Wait, are you suggesting to ask the woman - "are you flirting with me?" - Wouldn't that dry it up like the Sahara down there? Apart from that, I adhere to the mindset - women being nice to me = them just being nice to me and other men. I've looked through a lot of threads in women-centric subs - it's safe to say that I've recieved none of the signals mentioned in there - they were too obvious to miss. I'm standing at zero only looking to learn and I'm genuinely asking you - what are these obviou…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 06:53 PM
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Let me ask you this - in a world where women complain that men mistake their niceness as flirting, men should be emotionally intelligent enough to know the most subtle signals a woman can possibly give? Isn't it possible that some men just don't receive any of these signals and hence, never got to know what a signal looks like? Does it always have to be the case where the men are emotionally unintelligent? I'm genuinely asking cos I'm starting thinking I'm a zero in emotional intelligence when a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 05:56 PM
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If the implication is cheating, I'd say not really. Personally, the kind of woman I'm attracted to would probably have options to cheat anywhere she goes without me - not just Miami. That could be at work, at the gym, at a highschool get-together. You can only trust them - either they'll honor that trust or they'll break it and live a white lie. I guess, if you're in a relationship with a woman (or a man to a lesser degree) - there's always the possibility of being cheated on.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:15 AM
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You're free to believe that. I do believe that in dating, men are at a disadvantage. Sooooooo
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 05:47 PM
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Not really. I believe that honesty is paramount in a relationship. Personally, for me, morality dictates that I present myself as true as possible - my sexual/romantic inexperience will definitely turn a lot of women off - that's the consequence of my choices/my way of living until now. I want the woman to make an informed decision - no matter what the outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 04:25 PM
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It makes sense in a way for women to be wary of men who haven't had relationships/ who are virgins. If he has lived his entire life until with no woman ever taking an interest in him, there could be some really big flaw with him - maybe it's his confidence, maybe he doesn't know how to flirt, maybe he's basically unattractive and he has really pessimistic/bad personality. It's in the woman's best interest to stay away from such men - they are simply protecting themselves from harm. However, for …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:33 PM
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That's a possibility only if women pursued the guys they want to marry and I'm sure they'd be able to get what they want. If they wait for a guy to approach them, well, there's a waiting period for that. I don't think this "involunmarried women" is a thing because a woman can get married anytime. They are actively rejecting men and that makes them "voluntarily unmarried" women. Incels basically only have one path - pursuit and they fail in that. They want to and they are rejected. In the woman's…
/r/AllPillDebate22/09/22 02:35 AM
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The pursued and the pursuer will never be in the same boat.
/r/AllPillDebate22/09/22 01:53 AM
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People who are in need of dick, to feel good and secure in their own skin, will resort back to looking for dick, anytime their relationship isn't providing them with the feel good vibes they need. And any relationship will have stale moments. That's why you vet for morals and values. This is what they mean when they say that you can't make a hoe a housewife. Sure it's risky and that's why promiscuous people pair up - they understand each other better.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:23 PM
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Yes. It won't be sudden, it would be gradual - usually playing the field during college, then slowing down - taking up hoe phases in between breakups - it's not that hard for a woman to be promiscuous. A partner count of 5 is like a 1-month-hoe-phase away.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:39 PM
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So, promiscuous women who are not into ENM or swinging are honest about their past promiscuity? As the great author, Maya Angelou said... "When someone tells you who they are, believe them" True. And it's also true to a lesser extent for women who are promiscuous but don't partake in that too. Exactly, the only "sign" that a woman used to be promiscuous - her own honest admittance (that's if they actually kept count in the first place).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:39 AM
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This is what I mean. As someone who was in the scene heavy, there really aren't that many 20 year olds on it. The standard age range of those who attend swinger events or gangbangs almost always skews toward the late 30s and 40s. Okay. The few you do find in their 20s are often involved in sex work or have a partner they attend events (in fact single women are a massive rarity in general). Alright. Also ethical non monogamy and swinging are very different things. I just used it as an umbrella te…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:18 AM
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Loool as someone who has fraternitised with women who are into the "gangbangs in sex theatres", you can tell. If a woman is honest about what her favorite pastime is, sure. Women into that scene let one know very quickly what time they're on...so much so a lot of them will tell you they're only wanting to date a guy form that scene That's true - women who are into that lifestyle would definitely prefer someone who is comfortable with it and will be a participant with her. However, isn't it possi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:00 AM
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Excessive tattoos and piercings, excessive drinking or drug use, lewd posts on social media, etc. On a post in a woman-centric thread, there was a comment that described a lawyer woman who didn't have any tattoos, didn't drink (too much, just socially) who has gangbangs every few weeks at a local sex theatre. Obviously these things don’t correlate 100%, but theyre very good indicators. This stuff is obvious to every guy outside of Reddit. That is true. However, that would be true in the other ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 05:35 AM
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Ooh, I'm autistic now? OP, care to enlighten me on the ways you're able to differentiate between the two groups?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 02:16 AM
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Your first statement is so true, I don't know why guys still care about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:22 AM
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I think women definitely do treat men differently and so do men if we are being entirely honest. Ofcourse, it's a gender-neutral thing and some men just can't get comfortable with that (I hope they eventually will come to peace with it) I wish more men realised that attraction isn’t the only reason women treat men differently. There are some reasonable and more complex reasons. I think they do realise there are other reasons. However, they want to avoid a situation where attraction is the reason…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 03:53 PM
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My view on bad sex is that in some instances in can be resolved and in others it’s a more pervasive issue. Just because we haven’t had sex doesn’t mean we haven’t kissed prior so to me if the sex is bad but kissing is great I’m open to working through that (performance anxiety etc.). Agreed on that - you can attempt to work through "bad sex" if he's awesome otherwise. it makes no sense to me rushing sex. That's okay and in the same way, to some men, it doesn't make sense that with one guy, women…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 02:02 PM
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Could you quote which of my statements you are replying to? That would make it easier for me to understand your points. I think redpillers here overestimate the difference. They truly see these Chads as ultra attractive and think women fawn over them, whereas they see themselves as utterly undesireable Not true. Not "undesirable" but more like, "I'm attractive and Chad is way more attractive". I personally don't have to estimate (and is probably true for many men) about how women treat really ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:49 PM
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For me it’s simply I don’t want sex to influence my dating when it comes to decision making. I've heard that reasoning here before and that's perfectly fine. If I’m waiting to feel comfortable with this person it simply means determining what he’s capable off and protecting my feelings. I want to know if he respects me and sees me as someone he enjoys outside of sex. That's cool. Bad sex can make you throw away a decent partner and good sex can make you stay with a crappy partner. The second sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:08 PM
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It doesn’t work like that to me. You can be turned on by someone without having sex with them if your frontal lobe is functioning properly. So it doesn’t mean the man is less attractive. Ofcourse, you have to be turned on by someone. My point is just that with some guys, women get easily turned on. With other guys, spending time with him and becoming more comfortable turns her on and that's a longer process. Nothing wrong with and it makes perfect sense to me. However, the men in the "other guys…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 09:54 AM
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Women might not think about how this hurts a man or how he might feel jealous, but it genuinely doesn’t have to do with attractiveness imo Even if it's is due to attractiveness, it makes sense. Hotter guy + Horny woman -----> sex Hot enough guy + woman -------> need to spend time with him -----> horny woman due to safety, comfort and emotional connection ------> sex I just don't bother with it by thinking that with the latter guy, she wants to have sex ( and do a lot of other things) potentially…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 09:12 AM
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Personally, I take "AFBB" as a warning. It simply means there are guys out there (hotter/more attractive than me) that my date/girlfriend/wife would take one look and go "I'm fucking him tonight". At the same time, she needs time to get comfortable with me and thus, would wait to have sex with me. That's a choice the woman makes and I can't force her do it another way. Ofcourse, I can always leave if I'm not satisfied with it. No harm there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 06:38 AM
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The actual story is a lot more stupid and ultimately disappointing. It's literally about a woman (with certain beliefs) cheating on her boyfriend and said boyfriend blabbed it to the world. For some reason a lot of gaming outlets/"journalists" went to bat for her and things went where they went Can you tell me where you found this story? I only searched it up on Wikipedia. From what I've read on the internet, a lot of "progressives" blame the election of Trump on incels and events like Gameergat…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 02:39 AM
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I guess you could say that, although there's a lot more pills these days. I chose "No-pill" because I won't join either side. Although, I do have to say I should probably change it to "blue-pill" sooner. I find redpill absolutely funny and blue is it's satire.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 05:26 PM
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Hello, fellow No-Piller. You got the perfect answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 05:08 PM
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In my experience, assertiveness is just a synonym for "aggression." I'd say assertiveness is ideal, aggression is it's extreme version. As a retail worker, dudes who want something lean in depending on what the reason was. There's a reason for this and why damn near everyone doesn't want to work a customer facing job I can one reason and that's why I personally don't want a customer facing job - I'm not good convincing people without actual facts and statistics to back me up - over off my friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:47 PM
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If the man's market value is high enough she won't be waiting for long. There will be the constant overhanging implication that he's leaving if he doesn't get what he wants To be honest, I don't think he will be a "high value man" in her eyes if he leaves because she doesn't have sex with him or waits until she's comfortable. He is still an HVM, just not in her eyes. Either way, it's a sort of tug of war that heterosexual couples must participate in. That is very true. Sure. So when it comes to …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:44 PM
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Not necessarily, because a lot of men are just looking for a bang. From a woman's perspective they have to do a lot of analysis to make sure the guy is really serious about a relationship. Isn't that why they have a "waiting for sex" thing? To protect against that hurt. From the man's perspective, the woman could easily ghost him after any date and make sure that she is serious about it as well. But ultimately the onus is on the man to approach and make the relationship happen, so men ultimately…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 02:41 PM
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Not really. Women complain all the time that the men they really like aren't the ones approaching them. Maybe those men weren't interested in her. That's natural and is just an indirect form of rejection. I don't think that really takes away from the advantage they have. Women would do well to incorporate some courage into their lives, it'd give them more control over who they can potentially partner with. I think that's an advantage that men have that we take for granted. Sure, this would incre…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 01:52 PM
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Women whine about "nice guys" because I think they hate that guys being "nice" I think they whine about nice guys because it's annoying and dangerous to them - case in point, Elliot Rodgers. There are nice men who don't claim they are nice men and there are assholes who claim they are nice men. I believe that women whine about the second group. If women don't want to want adapt to our generation for peace/harmony/understanding/results, well as far as I am concerned they can suffer all the ill co…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 11:35 AM
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The fact is that we don't live in older generations, we live in our generation. I don't think that changes what women find as attractive whether she was born in older gen or newer. It's upto her and I can understand why women would find a traditional respectful guy more attractive than a progressive respectful guy. The combined power of Feminism, MeToo, and Smartphone/Social Media has given women/females their weapon of choice against men; and due to it's recency, they have no sense of honor or …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 10:48 AM
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This is only true because we let it be true. On point #1, if it is what it is,then let it be so. Agreed. On point #2, there are ways to deal with the white-knighting simp ass niggas regardless of what creed or color or territory they're from The men shaming other men in this thread are definitely not white-knights. They are the traditionally masculine men. They believe that it's the man's job to learn about women's indirect communication and use it to his advantage - they always repeat that that…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 10:25 AM
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Hey man, they'll stick to their preferences till the end of their lives. Nothing about how woman approach dating will chang. Because 1) it gets them exactly what they want or if they don't, they just won't date. 2)you got men in here shaming other men because they don't want to adjust to a woman's behaviour. As long as there are "real men" out there that satisfy what a woman wants and she can get him with her current ways, there'll never be any change. As for people like me who won't fit the arc…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 09:55 AM
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No point in this post mate. Women already get what they want with the way they are. Their indirect communication works and they have the advantage in dating. Why would they change for men? As for men, one sexual harrasment case could lead to a lot of trouble that would make you wish that you didn't make that move. We gotta be extremely careful about it and because of this, we'll end up alone a lot of time - a compromise worth making (in my books atleast). We as men should get comfortable with be…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:29 AM
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Especially when he says, "haram" when someone talks about promiscuity. I believe his beliefs are delusional but at the same time, he believes that as the absolute truth. That makes me laugh all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 01:48 PM
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Definitely a net positive in my life. He was funny as hell and I laughed my heart out at his videos. It's even funnier the second time when other people react to his views.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 06:05 AM
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It's not always about hiding. I understand one reason why they vehemently oppose it. For women who have been faithful to their husband, been dreaming about having a baby with him and after the gruelling delivery, being told about a paternity test would surely be really hurtful. And to women who take pride in their morals/values, the insinuation of cheating - especially something as serious as paternity fraud - would be very insulting and devastating as well. It's kind of a locked situation from …
/r/AllPillDebate11/09/22 06:47 PM
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It helped me become a better person. And I want other confused people on PPD to become better through the same way, so I keep coming back to this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 12:57 PM
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FwB for many women is also about the mental connection and wanting it to proceed to a relationship Nah, you can visit any woman-centric subreddit and there's evidence that they enjoy FWBs for what it is - friendship + sex. Most people don’t participate in hookup culture. 15% of women have a clearly spontaneous desire, so they might have more itches to scratch. It doesn't matter if most people don't participate, it's that any woman can (and very social/attractive men as well) participate. Because…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 12:47 PM
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I've always wanted a rebuttal for the "low n-count means fidelity and longer marriages". Thanks for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 02:07 AM
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Technically, that's how it should be. But racial slurs are hurtful and represent a lot of traumatic experiences, especially the black community. I don't think women's freedom of choice and promiscuity ever hurt people. Freedom of anything is only valid if it doesn't end up hurting other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 01:48 AM
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We are not talking about did you sleep with 5 or 6, but 5 or 50. So this argument sounds like bs to me. It's not that hard for a person to say, "I've been with like only 5 people (when in fact, it's actually 50) - that's why it's unverifiable. Not all people are liars but anybody can - since the number is an irrelevant metric, it can be easily disregarded. But i am talking about a mindset. Mindsets can change. A woman in her early 20s could literally be a pornactress and in her late 20s become m…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 05:51 PM
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this is a very small percentage of woman Maybe true. My point revolves around the fact this is an unverifiable statistic. Nobody knows the truth, sometimes not even the woman (cos she didn't keep count). The promiscuous ones are the loud and proud and are much more visually present Not necessarily true. Any woman, regardless of her behaviour, can be promiscuous. From the shy nerdy woman to the outgoing party woman - there's no way of knowing (unless you've been following the woman around all her…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 05:13 PM
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Spontaneous desire: ”Rghh I want bacon and eggs, let’s go grab it” Responsive or receptive desire: ”Oh someone made bacon and eggs for me, I really want that even though I didn’t think of it before” Makes sense. I’m maybe extreme but outside of a relationship I just don’t think about sex at all. Yeah, you are. There is no ”itch to scratch” That's how it is for you personally. FWBs and hookup culture would say that many women do have "itches to scratch". This tendency is quite common among women,…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 02:23 PM
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How's "responsive sexual desire" factoring into this? When people are horny, they wanna have sex. Some women use dildos and vibrators, some women swipe for a little on Tinder and set it up with a guy - it's upto the individual. I don't think most women are horny enough to get with a new guy every day - maybe they could do it in an fwb situation due to familiarity.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 12:48 PM
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Technically true but I don't think they are that horny (exceptions do exist though)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 11:48 AM
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Yeah...Amateur. Women have the capability to go 2-5 per year easy. Whether they choose to or not is upto the individual. It's not that all women have that number, it's that any woman can have that number. Then again, once a person realises that "body-count" is a stupid metric and understands women's freedom of choice, he probably won't care about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 11:34 AM
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Well, I believe that traditional masculinity believes in "Man leads the relationship (while also respecting the woman's desires and takes care of the woman" which sounds romantic. I assume women would find that attractive because who doesn't want to be taken care of and desired? As for my own, I believe in "Nobody leads the relationship. We'll walk, face our issues and make memories together as equals" which probably doesn't have the same mass appeal as the above mentioned (which is fine imo). I…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 04:02 AM
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Even if you give "2 new partners per year", a woman would still hit 14 partners if she started having sex at 18. Come on, even PPD men gotta admit that's like amateur level numbers..
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 03:36 AM
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Why should they care about what kind of a guy he is? They just want to have fun and live lifestyle of "young, dumb and full of cum". So what he beats up weak guys or bullies others? He's hot, confident, treats her like she wants to be treated - perfect. As for toxic masculinity, it's upto the man to adhere to it or not. In my personal example, I found out that traditional masculinity (I believe that toxic masculinity is just the extreme of this) is harming my mental health, so I abandoned it - e…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 10:14 AM
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A paternity test is a way of finding out whether a woman cheated and the baby is a product of that. It's commonly accepted that women cheat, just as much as men do. I just find it funny that many women vehemently oppose paternity tests and makes me go, "well something doesn't smell right."
/r/AllPillDebate09/09/22 03:45 AM
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This guy knows what he wants. Respect (even though I may not agree on your "two options").
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 02:24 AM
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This statement would become meaningless at the time when all men in the world as a collective be like - "nope, not asking out another woman ever again". That's impossible so, we'll keep hearing this a lot. No point in contesting it - even if an individual man decides to not be a pursuer, there are others who will. So, he stays in the race and well, that compounds to all men being the pursuers. This statement will remain true as long as the majority of the pursuers are men.
/r/ExRedPill07/09/22 07:01 AM
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what makes you so special compared to the other guys? Well, she is in a relationship with me, not other guys. I only get into a relationship where I treat the lady as special and I expect the same. just because she has sex a lot doesn’t make her good at it..don’t be willingly dumb. True but that's not the reason why I chose her. she’d walk right past you for the next hot guy and just cycle between him and another man before she just cuffs you Probably true. I know I'm not hot enough to be a casu…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 06:49 AM
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Well even if they lied about cheating wouldn't matter as long as they didn't lie about there n count If they could lie about cheating, they could easily lie about n-count too. Study still would mean low n count is more likely to lead to successful relationship even if they cheated in the past. Making this study a useless one. Besides there's a reason why women looking for LTR avoid fuck boys like the plague. The same reason is applicable to fuck girls too. I think women avoid men who are present…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:57 AM
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I think it's funny that in every single comment, you shifted the blame on to the men for not understanding women, shaming them for not having real-life experience with women other than for fucking. I didn't know that the woman's way of communicating indirectly and non-verbally is the right way. And that men's preference for direct communication is because they are incapable of understanding and empathizing with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 07:45 PM
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the truth that a woman actually did cheat in a previous relationship (even though she is "low n-count"), she just doesn't reveal it during a study.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 07:32 PM
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That's probably true but it's a self-reported study, so, maybe the virgins were just embarassed to tell the truth. It could go anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 09:35 AM
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Are you implying cheating? Because I find that cheating is a moral issue regardless of whether a person is a virgin or promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 08:41 AM
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Oh, I'm prepared for it. The kind of woman who I want will probably have a promiscuous past, so I don't care anymore..
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 08:31 AM
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Atleast there's a reason to complain - higher taxes cripple average households. Promiscuity from women just makes themselves and a lot of men happy. I don't think the two can be made analogous.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 05:53 AM
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People still complain about promiscuous women? There's really no point in it and is just a waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 05:48 AM
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Yeah. That guy needs to leave this horny woman. It doesn't matter whether it's 23 or 2-3 years, if your partner breaks your trust and says she can't stop - walk away.
/r/AllPillDebate03/09/22 07:27 AM
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Hey man, good for you. Enjoy. The ones who struggle - Either they get better or they bow out (both respectable). No point in complaining about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 04:15 AM
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Ah...I guess that's what you meant but reading it, I got a tone of moaning and bitching...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 03:58 AM
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By sexual experience, I'm probably an incel. I'm starting to get frustrated and feel pathetic towards the posters who cry so much about Tinder. Let go of this obsession with online dating and the dating-woes of men. You're making it sound like it's world war 3. It's not that bad and there's so much more to this life than online dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 03:47 AM
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Who cares what they call those men? It's about values - women are attracted to misogynists, I don't want to be a misogynist. If somebody wants to be a misogynist to get laid, they can try and have fun. No man should give a shit about other people's opinions if what he does is making him happy (as long as it's by the law, obviously)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 10:17 AM
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"be the best version of yourself" is the correct advice and if you take offense to that, hey, it's your lie, live it like you want to. If in your eyes, any non-misogynist is a "good entitled neckbeard", then go be a misogynist. Nothing's stopping you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 02:54 AM
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The hotter the man, less does his personality matter in a casual sex scenario (cause she isn't trying to live with him and she's horny). So more number of partners is a result of that and the benevolent sexism is probably taken as dominating/assertiveness. This is a personal view of mine but the result of these studies you posted, I take it as a test for whether a person is truly good or not. Misogyny is bad and if thats what women find as attractive and the man wants to be a misogynist to get w…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:28 PM
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The dark triad traits are just a natural by product that results from men who have the capability (attractiveness/sexual market value) to display said traits. That's like a circle - dark triads are a by product of men who can display them - that doesn't make sense. Either you're dark-triad or you're not. Your capability doesn't matter there. the negative/unfair traits of women having heightened standards of attraction from the exorbitant sexual market value most women have which prices out a vas…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 06:15 PM
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Ah ah ah...you didn't exactly gender-flip, you added some extra layers to it, now didn't you? Because the gender-flipped version of my comment is very valid - however, women probably won't have any issue finding a partner, no matter who they are (the advantage of the pursued) Are you equating dark-triad traits (which are negative in nature) to commitment-material traits (which are positive traits)? can't do anything about men wanting to use you for sex This could end up in the men causing hurt t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 03:58 PM
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Well yeah. There's nothing else we can do about it. We can't force women to like us, it's a choice they have to make and we definitely shouldn't fake a personality because it'll make us miserable. There's literally nothing else we can do but accept that that's just how it is (suck it up), stop complaining/blaming (filling your mind with negativity) and move on (filling your mind with positivity/focus on other parts of your life).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 02:03 PM
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Agreed on both counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 07:38 AM
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I'm a guy so take my comment with a grain of salt. It's purely an assumption and I believe that sexually, a woman's best experience would probably be a threesome with two men who focus entirely on her. Romantically, I'd say it's the same as the men - someone to connect, love, have bomb sex with and build a future.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 02:35 AM
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Every reason you said is true for even the hottest guy you chose from a dating app, so stop. You don't need a reason to be picky - you're a woman, you have options. You can choose anyone, you don't have to justify it. Any man who can't respect freedom of choice can take a hike.
/r/AllPillDebate25/08/22 06:35 PM
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A man can only be his best version - assertive, confident, nice, sane-minded, empathetic, emotionally mature - take all the positive qualities in the world and live like that (if it makes your truly happy) If the dark-triad qualities don't come to you naturally, don't be. Attraction isn't something anyone can control and what women (in general or individually) find as attractive is out of a man's control. We as men need to accept that our true self - our best authentic version - could quite poss…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 06:31 PM
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Okay. Nobody is saying people can't show this and go "well, that's interesting". I simply asking why people add to the negativity? You can comment on it and easily ignore it. Why bash her for her choices when they have no effect on you or any smart guy who'll ignore this woman should she come up on their dating app?
/r/AllPillDebate25/08/22 05:43 PM
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See, the idea isn't changing sexuality. What heterosexual men feel when homosexual men say, "You have to give us a chance" is the same thing heterosexual women feel when heterosexual men say, "you have to give us a chance". I'm not asking you to change your sexuality, I'm asking to understand perspective. You said it yourself - if a gay man approached you, you'd say "go for other gay men. I'm not interested in you." It's the same thing with women who are not attracted to you - if an unattractive…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 02:01 PM
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Ah wait. You told them to look for other gay men, they said "nope, they want straight men to give them a chance" You're mistaking the subjects - an unattractive man complaining that women don't give him a chance = a gay man complaining that straight men don't give him a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 02:31 AM
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True. Maybe they lack an active social life or they are ugly. It also could be that women around him don't find him attractive. You can be a perfect man and still be sexless. Misogyny has nothing to do with it. Not sure about women-haters but attractive misogynists have no issue getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 08:48 PM
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I'm not asking you to change your sexuality. I'm asking you what would you feel if gay men suddenly started complaining that straight men don't get with them? Answer that if you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 08:40 PM
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big portion of my depression has been perpetual loneliness but go off on how this doesn’t affect anyone Man, how is your loneliness anybody else's responsibility? Come on. Nobody owes you their company. I know what its like to be lonely, every human on this planet probably went through something like that. The only way to get out of that is do anything social - didn't you have any friends in school/college/work? because of this, hundreds of thousands (if not, millions) of men are being forced in…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 01:41 PM
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because a lot of women are “not-stacy” either but refuse to accept that. Who cares if they don't accept it? Let them live their lives, they are not hurting anyone by not dating men they don't find attractive. Stacy or not, they should only end up with me they find attractive and if there's not enough of them on this world, they should stay single. Better for everyone around. hell, didn’t the body positivity movement not essentially force men to give bigger women a chance? I think it was about re…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 10:50 AM
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In general couples I see are generally of equal attractiveness since women are willing to date a guy as long as meets a minimum requirements of attractiveness if other qualities like personality, chemistry etc. Agreed. personality definitely matters to women, it just doesn’t matter for a ons. Also true. It's like why should it matter? The guy is just there for the one night. If he's hot, respects her and seems like he cares about her pleasure, then that's all it takes. I think some men are confu…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 03:37 AM
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….yes….? that’s literally the whole argument (at least, that’s how i interpret it) the only people who’d have issue with that are women; most men are realistic when it comes to who they can get and are happy with that. Ugh, no. I'd rather die alone than get with a woman who doesn't actually want to be with me and was told to do so. It's insulting to both of us. i’d gladly wager that there are more women who feel entitled to a Chris Evans level of looks than there are men who feel entitled to a S…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 02:05 AM
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Exactly. That's how it should work for everyone, especially women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 02:00 AM
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Ofcourse, at the end of the day, it always depends on the individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 01:59 AM
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Then fix your attitude. Become ultra-masculine. It's an easily obtainable frequency you can lock into. Girls have one-nighters with average looking guys if they radiate masculinity otherwise. I don't think my attitude needs any fixing and I've realised that I don't fit the ideas of conventional masculinity. You can fix this. If you carry yourself with the boyfriend vibe, no shit women won't see you as an exciting hookup prospect. Change your attitude and an entirely new world opens up. See, I li…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 01:57 AM
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Why you gotta spread negativity like that, bruh? Let her live her life. You don't have to get with her. Some christian dude will. If not, she'll happily live as single mom with her kids. Why shame her when you can just ignore her?
/r/AllPillDebate24/08/22 01:53 AM
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The easiest thing to do is to leave them alone. Does anyone honestly wanna be the guy who they were told to date because he and her are in the same "league"? There's nothing more insulting than that. If the men that women truly want is above their own "leagues", then that's how it should be. She'll only resent the men below her and we don't want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 06:01 PM
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Ugh...really? that looks exhausting. I don't really care about all these categories to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 05:34 PM
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The desire to have a partner that didn't have casual sex You can have a deal-breaker like that. You've never had it so you want your partner to have that value as well. No worries there but you'd be significantly reducing your dating pool with that. Most women have had casual sex at some point so. to be able to have casual sex themselves to match the experience of women. Well, take your time and come to terms with the fact that upto a certain level of hotness/attractiveness, women will always dw…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 04:32 PM
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Well, people have different behaviours to different people. And it only makes sense that women treat the hottest guys they can get in a different way compared to other less hot guys - a freedom of choice. They don't have to admit it, most of us have seen it with our own eyes. It's not really evil or anything, so...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 04:24 PM
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Ah, I see what you mean. It's the same for me. I guess for women it's different because they can get hot (but very compatible) guys for relationships and hotter (but otherwise incompatible) guys for hook-ups. They have that choice and that's why I think they compartmentalize men like that. I'm sure men separate women into two categories as well but that's probably based on promiscuity or other habits, not necessarily looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 04:17 PM
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Do you go for the hottest girl possible? I don’t, and never have as long as she met my minimum degree of attraction. I'm the same as you. I only have certain physical qualities that I don't find attractive (petite, short, obese etc). Other than that, I've realised that I could find any woman attractive. Im just coming to realize personality matters a lot more to me to than it matters for women. Just like personality matters to you, I'm sure it matters to women as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 04:11 PM
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It is a difficult pill to swallow. the girl you’re in a relationship with would’ve chosen other guys before you, even just for a ONS That's probably the case for any man whose relationship didn't start with a hook-up or ONS. What can we do? Choosing a hotter (than you) guy for a hook-up is just your girl exercising her freedom of choice. Why wouldn't she choose the hottest guy she can get, it just makes sense. I get it. I'm absolutely one of the guys who had to swallow that pill but hey, I manag…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 04:00 PM
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What exactly do men sacrifice here? And how exactly do women "get to have their cake and eat it too"? It's pretty much common knowledge that women hold the advantage in sex/dating. No surprises there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 03:56 PM
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If that's their only thing or their job is travel-based, it's a compatibility issue for a relationship. Other than, I'd say they should enjoy their time in the way they want. Do you view it differently if she travels in groups vs solo? No difference, only a safety concern. Would you care if your partner traveled without you? Yes because I wanna travel and make memories with her. If an attractive woman you just met says she travels a lot just cause, do you have presumptions about her character? N…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 03:07 PM
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Ignore them. You obviously came to the conclusion either from something you read or something you witnessed - like a said, if a generalisation helps you with your mental health and doesn't shame/hurt another, ignore the one saying it isn't so..
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 02:55 PM
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Were you ever bothered by that or did you just not really care that much in the first place? I was definitely bothered by it. I read countless reddit threads on these subjects and came to the conclusion that women are never going to change what they do because that's what makes them happy and safe from hurt. I can't change that but I can change my reaction to it. I started thinking about it logically and slowly got over the negative feelings about the whole thing. I guess my perspective is that …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 02:52 PM
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I don't have an issue with generalizations that are applied to everyone (isn't that the point of a generalization?). I only have an issue when people try to spread negativity with it and shame others with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 02:46 PM
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Ofcourse. There's too many variables to consider when you're dealing with people. I just take a positive generalisation that doesn't shame women and at the same time, keeps my mental health intact.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 02:39 PM
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Ofcourse. I'm the type of guy where they have to spend some time with to build the comfort and trust required, not the guy they take a look and go - "yep, I wanna fuck him". I have accepted it and moved on. That's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 02:36 PM
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That's how it should logically go but relationships are seldom built on logic. Like someone commented above, there's emotional connection, personality and lot of other qualities that are considered in a relationship, along with looks. People who are not conventionally attractive have relationships and casual sex all the time, so you don't have to be the hottest to be with a woman. Now as for how the woman treated the men she has been with, now that's where the acceptance has to come.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 02:33 PM
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Nope. Definitely not the way I look right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 02:28 PM
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Agree. I think some guys just have a hard time accepting that they themselves are not that physically attractive or atleast among the options a woman has for a ONS. I guess it's jealousy or the feeling of being left out. It's better to focus on other things about their lives and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 01:02 PM
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Probably South Indian men and I'm one. On an average, we are shorter as well as darker skinned than our north indian counterparts. South East Asian men have a lot more of the anime/k-pop fanbase working for them.
/r/AllPillDebate23/08/22 08:50 AM
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My guy, no point in thinking about this. It's just a waste of time. The men women hook-up usually tend to be hotter than the men they end up in a relationship with. That's just logical - going for the hottest for just sex. If you're not conventionally attractive, rest assured - there were definitely conventionally attractive guys that didn't have to wait to get with her - either accept it or remain single for the rest of your life. All these worries about "waiting for sex", hotter hook-ups - you…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 08:46 AM
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That's the neat part - you don't. Don't try to become something you're not. Personally, I believe that there's the two archetypes - Bad Boy and Nice Guy - both encompassing positive traits that are just different. I'll proudly admit that I relate more with the "nice guy" than the "bad boy", so I don't try to be the other. I also believe that inherently, "bad boy" is more attractive to women than "nice guy". That's fine, that's just attraction and you can't change that. I don't blame anyone and I…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 02:50 AM
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Possible? Sure there's outliers to everything. But probable? Not likely So, according to you, an assertive male feminist is a rarity. I don't agree with it but hey, who cares? Love and let live. Unless you're faking it to get women. And that's a bold strategy you'd better be very good looking. Ah, so that's why. Men don't support feminism to get with women though, it's a choice they make so that the women around can have equal opportunities. constantly push out this male feminist rhetoric like i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 03:18 AM
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A man with backbone can be a nice feminist too or is that not possible, according to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:58 AM
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Finally, somebody made a post about it. "n-count" is a stupid metric and says nothing about a person's sexual past compared to their personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 06:14 PM
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To become better and expand my world-view.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 10:28 AM
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You don't have to apologize because you disagreed. But tell me - is there anything wrong about what I said? Is there anything morally despicable? If not and it's just your personal preference, no explanations needed.
/r/AllPillDebate18/08/22 04:22 PM
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Simple. It's fun, pleasurable, exciting - they have enough options for partners to do the deed, it helps with sexual exploration and fantasies. They don't "have" to have a hoe phase, it's their choice. That desire shouldn't be shamed and men who don't want to be with them because of lifestyle differences shouldn't be shamed either.
/r/AllPillDebate18/08/22 04:00 PM
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A man can be the best guy in the world - top notch personality, good-looking (in a unique way with his fashion style), has his shit together - all around a happy guy. He could still be single because women around him simply don't find him attractive. It's not his fault, it's not hers either - simply a consequence of freedom of choice and that fact that she can't control what she's attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 01:48 AM
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That'd depend on definition of "husband material" and "hookup material" Husband material as in what red team defines - A guy she is less attracted to, has less enthusiastic sex and generally doesn't care for in any other way that emotional support - nah, sounds depressing and a waste of time. Husband material as some women down here defines (and most healthy people) - attractive, awesome, good guy with whom she can connect emotionally and has bomb sex with - wants to spend the rest of her life w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 02:01 PM
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Hot damn. If this doesn't change their minds, I don't think anything will.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 01:53 PM
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The chase is just showing interest and the art of flirting, not literally chasing or hounding a woman who isn’t interested. Let’s just clear that up off the bat. Is it really a chase if interest and flirting is expected to be reciprocated? And ofcourse, the rest you said is being a stalker - not cool and dangerous Many young men today don’t want to put in even minimal flirting or effort. They want women but want someone else to do all the work. They want women but want to complain that meeting w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 07:28 AM
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The woman said that non-chaser guys are respectful of boundaries but passive. The guys who enjoy the chase and the woman who believe in it are of older generations. You replied that many men of newer generation are raised to be entitled, timid, not assertive and expect to be handed everything. Wouldn't it be safe to assume that men who don't want to chase come off as everything you described that modern men are?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 06:23 AM
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So a guy who doesn't want to chase a woman is entitled, timid and expects the woman to do all the work?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 02:37 AM
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Assume all of them are -----> judge them based on how they treat me. Because I don't see the difference between 1000 times with 1 guy, 100 times with 10 guys, 1 time with 1000 guys (atleast sex-wise, there may be a difference in their personalities and that's what I judge them on) and "n-count" concept is too stupid for me to take seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 04:30 PM
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A number that can't be proved, can be easily lied about and easily forgettable as well. Also, there's nothing bad about the notion that women have an easier time getting laid - I believe in it and it helped me let go of any slut-shaming tendencies I had.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 09:24 AM
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First of all, women only have an advantage over men in the dating space because men are majority pursuers while woman are pursued. As for purpose, some men may have "getting laid" as the end goal - there'll be a lot of wasted effort if that's case; sooner they realise that, the better. The rest of them, nah. There's enough self-respect to chase their own dreams - whether they are an incel or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 09:16 AM
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Yes spontaneity etc is exciting but that doesn't have to mean bad boy. Spontaneity is like the trademark for "bad-boy" though and I don't think that's a bad thing (I take it as a more positive archetype). I'm saying the ones who think they need to play the hot and cold mind games are the ones exploiting their trauma. not cool. Some of them are genuinely misguided while some are clear psychos. It's a shame that good people fall into that trap. Respecting boundaries and giving space doesn't have t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 09:04 AM
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Most recently it was a 19 year old girl with a body count "less than 15" so let's just go with 14. How the HELL do you sleep with 14 different people by the time you're 19? Those are rookie numbers for a woman, bruh, come on....
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:25 AM
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Prfprfrfrfr.....come on dude, either that's jealousy (we can change that, no issues) or pure hate for other people doing good. Why you got to make it a negative thing? That's how majority of women (and men) do with their lives. Sure, the timeline is different for each and every one and that includes late-bloomers as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:22 AM
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There's something awesome about a woman hugging you while resting her head on your chest and saying, "I love you". I was fortunate enough to have that feeling once and I crave it even more now. As for how I got into romance, I watched one of my best friends fall in love with his current girlfriend of 7 years. I helped him find her house when we were just teenagers (with her consent obv), I was there for him when she started doubting his intentions. I teased them everytime they tried to sneak a k…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 04:02 AM
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That's a good thing. You're not shaming them, so it's cool. However, I'll ask this: How'll you know? Sure, if the entire town bedded her, you'd probably know but where do you place the limits?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 02:14 AM
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I think they are as honest as they could be. It doesn't really matter because even if they lie, their actions won't. However, I do agree that some men just have a hard time accepting that they never will be what women find attractive, no matter what they do. It'll be "better off" if men accept that they could have flaws that need to be rectified and still would not be attractive to women, if they worked on themselves for their own happiness and not let negative emotions guide their actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 02:10 AM
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Ofcourse, people are free to have fun as long as they don't hurt anyone. There are two types of men who lash out, shame or complain about women having fun - Late-bloomers and hypocrites. Hypocrites (plate-spinners who reject the women who do the same thing for relationships) believe what they do is right so can't be changed. Late bloomers are just jealous and can be helped to become better people (I know because I used to be one). All they need to do is accept that others having fun is out of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 02:04 PM
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There's gotta be a healthier way to create attraction Of ourse there is. But it may feel a bit boring to some people. works in people who had narcissistic parents and we are still unhealed and trying to fix our bf instead of ourselves. Ah yes, features of the "bad-boy-stereotype". that guy put me thru a lot. I haven't seriously dated in 3 yrs now. Very very very picky now. Tired of the games and I realized it was something I needed to heal from which was why I kept going for men like that. Do wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 07:41 AM
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Delayed message system that gets scanned by AI before it reaches its recipient? Oh, now that's a good idea. Damn, the Tinder AI has a lot of work cut out for it. I too, like Marvel Comics. I haven't read any comics, I've only seen the movies. They should've stopped with endgame, imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 07:25 AM
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the one bargaining chip that men and women are different on is that men provided money and women provided sex. Men used to provide financially for the women completely I thank the world this isn't the norm anymore. Therefore, the modern day relationship in most cases is unequal because women are providing sex but men are not providing financially. Women don't "provide sex" atleast, that's how normal men see it. The only way a relationship can be claimed unequal is the fact that women are the one…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 06:05 AM
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I mean, that's pretty impossible. Filtering them out before they become creepy, now how do we do that? (unless you have the hydra program from Captain America 2 where they predicted a person's future criminal behaviour)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 05:39 AM
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True. It's a consequence of men being the pursuer and women being the pursued (generally). It's just how the world works.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:49 AM
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be sure the ones who take it personally see some element of truth in it. It’s why they get so upset about it. That's a good point. I personally use the stated generalisations of women to make my mindset better and consequently, my life better. I just don't use it shame women though. I don't see anything wrong there. I don’t resemble any of those generalizations, so I know they aren’t about me, so I don’t get all huffy. See? That's how everyone should roll. However, I'll say, I don't think any of…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:46 AM
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True. Isn't there any option to block them? And also, losers can be ignored. Ofcourse, all that goes out the window when it comes to in-person dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:35 AM
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To be fair about 100% of women look worse at 30 than they do at 21-25. Oh really? I think that's just your POV. I have no issue with it but I don't think that's true. the niche minority is men who say there's no hope as a revenge fantasy True. almost ALL men would agree she's LESS attractive and desirable To be honest, I can't speculate on what other men think. I find a woman (who took care of her health) is more attractive at 30 than when she was at 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 02:54 AM
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Well, that's an issue independent of dating apps. I can't control it, the women can't and I seriously don't know what those men hope to achieve with it. I still stand by my statements -----> for men, don't get into dating apps, it'll simply be a waste of time. -------> for women, you've got a lot of options, sure many of them are useless (which can be reduced if there's less men on the app) but the good ones will make it worthwhile. Have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 07:28 PM
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My thoughts For women: Have fun For men: Don't
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:19 PM
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Oh, I'm not commenting against you. I'm adding to it. I've actually found someone wholesome kind and emotionally stable. Ah, lucky you.... when I was dating it was full of minnows (self centered, self entitled narcissistic, unnattractive and unstable) and not too many fish (wholesome kind and emotionally stable) Ah, well, there's bad people who we need to avoid and then there's good people we need to be around. Among those good people, we need to find the compatible one. Dating is a multi-layer …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:50 PM
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----then men should stop fucking mindless shallow bitches and find more wholesome kind and emotionally stable women.----example of a comment I imagined That's a very common comment. Except all the ones we can find are self centered, self entitled narcissistic, unnattractive and unstable The reply to this would be - if all women you find are these types, then it's your problem. You're attracting these kinds of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 01:21 PM
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I simply found it fascinating. I have no issue with you generalising me as a basement-dwelling cheetos-eating NPC-raping misogynist (because I know that's not true) because it doesn't hurt me at all. I generalise women too (ofcourse, only to get a positive outcome) but it's never this extreme (and doesn't cause any harm to anyone).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 01:18 PM
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It works because u have to get us attached first. Once u pull back, we keep hoping that u will return. Then when we start to break away then the guy returns as prince charming once again and its a mind fuck It worked on you because it was natural to him. Maybe this is the way how romance is for him. It'd sound exhausting to others because it doesn't come natural to them and forcing this would just be harmful for the guy and the girl. Just depends how good he is. My ex was great at being an awful…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 06:34 AM
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Doesn't matter. I can only be the best version of myself. Personality wise, I've gotten comments that I'm on the softer side and definitely not what a conventionally masculine guy would be like. I'll be at my version - hot, happy and satisfied in my unique way - without causing others harm - if women find that "cute" and not "guy they want to get in bed with", what the hell can I do but accept and move on?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:19 AM
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30 year old women being less attractive and undesirable The men who think that are a very niche minority that you don't have to worry about and probably won't date. You'll have plenty of options to choose from whether it be online dating or social-circle-dating. Don't let the negativity get to you, have a positive outlook and you'll be totally fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:12 AM
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Nope. Women are fed up with dating men they are attracted to. What women are attracted to is extremely personal and as such, the majority of men have no say in it. There are good men out there who will be attractive to women, finding them is the only issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:03 AM
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Wow, you really went to town on that one. I find it fascinating that in your world-view, all men (on PPD atleast) are sitting at home, complaining about the state of dating and that women want men to be better, in their curry stained t-shirts, licking Cheeto dust off their fingers while playing GTA and raping NPCs in their mom’s basement while all women are going to school and getting good jobs and being successful and working out and eating clean and bettering themselves, Whatever it takes to g…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 03:56 AM
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A very interesting observation. Imagine the comments if a post said, hetero men are fed up with dating, women should become better.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 03:41 AM
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I don't think grouping Asians as one whole group makes sense though. Korean men and Pakistani men (there's some real hotties there) probably are the most desirable out of the Asians and you can't group them in with Japanese or Indian men (who are probably at the bottom). It's just preferences and no point in complaining about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 10:55 AM
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It works if you give me enough to get attached too. Guess he wasn't "hot" enough. Oh okay. So it does work, he just went about it in the wrong way. A guy was doing that to me recently and I was upset because I thought I got past all those mind games. It is a struggle to find the right balance of "bad boy" traits which keeps you satisfied and attracted. I changed his name in my phone for psychological effect and it helped lol Whatever it takes to prevent yourself from harm.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 06:06 AM
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Wait, I though we were supposed to mention things we didn't believe in. I think that statement is a lie.
/r/AllPillDebate12/08/22 07:32 AM
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Nice guys finish last.
/r/AllPillDebate12/08/22 07:03 AM
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Not gonna lie, reading that gave me a good laugh.
/r/ExRedPill12/08/22 06:58 AM
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No he actually said "women tell me they are afraid of getting attached to me...but then they get a bf after." He wasn't himself. He was who he thought he needed to be based on books and youtube videos Sounds like he needs to take a good look at himself, accept his flaws and change for the better. He kept thinking I wanted a bad boy because I stayed with my ex when he cheated. But it was more complicated than that. He made a decision based on surface-level info and that's where he went wrong. I n…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 06:54 AM
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Whoa, now that's a very detailed explanation from a pregnant woman's perspective. The only thing I would dispute is paternity fraud being inarguably worse than experiencing infidelity as a pregnant woman. I agree that paternity fraud and partner-leaving-pregnant-wife would stand equal based on hurt caused, maybe even more onto the woman's side. Point being, there are other situations which are at least as equally emotionally distressing and difficult to navigate as paternity fraud. Infidelity ru…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 06:42 AM
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The question is a non sequitur when you consider that the reality isn't exactly what they think, nor is it remotely universal (like, it can't be objective-- it's inherently subjective). That's a thought for the day. Different women want different things at different times, all people go through phases, strong romantic emotions add a lot more weight to the act for many people-- whereas casual sex can be... much less intimate. Agreed. You'd understand of course (and maybe do) if you have casual se…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 06:29 AM
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Hehe, that is a Chad lifestyle. Have fun, mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 03:26 AM
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Dude, there's no point in that debate anymore. Women are never going to accept the man's side and vice-versa. Don't engage further, it'll just be a waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 02:51 AM
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He's not asking it from a man's pov though. He's asking from an objective standpoint. Why are women risking pregnancy with a guy she doesn't care for? Why are women less trusting of a guy she "actually likes"? Personally, "her body, her choice" stops any further discussion. However, could you answer the questions above, for the sake of discussion?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 02:38 AM
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Your first and second para are gender-neutral. However, in a woman-cheating case, the guy is forced to take care of a child that is not his. He (happily) consents to taking care of another man's kid in both adoption and marrying a single mom. In the case of both cheaters, there's a breaking of trust and resentment but only one gender has to take care of a child that's not his. As for your third and fourth, a woman can get an abortion regardless of what the man wants, right? That should be consid…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 02:21 AM
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So his wife is just supposed to suck it up and stay with the man who not only cheated and fathered a child with another woman, but is the kind of man who would just "not bother" with that child? (and no, there is no chance that she or the kids will not know) and his kids are supposed to ignore the fact that they have a half sib? How's the wife and kids going to know he cheated? Assuming it's just one-off or something. We're getting into the conditions of paternity fraud. The man doesn't know the…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:57 AM
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I think they deserve a happy family, parents they can look up to and can trust to protect them. However, that's not always the case in real life, now is it? Sometimes, the presence of an abusive father takes away from the happiness, sometimes the presence of a crazy mother. Regardless of what I think, being a single mom isn't looked down upon anymore. A kid born out of a ONS isn't going to be villified for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:43 AM
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That's a good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:38 AM
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Okay, is this fear of paternity ingrained in every man?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 06:08 PM
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I agree. This is a very good counter. he is tearing apart his own family and forcing his children to be siblings with the result of his wandering dick for their entire lives. If he's present in their lives and cares for them without really bothering with the others, is there and tearing apart and forcing going on? He is creating a child that will always bear the stigma of being the result of an affair and never having a full time father The stigma is probably only relevant if the affair happens …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 06:05 PM
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I guess for some people, the "breaking of trust" is the bigger issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 05:54 PM
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A man getting you pregnant and then leaving you for the woman he cheated with I agree with you. This is on par in terms of the degree of cruelty. A man doesn't have to cheat for this to happen, he is just a loser. However, I do ask, wouldn't it be better if he stayed with pregnant you even after he cheated? The kid is his and yours, no doubt. The only problem being an issue of trust. Or worse, getting both of you pregnant. How's that worse? The other woman's pregnancy is her issue unless your gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 05:50 PM
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I agree with you that every other reason is stupid, irrelevant. There's only one legitimate reason and that's paternity fraud. Sadly, it'll get drowned by idiotic red answers like easier to find a partner for sex, ingrained biology and shaming blue answers like insecurity, sexism, misogyny etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 05:11 PM
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I mean, sure, immature men think like that. But what's your counter to Paternity Fraud?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 05:06 PM
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Single women are happier. By the 30s, most women would be mature, with careers for financial stability, friends and family for companionship, FWBs/long-term hookups for sexual needs etc. Bringing in somebody else into this, especially a man, would feel a bit restrictive. It feels like they lose a little bit of freedom because now, they have to take into consideration another person's feelings and thoughts as well as compared to before where only their decisions mattered. I think they go by, "If …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 11:59 AM
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slept with my ex within a month. Because he courted me, took me on dates, gave me a lot of attention. He seemed serious about me so I felt safe. Plus attraction. Seems cool. He dated you in a way you both liked and it's unfortunate that he's an ex now. Then I had this friend I liked since the day I met him Makes sense since you found him hotter than the other guy. He was cool but then kinda fell down the red pill rabbit hole. Once we were both single, I felt very unsafe with him. I find him hott…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 07:08 AM
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They don't go on awesome dates He shouldn't have gotten into a relationship with her. they don't have enthusiastic sex because she is making him wait. Even after waiting 3 months, the sex can be still enthusiastic. Resources can be money, status, a stable life. The guy didn't mention being rich or being high status. A stable life would require both of them to maintain. The only resource he's bringing for her is himself, his experiences, his love and others. If he didn't feel valued, he should've…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 02:07 AM
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I believe in: Bigger is better as long as the woman's anatomy allows and the man knows how to use it. There's a perfect size for every woman and as men, we can only hope that the woman we find will be happy with it. We don't have any control over it (extension techniques sound too risky imo), so no point in worrying about it. As for myself and the Bros in the small-pp-gang, develop a mindset to use whatever sextoys are available to you. It may not be the same as the real thing but it'll definite…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:59 PM
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And women will sleep with someone as soon as they are comfortable with the guy. It's not always about time but comfortability. And when guys find out that she took a lot of time to get comfortable with them but not the other guy, they are upset about it. It's understandable and add in to the fact that the other guy maybe hotter than them, you get the standard red idea - she isn't attracted to you as much as she was attracted to him. And some men get upset with that but don't see there can be cer…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 06:32 AM
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Oh. I think it's a perfectly plausible situation. I think the guy eventually broke up with her (although there was shaming involved, which is not justifiable imo). That way, they could both find people they are more compatible with. Fantasy or not, it helped me develop a mindset that'll help with, should i find myself in a situation like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:38 AM
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Actually, it does. There was a thread on relationship/sex subreddit (I don't remember clearly) where a guy brought a case where his girlfriend had anal with all her previous boyfriends but not him. Her reason was that it made her feel degraded. As expected, people shamed the shit out of that guy instead of actually advising him. It definitely happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:23 AM
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That's your choice. No harm there either.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:14 AM
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She desired the other or she wouldn't have slept with him. Which is true. She tolerate the presence of the other guy, most likely because he brings some resources to the table. Would you go out on multiple awesome dates, get into a healthy relationship and have enthusiastic sex with somebody you "tolerate"? That doesn't make any sense and what kind of resources are we talking here?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 01:57 AM
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Ah, that's perfectly fine. No shaming and leaving her to find somebody else - cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 01:53 AM
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Well, that took a turn.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 08:50 AM
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Except from the OOP's tone, it's implied that he's being kept in the doghouse as it relates to sex for the most part. She's unwilling to experiment much with him, she kept him waiting despite him clearly wanting more, and a faster progression of their relationship Personally, I'd have left. There is nothing wrong with enforcing your boundaries and having sexual needs. He is clearly not satisfied with her, he should leave. As for the rest of your comments, I agree. Those guys are simply jumping o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 04:25 AM
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Yes, I am generalizing but obviously everyone is different. So sure, in some instances that isn't true but mostly it is true. Hmmm. I'll be honest, I never thought about that scenario : where she has sex with relationship guy but is more into another. I'll take the L there. Yes, happiness changes month by month and daily. I don't use sex to measure how well my relationship is doing. It's not good sex ----> good relationship. I meant, in a good relationship -----> sex should be good as well. If n…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 04:12 AM
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she is changing her standards for you, Not necessarily. She's changing her own standards irrespective of the man she's dealing with. She couldn't be clearer that she isn't into you but just leads on as a backup plan. So, she's less into the guy she wants for life (or for a long time) compared to the guy she wanted once, is that what you're saying?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 03:54 AM
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She can have sex with you but be more into someone else. If she made me wait that long it just tells me she isn't into me. An assumption you made to preserve your happiness - I don't see any problem with it. However, can you agree that this may not be the case for all women? Tbh I never have trouble getting girls to do what I want if they are into me. 3somes, swinging, etc whatever if she is into you she will do it. Good for you, mate. It just sounds like this girl isn't that into this guy. The …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 07:22 PM
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(1) doesn't affect me. (2) and (3) - depends on how long and how good I feel about the time spent with her. (4) if the sex isn't upto my needs/standards, I'm not staying. Thats my stance, I'd never find myself in the OPs position. I would've left as soon as the proposal for sex to be infrequent vanilla only (or anything that doesn't fit my standards for a sex-life) You absolutely have right to believe in reasons you've mentioned earlier (such as "people change"). It is also obvious that most use…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 06:28 PM
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Was explained several times, at this point, no sense to repeat. By yourself in our conversation or other people in the replies to post? Stance is "how I feel", point comes with arguments. Hmmm, agreed. The very facts dude complained about. She slept with him only after 3 months, kissing him only after 1 month. She slept with another guy within seconds. vs She has been having sex with him for all this time (way more than 1 night of threesome) She has been providing with companionship, intimacy et…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 06:15 PM
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"She doesn't care about him" And that's the conclusion borne from the fact that she didn't sleep with him in 3 months but slept with the other guy within seconds. What about all this time in their relationship where she slept with him and him only whereas the threesome-guy got with her once? Whom does she care more about? Granted, I do agree that the original poster is somewhat sexually dissatisfied (irrespective of how long she took to sleep with him). Yours is somewhere between "no no, but she…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 06:05 PM
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He (very) likely is. How so? That is your stance, not point. How are those different? It is essentially saying "ignore every fact at hand, since she might marry you, she must be very attracted". Not really, I'm saying consider every fact at hand including how she responds to you in a sexual sense. She has to be attracted to you (considering she's an honourable woman) to marry you. Then again, no one's jumping into marriage in the first few dates, there's a phase for bf/gf where the man can judge…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 05:49 PM
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Well, you are judging her on the basis of "how she sees you". You're judging her as not fit for dating, which is perfectly fine - to each their own. My point is that there's flaws in the red side of "waiting-for-sex" debate, just like in the blue side. The flaw, according to me, is assuming that a woman is less attracted to the guy she wants for the rest of her life (hopefully) and makes him wait because of it. That doesn't make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 04:04 PM
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Haven't your standards changed at all from when you were a teenager to now when you're an adult (I'm assuming you're a grownup guy)? I never said to accept something that hurts you but things that don't. And end up divorced and/or raising up some other guy's kids. This is real problem and there are many ways to safeguard against that. It's better to have a mentality to see things from a different perspective and understand while at the same time, not budging on your personal boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 03:59 PM
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Nope. Just like women, men want to have sex too. The problem arises when people, regardless of gender, are unable to accept a fundamental right of humanity - freedom of choice. As for your points, the guys who want to have casual sex are probably not the same ones claiming that it lowers a woman's value. I think it is widely known that women's sex drive tends to be lower than males and women tend to want relationships- so it seems like all the guys on here want something that doesn't exist. Not …
/r/AllPillDebate08/08/22 09:28 AM
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lot of the guys posting here on these kind of subreddits feel like they are entitled to our bodies or something. How were you able to tell? Did they say that women should have sex with them? They act like it's some kind of crime for us to want an attractive partner. Okay, I'll give you that one. I don't know why people shit of women for having high standards. got a message for the incels reading this: The world owes you NOTHING. Women owe you NOTHING. This is a world where, like it or not incels…
/r/AllPillDebate08/08/22 09:21 AM
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There's at least one person she didn't make wait. If I'm not that guy for a girl, she's the wrong girl I agree, for you, that's a personal boundary. No harm, no foul. there will be some other girl who both has that characteristic and will fuck so it is what it is That's also true and I hope you find a girl like that. Whatever show we happen to watch in common That could lead to endless conversations. whatever nonsense people make up about convincing themselves of the specialness of others, It's …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 09:12 AM
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That's perfectly acceptable, to enforce your boundaries. However, I wouldn't recommend judging a woman solely on "waiting-for-sex". Personally, if I'm enjoying the dates and there's clear signs of physical attraction, I wouldn't mind the "wait". There are positive reasons for women making you wait and I wouldn't wanna miss out on somebody awesome because of it. Again, to each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 09:02 AM
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My previous comment explains it. It's true that there's a lot of fakers out there. Sure, some men probably wouldn't like that they are seen as a faker even if they aren't. But I guess they have to just accept it as the way it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 08:00 AM
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That's true. Isn't that why the prevailing advice for women is to wait to weed out the fakers? While I don't like being grouped in with the fakers at first, I understand the reasoning behind and accept it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 07:55 AM
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Not really. To be honest, if this had happened to me, I wouldn't have made a post about it. Probably because I'll just rationalize it with some stupid reason and move on. Maybe she is not that attracted to him. Maybe she found the threesome way more exciting than sex with just this guy (which makes perfect sense), maybe she didn't trust him that much (at the time). OR Maybe her standards for sex has changed. Maybe her preferences changed. Maybe she is more prudish now. Maybe she "values" this gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 07:51 AM
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Okay, it's like this. Woman sleeps with man on first date, man thinks she does this with everyone (no way to prove), he dumps her. Woman takes 3 months to finally sleep with him (same guy), man thinks she waits for everybody (no way to prove), he accepts her. My question to you is "do you want to get with that guy who judges women like that?" My question to that guy is "how are you so sure she waited to sleep with everybody else?". Ofcourse, you can't answer the second question, that's just some…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 06:47 AM
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I think that's because of the gender differences. Men pursue women so if a guy goes after a supermodel, he'll just be rejected by her. But for women, no matter how "delusional" or "unrealistic" their standards are, there will always be a number of guys willing to prove that he fits that standard ( the so-called "real men"). In way, men's unrealistic standards usually don't amount to nothing but for women, they have a much higher chance of finding a partner that fits the standards. Just like my c…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 05:12 PM
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Atleast they are honest. Now you can just ignore them when people say women don't care about your height.
/r/AllPillDebate06/08/22 07:11 AM
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Oh, she overcame that, niiiiiice. It's all upto the individual to decide whether to stay with a person who treats them right or to love on from somebody who doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 06:59 AM
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Eh...I'd think it was cuz im bad in bed but they still wanted to hook up without strings after Oh, well then it's definitely not your performance, I guess. I just think for some men the idea of the girl wears off when she sleeps with them too soon kinda like "oh does she do that with everybody?" Well, do you want to get together with those men who are quick to judge you like that? And also, why don't these men ever think about the scenario where a woman slept with everybody within the 3rd date b…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 06:57 AM
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I don't think the "MadeMeSmile" subreddit is ever going to be poisonous. Ideologies can be healthy but communities are never healthy or not poisonous. True. I do believe that communities can be healthy, no guarantee on whether they would be though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 04:11 AM
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men take me super seriously and court me and look at me like I'm some sort of princess only to lose interest after I give it up before the talk. I don't understand how a guy would do all this just to get in bed with you. I also believe that there's a possibility that he didn't find the sex with you that good or maybe he felt that you guys were sexually incompatible. Ofcourse, a lengthy conversation based on that would probably make you feel less used, I guess. that friend of mine wanted to be wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 04:07 AM
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the fact they feel like they can do it to me pisses me off Well, try to train your mind so you won't get pissed off at such useless things. Barely any in between, either way it makes me take women less seriously as a whole. Ooff... there's definitely good ones among them. Now finding them is a whole another thing. Guys shouldn’t pussy-pedastalize anyways True... inversely women shouldn’t think the world should fall to its knees for a pretty face, fat ass and a vagina. Why not? Don't they have th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:58 AM
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My comment was just my perspective. I heard about the redpill, I went to the subreddit, found certain "truths" that made sense to me and made me a better person. However, I soon realised that there was too much hate and negativity in there that I stopped looking there. Ofcourse, I don't hate it (and that's probably because I'm not the gender redpillers want to get with) and I can see why that specific gender might have a problem with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:50 AM
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It's not "ugly guys and attractive guys". It's more like "conventionally attractive and conventionally unattractive(but still attractive to her because of certain features/humor/personality etc)" Between these two groups, yeah, the woman's behaviour is probably different. It's just something that we just have to accept as it is and shouldn't blame women for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 06:23 PM
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of men want their women to have low body count, we can't sleep with every guy that takes us out 3x. I'm sure some do. Many adopt the stance of "do what makes you happy". Yes there was a guy waiting for me to make plans and I never did lol. We went no where. Liked him a lot too. Oh well it's for the best I was like, "ah, what else can you do but to let it go" He did coke and i can't go down that road again. And then this. Uff....I guess I'm in the no-drugs team, so probably won't understand. This…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 06:13 PM
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you’re actually the saviour of this sub Purplepillers, acknowledge me!! 90% of fights and problems could be solved by adopting this stance Very true.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 06:02 PM
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I get men trying to bang me 24/7 so most women are looking for a real connection and you don't really know someone in a few dates. Not at all. Understandable. How many dates is that for you personally? I only wait for guys to initiate plans if i have no money because it would be weird for me to make plans and expect him to pay. It'd be really funny and sad at the same time if both of you were waiting for the other to make plans and invite you out. In the past, it has been me subconsciously pursu…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 05:15 PM
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Aww, thanks man, I'm glad I was part of something you enjoyed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 05:03 PM
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Eh, not really. It's probably because of all the negativity, shaming and at times, hostility too. There's positive things about redpill, ones you can use to make your mindset healthier but there's definitely poison in there as well. When the poison dominates more than the positive, people start hating it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 04:16 PM
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I believe in the idea that women are the pursued and men are the pursuers. Going by that dynamic, if a man wants to be in a relationship, one woman (among the many he pursues) has to say yes. If a woman wants to be in a relationship, she has to say yes to one guy (among the many who pursue her). In both cases, the final decision lies with the woman. Women have plenty of men to sleep with And I'm sure some of them would want more. some women don’t have options and take what they can get. That is …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 04:06 PM
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Of course it is, never denied it. Don’t mistake my questioning of womens judgement for their societal placement, they mostly control the dating game. Agreed. What you don’t get is that I hold women to the standard they set for men. Isn’t that true equality in a broad scope? It would depend on the situation for me, the standards I set for genders. Because arrogance is a pet peeve of mine, and to see it so widespread across how women date, perceive themselves and us men aggravates me . Oof bud, yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:58 PM
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I'm pretty sure physical abuse is taken as a crime. Emotional abuse is a different case though, probably because you can't show it or quantify it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:44 PM
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Maybe I’ve been on social media too much, but literally every time I turn it on, You probably are... “we fuck who we want, you men fuck what you can” Which is true in a way. I’ll see them sharing/reposting some subliminal tweets/Instagram posts about they want/currently fuck, They are honest, that's cool. MY problem is that women are the most vocal complainers when it comes to dating, yet claim they make all the rules, How's it your problem? Don't waste your mental energy on people's opinions th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 01:15 PM
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Are you, by chance, one of the "Men should make plans for all the dates and pay for it. He should give me attention and expect nothing from me" type of women? This is not meant to be offensive, I'm just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 05:15 AM
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I think it stems from the truth that women are the selectors, the ones with whom the final decision rest since they are the pursued. Also the idea that women are intuitive and can smell "the fake nice guy" from a mile away. Additionally, they have so many options that they can easily choose a better man. I agree that blaming women for it is useless and encouraging them to spot red flags earlier is much better. Abusive and manipulative people should be held accountable but they could ask, "if bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 04:55 AM
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Dude, you're going berserk. How long did it take you get all this? .....damn....
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 04:02 AM
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even if a man cares, he'll never know the whole truth It's true and eventually, he'll be like "Why do I care? It's pointless and just makes me sad". Being comfortable with dishonesty is is disheartening. Well, the dishonesty here isn't going to affect anybody in a bad way, that's why it's okay to be comfortable with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 02:09 AM
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Isn't that, in a way, better ? If a guy doesn't care (because he'll never know the entire history) and moves on. If a guy judges the woman based on qualities other than sexual history (which he can never prove as the truth, so he doesn't judge on that).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 01:54 AM
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Assume all women are sexually very experienced and have a mindset to judge her based on her personality. That way, whether they say the truth or not, it doesnt matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 08:59 AM
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Eh....A man can be a god and still be rejected. Accept it and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 04:37 AM
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she's never going to be satisfied with just you in the long terms A virgin can feel the same way too. She could be like, "wonder what's out there?". Doesn't matter, any woman regardless of count can feel that she is unsatisfied with a guy. For me, it's stupid because I look at sexual experience rather than no. of partners. A woman who has weekly group sex with 3 men (count : 3) is way more "ran through" than a woman who had 20 ONS (count : 20). I'd say men should, in the end, throw out sexual-ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:29 PM
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They should be more honest. That way, men who don't have those qualities won't get settled for. A woman has the right to choose whatever features they want in their partner.
/r/AllPillDebate31/07/22 09:20 AM
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Hell yeah, whatever it takes to have peace of mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:54 AM
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The Madonna-Whore complex is for losers. Who cares what they think?
/r/ExRedPill31/07/22 01:37 AM
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If the condom breaks and you can’t afford plan b there’s going to an issue. If I get pregnant, will you have abortion money? Whoa, now those are really good points. Didn't think of that. a man that has his finances together is all around more attractive to me. A broke lifestyle is a turn off. A gender neutral condition. Of course there’s also that thought in the back of my head that it could possibly turn into something more but I never get my hopes up. We both know what the deal is Risky busine…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:33 AM
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Maybe looks wise but that’s about it. I’m talking about going from extremely hot to attractive/good looking. That's probably one of the issues. There's the idea that the more attractive the man, more sexual the woman acts toward him (which I actually agree with and don't see an issue, if that's the truth). That's what leads to the entire "hookup material/husband material" discussion. I won’t sleep with a broke man. I don’t care how hot he is. Why is "being broke" a dealbreaker in a hookup? As lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 04:29 PM
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This person gets it. It's better to assume it's a huge number (and learn that it's the exact number or lower) than assume it's low and find out it's much higher. Ofcourse, once a person realises that the number is so stupid, they throw out the idea altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:21 PM
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Ofcourse, it's just the effect of the way man-woman sexual interactions work. Men pursue and women choose and because of that (now this only applies to late-bloomer men), most women would have a lot of sexual experience. Most men have already done it but specifically, for late-bloomer men, they gotta accept that: 1. It's not that hard for women to "slut it up" 2. Women have and know that they have a lot of options for sexual experience. 3. Sex is awesome, so why wouldn't they go for it? 4. The i…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:44 PM
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Since you mentioned that if you're going for a hookup off the app, you'll be going for "the best of the best" and when you meet someone otherwise, it's "different", he's assuming that your hookup guys will be much much better than your boyfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 04:36 AM
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Ah, true...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 03:25 PM
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Maybe they always liked to flaunt their curves (breasts, butt, hip). Plunging V-necks leave nothing for imagination. But for some stupid reason, somewhere along people went, "Nope. Only sluts do that" and started the shaming. Now, they're free, they don't care and hey, (Disclaimer: Beauty is subjective) who doesn't love the sight of a beautiful woman flaunting her curves? Personally, I want to be in a world where men get to flaunt their pecs, muscles and abs without being topless (formal or info…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 03:24 PM
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Uh.. I'm sorry, I don't get it. What gets balanced out?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 03:15 PM
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Prffff....Single women are happier. "BetaBux" going extinct will have no effect on a woman's happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:59 AM
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It's dating, people have the right to be as shallow as they can be. If they complain, just ignore them. If they shame people for not being up to their ideal, laugh in their face and move on. Fuck what they think. Yeah, women have high standards. Accept it and move on. No use arguing about it. If they believe that a 6'5" guy makes them feel special in a way the 5'9" guy can't, then why are we trying to shame them for it? It makes them happy, why try to change it?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:54 AM
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At the moment, physically, I'm not a catch - thin with a little belly, not that strong, face with acne scars - I promised myself I wouldn't date until I've fixed them all and I'm working for it. Currently in an average job, working towards my dream job. Personality wise, I can hold my own. I'm cheerful, can control my negative emotions pretty well, have strict boundaries and no more slut-shaming (thank you reddit) - my culture is pretty strong on that, always manage to keep a positive vibe, have…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:03 AM
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if it doesn’t apply let it fly Thank you for this..Adding to my lexicon.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:50 AM
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Do you get irritated when they say "the bar is on the floor for men"? Do you feel uneasiness? if you do, just learn to ignore that. As long as you're not the man they are in a relationship with or interested in, this statement doesn't apply to you. What their standards are, how they are treated, what kind of relationship they have - these are all their choice, they're free to do it and they're grown up enough to take responsibility for it. You just make sure you dont add any negativity to their …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:21 AM
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To be honest, nothing really. I think guys (here or any ody who feels like complaining) should accept that they could literally be god and still not be good enough for women, that finding love isn't supposed to be fair. That's okay, nothing wrong with it, enjoy other parts of your life and take it as simply an effect of freedom of choice. Find anything that makes you happy, no matter what it is, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else and do it. Socialize, I know it's tough but take your baby ste…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:07 AM
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Jealousy does affect men's dating lives, maybe not in ways you said. You got to be a really rare specimen of you never felt jealous towards a guy who your crush asked out. That's quite natural and healthy men accept it as "it wasn't meant to be" or her freedom of choice. Unhealthy men either complain and start blaming her or more dangerously, decide to physically hurt the guy and the girl. A man's dating troubles exist because he is the pursuer. The qualities needed for that, like confidence, st…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 02:29 AM
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If the man a woman marries is less physically attractive than her exes/hookups/FWBs, some men believe that she's settling. I don't see any problems, not all men are that physically attractive and it's okay. It's upto the man to decide whether to stay with her or not, if his needs are satisfied, if he's happy. If yes, then who cares if she settles, that's her problem. Men who are not conventionally attractive know this is just how it is and prioritise their happiness and move on. No complaints, n…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 07:26 AM
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Acting as if lifelong loneliness and celibacy is some typical never-ending condition that the average man just has to accept is delusional It's not delusional, it's just life. Accepting that even at your best, you're still not upto a woman's standards and you'll keep working on being happy regardless is much better than constantly worrying what's wrong with him and complaining about it. Poor, out of shape, or nerdy women are not only holding out for top tier men. But they have standards too, don…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:15 AM
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I don't think it's confirmation bias to admit that a good looking guy won't struggle as much as a not-so-good looking guy though. That's just a case of "it is what it is" and sure, complaining about the unfairness is useless and pathetic. second hand field reports? Do you think I'm part of the redpill or something? Cause that's where I see "field reports" used in the dating scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 05:54 AM
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men here lean so heavily on looks and insist personality doesn’t matter. I think that's because a good looking guy with a bad personality would still be better off in casual sex/dating than an ugly guy with a great personality (that's speaking from observed personal experience, so take it with a grain of salt) If they pretend that women only care about being with a hot guy — you can do little about your looks — and that women “don’t care about personality” — which you can do something about — it…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 02:54 AM
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I'm a big believer of women only dating guys they're actually attracted to instead of prostituting themselves and trying to pass it off as "love". I'm giving this an UP. That plain looking dude is better off alone forever than with someone whose really only settling for him. Exactly the idea I always put out there. guys that want women to give guys they're not attracted to "a chance" (typically older generations and the incels), Pathetic. guys like us who ain't down with that shit. Hell yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 02:46 AM
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I’m immediately attracted to strangers all the time, that doesn’t mean I would have sex with them. I know there are women who have ONSs when they are drunk but the vast majority of casual sex women have is with a FWB or a fuck buddy. As you can see in the threads about this. So not with strangers. Good for you and agreed on all points. I would say it’s likely I’m in the vast majority here, there are a lot of girls that will make out with random guys they meet while out but very few that would sl…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 02:08 PM
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I don’t know why Ryan Reynolds and Ryan Gosling are always held up as some amazing perfect men when they’re very generic looking white guys. I just used a typical example, nothing deep there. visual attraction - seeing a man and thinking he is stunning and being immediately being attracted - is enviable and what men really want from women Well, it's true. I don't see anything wrong with this. What man would say no to this? It's one of the things a man wants from a woman. belief that visual attra…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 12:43 PM
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You’re mis interpreting and twisting what she’s saying. This has nothing to do with “fairness” and “being special” or being “hot enough” Check her initial comment, she said that only the hottest men can illicit the kind of reaction from women that men feel for attractive women (which I agree with). It is very clear that the men here don’t interact with women at all outside of this subreddit Ah yes, the classic. Never fails to amaze or give me a chuckle everytime I see it. female sexuality is 100…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 07:47 AM
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There are a lot of things about men that are hard for women to accept. But we do it. I'm curious. Can you give me a few things like that? I also don’t understand why some men desperately want women to be men and think/act like them. Do they feel like they would then understand women and finally get laid? You said it yourself, didnt you? That the hottest men will be able to illicit a response from women that normal men can't. (Some?) men assume that that's how a woman's genuine attraction works a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 02:03 AM
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Only the hottest men will illicit the type of response in women that men typically have for any attractive woman. I think some guys just have a hard time accepting this. I get why but there's really no other way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 01:10 AM
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"prove my worth" while she gets to sit on her throne (metaphorically speaking) with all the 100's of "peasants" and "scrotes" (women's words, not mine) You took this from FDS, didnt you? She can swat me aside at any moment for another of the 100's of men. This is something every man accepts when it comes to dating. I don't enjoy the nonsense around dates, I feel like it's a total waste of time. I feel like dates is where I have to act like a dancing monkey Ooh...man. ah, well. What works for one…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 01:22 PM
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For me, a loving relationship is the prize and I intend to work with a woman as equals to get there. If a woman is too "easy" (reality - she may just really like him) he may assume that she is not a hard-earned prize. Do you really wanna be with a guy who feels that way about you, who took your interest in him as "too easy"? Because they didn't seem to understand how I saw value in them without making them arbitrarily 'prove themselves'. That's their fault, right? Their insecurities? Why are you…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 05:54 AM
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Whoa...dude, gotta change that up, my brother. You're just setting yourself up for disappointments. Enjoy your date's, why do something you don't enjoy just because it could get better, the probability for which is really really low. I'll never understand they way you date so there's really no point in us talking anymore. Hope you change your ways and have a great life ahead.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 03:42 AM
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So, you find dates stressful and annoying? Dude, no wonder you feel like you lost something. Only go on dates you enjoy and this issue won't come up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 02:10 AM
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In your personal case, did you like the girl? Did you enjoy the date? Because if you did enjoy the dates with her, then is it really a loss of money for you? Expecting sex because you paid is not cool, man. Personally, I'd pay for the first date (and I rationalize it as payment for me never having to go through periods every month). From the second date onwards, if she doesn't even offer to pay, well... that'll be probably be the last.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:30 AM
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Isn't this always how the story goes when the husband finds his wife's sextape and sees how enthusiastic she used to be? I honestly don't know what's the solution at that point. Ah, the troubles of late bloomers....
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:36 AM
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Convincing a woman that you're worthy of her attention is something you have to do when the woman is part of FDS. A simple first date will get those women to filter out themselves. Unless the entire population of men stop pursuing women as a whole, this is just how dating works. Women are the pursued and the men are the pursuers. You have to put in effort to show her that you value more than her vagina. Ofcourse, if you don't find her that compatible, just stop dating her and move on. Ofcourse, …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 07:48 PM
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So many plain looking guys, even though they've been married and have kids, spend their entire lives blissfully unaware that they've never experienced what REAL attraction is like. This is probably true. He'll never know and like you said, blissfully unaware. He can't be sad about something he doesn't know exists, right? There aren't enough sexually attractive guys to go around, I don't think sexual attraction is solely dependent on looks. However, there's an upper limit for most men. so if a wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 07:20 PM
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Just to be clear, I'm a guy. And if Kate Upton turned down Jake Gyllenhaal, would you have this issue? Maybe to her, he isn't up there. Who cares? If she rejects him, that's good. He can find a woman who finds him attractive and she can find a guy who is attractive enough for her. Both are happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 07:14 PM
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he’s just not AS attractive as the men who usually get No Strings Attached with minimal effort. Okay. That doesn't really matter though. If he isn't as attractive as her casual options, then she shouldn't settle. women feel they shouldn’t lower their standards one decimal point even if it meant they still end up with Jake Gyllenhaal instead of Henry Cavil No women shouldn't lower their standards ever, even if it meant they'd end up single. Do you want them to lower their standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 06:29 PM
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and getting pumped and dumped by a player does? Probably happier getting P&Ded by an attractive guy (it's just a couple of times) than settling for an unattractive guy (for a lifetime). but don’t women find casual sex worthless? see how none of that makes sense? Nah, I think that's just the opinion of some women. Lots of women like casual sex. Just go to any women-centric subreddit and search for "hoe phase", you'll see. either lower your standards until you’re in your 30’s or never touch a woma…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:34 PM
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im 5’7 so i’m gonna be settled for regardless lol Nah, brah. Don't think like that. instead of going for the obvious player who’s a 9, whats so bad about the guy who’s a 7 that you’ve been friends with for a year Because it won't make her happy. the whole concept of hypergamy is men SETTLING. women makes men settle in dating constantly. equality, right? No way. It's a choice men make. Nobody makes men settle. Men and women settle (which I hope stops one day) by their own choice. , i truly don’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:46 PM
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Yeah. Late bloomers, including me, probably won't know what genuine desire looks like and could mistakenly get together with somebody who's settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:56 PM
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take the risk of getting played with the hot guy who’s known to get a bunch of female attention Well, yeah. Maybe women believe that this guy is the one for them. Even if they are burnt by this guy, atleast they have good memories with him, both in and outside the bedroom. giving the guy who isn’t as attractive but have more in common outside of the physical a chance and then want us to feel empathy Nope. Never. A woman should never settle on what's attractive to her, physical or otherwise. You …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:54 PM
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I think the issue of AFBB is only prevalent for men who are late bloomers. And I get it, it's hard to overcome the jealousy we feel for the "hotter" guys that women chase when they are younger. Can you really blame the women for going after hot guys? But that's one way we mature, to get over that jealousy and focus only on our lives. The best way to not feel like a BB is to live your best and happiest life, to enforce your boundaries and stay true to your morals.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:12 AM
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How's it a problem? Any man who tries to date is consenting to the sadness that may be caused by rejection. That's just something men have to accustom to and move on. Getting to date somebody is a privilege, not a right. Whether the people here deny it or not, doesn't make it any less of a truth that women have the advantage in dating. Don't try to convince people to change their idealogies, especially when it's not actively hurting anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 04:40 AM
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6-9/10 guy could struggle to get the girl he wants. A 4-6/10 woman probably has it easier when it comes to getting a 7-10 guy that she wants. It's not a problem, that's just life. Accept it and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 02:40 AM
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That's just being a woman who makes use of her advantage in all its glory...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 04:44 AM
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FDS is pretty rad though. I used to disturbed by the fact that I could be dating an FDSer. All that went away when they mentioned that they won't accept anything less than dinner date at a mid-to-high tier restaurant. Mention a simple date catering to both yours and your date's interests and the FDSers will filter themselves out. I don't know why some guys are so angry about them. If their standards get them what they want and helps them avoid us all (since we don't want to get with them either)…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 04:38 AM
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the first guy to approach me and ask me out to dinner I will say yes to If it's not dinner, then you'll reject him. Is that how it is?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 04:20 AM
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Cool. Glad I could help.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:30 AM
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You didn't answer the question, my guy...or do you finally realised how n-count is stupid and so inconsequential.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:16 AM
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What I mean is that I have had women attracted to me before that I wouldn't want to pursue a relationship with because we were incompatible in other ways That's quite natural. I think sexual attraction is needed, obviously, but it's not enough to get me saying "okay, go!" to a relationship Ofcourse. I never alluded it to be enough, only that all else given, who would you choose? A woman who's sexually attracted to you or a woman who isn't. Whereas the man has to find women who are both into him …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:13 AM
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there are a lot of relationships that develop sexual attraction afterwards, not as a first step A total risk in my opinion and I think that's what "demisexuals" are known for. I don't agree that pure lust necessarily has to come first. Cool. Let's just say that our opinions are different regarding this. No need of trying to change the other. A woman who's sexually attracted to me isn't always the ideal makings of a relationship. As compared to a woman who isn't sexually attracted? You actually b…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:12 AM
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Who is it going to be easier for you to have sex with and have a relationship with you? A woman who's sexually attracted to you and wants you. Or a woman who's unsure of what she feels for you and gradually develops the attraction for you. A woman who actively wants to be with you and spend time with you vs a woman who wants to "see where it goes". This is why women say we're all led by our dicks. Ugh...as cringe as some of those red pill delusions. Women have also said that sexual attraction is…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:03 PM
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You could have just searched in reddit and countless posts would appear with the same topic. In each of them, it's the same. The men say women have the advantage, women say they don't. Again and again... It's a never ending debate and I personally feel like I'm in a time loop where the same question and the same answers are being given.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 12:04 PM
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The women in my social circle who absolutely love tinder and actually do that (meet men on tinder and have sex with them right off the bat instead of planning several dates before) have no self preservation and generally problems with drugs or a history of unable to keep long relationships. Do you run in more conservative circles? Maybe women who crave drugs probably enjoy the thrill of "stranger dicks". I don't personally know the women who commented like that but I don't think you need to be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 08:58 AM
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I think women are gatekeepers to both since they are "the pursued" and the men are "the pursuers" in both cases...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:27 AM
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Okay...Let me ask you this... In your eyes, a woman who had 20 ONS with 20 different men (n-count = 20) is "sluttier" than a woman who had groupsex with her 3 male FWBs (n-count = 3)..is that how it is?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 03:46 AM
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Same man, same....At this point, I think they are just karma-farming or some shit...They know this will get a lot of comments and upvotes, so they keep posting it....
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:32 AM
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Wouldn't it be better if we swap "n-count" with "sexual experience"? Big difference there....
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:26 AM
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But if you think women view Tinder as a delicious dick buffet and they want to suck all of it off, you're projecting. There's a lot of replies in women-centric subreddits which go like this, "I was feeling down, so I got on Tinder and got laid that night". I wish I saved those comments, damn it...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:15 AM
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I think his point is that in the case of a woman, sexual attraction is already there, so out of all the people wanting to bang, some of them will be interested in more. In the case of a man, as he points out, the first step of sexual attraction is not there, making it logically harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:10 AM
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This is like the scene in Dr.Strange where he puts the main villain in a time-loop asking the same thing over and over again until the villain gets frustrated and agrees to Dr.Strange. My comment, as always will be, is to believe whatever you want to believe as long as you don't hurt another.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:03 AM
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a family or a strong father is a better option as a authority to help choose valuable partners for daughters. In an ideal world, they could help. However, trust me, no matter how much you say this is better, it isn't. I live in a patriarchal country, the downsides are far too cruel for any upsides to even matter. You should be able to summarise that something must be terribly wrong about patriarchy that I, a guy who has everything to gain from it, is vehemently against it. Would you say that fam…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:15 AM
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Bruh...."Patriarchy used to help"??? I'm borderline-incel with regards to my sexual experience and I still would say that patriarchy is a horrible thing (even though I could benefit from it). If you say that, you just haven't seen women suffer from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:04 AM
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This topic has been beaten to death (like some pps out there) and there are numerous posts right here in PPD based on this. Some women accept that it's easier for them, some don't. It doesn't really matter, that's their lives. I believe that dating is easier for them, especially OLD. With that assumption, I made the decision to never try OLD for the sake of my mental health and me not giving OLD a try isn't going to hurt them in anyway. If it makes you save your mental health, believe whatever y…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:57 AM
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I believe that "Bigger is better if the woman's anatomy allows it and he knows how to use it" There's really no point in having that insecurity though. That's just bad for mental health and there's no solution to it. Many women (on women-centric and relationship-centric subreddits) have admitted that they love the feeling of fullness. I actually had a video saved from reddit that showed the same woman's reaction to a bigger and a smaller one (the moans were pretty clear in that one). That's why …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 10:24 AM
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People who prioritize niceness come across as having no boundaries Whoa.....whoa..."comes across" or "you assume"? I don't see anything wrong with prioritising being good to other people (at appropriate times obviously) And also, being nice doesn't mean that's the only thing a guy can have. It's just one trait among many. Niceness isn't a personality Agreed. I'm unsure whether niceness should be a part of personality or a part of morality.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:31 AM
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We don’t like “nice guys” cause you actually aren’t nice. Even if the case is that women don't like the genuinely nice ones, it still isn't a reason to be not nice. If being a nice guy is what makes a man happy even if women don't like it, he should stay true to himself. Atleast that's what I live by - do what makes you happy without hurting another.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 02:35 AM
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That women have this deep-seated urge to keep unattractive men unattractive and only want "naturals" so their children will have the best genes. Even if this is true, one shouldn't really complain about it. There's no point. It's just personal preference, freedom of choice and ultimately, natural selection at work there.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 02:31 AM
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Personally, if I'm not even a "Bob", I'd remain single for life. I can either be whiny/bitch about it/complain and live miserably or accept it as it is and move to better things that don't involve romantic relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 04:31 PM
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It's a much better, less derogatory, "all women are sexually experienced". It's actually true and also, makes all the "N-count" discussions irrelevant as well. It works on many levels and gives a solution to many PPD threads.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 03:02 AM
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Not really. I didn't say they are same or interchangeable. I assume they all have a healthy, normal sex life ("slutty"/"whorish" by some redditors' standards) and judge them based on their outlook on life, who they are, how they present themselves etc (which makes them unique). I'm sorry but in my previous comment, I said that I removed any slut-shaming tendencies. Isn't that good? And wouldn't a girl dream of a guy who doesn't judge her for her past (along with other qualities, obviously)?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 02:23 AM
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Having too high standards results in resentment as much as not having enough. Maybe maybe not. Imy pretty sure women are happier to be single because no man is good enough rather than be miserable by lowering her standards. You claim everyone should have extremely high standards but you probably say that to mean that people shouldn’t drop their standards too low. I'm claiming that people should be free to have standards as high as they want them to be (or as low as they want it to be which I hop…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 01:42 AM
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What makes you think that a woman who expects their partner to be perfect during the initial stages is going to be happy if he ever deviates from that during the relationship? Maybe to those men, it's normal to be "perfect" whatever that is in her eyes. Expecting a literal god who never falters is truly unrealistic. But I don't think women will leave you that easy if you were the one to meet her extremely high standards (because you'd be really rare + compatibility/chemistry is hard to find). Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 01:17 AM
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A simple statement on its own. But it lead to a very interesting thought process. If all women are "sluts" (I use the word simply as a short for sexuall experienced, not in a derogatory meaning), what's the point of "slut"-shaming? What's the point of shaming one person for being something that's natural, normal and everybody is? Seems like a waste of time and unnecessary negativity. (There's other thought processes that added up to it) And voila!! Slut-shaming out, positive vibes in... AWALT is…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 12:41 AM
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If it's unrealistic, then the guy she finds will be really rare and one of a kind. I believe the guy will be desired the way he deserves to be. The moment you become a human or encounter any kind of adversity, she’s no longer going to be as attracted to you because she thinks she deserves better. Seems like you have a different kind of "unrealistic standards" in your mind, care to list them? I was thinking more on the lines of "extremely handsome, super confident, rich (enough)" in more simpler …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 12:33 AM
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Things don't necessarily have to cause harm to be bad or to be a harmful statement. Oho.....That's a new perspective. I'm gonna have to think about that. yes, I agree that AWALT can be used in positive senses. But I disagree that it is not an inherently harmful statement. Alright. Seems like half of my intention is fulfilled. I'm just gonna have to accept that the statement may be inherently harmful indeed. I say 'may be' because I'll be back after some more thinking. You raise really good point…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 12:27 AM
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Wait..those are two simple words. I don't have any interpretation of them other than their simpler meanings.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 12:19 AM
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"All Women” Okay….sounds rather depersonalized and inaccurate…. I agree on that. Ooo, I bet it’s something positive, right?! Just like relationships are supposed to be. We should apply this attitude to all other people and relationships in our lives! All parents are like that! All black people are like that! All colleagues are like that! If believing it helps the person and the people around him/her to lead happier, more positive lives without hurting anyone, then I don't see the issue with it. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 04:41 PM
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Believing that all women are awesome and allowing that to influence your behaviour around them will probably result in harm eventually, either because the woman in question will prove herself unworthy of that and fall short, or because you will set yourself up for a disappointment and be harmed by some woman. I'll give you this one. I did say treat them like they are awesome until they prove otherwise. However, I agree with you that it would set me up for hurt and disappointments more. Treating …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 04:34 PM
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Whoa...whoa..that's a leap. I fail to see how AWALT would lead to anything you said. Everything you said makes it worse for a man and his partners. If I believe that "all women are beautiful" and treat every woman as equals, both personally and professionally (effectively eliminating pretty privilege), isn't that a good thing? If I believe that "all women are sexually experienced" and treat every woman with respect regardless of their colourful sexual pasts (because everyone has them, eliminatin…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 04:19 PM
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is a mistaken generalization an inherently bad thing if it is used as positive motivation for improvement by the observer of it without causing any sorts of harm to anyone else. Thanks for the much better version of my statement. I gave you an example (moving up in a company) where racism could be used in a positive way. But that doesn't mean that the impetus behind the improvement I agree with you on the racism example. I gave counterpoints about the two AWALT statements in my previous comment.…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 04:12 PM
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How does it make a person dead inside? An AWALT statement helped me remove all thoughts of slut-shaming. Wouldn't you say that's a good thing, for any form of relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 03:57 PM
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What about men who have been mistreated by women? I'll bet that it hurts to hear someone talk over them about how "no, literally every woman is awesome!" and brush aside their concerns. See now here, I'm using the AWALT statement to "talk over someone's experiences" whereby I'm hurting them as you said. This would stand against my original statement where AWALT statements would only be used if it doesn't hurt anybody. What if by believing that "all women are awesome", the only thing I do is "tre…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 03:53 PM
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Aah...finance. I'm in IT industry...logging off at 5 seems like a dream to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 02:16 PM
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Both of these things are based upon the faulty assumption that members of a given group are all alike A faulty assumption, true. But such an assumption (not the ones I mentioned because it could lead to hurt) that doesn't hurt anybody and only benefits the person who made the assumption. But the fact is that AWALT is almost always used in a sexist way. Then we could say "the way AWALT is used" is wrong. A statement that generalises an entire gender, which is used only for the gain of the person …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 08:22 AM
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The point is that even if your outcomes are good, the means used to achieve them can be inherently bad Agreed. I'm not sure I need to explain why internal racist rage is a bad thing. You don't have to. However, I'd ask, is AWALT as bad as racism is? I don't think those are even comparable. There's no way racism can be a good thing, AWALT can. "all women are beautiful" and "all women are awesome" are statements that fit with AWALT.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 05:43 AM
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What's the issue there? As long as he doesn't let that "racist rage" to dictate his interactions with and affect people of colour, what's wrong about it? He'll, maybe at the very gym, he'll befriend people of colour and see that they are not all bad. And I'd say racism is a real issue that a lot of people struggle with around the world, AWALT isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 05:30 AM
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men never getting compliments and being able to be emotionally open This is something I believe men should solve amongst themselves. I'm a guy and I've added both these into my way of life. It's also been positive. not everything here is bad perse True... Both the red and the blue here is toxic here but I'd say it's like an exercise in maintaining your composure and staying true to your beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 05:26 AM
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Is an AWALT statement inherently bad? What if a man uses it to become a better person without hurting others?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 03:59 AM
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why do we pretend men don’t have desires? I don't think I ever mentioned this in my comment. That they just love anyone they’re with that they don’t list after others? Me personally, I both love and lust after the person I'm with. I'd control any lust I feel for other people cause I don't want to feel it. I’m not even saying AF/BB is real I don't know about that but one way to make sure it doesn't become a reality is for women to never ever lower their standards. I'm working against the narrativ…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 03:01 AM
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I'd say to women please just be honest with your feelings whether it's lust or love or chemistry or the spark. If a model is the one who does it for you, stay with him. Reject the bobs, don't even bother with them. Never ever everrrr lower your standards (looks/personality or anything really) To men, I'd say, accept the fact that you may be at your best (physical/mental/career), you could be at your hottest, happiest and most satisfied point in your life, you could still be one of the bobs. Pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:49 PM
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Personally, I feel like I became a better person after reading up on various PPD posts. Most of the extreme comments just makes me laugh at this point. Some of the comments make sense and I add it to my own way of life. I'd say "Take what you want, as long as it makes you happy and doesn't hurt another person". If you're feeling to negative after coming here, take time off of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:13 PM
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Whoa....working from home and closing laptop at 5? I'm jealous...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:05 PM
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Bruh....where do you guys get the time in the day to type up all these debate posts?...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:14 AM
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Agreed with your title but not with some of your points. Just being not fat isn't enough to be attractive because, like other people mentioned, there are short men and conventionally unattractive men, who can't really change any of it. Being physically hot will definitely get you a lot more options than the other. But if you're not, then there's no point in complaining about "all women want hot guys" (which makes total sense, i mean, why wouldn't they?) You should add good social skills and pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 03:59 AM
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To be honest, I can only say about women's body types that I don't find attractive because that's much easier. Women who can be classified as BBW, who are too thin, shorter than me by a foot. Every other woman is perfectly attractive to me. You could say I'm one of the guys with a pretty wide range of attraction when it comes to women's body types.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 11:26 AM
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No, not really. I used to but then I realised, "why am I doing this?" Having an image pop up is involuntary and I blame porn. It gives us an idea of what people other than ourselves are doing in the bedroom. And with your partner, the imagination can run wild. You can control and train your mind to stop thinking about your partner with other people and instead focus on more important things like the time your partner spends with yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 08:23 PM
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After all the n-count threads, shouldn't this "sexual past" debate be over? It's pretty clear there's nothing one can do about it. Letting an unchangeable, uncontrollable and easily lied about metric affect one's life is such a sad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 12:52 PM
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Fellow person of culture, what's your opinion on Re:zero?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 04:42 PM
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Women have so many options that they truly are not pressed about any guy, and if it doesn’t happen organically it generally doesn’t happen at all, even if you are “smooth” and charming. I'd assume this means that no matter how good a guy is, a woman could reject him because she has many options and only wants the best. I say, a woman rejecting a man is primarily based on her standards, not her options. Why would it be a problem if a person's sense of entitlement increases? As long as that person…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 06:49 AM
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I agree with your post title. People have the right to reject anybody for any reason whatsoever. I do admit knowing the reason would help the rejected one to become a better if it's possible. I don't agree with your reasoning. I do believe that women have the advantage in casual sex and dating (that's another post on its own). It isn't something they use as a reason for rejecting guys they are attracted to and interested in. Having a lot of options simply increases the probability of finding a p…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:35 AM
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Good for you !!... Men have to become, women just ARE I think that's only an advantage they have in sex/dating. I don't think normal life adheres to that. Your statement is an absolute so I'd suggest adding nuances and conditions to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 06:07 PM
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Attractive dudes especially with personality and money will always win. Agreed. Most women want the same crop of the top 15% of men. I don't think it's the same men. Sure there could be a common trait among the men they find attractive but that trait would be different for different groups of women. I think there's more variability than PPD gives them credit for. Average guys don’t stand a chance in todays sexual battle royale Personally, I think they do have a chance but they just have disadvan…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 05:53 PM
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It's the look in her eye when she's touching you... Okay, that's true. I agree with you. I've seen the do-me look. I was fortunate enough to get that look once and you can probably guess that I'm no where near CHAD levels. But I've seen it. And when you see it, you know you're getting some action Once was enough. Now I know what to look for.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 06:00 AM
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Meh, I don't think so. You said yourself, we are essentially "forcing" a woman to look past our unattractiveness. No, never, nobody should have anything to do with forcing a woman (especially in a romantic/sexual sense). After all, it's her willingness to do something that's half the thrill. If I'm physically unattractive to a woman, that's it. She should reject me if i ever ask her out. Because ethere's men out there who she is physically attracted to and that's who she deserves. In the same wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 03:03 AM
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Also agreed. Although I think the touch has to be more frequent because I've seen women hold their platonic friends on the hands, shoulders, hell even the hips. The touching, however, isn't frequent, it's like once in a while or very rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 02:51 AM
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I have to say only point 3 has been true for me. Most of of my platonic women friends hold eye-contact and their bodies are turned towards me. Point 3 is definitely worth looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 06:52 PM
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The truth is being physically attractive is very important. In my experience, no physically attractive guy has ever complained about his dating life. Women will make it pretty obvious whether you are physically attractive. They'll want to spend time with you, they'll ask you out (that's a whole other league but can include niche-attractiveness as well). Personally, I think if you can look in the mirror and go "Hot damn!!!"(it has to be sincere), then you are attractive enough and get an unwaveri…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 10:29 AM
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Okay. Would you keep lying about it until you're certain he is the one? Even after, he has had this conversation with you? You did say that you'd feel more respect for him, does he really deserve to be lied to like this? Wouldn't it be better, more moral, to be honest so you can find someone compatible with your values while he can go find a woman that fits with his values? No harm, no foul. Both of you end up happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 05:19 PM
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I'm really not a catch, and even though I am sorta attractive (to a niche, really. I have a lot of issues with my body even though many friends have outwardly said they were jealous of how I look) I've taken a break from dating or flirting in general because I need to work on myself Hey, same thing. Although without the friends being jealous part and sorta attractive niche part. I just feel the conversations i should be having with my girl should be about what we want out of life and sharing our…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 05:13 PM
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I haven't needed a conversation so far, if I have to coax it out of her we simply aren't compatible. Good for you. I wouldn't say it's coaxing, more like an honest convo. If she doesn't , she doesn't and I can move on. If she does and there's a reason for why she's not being intimate, then again, I can take a decision about whether I'm comfortable with it. I'm lucky enough to have been proposed by women myself, and to have had at least honeymoon phase sexual attraction without a conversation abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 04:37 PM
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What if the 3-4 dates were really awesome? What if she is genuinely a cool person? It wouldn't hurt to have a conversation about her and my boundaries regarding intimacy. Ofcourse, if she physically doesn't even want to come near me, even after 3 or 4 dates, sure. Again, a conversation about it would give you a definite answer whether it's going somewhere or not. Right?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 04:11 PM
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90% of my friends are women and I don't have that expectation. Awesome. Good on you, mate. I'm just answering the common trope I see you on here because it's 100% untrue from my experience. Ignore it. You said it yourself, your personal experience stands against that trope. That means that you have a right to ignore it and also the right to the opinion that "Personally, never worked for me". My personal experience gives me the right to the opinion, "the blue pill trope is true, I have seen it ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 04:06 PM
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Bruh, really? It's only logical that the guy has to be attractive for him to find dates/set him up for dates. Being attractive/hot is and always will be the first step. No other way. Ignore the blue pill trope. Be friends with women (whom you find to be awesome but maybe not attracted to) because some of them are really cool people. Don't put the expectation of setting you up on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 03:18 PM
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I’m admitting that I would just lie in this situation. Wait, I'm confused. What are you lying about? As in, between the first date and the second date, you had hooked up with someone else. But when the guy asks, you'd say you didn't. Is that what you're saying? Personally, I already assume that you probably had hook ups with other people between the first and second date. That's why I knowingly ask the question I mentioned in my comments. I'd much rather you be honest about it and from the secon…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 03:07 PM
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I wouldn’t see that question as a red flag. It would actually make me think higher of the man. I would be even more interested in being with him. Okay, that's a positive. I would tell him I’m not seeing anyone else. I assume this would include FWBs and hookups, am I correct?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:08 PM
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It will scare off the commitment phobic women in general. Okay, that's a plus. Bringing this up on the first date is probably a bit too much for instance. Is second date too early? That's what I mentioned in my comment. I feel that the 3rd is just my limit though. If even that's too much of a red flag, then dating in America probably isn't my forte.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:05 PM
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You seem like somebody who has experience with this. What if a guy asked on the second date about this situation? What if a guy asked "Are you dating or sleeping with other people? I don't sleep with other people while I date and I want somebody who shares that same value". Would that scare you off or make you think "red flag"?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 09:57 AM
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Ah yes, the never ending "waiting for sex" debate. My question is that what if Dylan asked her on the second date about this. Like say, "Are you dating other people? I date only one person and don't sleep with other people during that. I just want somebody who shares the same values." I wonder whether this will just scare off women or this is too creepy or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 09:53 AM
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If a fat chick has her standards set to men who are tall/hot/millionaires but can't get one because tall/hot/millionaires want nothing to do with fat chicks, then those men are out of her league. That's something other people decided for her, right? She doesn't have to listen to other people and continue to chase these men. If a short/fat/broke guy only wants to date a skinny 20 year old supermodel but can't get one because those women want nothing to do with short/fat/broke guys, those women ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 05:03 AM
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Apparently “normal life” is women having one in a million standards. If you think about it, out of the 100 million men (19-50 ages), let's say a woman gets together with maybe 20 people and marries the last guy. Her requirements cleared 1 out of 5 million men and those for a husband cleared just 1 out of 100 million. That's how it is in normal life (ofcourse, 99 million of those probably don't know she exists but for statistics' sake). Correct me if I'm wrong. I think female pornstars basically …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 04:52 AM
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If they're not, then that's their problem. It's not bothering us in anyway, why should we care?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:33 AM
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I never said they didn't. That wasn't my implication, merely stating it. No harm, no foul. Depends on the woman. If she's only capable of being satisfied in a relationship with a caliber of man that she has zero shot at attaining, then yeah she's better off dying alone. I don't know about zero shot but this is how it should be. If she can't get with the man she is satisfied by, she should live alone. If she has the capacity to be satisfied in a relationship with a guy who's, god-forbid, actually…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:32 AM
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Having options to get laid whenever is not the same as having options for finding her ideal man. The latter is a subset of the former. Definitely not the same. And sure, there may be a handful of eligible suitors based on the myriad of compatibility issues Just like how normal life is. There’s a subreddit that basically points out the guys that marry pornstars. Didnot know that. Learned a new thing today. The ones that aren’t also pornstars look like your average aesthetically rudderless losers.…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:27 AM
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Not necessarily. After all, this is a man who satisfies her sky-high standards, which includes treating her right, keeping them both happy and having fun together. As a man, I wouldn't leave a woman like that and it'd probably the same in the gender-swapped version. I'll also say that it's people we're talking about. They are unpredictable and so, what you said is very much possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 12:23 AM
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What I never see accounted for her is the fear of being alone. That should work to men's favor. If you're running out of time to tie the knot, you have to cast a wider net. Honestly, do you want women to get married to a guy she wouldn't prefer because she's afraid of being alone. Do you think any guy with self-respect would agree to that? I believe you can't drop your minimum from a 8 to a 5 or something like that. I don't think anybody should do this, uff, never. But you could drop from an 8 t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 12:16 AM
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Agreed on all points. "well we're both single and we're both approximately 6.5s on the looks scale, so now we're together". Wasn't this the plot of an episode of F.R.I.E.N.D.S where instead of looks scale, it was age of 40 (I think).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 12:04 AM
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If 100% of women refuse to accept anything other than a committed relationship with a man who meets a sky high standard (say, a top 10% man) A choice is being made, that they have the freedom to. then 90% of women die alone Let them. That's just a consequence of the choice they made. I'm sure, for them, dying alone is better than living with someone lower than her standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 12:00 AM
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This mindset is very common in men, at least on the internet. Cringe but I'll admit, that's something that needs to change. When was the last time you encountered a woman saying she would accept literally any man who shows any interest in being her boyfriend? In the gender-swapped version, it actually makes sense. Men are usually the ones who make the first move, so any woman who shows interest back is someone the man is interested in. I think a lot of guys view romantic relationships as their o…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 11:57 PM
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Women have a lot of men willing to sleep with them, however this is one of the lowest forms of interest a man can display towards a women. Men will sleep with anything even women they don't like. The actual amout of men that would be willing to settle down, propose and marry women is much, much thinner. Women have men that want to rent them for a night, not buy, sign and take home. I agree. However, even if 10 men are interested in her out of which only 1 or 2 is upto her standards, then isn't t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 11:44 PM
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More like IF she ever meets that person who meets her standards. And IF that person also is interested in dating her. I'm from the camp of "women always have options". However, I agree with you second point. There are a lot of posts in the various dating-oriented subreddits that women lamenting about not being their "type's type." That's a classic but such is life. I remember one specifically about a heavily pierced/tatted sex-positive woman wanting the clean cut businessman type. Her chances of…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 11:25 PM
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If she thinks she's beautiful because of all the dms and attention she gets and she's happy about it, then good for her. I admit, some guys should really pull back on the desperation though. she's feeling entitled the sky-high standard increase... She isn't hurting anybody with this entitlement. She's happy with her standards and her life, again nothing much to do but go "good for her".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 06:30 PM
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Exactly, man, exactly. I probably wouldn't even be born if that was the case. Still, it would have been a much better world. No point blaming our forefathers for it. All we can do is accept it as the world we were born into and live an awesome life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 06:25 PM
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Once again that is a VERY big IF. Personally, I'm in the camp of "women always have options" so it's still "because when she does meet that person" for me. she should not expect to get a top 20% guy, regardless of her standards. Freedom of choice, mate. I have no issue with women deciding not to settle, by all means but they should know the good and the bad sides I think there's only a good side for a woman when she doesn't settle. You can't just assume that all 3 billion of them will all get a …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 06:21 PM
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Only recently realised it, ironically after reading through PPD posts. IMO, this should have been a "red pill". One doesn't get taught things like these...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 06:12 PM
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Nope I'm not bitter about it Good for you, bud. Yes you can find a girlfriend it's easy but she still wants the imaginary Christian Grey. Well, think about it. If we support the narrative of a woman raising her standards to heaven and never getting into a relationship without them being met, then the guy she gets into a relationship must be equal to the elusive "Christian Grey", right? If you find a girlfriend and she has sky-high standards and has been socially cultured to never ever settle in …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 06:09 PM
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As she should, my man. We should encourage it more.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:40 PM
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Not so sure about that buddy. However, even if that's the case, what can we do as men? We're not Christian Greys. So, we're disqualified. You can be bitter about it, angry about it and fill your head with unnecessary negative feelings about it. OR You can accept it as just how the world works and move on. Have fun in your life. I'd suggest you let go of this thinking first, actually stop thinking about this entirely. Trust me, man, much much better for our lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:37 PM
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Cool. Good for you. Personally, I don't think a man "settling" for a woman happens as much. I could be wrong, I have no idea about a woman's POV.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:34 PM
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Not gonna lie, I cringed at Thanks for supporting women’s standards Like bruh, that's how it should be. You don't have to thank me for it but I appreciate the gesture.😃 I wish others were as supportive as you Well, one step at a time, one comment on an online debate thread at a time. People will change, I know I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 04:29 PM
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Cool. I just wish other men would too and stop whining about women having standards. Personally, the whiners just need to accept it as reality that a woman's personal preferences outweigh how good a man is. My wish would be that some of the guys who turn this discussion into something negative (she'll never find her Chad, she'll cry about where all the good men are, she'll raise Chad's sons and go for betas) to simply not do that and instead hold the opinion that "she should chase her happiness …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 02:50 PM
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Personally, nope no way....never. I'd say no matter how much of a winner a woman is, no matter how much a loser she is, It doesnt matter what her state/condition, she should keep her standards as high as possible. Because when she does meet that person who meets her standards, he will be genuinely appreciated, desired, wanted - call it whatever you want. He will be treated in a way he deserves to be. Personally, I'd rather fail to meet her standards and be rejected than fail to meet her standard…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 02:32 PM
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She always mentions that not every woman is the same. Like you said, it's just her opinion and her way of dating/relationships. From what I've seen, there's only one video where it was clear she was citing right out of the red pill. Everything else has been pretty healthy and great.
/r/ExRedPill21/06/22 08:50 AM
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Good for you. I'm just posting my view so some guy would come across and maybe become a better person after reading it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 08:36 AM
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Still working on it because I'm unattractive at the moment. I'm still working from home, so social life is shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 07:49 AM
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"Have the courage to change the things you can" - Try to be more hot/attractive, find your dream job, get a healthy physique, indulge your hobbies, stay true to your moral values, develop your outlook on life and most importantly, have fun. (As long as none of these actively hurt other people but that's a question of ethics and morality) "Have the wisdom to accept the things you can't change" - A woman's standards for her partner, how other people act, Other people's lives (as long as it doesn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 07:31 AM
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I follow her. She's actually really cool. Lots of videos of clothes, grooming and relationship stuff. She is more on the conservative, man-must-pursue-me, man-leads-relationship kind of woman, so men who are more liberal will probably disagree with some of her advice. She's really positive and gives good advice a lot of time, so I'd recommend.
/r/ExRedPill21/06/22 07:14 AM
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Well, that's the thing. If these "men" are sexless, then they are not fit for a relationship. They can't even fit into the standards of a hook up guy, so they shouldn't try for a relationship, they are not good enough. I absolutely believe in the fact that every man (except the ones who don't like casual relationships) should have a "hoe phase"/getting it out of their system. I haven't gone through my "hoe phase" because I'm unattractive. So I'll try becoming more attractive, no matter how long …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 01:06 PM
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Thanks brah. And hope you have a great life as well. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:42 AM
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Exactly. Much better for our mental health. Although, I'd say maybe the reason why I'm holding onto a more toxic ideology is because I'm inexperienced. Maybe, in the future, if I get more experience, I'd shift to a healthier ideology. I hope that's the case. After all, who doesn't want to have a healthier mindset?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:40 AM
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Personally, it's not really "AF/BB" for me. It's more "normal men/late bloomers" (NM/LB ?) The entire TRP should have focussed on how late bloomers can become normal men with normal sex lives. If he is someone who got his first kiss / lost virginity at late 20s or early 30s then TRP version is correct. TRP takes it to the extreme by saying that this guy will end up being a "BB". I'd say, not necessarily. He is simply a late bloomer who, if he gets his act together, becomes confident, attractive,…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:32 AM
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Not the guy you replied to but we're dealing with people. It's uncertain what they think. You can give it your best shot, communicate whether it's good for the other person and trust that the woman is also living in the moment with you (and not pining after her past lovers).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:23 AM
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So I agree, imagining how many men those women have slept with before is just going to make you bitter and mourn for your lost years. That's not productive. It's like we're twins. Not "how many guys did she blow on this day 15 years ago", because that's irrelevant if what you're both living in the present is enjoyable in itself. True true.. Although my ideology is slightly toxic in the sense that even if it's relevant, it's out of my control. So just accept it and move on
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:19 AM
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It’s a guy who has been sexless for the majority of his life, marrying a woman who has had a lot more experience than him Well, a guy should never get married until he has had satisfactory casual sex/"hoe phase". Most women aren’t whores but the AF/BB relationship is one where a whore marries a sexless high earning guy. "BB" can be easily avoided if the high earning guy becomes more sexually experienced and getting it out of his system. Whore/slut are all stupid derogatory words. "Sexual experie…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:14 AM
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if Billy Beta truly is happy, then who cares whether his wife is an ex-cumdumpster. The goal of dating is to make your life better and/or to share it with someone, so what I’m wondering is if Billy Beta truly is happy? This is it, isn't it? If this "BB" is happy with the girl, she treats him right (by his standards), then that's answers your question, don't you think? Most normal men accept that most women have normal sex lives where they were "cumdumpsters" (derogatory and dehumanising btw)as s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 02:56 PM
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Again, my advice is just ignore that. It used to make me a little bit angry but then I realised, "meh, why am I getting affected by some random person's comment?" Are you a basement dweller? Are you a guy with a neckbeard? If the answer is no to both questions, then ignore people who call you "basement-dwelling neckbeard". Same thing when they call you a misogynist, a woman-hater, loser (now that's a bit debatable) whatever whatever. You have to realise that you can have the best morals out ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 11:02 AM
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Well, that's just an ugly truth. To get better at anything, you need experience in it and constructive feedback too. Same with sex and dating. Late bloomer men really do have an uphill battle. However, I don't think it's a reason to lie. While dating, if a woman finds out that I'm rather inexperienced in sex and relationships and she decides that it's a red flag and doesn't want to continue, I think she has the right to break it up and leave. Lying about relationship experience sounds uncomforta…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 02:45 AM
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Wait, how does his post relate to this idea? You can think of woman as individuals who deserve empathy and still be inexperienced. Maybe a guy is unattractive, may be he's ugly. Plenty of reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 02:24 AM
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The average number of partners a women will have in her life is four to six. I mean, come on, that number is way too low. That's like what, a month or two's work for a woman. Then again, I don't think the number is any indication of sexual experience for a person. A person with a count of 4 (relationships in 10 years) is going to be more sexually experienced than a person with a count of 100 (one night stands in 10 years). I think one night stands just kinda suck for most women. I knew very few …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 02:05 PM
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Yes I can prove it Go on, I'm listening. Why continue chasing something that’s not fruitful Wait wait...I didn't say "chase it", I said "go for it". There's a difference. Chasing it makes it seem like an obsession. Going for it is just what normal people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 11:31 AM
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Women LOVE to throw out the classic “it’s not your ____ it’s because you’re a misogynistic asshole” Just ignore it. Some women have admitted that they choose hot assholes to get laid because then they wouldn't develop any feelings for him. All it takes to get laid is to be hot/attractive. You could be a far-right misogynist who thinks slavery is awesome and still get laid if you're hot. misogynistic assholes are consistently the ones getting laid Not true. Kind and pleasant men get laid too, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 04:20 AM
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The most women have very few sexual partners in their lives You can't really prove this statement though, can you? Men are the ones who spend their lives chasing sex Well, spending your life chasing it is not fruitful but you gotta agree that sex is a pleasure, so why not go for it? And men wouldn't chase it if it's not available.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 03:59 AM
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I am the same way. I had a lot of sex in my past and now that I am 30 and more stable, I want something more stable as well. I think the entire pill-related culture was created to help men who didn't have this experience in their 20s. The hate for people who did have this experience is uncalled for. That's why I would suggest for men to only think of long-term relationships after having had enough satisfactory casual-sex experiences (if he's into it). Become hook up material first, then relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 04:28 AM
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Everything you said, can be done by women as well onn top of being pursued. At the end of the day, it's the presence of choice, a woman can choose to actively pursue someone or passively wait for someone to pursue her, she'll end up with what she wants. I don't think a lot of men have that kind of choice. What you described, every man has to do it (unless he's really hot/handsome). There's no choice, the "traditional" male role in dating (as you described) is the only option most men (I assume) …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 06:17 PM
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Hehe. I'm surprised too but hey, different people have different stuff in their minds. Maybe she wanted to feel sexy and her husband encouraged it. Maybe they were testing out the waters for an alternative non-monogamous lifestyle. Maybe it's some kind of a kink. From your reaction, It's clear that whatever they were planning is not your style and hey, now you have a standard for your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 05:43 PM
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How is some woman saying "the bar is on the floor" and "standards for men are at an all time low" say anything about me? When women say these statements, it's about men they are attracted to. The bar is only low for men they are attracted to. I'm not a man they are attracted to and I know what I'm capable of. And bro, no man who is selflessly good, attractive and successful will ever care what a couple of random women say about "the bar". He will be (and must be) wise enough to ignore it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 04:59 PM
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Exactly, I used it wrongly. I admitted that. You posted pictures that are sexual in nature. I attributed the term "sexwork" wrongly to that when in reality, you didn't do it for money. "Actual sexuality"?? Do people have fake ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 04:51 PM
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I never mentioned that you were doing it for money. I understand your confusion though. I may have wrongly used the term "sexwork". I used it to mean that "you were posting content that is sexual in nature" (for whatever reason).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 04:36 PM
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Hmm. I'll never understand how people connect through sex work, I guess that's why I'll never be a sexworker, haha...You do have a good point that it's easy to cross the line. People can download and share those photos but since you don't have your face in it, I don't think there's as much risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 04:27 PM
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If you don't mind me asking, why did you and your husband abandon this "project"?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 04:11 PM
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Disagree. "Fucking around" is a freedom of choice. It doesn't hurt anybody and quite frankly, would make a lot of people happy. Provided it's safe and consensual, I see no reason why women (or people) shouldn't "fuck around". On a personal note, I dont think my opinion or anybody's for that matter has any value. "Fucking around till their 30s and then find husband" is a phenomenon that'll continue to happen regardless of what I feel. So, my advice would be to not waste time thinking about it, es…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 04:44 PM
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Well yes, it is subjective. My point is that a guy being perfect doesn't guarantee "spark"/"chemistry", hence, he could simply end up alone because no woman felt that way. Ofcourse, I'll admit I made a mistake when I defined "perfection". I didn't take into account the case where he would be perfectly handsome/hot. I stand corrected.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 03:41 PM
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My point is, whether I agree or disagree with it, it doesn't matter. It's out of my control and it's their life (their freedom of choice). So, I don't have an opinion in this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 03:38 PM
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May be. Relationships need that "chemistry", that "spark". Maybe the guy doesn't trigger that kind of emotion from the woman. Would you take that as an imperfection he has and does that mean for a guy to be the perfect man, he has to be able to make a woman feel "spark"/"chemistry"?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 03:20 PM
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Okay, so a guy could be perfect in every sense but if women don't want him, he is low value?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 08:50 AM
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Well, yeah. That's what I said. I'm not attracted to my best friend. Read my first comment again.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 01:56 PM
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Well, I simply am not. In the first case, she is good looking but too short for my taste. In the second case, I am attracted to her but she's way outta my league with her intelligence and achievements. In both cases, they were friends first, so I intend to keep it platonic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 01:39 PM
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I'm not at all attracted to my bestfriend. She is absolutely gorgeous and I can't imagine a world without her in my life. She is very career-oriented and I admire her for that. Another friend of mine, I'm attracted to her. She is super intelligent and beautiful too. She's also very career oriented and after losing her father, she worked really hard. She's now a research scientist in the US (we're indian) and she'll never know how much respect and admiration I've for her. There's lots of women I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 06:28 PM
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I can only speak from my personal point of view. I've never been approached by a woman, so I've always done the approaching/first confession. So, in my case, the woman has always been the one to choose. I was merely the guy who offered. I'd say, in an established relationship, both people have equal power of choice (whether to continue/take it to next level) From what I've seen, if a guy is really attractive/handsome/charming, he'd be the one to choose usually. In a general sense, I think women …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 12:48 PM
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If women have "high standards", they should keep it that high. I'd rather die alone because I didn't fit their standards than have them lower their standards and settle with me. Because in the former case, I'm the one whose sad and the woman can find happiness with a guy that fits her standards (who she'll genuinely love without resentment). In the latter case, I may be happy but knowing that she settled for me and resents me for it will just lead to both of us being unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 10:34 PM
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Nah. A person could be having back-to-back meetings or an important deadline to cover at work, so texting during working hours and expecting a reply right then is immature, imo. Dudes be out there double texting thinking maybe she missed my text. Nah bro, she saw the text, read it from the notification bar and chose to ignore you lmao look at her being online late in the night after saying gn to you lol Okay, double texting is never good. However, "being online" could simply mean that she is sti…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 07:22 AM
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This is the truth. If your needs aren't met, just leave simple. Better for all parties involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 02:19 PM
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I have asked out the two guys I was interested in (with success) Good for you. women discussed how men saying "I will say yes to any girl who approaches me" is a bad thing Now, that is pathetic. And clearly bad for both the man and woman. you don't know if the guy likes you for you or if he's just going to use you because you are his only option. That's independent of whether a man approaches a woman, right? I mean, Guys approach women the majority of time and women still complain about being us…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 11:22 AM
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Another awesome comment. It's better for men's mental health to accept this, make peace with this and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 04:25 AM
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Can somebody pin this comment onto the PPD sidebar or something? It'll stop a lot of complaining. This is so accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 04:24 AM
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Eh....It doesnt work at all for some women. It's an average experience for some women. It's a really great experience for some women. A woman has the options to enjoy it. Whether she wants to is upto her. There's enough threads on women-centric reddit subs for it to be clear that casual experiences have been very rewarding for women. I assume it's the same for women who are not on reddit. I'd say, "please don't push this generalization that casual isn't enjoyable for most women".
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 04:00 AM
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That's just life, man. Accept it and move on. They have the options, they have the freedom. Let them have their fun. positive_vibes_only
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 03:48 AM
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It's not on askwomen, I guess I got confused. I found it on twox. https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/tjwxnb/how_to_find_men_for_good_casual_sex_and_be_safe
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 12:57 AM
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my husband and I have been together nearly a decade now. Oh wow. Looks like you found what you were looking for. Niiiiiice. Like telling us that we could find sex easily so shut up and stop complaining, Yeah, some guys on here take it too far. I get accepting it as a fact but i don't understand why they'd use it to disregard actual problems. We're looked at with less suspicion, we are trusted more easily, it's harder for us to be regarded as abusers (Depp vs heard anyone?) etc Yeah, that's just …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:53 PM
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It's pretty clear that a woman will always have options. Whether she wants to exercise those options is upto her. Just accept it and move on with your life. Much better for your mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 11:08 AM
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Of my relationships: I approached one, and got approached twice. Cool. Hope they all went/are going well. From what I can tell its mostly the last one, mixed in with the some of the second. I know a few girls who managed to stay on tinder a while and one of them ended up meeting someone irl. I guess you and your friends circle probably wouldn't benefit much from "the advantage in dating women have" as I believe. But I defs know more single guys than single girls on it. Well, one can attribute th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 11:02 AM
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Because that crazy period is fun and exciting. The motorcycle-riding stylish guy who goes on roadtrips in the weekend is definitely more exciting than the public-bus-taking not-so-stylish guy who goes to the library to study in the weekend, right? Adding to that, it's freedom, my man.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 08:42 AM
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Nah. I prefer my naturally smol pp (that may end up disappointing some people) than a genetically modified big pp (that may be preferred by some people).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 08:28 AM
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There are so many n-count threads I've lost count. Yeah, it's almost like an obsession for some people. Personally, at the moment, it's cringe everytime a new thread like that appears. The solace is that again, it's some PPD guys' opinion. No effs given. For example if doing this organically, social circle dating is in and of itself applying a massive filter, essentially eliminating a lot of people already. So you aren't dating 100 people. You're looking at 5. True. Do you approach guys or do th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 07:19 AM
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Having close galfriends helped me to have close galfriends. Having a sister made my life miserable (just a joke) and lonely in the house (she wants to talk about vampire diaries, I want to talk about anime..so, yeah, a little sad about that) About the last part, if you ask me, "how to talk to women", I still don't know. I just talk to them like I would talk to my guys. I don't know what women mean by "he is charming, he is so flirty". Probably why I'm basically an incel (without the hate and com…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 06:39 AM
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You raise good points. I accept that even though you have "options", you still have problems of your own. according to every guy here, lowered my value cause lol slut That's just some PPD guy's opinion. I don't think most guys care about it. Then we repeat this process how many times until I find a someone who is compatible with me, vibes with me, is attractive to me, who I can potentially see a future with? That's tiring and shitty and honestly can't be fucked with it. Isn't that just dating? G…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 05:14 AM
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the whole "you can get a date anytime anywhere with all the men" Wouldn't that mean, a woman has a higher chance of finding the man that's worth it ?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 03:53 AM
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I agree, they are two different games. The qualities for casual (charm, flirty, Attractive...Maybe I've missed a couple) are also required for relationships (+ commitment, emotional connection, financial security etc) As a man, if one is true relationship material, one has the capability to play the casual game as long as one wants. If one can't, then...spoiler alert, one isn't true relationship material. I came to these conclusions after going through he numerous comments from women on hookup m…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 02:55 AM
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I agree, they are two different games. The qualities for casual (charm, flirty, Attractive...Maybe I've missed a couple) are also required for relationships (+ commitment, emotional connection, financial security etc) As a man, if one is true relationship material, one has the capability to play the casual game as long as one wants. If one can't, then...spoiler alert, one isn't true relationship material. I came to these conclusions after going through he numerous comments from women on hookup m…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 02:55 AM
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Okay, I'll give you that. Highschool sweethearts are the exception to my case. I'd have to reword my statement. You can't be relationship material without having the qualities of a hookup material. It's not that a person must have casual experiences (That's personal preference) but the said person must have the qualities to have casual experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 08:24 PM
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I do believe that women can use reddit as a dating option, have their needs met. But why would they come to fricking PPD where I'm pretty sure they think all the guys are basement-dwelling greasy incels? If casual sex is what they're looking for, they could go to some local hookup thread or find verified male sexworkers from any one of those kink subreddits. I think they have enough options in their social circles and OLD apps that they'd have to be super desperate for some action to turn to red…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 08:20 PM
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I mean..the problem with incels is "they don't get to have sex as much as they want". Do you really want them to go into relationships with women (where their goal is to have sex)? And speaking in their defense, you can't just jumpstart into a relationship (being relationship material) without first having casual experiences (being hook up material). The former is supposed to be the latter + other qualities. Right?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 08:05 PM
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Nah, I don't think men are going to change their stance on "women have it easier in casual sex and dating", no matter what. I know I won't because I'm happy for them that they have options and are able to have fun. Note : Obviously there are going to be women to whom this generalised statement won't apply but I believe they are a small minority)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 01:27 PM
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How do you "spot this as a redflag"? It's not like it appears as a stat. Me personally, I would just ask about a woman's dating style because what I described certainly isn't mine. I was just giving OP or anybody who is confused about this situation a solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 03:34 AM
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Oh...how so? I can't control the woman's actions. This is just "keeping it fair".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 02:51 AM
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I don't have any personal experience with this. If a woman is seriously interested in you, she is going to make you wait (not all women, obviously). I think the only thing you can do is to have an fwb of your own. So, while she is "banging other dudes while making you wait", you "bang other girls and get your needs met". Simple...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 07:32 PM
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she isn’t going to have sex with him until marriage. but she has times where she was “broken” or “fell off” her path and would use sex as a coping mechanism. I think the answer is pretty clear. Tell him to not waste his time with her. She will gladly find somebody else who hears all this and will be okay with it. Your friend isn't, so leave. No harm no foul.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 07:31 AM
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I don't know. I never did. I simply said that choice can be a reason for my sexlessness and I respect it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 05:59 AM
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Well, a woman has to choose to be with you. It's her freedom to choose you or reject you. Personally, I've reached a point of life where I've realised that her freedom of choice far outweighs my want of a woman's companionship. That's why I'm okay with my sexlessness, it's simply an aftereffect of another person's choice and I respect that choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 04:12 AM
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Oh..That's good skill to have. Good for you, mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 04:09 PM
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Alright...Unless in the very rare case of a woman lying about it (which you called me a misogynist for), I guess it's cool. My stand was simply, "if they can lie about it, why bother? " Anyway, thanks for having the patience to explain your ideals. Have a good day !!!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 03:34 PM
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Oh, okay. On the first date itself? Or somewhere further down the line. Do you only make it official or go exclusive after you've found out about this?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 03:22 PM
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Okay, now we're getting somewhere. However, you added en extra condition there. Do you ask women about the waiting? Like, do they wait all the time? Or something like that?... Because that's my next question, what if she didn't say anything about it. She simply waited with you. No way for you to know whether she exercised that rule with everyone else.Lets assume she didn't wait with anyone but waited with you. Is she still good enough for you? (Unless you actively asked and she lied). Yes/No?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 03:11 PM
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You're not willing to change your view because you assume all women are liars. Where did I say that? Can you point it out? My view is that " if she waited for me, she waits for everyone is a statement that cant be proved. So, I dont care about it." She can't maintain a low n count if she's fucking men on the 1st date. And by the way, you're the one who said "Women can always lie about n-count, so it doesn't really matter". I agree with that. What you want, is a woman who has a 3 month rule and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 02:51 PM
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Oh. You enjoyed your time with your girl, right? In my opinion, that's the only thing that matters. I agree with your second statement. Yeah, your opinion doesn't really relate here. If you enjoy dating "sluts" (in my opinion, sexually experienced women because slut is taken as derogatory), then who cares ? Have a good life, mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 02:34 PM
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a woman has cheated before. You can assume that she is more likely to cheat in the future A woman has never cheated before. Doesn't mean she can't in the future. "If a woman waits with me, she waited for everyone. She is good enough for me" All I did was change one variable in your statement and asked if that fits your narrative. "She never waited for anybody, only you. Is she still good enough for you?" Simple !!!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 02:30 PM
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Ah, okay. That makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 02:23 PM
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So a woman, who had sex with everyone on the first date but chose to wait with you, would be perfect for you. A woman, who waited with everybody but had sex with you on the first date, is not good for you. Is that how it goes?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 02:20 PM
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I just want a woman who treats me right. Now, I really don't care what a woman's rule is about waiting, I just care that we're both happy at the end of the date. I'm only discussing the point, "if she doesn't sleep with me on the first date, she must be low N". I believe that's such a stupid conclusion. However, I'm willing to change my view. if you are someone who can’t grasp the concept of some women always waiting Ofcourse, I can grasp that idea. However, there is no proof that "some woman al…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 02:17 PM
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So, it's like "She can have first date sex as much as she wants. If she doesn't do it with me, then it's fine"? Any girl can just lie to you about her n count anyways My wife for instance is low n and ended up weeding a lot of men out due to her 3 month rule. She wouldn't be low n if she didn't have the rule. You said it yourself. How could you possibly know the truth? Adding further to my first statement, "as long as you don't find out or don't know, then it's fine". Is that your ideology? Plea…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 02:08 PM
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Wait, what do you mean by "settle down"? As in "be less sexual"?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 02:01 PM
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Finally, somebody with this opinion. I got a question. Let's say, a girl waited to have sex with you. How can you possibly know that she did the same thing with her other dates? It doesn't appear as a stat or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 01:55 PM
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Envy is okay, just don't let it control your life. I also envy them for their dating advantage, I also envy them for their dress choices (they are so good looking!!). However, these are all out of my control. So being jealous about it is just a waste of time. About your last line, you're only disposable if you don't have any value. A gamer who just stays at home, playing games and working a job that just covers his expenses is disposable (Maybe he is happy with this, so who cares?). Without him,…
/r/ExRedPill22/05/22 01:48 PM
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Is it really misogynistic to think that women have an easier time with sex and dating? I don't hate them for it, in fact, I'd say "Have all the fun you want". I also accept they have problems of their own.
/r/ExRedPill22/05/22 05:11 AM
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It's simple. The bar is low for men the woman is attracted to. So, there's no need to worry or waste your time thinking about this. They are not talking about you or me. The woman isn't attracted to us.
/r/ExRedPill22/05/22 05:04 AM
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Personally, I don't think of women's standards as "too high" or anything. In fact, I'd ask them to stick to them as long as they want or hell, may be even raise it even higher. I believe that these standards would make them happy and when they find a guy who fits these standards, he'll receive genuine care, love, compassion and attraction. I'd much rather remain single with the realisation that "at my best, I'm still not good enough for a particular woman" and make peace with it than have the sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 08:07 AM
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You're technically right and most of the commenters are saying the same thing. The bar is very low for men a woman is attracted to. Most men fail at "men a woman is attracted to" (nothing wrong with it).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 04:38 AM
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Like hire a private investigator, yo that's going to extreme lengths.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 11:07 AM
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"A woman who has never had casual sex" is a statement that is impossible to prove. It's out of my control (as it should be). So, why bother? The only thing under my control is my own life and that's what I'll worry about.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 10:32 AM
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Largely two different groups of women? Not necessarily, it could be the same woman in different stages of her life. Unless the woman you're interested in has never been involved in NSA situations, you have to be atleast good enough to hook up with before you're good for a relationship. I agree that stressing about it isn't good and is just a waste of energy and waiting probably wouldn't work out unless you are really attractive (subjective to individual women but I know my place).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 08:19 AM
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Well, a healthy satisfying relationship does take work. It can seem hard sometimes but I'd say it's worth it if it's the right partner. However, the discussion here was about getting into one. Doesn't it make sense, if a guy is not even upto hook up standards, then how is he ever going to be relationship material?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 07:30 AM
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Can't get laid in casual sense means even if he wanted to, he has never had ONS/hook up/FWB. For all this, a guy just needs to be "attractive" while for a relationship, he has to be "attractive and more". If he has never cleared the first bar, then there's no point in attempting for the highest bar. It'll lead to failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 02:56 AM
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First two paragraphs, I totally understand and agree with. In the third, what do you mean by "rest does matter"? If what you want is to raise a family, you're gonna have to find a woman who's attracted to you. If a guy can't get laid in a casual sense, I believe that, he shouldn't attempt to be in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:04 PM
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Not his overall worth. But certainly, the number of women attracted to a guy and their quality would certainly show how attractive the guy is, dont you think? Every person who has had consensual sex, has to be some way, shape or form, attractive (which is subjective). If a guy has never had sex, especially when he has always wanted to, isn't it logical to assume that he might be either doing something wrong or has some kind of problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:48 PM
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Meh, what's the point? I'm a guy. It's common knowledge that women lie about it. Worrying about it is just a waste of my energy, time and mental health. It's the same as worrying that there's only 24 hours in the day and you need more hours. I have no control over it. Honestly, with all the options they have, its hilarious and ridiculous to even think about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 03:25 PM
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Systems Engineer (IT). I know I'm part of a stereotypically nerdy profession. But our team does have many women in it. Interestingly, there are teams where it's entirely women but there's no team where there isn't a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 08:23 AM
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Regarding this part - And if some dude chooses not to, so be it, red flag avoided, plenty of other attractive dudes who will wait until she’s ready - Would you agree with the statement, "no matter what the dealbreaker, a woman will always have options"?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 02:30 AM
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Damn....SD sounds like a rip off compared to escorting. That's a lot of money guys are willing to spend but then again it's no different than me spending money for some video-game purchases. You are actually the user whose profile I looked up after I saw a comment of you mentioning that you're an escort. That's when I found out there's an entire subreddit for that and it helped me learn a lot. Anyway, thanks for the explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:09 PM
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Oh really? Count me in as one of the guys who thought SDs are very rich people (since you need a lot of money to pay SBs) If you don't mind me asking, is an escort like a variation of fssw?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 02:39 PM
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Ah, okay. So the sex/experience is the same but less money. I went to the sexworker subreddit but didn't find any thread which explains the difference. Turns out there isn't much.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 12:54 PM
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What's the difference between an escort and a sugar baby?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 07:33 AM
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Hehe, I get it, man. It's reddit, it's too addictive. Especially PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 06:31 AM
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Dude, I think you should stop. The other guy is just rambling on. There's no use.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 06:26 AM
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This is it. I think people in here should move on from these n-count posts. It's totally useless when a person can lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 08:39 AM
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No, because personally, I just assume most women have a lot of sexual experience, so I see no point in knowing an exact number.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 04:24 PM
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Well, the part of the post was about hypersexual women and all, so that's why i focussed on women's sexuality. Nowhere did i imply that men are meat dildos. My comment's intention was to provide an argument for why we shouldn't focus on women's sexuality (because nothing good comes out of it and its out of our control). Obviously men are different, just like women. Just like there's a man who believes in "relationship-sex only", there's another man who'll fuck anything that comes his way. PPD is…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 08:27 AM
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Hmm....that wasn't my idea at all but can you point out exactly which one of those statements makes men out as "second class horny citizens". People react negatively towards men having a lot of sex? Even still, why should men care about other's opinions?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 01:50 AM
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Cool. Hope you find what you're looking for and you treat the woman with the respect she deserves.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 03:26 AM
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Yeah, that's probably it. I used to be disgusted by it too. I was reading through one of the threads like these and saw a comment asking "why do men imagine how their girlfriends spent their time with their exes?". That got me thinking, "why the heck do I picturise how my gf had sex with her exes? I should be focussing on how she is with me." That solved it for me. Porn has contributed to why I used picturise it. Now I don't. But I agree with you, it could simply be an incompatibility issue rega…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 03:25 AM
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As it should be. However, I find it meaningless to put sexual history as one of the traits for judging a person for whether they are fit for marriage or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 03:03 AM
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Are you a virgin yourself? Even so, it'll be quite difficult for you to find that. Not impossible but definitely difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 03:00 AM
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I understand that. But, as always, my question is "how could we know"? Wouldn't it be a better world if below average men like myself accepted that women have a healthy sex life? Once I assumed the above outlook, it was easy. Earlier, when a woman talked about her wild times, I would feel disgust. Now, I'd be like "oooh... niiiiiiiiiice. Makes sense and good for you"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 12:14 AM
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How could you know which is which? For all you know, the "slut" had sex with 20 guys over 10 years while the "good girl" had a wild weekend in a trip to foreign country. And how old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 12:09 AM
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Okay, here's my opinion on this. Women have sex, maybe it's with the same man a 1000 times or with 100 guys once or with 10 guys any number of times, doest matter. At the end of the day, they have lots of it, good for them (ofcourse, men do as well, considering heterosexual relations). Their body, their choice, its out of my control (as it should be). Only thing in my control is to become attractive, be more fun and as a consequence, become one of the guys she has sex with, either long term or s…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 07:15 PM
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Come on, now. Having a lot of sex doesn't mean you'll fail in life later on. Similarly, not having a lot of sex also doesn't mean you'll fail in life. But you have to agree that people who are sexually experienced will always be a step ahead compared to people who are sexually inexperienced (atleast when it comes relationships and dating) Personally, i think it's impressive. I'm happy for them that they got to have that kind of experience that I didn't. It's fond memories for them to look back o…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 03:02 AM
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Imo, i dont think the "badboy" archetype is defined that way. I attribute spontaneity/adventurous/exciting with the "badboy", so it makes perfect sense to me why women would be attracted to him. And women just wanna have fun, those qualities are fun, it doesn't make them low value.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 05:30 PM
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Regarding your last point, as an Indian guy, I agree. In college, my class had 75 guys. There's only like 5 or 6 guys who atleast put effort into their looks (even if they aren't the most good looking).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 02:53 AM
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Ah, I agree with you there. Sorry, got a bit emotional because I am an SE. I agree that nobody should be having a superiority complex over the other, especially between STEM and Business fields. I believe both have intelligent people, just a difference in certain skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 05:13 AM
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Regarding your last question, Reddit, the very app you are using to shame software engineers. I get that different disciplines in engineering require different levels of intelligence and other skills. But do we really have to dunk on SEs intelligence like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 04:57 AM
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Yes, in my personal experience. I am friends with women who are very beautiful, women who are not my type, women I won't date no matter what. Now considering women I'm attracted to, now that used to be a tricky situation. I realised that I don't actually "want" to be attracted to them. It just comes natural to me (I hate that). So, even if feelings like that pop up one in a while, my logical part of brain goes "stupid chemicals in my brain, stop it" and just shove it to the side. Now, women I'm …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 09:31 AM
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Oh. Staying true to your own set of values is important and I'm sure your kids will appreciate their father being there. Good for you and good for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 01:27 AM
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The last point was about judging by looking at friends. I can have a drunkard friend and I still wouldnt touch alcohol. It was in response to your "judge one by one's friends" Regarding your suggestions, I guess one could do that. Although, I do find that such a bother, it'll just affect my mental health. I've never had to do any of this so can't relate to any of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:41 PM
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Ofcourse not every woman is going to be into that, it's a matter of personal preference. But I believe in the first point because ANY (not every) woman can be into it. By assuming every woman is, I develop a mindset where either it is "oh she is promiscuous? Cool." or "oh she isn't? Cool".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:50 PM
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Ofcourse, no doubt on different people having different priorities. After reading enough reddit (PPD as well), I actually started placing sexual history way below than i used to. I understand other people can have different views ..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:43 PM
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You do have a point. Regarding your last question, I agree. That would be bad. I just don't believe "n count" and its effects can be generalized in this manner. I believe it's a situation that's best dealt in an individual case-by-case basis (which would be tedious). But hey, to each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:27 PM
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As in you wouldn't judge them on their character but only on their sexual history?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:22 PM
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A person moved from the native place where they were promiscuous and settled in a different place where the person is more reserved. A person who visited some foreign country for a trip with friends (where they ran wild) who are not part of that person's life anymore. How would you know in these scenarios? Regarding your second point, mature people don't let others' actions affect their judgement, it's based on their own morals and values. For example, I am straight edge (no alcohol) and I could…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:21 PM
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Okay, I mean promiscuity is a result of hook-up culture and prevalence of casual sex, right? My point was that if anybody could be promiscuous, then worrying about it simply affects one's own mental health. I don't see how this could apply to your example. Can you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:15 PM
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Okay, i agree with impulsiveness and hedonistic view but how is selfishness factoring into it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 02:49 PM
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How so? Can you explain?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 02:38 PM
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Okay, let's follow through with this. What kind of character/personality do you think would have high "body counts"?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 02:36 PM
2

Sorry, What's "NHTSA"?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 02:28 PM
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Ofcourse the 9% person. My question, how would we know? A person with high "body count" could be either "I've had enough fun, time for a good relationship" or "I can't get enough of the novelty" A person with low "body count" could be either "I don't want to sleep with random people, I want a loving relationship" or "I feel like I missed out on a lot, i want to have fun" 2 of these cases are good people, the other two are cheaters. What's the difference between them? Morals, Values, ie, Characte…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 10:32 AM
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In a world of hook up culture and casual sex only a fool worries about promiscuity. What's the point? There's no proof as to whether somebody has been promiscuous. And as for cheating, people in India probably have the lowest "body counts" in the world and there's still cheating. Character has more influence on whether a person is a cheater than "body count", best to judge them by that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 10:23 AM
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Look, I can say some words like intimacy, trust, companionship and all the other stuff. But truly, i dont think I can explain why it's awesome. Personally, the feeling is illogical and that's what makes it beautiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:51 AM
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Because it's awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:45 AM
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Nah, women just wanna have fun. Who cares what the guys think? The way I see it, they have the advantage in casual sex (enough hot guys are horny) and they are just making use of it (good for them).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 10:22 AM
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Greatly exaggerated or not, there's no proof to it, right? A woman can sleep with a 100 guys and claim it's only 5. Nobody will know. Wanting to have sex is a natural feeling. Women just have an easier time with that (and good for them, let them enjoy their lives). And all these guys going berserk over "n-count", it's stupid. A woman in a 1- year relationship has more sex than a woman who uses tinder for one year and it'll be a somber world if we say "women shouldn't have relationships". And to …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 03:31 AM
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The ONLY reason men are turned on by them is TESTOSTERONE. The same hormone that is responsible for men’s insatiable sex drive. Ah, yes good ol' T. The day I realised that I get aroused when I see some random nude woman is not because i actually want to but because of stupid T. I swear a lot of guys' lives will be different if there was a pill that can drop sex drive to nil. Maybe even name it "the red pill" cos that would be fitting.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 04:58 AM
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If that's the case, then I guess it's fair regarding your first statement. Although, I don't understand how it is similar to the men's case that you said. In both cases, the woman's not losing anything, is she?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 09:46 AM
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My only question regarding this is - what if there's no second date? Its not like every first date will work out. Doesn't that mean, if a man is made to pay on the first date, he incurs a loss for every failed first date? Would women have the decency to split the bill if they dont like the guy or would it be a case of "atleast I got a free meal out of it" ?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 03:23 AM
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Why ?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 07:29 PM
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Unless the woman is a virgin, every guy is getting "sloppy seconds" so that's irrelevant. I'd like to think of it this way - Women have sex, a lot of it. Either you are the guy she is having sex with or you're not. Choose whatever you want. And I haven't even mentioned everything else that comes with a relationship which makes it worthwhile. And since you mentioned, how do you measure it - how much a woman wants you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 07:27 PM
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Nah, I'd like to try the first option. If I fail, cool atleast i can say I tried and takes out a "judgemental" guy out of the dating arena. If I succeed, I can have a good relationship. Win-win
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 02:25 PM
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Since sex work comes under freedom of choice, i guess a lot of guys like myself have to either adopt a mindset required for dating a former/current sexworker or to remain single for life. Tough call but hey, such is life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 07:50 AM
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As long as we grow into better people and try to live a happier life, it's all good.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 08:27 PM
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True some of that. This was my biggest mistake, thinking virtue and morality are parts of personality that makes you a sexual option. IMO, this should be a red pill, a sort of truth bomb. I know I was confused when I was a teenager, i'm sure lots of boys are. Accepting this idea would surely reduce the number of confused "nice guys".
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 07:50 PM
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This guys gets it. At the end of the day, have fun and make sure to she gets her O. Don't try to be the best, try to be happy with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 03:21 PM
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Ah yes, the consequence of maturity. I mean, you can see why men would feel annoyed or sad or disappointed, especially somebody like me who would only become attractive by my late 20s, that my only option is become the guy she won't be fantasizing about? Ofcourse, I've already accepted it as it is. Other men would find it hard to accept. Ofcourse accepting it is in the only way to have a relationship as not-so-hot guy or one can just stay single for the rest of their life (also a good option). D…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 02:27 PM
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I think guys who arent considered physicaly attractive/ didn't get much attention from girls when they were younger will always have that lingering doubt of "did she settle?" (Atleast on PPD, it seems like that.) The only way to deal with it is to just accept it as "it is what it is". I think the guys are finding it hard to accept being "decent house with good bones" is because the mansion can provide everything the decent house can, but the decent house can't provide everything (to the quality)…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 04:56 AM
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Logically, the youngsters would have more intense and exciting experiences as they are pumped full with hormones. So, yeah, sex would be the same - hot and exciting - at that point of time. Sure, I did miss out on a lot, clearly sexually inexperienced by any cultures' standards. However, what's the point in thinking about it? It's just a waste of time, obsessing over what you missed out. Just accept it as a consequence of who you were in the past and move on. I personally do think most people my…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 10:55 AM
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Absolutely fine. It comes under freedom of choice, although, like you said in a comment down below, you should add the part about facing the consequences (if any). Regarding this promiscuity debate, there is no way to prove a woman (or man) has been promiscuous or not. So, it's like, why waste time thinking about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 04:24 AM
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To all your questions, the answer is yes. I believe that every person has the right to judge another person and take decisions regarding one's own life. If me being a "kissless virgin in the 20s" means "incel who hates women" to a woman, she has every right to judge and avoid me. I would take it as her protecting herself. Same thing applied to judging women. As long as there's no shaming, all is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 04:47 AM
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Exactly what from the red pill did you use to become "more successful" with women? Everything that you said you did is normal stuff like taking care of yourselves physically. What did changes did you make mentally to have this success?
/r/ExRedPill25/02/22 11:56 AM
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Ah, i realise that you are a woman of culture. Seriously, though, I tried playing it on my phone and I could have fried some eggs on it because of the heat. Although, i have to admit people who can play it on mobile are on a different level, can't even manage it on PC.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 03:01 AM
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Oh, completely different. I was thinking you were referencing a character from Genshin Impact, a very popular videogame at the moment. Never got into the Pokemon bandwagon, so not surprised that i didn't get that reference.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 02:55 AM
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Your username, is that a reference to a certain game?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 02:37 AM
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Whoever meets my needs for a relationship. If both of them do, the "normal" woman. The onlyfans lifestyle isn't my style. Regarding promiscuity, I tend to focus on the present so that's irrelevant. The "normal" woman for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 02:18 AM
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All women love/have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:50 AM
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Oh, okay. I was answering in the context of the post. But yeah, you agreed in the last comment. I guess that's it. Cheers mate and have a nice day.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 08:01 PM
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Ah, so you do get it. It's not what she did with her exes. It's not the speed at which she did it for her exes. None of what she did with her exes matter (unless it threatens your life in some way). All that matters is what she is willing do for YOU in the moments she is with YOU (with the expectation that you'll reciprocate ofc). Not satisfied, leave. Satisfied, then stay.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 07:45 PM
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Come on, I have no say as a man? It's not like she has a gun to my head. If I feel that it's a one sided commitment, then I'll state my needs. If it isn't met, then I'm out. And regarding that excuse, again, I'll ask what's the matter. It's not the end of the world if i didn't have sex one time. If it's excuses after excuses on and on, well, circling back - my needs aren't met, it's an unsatisfying relationship, I'm out. End of story.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 07:24 PM
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A deadbedroom would only happen if I let it happen, right? If my needs are not met, I'd rather stay single. Sure, nothing prevents a good relationship from forming after early sex. My point is that nothing prevents a good relationship from forming after "late" sex if I put my needs as a priority as well. I would do anything for her (as long as I'm comfortable with it) in a mutual loving relationship, yes as I expect the exact same thing from her as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 06:55 PM
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Honestly, as a guy, I'll never understand their reasoning behind this behaviour. Doesn't seem any bit logical. But who a woman wants to have sex with and the timing is her choice. And I respect that. So, you can say I'm pretty blue pilled because of this. And I'm pretty sure she is more attracted to you if she wants to have sex with you for a considerable amount of time compared to the one night stand.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 05:27 PM
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I think there's some selection bias happening. Go search the same question in r/askwomen and you would get a different set of answers.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 08:40 AM
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If this comment doesn't get taken down, I wish you find what you are looking in your life. A lot of the people in this sub are being mean. You don't have to care about it. What happened to you is horrible and I hope that it never happens to ever again.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 04:02 AM
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So what if empathy is a turn-off? That doesn't make it a bad quality. So what if empathy is unattractive? The only thing that matters whether you are willing to change yourself or abandon that quality to "close with hot girls". Just because one is unattractive doesn't make one a bad person. If you abandon that quality, then you weren't really empathetic to begin with. Because a truly empathetic person will never abandon it no matter how lonely it gets, no matter how unattractive it seems. This a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 06:05 AM
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In my opinion, it is wrong, unreasonable and irrational to do anything to attract anyone(unless it's a business relationship where attracting clients is important). Our actions must always be in line with a purpose that is our own. It is easy to fall for the idea of doing something to impress members of the opposite sex. After all, being desired and wanted gives you a feeling like no other. A person who cares about family, friendship, hobbies and career will have a satisfying life and whether it…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 04:04 AM
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As a former incel myself, I ask you to find yourself a purpose for your life, a mission that you want to fulfill by the time you leave this world.
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