hayhio Archive

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0	Sexless marriage is a form of abuse. Yikes, no wonder she doesn’t wanna sleep with you. ….Withholding intimacy as a punishment is abusive, sure. But just not being interested or turned on isn’t. That’s just sexual incompatibility or a dry spell, she’s not maliciously withholding it to spite you lol. Dude just be a regular human and have a conversation with her, ask her what she needs, learn her turn-ons and what makes her comfortable. Tell her it’s affecting you and you need her input so that you can try to overcome it as a couple.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/22 05:38 AM
1	Girls don't want a 'guy who's 6ft+' because that's some magical height, they want a guy who's 6ft+ so that they can tell their friends they're dating a guy who's 6ft+. Interesting stat, but just to be fair, I’ll point out that, by default, a woman on Bumble who sets the height filter obviously cares about height for whatever reason. So that graph is looking at the preferred height only for women who have that height filter turned on, not women in general. Which means, it's not that 40% of women prefer men to be at least 6’. It's 40% of women who care height prefer men to be at least 6’. Which ALSO means 60% (more than half) of women who care about height are o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/22 03:45 AM
-7	Girls don't want a 'guy who's 6ft+' because that's some magical height, they want a guy who's 6ft+ so that they can tell their friends they're dating a guy who's 6ft+. Right? Pretty sure men are the ones obsessed with other mens height, not us. I’m 5’1, so literally as long as you’re at least one inch taller than me, we’re good.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/22 01:49 AM
1	A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to women Correct, it doesn’t have anything to do with anything, and that’s why I’m trying to figure out what you were trying to say, when you literally said the exact same thing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/22 08:25 PM
0	A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to women And the same can be said of women’s height (being “too tall”) and men’s control over body count. What’s your point? That women are wrong to have a preference about height (but not vice versa) and that men are right to care about body count (but not vice-versa)? Not sure what you’re trying to say. People are allowed to have whatever preferences they want about both things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 08:10 PM
6	What redpill “truth” do you think gives men the most rage? Then it’s not genuine. To form a “genuine attachment” to someone, that means you’re attached to them as a human being— who they are, how they think, how they act, their soul, the little things that make them “them”, etc— not just how they look. If the connection disappears as soon as they lose some level of physical attractiveness then it’s the opposite of genuine, it’s superficial… Esp since that’s a normal part of growing old, none of us will be physically attractive for more than a couple of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/22 04:24 AM
1	CMV, Do you ever recognize that many men don't understand venting the same way that women do? Trust me, no woman wants a dude who is stoic and internalizes shit. Those are literally the types of dudes we (women) avoid and make fun of because it just means they’re too insecure to be themselves and feel they have to wear a mask all the time or act like a tough-guy movie character… and after a certain point the desire to appear tough just makes them seem like a child and it gets super annoying. Idk, it seems it’s always the ones who know nothing about what women want, who claim to be expert…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/22 08:14 AM
1	CMV, Do you ever recognize that many men don't understand venting the same way that women do? Yikes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/22 07:46 AM
1	CMV, Do you ever recognize that many men don't understand venting the same way that women do? Agree EXCEPT as a woman I’ll add that there’s phrases to validate the venting without outright just agreeing with every opinion they have, like the whole ‘you’re so right, yeah she is a bitch’ thing— you don’t have to say that if you don’t genuinely agree. They’re not trying to be right, they just want to feel heard. Don’t disagree, but you don’t have to agree either with the actual words… it’s the emotions you’re trying to validate. So alternative phrases could be like “oh wow that sounds rough…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/22 07:40 AM
14	If standards are 'on the floor' for men, how high is the floor? The phrase is basically used when a guy doesn’t treat his partner good, but because he doesn’t treat them horribly either he gets praised for it. Doing the bare minimum of a decent person. Example: “Sure he ignores me every day and hasn’t touched me or said he loves me in a year, but he’s such a good guy because he doesn’t hit me.” Also typically applies to guys who truly aren’t great boyfriends/husbands but their partner has such low self esteem, they think their partner doing literally anythin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/22 04:38 AM
1	As a man, I think the men here greatly underestimate the fundamental advantages of being a man in society...... Sounds like you’re purposely misreading OP’s post. He never said “men have it easier.” He simply said that men often underestimate the advantages they do have— not that they have all of them. In other words, it’s silly to overestimate advantages & underestimate disadvantages that women experience, while simultaneously underestimating advantages & overestimating disadvantages that men have. You can’t have it both ways; it’s not fair, honest, nor realistic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/22 08:14 AM
1	Men struggle with dating and sex. So, what women struggle with? That’s what I thought at first too, but trust me that’s not the case. It’s literally just him. He’s dated a couple women I’m friends or acquaintances with, and they’ve seen me be supportive of his relationships in the past. And a few of his girlfriends I’ve met will be like “omg let’s all hang out together,” or even “yeah he needs more friends, maybe see if he wants to go do X, Y, Z with you this weekend, I think it’ll be good for him.” So most of his girlfriends seem to have no issue with him h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/22 06:37 PM
3	So you want women to "lower their standards" but at the same time "not settle" for you....HOW is that possible? I don't think anyone should “lower their standards.” If anything, I think people’s standards are already too low. But I also think there’s a lot of people who just aren’t realistic, either. It’s rare to find someone in between those two extremes. Like for example. I have a friend who has been sexually & physically abused her whole life, first by multiple family members, then by foster families, then by her boyfriends after growing up. And when she started dating yet another abusive guy, she woul…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/22 06:12 PM
7	So you want women to "lower their standards" but at the same time "not settle" for you....HOW is that possible? You worded that perfectly at the bottom.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/22 05:46 PM
6	Men struggle with dating and sex. So, what women struggle with? Yeah, I’ve had a lot of experiences where I thought a guy was my friend but if I put any sort of boundaries up at all, they bounce because they were just pretending to wanna be friends to hopefully get laid, and not gonna lie, that shit hurts. Always wondering if your friend is really your friend or if they’re just faking it to try to sleep with you. Makes it hard to trust anyone. Like I have another friend now, friends with him for years off and on, love him like a brother… but on his end, as s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/22 03:09 PM
23	Men struggle with dating and sex. So, what women struggle with? Just off the top of my head? Making genuine, lasting friendships... especially with men. They sometimes mistake kindness for flirtation, or they'll pretend to be your friend for years when in reality they have a hidden agenda and it’s just an act. I can't count how many times I thought a man was my friend, or even best friend, only to find out they were just pretending to care about me so they could try to get in my pants. Example: Less than 24 hours after my fiancé passed away, our mutual best …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/22 12:56 PM
2	CMV: Men that are tender and loving in the bedroom instead of rough and dominant are doomed to be mediocre, forgettable lovers I usually try to be polite when giving feedback to men about this topic, but I'm just gonna be straight forward with this: 95% of dudes use the rough macho method, and 90% of them suck at it. To the point it's a running joke among women. Meanwhile, only like 5% of dudes use the soft and tender approach, BUT no matter what mood I'm in, even if I’m preferring a rougher experience, I've always been pleasantly surprised at their skill. Like they’re almost always just objectively better at the act as…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/22 07:59 AM
5	With male virginity rates near 30% in the USA for the 18-30 age range what impact will this have on society What you fail to understand is why these diversity goals exist in the first place. It’s because for decades so many industries were discriminating against women and passing over them for jobs they were actually qualified for. As a result, the government had to essentially bribe these companies like “hey we’ll give you tax breaks if you stop discriminating against people.” These diversity goals are a reaction, or “solution” to the sexism that came first. If these industries never discriminated ag…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/22 07:29 PM
1	Had sex on first date, got blocked immediately after Very fair. I tend to be honest about what my first impression is, but I think I’m pretty decent at making it clear that the situation very well may not apply and that it’s based on my experience only, so no one feels accused. I (usually) leave one comment and dip (as opposed to asking questions that often never get answered), so I try to fit everything into a single comment where the OP can read it and decide for themselves if it applies or not.	/r/seduction	23/02/22 03:35 AM
2	Had sex on first date, got blocked immediately after Glad to hear that, sounds like things went pretty smoothly. I don’t know why I got downvoted, I was giving my honest opinion as a woman as to what my experience has been with friends who have done this to hookups. In general, women don’t usually care about not being able to perform if it’s a one time thing. Even if it’s bad sex, blocking the person isn’t the first thing that comes to our mind. But there’s exceptions to everything. I really think either she was embarrassed by her own behavior, or…	/r/seduction	20/02/22 12:44 AM
-1	Had sex on first date, got blocked immediately after As a woman, my first thought is you possibly made her uncomfortable and/or she might feel taken advantage of or used. Did she seem hesitant to hook up? Maybe she's shy and doesn't know how to stand up for herself so she just froze and let you do whatever? It’s sad to say but most younger, inexperienced women have a hard time standing up for themselves. If I had to guess I’d say part of this is because we're conditioned to NEVER be “rude” or hurt someone’s feelings or risk making someone upset. A…	/r/seduction	17/02/22 09:22 AM