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This organisation may be helpful for her: https://www.spaceintl.org/about/ All of the representatives of SPACE International have lived experience of the sex trade, and many of them have extensive experience of front-line work in combatting prostitution and offering exit services to prostituted women and girls.^ They have an email address and phone number. They may run or know of support and exit services in her area or be able to offer help over the internet. The website has testimonials from s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:32 PM
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It's common for them to show each other nudes they have been sent by thejr girlfriends and exgfs, often mocking and laughing about her body. ☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 08:22 PM
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It's a big problem in Uganda, Tanzania, Kenya and no doubt many other countries. Thomas admitted that resistance could result in the women being beaten. “She can’t say no because you become obsessed, it’s hard to stop. If women say no it can cause violence, it’s a big issue,” he said. Health professionals, including midwives and nutritionists, told researchers about cases where babies had to be given formula milk because partners wanted the breast milk, and where women came to clinic with infect…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 03:20 PM
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Submissive men are often abusive and coercive. They just dominate in a more mind-fucking way to get what they want when their girlfriend actually wants equal, normal loving sex. This interview is with a woman whose "submissive" husband turned terrifying after she had children with him, it has a lot of signs to look out for https://youtu.be/hMt-oCxpQqY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 05:32 PM
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There are growing numbers of female exclusive bisexual women - r/febfems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 07:06 PM
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They can create and moderate their own sub if they care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:28 PM
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That's horrific. I'm glad you're protecting her from males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:19 PM
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Fetishes (paraphilia) are very rare in women who haven't been horribly abused or harmed by exposure to pornography at a young age. Those women do not benefit from reenacting their trauma, it usually goes away with time and therapy. Men coerce women into acting out their paraphilias, whether the man is sadistic or masochistic or both. It is very rare for a man to have only one paraphillia so even foot fetishists are more likely to be pedophiles, animal rapists, sadists, transvestic fetishists, ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 12:13 PM
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There are a growing number of female-exclusive bisexual women r/febfems
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:29 AM
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The hashtag/number sign makes text following it large and bold. #
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:41 PM
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Men are usually extra nice to female friends after she becomes single. I hope he does similar things for his male friends as often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 06:54 PM
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The male is trying to rape the female, I don't see how this is scary. HVM are perfectly happy with women not shying away from defending ourselves against rapists, it's only LVM who get upset at this vibe. Women come here for posts with backbone, the rest of Reddit has plenty of dating subs and liberal feminist subs for anyone who doesn't feel comfortable with the idea of rapists getting hurt by their victim defending herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 04:27 PM
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She's just told him the last guy got away with locking her in his house and the police won't do anything. All that has accomplished is giving an obvious predator (read The Gift Of Fear) the advice that he can get away with all that too. "I thought he was a perfectly nice guy online. I went to his place and he switched" - she's giving this man tips on how to better trick a victim! Always block and delete with no explanation, or your paragraphs can help him successfully rape the next woman. He doe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 11:55 AM
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https://soundcloud.com/pyroshiba/dumphim The women and teen girls in that kind of porn are often openly upset and afraid because degradation is the point: www.theviolenceofpornography.blogspot.com. Trying to coerce you into sexual acts is abusive. Please be aware he is very likely to escalate to strangulation, which causes cumulative brain damage and is often fatal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:52 AM
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The Gift of Fear by Gavin deBecker would be a useful read. It has a large section on dealing with stalkers and preventing stalking early, which recommends the very clear rejection you have already done. This is terrifying. I'm so sorry this creep has fixated on you and I really hope you stay safe from him. Free copy can be found by googling "Gift of Fear pdf" or use this link https://www.docdroid.net/yrC8MoB/the-gift-of-fear-pdf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:53 AM
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Abusive men never using their girlfriend/wife's name is A Thing. It can be a total absence of names, always saying things like "can you pass me those peas?" instead of "Janey can you pass me those peas?". Or only using terms like "babe", "dear" or "the wife". This is part of a pattern of behaviour described by the Freedom Programme (https://www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/), who produced the original pictures, that is typical to a type of abusive man they call "The Headworker" http://greatbetleyfarmh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 10:23 PM
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Second rule of misogyny: Women saying no to men is a hate crime. https://4w.pub/the-rules-of-misogyny/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:11 PM
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Sabrina Valisce talks here about how she deeply regrets campaigning for legalisation in New Zealand when she was prostituted because she saw first hand how the abuse got even worse when the law changed: https://youtu.be/TUoXBkxs_Vg. She now campaigns for the Nordic Model, where the pimps and johns are prosecuted but prostituted women are not criminalised and they are given social help like rehab and housing to help them be able to leave safely: https://nordicmodelnow.org/2017/11/14/how-a-nordic-…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:15 PM
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What rights are non-binary people missing? Surely around half of them are men. Women's rights and gay rights are totally different issues. Sex is listed on official documents and health records for the situations where it is necessary to have your sex acknowledged. It could be a lot more harmful than beneficial for a woman to be officially registered as non-binary instead of female. Even if a woman doesn't feel "like the other girls" she still needs to be invited for smear tests, breast screenin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:20 PM
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Karen Ingala Smith does great work in the UK always making clear she is recording men's murders of women https://kareningalasmith.com/. She makes it very clear why women's domestic violence shelters should remain staffed by women only. Her recognition of male violence against women led to her being expelled from the UK Labour Party. A lot of men do not want it to be recognised that it is male violence against women and they still have a lot of power to keep it this way unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 07:04 PM
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I love her so much! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:09 PM
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These kind of men are what fuels the sex trafficking pandemic. They seek the youngest victim possible. Men who pay for sex will most often opt to pay for a fifteen-year-old over a seventeen-year-old, a seventeen-year-old over a nineteen-year-old, a nineteen-year-old over a twenty-one-year-old, and so on and so forth. One of the commonest questions that comes through on any brothels phone line is ‘What age is the youngest girl you have?’ I could not count the times I have been asked that question…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 12:44 PM
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It sounds like typecasting: Typecasting: An insult is used to get a chosen victim who would otherwise ignore one to engage in conversation to counteract the insult. For example: "Oh, I bet you're too stuck-up to talk to a guy like me." The tendency is for the chosen victim to want to prove the insult untrue. “You are way to pretty to be interested in me.” “I bet you think you are too strong to accept help from a man.” “I bet you wouldn’t even give a guy like me a smile.” https://www.combatkravma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 10:04 AM
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You could give her Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft. Maybe look up stories of women who have been in abusive relationships or talk to a woman she knows about moving to live with this man or not, because it always escalates the abuse. As someone who has made this mistake, my advice is do not move in with a man like this. I can only describe it as living with a sexual torturer. He promised he would be better when I was there (they always do), this was a lie so that he could get a girl in his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:46 PM
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This is a big problem in Uganda, Tanzani and Kenya (and no doubt many countries): https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2020/jan/28/she-cant-say-no-the-men-who-take-breast-milk-from-babies. The preliminary research suggested that men often drink before the child is fed, usually once a day, sometimes more frequently, and for about an hour at a time. Thomas admitted that resistance could result in the women being beaten. "She can't say no because you become obsessed, it's hard to stop. If…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:11 AM
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We'reDone2021 ScrotesBeGone2021 GhostAMoron2021 EmbraceYourInnerAmazon2021 You'reNotHisMum2021 BlockAndMoveOn2021 TrustYourIntuition2021
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:09 PM
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Do you have a link to this? She made a video of her statement. This is the article I have read questioning it (which has a fairly suspicous "might just be an adult sex worker or harmless abusive older boufriend" slant): The lack of a public trail related to Fedrick's suspect certainly doesn't mean her story didn't happen. But it does suggest it wasn't quite the big-time catch it's being portrayed as. Perhaps it was even a big misunderstanding—a teen traveling with her dad, a young but adult woma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:02 PM
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In fact, inviting the girl to Hooters already screens out all the women with any self esteem and leaves only extremely vulnerable damaged potential victims. This may be fake but this is how predators work. It's similar to those Nigerian Prince email scams that are designed to only trick very vulnerable people while everyone else ignores it because it is so blatantly a scam. Often con men deliberately put multiple spelling mistakes into their scam emails in order to screen for only the most gulli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:02 PM
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The Gift of Fear calls this "are you a boring girl or not" technique "typecasting". Its commonly used by predators (and con men) as part of his "interview" to assess if someone will be an an easy victim. He's likely to only attack the women who laugh at the neg and try to convince him they're not boring by doing what he wants (it's human nature to want to be seen favourably and it's hard to be insulted without refuting them). Rapists are cowards and are looking for the most vulnerable prey. This…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:54 PM
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Sheila Frederick is a real flight attendant who told of her experience as part of an airline trafficking awareness campaign so I don't see why she would make it up. Trafficking is an extremely frequent crime happening in every town so it doesn't always get much media attention. Lack of further media coverage may be to protect the identity of the girl. It could also have been kept quiet for the first few years because the police were (hopefully) trying to catch the other members of the traffickin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 09:05 AM
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The myth that socialization is the cause of male violence is one of the most dangerous politics perpetrated against girls and women. It denies reality. It denies what most girls and women know in their hearts and from their own experience. It denies that male violence exists across many animal species, and particularly in our mammal relatives. This myth is why women who are invested in boys and men keep devoting the majority of their lives to males, hoping to somehow make a better world, when in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:48 PM
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No he's a pornsick LVM. Can't go a show without mentioning porn themes compulsively. He's a creepy virtue-signaller.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:44 PM
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It's no effort for him to bring two chairs instead of one. He shouldn't have to ask if he should bring you one, let alone if you want to bring your own. He is low value, you're definitely right to not waste your time on a date. It's hard to know what to say when you'd ideally block and delete if possible. Something along the lines of: "No and I have to cancel the date. Have a nice day." If he asks about another date, decline. The wording is tricky, I hope someone has a better suggestion. You hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:22 PM
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The Gift of Fear mentions this as a warning sign - "niceness" and "charm" are decisions a man makes. The book makes clear that being suspicious of nice qualities in a man is a potential lifesaver.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 09:16 AM
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This woman made a great rant video on this exact topic https://youtu.be/rJDsms61tB0
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 09:06 AM
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This reminds me of what Gavin deBecker calls "unsolicited promises", one of his warning signs in The Gift Of Fear. The man tries so hard to convince you that he hates cheating (even though you didn't ask) because he knows he's lying so is constantly trying to appear more credible than he feels. I had a male friend who would speak of his outrage at grooming gangs abusing young girls. Then he was arrested for pedophilia . . . http://psychopathsandlove.com/i-promise-you-im-no-gigolo/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:58 PM
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Autogynephiles (AGP), like all fetishists, are also even more likely to be pedophiles than the average man. Paraphillia usually occur in multiples, this is why rapists, serial killers and pedophiles are often also AGP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 06:12 PM
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Rachel Moran's Paid For is a brilliant book on this subject. Moran is the intelligent woman who should be employed by academia but isn't because she was born in poverty instead of privilege. She was trafficked into prostitution by a pimp boyfriend as a homeless 15 year old child in Ireland. She completely dismantles all the sex posi choice arguments. Her blog http://theprostitutionexperience.com/ is much recommended for women who oppose porn and the prostitution industry. She speaks here with SP…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:56 PM
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In rural areas, way before porn was available, it was still extremely common for men and boys to rape animals. They usually start as young boys during puberty. Gangrape of animals with multiple boys is common too. Baby animals like calves and small animals like hens often die of the damage. This includes boys raised properly in animal loving cultures who would be punished if anyone finds out. This isn't just caused by porn and socialisation. The myth that socialization is the cause of male viole…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 12:56 PM
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It's so important to not tell what you found! They usually volunteer multiple awful things you didn't know about as what you must have found. And they don't know what they did wrong so hopefully they won't be able to fool the next woman better. I'm really proud of you leaving so decisively!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 12:15 PM
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When Berlin was taken by the Allies in 1945, soldiers raped and gangraped "every female from 8 to 80" who often died of their internal injuries or strangulation. This has been normal in wars for all of history. Women had to fight for rights to introduce the age of consent, before that (and today) men preferred to rape the youngest little girls possible, 12 year old sex slaves were normal and desired. Men raping their daughters was excused and covered up by men for all of history. Nowadays we see…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:24 PM
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Including a PDF of Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft (available free by googling "why does he do that pdf' or click here https://www.docdroid.net/py03/why-does-he-do-that-pdf) would introduce her to that book even if she ignores your warning. It has a section about talking to previous girlfriends and believing what they say. Finding that book saved my life. I wasn't staying because I was a pick-me, I was simply unaware of what was abuse. I left as soon as I could after reading it, and it tol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 12:56 PM
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r/febfems is a sub for female exclusive bisexual women. It's not male-coddling like late blooming lesbians often is. LBL is full of crossdressing men and their bi and het transwidow wives who are pressured to call themselves lesbians to validate their man's fetish. I can't deal with any lesbian sub that supports 45 year old pornsick autogynephiles circlejerking with each other about lesbians liking "girlcock" 🤢. Febfem is the recent term for what was once called "political lesbian", bi women who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 12:47 PM
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https://trustyourperceptions.wordpress.com/2013/09/01/male-bullshit-stories-porn-part-v/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 09:59 AM
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Yes, so many women I know were groomed as girls online by pedophile men (who SO often aren't born pedophiles, they're opportunistic predators who are bored by porn featuring adults). It is even worse today with smartphones given to 8 year olds. So many times when a man starts publicly dating an 18 year old, he has actually been grooming and abusing her for years through sexual chats and nudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 09:19 AM
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Time's Up CEO resigns after son accused of sexual assault - https://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/times-ceo-resigns-son-accused-sexual-assault-organization/story?id=61232000 Pretty sure the leader of a prominent MeToo organisation thought she'd raised one of the good ones too. Plenty of boys raised well by great parents still end up sexually predatory after puberty hits, it's really not always the parents' or society's fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:28 AM
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I'd hitchhike to the beach then wild camp alone under the stars. It would be amazing, imagine if it was the rest of our lives. Our countries would save so much money on armies, warplanes and prisons! We could spend it eliminating poverty and expanding green power. Climate change would probably be halted because women everywhere can decide how many children to have (using sperm banks) so overpopulation is solved. Killing endangered wildlife for fun is a majority male sport. Cats wouldn't be beate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:21 PM
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My (male) family member had to get as far away as possible using no money as part of Special Ops army training, he got thousands of miles away and crossed many countries! I would love to try that! In a female-only world, hitchhiking would be really fun! (For another part of training, he had to live for a week in a dungheap without being seen . . . I'll pass on that.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:59 PM
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She's being abused. He's verbally abusive and emotionally abusive, constantly lying and betraying her. He's pushing her boundary to make her dress inappropriately to her faith, in public so he can get off on her feeling uncomfortable. This man enjoys violation - the "most inappropriate" things he is viewing on TikTok is definitely child abuse images. She could anonymously report him for viewing them, he will be arrested and his devices and history searched. The police will tell him that his view…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:44 PM
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The super nice harmless seeming men really, really shouldn't be trusted with kids. Some warning signs using my experience with pedophiles, with quotes taken from John Robert Krampf's website: Man likes spending time around kids, working or volunteering. 🚩🚩🚩 He tutors children for a lower price than he could charge 🚩🚩🚩 "My 6 year old has learned a lot about science and will ask to see more. My boys really enjoy the out takes at the end of the videos which usually sends them into a laughing frenzy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 07:25 PM
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Women with daughters keep them safe by not dating men. It's wisdom. I'm glad more women are living life happily single. It's good for your health and the health of your loved ones around you. I'm friends with a number of widows in their 60s to 80s and they have been having a very free time single with their friends and cats. They all told me they'd never want to marry a man again. One said she'd go for a woman next time if she did want to date. Cats, dogs and female friends > males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:58 PM
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That's actually an autogynephile male calling himself a lesbian. In his comment history he also talks about his love of degrading his girlfriends and watching BDSM lesbian porn . . . The mother posts that she doesn't want to raise a girl who feels entitled to that treatment from boys - it's so sad! Her mother should teach her self esteem and that she deserves the best to counter the message from the rest of the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:46 PM
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It looks like he wants to cheat, I wonder if he cheated on his ex-wife? If she can find out from the ex-wife or someone (not him) what happened to cause his previous divorce it would be very useful. She needs to be extremely careful with her birth control. Tying her in with a shared house is a purposeful move. Lying like this is a betrayal. He absolutely smashed the boundary she set, that is irredeemable behaviour. This man will not improve, he is showing his true NVM colors. She will leave even…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:45 PM
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The book The Gift of Fear by Gavin deBecker might be useful to you. He extensively covers what signs to look out for in obsessive communications as to whether a man is planning violence or not and how to keep yourself safe in the event of stalkers, abusive exboyfriends etc. It's important to never reply, usually the man stops when he's found another victim or gotten bored if you never engage him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:49 AM
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Trafficking survivor Suzzan Blac screenshots highly popular online porn videos (she blurs nudity but it still is very triggering for abuse survivors) on this blog https://theviolenceofpornography.blogspot.com/?m=1. Please view a glimpse of what men are actually watching and see if your compassion and understanding remains. Therapy typically makes abusive men even worse unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:49 PM
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It's good the textbook doesn't whitewash the truth that fetishists are usually abusers of women. They rarely have only one paraphilia and they escalate into worse acts when the thrill of violation wears off. Never believe a man has a harmless fetish - he's only telling you about the most harmless seeming one and you will find out the rest when he's tried to trap you. So many women's stories of abuse started with accepting a man's foot fetish or submissive fetish https://www.transwidowsvoices.org…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 09:54 AM
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Elderly women are most likely to be raped by their own sons. https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/why-do-young-men-rape-elderly-women-and-why-does-nobody-care-a-special-report-by-linda-grant-on-a-1408839.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 10:32 AM
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It's ok, you don't have to say #notallmen here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:22 AM
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Male mammals rape their own babies to death frequently when left alone with them. They rape other species' babies. They kill females while trying to mate violently. They kill their own babies in order to rape the mother again. They rape corpses and body parts. None of this is advantageous but it is the reality of male nature. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_coercion_among_animals Rape, coercive and forceful, is why there are 8 billion humans overpopulating the world. Women choose to have fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 03:04 PM
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One fetish alone is rare, they usually have multiple paraphilia. They start off by just revealing one. A "harmless" seeming foot fetishist is likely to also be interested in sadism (various sick porn involves women or men being stood on painfully) or bestiality (eg. crushing animals under a woman's foot), masochism, autogynephilia (wearing those shoes himself alongside Buffalo Bill antics), voyeurism, pedophilia or any other host of porn-sick abusive shit that makes him distanced and selfish in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 08:20 PM
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You are right not to give him any advice. You'd be helping him trick her into thinking he's better than he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:16 PM
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Men with paraphilia usually have more than one so foot fetishists are more likely to be rapists, pedophiles, autogynephiles, sadists etc than the average scrote. They will tell you about their most harmless seeming paraphilia first and if you don't leave, you'll find out about the rest of the disgusting mess when he thinks he has destroyed your boundaries enough or when you stumble across porn that will sear into your brain forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:08 PM
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Men only virtue signal that they are horrified by pedophilia. See how popular the teen abuse section of any porn site is. And how many of us attracted more male sexual harassment age 8-18 than the rest of our lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:37 PM
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People think my dad is literally perfect and the nicest guy on Earth too. The porn he compulsively watches involves the theme of dads abusing daughters (teen girls dressed like very little girls). Pick-mes and men excuse even that too. Please don't continue a life with this man. I wish my mom had your self-respect and common sense before she made a life with a porn lover. Men like this shouldn't have girlfriends or wives. The real him is the one searching for disgusting videos, not the act he pu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:06 PM
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He is punishing you for asserting a boundary you have set. Ignoring you (the silent treatment/stonewalling) is punishment. Hanging up on you is punishment. That is abusive behaviour. The boundary pushing will increase with time. He will turn it back on you and make you feel crazy. You should be allowed to express your emotions and a loving partner would not keep doing something that hurts you. He is trying to control your sleeping habits now and he will try to control more later. They usually st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:52 PM
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The myth that socialization is the cause of male violence is one of the most dangerous politics perpetrated against girls and women. It denies reality. It denies what most girls and women know in their hearts and from their own experience. It denies that male violence exists across many animal species, and particularly in our mammal relatives. This myth is why women who are invested in boys and men keep devoting the majority of their lives to males, hoping to somehow make a better world, when in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:57 AM
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Male kittens are lovely too but non-neutered tomcats are smelly, aggressive rapists of female cats. This is the norm for male animals with penises and intact testes after puberty. The culture didn't cause the depraved behaviour of teen boys and men, males created the cultures to reflect and enable their abusive desires. Patriarchal culture does make them worse of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 10:08 AM
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Honestly I'd recommend you get the book for detailed advice. You might be able to find a free pdf on Google. From reading the book, most important advice is do not reply. He will most likely get bored and stop in time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:22 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:14 PM
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Diana E. H. Russell says that in her study of 930 females, according to the broader definition of “incest,” including “ … exhibitionists as well as other unwanted noncontact sexual experience … 54 percent … reported at least one experience of … sexual abuse before they reached 18 years of age, and 48 percent … reported at least such experience before they reached 14 years of age.” (p. 62) However, Diana also says that “Many people cannot remember any childhood experiences before the ages of thre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:02 PM
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You could introduce her to FDS. She will see other women's stories of predatory older men and learn for herself. Maybe realising she's being a pick-me will help her wake up and become less naive. It's also LVM behaviour for him to be meeting people from online dating during a pandemic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:47 PM
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I'm nostalgic for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:04 PM
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Supporting and prioritising other women and not birthing any more males whenever possible (abortion/not reproducing at all). Women have been trying to raise their boys "better" for hundreds to thousands of years and yet here we are. Changing the sex ratio to have fewer males has a huge effect on female freedom and happiness, that is why women got ahead so quickly after WW1. Female separatism takes our time and resources away from men and focuses them on ourselves. When women don't get married an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:37 PM
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The myth that socialization is the cause of male violence is one of the most dangerous politics perpetrated against girls and women. It denies reality. It denies what most girls and women know in their hearts and from their own experience. It denies that male violence exists across many animal species, and particularly in our mammal relatives. This myth is why women who are invested in boys and men keep devoting the majority of their lives to males, hoping to somehow make a better world, when in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:03 PM
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Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft has chapters on how to leave safely. You can read it free by googling "why does he do that pdf'". Your intuition says he might harm you and it's very important to listen to it. He sounds psychologically abusive. Rage stomps and tantrums show he can be physically threatening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:19 PM
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Glad you woke up and got away! Men with bad hygiene can give you UTIs and that can turn into life-threatening sepsis so easily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 04:50 PM
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Learnt I couldn't trust unrelated or related men not to be depraved perverts including my own father. Learning males don't think like we do took too long but I'm glad I'm aware of it now. I'm honest with my teenage sister that you cannot trust any man and she talks to me about the terrible behaviour of boys at school. There's a definite PC culture in her generation where girls are supposed to pretend males are behaviorally female. Saying otherwise makes males "victims of mean exclusionary sexist…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:56 AM
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They're drones (males). They can't feed themselves, they have no pro-social instincts to collect nectar or do anything except mating. The 99% female hive kicks them out when it gets cold because they're a waste of food stores. I think they eat excess male larvae to keep the male population down too, because males are so useless and they're more susceptible to disease and mites. In most species (including ours where males are missing 95% of a chromosome), males have fewer genes than females so th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:27 PM
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Very few pedos seem "the type". Honestly in my experience, very "nice" men who can make friends with women their own age should not be trusted with kids. When a man is more interested in young teens or kids, he can appear very unthreatening to adult women. They often have a very harmless seeming blend of emotionally vulnerable, slightly childish but unthreatening traits that appeal to women with caring instincts who believe it's possible to have close straight male friends just like female frien…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:06 PM
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Those "people" were men trying to coerce a woman they deemed vulnerable financially into prostitution with money. They were trying to commit abhorrent crimes against her. They deserved a lot worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 08:03 PM
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The Gift of Fear by Gavin deBecker has an extensive section on how to deal with stalkers. Some excerpts here https://www.nytimes.com/1998/08/25/science/personal-health-do-s-and-don-ts-for-thwarting-stalker.html. It seems even more important now when so much personal information is online and easily obtained. He could have done a reverse image search on her photos to find her social media or looked at where they were taken using the metadata? A slightly unusual first name and town could have been…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:21 PM
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I heard a group of trainee male doctors laughing about how a girl at a festival was so drugged up their friend molested her then she DROWNED TO DEATH face-down in the mud. They also laughed about cutting breasts off women's DONATED BODIES then taking them to a party. That was about five-ten minutes of an overheard conversation. The proportion of men who are abusers and opportunistic sexual predators is SO high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:00 PM
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You can block porn using your internet providers parental controls website to stop most accidental viewing. It doesn't block social media sites with porn like Reddit and Twitter unfortunately but it's much better than nothing. There are downloadable parental controls programs that can block all porn on a device and let you know which sites your children visit. Gail Dines' culturereframed.org is a great resource helping parents raise sons and daughters of all ages in a scarily porn-riddled cultur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:49 PM
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Not only is it wrong, why was he doing that while his girlfriend is visiting? Makes me think the tosser was trying to upset her and make her insecure on purpose. Negging by actions. It's a shame she's asking Reddit with a vast majority male userbase, of course they'll say it's fine! Also, that age gap is too large at her age. 🚩🛑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:28 PM
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Haha. The all-female worker honeybees throw out the male drones in winter because males don't have the instincts to contribute to society in any way except mating so they're a waste of honey stores. Males also die after mating. The male population is maintained at less than 1% because they're so useless. Men should consider themselves very lucky women aren't hive-minded . . .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 03:23 PM
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You can download a free copy by googling "why does he do that pdf'". I did that before I could get a physical copy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 12:18 PM
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This is Rachel Moran explaining what prostitution feels like https://youtu.be/2S2pE-Uoh6I. She describes it as "paid rape". Porn is filmed prostitution and the women who are filmed are often prostituted more typically as well. There is also https://theviolenceofpornography.blogspot.com/?m=1 which has blurred images of popular PornHub videos, showing how abusive mainstream pornography is. I would have thought he had already seen these kind of abusive videos in the most popular section. Has he tal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 03:04 PM
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A lot of male penguins are utterly depraved, raping and gangraping everything in sight including chicks, corpses and sodomising other males. The males of so many species including ours behave very similarly, sorry! https://www.news.com.au/technology/science/the-cutest-animals-in-the-world-are-actually-evil/news-story/b03eba2f2343c4198356d0a4bac74f05. Articles always say "animals" when they mean "male animals" so really only less than half the species is evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 01:40 PM
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Not only are only around 0.1% of women colourblind compared to around 10% of men but women can have super colour vision due to this: “With colour vision, almost the same percentage of male defect is female superiority.” Research shows about 12 per cent of chromosomal females have tetrochromatic vision: they can see 100 times as many colours as someone with normal colour vision (though they might not realise it). The advantage of a second X also applies to cancer, trauma injury and autism. That c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 01:26 PM
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It's great to have space here with no men. Lots of bi women are dating women only now because of the state of men - there's a female only sub r/febfems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 12:57 PM
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Stardust. The idea that hating a man actually means you like him is bullshit. The love interest is an LVM who kidnaps her so she shouldn't have forgiven him. The message of it is that love should be unconditional despite what the man did to you and men can change for the better - which is absolute bullshit. Romances watched by young girls should not be written by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 05:43 PM
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He deserves the Lorena Bobbitt treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 03:29 PM
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This is classic domestic violence. Andrea Dworkin describes her experience of DV at the hands of a sadistic fetishist like this in the 60s. Batterers are often porn addicted, even back then. They gag and tie up their victims and pretend "it's a game, she asked for it" to get away with it. DV and torture is what 50s women suffered when their husbands got into S&M after buying torture porn magazines. Men haven't changed, none of this is new.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 03:02 PM
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A lot of male animals routinely sadistically harm and rape other species, their females and their own babies. They often kill purely for fun without eating it afterwards, just like teenage and grown human males do. Male animals are pretty evil - dolphins, penguins, sea otters etc. Our males aren't the exception, their behaviour is normal for males with penises.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 02:54 PM
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Your daughter is great for seeing it so young. Better than finding out after she's had kids with a porn watching scrote. Please tell her single women live longer than het partnered women. And embrace any same sex romantic feelings if she has them! Finding a HVW is actually possible but there's still a lot of lesbophobia in society driving questioning and bi women to men instead of loving, equal relationships with women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 02:31 PM
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That sub has been taken over by dumb misogynist men with ED whining about any feminist sentiment they see. Many of them can't stop watching horrific abuse even when it's negatively affecting them, they're pathetic LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 09:46 AM
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That is both negging and an unsolicited promise, manipulation techniques used by predators. Unsolicited promises are described in The Gift of Fear and it means the predator is thinking about doing the thing they say they won't. Anything along the lines of "Don't worry I'm not going to rape you" means he's considering raping you, he probably just didn't have the drugs to spike a drink at the time. http://psychopathsandlove.com/i-promise-you-im-no-gigolo/. These manipulation techniques are so effe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 08:12 AM
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I'm sorry. You might connect with this writing by an older lesbian about how sado-masochism among lesbians is rooted in self-hating and internalised lesbian hatred https://bevjoradicallesbian.wordpress.com/2017/09/04/chaptersixleather-sm-bdsm-its-all-still-sadism-and-masochism/. She's in her 70s and she remembers the time before sadism came to her lesbian community. It's a very enlightening perspective. You don't deserve to be hurt, I hope you find a woman who never wants to hurt you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 12:28 PM
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Wow you are doing such great work, you will have helped many women. Thank you for training them so well, I know it is not the norm for law enforcement to be that understanding of DV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 05:26 PM
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This book makes me think Johnny Depp is an abuser. His typical victimhood behaviour seems very familiar as an abuse victim myself but so many people I know believe him. Despite him admitting kicking and headbutting his wife in court, the recordings where he holds a knife at her saying he'll cut himself and the recordings where he doesn't deny any of the strangulation and battery. It's so trendy and PC to pretend men are equal victims if a woman ever slaps him despite whatever he did to her. Ackn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 05:06 PM
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In Why Does He Do That Lundy Bancroft says the vast majority of men claiming to have been abused by women are actually the abuser. It is one of his red flags to be aware of when dating. Abusive men DARVO and play the victim at the drop of a hat - The Victim is a common type of abuser he describes in the book. Their abuse can make the woman act crazy (and develop mental disorders) in front of other people while he remains calm after provoking her. We play into the hands of abusive men whenever we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:18 PM
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Have you read Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft? You can download a free pdf here https://www.docdroid.net/py03/why-does-he-do-that-pdf. Trauma bonds are very strong and affect your brain chemistry similar to an addiction https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/neurosagacity/201701/the-brain-can-work-against-abuse-victims. Having sex and particularly having any semen put in your body creates even stronger ties because it contains mind-altering drugs that make you more passive so make sure to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 05:04 PM
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I wonder if she's on FDS. Everyone should be familiar with the behaviour of male dolphins - they gangrape females and sadistically kill dolphin babies and other animals without eating them for fun. They are raised by females the same as females are, it really shows how much male behaviour is biological. And how a cute male can be evil inside - like male sea otters. And how sons can turn out awful even if the mother raises them well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 09:06 AM
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I feel bad for her. She needs friends with boundaries to talk to. She's walking on eggshells trying to make him happy while he considers her an inconsequential second thought. She's trying to squash down her feelings because he strops and guilt trips her. She can only solve this by leaving, he has made clear he will lie in future. Then he will get desensitised to the VR too and will probably abuse prostitutes in person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 04:35 PM
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I've known two men who claimed to be asexual. One turned out to be a pedophile and one an autogynephile furry fetishist. Asexual is often used as a societally acceptable reason why a man isn't interested in normal sex with adult women despite pursuing relationships for emotional caretaking reasons. Plenty of them have porn addiction causing ED too. Not saying asexual men don't exist but I consider it a red flag for something potentially very wrong with him that he doesn't want people to know abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 03:29 PM
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They're missing 95% of a chromosome. Must be where the conscience is located.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:12 PM
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This is a huge danger sign, keep away from men who talk about false accusations even if they haven't been accused too. Additionally, the vast majority of men who claim to have been abused by a woman as an adult are abusers themselves - this claim is one of the red flags of an abusive man given in Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 01:02 PM
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And you can raise your son 100% right and it's still likely he'll turn out like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:50 AM
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Deborrah is such a Queen. For a similar tone check out Sekhmet She-Owl https://youtu.be/jfF185vUyVM and Black Obsidian https://youtu.be/rchLWnRiEbU on YouTube.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:34 PM
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My dad is like this. "Dad abuses daughter" is one of the most popular genres in online pornography, which says a lot. Makes the nunnery look very appealing honestly. I'm feeling very positive about dating women only. Males with predatory opportunistic instincts are absolutely everywhere and they rarely seem "the type".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 01:39 PM
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Porn is real life for the prostituted women and girls being abused in it. I think more women have empathy so we don't enjoy seeing others hurt or degraded which is why porn addiction is mainly a male thing. Suzzan Blac screenshots popular porn videos with genitals blurred on this blog https://theviolenceofpornography.blogspot.com/?m=1. It's horrifying to even see a screenshot but so many men can't stop viewing more and more depraved abuse because it appeals to them so much. Porn addicts are abus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 10:24 AM
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Yeah my dad is like this. The men get older in line with the watchers age and the prostituted girls being raped stay 18. Barely legal porn is made to look like illegal child abuse, set in children's bedrooms with children's clothes and pigtails, with fathers, grandfathers and gangs abusing the girl. It's designed for men who don't want to break the law but would watch younger children abused if it was legal. Often these girls in 'barely legal' are underage and trafficked with no proof of age, th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 10:01 AM
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Over 100 different mind-altering drugs too https://trustyourperceptions.wordpress.com/2016/05/15/semen-mens-chemical-war-against-women-part-i-male-chemical-munitions-what-semen-does-to-females/. As well as being pathogen-ridden, it makes you more compliant and less aware, which makes a lot of sense why they want it ingested so badly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 07:49 AM
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Men don't think like women. They are natural sexual predators. Men have been raping their own daughters since the beginning of the species, it's routine in male animals with penises too. Women had to seize power to implement laws against it but they still want to do it. The most popular theme in pornography (teen) is of very small prostituted teenage girls being abused, often in ways that exactly imitate illegal child abuse images for viewing by risk-averse men who would be watching younger chil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 09:12 AM
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No my dad watches it for the 18 year old girls who look a lot younger dressed as children being abused by old men in incestuous themes and often imitating illegal pornography. I would hope stories like this put women off having children, men are not any safer because they are related to your daughter. The videos just show what men would like to do to children and what they have done for the whole of history (ancient skeletons show prehistoric men raped and impregnated their daughters routinely).…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 09:00 AM
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Yet males love viewing it. If you see a man whining about his porn addiction, or the races they believe are controlling them with this irresistible content, or Satan's temptation or posting on Reddit about his month no porn achievement, remember what it is he was viewing with such relish. Male nature is fuucked up. I'm just so glad I'm not male. Having innate moral instincts around this is so normal to us. It was hard learning half the population isn't like that growing up, seeing boys seek it o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 01:40 AM
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Suzzan Blac, the artist and extremely knowledgeable survivor documents the content of PornHub with censored screenshots as awareness raising for women. This shows the content of barely legal porn, my own father watches sick shit like this with really young looking girls skipping dressed in little girl style clothing to their fathers http://theviolenceofpornography.blogspot.com/2018/03/the-destruction-of-innocence.html. I think what you saw is shown here http://theviolenceofpornography.blogspot.c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 08:41 PM
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Pedophile forums were recommending working in care homes to rape and molest old ladies when school/working with kids safeguarding measures got stricter because "the sex is as good but much safer" https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/why-do-young-men-rape-elderly-women-and-why-does-nobody-care-a-special-report-by-linda-grant-on-a-1408839.html. They enjoy being around children even if they haven't had the opportunity to abuse but they're usually a lot more flexible and opportunistic with their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 08:24 PM
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Absolutely. I really hope no woman here reads this then still wants to have a daughter with a man and keep him around. It's not safe or fair. Your Men are Dangerous - Sekhmet She Owl https://youtu.be/yPfdE8qZzig.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 09:04 AM
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A Mr Right abuser https://www.muchnessmama.com/profile-of-an-abuser-mr-right/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:58 PM
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Poor you, prostituted women aren't acting in enough "nice" coerced scenes or managing to conceal their trauma well enough for you. Use your imagination.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:54 PM
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Definitely. See Suzan Black's writing, especially the post 'Kink is the new Sexual Sadism' https://theviolenceofpornography.blogspot.com/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:48 AM
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This is so true. You might like r/pinkpillfeminism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 10:27 AM
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Girls get better exam results in single-sex schools and report higher confidence levels, including when other factors are taken into account such as social background or selective intake. http://www.bbc.com/news/education-35419284 Girls in single-sex schools go on to have more highly achieving careers, thought to be due to less exposure to negative stereotypes and sexual harassment. "Girls seem to help other girls". https://www.theeducatoronline.com/k12/news/girls-do-better-in-singlesex-schools-…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:33 PM
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Libertarian men are such pedophiles. Men's political opinions are mainly based around their dicks, remember that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 01:52 PM
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Physical at the very least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 01:49 PM
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Excerpt from Where were all the Happy Hookers when I was on the game? written by Rachel Moran http://theprostitutionexperience.com/?p=33 But it is not so much what these happy hookers tell us that frame’s the bigger part of the picture; that is concealed by what they do not tell us. They do not tell us – for the reason that they’d like to conceal it – about the same disconnect that academia isn’t telling us – because it is incapable of revealing it. They do not tell us about the soul-level injur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 05:36 PM
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And the millions of fathers who seek out daughter rape porn. There should be a way for all women to see the internet history of every man in our lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 11:44 AM
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Don't project your good nature onto scrotes. Males do not have the innate empathy, morals and conscience that you do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 10:43 AM
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It would be as cruel and abusive if he targeted anything else she had spent time on, it's not about the game. He's punishing her in a way where he can make fun of her if she complains about it. Whether he is destroying her game island or pulling back her knitting or spilling something on her drawings or staining her favourite top or hiding something of hers or deleting her creative photographs or killing her plants, any behaviour like that is going to cause pain. Abusers choose trivial things in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:58 PM
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Men are such liars!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 02:56 PM
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Trust no man, not even your own man. Trust no man, no further than your eyes can see. Ma Rainey, blues singer songwriter, 1926. https://youtu.be/EM_jyRne-wY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 11:20 AM
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The researchers wrote that they chose this population to investigate because sex with animals is common in rural areas with high rates of penile cancer, and a connection seemed plausible. In fact, Zequi said he was not surprised that 35 percent of participants had had sex with animals. "We know that in rural zones of our country, and probably worldwide, young men have sexual experiences with domestic animals," he said. "SWA is not a sexual behavior limited only for poor rural populations," Zequi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 03:12 PM
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The Gift of Fear calls these unsolicited promises. It's an attempt to lower your guard. It shows what he's thinking about. Same reason you should always take jokes seriously as an insight into his thoughts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 02:09 AM
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It is illegal. The police can recover the conversations and photos (of you and probably other children) from his devices even if deleted then convict him without you having to go to court. You don't have to tell your family, you can ask the police to keep it private. You did nothing wrong and I know if I was your mom I'd just want to support you and would be proud to know you've reported him if you told me. I have multiple friends who went through very similar things, it's very very common and i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:46 AM
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They are lionesses, the most social of all cats. Males are not capable of the advanced social connection however. Lions are LVM, lazy selfish domineering parasites that kill unrelated cubs and sometimes their own cubs in order to mate quicker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:07 AM
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These rare girls and women usually have backgrounds of severe abuse by men, often sexual abuse. Brenda Spencer said her alcoholic single father beat and raped her. He made her sleep on a single mattress with him. She was reported as suicidal and needing treatment at a mental hospital but he wouldn't allow it, instead he gave her a semi-automatic rifle and 500 rounds of ammunition. "I asked for a radio and he gave me a gun". She felt like her dad wanted her to kill herself. She shot at kids outsi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 09:29 AM
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If a man likes being called that, he sounds so pornsick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 01:57 PM
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What does you're Daddy mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 01:05 PM
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What is going on in this picture?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:19 PM
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The reality of most men ruined the wholesomeness. Check the most popular porn videos men enjoy - "tiny teen" "barely legal" "scared stepdaughter" . . . We don't know he's HVM, chances are he's not. This is an accurate, important reminder of the dangers of trusting stepfathers with our daughters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:45 PM
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https://trustyourperceptions.wordpress.com/2013/09/01/male-bullshit-stories-porn-part-v/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 11:34 AM
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Quote where I said that. It doesn't need to be a majority of men watching child abuse images for it to be a problem we care about. It should stop, pedos should stop indulging their fetish for children to reduce demand and stop escalation. You don't date or destigmatise members of NAMBLA in an attempt to stop them, they have to be stigmatised, shamed and kept away from victims and porn involving their target or they get worse. Should women stop caring about child abuse too, along with the abuse o…
/r/askFDS16/03/20 03:04 AM
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Why do you care if you don’t plan on giving [pedos] a chance in the first place. [Child] porn will never disappear so long as there are men who want [children] but can’t get [one]. If other men can be influenced by the porn the [pedos] enjoy, doesn’t that make it a consequence of not giving the [pedos] a chance. I'm against child pornography for the same reasons. Would you make the same argument for that? Even drawn child abuse images make pedos more likely to seek to abuse real children but mos…
/r/askFDS16/03/20 02:25 AM
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Please provide evidence it stops LVM attempting to have sex with women. It seems to make many more depraved, often seeking to sadistically abuse women in ways they have seen, such as coerced or painful anal sex, strangulation or forcing her head down deep-throat style. Deep Throat is an example of a filmed rape that inspired decades of similar abuse, causing an increase in women found dead from being choked internally. There is escalation that leads many men to seek the abuse of children or anim…
/r/askFDS16/03/20 02:05 AM
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Female bears often venture near houses in an attempt to find food somewhere safe from males. Male bears kill cubs and attack mothers, raping or killing them. She may decide it is safer near humans. An adult female bear's only predators are male bears and humans. Most humans who kill bears for fun are male too, of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 12:04 AM
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Did he go clubbing without you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 11:07 PM
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https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2015/aug/16/village-where-men-are-banned-womens-rights-kenya
/r/askFDS13/03/20 01:32 PM
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Have you heard of sperm banks?
/r/askFDS13/03/20 11:09 AM
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Men crying get taken more seriously than women in my experience. However, it depends what problem you're crying about. My sister said two 16 year old boys at a birthday party were both crying loudly and openly together because they got rejected by girls (because they never wash but the girls didn't tell them that, they were polite). Even other teenage boys didn't say anything. Another boy she knows keeps crying because a girl he is stalking is not returning his messages. A man on a pottery tv sh…
/r/askFDS12/03/20 06:47 PM
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It's so common. Men usually don't hit wives when they can control them fully in an easier legal way, unless they get off on it. My mother has suffered so much and it took me years to find out why she would stubbornly suffer that much instead of divorcing. As well as financial issues, she couldn't risk her little girls being taken unsupervised to stay with their pervert dad. At best he would have not fed us and it's likely he would have abused us in worse ways. In Why Does He Do That? Lundy Bancr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:35 AM
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https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2018/jan/15/scientists-confirm-what-women-always-knew-men-really-are-the-weaker-sex. Men are missing over 95% of a chromosome (X has 2000 functional genes, Y has less than 100) which has obvious effects. Additionally, testosterone is immunosuppressant while estrogen is an antioxidant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 02:51 AM
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Is he harmed by the secret savings fund? Many men will hear that, smile and agree then ages after, he will manipulate her to use it in an emergency. It's unbelievable how cunning some abusive men can be until they have utterly trapped a woman. I'm a lesbian. If I find out my future wife has a secret savings fund, I'd be proud of her. I'd be happy she has chosen to stay with me because she wants to be with me, not for financial reasons. Lesbian relationships are way safer but it's just a sensible…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 10:20 PM
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Yes this is a life saving good idea. A good man would support the women in his life having secret funds to be safer from domestic abuse, just in case. He would be proud of his wife's good common sense and would want his daughters to be taught the same thing. It's lovely if your partner has the means to leave but chooses to stay because she enjoys their relationship. My mother has been financially abused for decades. She had to hide cash to be able to put together a deposit for a house when I was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 09:58 PM
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Radical feminist lesbians are highly against sadism. The criticism here is aimed at sadist men however, because they are the ones beating and killing women and children in huge numbers and this is a het sub. https://bevjoradicallesbian.wordpress.com/2017/09/04/chaptersixleather-sm-bdsm-its-all-still-sadism-and-masochism/ https://lesbianhistorygroup.wordpress.com/2016/10/12/lesbian-ethics-part-1-sheila-jeffreys/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 07:37 PM
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Men are more likely to die from it too, because their immune system is weaker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 01:09 PM
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https://antipornfeminists.wordpress.com/2014/01/22/bdsm-is-abuse-and-rape-culture-the-sixth-siren-joined-fetlife-to-get-proof/ https://antipornfeminists.wordpress.com/2014/03/30/here-is-a-handy-explanation-of-what-radfems-think-of-bdsm/ https://www.reddit.com/r/GenderCritical/comments/f2xliv/bdsm_is_abuse_in_a_chart/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 11:50 AM
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Men are missing 95% of a chromosome (2000 functional genes on an X, less than 100 on a Y). Makes more sense that so many regular men behave like they are mentally disabled when you learn that. It's a shame they're so large, sex obsessed and cunning enough to trick women into marriage and children before showing their true selves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 02:48 AM
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I'd be scared he'd get "emotionally attached" to the child or the dog next. This man is a paraphilliac, they usually develop more than one paraphilia and often escalate to pedophilia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 01:38 AM
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If I hadn't read this book three years ago, I might not be alive right now. Thanks for sharing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 09:56 AM
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He had many patients showing trauma because they had been raped by family members, usually fathers. He got backlash from men when he mentioned this so he invented the Oedipal theory that daughters want to seduce their fathers so they frequently make up stories of incest and molestation. His work contributed to a culture of disbelief in psychiatry so doctors would protect the accused pedos, sanctioning them to abuse their children behind closed doors for over a hundred years. https://en.wikipedia…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 10:30 PM
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Yeah hopefully he rots in hell for his work defending child abusers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 08:51 PM
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How do you see history in Incognito? I now believe the depraved shit men say about their kind. As Maya Angelou said, you should always listen when someone tells you who they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 02:43 PM
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I was shown extreme pornography at a very young age and I don't want to watch prostituted women raped as an adult. Grown men say that as an excuse as to why they find it so hard to stop watching human rights abuse as entertainment. Girls are exposed to porn just as often but porn addicts and johns are overwhelmingly male because a lot of men really enjoy watching and committing abuse. I don't buy that the sick desire was forced on the poor innocent lads by "socialisation" alone. There's somethin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 02:38 PM
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Imagine if we treated male violence and porn sickness like the pandemic it is. Oh no, Nigel is showing the first signs of porn sickness! Put him in quarantine! He can only be let out when he's no longer wanting to see teenage girls raped. It's not that easy because they don't pick it up through accidental exposure to a sneeze, adult men seek out videos of rape every chance they get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 01:20 PM
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Ugh I hate when they say 'the wife'. They like to play the victim, like they're being mistreated by their unpaid cook, cleaner and child raiser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 10:24 PM
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The word porn comes from the Ancient Greek word Pornai, who were female sex slaves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:14 AM
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The man "lighting up" when talking about kids, is this a red flag for a pedo? Do non-pedo men ever talk about kids like they are peers of his age? Like being very invested in their little squabbles with friends. Grown men being very interested in teen girls lives and jumping at the opportunity to spend time with them creeps me out but I don't know if it's because I've known a lot of pedos and not many normal men growing up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:16 PM
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Prostituted women are raped for pay. Men should just masturbate without raping or manipulating anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:39 PM
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The women I know who have loving high value husbands have never worn makeup and are not interested in following fashion. They are confident in their own skin and it seems to attract good men. It seems like you attract someone good when you're not trying to attract them. If you don't feel attractive wearing comfortable clothes and no makeup, others can pick up on that. It's a shame but in my experience, the beautifully made up lovely women who put a lot of effort into dressing and keeping slim at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:01 PM
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I'm so sorry this happened to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:07 AM
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I know many boys raised well by intelligent mothers and hard working respectful fathers, taught to be caring, to cook and do chores and to express emotions, and after puberty they turned out extremely lazy at best and typically male and abusive often. The balance of harsh, caring and strict parenting is so difficult to find to form a half decent man. It seems like a lottery with very low odds of success. You might like r/pinkpillfeminism, where you will be upvoted for not wanting to birth and ra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:12 PM
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Most will be, the rest are so creepy they're single. Is your face in the nudes? Men don't pay to view art nudes for innocent reasons, they go to a museum . . .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 06:20 PM
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I think I posted the intro https://trustyourperceptions.wordpress.com/2016/05/07/semen-mens-chemical-war-against-women-no-skip-intro/ or part 1 https://trustyourperceptions.wordpress.com/2016/05/15/semen-mens-chemical-war-against-women-part-i-male-chemical-munitions-what-semen-does-to-females/ and the references. There's 5 parts to the series on semen, it's a bit hard to navigate her blog, you have to use links at the top for each part in that specific series or scroll the whole thing. All her w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:58 PM
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Most men aren't good at remembering faces, just pretend he's got the wrong person if that happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 05:39 AM
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Only if you can say it to her without him hearing. Saying it to him when he is next to her conveys the message to her without making her embarrassed. I once had a relationship with a man who was quite openly awful in every way. When I went places with him, (always male) strangers and his friends would say to me things like 'did he kidnap you?' 'is he paying you?' 'why are you with him?' 'what do you see in him?' 'you deserve better' 'does he ever wash?' 'can you tell him to flush my toilet when …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 07:02 PM
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Browse the (nudity blurred) screenshots of popular mainstream porn on http://theviolenceofpornography.blogspot.com/2017/10/pornhub-eroticises-incites-real-sexual.html and guess which videos he's been watching while you've been feeling bad about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:45 PM
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The widespread push and acceptance of not using condoms could be explained by the fact that over a hundred mind altering drugs have been identified in semen, including multiple different barbiturate-like chemicals, opioids, positive-reinforcement drugs, endorphins, dopamine, antidepressants, bonding drugs, chemicals which make a woman want to be fucked, painkillers, sedatives and memory-reinforcement compounds. https://trustyourperceptions.wordpress.com/2016/05/15/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:22 PM
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Declining to hear “no” is a signal that someone is either seeking control or refusing to relinquish it. With strangers, even those with the best intentions, never, ever relent on the issue of “no,” because it sets the stage for more efforts to control. If you let someone talk you out of the word “no,” you might as well wear a sign that reads, “You are in charge.” The worst response when someone fails to accept “no” is to give ever-weakening refusals and then give in. Another common response that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:53 AM
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Any bisexual and questioning women here should date each other! A different meaning of female dating strategy ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:06 AM
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r/pinkpillfeminism, www.feministcurrent.com, https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights, https://makemorenoisemanc.wixsite.com and radical feminist youtube. Also used book sites for cheap second wave classics and www.radfem.org for free pdfs. There's a real sense of female solidarity in learning about the previous women's movements. Their insights get covered up and have to be rediscovered by each new generation. Good online reading is https://trustyourperceptions.wordpress.com/2016/05/07/semen-…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:09 AM
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People say my dad is one of the good ones but I found his daughter themed porn last year. He never touched me but I couldn't place what was wrong with his behaviour until then. There's no big need to have children with the climate collapse coming in their generation. What will men do when we get food and water shortages?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:24 AM
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This is such crucial advice, it's not common knowledge at all and I learnt it the hard way. In the Gift of Fear, they're called unsolicited promises and they should never be ignored. More info here on different warning signs http://psychopathsandlove.com/i-promise-you-im-no-gigolo/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:32 PM
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And a man sticking around after having a baby is considered saint-like by so many other women, even if he doesn't do a single hour of childcare. My mom was like a single parent except she had to cook his food every day straight after coming home from hospital. People don't tolerate criticism of a husband and father if he goes to work and doesn't beat you up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:35 AM
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Pickmeisha. That wasn't funny but she gives in to disrespectful low effort 'humour'. A man pushing a sexual topic like that is not a good sign. He is testing her boundaries. He now knows she will be nice to him when he keeps pushing for sex in person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:34 AM
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Yes and then he told her this specific comment about her cooking for a reason. It suggests he will also gossip to his friends if she doesn't cook for him anymore. The fear of his friends judging and badmouthing her could keep her in line, cooking his meals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:27 AM
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Hope she leaves him! He sounds like a loser, bragging about watching porn when he's married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 11:12 PM
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Well, Louis C.K. joked about his perverted sexual desires and masturbating in front of people at length then we found out: As soon as they sat down in his room, still wrapped in their winter jackets and hats, Louis C.K. asked if he could take out his penis, the women said. They thought it was a joke and laughed it off. “And then he really did it,” Ms. Goodman said in an interview with The New York Times. “He proceeded to take all of his clothes off, and get completely naked, and started masturba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 08:04 PM
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Men who joke about porn are always heavy porn watchers. A man's jokes are always an insight into what he's thinking about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:39 PM
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That's abusive unwanted sex. It's crazy how many men do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:10 PM
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All strangulation is dangerous. Cutting off blood flow to the brain causes cumulative brain damage. It also causes thyroid damage, strokes, heart attacks and death. Your friend's bf needs to be given a diagram of where the clitoris is, he sounds so bad in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 12:40 PM
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Why are you suggesting ways for him to manipulate her better? This male friend is a leech.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:16 AM
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"I'll get this one but you have to give me sex later." The girlfriend sat in silence embarrassed. The waitress walks away feeling disgusted. The women here have good intuition based on experience. I trust their emotional intelligence. The overwhelming majority here are uncomfortable at this story and empathise with the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:59 AM
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Poor man. Jokes are always an insight into men's thoughts. If he's joking about it, he's thinking about it. If he's joking about it a lot, he's thinking about it a lot. Keep it in mind next time a man jokes about something or about you. It's on his mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:44 AM
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Men's jokes show us what they're thinking about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:19 AM
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Oh of course, I didn't think your post was celebrating this sick behaviour. My comment was aimed at the commenters who were saying they are happy men will rape 'a professional' instead of pursuing 'real women'. I see how I said you it sounded like I was meaning you, sorry!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 01:24 PM
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If he jokes about it, it's his main hobby. You may have to observe him around his mates if he's on his best behaviour with you. Honestly, it's hard to tell with the lighter users or more scheming users. They will say whatever they think you want to hear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 09:18 AM
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Except the prostituted women and girls they rape. That's not everyone, even in the scenario where johns stop pursuing any other women, which doesn't usually happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 09:07 AM
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I'm so sorry he's doing this to you, it's horrible how common it is to be sabotaged by someone who claims to love you. I'd recommend Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft. Available free if you Google 'why does he do that PDF', it's the first result. That book got me out then I bought a paper copy. I still use it to understand men's behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:43 AM
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The Mindless Cruelty of Toxic Ignorance - Rachel Moran One of my fellow exited women has raised an interesting point on her blog (secretdiaryofadubincallgirl) when she mentioned the ‘cruelty and callousness’ of non-prostituted women who advocate prostitution as suitable and agreeable ‘work’ for other women. This view is expressed with great vigour by some women who are not prostituted, never were prostituted, and never will be. To hear commercialised sexual abuse sanctioned as acceptable is a pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:36 AM
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Most men raping prostituted women are in relationships already. In countries like South Korea, where the sex trade is larger, 80% of men buy sex. It's not 98% because some men are very poor. In your dream where every man has easy access to a more disadvantaged woman to abuse instead of you, every man who watches porn will be raping trafficking victims as well as dating you. It's harder to tell who is a john, than a porn addict. In South Korea, normal successful men rape a woman to finalise busin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:30 AM
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Prostitutes are real women who have had worse lives than any of us. Watch this video of formerly prostituted Rachel Moran talking about prostitution https://www.feministcurrent.com/2015/10/20/chris-hedges-rachel-moran/ and tell me she is not more HVW than any of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:05 AM
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He will not remember his children's birthdays either if she stays with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 12:48 AM
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Write down or tell her to Google 'Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft pdf'. There's a whole book on her problem, she can read it when she feels ready and you don't have to feel responsible after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 12:08 AM
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Yes. Please get out before he wants to strangle you. He will hide it better if you talk to him about it. https://soundcloud.com/pyroshiba/dumphim
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:37 PM
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This case isn't that, he did it in a very uncaring way, not baking for her like a grandma. He made her get up to get him a slice of cake! It's just controlling bs, either driven by insecurity or a fetish or both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 07:39 PM
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They tell her to talk to him as if this is a minor gripe rather than heartless sabotage! He'll just gaslight her. This is beyond excusable. I feel so bad for her. A woman disagrees with the advice to "communicate better" and she gets condescendingly told "Talking is how relationships work". Excuse me, would any woman there need to be told not to discourage her husband from eating disorder recovery if he was trying to be healthier? No way. Talking more about his lack of empathy and understanding …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:39 PM
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These men are rapists. Surveys generally show around 10-20% of US men have bought sex. It's scary, that could be 1 in every 10 men you know. In South Korea where the sex trade is larger, 80% of men have raped a prostitute, usually regularly. Business deals often finish in brothels. It shows men's true nature and just how many are low value pieces of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:16 PM
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Rachel Moran was prostituted in every level of the sex industry, from streetwalking to high class escorting. She writes in this article about the myth that high class escorting is safer, any less harmful or that the women are happier and not addicted to drugs to block out the pain. https://www.salon.com/2015/09/19/my_lessons_in_prostitution_how_i_learned_the_myth_of_the_high_class_hooker/ Excerpts but please read it: 'I have heard a lot of sneering comments along those lines from women who marke…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 12:59 PM
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They are such losers tho, can barely restrain themselves for a couple of weeks. Who wants a man whose biggest achievement in life was managing to stop watching prostitutes being raped?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 10:52 AM
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He simultaneously has no chin and a double chin. I wish his mom had found FDS before settling for the genetic sludge of a man that produced this specimen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 02:30 AM
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The problem is men are more dangerous than dogs. Women domesticated wolves but we haven't managed to tame men. While you can train a dog to be better, you just have to keep away from men like this. It's hard for women to realise just how many men are irredeemable lost causes. Realistically there aren't enough decent ones to go around so women cling to the idea they can change a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 01:18 PM
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Yes! This book saved my life! Every woman should read it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:58 PM
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Ew I got this recommended too! I follow this sub for the realism about men, I don't want to date any men, especially not loser pol-lee weirdos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 11:41 AM
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The comments. Every time the comments are worse than I expect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 07:36 AM
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Men who are as moral, useful and caring as the average woman are so rare, I don't know if I've met one. It seems like collective gaslighting when women jump out to say 'just trust me, they do exist, I've caught one!'. We'd be better off investing our time and energy into ourselves and each other. More women would be safe and happy if we team up and form family groups with our female friends instead of seeking a unicorn man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:40 PM
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Why not live with women and raise children with your friends instead of playing husband roulette?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 10:02 AM
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Why is it so common for boys to torture and kill animals? Men do it too, usually in a more organised social event. Every instance I have heard of haunts me, since I was a child. Even the men who hate animal cruelty don't see a problem with the torture of women. It's so rare to find one who is disgusted by the abuse of all living things, like the average woman is. I swear the nature of Man is to love destruction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 09:56 PM
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Where I am is similar and the men often hurt animals when they are scared of them. Men and boys of all cultures torture animals on the street though, even when they are raised with them. People here always say it was 'kids' when they mean boys killed or tortured something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 09:46 PM
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No this is scary. A man made this. If he knows her actual address then this is an invitation for men to rape her when she opens the door. I hope she finds out about it and is safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 10:44 AM
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Haha yes!! Loyal and protective! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 03:53 AM
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Good riddance! Sounds just like my ex. Women are still fawning over his tortured soul act, thinking he wants them as 'a friend'. Men like that are emotional vampires, sucking attention and hoping for sex. He'd drop you in a flash if you get a boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 11:04 PM
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Extoll the virtues of public hair too. It protects from infections, and pornsick boys! And you should never sleep with someone who's unhappy to see your natural female body. Shaving, waxing and being ashamed of hair is a huge burden on our girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:25 AM
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