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7

Better lock in and grind or you’re dying in this state brother. Godspeed
/r/seduction28/07/26 03:32 AM
3

I read “Magnum Cum laaawd” and nearly shot myself
/r/seduction15/07/26 12:59 PM
8

It’s lowkey creepy but I’ve done this and every dude ever has done this. If she likes you she’ll shrug it off, if not then you’ll never speak to her again—which is what will happen if you don’t message her anyway. Nothing to be lost in this situation bro
/r/seduction20/05/26 12:00 AM
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Not that often. Occasionally if I’m moving through a crowded bar, a really drunk girl will reach out and try to start talking to me. But I’m not into girls that are drunker than me, so…
/r/seduction01/05/26 03:34 PM
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25-26.
/r/seduction07/04/26 01:54 AM
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I was in a similar position in 2024/2025. I went on a lot of dates and had a few lays, even got a gf while living at my parents- but I never brought them back to the house. If my game was better or I cared less/was less embarrassed about living at home I probably could have, but I wasn’t proud of the fact that I lived at home, so…. I made do where I could. It won’t hinder you unless you let it. Dont lead with it but just own it when it when it comes up.
/r/seduction07/04/26 12:58 AM
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Thanks man!
/r/seduction06/04/26 05:45 PM
1

Appreciate this insight. Yeah, I’m a big fan of attachment theory and have found myself taking different roles in different relationships in my past. My first and longest/most serious relationship was with a woman who was very anxiously attached and required a lot of reassurance and desired a lot of vulnerability from me, which triggered avoidant tendencies in me. My most recent relationship was with a highly avoidant woman and I found the roles flipped. I’m very mindful not to display much need…
/r/seduction06/04/26 05:44 PM
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Good, genuine advice. I appreciate it very much!
/r/seduction02/04/26 10:30 PM
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That’s totally valid. I’ve come down with a bad case of oneitis over this girl and I am trying to shake that. To your point about being real - what do you mean by that? My experience has always been that just coming out and “confessing your feelings” tends to be a major mistake, whereas building tension with a push-pull, will he or won’t he dynamic tends to be a lot more successful. Or do you mean something else?
/r/seduction02/04/26 07:19 PM
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This is a good reminder for me. I appreciate this. I often fall into over-thinking / over-analyzing / over-gaming because a lot of the dating advice content online portrays women as monolithic. Given what you’ve said, how do you get consistent results with women?
/r/seduction02/04/26 06:45 PM
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Hey man, thanks a lot for this response. I’m a long-time, chronic consumer of dating coach/PUA/RP content on YouTube. I think it’s been helpful in some ways, but likely more harm than good as it gets me deep in my head, over-theorizing every interaction. Admittedly, this is a bad habit on multiple levels. Something a lot of YouTube PUAs (Bobby Rio, Casey Zander, ToddV, so on…) talk about is a strategy of pulling back / withdrawing from interaction at a certain point early in relationships w wome…
/r/seduction02/04/26 06:39 PM
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Millennial ahh beaten dead horse ahh joke 😭
/r/seduction05/03/26 04:14 AM
10

Thanks for letting us know.
/r/seduction05/03/26 04:13 AM
0

GOATED perspective
/r/seduction21/02/26 12:05 AM
3

You gotta stop with the self pity (post history) and remember nothing changes if nothing changes. Lock in and do it. Say hi to every girl you see.
/r/seduction15/02/26 03:07 AM
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In the uber now. Nashville. May the seduction gods be with us.
/r/seduction15/02/26 03:03 AM
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It sounds like you’re insecure and age is just the scapegoat you’ve told yourself. Forget about it dude. 26 is a perfectly normal age to go out and have fun.
/r/seduction10/02/26 01:53 AM
4

Loooove words like that.
/r/seduction08/01/26 05:21 PM
2

Don’t overthink. That week, if you’re available. Tell her when you are free and which works for her.
/r/seduction25/11/25 03:52 PM
2

Don’t get banned/shadow-banned like I did. As far as texting goes, I never wait more than 6-7 messages to set the date. A couple messages to build rapport / flirt, and then pull the trigger. If she’s not down after a brief text, she’s not serious. Many women are on there just for the cheap validation, so don’t even worry about it if she doesn’t respond. She was never going to say yes anyway.
/r/seduction25/11/25 01:54 AM
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I relate to this a lot. I’m so cold with girls I meet OLD but cold approach has been a struggle for me forever. All I can say is that the only thing to do is approach. There’s no secret to getting over the fear - you just do it in spite of it. It’s advice I need to hear too, because I’ve been in a rut lately and struggling to push beyond it. I hired a coach last year, and it was very helpful while I had him. Smaller platform / newer guy and I was one of his first students. He wasn’t too expensiv…
/r/seduction24/11/25 08:47 PM
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Good advice.
/r/seduction10/11/25 12:48 AM
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Appreciate this man. Sucks taking the L but I’d feel worse if I hung around performing trying to make it work. So I’m glad with my decision.
/r/seduction10/11/25 12:44 AM
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Yeah I got that. But I’m not going to put on a clown nose and perform harder than the other guy for one specific girl in an acute sense. I think you recognize the difference I’m getting at
/r/seduction09/11/25 08:32 PM
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Yeah, I think this is it. I wasn’t physical enough early on. It didn’t help that her friends was with us all night bc I don’t like doing “PDA”, but I should’ve tried to isolate her more. As far as actually interacting with the other guy, any advice?
/r/seduction09/11/25 10:33 AM
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Put yourself out there. Approach women and get rejected. Learn from your mistakes. Your intuition is right. By the time you’re where you want to be your game will be miles ahead and that much better.
/r/seduction16/04/25 05:26 AM
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If you can pull it off fat hats off. But you could pull it off way better and with hotter girls fit. Don’t accept being fat. Lose weight. You will be and feel more handsome and confident and pull much hotter. But if you’re posting this, I assume you’re not doing well. So lose weight WHILE working on your game.
/r/seduction16/04/25 05:25 AM
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She’s flirting with everyone. Get her alone and make a move. If she rejects it you have your answer. If not, good for you.
/r/seduction16/04/25 05:23 AM
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I was dating a girl I met on hinge and changed my profile after a few dates. She noticed and changed her profile too. After we became exclusive I asked about it and she said “yes I saw you changed yours and say ‘well if he’s open I’m open’ but never matched with anyone just wanted to make you jealous.” It’s not a problem and will probably make her feel more for you.
/r/seduction14/03/25 01:41 AM
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I’m not saying I don’t empathize with you, but you need to be aware that your thinking is extremely negative. Instead of saying “I have autism, and instead of using that as an excuse, I’ve made a concerted effort to improve my social skills which don’t come naturally to me and have developed the confidence to go out and talk to people,” you say “why even bother, I’m just going to embarrass yourself and they’re going to think I’m inexperienced.” Wtf? Yeah you’re inexperienced compared to some. Co…
/r/seduction09/11/24 07:21 PM
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Where dude? I want to hookup a girl I like and I want to find out how to make sure she’s comfortable with it. What’s desperate about that ?
/r/seduction09/11/24 04:38 PM
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This is valuable. Thank you. That’s basically the method I’ve been going with. Never pushy, always cool w what she wants, but not uninterested or shy.
/r/seduction09/11/24 04:32 PM
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I’m not the type to insist, ever. I’d rather beat off than have sex w someone who’s not into it, tbh.
/r/seduction09/11/24 04:30 PM
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I think so but I’m not sure. Will talk more with her about it next time.
/r/seduction09/11/24 04:29 PM
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I’ve wondered that too.
/r/seduction09/11/24 04:28 PM
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Something in between, I guess. I’m not ready to jump into anything super serious yet and despite our chemistry not totally sure we’d be compatible in a relationship. But I’m enjoying seeing her
/r/seduction09/11/24 04:28 PM
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Interesting approach. Thanks I’ll think about that
/r/seduction09/11/24 04:27 PM
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She told me she likes having sex it just takes her a long time to get there with someone. I’d be surprised if she was a virgin but not shocked.
/r/seduction09/11/24 04:26 PM
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This is probably right. I know I should have said something like that and was thinking about it before the date, but I guess I forgot. Stupid. Appreciate the response.
/r/seduction09/11/24 04:24 PM
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Todd V is not
/r/seduction21/10/24 09:33 PM
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Yeah absolutely. Push pull is the easiest to do imo. You can lean heavily on the standard lines and just drop them when appropriate. She says something you like, say “I really wasn’t sure about you at first but I think I might actually like you.” She says something you don’t like, say “you know you’re cute but I’m not sure that we’re gonna get along.” Jokingly saying “I hate you” or “I can’t tell if I love or hate you” or anything along those lines. If she likes you, this kind of casual teasing …
/r/seduction14/06/24 07:33 PM
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I’m not really into tricking women under false pretenses. No shade if that’s you but I don’t feel good about myself doing that.
/r/seduction14/06/24 05:55 PM
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We didn’t talk. We straight up marched on hinge and scheduled a date.
/r/seduction14/06/24 05:27 PM
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Definitely not.
/r/seduction14/06/24 03:49 PM
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I’m pretty sure she has a green card already
/r/seduction14/06/24 01:16 PM
2

White 5’11. She’s black 5’4
/r/seduction14/06/24 12:58 PM
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Wouldn’t surprise me if she’s sheltered. She’s from Nigeria and only moved to the US last year. She’s 21.
/r/seduction14/06/24 12:57 PM
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I hear you bro but this is a true story. You don’t have to believe me. Irdc if you don’t.
/r/seduction14/06/24 12:55 PM
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Good to know. I appreciate that. Thank you.
/r/seduction14/06/24 04:40 AM
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Thanks. I appreciate it.
/r/seduction12/06/24 04:45 PM
1

Great advice. Thank you. I replied this to another comment, but my sister suggested I say something like “hey I don’t mean to freak you out but I thought you were cute” or something along those lines. Would this be solid or bad frame? Or should I not really worry about higher level stuff like frame and just get comfortable making approaches?
/r/seduction10/06/24 03:18 AM
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I was talking to my sister about it and she said to say something like “hey I don’t meant to freak you out but I wanted to say you’re cute” or something along those lines. Is that a bad frame to approach with or valid advice?
/r/seduction10/06/24 03:15 AM
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Valuable insight I will incorporate this into my next approach and report back
/r/seduction10/06/24 03:13 AM
2

Handsome and tinder HOT are two different things.
/r/seduction07/06/24 06:21 AM
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I’m trying to be conscious of the approach angle. But what if they don’t see me / look at me?
/r/seduction07/06/24 01:56 AM
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We get a little lonely sometimes :(
/r/askTRP18/11/20 01:10 AM
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Got it. Thanks.
/r/askTRP17/11/20 07:03 PM
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That was my plan. I typically just don’t engage. This slut is not worth my time to explain my positions or try to reason w/ her, and I don’t care what she believes.
/r/askTRP17/11/20 07:03 PM
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Probably correct
/r/askTRP15/10/20 04:40 PM
1

Yes, I see what you’re saying. Value is not subject to her approval—if she doesn’t like it, she can leave it and there’s no loss counted on my part. I need to reorient myself in this lens. Edit: you’ve been very helpful, I appreciate your insight.
/r/askTRP15/10/20 04:33 PM
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We have fucked once and hooked up multiple times, but it’s been a while. So I failed. What would have been a better initial response? Ignore/try to meet up?
/r/askTRP15/10/20 04:31 PM
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Antidepressants
/r/askTRP15/10/20 04:26 PM
1

Well, I wasn’t trying to pander. I genuinely was annoyed with what she was saying and tried to express that until I started joking about it.
/r/askTRP15/10/20 07:14 AM
1

Awesome, thanks man
/r/askTRP15/10/20 07:13 AM
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Stop watching porn, get off SSRIs, start lifting, and lose weight. If you can effectively do all of these things I’m positive you won’t have this problem anymore. Also, alcohol and benzodiazepines can cause ED, so if you have a problem with either of those, start there.
/r/askTRP15/10/20 06:51 AM
1

I’ve never really bought into the whole “outcome independence” idea. If I was utterly unconcerned with the outcome, I wouldn’t expend the effort in the first place. Of course you can’t be totally dependent either, in which case you’re tossed to and fro on the whims of female approval. I don’t need her approval or for her to be impressed with me in order to be happy with myself. But as long as I’m talking to her/pursuing whatever with her, I do want those things so that I can be successful and ef…
/r/askTRP15/10/20 06:46 AM
1

Maybe I’m reading too much into it. But her original persistence with “being the boss” felt like she was waiting for me to say the right thing, and then her ultimate “sorry, I’m taken” felt like my response was unfulfilling. Am I overthinking it? I’m genuinely not upset about this, I don’t think I blew it or anything, but I’m trying to improve my game so I want to learn from my mistakes, perceived or otherwise.
/r/askTRP15/10/20 06:25 AM
1

Idk, her response just felt...unimpressed? There’s obviously a difference between utterly failing a shit test and just not passing it. I don’t think I failed, but I am curious what might have been a better strategy.
/r/askTRP15/10/20 06:14 AM
1

If she has kids, are you seriously willing to come between their satisfaction and stability growing up so that you can bust a nut? Low move bro. I understand (and resent) the fact that married couples fall apart, but you will be tearing apart a family (if she has children). Just take that into consideration.
/r/askTRP29/08/20 04:21 AM
3

I second this question
/r/askTRP24/08/20 02:43 PM
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I took them, they were helpful for a time, but not necessary. They made my lows less bad, but also my highs less high. I just felt like I was riding in the middle all of life. Over prescribed and the side effects are under emphasized. I’m glad they’re working for you tho
/r/askTRP17/08/20 05:52 PM
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Just don’t get on SSRIs. Unless you’re in a truly dire circumstance (suicidal) they’ll make the world more flat and grey.
/r/askTRP16/08/20 07:14 PM
1

I’ve read the sidebar, I’m just dumb
/r/askTRP20/07/20 10:40 PM
1

Yea...because you often go to the doctor at a residential home...? Not realistic. Don’t wanna wait until Im 32 to have kids, don’t want to hire a nanny once I do. I don’t have a problem with a wife who works, but I don’t want a wife who works 40+ hours a week.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 04:12 AM
1

Nah bro she had a bit of my heart long before that—like I said we’ve got history. Fucking just brought it to the surface. I’m not sweating it too much, but I’m a bit too romantic to just shrug it off. Lame but true.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 02:09 AM
0

I want kids and a wife who will be there to raise them.
/r/askTRP11/07/20 09:02 PM
1

I need to meet new girls. I’ve been relying on my old hoes from highschool and early college... it’s time to make new connections.
/r/askTRP11/07/20 04:43 PM
1

Thank you bro, I appreciate the pep talk. 100% right.
/r/askTRP11/07/20 03:18 PM
4

Thank you king. This is what I needed to hear. I normally don’t struggle with attachment issues—if anything it’s the opposite—but there are a handful of women who give me oneitis like crazy. This girl is definitely one of them.
/r/askTRP11/07/20 02:37 PM
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