harrysapien Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	How a mere mortal like myself lands hot chicks-- l-2l3-29l-9497 -- Sean		harrysapien	/r/seduction	06/11/18 07:04 PM

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2	Why can I get hookups but not a single relationship my entire life? Just like you can't turn a ho into a housewife, you can't turn just any girl into a girlfriend. Based on what you wrote, I would guess you go after a "particular type" of woman and this type of woman isn't into long term relationships. Another possibility is that you just aren't connecting with women on an emotional level, you aren't fulfilling their emotional needs and they are moving on or you aren't projecting yourself as a long term partner. I've had the opposite problem, pretty much every g…	/r/seduction	25/10/21 02:25 PM
2	How To Have Sex When You Live With Your Parents When I was in highschool I got super lucky, my parents had a minivan. So, whenever I took my girl out on a date, I had a stash of Blankets and Pillows I kept at a friends house. I'd swing by his house, pick up the blankets and pillows, take my girlfriend out on a date, then of course I "knew" all of the private secret places in my area or on the outskirts of town. We'd park, I would remove the car seats and make a bed and it was go time. WHen I was in college, my girlfriend in college had a hatc…	/r/seduction	26/09/21 03:23 AM
8	How to be confident when dick size crushes self-esteem? The majority of women do NOT have orgasms with "only" penis penetration but instead require some form of clitoral stimulation for orgasm. Similarly, the G-spot is located about 2 to 3 inches up at the front of the vaginal wall so 5 inches is "adequate" for most women. There is more to sex than a giant slong and you can become very adapt at oral sex as well as hand stimulation. Last but not least, sex is about an intimate experience and encompasses romance, set up, foreplay, tease and denial, pla…	/r/seduction	14/09/21 03:46 PM
15	Attraction happens when you're NOT trying... I gotta be honest, this is one of those platitudes or trite sayings that has the ring of truth in it, but is bullshit. It is ok to try, it is ok to put your best foot forward. It is ok to plan a fun date, plan a fun event, plan a romantic gesture. There are a lot of women (and men) that appreciate it and are flattered when you put effort into a courtship. What is the reverse? To not try? To not give a shit? To just be all like, "Hey, I'm not gonna put any effort whatsoever into courting you beca…	/r/seduction	14/09/21 02:41 PM
4	How do you feel around beautiful women? Speaking for myself, whenever I see a super hot woman I think "She'd be lucky to have me as her boyfriend." That's right, she would be the lucky one. I don't cheat, I don't lie, I treat my girlfriend's like gold, and I make sure we have tons of fun, and I'm awesome in bed... So, I don't turn into putty around them. I treat them "normal" if not just ignore them and that throws them for a loop because they are so used to guys tripping over themselves. Besides, just because a girl is "hot" doesn't …	/r/seduction	09/09/21 03:36 PM
27	For guys, what's one dating advice that never worked for you? I had guys constantly say something to the effect of "Don't let her know how much you like her, you gotta play it cool, make her think you aren't that into her..." What is interesting is that the above advice is "kinda right" but it is also "way wrong" Human nature is strange, we kinda want what we can't have. And if we can have something, we tend to not be as attracted to it. So what did I do? Well, I basically let the girl know that I have 3 people living in my head, the physical guy, the ment…	/r/seduction	04/09/21 03:07 PM
0	[deleted by user] I think online dating is a superior form of dating. I would create a very interesting and well thought out profile and make it smart, fun, flirty, and unique. Then I would spend around 10 to 20 hours looking at female profiles and crafting around 25 witty custom replies to their posts. Out of those 25 replies i'd usually get 15 responses, out of those 15 responses, 6 or 7 would be very good replies that showed they put real time and effort into it. Out of those 6 or 7 good replies 3 or 4 would p…	/r/seduction	11/07/21 04:12 AM
2	Some of you are lame The first step is understanding women are human beings. Human beings like to feel good, like to be intrigued, like to feel needed, like to feel special, like to feel as if you actually care about what they have to say... HUman beings also respond well to "good natured" people. If you are the sun, if you are the light, people will naturally gravitate towards you in this dark dark world... Ok, the above is all well and good but what about something concrete? Well, advice for personality and social…	/r/seduction	28/04/21 03:43 AM
29	Some of you are lame This sub makes me realize most of my competition for women is trash Thank god. I'm just an average looking guy, a 7 at best, and I always managed to pull hot smart girl friends that were solid 8s and 9s and a big reason for that is because most guys are douche bag A-hole alpha male wannabe idiots that don't know how to treat women right. So to all the douche-bag A-hole alpha male wannabe idiots, thank you. Thanks for being you. And keep being yourself!!!	/r/seduction	27/04/21 04:34 PM
0	Well guys I can’t believe it happened ALWAYS get the number or at the very least her email address and hand her your number as well...	/r/seduction	22/04/21 04:02 PM
2	Don't pursue women who don't want you, focus on the ones that do want you most women have no idea how to deal with rejection for the simple fact most women have never pursued a man. Women are trained via social programming to wait for men to pursue them not vice versa. Sure, a woman may drop hints but it is rare for women to pursue men they are interested in. As they get older (mid-30s+) this changes somewhat...,	/r/seduction	20/04/21 07:41 AM
5	Don't pursue women who don't want you, focus on the ones that do want you I know a guy who's short and obese and each of his girlfriends (he has a new one each couple of months) is at least 7 in looks, usually 8. He has nothing other than his sense of humor, confidence, and cockiness. I had horrifically bad acne as a teen, as a result, I had severe acne pits in my face in my 20s. However, I had a perfect 10 body, six pack abs, cut arms, etc. I made up for my lack of looks by being very confident, personable, funny, sincere, and "manly" without being a dick. The reason…	/r/seduction	20/04/21 07:39 AM
7	Don't pursue women who don't want you, focus on the ones that do want you I'm amazed how many men are clueless to nonverbal communication. When you talk to a woman, if you move six inches towards her and she instinctively moves six inches away from you that is a bad sign. If she looks you in the eyes while talking and smiles showing teeth that is a very good sign. If she finds reasons to touch you while you are talking (arm, hand, shoulder, etc) that is a VERY good sign. If she answers everything with one-word answers and turns away from you that is a very bad sign...	/r/seduction	20/04/21 07:30 AM
4	Don't pursue women who don't want you, focus on the ones that do want you In terms of a woman being attracted or not attracted to you, I've found there are 3 main categories A) Women that are attracted to you B) Women that are NEUTRAL and will give you a chance to impress/woo them C) Women that are NOT attracted to you I've found that women in Category B are willing to talk to you but you are on borrowed time and shaky ground. If you say or do the wrong thing you can blow your chance. But, if you can be fun, sincere, and demonstrate good qualities (like listening and …	/r/seduction	20/04/21 07:26 AM
1	How you flirt (escalate) on a person you just met? this was before the days of everyone having a cell phone... showing my age :-)	/r/seduction	13/12/20 03:38 AM
117	How you flirt (escalate) on a person you just met? I ran into a great girl, we talked, flirted, and then we exchanged numbers. Next day, I go into my pocket to get the number that was written down and somehow I lost the number. FML Next day, she called me... We ended up having a great FWB relationship for a few months. So yeah, always exchange numbers.	/r/seduction	12/12/20 11:11 AM
2	A new perspective on approaching woman? Firstly, change your mindset from approaching women to approaching people. Next, get in the habit of initiating conversation with random people every day as practice. Whether you are standing in line, riding the bus, whatever, just talk to strangers. What you will discover with practice is that there is a skill in grabbing random strangers' interests and holding interesting conversations with people you don't know. THese people should be of all races, genders, social classes, etc. You will also …	/r/seduction	28/11/20 06:17 AM
9	As an average guy, when did you finally start getting girls you considered out of you leauge, and what did you do to achieve that? Learn how to court and woo women. And then fucking do it. There are tons of books, videos, etc on it and it is fairly easy. You express interest and you "slowly" escalate in a way that is appealing to the woman in question. You make your intentions known and you deliberately progress your relationship in a way that is fun and fulfilling for both parties.	/r/seduction	08/11/20 07:58 PM
1	As an average guy, when did you finally start getting girls you considered out of you leauge, and what did you do to achieve that? Here is the existential question you need to ask yourself. Why would you an "average guy" need a girl "out of your league"? Why do you desire that? Why do you expect a girl "out of your league" to be happy with an "average guy" when you are an "average guy" and are unhappy with a "average girl"? Reverse the question. Why as an "average guy" don't you date a woman that is "below average". I'm sure there are plenty of girls that are very unattractive that would bend over backwards and be a great g…	/r/seduction	08/11/20 07:55 PM
1	If you arent very attractive is your only hope is to be good socially? How much of an obstacle are you facing? When I was in the 8th grade I had bad acne. When I started high school (9th grade) my acne was the stuff of nightmares despite seeing dozens of dermatologists and skin specialists. I tried everything EVERYTHING but to no avail. So, I had to figure out other ways to be attractive and that left my personality. I became "that guy" who everyone liked. I was the class clown but not obnoxious. I was good in sports, was on the honor roll, and I was cool with everyone. Regarding women, I took all of my …	/r/seduction	15/10/20 04:57 AM
4	1 Conversation MISTAKE guys make When you are talking to a girl, always assume she likes you. if she doesn't she is gonna let you know, believe me. Girls are easy to read. She will let you know nonverbally or verbally. So, assume she likes you. This way, you will have much more confidence in yourself when you are talking to a girl. I see what you are trying to do but I think you have it wrong. When I'm talking to a girl, I do NOT assume she likes me simply because she does not know me. However, when I'm talking to a girl I assu…	/r/seduction	11/10/20 01:13 AM
2	Eye contact I mean, a man is not really defined by his occupation. She is attracted to a man itself and not the fact that hes a "lawyer" or "musician". Sometimes yes, sometimes no. There are plenty of women who define men by their profession. There are plenty of women who have warped views about what a man is and how a man thinks and feels. (note, not saying it is right or wrong, just saying how it is) It's rather the passion he feels towards what he is doing or his life that can be factored in. For some wo…	/r/seduction	08/10/20 01:41 PM
61	Eye contact great post. Basically, women give off various types of vibes. I feel there are 3 basic categories of vibes women give off. #1. The 'I'm not interested' vibe. This vibe is very noticeable if you know what to look for. They purposefully avoid eye contact, they purposefully keep their personal space bubble fully intact. They purposefully do not engage or limit any conversation they have to have with you often given curt almost rude responses when they have to respond to you. #2. Neutral Vibe. This …	/r/seduction	07/10/20 06:05 PM
12	Eye contact TIL squinching... which at first, sounds like something naughty from Rick and Morty :-)	/r/seduction	07/10/20 05:42 PM
40	How to introduce sex with the girls you meet/date? I feel as if some guys view sex like a "trap" you have to trick a woman into falling in it. No. Women are sexual creatures as well, they like sex, you just have to present yourself as an appropriate partner. How? Well, that definitely varies per girl, but in general, sex is all about physical chemistry. As you go on dates with the girl, you want her to have fun but you also want to clearly communicate your physical intent but you also need to be VERY mindful of the cues she is giving you. Simila…	/r/seduction	05/10/20 07:08 AM
34	So many girls find you attractive, don't focus on the ones who don't eventually she graduated and her final act was to give me a massive full frontal hug pressing all her fun bits on me and a kiss on the cheek... Also worth mentioning, I was Sophmore, she was a Senior. I wished her the best and I could tell even that final act by her left her disappointed because I was not drooling after her nor did I get hard when she obviously grinded against me and held me for a few seconds too long while she's pressed up against my favorite body part... Incidentally, she taug…	/r/seduction	29/09/20 03:46 PM
1	The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating Apps it involves listening and genuinely caring. People have a sixth sense about that sort of thing and we intuitively can tell when someone is sincerely and genuinely listening to us vs just waiting for an opportunity to say what we want to say without any thought to what you are saying...	/r/seduction	29/09/20 03:34 PM
43	So many girls find you attractive, don't focus on the ones who don't I call it stupidity. When I was in college, there was this knockout brunette, she had a banging body and an angel face, every guy liked her... Except me. I was not mean to her, I just didn't drool over her like everyone else did nor did I trip over myself to be near her. Eventually, after a few months this caught her notice. She then started flirting with me but again I didn't drool over her, I politely disregarded her flirting. And what really got her goat was I was very flirty and fun with a s…	/r/seduction	29/09/20 03:16 PM
9	The Three Ways to Meet Women: A Social Circle, Cold Approaches, and Dating Apps The trick to the cold approach is to get good at talking to random strangers. Sounds silly but I'm serious. Everyday we have dozens of opportunities to talk to random strangers: standing in line, making eye contact in a store, noticing an event that happens right in front of you... When you get good at talking to random strangers, you develop a skill and ease of not only talking to people but CONNECTING with people in a short span of time. After a while it becomes almost second nature. It's hard…	/r/seduction	29/09/20 03:28 AM
1	Tips on friend zoning girls you've slept with? There is a saying, "You can't turn a ho into a housewife..." Well, I feel to some extent the opposite is true... To me, it feels like the majority of women are not FWB types. Most women that have sex do so with the expectation that you will be exclusive and/or they want a relationship with all the trimmings. IMO, having Friends With Benefits is more about your selection upfront rather than being able to "convert" them. Find women that are in a place in their lives where they don't want a relatio…	/r/seduction	25/04/19 01:46 PM
2	Why is confidence so attractive to women? kinda crazy this post is getting downvoted. Truth is, a man is more attracted to a woman that displays vulnerability and insecurity than to a woman that displays confidence. It fits with our hardwiring, we men like to be protectors and providers, that is in our DNA, so yes, we are naturally "more" attracted to women that don't display confidence than to women that do. Not to say that a confident woman is unattractive, that is NOT what I'm saying. Let me put it another way. Take two identical loo…	/r/seduction	25/04/19 01:26 PM
2	She flaked, something came up. She want's to meet again this week but didn't set a date. How do I proceed? I don't have much insight. If you guys are cool and have fun together then just relax and have fun and take your cues from her. If she wants to be all boyfriend-girlfriend with the hand holding and kissing then fine, if she wants to play it cool and just keep you at arms' distance and on the DL then fine as well. Have fun then afterwards get her alone and ask her when you guys are hooking up again. She should be a lot more willing after a day of fun... And if she seems a bit distant and standoff…	/r/seduction	25/04/19 03:03 AM
2	She flaked, something came up. She want's to meet again this week but didn't set a date. How do I proceed? Just put her on your back up list. Don't make her a priority but at the same time don't burn a potential future bridge and hook up. Basically, just lower your expectations and then you won't be so offended when things don't pan out. And then when things do pan out and you guys hook up, then all is good	/r/seduction	23/04/19 01:25 AM
4	She flaked, something came up. She want's to meet again this week but didn't set a date. How do I proceed? You've slept together once, then she flaked for the 2nd time. Did she initiate communication with you for the second meeting or did you? Based on what you wrote, seems like she initiated communication. If that is the case, then absolutely give her another chance. You don't have much to lose other than a little bit of wounded ego. Life happens, stuff comes up last minute, etc. So meh, as long as there is a light at the end of the tunnel and not too much hassle then there is no harm in setting ano…	/r/seduction	22/04/19 03:40 PM
2	If she smiles, say hi One of the best practices you can learn is to just talk to women you are interested in when you see them out and about. You'd be amazed how well you will do once you become a master at the art of random stranger conversation! Don't use pick up lines, just casual sincere conversation often about whatever environment you are in. Then throw in a little bit of wit and charm and you'd be surprised how far that will take you!!!	/r/seduction	21/04/19 06:11 PM
1	How to ask to be friends with benefits? Help? Another point about FwB relationships is that you can't just willy nilly have them with any girl nor can you willy nilly scroll through your contact's list of female friends and decide "Yeah, I'd like a FwB relationship with this one and that one and this one..." FwB relationships are unique affairs in which certain factors and prerequisites must be met. --Firstly, there has to be physical chemistry... there just has to be. --Secondly, there has to be mutual need-- if she isn't sensual then you …	/r/seduction	11/11/18 09:46 PM
2	How to ask to be friends with benefits? Help? You can also call the Dr. Susan Block Institute and talk to a Phone Sex Therapist about this stuff. call 2l3-29l-9497 any time 24/7	/r/seduction	11/11/18 01:13 PM
2	How to ask to be friends with benefits? Help? This might sound harsh, but don't be so fucking lazy. Being willing to put the time and effort in to learn how to seduce women is time and effort well spent and will pay for itself a million times over throughout your life. I'm an average looking guy that pulls tons of hot girls and the only reason why is because I spent a few hundred hours of my life in my teenage and college years reading about women, sex, relationships, and communication as well as watching videos on the subject. -- just sayi…	/r/seduction	11/11/18 01:11 PM
4	How to ask to be friends with benefits? Help? Friends with Benefits (FWB) is all about Physical Attraction and Physical Chemistry. You need to establish a level of physical comfort with her, touching her often and communicating that you would be a viable and great sex partner. One of the best ways of doing this is the foot massage. Yes, you heard right... The food massage is one of the best ways to get yourself on the path of a physical relationship with her. Massages in general are a great way to get her dopamine levels up and associate yo…	/r/seduction	11/11/18 01:05 PM
2	*7 Things Men Do That Turns Women Off* Simple, not paying attention to the "back off" or "tone it down" cues the woman is giving you. It really is a sliding scale as women vary, some will be comfortable with certain things and some will not. But what they all will universally do is give you "cues" that say "speed up" or "slow down" or "come hither" or "Back off". Over aggression really is just going forward when the girl is communicated "back off" but for whatever reason that communication is unnoticed by you...	/r/seduction	08/11/18 07:27 PM
6	Tips on soloing bars and clubs? Another suggestion is soloing at ANY Salsa / Merengue bar. Little know fact... Almost all Salsa/Merengue clubs have nights were they give free lessons. This is a PERFECT venue to meet people, make friends, and pick up girls. Trust me, Salsa/Merengue clubs are a gold mine.. the people there are more mature and more wanting to have fun... Unlike your hip hop clubs where everyone is just interested in looking cool... Salsa/Merengue clubs people go there specifically TO DANCE!!!	/r/seduction	08/11/18 07:05 PM
7	Tips on soloing bars and clubs? I almost always went to clubs by myself when I was younger, truthfully, it was way easier picking up girls at the club when I was by myself then with my friends. Trick is to know how to dance and then approach women that are showing obvious signs of wanting to dance (i.e. foot tapping to the music, etc). Dance with some girls, get some numbers and if you're really lucky pick one up and take her home :-)	/r/seduction	08/11/18 07:01 PM
1	The person who moves less in the conversation usually has more power moving around while talking is tricky and definitely depends on your personality. Basically, there is a right and wrong way to do anything. In general though, staying rooted while your upper body expresses your communication through hand gestures etc is going to be more normal especially if you are talking Western Culture...	/r/seduction	08/11/18 06:49 PM
1	How a mere mortal like myself lands hot chicks-- l-2l3-29l-9497 -- Sean Step #2. Approaching the Hottie. Believe it or not, most guys that approach hot girls completely suck at it. The key to approaching a hot girl is to #1) Be interesting, #2) Be confident, and #3) Be direct. Sorry, there is no magic silver bullet for #1. You must be skilled in the art of conversation and able to use your environment to your immediate advantage. Do NOT use pity or self deprecation in any form when talking to a hot girl. Similarly, do not send an intermediary on your behalf to intro…	/r/seduction	08/11/18 12:03 AM
-1	After years in the game, I want an expert on here to tell me why I get stronger IOIs from certain kinds of women than others. You should call the Dr. Susan Block Institute about this, they have a ton of sex therapists that can give you valuable insight into the minds of women. l-2l3-29l-9497	/r/seduction	06/11/18 07:20 PM