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This is the "ethical" reason I give when I'm at family/work events and people are bugging me about not having children. But the real reason is that I just fucken hate them dude 😎
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 09:37 PM
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Hahahahahahaah brutal. Love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 09:33 PM
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I know that normal society doesn't have a problem with my age gap, but it's not just FDSers: I have been called a nonce on this sub by "normal" women for having a 28 year old girlfriend at 35.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 09:28 PM
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At this point, just send us back to the 90s please. I want Encarta 95 back instead of the Internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 01:39 PM
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Ohhhhhhh wait, you're the weird cunt who sends people pictures of his cock and constantly posts about penis size. Can't believe it's taken so long to finally meet you. Heard a lot about you my man.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:59 PM
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The 6.2 figure is taken from Alfred Kinsey's study, which is statistically flawed because it was self-reported. And from the 1950s. The NHS in conjunction with King's College London did a study in 2014, the results of which found the average UK penis length to be 5.24 inches. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25487360/
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:48 PM
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Average is something like 5.35. 6 is the minimum allowable by FDS, from what I've saw.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:35 PM
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I think that FDS would disagree with you, but we'll never know since they're forbidden to interact with anyone outside their sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:53 PM
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A solitary "no" doesn't really provide counter-evidence to the myriad of posts on that sub which express strict preference for penises in the large to extremely large bracket...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:45 PM
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From what I've read, it is extremely important to them. Whenever I've browsed their discussions on penis size, the top-rated comments are always ones in which a preference for 8-9 inches is stated.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:42 PM
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but FDS' standard criteria for a partner includes a minimum 6 inch penis, I thought?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:38 PM
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Ran in to a few women like this. One in particular was an ex who cheated on me with a skinnyfat unemployed drug dealer who still lived with his parents at age 32. No idea why she did it other than that life is what she's used to - two of her exes were also drug dealers. She had BPD as well, which likely played a part.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:00 PM
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He's a 4 and she's a 2. He's below average and she's fairly repugnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 08:27 PM
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That's a solid touché, I'll admit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 08:12 PM
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Yeah in that case put me down in the "weird men" category because you sound like a fucking nonce.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 08:04 PM
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Bonfire night and taking the groceries in. Neighbours all out staring up in to the sky and firing off rockets. Guy next door tried to semi-chastise me for "never joining in". Yeah no bother mate, I'll just spend a grand buying rockets to fire off into the air for 15 minutes like a fucking idiot just to please you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 06:44 PM
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Same for me except genderswitched. I thought everyone was like this. Evidently not.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 06:38 PM
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This ain't the one, love. She taught him when he was a child. I'm sure there are youngsters in your life who you knew when they were teens, and although they're all grown up now, you still can't help but see them as kids. Really hope that you don't want to fuck them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 06:36 PM
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UK here. Very hard for me to understand the (mainly) American sexlessness culture that seems so prominent on PPD. Lots of men who have never even had a kiss, lots of women who are virgins or had one partner. Not what I'm used to. Sure, there are people who are more successful and less successful with the opposite sex, but in general: no one really has any problems pairing up. Hence, the attitudes of many of the posters in this place is completely alien to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 05:33 PM
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I love discussing this stuff with Americans and comparing our basic bitches/fuckboys. Intrigued what you mean by "camels"? Cameltoe? Here's the UK stereotype lad I was describing in my comment. Peaky Blinders on repeat and uses Connor McGregor's Instagram as fashion inspo: https://mobile.twitter.com/harrisonjbrock/status/1270321374276603904
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 04:50 PM
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And for the lads: Canada Goose jacket, no socks, spray tan injection, sunglasses indoors in winter, pocketwatch/lion tattoo, steroid abuse. 35, lives with mum and dad. Apprentice bricklayer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 02:42 PM
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Lot of Americans on here just aren't going to get that UK culture is in a major arrested development right now, and is not going to change any time soon. It's trendy to be still living at home with mum and dad age 32, obsessing over Instagram followers, being a self-employed social media guru/consultant/French bulldog parent, and banging gear up your snout every weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 02:26 PM
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Depends. Yes, I have met women who are hyperfocused on men's Instagram following. I even know women who are basically groupies for a few local Insta-famous guys. I've had women I'm dating outright express disappointment that I don't have a bigger Instagram presence, and even a few that found it "weird". On the flip side, there's a big trend right now for the "offline boyfriend". Lots of memes saying stuff like "when he has 57 followers 😍😍😍". Having a neat, curated Instagram which is private, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 02:15 PM
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Fuck, never noticed that. Changed!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 07:42 PM
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Because the train home is delayed, and asking a silly question about demographics will make the next 20 minutes pass quicker. Why ask anything? Idle chat.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 07:31 PM
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This seems to be getting interpreted the wrong way. Perhaps I worded it poorly. I'm referring to age gap relationships in which the man is older. 25 year old woman with 30/35/40/45/50 year old man. That kind of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 07:19 PM
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This seems to be getting interpreted the wrong way. Perhaps I worded it poorly. I'm referring to age gap relationships in which the man is older. 25 year old woman with 30/35/40/45/50 year old man. That kind of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 07:18 PM
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Q4W: What is the maximum age for a man to be where him dating a 25 year old woman isn't creepy? I have my own opinion, but let's hear yours first.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 07:11 PM
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These people are Scientologists. Leave them to their misery.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 06:11 PM
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I have an MSc in Bioarcheology from the University of Durham, which at the time of my graduation was ranked as the 16th best university in the world. I attained the grade of Distinction. Over the course of my degree, I studied human biology and biochemistry at postgraduate level. I then went on to work in the field of forensic anthropology for 6 years, before changing careers entirely. Although the field of virology is alien to me, I have enough training in human biology that I could muddle my w…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 07:30 PM
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Can confirm. In fact, I'm here specifically to make myself unhappy so that I start lifting again.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 06:34 PM
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1 year you're still in the honeymoon phase. If they're cheating at that point... it's not the only time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 06:32 PM
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Visitors to the country aren't allowed to hold weapons, nor are weapons allowed to be flown in to the country. That'd be a pretty massive violation of international law. If Trump wasn't allowed guns in 2018, Biden won't be either. Don't worry though, apparently there was about 10 armed response team vehicles flanking them. They'll be fine. Edit: I'm wrong. The Secret Service get issued handguns. Still no AKs allowed though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 06:18 PM
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They weren't allowed to bring their guns here, so apparently it was just a sea of black vehicles, presumably with a lot of highly trained security officers inside with nothing to do except twiddle their thumbs lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 06:10 PM
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I'd be done. Split up there and then. I'm too proud, and it would ruin the self-mythologising aspect of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 06:04 PM
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"PERFUME" 😂😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 06:01 PM
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Still, I'll go with the majority of peer-viewed papers plus personal experience, if that's okay with you mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 05:54 PM
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Love to see a thread in here about women with heavy tattoo coverage. The reeeeEEEEEE reactions would be legendary. Guys on Reddit fucking hate it. It's brilliant.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 05:37 PM
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Yes, that too. Covering your mouth when you cough is obviously going to contain more particles than not doing so. We shouldn't be wasting money on scientific studies to prove that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 05:33 PM
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It's a good upgrade. Sometimes when I'm doing boring shit like housework or washing dishes I just ask Bill Gates to take over and he pilots me through it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 05:19 PM
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Vaccines don't stop you from getting it - they just lessen the impact when you do get it. Example: I went to Ibiza for my mate's stag in July and we all came back with Covid. We all got better in about 5 days except our only pal who hadn't been vaxxed. His symptoms lingered for 2 weeks, he was put on a ventilator, then he got pneumonia in hospital, and now he's brown bread. Autopsy said he died because he had scarring on his lungs from past steroid use. But I used steroids for the same amount of…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 05:13 PM
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My missus just passed Biden's motorcade on the motorway. Not the most interesting thing in the world, but it's made me go "oh".
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 04:59 PM
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Same guy telling me the same thing. I thought it was cultural, but he's from Western Europe too, apparently. I just find it strange: for example, I've had the same big mixed gender group of friends since uni. Over the years, we've all shagged each other, and it's never really been anything more than one nighters or weeklong flings. I'm aware that I'm not boyfriend material for everyone - nor was my friend who would spend 10 months a year backpacking someone who I would consider girlfriend materi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 04:19 PM
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Easier to just let folk sift through the entire thread, form their own opinions: https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/qkrg1x/comment/hj0ic5m/
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 04:05 PM
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I'm just relaying back what I'm being told by a Redpiller on here as we speak. All women want committment, apparently, and won't have sex without committment. But if they do have sex with you and it's a casual/ONS/no committment scenario, the only explanation is that you're bad at sex, because committment is always the ultimate goal for them. Which sounds to me like the same thing FDSers say - except replace "bad at sex" with "you're a rapist".
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 03:53 PM
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Apparently not. I'm having a discussion with one on here right now, and he's getting quite heated that all women want relationships and "AWALT".
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 03:41 PM
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A big commonality I've noticed between your FDSers and your RPers is their utter denial that women freely seek out casual, NSA sex without the expectation of committment. For the FDSer, if you suggest that some women seek out casual sex - you're a rapist and a manipulator. For the RPer, if you suggest that some women seek out casual sex - you're a liar. I'm starting to think that it's cultural. Where I'm from, casual sex is the default. The thought of anyone going in to their first sexual encoun…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 03:33 PM
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Sort by controversial and have a look at some of the comments on this thread - you might be surprised. Other than that I think I pretty much agree with everything you're saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 12:22 AM
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Oh, you might misunderstand - it's the disdainful comments that are unempathetic. The ones that use language like "revolting", "weak" "unmanly", "disgusting". Not the choosing to date people part. That's all dandy. I don't know where you're from or what your culture/sociopolitical alignment is, but I'm from the western world and I lean to the left, and generally we don't talk about people who are suffering from illnesses in that manner, because it's considered punching down. I think you might be…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 11:44 PM
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You think the women on here making the harsh statements about men with mental illnesses are in fact male trolls? You know what; they very well could be. Because I've never met any women who are so uninformed or unempathetic in real life. Ever. Why do I care? Well, I work from home during the week and I need something to distract me from the daytime monotony. I'm fascinated with how bizarre Reddit is in terms of its user base - it's well documented that the men here are fucked in the head, but I …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 11:35 PM
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When single and dating - never. Women are drowning in a sea of compliments, and men are convinced that sucking up is going to set them out from the pack. It's not. If she doesn't like me for me, she doesn't like me. Girlfriend? Constant compliments. Female friends? Appropriate level of non-creepy compliments. I'm generous with praise to those I know, not to strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 11:05 PM
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I know. I told him that makes me the biggest batty boy around. Lad wasn't pleased.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 11:01 PM
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Since you're coming at me, I'll dignify it with a response. I have hidden myself in the post for fun, but my main goal was to see how divergent PPD women are from "real life" women. I've been with a lot of women, some of whom you even might describe as "toxic". I liked them, but most would describe them as harsh, no nonsense women, and that's being kind. Even they were fine with mild mental illness (I'm the OCD guy, FYI). Only on Reddit do you get ~25% of women saying that mental illness = disgu…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 10:56 PM
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I don't have a comprehensive answer, but when I was a bouncer I used to work with a Jamaican boy who said the same. If I recall correctly, he said it was "batty".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 10:47 PM
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Gotcha. Can't relate - I'd do that for any of my female mates with no question or expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 10:43 PM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 10:19 PM
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Being polite is how you get your phone stolen though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 10:17 PM
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What's a stand-in date/partner? When I began dating again I went on a date with a woman who was open about having another date with another guy the very next night. We had sex, and the next day she still went on the fucking date. Felt bad man. Does that count?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 10:17 PM
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Why even acknowledge her? Someone asks to use my phone = instant ignore.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 10:11 PM
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Based.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 07:52 PM
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It's not just the ladies, lad.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 06:57 PM
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Thanks for sharing. For the record, it's very similar to how it manifests for me - all security-based concerns. The way it goes here is: when we're leaving, she goes out to the car and I join her in 10 minutes after I'm done locking up. And at the end of the night, I take about 30 minutes to lock and check all the windows and doors downstairs. I recognise that it is "odd" behaviour, but I do my best to minimise its impact on her. And I definitely would never involve her in the process. All the b…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 06:05 PM
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Fantastic. Glad to know that the speech therapy helped.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 05:52 PM
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Tell me you're a stuttering virgin without telling me that you're a stuttering virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 05:32 PM
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I'm particularly interested in your reply because it's similar to my own situation: I hid myself in the original post - I have mild to moderate OCD which I have managed for 11 years with therapy, meditation and medication. It has never been a dealbreaker in relationships, but I am nevertheless a bit paranoid about it. I can't help but feel shame over my condition, and worry that although it does not affect my partner now, she will eventually grow tired of the fact that I am not mentally "perfect…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 05:30 PM
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Makes sense; if Bert and Ernie's best efforts couldn't make you civil, what hope do I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 04:57 PM
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I do frequently. Do you need me to regulate your behaviour the same way I do theirs?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 04:47 PM
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Should we not be trying to be nicer people, by default? Did years of Sesame Street do nothing for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 04:25 PM
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Hehe yeah I make no excuses for the fact that being a vulgar man, I like vulgar women. Trying to stay neutral throughout this comment thread, but OP's view here is straight out of another dimension.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 03:33 PM
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belching in public, taking loud shits with the door open, and being generally vulgar and crude, men won't be attracted to them. Not gonna lie she sounds like a great laugh, if she's hot and nice I'd smash and wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 03:17 PM
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Yes I think it would be difficult. I have had a few girlfriends who had bipolar, and although they can be very funny, caring people - they are prone to hypercritical rumination, which is tiring for me. I wouldn't necessarily say dealbreaker, but it's a play it by ear situation, I'd say.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 03:14 PM
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I get what you're saying and somewhat agree, but I'm not sure that's really what depression is. Just going by the behaviour of two of my close friends who topped themselves: they were extremely gregarious, outgoing and smiley. Life of the party types. After they passed, the most common thing everyone said was "how could he have depression???" For me, it helps to remember that Robin Williams suffered from depression, as does Jim Carrey. Regardless, I'm glad it's not something I have firsthand exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 03:00 PM
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Agree on both counts. I've noticed that second one too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 02:35 PM
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Respectfully disagree, because I have hidden myself in the post. I am the one with OCD. There's no such thing as complete control - but there is enough control that it doesn't take your life over and ruin your ability to function in a relationship. I know what you mean, and I understand that this is a common approach to how we view mental illnesses, at least in UK healthcare: "if it isn't ruining your life and that of others, is it truly a mental illness?" I have been told this by medical profes…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 02:33 PM
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I understand and can somewhat relate. I grew up in the 90s in what was then the murder capital of Europe, so I developed a hard mentality. The city underwent massive changes in the early 2000s and has become one of the safest, liberally-minded places on the planet. So I've experienced both extremes and have been forced to reconcile myself with each. I've got a very, very long fuse, as a result.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 01:29 PM
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I see. Do you yourself suffer from any mental illnessess, or have you ever done so in the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 01:15 PM
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That's a very comprehensive answer, thanks. My only question is re: jumping into the breach. Do you find yourself in a lot of situations where physical confrontation is required? This isn't anything to do with the topic, just an interesting aside. I'm asking because the last time I had to get into a physical confrontation with another man in public, a lot of the women in my life were viscerally disgusted by what I did. Moreover, that was 8 years ago now, and I really can't imagine being in the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 12:59 PM
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I agree, and although my intent in this post is to remain neutral, this is how I view things too. I'm especially interested in how personal experience informs people's stances on this matter. If you feel comfortable sharing - do you suffer from any mental health issues yourself/have you done so in the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 12:53 PM
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I hope you find someone who suits you and makes you feel comfortable. All the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 12:43 PM
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I see. If you feel comfortable sharing - do you yourself suffer from any mental health conditions/have you in the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 12:43 PM
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To be clear, you're saying that you're attracted to psychopaths and schizotypals? And that you wouldn't be with someone who has even a mild mental health condition because that leads you down the unmasculine = weak = loser = unattractive thought path? I might make a post about personality disorders and attractiveness in the future, but for now I'm interested an attitudes to common mental health conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 12:41 PM
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I understand. We all have things we can and cannot handle. I'm really interested in how personal experience informs people's answers here, so if you feel comfortable sharing - do you yourself suffer from any mental health conditions, or have you done so in the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 12:29 PM
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As always: a very mature, realistic and healthy answer from you, CZ. In my opinion, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 12:28 PM
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I think that's realistic. If you feel comfortable sharing - do you suffer from mental health problems yourself, or have you done so in the past? Don't have to give specifics - I'm just asking to see how firsthand experience informs people's opinions on this matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 12:24 PM
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I understand. If you are comfortable sharing - do you suffer from any mental health conditions yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 12:15 PM
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I understand. However, not all medications have the same side effects - and some have no side effects at all. Does this change your opinion at all, or have your past experiences simply made it a "never again" scenario? Also, if you feel comfortable sharing - do you suffer from any mental health conditions yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 12:13 PM
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For me: Not on the first date, because that should be a relatively short getting to know each other session. If I like the woman after the first date, then there is no too soon - preferably we'll have sex on date two, and three is fine as well. After three dates, if there's no sex I am likely to think she isn't in to me that much, and I will begin to wind things down. I have a pretty strict rule these days that I only get involved with women who want to rip my clothes off on sight. If she's stil…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 11:06 AM
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Gutter trash kru checking in.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 10:54 AM
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The solution is simple - just don't be with a woman who doesn't want to fuck you at first sight. He's asking for it by putting himself in this situation to begin with. Unless you're her first choice: forget it, next.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 01:03 PM
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What we at now then? 85%? 90?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 12:19 AM
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You think that a man with a high n count is more likely to be a rapist. You now think that me commenting on you thinking that a man with a high n count is more likely to be a rapist is suspicious. So what percentage of my n count are you accusing me of raping now? Gotta be like 80% at least, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 11:41 PM
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Wow, so me with roughly 35 at age 35; exactly how many of those women are you accusing me of raping?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 10:25 PM
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I'm really proud of the fact that I'm good friends with my ex. As in: if I was to introduce her to someone, I'd say "this is my friend xxxxxxxxx" before it would even occur to me that she is my ex. She just dropped off a beautiful sweater that I commissioned from her which I've got my girlfriend as a surprise (they know each other too, and gf always drools over ex's work on Insta). It's just nice. Sometimes I think of myself as a bit of a dickhead, but I must be doing something right to maintain…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 07:08 PM
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Have a read through this thread and you will see how rare your opinion (which I consider to be normal) is. This place is a fucking lunatic asylum.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 06:53 PM
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I see. Do you ever feel a bit sad that you were a virgin and he wasn't?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 06:34 PM
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I know, right. THERE'S A REASON YOU'VE NEVER HAD A PECK ON THE CHEEK AT AGE 32, GEORGE/GEORGINA.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 06:33 PM
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Interesting. Were you both virgins on your wedding night?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 06:22 PM
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Do you think the virgin Redpillers and the plethora of virgin social conservative women on this thread would be interested in dating one another?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 06:19 PM
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Bingo. That's my mother and aunts' generation. They all think that a woman is a whore if she wears red clothes. I don't value observations about her contemporaries as reliable indicators of 2021 behaviours and attitudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 06:14 PM
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I agree - I'm just being flippant. I also think the same of these women. If a nice, kind man who happened to have a high n-count came along, I sincerely doubt they'd say "I'm sorry sir, but your peepee has seen too many vajeejees, therefore I must decline". Pull the other one.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 06:07 PM
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Plus a hefty amount of these studies focus on Boomer women. I'm not fucking Boomer women, personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 06:02 PM
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The big takeaway (and surprise?) from my female perception of men with high n-counts thread is that PPD has just as many 30-odd year old virgin women holding out for their virgin man unicorn partner as it has 30-odd year old virgin men holding out for their virgin woman unicorn partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 05:54 PM
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peNis and vagiNa, clearly.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 03:52 PM
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If it helps, I feel a little part of my soul being shaved off with a metaphysical potato peeler every time I say it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 03:00 PM
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Sorry, but I've no idea what you're saying here. I suspect you may have replied to the wrong comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 02:46 PM
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That's fair and I'm not going to judge for being on the defensive for stuff like that, but you'll likely understand that I'm not going to let myself be accused of something that is not applicable to my past situation without speaking up.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 02:32 PM
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Women can suffer from extreme mental health problems, and of those that do - not all seek/are responsive to treatment. You sound to me like someone who is used to hearing men call their partners crazy because she asked him to do the dishes five times in a row. I understand that's a common problem - and it's fucking shit for women - but in my opinion, you should be thankful you (presumably) haven't encountered a woman who is truly ill.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 02:24 PM
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Ah yes, because as this sub shows us: sexually inexperienced men have a really great grasp of what defines consent, and really know what women want.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 02:17 PM
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Well, she was prescribed anti-psychotics which she refused to take on a regular basis, frequently drove drunk, went on secret cocaine binges, and was arrested and detained for assaulting her friend while they were on holiday together. And she'd also been in and out of mental health facilities on detainment orders for being a danger to herself and others. Ergo, I don't think it's too much of a stretch to say that her psychological issues might also have impacted the controlling and possessive tre…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 02:14 PM
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No. But I would hate to be with a man that sees having sex with a woman as an achievement, that thinks sex is something he does TO women and not something they both do toghether. That's someone to be avoided regardless of how many partners they've had.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 02:07 PM
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What are your worries about me, specifically?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 02:05 PM
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I’d actually feel like someone with no sexual experience later in life (mid 20’s) was more prone to sexual violence because they went without it for so long and feel entitled to it that if you were to “take it away,” they would react emotionally and desperately to keep their “access” to sex. Some of the men in this sub genuinely scare me. YES. I actually can't believe someone hasn't mentioned this already. There's been three or four comments deriding men with high n-counts, yet everyone seems to…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 02:03 PM
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Imo this is the most measured and mature response so far. This is what I think too/how I try to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:57 PM
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Excellent point - I fully agree with this. Recent, successive quick encounters are definitely a bad sign.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:53 PM
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Thanks, but I'm more interested in the bit about high n count meaning you're a rapist. Would you mind touching on that some more?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:51 PM
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kNob.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:44 PM
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Edit: just saw your edits with more information. I'm curious as to how, in your mind, men with high n counts have all "definitely" violated the consent and crossed boundaries of women. Can you elaborate on that?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:38 PM
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Huh. I'm obviously coming at things from a completely different perspective, and am likely one of the people for whom you hold utter disdain, but I'm struck by how much I agree with you on certain things. Monogamy. Casual encounters as a sort of methadone substitute for romantic affection. Having to train your brain to accept things it doesn't want to. I personally think religion is cuckoo, and anti-science beliefs are batshit but ehh... our perspectives are nevertheless not without commonalitie…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:34 PM
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Now this is very interesting. I've been trying to keep my own experiences out of this post and just be objective - but that last paragraph I have to respond to. I was in a semi-successful band myself when I was in my early 20s, and a significant portion of my n count is one night encounters from that time. I certainly never behaved like your friend, but the results appear to have been similar. When using OLD I encountered a lot of women who knew of me when I was in the band, and as a result I fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:29 PM
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What values do you have, and what values do you perceive a person who has had a lot of sexual partners to have?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:18 PM
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For what it's worth, I don't think what you did was wrong. I understand that a high n-count can mean "proceed with caution" for some people, and that's totally understandable. It changes things, in a way. A one-time snoop, in that context - not a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:16 PM
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That's good advice regardless of whether they've had 1 or 1000 partners though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:05 PM
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Would you not say that those attributes you listed are, if anything, more indicative of a personality disorder than diminished intellectual capacity or disability?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:04 PM
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That's an interesting perspective. If you feel comfortable, would you mind sharing your age and sexual/relationship history? I see that your flair states that you are religious - do you think that your religion has influenced your views? And last question: what mental illness do you think people who engage in casual sex suffer from?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 01:01 PM
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What intellectual difficulties have you noticed in people who have casual/hookup sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:50 PM
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You can't - we're working on the honour system here. But my logic is that if you put a sign saying "no stealing" on an unmanned stall, you're going to lose less product than you would without the sign.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:49 PM
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Gotcha. Okay, try being in one for a year to see how it goes. My view is - you won't like it. There are some people who are made for them, some people who aren't. I think you'll be happier without, based on what little I know from this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:47 PM
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Thank you for your story. While I clearly don't view high n-counts as being consequential in any way, I absolutely understand the concept of having specific sex acts which are "special" or reserved for partners with whom you have an extremely close bond. It feels really intimate to have something like that. I also like how you talk about virginity in genderless terms, and say "sharing" instead of "losing". That's cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:42 PM
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So no relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:36 PM
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PPD slang for body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:35 PM
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Can you elaborate on this bait and switch strategy? I'm assuming it means they're pretending to act like the "cool girl" in order to reverse psychology the man into wanting them? My personal opinion is that sounds a bit of an insult to women's autonomy - it's a bit "everything a woman does is to bag herself a man" for me personally. It also fails to account for women who seek out encounters with men who they know they are unlikely to see again.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:34 PM
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If you feel comfortable doing so, would you mind sharing the how and why of those relationships being ruined?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:14 PM
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How did you come to this conclusion? Have you never encountered a woman who is purposefully looking for casual or one night encounters?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:10 PM
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Yeah reading back I realise I've worded it like there's going to be a test at the end of the day. Well, maybe there will be!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 11:45 AM
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What's your age and past relationship experience/history? This stuff is useless without context.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 11:05 AM
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My options are never be emotionally vulnerable with this fantastic person, or never be emotionally vulnerable with another person who won't be as fantastic as she is. I was in a relationship with my ex for 10 years and managed not to express any negative emotions to her. If I can do 10 years, I'm fairly certain I can do another 40-50.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:58 AM
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You might be right, but I'm not willing to take that gamble. You do you, but I will continue not to express any negative emotions to my partner. My primary concern in life is maintaining this relationship, and with that in mind there's no reason to take risks when I have a good thing going.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:39 AM
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Worrying over read receipts is not what you should be doing lass. You already know that. Doesn't matter why he's not opening it. Onwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 05:34 PM
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The childfree-est of childfree. So serious about it that I ended a great 10 year relationship in 2019 on account of her changing her mind and wanting kids. Just not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 04:52 PM
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Absolute horseshit in my experience too. Most women I've dated are just as hesitant, if not more hesitant, to tie themselves down to one partner as men are. They'll fuck you for months, stay at your house 3 nights a week, text you all day, but freak OUT if the suggestion of making it official is raised. Commitment-minded people are rare, IME.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 04:04 PM
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With partners in the past I've felt disturbed and very worried about her, and I've tried to do everything in my power to comfort and help her. Although I've also learned that sometimes women don't want help - they want to solve their problems on their own but just want a sympathetic shoulder. Either is fine, I can do either and I will feel out the situation to see which one she needs. My girlfriend of 7 months has never cried in front of me, and to be honest I'm anxious about this situation if/w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 03:13 PM
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The type that hates clubs, really. Hate being crammed in to small spaces with hundreds of other sweaty people, hate not being able to speak. I found it difficult to maintain attraction without being able to chat. I'd watch my mates just go up to a lass when they were dancing and ram their face towards them until the girl relented and kissed them. Could never bring myself to do this. I only pulled when I was out having a fag and could chat to people first.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 02:54 PM
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With that attitude you're best just opting out and increasing the chances of the other 33 guys by 2.9%.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 01:42 PM
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I have not experienced the sex recession, personally. I actually spoke about something similar with a group of my male friends the other day. Pre-Tinder (04-09) we used to go out to pubs and nightclubs to meet women. My friends would each pull maybe 1/4 times we'd go out, whereas it was much slower for me - probably about 1/8. I was in a relationship throughout the whole OLD revolution, and got back into dating in late 2019. It seems the tables have turned - my mates get about 1 date per month f…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 01:36 PM
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Same. Tbh the only thing I've cried about in the last 15 years is the death of one of my cats, and whenever I've got the urge I just wait until I'm alone and scream into a pillow or something. I'd be mortified to cry in front of anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 01:17 PM
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What were you going as? We were doing Fred and Rose West. I bought the stuff to black out a big gap in my teeth and everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 01:00 PM
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Re: the crying thread. Listen, I really do try to be a more empathetic, kinder person each and every day, but one thing I can't fucking stand - regardless of gender or age - is when people do that gasping sob/hyperventilating thing between words when they're crying. "And GASP then GASP the GASP guy GASP said GASP they GASP were GASP out GASP of GASP GASP GASP GASP g-g-g-garlic." Please no.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:59 PM
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We've already cancelled. The way I'm acting about it to the outside world: "Oh no, how disappointing." Me inside: 😎😎😎😎😎😎😎
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:53 PM
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Nah man what motivation do they have to lie? These are women who spend their free time analysing and discussing relationships - most people don't do that. They're obviously more in touch with their feelings than the average chick you're going to match with on Tinder. It's like asking a vegan what their favourite cut of beef is - wrong demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:48 PM
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But where did you garner the information that they're fat? Feels like I've had a stroke reading this comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:37 PM
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Same. I've had both and the sex sounds are much preferable. Used to live next door to a guy and his alcoholic father. The father would frequently go through withdrawals and the DTs, and he would scream HELP HELP PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME. So I'd call the police/ambulance, they'd arrive, and later the son would come round my door angry and aggressive that I called for assistance. ???????? YOUR FATHER WAS SCREAMING FOR HELP. Same situation on repeat every 3 weeks. Infuriating.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:21 PM
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Yeah the police and HOA thing really leaves a bad taste in my mouth. As I understand how it works in America, HOAs can basically evict you for anything that contravenes their rules. So she's potentially trying to make this girl homeless because she's having sex and OP is not. That's fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:18 PM
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Reddit women do not = real life women. The women on here are more sensitive and introspective that the women you will meet in real life. Of course they will say that it's okay for their partners to cry - because for them IT IS OKAY. Regular everyday women? Absolutely fucking not. Majority of them want you to be their therapist and emotional sounding board, and will immediately lose attraction if you share your own problems. I'm usually more on the "blue pill" side of things when it comes to emot…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:14 PM
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Monica Gellar is a good one. She's generally a nice, supportive, organised, dedicated and wholesome person. I can't recall her doing one truly shitty thing in the entirety of that series.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 11:17 AM
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FDS do that. They autoban you for being a member of subs they dislike, and their mods scour other subs for commenters who disapprove of their methods and pre-emptively ban them. It's bizarre behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 11:08 AM
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This is the bane of my life. 35 and look like I'm 23-25 still. Hate hearing the yOu'lL bE tHaNkFuL wHeN yOu'Re OlDeR comments. Nah, it's getting more annoying the older I get. I work in a senior management position and it was very difficult to get the respect of my colleagues. They didn't like me straight off the bat because I am 10 years younger than them, but the fact I look 20 years younger made it worse. I was out raking leaves in my garden the other week and a broadband salesman strode stra…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 10:59 AM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/AskFDS/comments/qi4yfu/downstairs_neighbor_having_extremely_loud_sex/ Principal Skinner's mother, age regressed 40 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 10:44 AM
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That's a fantastic progression. He's slowly learning to love again, and it's great that you're helping him grow.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 10:38 AM
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Yeah, no man I'm friends with speaks like that either, despite what you want to think. If they did, they'd be asking for a kicking - an attitude which I fully recognise is itself an example of toxic masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 09:41 PM
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I mean, homophobic and misogynistic terms were pretty much drilled into me as school as being very bad things. And this wasn't recently in some uber-modern metropolis; we're talking in the late 90s-early 2000s in a small town in Scotland. The use of gay as a pejorative was a really big problem then, and there was a huge culture change with the intent of stamping it out. I work in HR these days, and I've only once come across that type of language being used by adults in a professional setting, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 08:53 PM
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Yeah eh... no man I know in real life uses language like that. Past the age of 13-15 that stuff is generally frowned upon.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 08:41 PM
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As my patience wore thin, whenever she'd berate me for something like giving her friend a goodbye hug in a way she deemed "flirty" or skipping a day at the gym, I'd just go over to the fridge, start tanning something fizzy, then when she was done talking I'd just say "yeah man totally", let out a massive fucking belch, and walk off. Immature yeah, but it's the small acts of defiance that build you up to eventually just calling it off entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 08:28 PM
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But that's one of my favourite bits of patter!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 08:21 PM
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Well, I never really got to ask much about it because asking "why" questions was also deemed feminine and unattractive, but from what I could gather she thought that sneezing makes men look weak.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 07:44 PM
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Just reading an old thread on toxic masculinity. Personally I feel that my masculinity has been policed a lot more by women than it ever has by men. Thinking back to a relationship I was in at the start of the Panny D. She used to get really annoyed and turned off whenever I sneezed, because according to her sneezing was "feminine". I was fucking holding in sneezes for this bitch. In retrospect I should have ended that one way before I did, but hey ho. On the converse, no other dude has ever tol…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 07:36 PM
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I'd modify that slightly: "if someone who thinks they are out of your league is dating you..." If you're dating a 6 who thinks they're a 10 - it doesn't matter if you're an 8, they'll still treat you like dirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 07:22 PM
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What age are you and what experiences have pushed you toward this decision?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 07:13 PM
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I always chime in on these threads and this is the fifth or sixth time a black dude has been able to relate to this scenario. Seems like women seeking out partners based on stereotypes they're holding in their heads is a common thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 06:58 PM
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Genuinely addicted to the Aussie version of Married at First Sight. I've got an alarm set on my phone to remind me to turn the TV on at half seven to watch it. What have I become.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 05:36 PM
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I'm not a dog fan really, but I rescue cats. My opinion: as cute as kittens are - they are fucking annoying. An adult cat is my preference too, but when you rescue it's all about providing a safe haven to whatever animal is in need, and last September I rescued a little 5 month old. Lots of sleepless nights because of that kitten energy, but it's great now that she's matured into a lovely loaf who sits round my shoulders like a scarf when I'm cooking dinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 05:32 PM
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Without wanting to be offensive, I think you're over-reacting a bit. I said it was an orange flag. Orange flag means assess -> if the situation seems okay and under control then proceed as normal. I think it's unreasonable to be angry at someone for having a critical eye over who they spend their time with. I'm not demonising or getting on a soapbox; it's just something I would assess before I got serious with someone. I'm sure you're much the same about drinking - if you were dating someone who…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 05:05 PM
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"Okay you're right let's settle the matter with a pressup competition."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 04:46 PM
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Unfortunately I've known a lot of weed smokers who are unable to function in normal everyday life. I was seeing a girl around New Year who had fucked her whole life up because of it - had a medical degree but worked in Asda and had no plans to leave. Every time we would be going out for a meal it was - hold on while I have a joint and roll another one for the road. That behaviour is untenable. But I agree people absolutely should be calling out problem drinking as a red, not orange, flag. Where …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 04:33 PM
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Mental illnesses are standard for the 21st century. It's all about how you deal with it - are you taking your medication or in a perpetual taking/coming off/taking again cycle? Are you avoiding triggers - i.e. maybe if you have BPD you shouldn't have that bump of coke? Are you seeking out CBT (cock and ball torture; not cognitive behavioural therapy) and metacognitive interpersonal therapy? If the answers to these are positive then I have no problems dating that person. Personality disorders are…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 04:28 PM
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Her: "Treat me like a queen." Me: "Okay. Your son is a fucking pedo."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 04:10 PM
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Maybe beef up the old home security if you are able to. When I bought my house it was a riot - the back door was literally falling off its hinges. I used to jump at every shadow. Now I've turned the place into a fortress and I can go for a piss at 3am in the pitch black with no worries whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 04:07 PM
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10/10 first date idea. Keep us updated on how he fares.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 04:03 PM
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Am neither and I'm not a fan. Mainly not a fan for myself (although perpetually open to trying it again and again to see if that changes), but I do consider weed use an orange flag in a person. It takes a special type of individual to be able to smoke weed on the regular and not turn in to a total burnout. The ones who manage it are invariably the soundest fuckers you'll ever meet, but they are few and far between.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 04:02 PM
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Y'know what actually yes, this does happen. I think I'm biased because I've had my share of negative experiences, but if I'm looking back with an honest critical appraisal - yeah, what you're describing in your first paragraph is definitely a "sweet spot". Theoretically, I could see how someone who is generally viewed as an "overly nice" type in the dating world could benefit from this scenario. Fetishism as an icebreaker actually makes sense as well. I'm still not sure if the positives outweigh…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 03:34 PM
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Ooft hard to pin it down exactly because I tend to go slow and have big breaks, but if I had to guess I'd say average 18 hours per year over 17 years... about 300 hours in total? My guy is old as balls though and has been doing it for 40-odd years, so he's super fast. Comparable coverage might take longer depending on the artist, experience and all that jazz.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 03:08 PM
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I think I can give a comprehensive answer to this because my look is pretty niche. I have a Japanese turtleback-style body suit with chest panels and hands done too, plus some stuff on the lower legs. I'd estimate maybe 60-65% of my skin is fully covered, so that's probably edging in to the extreme side of niche. It's a mixed bag. I'd say about 25% of women absolutely hate it, which rules me out as a prospective date entirely. If you're someone who wants to play a numbers game, I don't think cut…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 01:14 PM
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That's the entirety of the manosphere you're describing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 12:53 PM
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£120000 a year, which is 4x the average UK wage, to do housework and DIY which I do already, and pipe a very hot 50 year old like her. Is that even a question? I'd eat one dogshit a day for that life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 12:18 PM
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Q4All: The phrase "you are responsible for your own orgasm". To what extent do you agree with this statement? For the most part, I agree. Obviously there are people out there who are fucking useless in bed (ball mash handjob, or can't maintain a consistent clit lick for more than 30 seconds) - I am not talking about them. I am talking about regular people who are competent at sex. If you can't cum with someone who more or less knows what they're doing, then the problem is either your headspace, …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 06:59 PM
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My logic: right now I have a fairly handsome face and I'm 5'10" (considered short these days, so I hear) and I've had a fair few women pick me over taller guys. Not to say I've never encountered a woman who values height above everything - I've encountered many. But I've found that face beats height perhaps 3/5 of the time. So sacrificing three inches and gaining facial perfection sounds like the better deal to me - after all, I could always put on a pair of Doc Martens and do my hair in a quiff…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 04:50 PM
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Perfect face and 5'7", without a shadow of a doubt.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 04:38 PM
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I agree for the most part, except I'd put attractive woman over attractive man at the top. Purely for the reason that an attractive woman can become rich on looks alone, while an attractive man (by and large) cannot. And being an attractive woman comes with no increase in dangers - average women get raped and sexually assaulted as much as attractive ones do, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 03:52 PM
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They're all fucking guys with penises between 5 and 6 inches, because that's basically what everyone has got. Strange persecution complex quirk of Reddit that everyone is all about objecteev fäkts and statisqués except when it comes to the fact that 97% of boaby danglers are within an inch of the same length. That one gets brushed aside because it doesn't fit the paranoid narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 03:19 PM
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The second one has to be a fiction for the purpose of making men insecure. Just like how <1% of men have an 8 inch tree trunk, yet seemingly that <1% make up 90% of male Reddit users, meanwhile 90% of female Reddit users have never even seen a penis below 16 inches.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 03:10 PM
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None of those things are permanent problems though. Do you think you could do some self-work to make yourself 25% less neurotic/moody? That might be all it takes. You're allowed to have emotions, even negative ones. Just make sure they're not all-consuming and you'll be like pretty much everyone else on the planet.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 02:16 PM
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Imagine being the member of the X-Men whose mutant power is mind control ghost jizz.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 02:12 PM
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And she "pretends" call 999. We're such jokers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 02:00 PM
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Sometimes I Amazon Prime my girlfriend surprises and pretend they're from a pervy stalker who likes to include dirty rhymes on the gift message. Decided to Prime her some roses, but the window for tomorrow was fast closing. Here's what I came up with off the cuff: "18 minutes to order, I have to go fast. A dozen red roses, in exchange for a sniff of your ass." Still chuckling to myself about it. Netflix if you're reading this get in touch. I have more ideas where that came from.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 01:54 PM
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I distinctly remember my mum crying for the whole day, pulling at her hair and rending her clothes when she heard the news. Didn't even know she liked Diana? Sure, she had one of those royal wedding commemorative plates on the bureau, but genuinely heard her talk about the woman maybe twice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 12:56 PM
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Thanks man! I really do love being weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 03:39 PM
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I'd say absolutely not. Myself and everyone I know have formed relationships through the dating apps. They're there for a reason. I think most women would be taken aback by getting approached in the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 03:13 PM
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Hahaha it's sent! She'll be over later with the elixir of life Diet Coke. Cheers for nudging me in the right direction. Knew what I needed to do, just found it difficult to take that leap without sounding it out first.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:46 PM
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Oh, there's no concern about that last part. I'll struggle to accept her bringing me a cup of tea without worrying that I'm being a burden. It absolutely is toxic behaviour on my part, and I've decided to make a change today. She's teaching a pole fitness class until 9, and said I was to text if I change my mind and want her to come round - I have just sent the text. Tbh this has been coming for a while. Back in March I had to have a hernia operation. Afterwards, they asked me if I have someone …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:36 PM
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That's true, but I think your metamorphosis slows as you age: I was very different from 18-22, quite different from 22-28, and just a little bit different from 28-34. I feel I've done some growing this past year too, but it's more akin to sanding the edges than the big chops I made in my early 20s. Thinking back, if I had married my first girlfriend, there's a significant chance I'd have done a Chris Benoit by now. It sounds like you and your wife grew together, which I think is as lovely as it …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:11 PM
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Anyone else not able to abide being taken care of/fussed over? I'm currently ill as fuck and my girlfriend wants to come over to take care of me. But I'm getting waves of revulsion at the thought. I know stereotypically men are supposed to turn into big babies when ill, but for me it's the opposite. I just want to be left alone to deal with it myself. I don't know if this is a good thing though. I had a very austere, strict upbringing - illness is weakness, never show weakness, never complain ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:00 PM
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Same, except I just saw the bedroom wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:43 PM
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Examples of your success to support your argument?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:25 PM
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Nah 35. I doubt I'd have gave them much to smile about in those first five years. Horrible little bastard 86-present. (Semi-kidding, of course).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:21 PM
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Would you say that you are a dominant man whom women want?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:18 PM
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Hehe, me too. A narcissistic child molester or George Costanza. Those are your only two options.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:03 PM
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I don't think it's all roses. My parents got married at 19 and 17 in 1969. They met on my mother's first night out to a pub ever, and my father was the first boy she'd ever spoken to outside of a school/family setting. This was common then - all of their childhood friends got married before 20 to their first kisses. I can attest that in the 35 years I've been alive, they have never shared a bedroom, gone on a date, spent any time alone together, or even smiled. Imo, you're better off waiting unt…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 12:50 PM
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Grooming? As in "grooms kids?"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 12:42 PM
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Engineers aren't forming romantic connections. WHO'D HAVE GUESSED????
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 12:16 PM
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Nice, well played.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 12:05 PM
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Left over from what? How did you make that amount in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 11:47 AM
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What do you do for a living that allows you to drop 20k on a watch?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 11:18 AM
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Terrified of operations and hospitals, unfortunately. I went for a consult once before and almost hyperventilated. The thought of being in that place and getting my body cut open - can't do it. Major irrational fear.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:25 AM
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I don't mean it to sound like that - I'm just impatient for more contraceptive options as a man. Realistically, we can put people in space, use tiny cameras to perform keyhole heart surgery, turn penises into vaginas and vice versa, reduce HIV to undetectable amounts... surely in this day and age we can get something sorted a bit quicker for men who want more contraceptive options.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:10 AM
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If a woman I was with got pregananant, it would upset me. It would upset me x100 if I loved her and she decided to keep it. I really hate kids, and don't want any of them near me, ever. It especially pains me to think of someone who I love and care for going through a strenuous and possibly even dangerous pregnancy. Fuck that. I see women's access to contraceptives as a great thing, but I am severely unhappy with men's access to contraception - we have two options: condoms or vasectomy. Condoms …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 12:53 AM
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Encountered my fair share of bad sex. 35, Scotland. Roughly 35 partners, 4 of which were LTRs, other 30-odd varying degrees of casual. About 25% of those partners were bad. Bad meaning unenergetic, lazy (minor flaws) or at the worst end - not listening when I tell them I don't like a certain thing, or that I don't like something done a certain way. Some just keep doing it anyway and I have to tell them to stop altogether; some have even tried to argue with me because "other people like it like t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 07:12 PM
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Thanks, overlord. Any chance of some extra dehydrated rations?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 04:29 PM
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Ah fuck it, stick me on Tingler. Sounds like I'll be left alone in my pod most of the time, and when I'm not - at least I'll be getting my rocks off with a hottie.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 04:26 PM
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Do you have to choose one or the other, or can you opt out entirely and live a solitary existence? Once you've experienced love and lust together, one without the other sounds hellish.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 04:16 PM
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She should deadpan stick her finger in the coffee then immediately go and start cleaning out the gunk in the ice machine with her bare hands, or pick some spilled food up off the floor without wearing gloves.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 02:31 PM
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Hahahah I'm probably not describing it very well. It's just like a latex bra harness thing - lingerie shops like Agent Provocateur have them all the time. But to me, it looked like she was getting ready to send those pictures off to J. Jonah Jameson.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 02:24 PM
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Oh man, one of the first women I slept with when I started dating again came over to my house (bear in mind this was peak Panny D when everything was shut, so house meets were the only option) with a vibrator, ball gag and a latex outfit that to me looked like Doctor Octopus' arm harness thing. I'm not meaning to imply that I'm a prude - ball gags aren't really all that out there and I've messed around with vibrators before, but I just found it crazy that she brought this stuff over on our first…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 01:56 PM
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Top tip: delete the camera roll after you've got your perfect shot. Nothing worse than trying to show Helen in work a picture of your cat and having to panic-scroll past 230 failed knob shots.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 01:18 PM
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I get ya, but I'm just not a fan of taking still pictures of my genitals. When asked, I'd usually go for the hardon outline through trousers, which seemed to do the trick, or when I got a bit bolder I'd do short wanking clips that include torso and face. Just not a fan of the knob photograph. Seems garish to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 01:04 PM
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I'm convinced that porn has warped women's brains as much as it has men's. I was in a relationship from 2010 to 2019 so was completely out of the dating game during the whole Tinder revolution. The main thing I noticed after starting dating again in 2020 was that women are very "pornified" nowadays. You can't get a decent handjob or blowjob any more - they all do the super-vigorous ripping the head off your cock thing that you see in porn. It got to the point that I'd prefer a woman didn't bothe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 12:36 PM
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An acquaintance of mine cheated on her husband with a guy who frequented the bar I used to work in. This guy was known as "Nazi Cock" because he had a swastika tattooed on his penis, and liked to show everyone. Moral of the story is - it's not just men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 10:35 AM
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I get ya now - fair point.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 10:03 PM
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My only issue with your logic is the apparent assumption that women don't pump and dump. Every woman I know has done it, and I've had it done to me a few times too. The woman = monogamous relationship seeker and man = shagabout until he's tied down has never really been my experience of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 10:00 PM
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What is "down astronomically"? Down for astronomy?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 09:08 PM
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Are you in the UK, by chance? I've rarely been on a proper first date that didn't end in sex. We are a people who like to get our hole, regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 07:45 PM
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Yeah, I don't really think that putting some makeup on compares to the 15+ hours of working out you've got to do per week in order to maintain yourself at the modern beauty standard for a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 05:04 PM
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Fully agree. People in general need to stop accepting sub-par behaviour from their partners. My opinion on why so many people, men and women both, accept shit tier partners is because society pushes the idea that in order to be a successful human, you have to have a wife/husband. Mass peer pressure makes people desperate, and propagates a "you'll do" mentality... which inevitably results in unhappy and broken relationships when things don't work out. Hard as it is, we need to ignore societal pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 05:00 PM
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First of all: I don't believe in 80/20. I have no male friends in my social circle who have ever had trouble finding partners - whether casual or serious. Are you telling me that we're all Chads? A group of 12 guys, all of whom are Chads? It's nonsense. A Reddit cope. Second: 50k P.A. is enough to give a family with three kids an upper-middle class lifestyle in the UK (*except in London). If a child's father is earning 50k, you can be sure that kid is going on at least two foreign holidays a yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 04:48 PM
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I have been told on PPD that I am an alpha gigachad thundercock, an incel, too alpha, too beta, too old to have an opinion, and too young to have an opinion. Most on here don't have a fucking clue what they're talking about. It's 90% damaged people who are just looking to hurt others, and 10% normal discussion. Addictive tho tbf.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 01:24 PM
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I much prefer monogamy for the emotional closeness and friendship it provides. Even when I have slept around in the past, it was out of necessity - not choice. My romantic experience differs from the PPD norm in that I have always found it very easy to get casual partners, but quite difficult to find a woman who just wants to be with one man. Casual encounters - to me - are empty and nerve-wracking. You don't have the best sex or have the most enjoyable time with a stranger, or someone who you k…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 10:34 AM
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Unkempt feet. I'm not a foot person, but nevertheless I'm immediately turned off if a woman has uncared for feet. Also outy belly buttons. Fuck no. No explanation needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 08:43 PM
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I don't think there's a one size fits all answer here. She might just dislike coffee, and have no idea that what she said is a minor social faux pas. And that's fine - she's a human being and we can't all say the right thing all the time. That said, a first date should not be an occasion where either party feels like they are trapped or obligated to stay. I would not go for food with a woman on a first date because my priorities are a) ascertaining that she is who she said she is, b) ascertainin…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:00 PM
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Calling you gay if you reject them. That's a big one. Saying you're not a real man if you don't want to undertake the financial responsibility of another man's children. The expectation that you should want sex from them 24/7, and their anger if you don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 06:34 PM
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I'll do myself and a few of my couple friends. My 4 relationships: Me (6) and her (8) [late teens relationship]. Me (7) and her (8) [20s relationship]. Me (8) and her (6) [early 30s relationship]. Me (7) and her (9) [now]. Couple 1: Him (7) and her (5). Together 6 years. Couple 2: Him (8) and her (6). Together 4 years. Couple 3: Him (6) and her (5). Together 7 years. Couple 4: Him (8) and her (9). Together 4 years. Separated 4 years. Back together 6 months. Couple 5: Him (7) and her (5). Togethe…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 06:09 PM
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Fuck yes, having cats seems to bring out the weirdos and complete social incompetents. First message on Bumble around the same time: Her: "You have cats?" Me: "Yus I have 3." Her: "I don't like cats." COOL. NEVER ASKED THOUGH. OLD sucks balls, but it's worth it when it pays off and you find someone nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:30 PM
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Now that's an interesting thought. I hadn't considered this. Yes, I think that having a pre-requisite of strong sexual chemistry and attraction makes it easier for me not to care about body count. I don't think it's the only reason, but I recognise its contribution.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 01:21 AM
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But I think by uploading it to Tiktok afterwards you're kinda forfeiting your title as noble crime archivist.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 01:08 AM
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I mean regardless of demographics, they filmed it instead of calling the police. That's 21st century human trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:34 AM
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Personally wouldn't fuck either.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:07 AM
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Question is a bit strange, and not sure I'm the target audience as I don't care about body count, but: Surely feeling purely sexually desired is a requisite for a relationship anyway? Personally, I wouldn't even consider a relationship with a woman who doesn't want to rip my clothes off. Anything less is surely a recipe for disaster?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 11:26 PM
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I find it very difficult to tell the difference between an 8 and a 10. Same for 4 and a 6. Hot, not, and average would be my preferred rating system.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 11:24 PM
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Feel you on that last one. Was on a first date in January with a woman who was downright offended when I ordered an oat milk latte. Wouldn't stop going on about how she hates vegans and thinks veganism is wrong, unhealthy, unnatural, unethical etc. My profile literally has 3 words on it: Cats. Weightlifting. Vegan. Wtf was going through her mind agreeing to that date???
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 10:03 PM
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I'll worry when I hear the air raid siren.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 09:15 PM
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That gum you like is going to come back in style?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 08:14 PM
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Welp, I guess the consolation is that it's not limited to one specific gender then. Boggles the mind why people do this. I'd be mortified about being confronted over such a bald-faced lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 08:11 PM
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Do men lie on dating apps as much as women do? Thinking back to when I used them. You'd get women who use pictures from 2012 have packed on 150lbs since then; women who tell you they have no kids but it turns out their kid lives with the dad 95% of the time so it "doesn't count"; women who say they work in digital marketing which turns out to be an Instagram page for their pug with 600 followers. Okay, these aren't outright lies, but it's duplicitous behaviour nonetheless. Seems like they'd let …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 08:02 PM
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Am man, so answering from the opposite side. Personally, not a fan of girls who "aren't like other girls". I like women. I like women who enjoy womany things. I don't want another mate to drink beer with, because I already have plenty of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 07:28 PM
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Tbf I'm in a happy, loving relationship with a wonderful woman and still talk badly about a certain type of woman on here. Just because I found a good one, doesn't mean they're all good. Same logic for women I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 06:00 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 05:09 PM
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My experience is that body count often comes up quite quickly once things get serious. But then again, I do like to go deep with conversations, so it's just a topic that comes up naturally. 95% of my partners haven't cared. Two or three have told me that I'm disgusting and went in a huff, but as it turned out they ended up having extreme jealousy issues anyway. I've never been fussed either way about their counts. I've been with women who have had two previous partners, and women who have had 50…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 01:12 PM
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I've heard of the studies, but I have a bit of a strange bias since the only partners who have ever cheated on me are ones who have had low body counts, and the high body count partners I've had have been extremely loyal and dedicated. I fully understand that's anecdotal and goes against the findings of the study, but nevertheless I find it difficult to square my experience with their conclusions. My view, there's three reliable indicators of whether a woman will cheat: 1) How she handles hersel…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 01:04 PM
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Thanks for sharing that. I understand and empathise completely. I also agree with you that body count is not a reliable indicator of propensity to cheat, but I think my personal experience with that has probably made me biased (all the partners who have cheated on me have had low body counts, and the most dedicated and loyal have had high ones... that's given me a bit of a skewed perspective on things). I think you've got a lot to be proud of here. The fact that you're cognisant of your behaviou…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 12:56 PM
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What's the worry if a woman has a high body count? Asking with honest intent, because it's something that's never bothered me. Is it the fear that it's an indicator of her propensity to cheat?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 12:25 PM
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I really don't think it would have that much of an impact on society or dating at all. Unless it's ridiculously high or freakishly low, I've found that most people in real life don't care about body counts. The monofocus obssession with it I see on Reddit really does seem to be a Reddit thing. Perhaps the type of person who is predisposed to using Reddit is the type of person who is also predisposed to caring about body counts, but my experience? Nah most people dgaf.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 12:05 PM
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I think this must be an American cultural difference thing. Women where I am don't care about money at all. It's 100% looks and to a lesser extent sociability. Some of the biggest shaggers I know are unemployed and still live with their parents age 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 11:52 AM
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Those people are vermin. Forget the age thing - your boyfriend sounds like a keeper. Have fun at the gym. 99.9% of us there are just normal folks having a little workout.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 12:07 AM
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Acht, I don't think that's necessarily it, in your case. Some women are just broken and love abusers. I'm sure there's a psychological reason for it, but at the end of the day you're best just forgetting about it and moving on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 11:54 PM
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Yup, pretty much. Got to make sure they cum each and every time, or else they'll find it somewhere else. That's been my experience anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 11:25 PM
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I'll try, but I really only have a one-sided experience because I started with a full sleeve when I was 18 and haven't really stopped in the 17 years since, so I don't really know what it's like to be un-tattooed. It can be pretty polarising, I'd say. There are women who are completely disgusted by tattoos, so you'll not even be on their radar. There are also women who like a specific style of trendy tattoo on guys, but don't like tattoos in general. I was with someone like this for a while, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 10:26 PM
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When the effort is not reciprocated. When you're giving your best and she's meeting it at every turn - that's perfection, not simping. When you're giving your best and she's giving the bare minimum - that's simping.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 09:27 PM
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That's how I understand it. Any sort of effort, affection, reciprocation, emotionality, show of dependence or weakness at all by a woman qualifies them as a "pick me". Any woman who is having a fulfilling, healthy, respectful relationship is a subhuman pickmeisha.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 09:07 PM
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Learning to make xiao long baos because her partner likes them. Did you not read the post? I've saw FDSers saying that cooking for a man at all is "pick me" behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 08:56 PM
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Hmmm, I've seen women on that sub do less than this for their boyfriends and get called pickme for it...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 08:46 PM
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I think your boyfriend is a great partner, and I think you are a great partner. This is what relationships should be like in terms of giving and receiving. That said (and correct me if I'm wrong here), I believe the fact that you do anything reciprocal for your partner at all makes you a "pick me" in the eyes of FDS.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 08:04 PM
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You've got a point. Maybe I just need to lighten the fuck up a bit about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 06:29 PM
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Maybe not 150%, but she's not wrong troops. Dock boots, desert boots, classic casuals like Nike Tanjuns or Adidas Sambas. They make much more of an impact that you might think.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:18 PM
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That actually does makes sense. Personally I wish tattoos weren't fetishised at all, but hey ho. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:15 PM
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I can't stress enough how much you don't want to be with a woman who's primary interest in you is your tattoos though. It's not the pleasant experience people might think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:01 PM
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Same. I can't fucking stand the black and grey realism trend. Much prefer the timeless classics.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 04:51 PM
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I think that Reddit really suffers from this misconception quite badly - there's no single theory that explains human life, or human emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 04:41 PM
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Oh yes, poor quality tattoos will always be poor quality tattoos, but my experience when dating fairly recently was that there's a certain style of work that's really trendy at the moment, and women seem to drool over it (black and white sleeve with roses, pocket watch and a lion's face - I'm sure you know what I mean, it's everywhere). Other classic stuff like Sailor Jerry or Japanese is really "out" right now, so if you've got more traditional tattooing you're viewed as a bit of an unhip dinos…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 04:39 PM
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As a heavily tattooed man: it's hit or miss. There are as many women who will hate your tattoos as there are women who love them. And more often than not, the women who fetishise your tattoos are not the type you want to be with in the first place. In my opinion, it's a zero sum game.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 04:16 PM
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I'm not RP hence answering on automod. My point (and maybe this is the true BlackPill?) is that these very factors matter more than all this Alpha Gigachad LARPing? This is my experience as well. The Red Pill folk would call me beta soyboy niceguy etc etc, but at the end of the day I've never had any issues attracting a multitude of good-looking, pleasant women by just being myself. I get that the alpha gigachad LARP is a helpful template for guys who haven't got great social skills, or who have…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 04:09 PM
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I am a man and I am definitely hypergamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 10:38 AM
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I'm the man in this scenario so I'd be the one getting tested. I say absolutely: I'd like to know the results too. How often do you think killers wake up and think "today is the day I end someone's life"? Rarely. A lot of humans have the propensity for extreme violence, and often tragically don't find out about until they're in the situation and it's too late. I worked with a guy who had been in jail for murder. We were both bouncers at the same club. In the late 90s, he was on a night out and s…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 07:06 PM
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Not being confident is generally seen as unattractive though, so I'm sure you'll understand the source of my confusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 01:48 PM
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That's a strange one. Are you attracted to insecurity then?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 11:28 AM
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Next time I see one, I'll reply to this comment with it, including link and quotation. I'm not wasting my Saturday reading through screeds of text to find a historic example though. I'm sure you'll understand that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 12:28 PM
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I'm a man and have a fairly close lesbian friend who I've known for 12 years. I've always been friendly with her exes and her current girlfriend too. We've double dated many, many times. I'd be open to having more lesbian friends, but many of them seem to be openly hostile to heterosexual men. Not much else to say on the subject really.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 07:59 PM
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One of the actors in Squid Game, Lee Byung-Hun, is one of the few dudes I've seen who (in my personal opinion) is universally attractive. Didn't know who he was until I watched I Saw The Devil, and immediately I thought jesus fucking christ that is a goodlooking man. Don't know why I told you this, I just have mancrush on the fella I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 04:57 PM
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Ask her if she fancies Danny Dyer next time you guys speak. It'll give her a good laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 03:05 PM
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What gave it away, was it the being sick in a Wetherspoons toilet?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 03:03 PM
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You might find this study from Frontline Psychology, published on 21 August 2018, to be interesting. It's the work of a number of researchers from the University of Turin, entitled "When Intimate Partner Violence Meets Same Sex Couples: A Review of Same Sex Intimate Partner Violence." Here's an extract of the abstract: Over the past few decades, the causes of and intervention for intimate partner violence (IPV) have been approached and studied. This paper presents a narrative review on IPV occur…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 03:02 PM
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I get ya. For some unknown reason, I thought he would be the example of this caveman archetype that women absolutely drooled over for inexplicable reasons. I know a lot of women who really fancy the actor Danny Dyer, for example, even although he looks like a bloke you'd see being sick in the urinal of a Wetherspoons on a Friday night.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 02:54 PM
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World heavyweight boxing champion. He fits the physical archetype very well, without also being facially very good looking like, for example, Jason Statham. Go Google him, if you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 02:48 PM
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Do women find Tyson Fury attractive? Just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 02:44 PM
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I would not advise using the dating/getting to know people subs on here. Personal experience: I tried it last year when I was single, because I thought it was worth a shot to help me find a more introspective partner than I might find on OLD. My two stipulations were: be located in Western Europe, and if you're inboxing me then include a pic (I put 5 or 6 of mine on an Imgur which I attached to the post - fair is fair). Got about 700 replies, the vast majority of which were from the US and South…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 02:33 PM
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Reddit certainly seems to say so, and I won't lie - I have been with a couple of women who I felt either intentionally got me in to fights with other men, or purposefully pushed my buttons themselves until I got angry. But in my experience that's the minority. Most women react extremely adversely to any form of anger and aggression. There's a reason they all complain about men who punch holes through walls, after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 02:04 PM
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I'm not Red Pill, nor do I take note of anything they say. Those statistics are taken from the National Council Against Domestic Violence website. It's on their front page: https://ncadv.org/ You may want to push the narrative that lesbians never commit DV, and it's the sole domain of us evil heterosexuals, but thousand of abused women each year would disagree with you. As would the American CDC, Stonewall, End the Violence UK, and others. Denying a problem exists instead of taking steps to redr…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 01:43 PM
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Yeah but which would you rather?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 01:27 PM
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They're the ones Calhoun wanted to fuck. Edit: Nah, the actual criteria is in the paper. It's a good read tbh. Even just skim through the pop-sci websites' summations of it. Good for a toilet read.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 01:24 PM
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There's a reason the study isn't cited as viable sociological evidence any more though. The variables exert too much influence for it to be reliable. I want to conduct my own study on you though. My question is: would you rather live in a mud hut eating rice and beans every day surrounded by 20 kids if it meant you would be having regular sex, or would you rather continue on with your comfortable first-world life if it meant you remain sexless for eternity?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 01:24 PM
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Sure thing. Here's a study from 2009 which focuses on the results of Calhoun's experiments up to the 1970s in which he changed the layout of the apartments to see how this would affect mortality: Ramsden, Edmund and Jon Adams. 2009. Escaping the Laboratory:The Rodent Experiments of John B. Calhoun & Their Cultural Influence. Calhoun found that he could reduce mortality rates by reorganising the box corridor system which he had initially used, leading him and subsequent researchers to believe tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 01:07 PM
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So by your logic, the child who guesses the correct answer by chance is equally as good a student as the one who shows their workings, and the process by which they arrived at the answer? Your conclusion might be correct - I don't really know, or have an opinion either way. But your workings, and the process by how you arrived here is junk. If you believe yourself to be a mouse, the solution to your sexlessness is to be more aggressive. Why don't you try it and see how it works for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 01:00 PM
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That's not what modern reappraisal of the collapse says though: the most up to date understanding is that the collapse was caused by the way the habitat was constructed. I really recommend people actually read things before they talk about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 12:51 PM
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I'm just focusing on deconstructing the paper you're using as evidence to support your point. If you're not familiar with the study, its control groups, its findings and its modern reappraisal, then why even mention it? I know it's been going around in a lot of pseudosciencey Facebook posts recently and that's why people are talking about it, but y'know... it's disingenuous not to use it properly. I thought Redditors were all supposed to be STEM nerds obsessed with data and objective truth??? A …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 12:49 PM
2

Oh right, I see. Regardless: if the aggressive and the beautiful are the same group in human society, that would mean Calhoun's study in which they were two distinct groups is entirely inappropriate for mapping onto human behaviour. N.B. As an aside, I haven't experienced many women who welcome aggression. A small cadre - yes, absolutely. But not the norm. But that's completely personal experience, and has no bearing on the applicability of the mouse study at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 12:23 PM
2

That's not what the study said. The apartments into which the mice were placed were like box tunnels - this meant that it was easy for the aggressive mice to control the corridors and thereby isolate the beautiful mice in their small habitats. This led to lack of socialisation, and ultimately death. Aggressive and beautiful mice were two distinct control groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 12:09 PM
0

The findings of John Calhoun's mouse utopia study have been re-examined in the 60 years since it took place. The dominant interpretation now is that the aggressive mice killed off the beautiful mice, and that is what caused societal collapse. So if you believe that humans are the same as mice, and you're one of the beautiful mice who are being killed off (in your case genetically, by being denied your Nat King Cole by women), then the answer is for you to become an aggressive mouse. Of course, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 12:00 PM
1

Hmmmm... Given that roughly 45% of lesbians have reported that they have been the victim of domestic violence in their relationships (35% of heterosexual women and 25% of heterosexual men self-report as having experienced DV, for comparison), I'm not entirely sure how that protector thing is working out for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 11:06 AM
1

My ex with whom I am still friends is 30 and engaged to a 53 year old who works in an Amazon warehouse for minimum wage. You have no idea what you're talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 07:45 PM
1

So to be clear, you think that 35 and 28 is a May-December pairing? That's a pretty short year. What's the average life expectancy where you live, 37?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 07:40 PM
1

Are you asking me for a picture comparison of myself? I look exactly the same at 35 as I did at 25, except with more tattoos. Willing to put my money where my mouth is on that too. A guy came to the door last week selling broadband and asked me if my parents were home, for fuck's sake. I know most Redditors are very young and don't have any real idea of what adults look like at different ages, but unless you're working down a coal mine you're not looking much different from mid-20s to mid-30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 07:38 PM
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My friend got called an incel the other week on a FB film discussion group we're both in. His profile picture was a professional shot of him kissing his wife on their wedding day, with confetti flying around them and everything. Words have lost all meaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 06:11 PM
2

Feel for ya man. The big issue I used to run in to is that I have pretty extensive tattoo coverage. Full Japanese bodysuit that I've been getting done slowly over 18 years, plus hands. I know there is negative perceptions about heavy tattooing, and I accept that won't be some women's cup of tea. They're not the problem. The problem is the women whose cup of tea it REALLY is. Without fail, they will make certain assumptions about me, and get very disappointed when they find out I'm upper manageme…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 02:42 PM
5

Eh, hopefully never? It disturbs me to see men my age on this thread who are ready to lie down and die. I was in a relationship for 10 years and even at the end we had regular sex. Now, at 35, I'm still as interested in sex as I ever was, and my libido has hardly diminished from when I was a teenager.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 02:06 PM
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Might be a medical thing fella. I'm a similar age (35) and can still go twice or three times in a row, every other day. No shame in going to the doctor. Catch whatever it is early, if that's the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 01:58 PM
4

They barely do. Our survey says: that's a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 12:09 PM
2

that women actually "like" sex? Most women say they hate it, most women don't desire it or initiate it. What the fuck women say this? Everyone woman I've ever been with has loved sex and initiated as much, or more, as I did. Do you perhaps live in a nunnery?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 12:06 PM
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That's one scenario, yes. But I've also heard people say it to those with chronic illnesses; those who are drowning in debt; those stuck in abusive relationships; and those who have lost everything. It's shorthand for "fuck off". Not implying that I'm better than everyone and have never said it - just telling it like it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 11:58 AM
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100%. It's a polite way of saying "Stop talking. I can't be bothered listening to you any more."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 09:12 AM
1

You definitely do give off "I studied the blade" vibes tbf.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 09:02 AM
1

Oh, my mistake. From the way you write, you seemed like the type.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 08:51 AM
1

How much anime have you watched today?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 08:37 AM
2

Definitely not weird. Any guy who doesn't like it is the weird one. My guess: they have control issues. In fact, it might be a good way to weed out controlling dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 04:20 PM
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Mind???? I'd be fucking overjoyed if a woman had kissed me first on a date, or in any other situation. If I had to guess, I've kissed about 60 women in my life, and exactly 0 of them kissed me first. It's not something that bothers me, but it would have been nice to get kissed at least once.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 03:49 PM
2

Nothing to challenge here. I'd go even further: Every first date I've been on - if there hasn't been at least one kiss by the end of it, then she's not been interested enough in me to make a second date ask appropriate. After a kissless first date, the chat has fizzled out every single time, without fail. Obviously there are outliers, etc etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 03:20 PM
1

Plot twist: you're posting from the nonce wing of a high security prison.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 02:59 PM
3

No matter how hard you try to normalise it, most men aren't diddlers. I assume you have male friends or family members IRL? Next time you're with them and see a 15 year old you find attractive, tell the men you're with what you think. Report back with your findings.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 02:41 PM
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It's not normal mate. You're not normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 02:20 PM
3

I fully understand you. If it helps, I think this attitude is really pushed to a ridiculous extent on Reddit, and it's very harmful for the self-esteem of its user base. Yes, everyone ages. But if you exercise, don't smoke, don't overuse alcohol and drugs, drink water and moisturise, then you're going to look relatively similar at 25 and 35, and you're probably still going to look pretty good at 50 too. This "hit the wall" thing is nonsense for both genders. I've seen gorgeous, youthful 40 year …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 02:18 PM
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80% agree, 20% disagree. Nice doesn't mean doormat. A lot of men mix that up, put women on a pedestal and have no self-respect. They're shooting themselves in the foot, and I can't blame women for not being attracted to that behaviour. THAT SAID, I have firsthand experienced women who are actively looking for someone who is a bad person. Without getting in to specifics, there are things about me physically and otherwise that can make women assume that I am a "bad boy". And they become attracted …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 02:10 PM
1

Oh, I know fine well what she's trying to do. But the more she talks, the more she reveals her own hangups and insecurities, while gaining nothing from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 01:47 PM
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My age slider on Tinder was set from 27 to 42. So you're entirely wrong about me solely seeking out younger partners - although truth be told I have found the dynamic of the man being slightly older works better for both parties. I also had two casual things with women my age (34 and 36), but they both straight-up told me that they were looking for someone older to pursue a serious relationship with, and that they'd feel like cougars if they were out in public with me on account of me not lookin…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 01:32 PM
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I'll use my own example to illustrate. I was with a 29 year old woman when I was 32. She had no job, no educational qualifications, still lived at home with her parents, had no life skills, and was only interested in partying as much as she could. But 3 year age difference so she's at the same stage in life as me, right? I'm now 35 and with a 28 year old (7.5 year age gap) who has a master's degree (like me), a career (like me), is a homeowner (like me) and we spend our weekends at flea markets,…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 12:56 PM
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That's what men want. Let me fix that for you: that's what nonces want. The majority of normal men want to be with a woman 3-8 years younger than themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 12:28 PM
3

Attack of the George Clones.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 12:25 PM
2

Personally, any kind of group sex with multiple partners regardless of gender is a dealbreaker for me, as is someone who fantasises about that kind of thing. Enjoying group sex is an indicator that you need massive amounts of stimulation to get off. You're never going to make someone like that cum, so the relationship is doomed from the start. If you're talking to many women and they all fantasise about gangbangs, you gotta up the calibre of woman you engage with, lad. Most women I've known seem…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:47 AM
1

In the past, I've said that I don't know what I'm looking for/just seeing what happens because I didn't want to scare the woman off. In my experience, women don't like it when you're too committment-minded during the initial dating phase. They want some ambiguity, and want to work for your attention a bit. Which makes sense - no one wants a desperado after all. So I kept it intentionally vague, even when I really, really liked someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:34 AM
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Gangbangs are a different animal entirely. I'm talking about regular hookups within the realms of normal sexual behaviour. Someone who is having gangbangs is broken in the head. Do you meet a lot of women who have had gangbangs that this is a concern for you? 35 years I haven't encountered a single one, thankfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:23 AM
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Was in a relationship for almost ten years. Never noticed any lessening of enthusiasm for sex from either of us. I think if I was in an LTR and felt that way, I'd probably end it. Edit: end the relationship I mean, not my life. Just reread and realised how that sounded.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 11:32 PM
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Of course we do. Qualifications, whether they're educational or vocational, are a great general indicator of earning potential. And if you're making a life with someone, you have to think about joint finances and what kind of lifestyle the pair of you are going to lead. The PPD trend for wanting women barefoot and semi-literate is bizarre to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 07:53 PM
13

No idea what other men think, and I realise that my experience and opinions may be different from the average PPDer, so take what I say with a pinch of salt. Personally, when I was dating I wouldn't just smash every woman who expressed interest. You might call me lazy, harsh, or picky, but if she wasn't a 7 in my eyes, I wouldn't even bother. So that's baseline level of attractiveness right off the bat. As for character/personality traits that make someone girlfriend material - yes, I had quite …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 04:08 PM
4

Bobby Cannavale, Gerard Pique, Ryan Gosling, Vin Diesel, Paul Thomas Anderson, Enrique Iglesias...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 12:08 PM
1

I used to use mushrooms quite regularly when I was young, but stopped due to a series of bad trips. Microdosing is something I've considered, but ultimately it's too nebulous to take a risk with. I've actually been on medication for ten years for an unrelated issue (OCD), and it has a nice knock-on effect of not letting me get too caught up in any fight or flight response that I get - I actually haven't even been in a physical fight in 8 years now, and before that it was another 2, so it seems l…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 12:51 AM
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The average looking single men I know tend to have sex with 1 or 2 partners a year, whereas the average looking single women I know tend to have sex with 3 or 4 partners a year. I don't know anyone who has trouble finding partners for casual or serious encounters, regardless of their attractiveness level. But obviously, it's easier for more attractive people since they have more options. I know no sexless/incel people in real life at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 12:02 AM
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Your first point is definitely accurate. In fact, when I reported what was going on, the response from the school was that I need to have empathy that these kids come from broken homes, low income families, and bad situations. I'm no expert in handling child conflict, but I'm just not convinced that was the right thing to say to a 14 year old who'd just had his head jumped on by five people...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 10:51 PM
2

North Sentinel Island Luckily my idea of a perfect 10 is "woman who is willing to cannibalise stray fisherman and obnoxious missionaries".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 07:35 PM
1

Scenario: you find your perfect 10 but she's had more partners than you are comfortable with, or is in debt, or has a lot of tattoos, or has a child, or is career-focused, or is childfree, or is left-wing, or has dyed hair, or wears makeup. What do?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 07:31 PM
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You're exactly right. It never goes away. For me, the thing that sticks out as the worst thing that ever happened was when I had my head stomped on by five people, which resulted in a fractured orbital and a concussion. My transgression was wearing black Converse shoes, which were seen as "goth clothes" back then. People wonder why I'm cagey, hyperalert, and quick to get an adrenaline rush even now, 21 years after it happened. The feeling that you have to constantly be on guard to defend yoursel…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 06:35 PM
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Yep, he sounds like exactly the type who would have thrived at my school. I find it fascinating that despite any difference in culture, gender, socioeconomic status, or anything else, children seem to have a knack for creating their own version of hell, and subjecting their peers to it. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have been one of those people who totally flew under the radar of bullies, but at the end of the day we can't change the past. In any case, you seem quite levelheaded for som…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 02:47 PM
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To be clear though: I never valued their opinions - I always thought they were idiots. I was just scared of them. But your point rings true regardless: I'm ashamed at the fact that I was once so scared of complete losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 02:35 PM
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No such thing as jocks or cheerleaders where I grew up, so it's not something I'm familiar with. My assumption was that the sociable, attractive, sporty and successful American children (jocks and cheerleaders) would bully the "losers". Whereas where I grew up, the bullies were themselves "losers". Not in the sense that they were nerdy; but they were often from broken homes with alcoholic/drug addict parents, not the most physically attractive, not the most socially capable, definitely not the m…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 02:18 PM
8

Perfect description here imo. Even as a child, when people would say to me that "it gets better" or "karma will get them" - I knew it was nonsense, and that I'd have to claw through the mud on my own if I wanted anything, in any aspect of life. You're totally right about it making the world seem colder, but personally I'd rather live in the cold than in fantasy land. I'm always very interested to hear about (just presuming here) the experiences of American Redditors when it comes to childhood bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 01:58 PM
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I'm glad you've found a way to accept it. For my situation, all of the people who made my life hell as a child are either dead, addicted to heroin, in jail, or (best case scenario) the classic combo of obese, bald, unemployed/shitty job, with a miserable family life, no prospects and poor health. You'd think I'd be laughing like a drain, but somehow this knowledge makes it worse, and I'm not exactly sure why. I actually try not to ponder on it too much, because it makes me think unhealthy though…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 01:43 PM
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I don't have anything close to a comprehensive answer (who does?), but I'd like to challenge the notion that the damage/bitterness goes away once you have achieved said "reward". I had a very rough time when I was at school, but things did a complete 180 the second I went to university, and since then I've achieved all the things you list as karmic recognition. It would be easy to believe that those things are my "reward" for 17 years of suffering, but that's magical thinking nonsense. Even now,…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 12:13 PM
1

This is Reddit. Everyone will agree with whoever is ugliest, not hottest.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 11:30 AM
1

Fully agree. An example from the converse is my friend who got called an incel on an FB film discussion group we're in, despite the fact that his profile picture is a professional shot of him kissing his wife on their wedding day, with confetti flying around them and everything. People see what they want to see, regardless of reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 10:02 AM
3

Ever posted on one of the looks rating subs? I did a few years ago when I started dating again after 10 years off the market and wanted to get a feel for what people on OLD would think when they saw my pics. Absolutely no help whatsover. I know I have a very polarising look, but nevertheless the rankings were spread to the extremes of the spectrum to the extent that I came away even more confused than before I had posted. If it taught me anything, it's that unless you're an unequivocal 10 or 0, …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 09:37 AM
2

Well, testosterone drops with age at a rate of 2% on average per year between ages 30 and 40. I think naturally decreasing testosterone plays a part for sure, but if we're talking maximum 20% decrease, there has to be some other factors at play as well. Something about age and wisdom perhaps. All that horseshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 08:45 PM
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I had very few platonic female friends when I was in my teens and early 20s, but now in my mid-30s, most of my platonic friends are women. Some of them are very attractive, but I'm not interested in them in a sexual way for a number of reasons. I think it becomes more common as you get older - less horny teenage boy hormones rampaging through your body.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 07:24 PM
3

Do it all the same just to humour us. Please.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 05:24 PM
2

Please post yourself on /r/truerateme and report back with the results.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 04:56 PM
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No. She refused to acknowledge it was a problem and kept doing it, so it was one of the things that made me decide to end the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 12:49 PM
1

Yes, 100%. Don't commit to someone unless you're willing to go all in. Don't settle for second best/minimum effort from a partner. This is basic self-respect stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 11:02 AM
1

I'm in a relationship now, but when I was single I would have casual/NSA sex. Absolutely not. I have no interest in being with someone who is paid to pretend to enjoy the experience. Consenting, enthusiastic, honest partners only for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 11:00 AM
3

Someone I dated would get extremely argumentative and abusive during her period. I would not date someone like that again.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 10:52 AM
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The person you're replying to is a bona fide delusional idiot. She frequently describes herself as a 10/10 on this sub, but if you look at her pornography that she's linked in her profile (lol), well... just have a look. Not worth your time engaging with lunacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 10:29 AM
2

Pro-indy, pro-EU, anti-monarchy, anti-faith school.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 10:18 AM
2

I agree. The only thing is, it rarely works. It's a rare person who is introspective enough to link consequences to their own behaviour. Which kind of makes it a real last ditch thing. Maybe 1 in 100 times would this approach be successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 02:43 PM
1

Ideally most men want to choose a woman with little to no dating/sexual experience. This is kinda just a Reddit opinion. Most men in real life want women with average dating/sexual experience. Someone who is socially and sexually normal is more desirable than an Amish virgin. Anyway: personally I'd prefer A, because I've been in situation B a few times before and it's usually a big red flag. For me, I'm a man with very heavy tattoo coverage. I've been with women who had a run of exes, all of who…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 10:38 AM
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I don't know about other men, but for me: I was a bad boy, now I'm a good boy. I like women who were bad girls, but are now good girls. I just enjoy being with women who have the same energy and similar life experiences as me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 09:20 PM
0

Yeah, writing a dissertation on why you're not insecure has pretty much put you from "fairly insecure" to "extremely insecure" in my eyes. And as I've already told you, I don't watch porn anyway. So you're really just screaming in to the void here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 08:52 PM
3

Yeah, I'd say so. I was seeing a woman last year whose family were full-on god save the queen flagshaggers. Union Jack bunting in the garden, lodge members - the lot. She wasn't as into it as they were, but still... it was too much for me, even by association. Wouldn't do it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 11:59 PM
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Not even then. I think our experiences make us human, and a newborn has experienced nothing. That doesn't mean I'd support someone dashing a newborn's head against a rock, but it does mean that I don't believe in the concept of souls or "vital essence" or whatever you want to call it. I also think that in the grand scheme of things it's no great loss, because the western world is overpopulated by useless mouths anyway. We're getting more into the right wing side of my beliefs now, as you can see…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 12:18 PM
3

Personally, no. That's too different from my beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 12:11 PM
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She needs to be unflinchingly pro-choice, yes. Thankfully I have never encountered a woman IRL who wasn't. Except grannies and religious fruitcakes, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 12:05 PM
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Abortion, LGBT rights, Scottish independence, EU membership, stance on monarchy. If we don't gel on these issues, it's a no from me. Everything else is negotiable. Edit: faith schools too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 12:02 PM
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Depends on the issue. I have very left wing beliefs on some things, very right wing beliefs on others. Some of them are dealbreakers, others aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 11:58 AM
2

It's the love bombing that makes it immoral. I've pumped and dumped and been pumped and dumped - it's a normal part of life. But that's just the nature of casual sex. Leading someone on when you have no intent of carrying through with your promises is the bad bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 11:55 AM
0

I see. Personally, I would say that yes, you are fairly insecure, but your insecurity seems to manifest in a healthy and quite sweet way. I'm glad you've found something that works for you. Your relationship sounds like it's satisfying for both parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 09:43 AM
1

This comment is exactly why it's too difficult to talk about porn these days. The whole concept of what pornography is has changed. There's so much abusive and degrading stuff around that watching porn is already synonymous in your mind with disturbing sexual acts. I'd be interested in how you'd feel if you found out that your partner was wanking to the classic nudey mag or Page 3. 90s style - just naked women posing. Would that be the same thing, in your mind, as him watching choke/slap/piss vi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:56 AM
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Yes, every time. My partner is capable of multiples, so I make sure she has a few before PIV even starts. I try to hold out for one or two during PIV, but regardless I make sure there's a few more afterwards. I've always put in the effort to make sure that the woman I'm with cums either an equal amount to me, or more if possible. It's just common sense to me: I figure that if I don't make them cum regularly then they'll cheat or leave. Obviously that's something I want to avoid happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 07:57 AM
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Definitely depends on the friend group. I was mortified when I found out that an ex would show her friends pictures of my cock and videos of us having sex when she would get drunk. So fucking embarrassing for me, but she didn't think anything of it. The woman I'm with now wouldn't dream of doing something like that. Very private person with private friends/boundaries. I'm very thankful.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 07:50 AM
3

Neither do I, but it has come up time and again. Enough that I've noticed a pattern, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:35 PM
1

Based and brutalpilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 12:12 PM
2

I agree with everything you have to say. In the mid 2000s-early 2010s I was in a semi-successful band, and we'd frequently hang out with people who were proper big names in that world. About 50% of the time when I'd bring a woman I was seeing around these people, she'd go googly-eyed for them and completely ignore me. Obviously pretty devastating the first few times it happened, but after a while I realised - this is a fucking gift. A surefire way to see whether someone is actually interested in…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 12:11 PM
2

Yeah, in past relationships I have. She was in the mood and I wasn't, but I'd make her cum anyway because I guess that's what you have to do on occasion to keep a partner satisfied.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 11:46 AM
7

Fellas is it gay to get married
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 11:40 AM
4

I think this is just humans in general. Most people are unable to tell the difference between someone who is confident and assertive and someone who is domineering and aggressive. Source: look at the upper management of any medium to large company. And I say this as someone who is in upper management of a medium sized company. People don't have a fucking clue.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 07:33 PM
5

I was thinking along the lines of late bloomer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 12:52 PM
2

Yeah, fully admit that if my girlfriend was in to getting gang banged or even enjoyed it as a fantasy, that would be too much for me to handle. I'm fairly secure when it comes to sexuality - high body counts down bother me, for example. But gang bangs? Naw, too much for me. If that's insecurity then so be it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 12:42 PM
10

No, you should listen to the virginal teenager, he knows what you need better than you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 11:25 AM
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To be clear, I don't actually bother with porn any more. Not for any big dramatic reason, but I'm simply not interested in the extreme stuff which seems to be mainstream now, and while there is a lot of "wholesome" couples-created content, the act of sifting through the incest painal choking throatfuck stuff to find it is a pointless timesink and frankly a turnoff. Masturbating is supposed to be fun. I can't have fun if I've just seen thumbnails of people being degraded and abused. It's just not…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 11:18 AM
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Jealousy over fantasy that has no bearing on real life screams insecurity. However, if that's your standard then that's your standard. I don't think that insecurity is a mortal sin in a relationship. Most people are insecure, to some extent.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 10:52 AM
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It's not though. Look at the way people speak to each other on here for example. Some of the comments I've seen people make. If they did act like that IRL, we'd have a worldwide epidemic of broken jaws and digested teeth. Reddit is fantasy land.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 10:44 AM
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You'd be surprised - I read his biography (updated to include his killings as a medical student! lol) and he was quite brazen. Falsifying records, changing wills to make him the beneficiary. There were times when he'd OD two or three duffers in one day. How he got away with that I'll never know. Not physically dangerous of course, but it involved a lot of skillful manipulation. But of course yes, I know what you mean - it's not like he was killing men in the prime of their lives with his bare ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 12:35 AM
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I like it when serial killers do men though. It's like serial killing on hard mode. Separates the big boys from the weekend warriors.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 12:03 AM
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Toxic lack of accountability and proud of it. I've been with women like this before, and see when you do "call them out on their BS"? They flip their fucking lids and crumble as if you've just flushed their goldfish down the shiter. Imo, this statement is the number one biggest red flag there could ever be. Worse than "if you can't handle me at my worst". Someone who actively desires and expects conflict in a relationship? Fuck that, go find someone pleasant instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 12:01 AM
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When in a relationship, if you see me giving 100%, that's not your cue to say "oh it's cool - he's carrying this, I'll drop down to 20% effort". All that does is make me reduce my own effort. You can't put nothing in and expect to get lots in return. And of course, by the time you realise that, panic, and start pulling your weight again, I've lost interest. Consistent, reciprocal effort and appreciation please. It's not realistic that everyone gives their absolute best all the time, but just... …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:54 PM
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I don't want to get in to the inappropriate details - but yes, from firsthand experience of being with women and going by what my female friends have said in both serious and humourous contexts, it's safe to say that what they're describing is more like primal sexual appeal. I've actually been thinking about this since I made my last comment, and I have a theory. I think that the lack of errrr... how to describe it? Base sexual impulses? I'm seeing testified by American women on here might be du…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 09:18 PM
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There's absolutely no way to know for sure, but there are a lot of couples who - for example - have a joint social media presence to promote their content, where the woman dictates the majority of the direction of the material. And in these cases, the porn in question seems to be of the mutually enjoyable kind - no abuse, degredation, pain etc. At that point, we're no more able to tell how healthy their dynamic is than we would be able to tell from looking at a regular couple we see on the stree…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 09:08 PM
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I'm not intending to say anything bigoted or anti-American here, but I know it might be taken that way anyway. Here goes: I've read a lot of comments like this, and they're totally alien to me. I think it might be an American culture thing. I know you said you're not American, but I mean "people who live in the USA". I'm Scottish and women here are forever gushing over men. All my female friends constantly find the men they encounter to be very physically attractive. Of course, dead bedroom rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 08:52 PM
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You're 16? Still a child. Barely through puberty.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:27 PM
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Ever tried just having a shower though lad?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:23 PM
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My missus is 28. Her housemate is 29. My best friend's wife is 30. Her sister is 31. Her sister's boyfriend is 32. My friend's wife is 28. My other friend's wife is 33. My friend is 34. Her boyfriend is 32. I interact with all these people and more on a regular basis. All within the general age range of 28-36. They're all happy in relationships or marriages. And the ones that aren't are having fun playing the field. You're the freak outlier here.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:16 PM
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"it doesn't work for me therefore it shouldn't work for you either". How do you not understand that this isn't an argument...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 07:10 PM
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I dated in the current market. All fine and easy. The people on here are just maladaptives.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:47 PM
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Or - hear me out - a lot of women on Reddit are bitter, insecure, posturing liars, and are putting up a front to feel better about themselves. Meanwhile in real life men and women of all attractiveness levels have little problem finding partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:24 PM
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>girlfriend loves gang bangs Each to their own I suppose lad. Best of luck with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:38 PM
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Millenials are pushing 40 though. This website is populated by Zoomers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:36 PM
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ONLINE DATING IS EASIER THAN MEETING PEOPLE IN CLUBS AND PUBS. THERE, I SAID IT.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:01 PM
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Mate I think your problem is that you use terms like Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:59 PM
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I'd say that's a fair assessment. I'm making the assumption that you are a woman who doesn't want a partner who watches porn. And from what I've seen, that's because the mainstream porn industry is exploitative. Fair enough. My follow-up question is: where do you stand on a man who only consumes the type of porn described above (consenting couples)? This is a realistic option, considering that places like PH have more original content than professional videos being uploaded these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:58 PM
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This sub: 20 year old kissless virgin NEETs with autism telling socially/sexually successful people 10-15 years their senior that they're doing life wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:54 PM
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Surely you're stable enough to hear "nah that doesn't ring true for me" without getting triggered then?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:48 PM
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If you're in a position in your life where normal, functional, mundane attraction sounds like a completely alien humblebrag... lad you're in a bad way.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:40 PM
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Lol I don't need sex tips mate, I've made most of the women I've been with cum without any problems. My issue is that you can't get 3000 lumens from a 50 watt bulb. And I had a bad habit of picking 50 watt LED energy savers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:17 PM
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Never experienced this. Women are most into me when I'm into them. They get the hump, get offended, and go in moods when I'm indifferent to them. Treat 'em mean keep 'em keen has never rung true, for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:13 PM
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That makes sense, although I can't personally relate. I think it's time for me to admit that I'm shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:05 PM
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Yeah I got told the same and had this discussion on here last week. I'm not very good at picking women who are energetic or imaginative in bed. To be fair, my selection process is 100% "she's hot" with 0 consideration of anything else. So I can see how I'd have had more starfishes than your average, perhaps.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:04 PM
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ALCOHOL
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:59 PM
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In that case - they all talk big talk that they're raunchy ametuer porn starlets, but when it comes down to it they last 2 minutes on top before resorting to lights out starfish 🤙
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:55 PM
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2. Physically fit and healthy. Earn 4x the average wage in my country. Top 1% of earners in my age bracket. Own my dream home and plan to be mortgage free by 45, retire at 50. No kids THANK FUCK. Pets are all healthy. Found my ideal partner and have a perfect relationship. Attractiveness-wise I'm a solid 8 and that's fine. Happy with who I am as a person. Have loads of hobbies which I enjoy. Only negatives: chronic OCD. Had it since childhood, controlled with meditation and medication, but it wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:47 PM
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Guys who answered harem: why? Always been the opposite for me: always nailed things down with the best looking woman I can. So I don't really understand the harem mindset. Enlighten me?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:31 PM
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Yeah, that makes sense. One of the biggest challenges I had when going on OLD for the first time was getting over the embarrassment of taking a picture of myself. Men just aren't selfie takers. Speaking generally. We're socialised not to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:21 PM
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Question: how do you feel about the rise in ameteur couples porn that we've seen in recent years? The accessibility of 4k filming and broadband uploading speeds has caused a boom in couples who upload their own content to places like Pornhub for fun (and obstensibly profit, but I kinda doubt it). Clearly these aren't industry workers who are being exploited, trafficked or manipulated. They're people like me and you. In your view, is watching their videos still exploitation, from an ethics POV?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:19 PM
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See that's surprising to me, because most women say the opposite. Especially on here. Although I did know that women are more into BDSM than men, on average, apparently. So I guess it makes sense. My only concern is that the study is statistically flawed because Pornhub requires self-reporting of gender, and the type of women who go on Pornhub in the first place are obviously in to porn already. I'd like to see a proper, peer reviewed study on it though - just to see if the findings are the same…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:14 PM
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I think this is needlessly complicated and has too many hoops and games. Making things harder for yourself, it seems. I just chat away about nonsense, tease them a bit, suggest a meetup within a week of first talking. Proceed from there. Never do compliments, or call them "beautiful" or do good morning texts etc. That's cringe shit imo that should be saved for girlfriends and wives. I also never say anything sexual. Personally, I don't think women like knowing they've got a sure thing. Plus they…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:09 PM
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Let's see Paul Allen's texting routine.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:05 PM
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Even attractive men. It's 2021 women just aren't used to someone approaching these days. The dating apps are popular for a reason. I don't know why Reddit in particular is so against them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:01 PM
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Is that stuff genuinely what you're in to though? Just asking out of curiosity. If you feel comfortable saying, can you also say your age and what year you started watching porn?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:54 PM
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Blue waffle whipped cream Little Debbie felching nipple clamp bukakke minge stretcher speculum daddy baby CBT yodelling bumhole latex enclosure punishment bisected penis with a cock ring fart sniffing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:52 PM
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I don't, personally. But my point is that I don't want society at large going that way either. I think it's bad for men and women both.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:48 PM
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I'm talking about the male perspective too though. I don't really want to be in a mental place where I'm ejaculating to the experience of choking a woman unconscious. It's the difference between tanning a few beers a couple of times a week and being a proper gearhead/chasing the bag 24/7. If you understand me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:44 PM
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I agree that men's capabilities have had to skyrocket, but with regards to the porn and women's sexual capabilities... eh, do we really want to be in a place, regardless of gender, where it takes prolapse anal bleeding cumfart dogshit licking titwank suction cup deepthroat soggy biscuit Arabian goggles to get us off?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:37 PM
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Personally I think both genders do it equally (most humans are just plain bad), but women seem to get away with it more. The perception of the harm they do is softer.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:32 PM
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Most of their complaints are insecurity, yeah, but they're not wrong about porn mainstreaming quite niche sexual practices which are often rough and unpleasurable. I'm just going purely anecdotal here, but my first exposure to online porn was in 1998 and it was definitely a lot tamer than it is now. A scene would be oral, missionary, doggy, cowgirl, occasionally anal, jizz on face - done. These days we've got painal fistfuck gangbang cunt ripper 5000 incest mummy lolita fingerblast fartbox destr…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:30 PM
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I've been told on this very fucking sub that I was a scumbag for multi-dating (when I was dating) by women who themselves admit to multi-dating. But it's fine when they do it because... ?????? Toxic double standards and gaslighting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:22 PM
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Been with many women like this, my friend. Still living with parents age 29 and spends all their money on nights out and holidays. Can't clean, cook, pay bills, or do any regular adult tasks.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:06 PM
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Neither. There are women out there who are both attractive and loyal/responsible. Find one instead of wasting your time on butterfaces and hoors.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:03 PM
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Tbf I don't know any woman that doesn't/didn't have casual sex, so I don't really have the comparator of those who do vs. those who don't. I think I must be an anomaly then, because the thought "do I think she'll be a good shag" never entered my head when selecting partners, casual or otherwise. It was always just "oh, she's attractive", and then proceed. It's immaterial anyway - not to be crude, but it's not difficult to finish PIV for a man, regardless of your partner's skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 10:10 PM
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Or alternatively some women just aren't the most imaginative or energetic in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 09:33 PM
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What if I told you that a significant percentage of women starfish during hookups too?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 09:09 PM
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Less effort, captivated by pistachio's enthusiasm, peer pressure, susceptibility to insistent/forceful personality types... err, I mean flavours.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 06:15 PM
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Disagree that pistachio still has the edge in online dating. Matches occur without interaction - based on looks alone. There's no way to know whether you've got a pistachio or not until you converse. My opinion: OLD levels the playing field a bit for non-pistachios.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 06:08 PM
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Baffles me how this place allows him to talk about fantasising about a machine violently fucking his female friend in the arse, yet pointing out that's a total spergtastic inappropriate thing to say is a no-no.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 03:09 PM
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Yup. Rehabilitation is the ideal, but realistically permanent incarceration in a facility with adequate and safe but not luxurious standards of living is, in my opinion, the best option.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 12:23 PM
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Write to Ralph Stokes and ask him what he thinks about your rule and get back to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 12:13 PM
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Ideal shouldn't mean unrealistic though. A child's ideal of functioning public transport is: "I want teleporters everywhere so travel is instantaneous." It's never going to happen. An adult's equivalent would be "I want a comprehensive, regular, publicly-owned electric bus and train system to operate." That can happen. All I'm saying is that by being fantastical, you're diluting the credibility of your ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 11:59 AM
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Marine Le Pen has entered the chat.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 11:28 AM
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Until there's a system error and you find yourself sitting on death row on the hook for a string of murders and rapes. What you're asking for here is a system that has no room for error - whether computer, systemic, statistical or human. That's not something that we can ever achieve in this reality. I recommend looking up Werner Herzog's documentary "On Death Row"; reading some of the work done with death row inmates by true crime journalist Maggie Frehleng; and then watching the film Minority R…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 11:20 AM
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That's mad. I had no idea. So would you say that immigrants are essentially the root of your problems?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 11:00 AM
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Well, I've read up on this before because it was perplexing to me why they had such astronomical rape statistics compared to other western European nation. As it turns out, a lot of it is due to the way that rape is classified, reported and recorded. Let's say a woman went to the police and said "my dad beasted me every night when I was a child". In Scotland, where I'm from, that's recorded as one crime with multiple charges. But as I understand it, Sweden would record that as 5000-odd separate …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:57 AM
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I would never move to Sweden because I can't see it being any better than Scotland for me personally. If you're a Swedish citizen and you're telling me that all these things are fucked, I have no problem believing you. From the outside looking in, the threat of a no confidence vote just looks like a regular political crisis which has been sensationalised by the media. If it's actually worse and is impacting your quality of life then I'm sorry to hear that. You really have no health care or educa…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:11 AM
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Eh, pretty great? Consistently rated one of the best countries to live in. Didn't do too good with corona though, but no one's perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:01 AM
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This sounds great until you get to the DNA database and death sentence part. Fuck that. Terrifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 09:53 AM
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I completely disagree, and I think she's quite far from the current beauty ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 05:39 PM
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I'm sorry, but I don't agree. I don't find her attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 05:38 PM
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Did you read the first line of my comment? I find them both to be unattractive. I'm sorry that the fact I'm not attracted to the same murdered girl as you is something you find offensive, but there's nothing I can do about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 05:34 PM
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I have a hard time believing that someone would think that way too, but go look for yourself on the FDS sub - anything more than 3 years is predatory, they say. Prepare yourself for a wild ride.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 05:32 PM
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Ironically, he'd be much better off with a dominant woman who could give him a crash course and get him up to speed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:32 PM
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I think you're on to something. I read a post on here the other week where a guy said it was devastating to find out that his girlfriend had slept with 4 guys before him, and he was suicidal over it. Okay, I understand not wanting a woman who's been pumped full of so much cum that she's doing an Ian Holm in Alien, but 5 partners is a normal amount. And it's all circular logic when you ask them why they want a woman with no sexual experience "you just do because you just do because you just do". …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:27 PM
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Personally, I think a lot of these dating extremists (RP and FDS both) are just angry teens LARPing as adults. And naturally in their eyes 30+ year olds are decrepit has-beens, hence the RP obsession with 18 year olds and the FDS obsession with calling 4 year age gaps pedophilic. It's kiddies. Kiddies all the way down.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:18 PM
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Yeah, in real life and not Reddit fantasy land, people from their mid-20s to mid-30s are pretty much physically indistinguishable. I was at one of my old uni friend's son's birthday party this weekend and we were all looking at pictures from when we were around 25. All look pretty much the same - men and women. I'd go as far as to say that one of my friends looks younger now than he did when we graduated. He used to be a bit overweight and unkempt, and he's had a real glow-up. The point is, I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 11:18 AM
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Ah, he's just a big kid. Never really grown out of it. Happy go lucky and fun, but a bit of a mess and a drunk. Harmless though. I thought it was bizarre at the time that a big pop star would be going out with a wee guy from CB, but I can see what she'd find romantic about him. Also big respect for her for being with a "real person". Don't see many celebs doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 10:55 AM
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I like him too, but he's not how you described in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 10:50 AM
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I grew up with Barry and he's a nice enough lad, but smart and fit he is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 10:45 AM
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Uh, I've been told on here that my age gap of 35 and 28 makes me pedophilic elderly man and a child predator.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 10:40 AM
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Well, no human being ever deserved him, that's for certain.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:12 AM
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Oh, he's unattractive right enough - no arguments there. But she's not a looker either. It feels unbelievably scummy to be rating the looks of a murderer and his victim btw, but I'll indulge you here. She has thin hair, small, bleary eyes, a potato nose, non-existent lips, and a child's body with no shape or muscle tone. If I saw those two out in the street together, I'd think yep - they suit one another. Which I guess is one of the factors that makes the crime so shocking. I understand that you…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 01:38 AM
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Oh come off it. It's terrible what happened to Gabby Letito, but she was fucking bogging. Her and the boyfriend were a perfect looksmatch. Let's not lie just because she was the victim of a tragedy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 11:05 PM
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I'm not sure I agree that it's only women who are subjected to this extreme societal pressure about finding a partner. Maybe it's just my social circle, but the social conditioning is pretty equal in this respect, in my experience. Lots of pressure to "find a wifey" and "wife her up". Regardless, I think what you're saying makes sense. It sounds to me like FDS without the misandry/abuse/transphobia/etc which is, in my opinion, a good thing. People should live their lives for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 06:18 PM
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Question: you know how female Sugar Babies get paid for extremely low effort stuff? Situations in which they never actually meet the guy, but he pays regularly for her to, I dunno... shite in a box and ship it out to him. Are there any opportunities of that ilk for guys? I'm fairly good looking, and I do heavy dumps 2-3 times a day. Might as well be getting paid for them. Let me know.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 05:47 PM
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I'm 35 and the other person you're calling a child I believe is in her 50s, if I'm not mistaken. My point is that getting married and having kids out of fear that you'll be alone/have no one to care for you in old age is a poor motivation for a relationship. I worked in elder care when I was young, and 75% of the patients had adult children who never visited them. Your kids will have kids of their own, and you'll be tossed aside. It's sad, but it's the way it happens most of the time. I’d bet ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 05:13 PM
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It's crazy to me that there are people out there who live their lives in fear of what's going to happen when they're 80. I worked in elder care when I was younger and trust me: when you're that age you don't give a fuck about anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 04:44 PM
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I think you've typed out this reply thinking that I'm a Red Pill man. I'm not. Far from it. I attract those kind of women because I was in a semi-successful band about 12-15 years ago, which means I attract a type of person who expects me to behave in a certain way. I also look a certain way which perhaps leads women to believe I am something that I'm not. Yes - I have agency over my own decisions, but statistically when you have lots of options from column A and only a few options from column B…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 04:07 PM
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You have pretty low standards for the people in your life if communicating with them is off the table. Opposite. My standards are too high. If someone doesn't "get it" automatically without cajoling, then I just move ahead with doing my own thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 03:05 PM
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I don't see why you're coming at me with that ire. I'm childfree and vasectomied up to prove it. "Building a life" aka taking care of a family is what 99% of men want. Go scream at them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:52 PM
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Not my style, I'm afraid. Learned over a decade ago that if someone doesn't put in an effort by their volition, then speaking to them about it will have little to no effect. Big believer in hard determinism here. If my friends want to give up socialisation, that's their decision to make. I like solitude equally as much as I like socialising, so I'm good with whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:50 PM
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My hobbies are 100% solitary. Taxidermy, home improvement and DIY, trash cinema, homebrewing beer, working out, and getting tattoos. I'm not complaining though. I've never been particularly socially-minded. I do most of my socialising with my girlfriend or at work, and have text convos with my friends every day or so. I would like a male friend to go to the pub with for a few hours once a month, but apart from that I'm not really "hiring" at the moment, friendship-wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:44 PM
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Good for you man. You saw something you didn't like and you changed it. What a great fucking planet we live on where that kind of thing is possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:37 PM
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Not my place to be the arbiter and police officer of other people's relationships or social lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:33 PM
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It just depends on the type of woman. Unfortunately, many hide who they truly are until you're in quite deep.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:32 PM
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Theoretically, yes. But in reality, my friends stopped socialising when they got serious partners. Long before kids appeared.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:30 PM
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Fuck me that's a lot. You got before and after pics? And are you happy with your transformation? What did you look like before, if I may ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:29 PM
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1) Overly loud background music. 2) A solid boutique blu ray section. 3) Annoying door greeters. 4) 20 kiosks with one employee manning them. 5) The dog/gramaphone logo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 01:26 PM
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The last is a solid unethical life pro tip. If you're in the UK at least, being a small-time drug dealer is a great way to attract women. Punt a few grams of coke to them at the weekend. Low risk, legally speaking. The amount of women I have watched leave/cheat on their attractive, successful, longterm partners with small-time drug dealers is absolutely fucking astronomical.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 01:23 PM
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Male, 35. I want to preface this post by saying that I do indeed have friends. We just don't see each other very often. And that's because all of my friends have families. They race home from work every night to see their partner and kids. They spend all weekend doing kid stuff and go to bed at 8pm. That's just how it is for men approaching middle age. It's very hard to build friendships with other men, because we're all too busy building our lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 12:37 PM
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Male, 35, in a relationship. My friends are my cats. Only semi-joking. My actual friend group are all roughly the same age as me, and are consumed with family and childcare obligations. We talk on Whatsapp regularly, but see each other once or twice a year. 50/50 male female split. Most of my social interaction these days is just hanging out with my girlfriend and doing couples stuff. All my hobbies are solitary, which is fine by me. I actually prefer being alone. Always have. I'm old enough now…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 12:32 PM
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Jesus christ lad what surgeries did you get?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 11:11 AM
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'I want a loyal woman who takes care of her man.' goes for the party girls who don't want to settle down This is me. Fully admit that I usually don't put my money where my mouth is when dating, and 99% of the time end up in this situation. I'm with someone calm, caring and loyal now, but before her... yeah. Every time, I would end up with a woman like this without fail. Part of it wasn't entirely my fault: I guess I might look a certain way that is attractive to that specific type of woman, whic…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 10:03 AM
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A guy isn't even going to accept the date with you, or ask you, unless he has already decided that you are his sexual type I'm challenging this a bit. When I was dating at the beginning of this year, I went on dates with three women IN A FUCKING ROW who looked very different from their pictures. I thought they were my type from their profiles, but then when I saw them in real life it was apparent that they'd worked the selfie angle and ring light to the max, or Photoshopped their waist right dow…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 12:59 AM
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(35M, straight.) I am the same to an extent. One major difference for me is that no matter how good a woman's personality is, if I'm not attracted physically then I just can't go there. Cock won't work. Body says nah. But otherwise: pretty similar to you in that I couldn't/wouldn't have sex with someone who is hot but has a bad personality. Or even a so-so personality really. I've tried it before and it didn't work out well - I just couldn't wait to get away from them. That's not fun or fair for…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 12:51 AM
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Agree on the tall, but don't necessarily agree on the rich/highly educated part. I've known rich/highly educated women who left their even higher-status partners for guys who are unemployed/work in minimum wage jobs. This is not in the US though, so I fully understand that it may be different over there because wealth directly relates to access to healthcare etc, so there's naturally going to be a bigger focus on the financial stability of a dating partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 07:13 PM
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I'm sorry, I'm not following. You think that Chopper Read and Henry Cavill look alike?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 05:43 PM
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Same. Maybe we are top 1% though??? I want to believe it. Let's just go with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 11:51 AM
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You're also describing what I did multiple times and had negative results with. It's almost like you can't autistically prescribe and predict human behaviour, because every single person is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 11:00 AM
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Ironically, if you treat them as replaceable, they'll give you more of what you seem to want, which is affection and intimacy. Not in my experience. This is one of the myths the Internet loves to throw around. I tried this for a brief period when I was young. They just think you're an arsehole and go and fuck someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 10:50 AM
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These threads always make me feel great about myself. Previously, doing my hair nice and taking an OK photo put me in the top 20% of men. Now I'm in the top 5% apparently. Some posters are even saying top 1%. Wow, it turns out that I'm actually Gigachad Thundercock. My gran was right all along - I am a lovely boy. Shook.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 09:55 AM
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Nailed it. The stuff I read on this sub is bizarre. Even the 80/20 thing... it has no basis in what I've observed in real life. Yes, looks matter. But I have friends who are objectively average or even below average, and they have no problems using the app to find partners. Christ, one of them literally looks like Chopper Reed and even he was going on dates and found a girlfriend. Unless things are way, way different in America (which is where I'm assuming most PPD posters live), there has to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 09:49 AM
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Yeah I'm just... not convinced. I'm interested in the subject though. Do you happen to have the link to the study itself?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 12:26 AM
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Hmmm, I'm just not sure I trust that table of traits from the Researchgate study. In my experience, introverts and extroverts come in all shapes and sizes; for instance, I am an outgoing introvert, while my friend is a shy extrovert. Yet he's extroverted because his mental battery gets charged through social interaction, whereas mine gets drained. But if we look at the study traits, I am 7/8 extrovert and 2/8 introvert, while he is 3/8 extrovert and 5/8 introvert. I know that my anecdotal experi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 12:17 AM
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Mmmm don't necessarily agree with that mate. Back when I used to go out and about, I had a friend who would just randomly yelp like Homer Simpson in the faces of women he found attractive. Half of them thought he was an idiot, but the other half thought it was hilarious, they'd say hi, and he'd pull them. This was not a particularly attractive fellow, either. Looked like Karl Pilkington. Peacocking is a known term for a reason, and it does work.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 02:53 PM
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Personally, my experience dating as an introvert man has actually been better since the advent of online dating. My social battery drains very quickly. So in the pre-Tinder days, going out to bars, clubs, parties etc was fucking exhausting. Socially, I do best in small groups and 1-on-1s, so it was difficult to get much good chat going with women when I had to constantly scream over music. But when I ended up going on Tinder etc, I found it to be an introvert's dream. You can chat and build up t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 01:49 PM
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Acht, they're actually decent guys and have my back, but on this occasion they were way off. Probably because they're all in miserable relationships and think it's normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 10:47 PM
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She was my first serious dating experience after I ended a 10 year relationship on accounts of our views on having children changing over time. My friends all told me, "you're in your 30s now - this is what life is like, you got lucky with your ex and now you've got to suck it up like the rest of us." But I eventually ended it after she forced me to do something that I really didn't want to do. Looking back, I now see that I put up with too much, and should have ended it much sooner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 04:19 PM
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This is my experience, to a certain extent. I was with a woman a while back who developed a litany of constant complaints about my appearance and behaviour. She grew to hate the way I parted my hair, the way I laughed, the way I breathed, the colour of my eyelashes (seriously). She hated my arms (too muscular), hated my stomach (not muscular enough), hated the way I walked. Bear in mind this woman was far from perfect, but the difference is - as you point out - when she did something like slop h…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 02:52 PM
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I get you. If it's not too intrusive, I'd like to ask: why FWB and not relationship though? Are you guys exclusive? Totally fine not to answer if I'm crossing the line btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 09:33 PM
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Hahaha, jesus. Quickest way to get a woman to view you as a total sperg. One of the top 5 most autistic things I have read on this website so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 09:31 PM
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May I ask why 12 years and "just" FWB status? Quite a unique occurrence.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 09:20 PM
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What happened to survival of the fittest though? Maybe some people just aren't meant to be dating? If we're trying to evolve for the benefit of the species, isn't it natural that some people win, while others lose?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 04:38 PM
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You're going to have to date younger. I'm 35 and look 25 because I've taken all the steps to take care of myself (no smoking, working out, drinking water, moisturising) and yes - it turns women my own age off a little bit, for relationships anyway. It's not a problem though: it just means I have to date women in the 27-30 age range. Whatever. You have to play with the cards you've been given, and turn them to your advantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 04:32 PM
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How many though?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 04:11 PM
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How many countries have you dated in?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 04:06 PM
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If what I'm describing is behaviour that you are unfamiliar with, then I am starting to doubt that you do know anyone from Scotland at all. Furthermore, I wouldn't really say the experience of a 60-80 year old who presumably emigrated a long time ago is a reliable source on modern dating norms. May I suggest that you're feeling a bit insecure yourself, and perhaps are rushing to view any statement that says "the US does things differently from we do" as a criticism of your country? I understand …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 02:28 PM
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While I don't think you going on holiday to Scotland really qualifies you to dictate the nuances of my own culture to me, you could be right that it's the type of woman I usually go for. I tend to date left-leaning, middle class, university educated women. Maybe a bit vintagey or cottagecorey in their style. I guess, if we're talking in stereotypes here, that this demographic is maybe more prone to social anxieties. There could be something in that. But then again, in 20 years of dating maybe 50…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:38 PM
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Yep, that's them trying to awkwardly flirt. The female equivalent of pulling pigtails in the schoolyard. Highly, highly annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:28 PM
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I, uhh... don't think it's a flex. I imagine they'd prefer not to have anxiety around eating. Certainly, no woman I've been with has ever been proud of it. I understand that it might be difficult for some Americans to empathise with, because it's maybe not what they're used to experiencing, but it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:15 PM
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I know, I know, but that's just how my toxic masculinity manifests. No one can pay for me; never ask anyone for help with anything; always be perfect. Very tiring way to live, but very difficult to deprogram myself from it. I am trying though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:12 PM
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It's called deipnophobia, and I imagine its prevalence differs from culture to culture. You don't have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 12:57 PM
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Isn't Ben Shapiro the guy who admitted he'd never made his wife cum?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 11:31 AM
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What type of men are you in to? Is it possible that you're only attracted to a specific type of man, and that type of man generally displays the characteristics and behaviours that end up with you feeling the way you do?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 11:23 AM
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I Would Pill 4 U
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 10:17 AM
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Yup, each person paying for themselves on a date is the dominant cultural norm where I'm from.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 10:13 AM
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After all, our effort goes into spending too much time and money on hair and makeup, picking out clothes we think he’ll like, making sure we smell good, shaving and tweezing, brushing our teeth a second time, wiping down our high heels, etc. What kind of men is she going on dates with that don't put an equal amount of time and effort into their appearance? Here's what I did before my first date with my girlfriend, top to bottom: Tidied up my fade so it was crisp. Washed and styled my hair. Just …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 10:08 AM
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Absolutely a US thing. Scotland here. Majority of women feel objectified and weirded out if you try to pay for everything. It's a surefire way to show that you are out of touch with modern life. The big fancy high end dinners that Americans seem to go on for first dates is weird to me as well. First dates are for vetting someone as a potential partner in a relaxed setting. It's a 45 minute coffee date, a pint or two, or a walk in the park. Spending 3-4 hours in a fancy restaurant with a stranger…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 10:00 AM
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Zero class. If someone is paying for me, I order the cheapest thing on the menu and still feel like a leech. Just the way I was raised. The mindset of someone who orders the most expensive thing is completely foreign to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 09:53 AM
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Yes indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 01:52 PM
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This is most women I know, and a good amount of women I've dated too. Anything less than perfection > back on Tinder. Then they cry about being 32 and never having had a boyfriend. I've learned not to fuck with those type of women. It's okay to be friends with them, but don't ever try and give them advice. They won't listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 01:46 PM
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My experience and my experience only, so take it with as much salt as you wish: Most men want quick sex. Most women want quick sex. Most men do not want a relationship until they are in their mid 30s. Most women do not want a relationship until they are in their mid 30s. Many of the scenarios I see here on PPD don't actually match up with what I've experienced in real life. It's as tough to get women to settle down as it is men. Of course, difference cultures at play here so we're comparing appl…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 01:22 PM
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Here's the tiers, in my opinion: Great tier: eye contact and hello. Good tier: eye contact and smile/nod/wink. Bad tier: eye contact and stare. Unless she's goddess tier attractive this is going to make me think she has 0 social skills. Shit tier: initial eye contact, then follows you around constantly backing into you and bumping into you. Fuck off with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 01:01 PM
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The eye contact and STARE is worse. You know they want you to say something to them, but their unblinking Eye of Sauron stare is killing the vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 12:45 PM
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A while ago I was seeing a woman, and it just seemed like after a while everything I did was a source of annoyance for her; the way I breathed; the things I said; the way I parted my hair. Constant arguments, and even if she got her own way she'd suddenly want the opposite. It got too much for me, so I told her that I was becoming unhappy and would like to talk about things to try and get to the bottom of why she was feeling the way she was feeling. Her response was, "You know what, if you're so…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 11:56 AM
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I know that if someone broke in to my house looking to kill me, my cat would not protect me - she would run and hide. Because she's a cat; not a guard dog. Despite this, I love her with all my heart, and I would take a bullet for her. She's just a little cat. It's in her nature to be frightened. I accept nature as it is, and I am more at peace for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 09:04 PM
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It really was though. When I saw her DVDs I was like wow... Peter North. That's a name I haven't heard in a long time. Wtf happened? I grew up on that stuff, and it was relatively innocent and enjoyable, with nothing really disgusting unless you went looking for it. Nowadays you've got incest painal prolapse sounding fistfuck gangbang on the front page of Pornhub, all mainstream. What if you just want a nice wee cheeky innocent 2002 wank? You're out of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 08:58 PM
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Dated a girl with a small collection of porn DVDs once. Fucking DVDs from 2002 or something. She preferred it old school I guess. Didn't bother me at all, in fact I thought it was absolutely hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 04:27 PM
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Already am. She's a bit further behind me, right enough, but still about 50% body coverage. Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 10:35 PM
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Eh... nah. Online dating is quite fun. Back in the day when there was no other option, I used to hate going out to clubs. Too loud, too expensive, can't really get any proper conversation going. It was crap. Now you can swipe through a variety of women from the comfort of your own home. You can pass the entire talking stage whilst lying in bed, hoovering the rug, or taking a shit. It's brilliant.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 11:28 PM
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I'm simply a friendly bearded doctor from the Greater Manchester area though???
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 01:24 AM
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HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH mate I'm sorry, but if the way you're going on here is any indication, you're an unstable emotional toddler who lives in a perpetual temper tantrum. This has to be a troll account surely. An elaborate LARP.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 12:28 AM
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Ironic, considering you're the exact demographic that I imagine sits in their room masturbating over manga 24/7.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 12:24 AM
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Was it tough being bullied? Was it just when you were younger that you were victimised, or has it continued into adulthood?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 12:21 AM
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You've fired off about 30 comments in as many minutes about how you hate tattoos. ...that's textbook triggered. I don't think there's a single person in this thread carrying around as much emotional damage as you're putting on display here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 12:20 AM
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You're cracked in the head, lad.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 12:07 AM
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So what you're saying is that you are indeed a bully victim. I see.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 12:05 AM
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Girlfriend cheated on him with a guy with tattoos, or the woman at work who takes the piss out of him has tattoos, or his school bully is now covered in tattoos. Gotta be something like that. No one gets triggered to the level he's at without some deep personal trauma behind it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 12:03 AM
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If you think tattoos are feminine, that's... fine? What's wrong then, in your eyes, with being feminine?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 11:56 PM
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One. When I was 20 I let a woman who I was seeing at the time tattoo me. Got it covered up as soon as it healed. Terrible idea. Now, you can give me an honest answer: how badly did the guy with tattoos make fun of you to turn you into this insecure a person?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 11:54 PM
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What are you even on about you insecure autist? Grow up fella.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 11:48 PM
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Probably the kind of thing that would make you "red pills" run screaming in terror. Usually the type that st st st st st st stutter when you have to make eye contact with strangers in the grocery store, isn't that right lad?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 11:39 PM
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Apotropaic.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 11:10 PM
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Bizarre to me as well. I've spent the past 17 years building up a bodysuit, and it'll probably take another 8 to complete. I fully understand that people might not LIKE it - but it's definitely not impulsive. Moreover, people still ask me if bits I got done when I was 18 are just brand new. Tattooing is a heavily commodified industry these days - most people are getting work that will look good for 40 years, if not longer. I got some traditional Irezumi when I was in Japan and some of the master…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 09:58 PM
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I don't understand it. Partner and I both have extremely heavy coverage (chest, back, sleeves, hands and legs on me; neck, back and legs on her) and we're the two most boring, homebody, monogamous people around. Most of our friends are heavily tattooed as well, and they're all the same as us. Professional jobs, in bed by 10pm, potter around in the garden on a Sunday types. I don't really know anyone who's a mEnTaL party animal type, or anyone who's particularly slutty either... It makes me think…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 09:18 PM
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Never understood the impulse thing people say on here. I may be biased because I'm pretty much covered head to toe, but I challenge anyone to find an artist who doesn't have a 6 month waiting list. Sure, there are people who go to Ibiza and get Tweety Pie done on their arsecheek by some back alley scratcher but by and large, tattooing is a very oversubscribed business, and it takes a long time to get any real work done. My backpiece, for instance, took 11 months to complete. 100+ hours, appointm…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 09:11 PM
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5 to 7 convos at one time would be genuinely impossible for me. The last time I dated I set my cap to 4 at a time, and even then I felt like all I was doing was sitting on my phone tapping out replies. I really don't know how some people are talking to 20+ matches at a time. I would die off.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 07:54 PM
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Jealousy. You see a lesser version on here all the time. Whenever a guy is talking about being in happy relationship, or being sexually/socially successful with women, you get loads of dudes piling on and taking wild potshots that don't even apply/diagnosing him with random stuff that doesn't even make sense. They just want the satisfaction of managing to "hurt" someone who has something that they don't. Misery loves company.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 05:24 PM
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Used Tinder in March 2020 at start of pandemic. Got about 10 matches a day for the 3ish weeks I was on it. Used it again in March 2021 for about a month, just as the pandemic was starting to ease up. Same match frequency. Didn't notice anything different.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 05:12 PM
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TRP and FDS are two sides of the same coin: "advice" intended to ensure that the people who need help the most remain unhappy and single. You've got a healthy attitude to dating, don't let the Internet ruin it. Have fun this weekend on your date.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 05:09 PM
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Word of advice lad (although I'm aware you've not asked for it): the Red Pill stuff is 99% garbage.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 03:55 PM
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Fully agree. Someone like that has no self-respect, and if they don't respect themselves then they shouldn't be surprised when their partner disrespects them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 02:13 PM
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Relationship, single and trying to woo, general view. Any examples of borderline simp behaviour is useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 01:01 PM
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Yeah, but can you give some examples of borderline simping, so we can establish where the line is drawn?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 11:43 AM
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What defines simping? I've seen it used to describe guys who donate thousands to e-girls on Twitch or Onlyfans (agree), but also used to describe guys who treat their girlfriends with basic respect and politeness (disagree). Some examples of borderline simping behaviour would be particularly useful to nail down where the line is drawn.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 11:40 AM
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Yeah, it's a man negging another man. Usually because they're jealous and want to goad the guy into reacting negatively.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 11:36 AM
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If you haven't already seen it, give his film Another Round a try. In my opinion, it's the #1 flick of 2021.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 07:07 PM
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Mads Mikkelson. Thank me later.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 07:01 PM
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Just throwing in my experience here: totally the opposite. Fairly high body count and still wear my heart on my sleeve. No idea whether this will help or hinder you - or neither - but there it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 04:42 PM
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Never once had any woman that either told me, or otherwise indicated, that she was hurt by my actions though. Never been slapped, never been called a bastard, never had anyone stomp off in a mood, never had anyone block me. You're imagining hurt where there is none.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 03:58 PM
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With all respect, I've managed quite well without being smooth, charming, or seductive for 34 years now. I am none of those things. I just look decent and like having a laugh. No need to fix what's not broken eh?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 03:52 PM
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Can I ask what country you're from? Because here in Scotland if you're frank and direct with people about your intentions, they will run a fucking mile. It's just not the done thing. A cultural nuance, if you will. Doesn't matter whether you're saying "I want this to be casual", "I want this to be serious" or anything in between - talking about it is the nono. Everything should be done via psychic osmosis. That sounds flippant, but I'm honestly not joking.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 03:39 PM
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Yep: my count is what it is, but at the end of the day I have never had an STD, never cheated on anyone, and never lied to someone to lead them on. I think those things matter more than any arbitrary number.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 03:32 PM
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Well, for me it generally goes: Start talking, first date within 3-4 days. Sex on second or third date. Date 7-8 start to say things like "ehhhh so what's happening here, should we delete Tinder or...?" And by date I mean any hangout: coffee, dinner, activity, night out, spend time at each other's house. 7-8 times in each other's company is when, for me, things start to go beyond the facile stage. Bit more in-depth chats about values, who we are etc start occurring.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 03:17 PM
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HAHAHAHAH this has me in stitches. Sometimes I forget that's what my name is on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 02:38 PM
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I agree that people generally like to date within the same stages of life. Which is why being told that 28 and 34, for example, are massively different stages where there is a huge power imbalance, is confusing to me. Personally I would not be interested in anyone under the age of 27, which is why I set it as my lowest limit on the OLD slider. Each to their own - I have a friend who is my age and engaged to a 21 year old. Our friend group accepts it, but we constantly give him pelters about it (…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 01:53 PM
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It's a Reddit view only held by terminally online teenagers. I remember when the Golden State Killer got caught, and Reddit insisted that, despite DNA evidence, there was no way they could have the right guy because he was in his early 30s when he committed his most vicious crimes, and apparently there's no conceivable way that a 32 year old would be able to run a mile or jump a fence. In reality, my parents are touching 80; my mum still goes to fitness classes and my dad dug up and laid a patio…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 01:07 PM
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My views on things are probably a bit more relaxed than yours, but I am totally on board with the core philosophy: if everyone was upfront and honest about who they are and what they want, everything would run a lot smoother.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 12:30 PM
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I get you, cheers. I'd say that's a slightly conservative but altogether fair standard you have there. Definitely see your point on not wanting a partner who has led women on with the promise of a relationship and discarded after sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 11:54 AM
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Just curious: what does a man's body count have to be before you'd consider them to be someone who doesn't respect themselves? Bear in mind that any answer is fine and nothing will offend me, just looking for an honest, anonymous perception.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 11:40 AM
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I can only speak to my personal experience of being a man aged 34 who tends to date in the 27-30 age range. I've been told on Reddit that dating with a 5-7 year age gap is extreme, pedophilic, predatory etc, and that women that age generally aren't attracted to "old" men like me. That's what Reddit says, but it's not close to my experience in real life. All of my female friends of a similar age to me, for example, are only interested in guys around 40. On OLD, I had my age range set from 27-40 a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 10:53 AM
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...I'm not from England though. Great non-sequitur.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 10:26 AM
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I'm a man and have been asked my body count by pretty much every woman that I've been with past the casual (7-8 dates) stage. My count happens to be quite high, and a few times women have reacted with displeasure/disgust at hearing it. It never ruined anything between us, but it was clear that she'd have preferred it to be less. That said, from what I've read on this website, discussing body count seems to be a thing in some cultures, and not a thing in others. From what I can see, the American …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 10:22 AM
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Widespread coke abuse is not exclusively an American thing. I'm from Scotland and I read that we have the highest cocaine usage per capita outside of Colombia. Certainly squares with my experience; even at office parties everyone from the boss to the middle aged mumsy admin assistant is doing lines. Dating if you don't do coke is a bit of a challenge.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 10:15 AM
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Tips on how to let cleaning stuff go? I've found "the one" but she's significantly messier than I am. She's going to be moving in within the next year. Having a messy house makes my teeth grind. But it's more important to me that I have a healthy and happy life with her. How do I chill out a bit about the cleaning?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 10:08 AM
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Not girl, but immature woman - yes. 29 years old, lived with her parents, unable to hold down a job, only interested in drinking and doing coke, constantly drove drunk, in massive amounts of debt with literally nothing to show for it, unable to process her own emotions or talk about anything, constantly accused me of cheating, had extremely high standards that were impossible to achieve. A living fucking nightmare.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 10:04 AM
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Uhhh... I'm going to say something mad here: If he was into 6 year old age play, maybe he wasn't... emotionally... mature?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 02:11 PM
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Mental health problems - everyone has them these days. It's all about how you recognise/manage them. Neediness - doesn't bother me. I can provide for the emotional needs of a needy person just fine. Smoking - used to say I'd never date a smoker, but the last two women I've been with have smoked. It's fine. I'll even have a cigarette occasionally. Not a big deal to me any more. High N count - have a fairly disgusting N count myself, so who am I to judge. Unlike everyone else on here, I don't beli…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 01:31 PM
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I'm sorry man, but... you're a kid. You're not going to understand yet, nor are you expected to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 03:40 PM
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With respect, you're looking at sex as a holy grail through the lense of someone who has never had it. When you get older and have more experiences in life, you'll change your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 03:11 PM
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Before I answer, can I ask your age, relationship status, the length of your longest relationship, and whether or not you have ever cheated before?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 10:44 AM
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Sure: central belt Scotland. Massive pub/club scene coupled with a socially/sexually liberal culture. It has its ups and downs... one downside is that no one really grows up until they're about 40, which makes looking for something more than a casual relationship quite difficult. Most women my age (34; so dating in the late 20s/early 30s age range) have "not looking for anything serious" in their bios, and they're quite up front about not wanting committment. Very different from the stuff I read…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 10:26 AM
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Fully agree. I laughed out loud when OP said he men were "traumatised" by their partners' body counts. Unless it's a freakishly large number (in which case I'd just think there was something mentally wrong with them), it has never/would never phase me. Everyone I know, including me, started having casual sex around 14 or 15. To me, it's just... normal. Not to say that I don't have things that repulse me, but body count generally isn't one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 11:05 AM
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This is my experience as well. Even in their late 20s/early 30s, 90% of the women I dated weren't looking for anything serious, and viewed themselves as too young to care about "adult" things like having a relationship, career, moving out of their parents' house etc. Mind you, 90% of the men I know of this age are exactly the same. I must just come from a very committment-phobic/arrested development culture, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 10:56 AM
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If you slavishly agree with what the law decrees then yep: good for you. I don't, but that's me personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 08:49 PM
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Nah definitely not. He's just a predator that poked a passed out lassy until her fanny gushed blood. Much more humane.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 08:42 PM
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I'm saying for me: fuck proportionality. If someone shags my arse when I'm unconscious then I'm not going to stop getting revenge until they're either dead or their life is completely ruined. That's not something you need to like, it's just how the human desire for retribution works. You might be different, and might be a more forgiving or lenient person. And that's fine. But let's not be ridiculous here - calling someone names is in no way comparable to rape/sexual assault.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 08:41 PM
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Doesn't mean you can fingerblast someone whole they're unconscious until they're bleeding though, does it lad? B b b b b b but she promised me teh sex doesn't really cut it in that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 08:32 PM
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Okay fair enough, you have Harold dead to rights there. The most prolific killer doctor to date, can we settle on that?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 08:31 PM
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Exaggerating the extent of trauma, yeah probably. Tough to process and traumatic sure, but I doubt she's a shell of a human. Fair play on her though. He wanted to fuck her, so it's only right that she gets her chance to fuck him.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 08:11 PM
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I love that everyone is so benignly referring to me as Harold. Harold Shipman was a doctor who involuntarily euthanised elderly patients during the 90s. He's probably the worst serial killer in British history, perhaps in the history of mankind too. Over 200 victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 08:09 PM
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No one's saying you have to like it though. If you want to be more lenient or forgiving in the way you live your life: have it at Pope John Paul the Third. Rest of us aren't into it though. Life's harsh, got to press the advantage when you have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 07:51 PM
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Nah fella, this ain't it. Just because you wouldn't mind getting buttfucked while you're passed out doesn't mean the rest of us feel the same way. If you're the victim of a crime, you're fully entitled to ham it up to the max to get the person who violated you the maximum punishment possible. Again, you might be lenient on someone who assaults/robs/rapes you, but the rest of us want two eyes for one eye.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 07:40 PM
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That's handy. So like, zero personal responsibility at all then?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 06:26 PM
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The pain of raising a son like me lol. Edit: I'll be a bit less flippant and actually give a decent answer, because why not. In short, I wasn't what my parents were expecting. Our tastes and opinions differ in every way, and they haven't approved of a single thing I've done since a very young age - from what I studied at university, to my taste in women, to my career path, to the way I decorate my house. I was also a bit of a hellion when I was young, which to be fair can't have been easy for th…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 06:26 PM
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Yeah that's kind of what I'm talking about. Purely my experience, but I've found that 90% of women using the term toxic masculinity are using it to refer to instances where it's objectively difficult to disagree that the masculine-coded behaviour in question is harmful to everyone involved. ...aaaaaaand then you've got the other 10% of terminally online women who use it as a mEn aRe tRaSH substitute. I tend to avoid spaces where lunatics like that congregate, so y'know, don't see it very often.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 06:14 PM
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Not wrong there lad. In my experience, women are the biggest promoters, gatekeepers and arbiters of toxic masculinity around. Never been masculinity-policed by another man in real life, but had it happen frequently from women when I was dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 05:49 PM
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I don't really see it being used as a malicious catch-all very often, but if you do then my only explanation - and if you're saying that you're truly not overreacting to a trigger word then I will believe you - is that me and you must be associating with very different types of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 05:35 PM
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MMMMMM I beg to differ with that. Women have toxic gender roles too, but the difference is they're not as outwardly expressive about them as men. The classic example I use whenever this subject comes up is something I overheard my mother saying to her friends when I was a child. One of their friend group had breast cancer, and opted for a double mastectomy. I'll never forget my mother sitting with her friends and bitching about how Carol "isn't even a real woman anymore lol". That's toxic femini…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 04:50 PM
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Yep. I think there's just a lot of people running on emotion 24/7 who interpret "toxic masculinity" as "all masculinity is toxic" and won't listen when told that isn't what it means.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 01:49 PM
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Can't be intimidated by something you've never had, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 04:44 PM
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The fact that I don't subscribe to insecure pseudoscience astrology for men alpha/beta bullshit probably plays a part in that. Plus I'm considered classically handsome. And you've misread: sex itself isn't intimidating, but sex with randoms is stressful. Once you've slept with someone two or three times, the nerves go away. Although, to take an educated guess, I'd say that's probably something you don't have any experience with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 04:39 PM
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Yeah I get that but it's a bit of a chicken and egg situation. Would men be saying/thinking that way if they weren't given a very narrow definition of what an attractive woman looks like from the media they consume. On the converse (and I think this is a positive thing) over the last 10 years we've seen an increase in the popularisation of different standards of female beauty. Got your Taylor Swift 6 foot 9 Amazons, got your Nicky Minajes with the large hips, Cava Delvigne with the mad bushy eye…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 02:44 PM
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Disagree because I think the height issue we see these days stems from widespread body dysmorphia among women, brought about by 60 or so years of bombardment from the media/popular culture about what a woman "should be". We're told women "should be" small, petite, tiny, waifs, quiet, not take up too much space, skinny, childlike. When that sort of thing is ingrained in the culture, it's no surprise that women increasingly express sexual desire for men who dwarf them. The larger the man = the mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 02:23 PM
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I guess that is the situation for me already? Never had any problem attracting partners, whether casual or serious. When I was single, I would not pursue sex all the time. I'd date sure, but I wouldn't shag every woman who expressed interest. Needless to say, I would not "drop" my girlfriend for something that I deem to be less fulfilling. Casual sex really isn't very good, imo. Well, depending on your definition of "casual", I guess. Having sex with strangers you've just met is usually extremel…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 01:47 PM
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cheating done and/or received level of education alcohol and drug use As far as I'm concerned, the rest are negligible and these are the three biggest indicators of whether a woman will cheat or not. Especially alcohol and drug use. I'd add general susceptibility to peer pressure as well. I've known a lot of women who cheat on nights out either to impress their friends by pulling a hot guy, or because they simply can't say no when there's social pressure involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 11:01 AM
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Although I understand that statistics are statistics, the main study you've got there focuses on women born roughly between 1950 and 1960. I'd be interested to see if it's still true with women of today. It's also American, so not sure if it would be applicable to less socially conservative cultures. Based on my personal experience, I'm not sure it would be. I was cheated on by a woman who had 3 prior partners, on a whim no less. Whereas when I got into a motorcycle accident and had a full year …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 10:41 AM
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Have I jumped back 25 years in time? Who is approaching women in public these days anyway? There are an infinite number of dating apps that bypass the need for an "approach" - why don't you just save yourself the hassle and use them?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 07:18 PM
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Piping in to say I fully agree with this. My experience is from the other perspective (I am man who was in a relationship with a woman who was unable to clean, cook, pay bills, or do any basic tasks). Having a partner who is an adult child is the #1 biggest turnoff on the planet. It's supposed to be a relationship; if I feel like your nagging dad then of course I'm going to end it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 11:24 PM
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True. I probably disagree with a lot of the stuff posted on here, but I'm in full agreement: don't ever go to your woman for emotional support. No matter how good a partner they are. It just doesn't work. Maybe it's psychological or maybe it's biological, but it's a surefire way to get her to lose attraction. You might get away with it once or twice, but keep at it and it'll be the death knell for the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 08:30 PM
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I think with Reddit's demographic being mostly high-inhibition introverts, they're not actually interacting with many people who have tattoos in real life. In place of first-hand experience, they're basing their judgement on popular culture's stereotype of people with tattoos, which is overwhelmingly negative.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 05:49 PM
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100% fair, preferences are preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:47 PM
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Ehh, I don't really agree tbh. In my experience, the dating apps worked really well. Almost all of my friends met their partners on the apps as well. Personally, I think the apps hide/trickle out likes and matches in order to keep you on them for longer. My advice as man is just bite the bullet and pay the fee for Gold/Plus/whatever the fuck they call it so you can sift through the women who already like you, and you can just pick the ones you'd like to match with. Much better use of time than e…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:45 PM
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When I went on the dating apps, I made a list of my requirements. For me, these were: Employed. No unemployed women. Doesn't have to be a career - any job will do. Does not live with parents. Preferably a fellow homeowner, but absolutely fine with someone who rents. At least a Bachelor's degree. I know this is a snobby one, but it's important for me. Able to address mental health issues. It's 2021 and everyone suffers from some sort of mental health problem. What's important is her willingness t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:34 PM
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Fully admit that I am biased because I have very extensive body coverage, but I see the "impulsive" thing banded about a lot on Reddit when it comes to opinions on why tattoos are supposedly unattractive. For me, that doesn't make much sense, nd doesn't square with my experience - I'd challenge anyone to find an artist who doesn't have a 6+ month waiting list, and if we're talking about large pieces (which it seems Reddit considers more unattractive than small pieces), we're in to hundreds of ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:23 PM
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