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CULTURAL MISOGYNYhavingababypenguin/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:35 AM
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My husband is well aware that I don’t need him. He doesn’t need me either. We both want each other. Sure in our current relationship he needs me to care for our girl, and I need him to pay the bills. But if it came down to it we could both stand on our own feet and create a life separately. So that’s a red flag for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 05:13 PM
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This is it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:41 PM
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ME TOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:55 PM
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This is absolutely the FDS way, but I think he meant to ask questions for her to be able to see through the lies. Not give that asshole more of platform. His intentions seemed on point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:05 PM
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My then broke college student husband asked me to order first, then nudged me out of the way ensuring he would pay for us. I didn’t sleep with him 3 months. I’m now a SAHM to the brightest most beautiful little girl and he’s planning on buying us a home where we can both have separate office spaces to prepare for me to start teaching piano lessons again. A lot happened in between there. And I’ve absolutely carried us financially after we were married during some difficult times. But it’s a beaut…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 07:31 PM
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I loved this book!!! So much. Also she’s chunky. Loved it. I’m chunky too. And to her someone describe my body as sexy was just really pleasant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:58 AM
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I was raised just a bit stricter and yep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 12:15 AM
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People with ADHD find solutions in their job. They can find solutions in their personal life. Don’t let men tell you any different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:25 PM
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Coming from a married woman with an inexpensive ring that she loves, what in the gold digging hell is this man up to??? He only hasn’t broken up with her because of her salary??? Sheesh. I hope she leaves. And who wants to bet she showed him rings she liked and he freaked out at the price tag. I highly doubt she threw that number down out of the blue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:24 AM
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My husband and I waited 3ish months maybe 4. I highly recommend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:21 PM
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I always wanted kids. Blimey it's so incredibly hard being a breastfeeding, gentle, respectful, present, thoughtful stay at home mom. It's just so so so overwhelming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:28 AM
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I'm sure you have a good point. It's just where I started.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 11:37 PM
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I've gained and lost upwards of 100 pounds. My Daddy tells me I look pretty any time I get gussied up no matter where the scale was. My mother on the other hand, but digress...wtf is up with that Dad?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:07 PM
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I haven't slept through the night in 21 months. I had to ask a woman how to get into a hotel pool today. So that's embarrassing, but I quickly apologized and stayed 8+feet away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:33 AM
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MODS ooooohhhhhh MODS we have a MALE among us. 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:49 PM
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You could have started a conversation about life goals and commitment. You didn't. You chose to break it off. Only you know why. But trust your gut 100%. For whatever reason your female intuition knew it was time to go. Good for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:12 AM
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I'm just a stay at home mom nursing my child to sleep internally screaming at Hans. Also I've mentioned my very anti-fds life style in here and no over has kicked me out!!! I love it here. I'm going to teach my baby girl so much. She's gonna have to do some serious reading before she solo dates. I expect to allow her the occasional middle school date like dances etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:06 AM
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I would lock the bathrooms and have my child come ask me for the key. After peeing we would go check the bathroom together. If they missed the bowl I would have them clean the bathroom. Parenting is work. Like they don't get to 14 and your work stops. It's. Constant. Ducking. Work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:25 PM
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It's no black women's job to educate me, but you can't Google what you don't know, ya know? I'm currently reading White Fragility. Not going to lie, it's hella uncomfortable. But I think it's important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:22 AM
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Oh. Oh no. No I did not. Thank you for taking the time to point that out. I'm just trying to educate myself a little more everyday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:13 AM
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These people sound like they have real jobs! My broke college student now husband took me to Thai Noodle Company after our philosophy class. I mean come the hell on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 06:17 PM
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What grade you are is the time your cell phone turns off and gets charged in the living room. Your laptop doesn't have a camera. And if I even think you're chatting online, bye bye technology. My daughter might hate me a little, but that's ok. I'm trying to raise a happy healthy adult, not please a teenager.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:58 PM
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Your life starts now. Girl he sounds like straight up trash. Literally revolting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:53 PM
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I had terrible nausea and gestational diabetes a horrid labor but that's the hospitals fault, not my body's. So I get it. I do love being a mom to my little girl. It's all 100% worth it for me. You're totally worthy and a full woman regardless of your decision to not reproduce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:20 AM
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I have to say, I got pregnant fat. And was back to normal weight with no added stretch marks at 6 weeks. Also I felt pretty normal at 4 months in terms of strength and endurance. So I'm not out here preaching that chunky life, but it is truly luck of the draw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:37 PM
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I've used that term about FDS before. (Not in a negative way, I love it here) I more meant that everyone more or less believed the same. I won't use it in the future. You're right. No one here is insulated from opposing beliefs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 03:31 AM
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I've tried nothing and I'm all out of ideas. I'm wheezing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:44 PM
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Wow he thinks you're an idiot. That's insulting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:49 PM
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OH MY GOD. This is gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:30 PM
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Yeah and I'm only commenting this to prove it point. I'm a SAHM. I love it here. I'm accepted here. And I don't get banned for living my life and what makes sense for my family and my values even though it's not 100% the FDS way. Also I don't think I need to preach my life values to anyone here. Society and statistics shove sacrificing for your kids down women's throats. You can be a great mom and a working mom! I have a job/career where I won't be penalized at all for taking years off because I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:43 PM
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There's some things in the handbook that I don't believe. Guess what?!? NO ONE WILL HERE EVER KNOW. I don't need to give you lot my reasons; and I love that this is a place that promotes woman having standards! If you're secure in your standards you don't have to explain them to anyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:10 PM
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Ooh thank you! I love my girl she's my whole world. I think I'm done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 06:57 PM
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I don't have the time at this point in my life to truly excited my disappointment in the media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 11:19 PM
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You need to be able to play with a soft rounded relaxed above all else hand shape. You have to be able to control how you push the keys as you advance. Ideally if you hold your hand up to your face palm forward, you shouldn't be able to see your nail. But you don't have to be 1000% committed if you love your nails. If they aren't that important, cut them down and trim them. They still look pretty painted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:16 PM
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I could see how early twenties might not have date clothes in your closet. You can usually sex up a business casual blouse or your Sunday church dress or your farmers market jeans enough for a first date. But why would a young woman have any of that yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 02:13 PM
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Oof that's so sad. Sorry not sorry but there's a world of difference between reading a novel and watching porn. I hate that women are legitimately looking for advice then gross pickmes and worse gross men tell them that's it's normal. It may be normal, but it's still gross and demeaning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 01:45 PM
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I read "porn" is that what these women are referring to? After I became a mom it was hard to transition into sexy time. Reading dirty novels help. Because like hours? Wtf? Who has time for that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 01:24 PM
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Oh I would go to the salon for gel toes! I'm gonna do it. I got a gift card and everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 01:20 PM
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Have your ever done gel on your toes. I want to try it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 01:15 PM
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I bought a coat once because we were going to be outside and I didn't want to wear black. That's as far as I've ever gone. Nice guy beautiful coat. I've never gotten my nails done much less hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:57 PM
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Or when you wait a couple days too long and your nail gets stuck in between the black and white keys on a particularly difficult run and you consider all your life choices up to that point. 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:55 PM
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I'm a musician, so I don't. Little chips get on the piano.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:43 PM
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Is painting nails really that common?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:34 PM
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Girls, y'all are buying clothes before dates!?! NO. Pull from your closet! Have a couple of outfits that make you feel great and cycle them. Men don't deserve all that work. And what if it goes poorly? Now you didn't spend +50 on a bad memory. Stop using men as excuses to drop your hard earned monies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:31 PM
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I'm ready to jettison men off to their own planet. Let's get them the fuck away from us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 11:29 PM
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FDS the new Salem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:52 PM
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I know it's unusual, but I have a degree that I can go from 0 dollars a month to 4k a month guaranteed (except maybe in a pandemic) in 2/3 months. It's not a huge amount of money. But me and the kiddo would survive. I'm so grateful to stay at home with her. I get all her firsts. I get all the bonding. I get to know that she's happy and safe. I get to do all the enriching activities. I get to know she isn't being neglected or worse abused. She doesn't get sick from being with 20 other babies all …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:38 PM
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I'm fat. I know I could "level up", but I'm breastfeeding. I'm caring for a toddler. I'm building my home and my marriage. I'm dreaming about going back to work and what that will look like. I'm researching how I'm going to school my child. I got a lot going on. I still deserve respect! Those posts annoy the hell out of me, but I try to scroll past and roll on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:39 AM
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Also he worked really hard for it. What the duck? A 50k year job? Come the eff on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:47 PM
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I tell my 16 month old every day that's she strong capable and she would walk at the first sign of disrespect. I have multiple books that she is going to read before going on her first date. And they aren't the trash I had to read as a teenager. She doesn't need anyone's approval, except mommy's and mommy thinks you hung the moon for breathing in and out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:17 AM
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I totally understand your perspective. What do you do when you take the time to vet a church to the best of your ability, then this happens with your 11 year old sitting beside you. Do you get up and walk out? Do you discuss it at home? What's the answer? It's hard. Really hard. The patriarchy is entrenched in the church.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:42 AM
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Good point that I hadn't even considered!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:27 PM
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It's really jarring when you realize that they don't see us as human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:27 PM
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Ugh so gross. Sometimes I think I'm a Christian and then I consider raising my girl in a church and I'm like; wait maybe not. Maybe I'm an atheist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:26 PM
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Men often take their boots off outside?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 10:46 PM
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I've recently done this. It's makes things awkward but worth it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:51 PM
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Op you're in severe danger if even 20% of your post is true. Please get somewhere safe. Edit: I don't mean to insinuate that you are lying. But if you read my comment and think, "well x was my fault or y wasn't so bad or maybe I imagined z"...YOU ARE IN DANGER OF MURDER even if 80% of your post is skewed in your favor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:24 PM
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I'm really happy to be a stay at home mom. But I did call my mom today and told her I wanted to get a job and offered her my whole paycheck to take Evelynn while I worked. She laughed her butt off because she was a stay at home mom. She knows how hard it can be. Being 16 months old and having lots of opinions is hard. Having your little toddler routine thrown off by an ice storm is hard. Teething is hard. I think the wine moms are often miserable because they have no real partner who is like "in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 10:46 PM
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I mean I wouldn't reply to that. But it would be lovely to respond "Not. All. Men."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 10:12 PM
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I lol'd
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:43 AM
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LMFAO. My husband will joke about chores (he really is pretty good at taking responsibility for the home) as if they're my responsibility because he works. I always say, "MF you would have to do all of this and go to work and not have this cute baby if it wasn't for me." Like working forty hours a week is the bottom of the barrel dude. And we both know you barely get 40 hours mister gets paid a stupid amount of money to know a niche software and cloud computing. 😂 Anyway, this sub has made such …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:51 PM
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Literally seven years before my birth. What. The. Fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:38 AM
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Y'all are gonna make me wake up my baby. I love this sub so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:51 PM
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Mine was from a lady in California! Molly jewelry I believe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:35 PM
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Especially with Etsy. You can get such beautiful thoughtful custom rings on literally any budget. My set was $700ish. And it looks so expensive. It wears beautifully. And I adore it. There's literally no excuse. NONE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 01:35 PM
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I play the piano with my house in shambles all the time. I have a needy 15 month old. I don't care who judges me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:51 AM
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Oh no. Just our bodies, our time, their orgasms...etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 02:17 AM
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You're not wrong though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:25 AM
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It's what they're best at 🤏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:10 PM
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I mean if you have a kid, aren't they always relatively nearby? Is it weird to sleep with my husband with our child in the next bedroom? I'm confused
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:08 PM
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Thanks for taking your valuable time to put this in FDS. I truly appreciate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 04:13 PM
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I literally only read one article on npr about surrogacy in India, I'm appalled. APPALLED. This doctor talked about simple women!?! The forced miscarriages. Then blaming those women!!! It's disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:06 PM
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I just did the base level of research on and oh my God, India
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 02:34 AM
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Covid hasn't helped this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:24 AM
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Look how beautiful they are. Proof that we don't dress ourselves for male validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 08:12 PM
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Thank. You.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:27 AM
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Oh good. I was like I've watched at least 15 series, and I truly loved them. I truly didn't know anime had that connotation. I thought the gross ones were outliers. Sad. Male depravity knows no bounds. As a classical musician, the music is my fave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:12 PM
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You're my hero. But seriously, thanks for this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 04:10 PM
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Sigh, yes. And I am married. How the heck do I start this conversation. 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:05 PM
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Alice Network- Historical Fiction Brooklyn Brujas Trilogy- YA fantasy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 02:19 PM
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👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 02:15 PM
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I'm sorry, but honestly why don't women think they should have access to their man's... Everything? I always have. From day one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:17 PM
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Men are gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:21 AM
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I know this isn't the theme of the post, but my Dad bought me one for my birthday and I'm in love!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:18 PM
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The only thing. My husband took pictures of me in labor. I would have throttled him if he posted them. But I think they're beautiful now, and I'm glad I have them. I look so strong in my misery. I was a warrior pushing a baby out with a failed epidural on pitocin and her hand by her head. That being said. I had two people, my mom and my husband. I would pick my mom. 1000% if I had to. And I've experienced it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:23 PM
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I'm gonna disagree here. As a fat not white lady, my white male Obgyno was the first doctor to not Shame me for being fat and pregnant Expect me to lose weight while pregnant Assign any medical concerns to being fat Also he respected my intelligence and research. He commended me for knowing my increased risks, and for coming in to get my BP checked when I had a migraine. He apologized for his other white male douche doctor colleague who told me, "Migraines are part of pregnancy. I can't make you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:27 AM
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I sent that post to my bestie. Gagworthy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:23 AM
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I'm coddling my daughter. I know I am. And if anybody has anything to day about it, they can go kick rocks. Hell yeah I'm raising a pampered, demanding, spirited, coddled, intelligent, and fiercely independent little girl. Who gonna check me? Demand the best baby girl. You deserve it. She spoiled rotten. No weak ass LVM is ever gonna turn her head. Because she's a princess. At least that's my goal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 06:13 PM
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As a republican, you have a solid point. The man isn't who I wish my party gave the nomination to in 2016.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 09:59 PM
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I'm started to balance later in life, but yes. This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 12:29 AM
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I. Will. End. This. Cycle. Of. Abuse. I'm only one. I will only do it for one. But I will do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:05 AM
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I don't have anything wise to say. I'm sorry. That sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 09:32 PM
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Ummmmm, how presumptuous. He would take you to his BEST field and offer you the FINEST tap water, and GENEROUSLY accept a blow job after complimenting your vague appearance. Maybe then you could buy him a rotisserie chicken from Walmart!?! What's not to love??? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 03:06 PM
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At least you didn't pay for his car to be fixed! I'm glad you found your crown!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:02 PM
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You make a solid argument.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 10:36 AM
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I haven't read that particular book but is there a difference between mistreatment and preferences?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:52 AM
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They aren't. At 200 pounds my husband from sitting on our bed. With one arm picked me up and put me on the ground because he heard gun shots. Let me set the scene, we lived in a bad area. We weighed about the same. We were sitting in bed. He grabbed my waist with his left arm, pulled me over himself and on to the ground then got on top of me. Because he heard gun shots. He wanted to protect me from gunfire. I was on the bed next to wall. Yeah, he could easily kill me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:26 PM
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Oh well that explains a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:33 PM
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Hey love, I'm so proud of you. You were down voted because FWB is heavily against FDS. You're a grown woman who clearly suffered for a long time. You go ahead and use FDS however works for you. I wish you happiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:04 PM
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Divorced women do not equal divorced men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:48 PM
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You're not wrong. But I want to care for my baby. I'm grateful that I have parents that could bail me out while I would have to regain my footing, idk if I would do it without that. I can make decent money through private tutoring, and I'll start that again when she's three. I'm also considering going into tech as those are often remote jobs when she's in kindergarten. My husband does provide for us. I know it's not ideal; but it is truly wonderful getting to care for my baby all day every day. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:34 PM
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Damn. My husband has done every bath since 8 months alone. And usually gives me a 25 minutes break at some other point in the day, usually cooks, solely supports us, and cleans the bathrooms. And I still think he should be doing more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 11:04 PM
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We can only hope. I'm very sad about my options as they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:14 AM
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I could never figure out why I would never use that term. You said it eloquently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:31 AM
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There's nothing stuffy about eating dinner in a restaurant. Don't be ridiculous. The whole comment was in support of creative dates that take work and planning??? So what's your point??? Men that won't take a lady to dinner have the emotional maturity of a thimble and your cry of, "not all men" isn't welcome here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 05:45 PM
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You need to forget he exists. You're wasting too much energy on him. Also have you read the handbook? Everytime you look or devote any thought to him, you're venturing off the path. You don't need revenge. You need to live well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:24 AM
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I'm crying. This was beautifully written
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:12 PM
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What? There are so many not spicy/non adventures options at Italian restaurants???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:09 AM
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For the record, they are always proud of their nastiness. They don't reflect. You're still strong and powerful. Block block block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 12:25 AM
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Did you just read, Men who hate women and the Women that Love Them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 05:38 PM
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What would motivate him to propose? You said life is sweet. You have a house. You have a child. He isn't going to marry you. Leave him or lower your standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:59 PM
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Wait wait wait, are you serious?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 10:10 AM
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The only thing I would add to this is that in the beginning of valuing yourself and learning...it is effort to ignore block and delete. That little bit of rage/anger/shock that bubbles up it's hard to ignore. But pushing through and not clapping back will become your norm and that little bit of emotion will fade. But in the beginning you want to stab back, throw a barb and feel like you won. That's ok! But it isn't worth it. Learn to ignore because that hurts more. But in the beginning it is eff…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 02:31 PM
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Spiked with tequila. Good Lord this was eye opening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 11:39 PM
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Where do you buy your clothes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:55 AM
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Thank you for taking the time to write this.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 09:27 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/19 09:12 PM
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Lmfao I’m old and married. Thanks for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 04:11 PM
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Yep! So I wrote a venting post about the wonderful but sometimes asshat that I’m married to in baby bumps. And they went through my post history and just tore me apart. Super helpful to a hormonal sad woman terrified of losing her baby. All because I truly believe that my husband grew from the broken shell of the man I met, because I treated with him respect and dignity through being unemployed/underemployed and going back to school and dealing with a father that hurt him terribly. Sorry, tmi, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/19 11:42 PM
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Super honest answer? I got treated fucking terribly for hanging out in red pill; so I came here.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/19 11:36 PM
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Me too! F, 30, married, 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/19 10:10 PM
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This whole thread is utterly ridiculous.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/19 02:56 PM
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I don’t need to look into RPW more. I was raised in it. I have taken college courses in it. My parents are still married. My Youth Pastor is still married. I’ve read books on the subject. I’ve observed it close up. I’ve seen that it works. I know that it is right. I’m extremely well educated on the matter. I’ve been married nearly seven years. Don’t downvote me because you think I don’t know what I’m talking about. The truth is that people that have suffered sexual trauma often approach sex diff…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 03:42 AM
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I’m not sure if this is healthy advice. Are you ok classylassy?
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 03:34 AM
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I think if I voice my true thoughts on the matter I will be kicked out of here. So, I’ll be gentle. There is no excuse for you bf’s reaction. He is young, but he’s not 14, so still not an excuse in my book. My husband was sexually assaulted as a child. He didn’t speak it out loud until after we were married. He physically abused me 4-5 times while dealing with this trauma. Again, not an excuse for him. We went to therapy and worked through it, but I digress. What I meant to illustrate that being…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 03:33 AM
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Your husband thinks doing his Master’s thesis is a wifely duty? What the fuck OP? Did I misunderstand something?
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 03:42 PM
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Just kick him out. He doesn’t sound like a captain as is the term around here.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 01:24 PM
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I thought men were logical?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 02:00 PM
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Run. This man isn’t right for you. The other commenters explained it better. But, run for the hills.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 05:29 PM
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A good teacher would help. Grant it most of the work I’ve done in this arena is with kids. But I consider it truly a success when my student can hear what the mistake they were making. We celebrate it lesson. I point out where the improvement constantly. The most controlling students that put so much pressure on themselves are usually so improved after a year. Alone, I would practice laughing at your mistakes. I constantly model this behavior. I (purposely or not purposely) make mistakes in fron…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/19 08:42 PM
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Go learn to play a new instrument. You’ll learn to be proud of progress and not perfection. There are lots of hobbies you could apply this too. Trial by fire!
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/19 04:39 PM
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You make a good argument.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 09:00 PM
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You’re feeling sound perfectly valid. You deserve to be angry. Can you relocate to a place with more opportunities? Can you start building bridges with family? Did you have a supportive family? Can you take in other kids for extra income? Does Ireland have any government programs that you can take advantage of? Like in the US we have head start (free preschool), WIC(under 185% of poverty supplies milk, cheese, formula), and food stamps. You attitude isn’t the problem. That should be your mantra.…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 07:24 PM
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You need marriage counseling and solo counseling. You said that you’re poor. Can you find a place that is a sliding scale nearby? Your troubles are way outside of this sub. You married too young. You chose a poor mate. Also, teenagers can’t realistically predict their future earning potential. You should definitely go back to work if you’re financially struggling and have free childcare (school+friend or family). There are no magic words of submission here to deal with your resentment. You and y…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 05:53 PM
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Well, you see, I’m fat. And it’s been crammed down my head that I’m at a much greater risk. When the risk elevated but not by much once I really did the research. Kinda pisses me off now how scared everyone made me.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 12:34 AM
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Nooooooo they post losses in there too much. It made me crazy and terrified. Maybe after 14 weeks I’ll try. But I was reading sometimes 3+ miscarriage stories every day.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 12:11 AM
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My dear friend grew up very differently that I did. Let’s just say her BFF from childhood is currently in jail for killing her own kid. She gave me multiple examples of women eating nothing but snickers and Mountain Dew, or just never drinking a drop of water and had perfectly fine babies. I love her stories because at least I’m better than that! I wish you a whole day of calm happy HarMony20 emotions, and lots of ice cream when that falls apart!
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 11:06 PM
2

I swear to god if one more person tells me to “do my best and make healthy choices” heads will roll. I’m in the first trimester. Healthy choice is currently a large fry at 2:00 AM because I ate a grand total of 200 calories earlier that day. It’s not my DAMN FAULT that my body has decided that the dead of night is the only acceptable time to eat. And only fries. It’s insane over here.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 10:59 PM
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I got too excited today and ate too much and now I wanna barf. As an x-eating disordered person, I could do this easily. But now I’m trying to hold the calories in for this baby. For the first time in my life being healthy doesn’t mean losing weight and it’s fucking with my head. Also, I cried for 5 hours straight yesterday. Here’s the highlight real, I can’t eat healthy. I just wanna eat a chicken breast. I’m going to be a bad mom. How can I cry over something I want so badly. My husband is goi…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 10:50 PM
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Yes. Pregnancy is no joke. It’s not easy. I didn’t even ask her to consider the mental health/physical health aspect of pregnancy.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 10:44 PM
2

Good luck to you! It sounds like you over came some real obstacles early in life in order to be happy now. You sound like you’re gonna be a good mom.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 10:43 PM
2

I Cooked for my husband on the second because he shouldn’t have gone on a date with me to begin with. He was getting sick plus had pulled an all-nighter then night before. College. It came from a genuine place of wanting him to hang out and chill instead of “look I’m wife material!” He was super into it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 10:29 PM
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I’m currently feeling like the biggest failure in the world because this baby that I want more than anything is really fucking with my hormones. So thank you. I needed that today. She or he developed toes dan fingers last week though. So that’s pretty cool.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 04:19 PM
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Get out of this relationship. It’s not good to be sexually incompatible.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 04:01 PM
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How much money do you have saved? Is he settled into a career that could support you and a baby if you couldn’t return to work quickly? If you are planning to return to work, Where would the baby go? Daycare is a pretty penny, do you have family that would want to take the baby? How much does your insurance cover of child birth? Mine is pretty crappy at 60/40. My baby is going to end up being 5-7grand. Would you have support to get some big ticket items like a car seat from family? Or would you …
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 12:56 PM
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This is funny, cuz whenever I voice my fear of being boring my husband says, “I like boring. I need boring.”
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 11:57 PM
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Oh definitely. And honestly I rolled the dice. I don’t think everyone should find a marriage the way I did. But sometimes you just know someone is super capable of great things, before they know it themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 11:55 PM
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I’m glad you chuckled at it, and didn’t take it offensively. I just have a hard time believing you about yourself. You seem level headed and rational in your writing. But maybe you are more advanced in self reflection that I am.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 11:54 PM
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Idk if I’m the right wife for this. My husband wasn’t an attractive mate when I met him. But I knew he could be. So I just supported his unemployed failing at community college depressed little butt as best as I could. He had -crazy- obstacles to overcome, and I knew he couldn’t do it alone. It’s been a fuck ton of work. But I was pretty level headed, and I have patience in spades. Also I had a relatively healthy upbringing. Fast forward to today where we have a baby on the way, he’s a junior ge…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 07:10 PM
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Sweetie, 25 pounds can be gone in less than six months. It’s so insignificant (if you take care of it) in the whole scheme of your healthy confident life. Every week you’ll feel better and better. Regardless though, you deserve some cute clothes. Rock those extra curves while you got them. 😉 Pop on your fave lip color, swing those hips, and show some extra boobage. You’re fine. I promise.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 05:53 PM
2

Enjoy the process! You’ll be comfortable soon enough ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 06:36 AM
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Have you started the search process? I’m a super miserable pregnant person who is often confined to her bed. I can talk to you about it. I currently live in Charlotte. I’m gonna google search a Christian therapist in my area and see what comes up. So lots and lots of female counselors of all colors and ages came up for me. All Christians, and licensed with their university listed. Seriously, I’m lonely and sad. If I can help I will. These hormones are doing a number on me. I’m desperately trying…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 05:11 AM
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I am the biggest advocate of well fitted clothes not matter your weight. It changes your outlook.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 02:22 AM
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BUY CLOTHES THAT FIT. If you’re losing weight, you don’t need a bunch of them. Shop clearance or thrift stores, but get 4 solid pieces that fit. Do you hair every day. Wear makeup every day. Take care of your skin. Wear earrings. Track inches and not pounds.Be kind to yourself. Drink you water and take some walks. 25 pounds feels like a huge difference to you, but it’s not that bad, and you can lose it in 5 months.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 11:10 PM
1

It’s nice to have a group of like-minded woman here! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 10:59 PM
1

I was at the point of considering fertility doctors, so I’m super grateful to be this miserable 😊. I’m just whiny at the moment. Just found this sub and fell in love!
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 10:47 PM
5

It’s one of my favorite memories. He also fixed my computer that night!
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 10:40 PM
1

Good plan. I’m glad I could help. I’m lonely and nauseated and pregnant. And desperately trying not to suck the life out of my friends, husband, and mom.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 10:39 PM
1

Maybe the next time he asks you out, ask if you could plan the date? That way he gets to chase, but relax about the plans. Maybe if he has planned some fun stuff, say you e appreciated it so much that you want to return the favor?
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 10:34 PM
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On my husband’s and I second date, I made him dinner at my house. Then we rented movies. He said I completely took the pressure off, and he knew he wanted to be with me long term that night. Now I did this because he was at the occupy movement all night and only slept a couple of hours before coming over. He said he planned to take me out, but I just wanted him to rest. (Side note we aren’t raging liberals anymore. Give us a break it was college.) So anyway, if there’s a situation where you can …
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 09:55 PM
2

Yeah I thought the driving example was odd too. Alright I’m starting to feel a little armchair-y psychologist over here. But it’s all kinda odd. And maybe I’m showing too much of my knowledge of BDSM, but it almost sounds like they practice domestic discipline. Major reach from me probably.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 12:20 AM
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Ya know reading some of her comments I can’t figure out if she is just a colossal headstrong witch to her husband or deeply mentally and emotionally abused. Plus I’m always a tad concerned when someone is listing off great qualities of their husband and looks is the first one they go to. Seems to denote some kind of superficial relationship, but I realize that’s probably extreme on my part. Actually reading her previous post; she sounds exactly like my husband. It takes a colossal amount of effo…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/19 10:10 PM
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It sounds like you chose the wrong kind of man to be with. That kind of a threat while pregnant is absolutely inappropriate. He needs to do some reading and maybe give a crap that his first mate is literally a big box of uncontrollable hormones. Captains don’t threaten and give ultimatums, especially to pregnant woman. Captains lead. Captains steer the ship. Captains give specific feedback and attainable goals. He is threatening. He leaves you not knowing how to please him. He is leaving you fee…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/19 07:51 PM
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I can’t figure out how she got here.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/19 12:27 AM
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I hated mangos too! With a passion... that’s so weird!
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 08:59 PM
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I also love mangos but can’t find any in season
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 08:50 PM
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Reese Puffs with Almond Milk is my current safe food. Riddle me that. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 08:48 PM
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Oh no! This is terrible news. I just wanna eat a chicken breast at some point in the next year 😂.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 08:43 PM
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I’m so glad I’m not alone.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 08:43 PM
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I’m pregnant, so Wendy’s or cereal. I can’t wait for second trimester! Poor husband, but he’s been great. Watching him become a Dad has already been incredible.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 04:05 PM
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