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No no, I need to pick up the pen
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 02:25 PM
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Well, tbf i guess it’s better than many of the partner’s I’ve had… But it sucks that it requires a dildo (doesn’t feel as good) and you have to adjust it before you start (total mood killer) and then speed it up or slow it down yourself (distracting.) Also, this is maybe the sexual equivalent of a first world problem, but it gets me off in like 2 minutes flat, which isn’t as much fun as 10-15 minutes of real sex, you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 02:24 PM
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Y’all. I talked to a cute WOMAN last Sunday! (posting has been a little delayed because I’m trying to get offline and touch grass.) Yesterday I did like 3 sink-fulls of dishes, two loads of laundry, cleaned half the house including the fridge, did yard work, took my kiddo to the park, and grocery shopped! I love coffee. I’ve started journaling but today I absolutely do not want to. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 02:19 PM
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”Went through” is gross language. People aren’t sprinklers!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 02:16 PM
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I have one! It’s not as good as the real thing 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 02:15 PM
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I'm not being a pickme. Incel just means "involuntarily celibate," which lots of men are. Not all of them hate women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 12:16 AM
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Not all incels are misogynists though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 12:01 AM
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They just call them "misogynists"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 11:48 PM
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Well was it misandristic?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 11:32 PM
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Okay, so then it's fair to call her racist, just like it's fair to call the misogynistic-manifesto-writers misogynistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 11:31 PM
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That's not true of every formerly promiscuous person though. There are formerly promiscuous couples who stay married til death does them part, without infidelity. There are also low n individuals who cheat on their spouses and/or divorce because they're bored of their partners and want to know what else is out there. A lot of times with low n women who end up cheating, it's because the men flirting their way into their pants are igniting this "fiery passion" in them through love bombing, making …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 11:26 PM
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Was hers misandrist? I'm just saying, if someone goes shooting up a school and leaves behind a misogynistic manifesto, people aren't wrong about that shooter being misogynistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:39 PM
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Was hers misogynistic?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:32 PM
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Well when they leave behind whole manifestos...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:27 PM
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I'm pretty sure the last big school shooter's parents had to go to court too, didn't they? I also don't see how that's pro-female
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:27 PM
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I'm curious if you would bet that promiscuous men would have "gotten all the sex out of their system" too, and cause a DB? I think what promiscuous people "get out of their system" is the desire for variety and experiences with new partners. It's easier to be monogamous if you don't have any FOMO after exploring.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:18 PM
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It's not really like a switch that just flips after years and years of repressing your sexuality. Many people who grew up in religious or sexually reserved environments struggle to let go of their sexual shame even after marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:14 PM
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Have you ever felt genuinely loved by a romantic partner? You just observe someone's behavior, and you can tell. Is she physically affectionate? Does she do nice things for you? Does she give you thoughtful gifts and remember your birthday, likes, dislikes, preferences...? Does she go out of her way to spend time with you? Does she compliment you? Does she tell you she loves you, and why? That goes for any potential partner, whether inexperienced/sexually reserved or promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:12 PM
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Promiscuous people often turn themselves into monogamous people. Many of them are wild when young, "get it out of their system," meet somebody they love, and settle down into family life with that one person.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:07 PM
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Stand by for the deluge of users calling you a woman pretending to be a man
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:36 PM
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I did. Not word-for-word verbatim, of course, but as closely as I could remember.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 10:22 PM
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Sometimes that is the case, and sometimes he just doesn't respond.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 08:30 PM
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Adult female virgins with high sex drives ?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:26 PM
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T50, or anything in the D range, especially if they have darker skin
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:21 PM
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I mean, it's normal for people to miss picking up their partners' needs occasionally. I was shocked that he wasn't apologetic about it though. I hope you are okay
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:19 PM
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He can have his own thoughts and worries and also notice basic things like me needing to get myself clothing in the morning. I would and do do the same for him. When I fail to do so, on occasion, I also apologize. You don't have to be a mind reader to make visual observations and connect the dots. I do very much care about how he feels. That's why I wrote a whole essay about it here
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:13 PM
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Because I was visibly nude and within his line of sight
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:03 PM
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It was something else unrelated. I think of myself a bit like a Sim, and if my mood is low and I get more than one task in my queue, I'm less likely to do it because I can't focus
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:56 PM
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I felt that it was important for him to know *why* I responded the way I did, because I know he's not a mind reader and didn't know I was thinking about something irritating. But I do know that he has eyes, saw that I had just gotten up and was unclothed, and that I was on my way downstairs, where my clothing is kept. He also knows I have ADHD and often end up doing doom spirals, and how stressful and dysfunctional that is for me... I felt unconsidered. Somebody else replied that I should have s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:51 PM
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That's what I was thinking too. Like I know we should always *try* to be pleasant to one another, but we're not always chipper and successful with it
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:35 PM
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That's very insightful. Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:32 PM
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That's genius. Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:30 PM
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I tried that. The communication is breaking down *somewhere,* I'm just struggling to figure out what happened
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:28 PM
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I don't want people to just jump on my side. I want legitimate feedback. Like his responses to me make it seem like I'm being crazy, which I might be, but I don't think I am. So I wanted external input from other people
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:15 PM
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So I am imagining both are untrained, the 14 yo is a tall and skinny Gen Z dude, and the woman is slightly chubby to overweight... Without being enraged, I think the 14 yo would win, based on physical ability.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:13 PM
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I'm wary of asking for advice here, but there's a situation about which I'm having a lot of internal conflict. I'll try to tell it with as little bias as possible. This morning I woke up and was heading downstairs to put clothes on, when my husband (H) said my name the way he does when he wants me to something for him. Now, I was deep in thought about something irritating, and I was intent on clothing myself. As an ADHD sufferer, I get easily overwhelmed if my mind is racing and I have too many …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:09 PM
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How strong is the boy? How fit is the woman? How trained are either of them? What do they have to lose? Are they angry?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 05:32 PM
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That's a much more effective way of doing it. However, from my experience, men tend (tend! NAMALT!) not to take as much care when it comes to doing laundry. Like my husband will do laundry on occasion when I get behind on it, and don't get me wrong, I appreciate it so much. But I notice he doesn't always sort the colors or change the settings on the washer and dryer to fit what goes in there, and sometimes overloads them. Sometimes the clothes come out wrinkly, get hung up or folded incorrectly …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 02:31 PM
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I had a really good and successful weekend
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 02:15 PM
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They advocate for women to pay part of the mortgage or rent or car payment so they have vested ownership in them, in the event of divorce
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 12:59 AM
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No thanks. The summary was sufficient.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:54 PM
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This is for me, personally, mind you. Not for women in general. I'm okay with men 5'9 and above. Shorter than that, I don't think I could do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:53 PM
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To be fair, I've had a lot of conversations with feminists in which they insist that being financially dependent on a man is basically the stupidest and most dangerous thing a woman could ever do. Those types will literally shame women who don't make their own money and contribute financially, and compare them to literal children being provided for by their parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:49 PM
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I'd be pissed that he didn't just call the sister and let her handle it, and/or emergency services
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:46 PM
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Did she really? That's horrible
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:44 PM
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His face is so babyish, on top of a body that is too tall. I find it odd. But I could see him appealing to height queens and gold diggers
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:32 PM
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Can't argue, if the man is more attractive than you. He's then more likely to prioritize personality over looks, because then he could probably get someone better-looking. If he's less attractive than you, it's more likely for him to value looks over personality. But neither outcome is certain.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:29 PM
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I had to figure out my preferences for this, so here was my process: Round one brackets: Face>height, as long as the man is average height or taller money>status Age>body, as long as he is willing to lift. I can make him godly looking Personality and dick sized are tied Round two brackets: Money>face Personality/dick size >age Final bracket: Personality/dick size > money, but just barely Final result: Personality/dick size>money>age>body>face>height>rest
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:20 PM
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TLDR?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:10 PM
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I would be both stoked and a little put-off at the same time. I would love to have IRL friends with whom to talk about pillsphere stuff, and I hold many of those beliefs myself! But also I would think he's a little low IQ or misogynist for believing n count has anything to do with quality of partner, and for putting looks and status about personality in the hierarchy of mattering. What's pro-female DEI?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:06 PM
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You may find that to be the case soon, if you don't figure out what's causing your hair loss
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 08:25 PM
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And yet, there are still not 4x more women aged 20-22 than men
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 08:23 PM
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Have you seen a doctor?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 08:07 PM
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Women are a lot less direct in their communications, within their social circles, their relationships, their workplaces...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 07:50 PM
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Men dying at 4 times the rate of women would be insane, unless the country is participating in an extremely deadly war
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 07:41 PM
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"Sex mortality differences expressed as the ratio of male/female death rates", right under the image; fresher numbers for the US are published by the CDC, but not in the graph form. They aren't that different now than they were 28 years ago, although "peak" mortality gap has somewhat narrowed at least up to the pandemic. The Y axis doesn't say anything. What are the numbers? Percentages? Number of times greater than? Yes. So.. provide context for the graph? I could make up a graph right now and …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 07:28 PM
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The axes for the graph in your first link is not labeled, nor is there context for it. (Deaths from what? Were they in a health care setting? Were they specifically being cared for by women? How did they collect this data? Sample size?) It's also showing data from 1996, which was 28 years ago. Your logic isn't logicking. Also the gender pay gap has been thoroughly explained away
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 06:15 PM
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You're implying that women in healthcare are not taking accountability for deaths under their care though. And supporting that with stats about cases of general crime. I'm also curious why you specified "male deaths"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:43 PM
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I mean your earlier claim was that women in health care aren't held accountable for medical neglect/malpractice the way that men are, and in support of that, if I'm understanding correctly, you brought up the stats about men receiving longe prison sentences and women being more likely to avoid incarceration. So I don't see how the details of those stats are of "secondary relevancy."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:26 PM
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Are those stats specific to the health care industry though? Or is the data from cases of other types of crime?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:41 PM
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Someone else here said it would be smarter to make it harder for people to get married, as a means of making them take it more seriously and not become serial divorcees, which I think is a great idea. I think making it more difficult to divorce will only trap people in abusive or toxic marriages, and it's not worth any potential benefits. The overall decline in mental health has a lot of root causes. I don't think sexual freedom is a big contributor to that. Maybe porn consumption is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:19 PM
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No, I was just wondering if any of the health care providers you choose to see are female, or if you actually lived out your opinions
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:13 PM
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Psychologically damaged people get married all the time, and most of them are not sex workers. Why do you think the divorce rate is so high?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:55 PM
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...Do you think female health care providers aren't being held accountable for medical neglect/malpractice ?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:53 PM
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Would you visit a female health care provider?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:37 PM
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I don't think someone who is psychologically well would attempt something like that in the first place. This was more likely a symptom of her condition rather than a cause. I also think women who engage in normal, one-at-a-time prostitution feel like it is more of a service they're providing to their clients, rather than their clients using their bodies. It's consensual in a different way. But in this instance, when she only had 2-5 minutes with each man, and she was going through so many of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:51 PM
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Running an honest insurance company isn't communism
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:00 AM
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I bet you're fun at parties
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 01:20 AM
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My life is falling apart and it feels inescapable
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 03:49 AM
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What's wrong with a little shocky shocky between consenting adults?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 03:45 AM
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I had a really hard time getting my first boyfriend, and the loneliness was SO heavy and all-consuming. I spent a lot of time despairing over what I thought must be wrong with me. So I get it. It's a horrible thing to experience
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 03:43 AM
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Bet you won't do it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 03:39 AM
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I am poor and attractive, thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 03:38 AM
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Which kinks?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 03:36 AM
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My haircut and outfit is giving rich millennial auntie vibes and I'm here for it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:57 PM
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I think women would miss their children though
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:19 AM
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We can talk about whether we think there ought to be charges for child abuse/neglect for women who abuse drugs during pregnancy and harm their resulting children, if you'd like. My stance on that is probably, but then you'd probably have more cases of infanticide as a result, with the using mothers fearing prosecution
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:13 AM
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https://youtu.be/EnZsBnFLF5A?si=rzPiPn3txVUTHSq7
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:08 AM
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This one wasn't even put into the trash bins. She just left her in the bag, resting up against the side of the house
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:03 AM
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What do you mean? That's just a fact. We don't need additional laws for illegal drug use specifically for pregnancy. It's already illegal
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:01 AM
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Perhaps that's a different case. This one showed text messages to her boyfriend threatening to tell her mother she was pregnant
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:00 AM
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I'm so sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:54 AM
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It is a crime for women to smoke crack while pregnant because possessing and using crack are both illegal. Once you decide that the pregnancy is going to result in a fully formed, separate human being, you have a moral obligation to ensure that you are not doing anything to harm his or her development during gestation. If you don't see the difference between terminating an early fetus that lacks a functional central nervous system, vs aggravated murder of a full term, viable baby... I don't thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:51 AM
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She should have had a termination within the first trimester, as soon as she found out about the pregnancy, if she wasn't planning on behaving responsibly while pregnant
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:43 AM
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It was her choice whether to carry to term or not, and she chose to carry to term... After the baby was out of her body, she had a responsibility as her parent to ensure her wellbeing, whether it was through involved parentage or getting her to the hospital and into the foster care system.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:40 AM
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She was a full term baby. Also, she drank throughout the entire pregnancy, so even if she hadn't killed it, she probably would have had problems
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:33 AM
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No. That's why she was arrested and being interrogated. She was offered a plea deal for 15 years, but she didn't take it, so she got a life sentence instead. But they're gonna release her on parole after 20 years. I am so sick about it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:32 AM
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An interrogation of a college girl who poorly concealed a pregnancy, gave birth in her sorority house's toilet, put the baby in a trash bag to suffocate, and then left the bag outside. Then she went to McDonald's, and came back and finished a school paper. As if nothing had happened. The video showed a phone call with her mother where she was discussing how she was going to look on trial without make up, and how she should do her hair. I don't think I could talk to my daughter ever again if she …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:23 AM
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I watched a terrible youtube video earlier and now I have the Big Sad. Just feels like the whole world is going downhill and everything is so heavy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:08 AM
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So if you didn't know who he was, he probably wasn't considered famous when he and Ariana Grande met. You asked for an example of a woman attractive enough to model dating someone who isn't wealthy and who is physically average and being public about their relationship. There you go. Like I said before, most people match up with those who are about as attractive as they are, and in the same socioeconomic class. That's what that means for average looking middle class men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 01:15 AM
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Are you telling me you knew who Ethan Slater was before the scandal with Ariana Grande and before he was in Wicked?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 12:43 AM
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There are plenty of models with small chests. Doesn't mean they aren't models.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 12:29 AM
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Then I'm not sure what shyness entails
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 12:11 AM
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She's an attractive woman representing a brand with her image... aka a model
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:37 PM
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When did I ever say that? YOU ARE THE ONE WHO ASKED FOR AN EXAMPLE OF THAT
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:32 PM
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It's hard to connect with someone if both of you are too shy to speak
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:31 PM
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I'm not reading that
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:56 PM
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He is average in looks and was earning a very average income when he met Ariana Grande. Even if he earned more money during the filming of Wicked, it was still several hundred times less than Ariana Grande's income. Assortive mating makes it so that likelihood of men who are neither above average in looks nor above average in income getting with a woman who is above average in looks very slim. I am not the one saying that it's common for average value men to get with above average women. YOU are…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:55 PM
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You're not engaging in this argument with good faith
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:26 PM
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I'm doing the opposite of calling average men incels. I'm saying that the average man dates women that are around his age, and doesn't think Margo Robbie is mid and fat. I'm saying that if you think the average man isn't "going for" 30 yo women, and that he thinks Margo Robbie is mid, you're probably hanging around online incel spaces. They can have all the opinions and "standards" they want, but that doesn't mean their opinions or standards are usual or reasonable. You didn't start out by askin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:24 PM
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Only if they have that sort of financial arrangement... Most women work nowadays
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:14 PM
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https://nationaljeweler.com/articles/13082-swarovski-names-ariana-grande-as-its-new-brand-ambassador Are you seriously insinuating that average men who are also in their 30s, are not okay with "going for" 30 year old women? If the "average" man though Margot Robbie is mid and fat, she wouldn't be a successful actress. You need to get off of incel spaces and go talk to normal men IRL. You said in your original comment "Show me one insta model or signed model that’s publicly claiming her average i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:39 PM
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Last I heard was that he was playing Spongebob on Broadway when they got together. I don't think Broadway actors make that much money. Either way, he's definitely average looking, and she's way wealthier.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:07 PM
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He would make a good partner to an extravert, but not someone introverted like myself. So he'd be like 7+
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:06 PM
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Women are still children at 100
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:58 PM
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What I'm trying to say is, if you don't date any women, there's a possibility you aren't accepting anything he's trying to deliver, and you might end up alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:55 PM
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Did you ever hear that joke about the guy in the hurricant rejecting rescue from evacuators in a car, a boat, and a helicopter because "God will save him?" And then he drowns in the flood and gets to the afterlife and asks God why he didn't save him, and God replies "I sent you a car, a boat and a helicopter!"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:52 PM
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Maybe he is trying to "deliver the woman" but you are rejecting the packages
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:45 PM
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Didn't Ariana Grande become a homewrecker for Ethan Slater?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:25 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TW2Pq0kPmH0
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:18 PM
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It's so cute! <3
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:57 AM
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Because Mississippi is also poor
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:55 AM
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Did you figure out why?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:53 AM
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I made fun of my step dad mercilessly for how he holds his
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:50 AM
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With the exception of one, all Asian people whose handwriting I've seen has been exceptionally neat. For some reason, I think males often hold the pencil wrong or with too much tension or something, which produces worse handwriting.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:29 AM
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I would have
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 02:06 AM
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not the antennae :sob:
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:58 AM
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If you hear (or read, in this case) the phrase "slutty hair cut," what kind of hair cut do you picture?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:36 AM
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Not in any way that's relevant to this post
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:32 AM
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Legally, both spouses incomes are communal assets. Fortunately, you and your spouse can agree to *functionally* keep your finances separate during a marriage, or combine them as much as you see fit (but they will be divided as equally as possible in the event of divorce.) If you feel this strongly that marriage isn't good for you, then just don't get married. No one is forcing you
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:31 AM
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He is very handsome, but they are a couple. Obviously she likes more about him than just his appearance, and will say as much when asked
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:10 AM
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I just wanted you to know that at first I read your flair as "A former child, now retired (Man)" and I was like, "I guess that makes sense lol"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 01:13 AM
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I can hear this photo
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 01:11 AM
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If I wasn't already married and had to start over, I would date someone who hadn't been in a relationship before, as long as he met all my other standards
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 01:10 AM
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yeah, I think that's just greed/materialism
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:59 AM
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No, not "allegedly." The laws are *literally* gender neutral, and are enforced as such. Men are not being married off without their consent; they are *also* choosing spouses who make significantly less than them in the cases where alimony applies. (Note: most men marry within their socioeconomic class, and alimony is not commonly assessed.) This is literally in your power to prevent. Stop pretending you're a victim of some wildly unjust system.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:44 AM
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The way I've heard it described by people whose love language is gifts is, that they just like knowing someone was paying attention to their likes, interests, favorite things, etc., and were thinking of them when they bought the gift. I didn't think I was a person who liked gifts, until my husband started bringing me small and very thoughtful gifts. It is really very touching.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:41 AM
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That's because in most marriages, men earn more than women. Are you listening? Alimony goes to the lower-earning ex-spouse. Therefore, in most divorces where alimony is awarded, it's awarded to women. (And I'm not making this about the supposed "pay gap" that feminists like to moan about, either.)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 09:32 PM
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To add to what you said, a good girl in my opinion would ask what she could do to make him feel better (and I’m not talking about sex at all). I suppose you're right, if she's not also in need of emotional relief/comfort.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 09:29 PM
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I'm.... not even going to touch on that sweeping generalization. Are you a billionaire, such that your only means of avoiding and income disparity is to date another billionaire?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 11:51 AM
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I'm talking about the incels who want the government to force wives to have sex with their husbands as a means of repayment for their husband's financial provision
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 11:48 AM
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Sometimes one or both partners gain weight and/or stop taking care of themselves, too, which can affect attraction. If that was the case, that's one of the easier fixes
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 05:01 AM
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Talk to as many people as you can. Standing in line? Waiting for the bus? Shopping? Make small talk with strangers. Go online and find events to attend, and talk to strangers. Find hobby/interest groups and attempt to make friends. Say "yes" to social interaction whenever possible. And pay close attention to other people who are interacting around you all the time! When people prolong interactions with you and give you positive feedback (smiles, laughter, eye contact, open body language, ways to…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 04:57 AM
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Communication and compromise with my partner. You have to figure out what's wrong and meet them halfway in order to solve the problem... anything more specific than that would be dependent on the cause of the DB
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 04:52 AM
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A lot of men here accuse women of being gold diggers, but I think they are the ones moreso who view sex and relationships as transactions
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 04:37 AM
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The laws surrounding division of marital assets, alimony, and child support are gender neutral. In marriages where there is a large income disparity between the spouses, the lower earning spouse is awarded temporary alimony from the higher earning spouse as a means of preventing poverty and reliance on the government for financial support. So like... don't marry low earning women if you're worried about paying alimony?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 04:33 AM
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The government mandates that the wealthier partner temporarily pays the less wealthy partner alimony in the event of divorce, usually only in cases of large wealth disparities. (It's gender neutral.) They do this so that people don't become impoverished and dependent on the government/the people's tax money. Also... The sex is not given to the husband from the wife. It's an activity that both people have together, which is meant to be enjoyable to both. In a divorce, the ex-wife presumably stops…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 04:25 AM
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Other than not forcing women to have sex with men in heterosexual marriages... What other needs do you think the courts fail to protect?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 04:13 AM
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It generates negative attention and gains her subscribers
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 04:09 AM
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I'm not arguing that sex isn't important to keeping a marriage alive and healthy. I am just saying, if you don't see your partner as anything else but a sex or financial resource dispenser... You're going to have a rough time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 03:57 AM
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Like I said, you have to study and try repeatedly. See what makes people more or less receptive to interacting with you. You'll mess up a bunch, sure, but you just move onto new people. There are literally so many people
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 03:16 AM
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Wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 03:14 AM
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You can get better at socializing even if you're bad at it. You just have to study and practice and try repeatedly until people want to be around you
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 02:44 AM
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You'd have to vary the amount of earliness
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 01:11 AM
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Sure, why not? I would just make sure they weren't getting into any far left ideologies, though
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 01:09 AM
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You just need to lift, looksmaxx, and socialize as much as possible
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 01:08 AM
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Vivarium was pretty good
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 01:06 AM
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Ten years or greater amongst adults
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 11:58 PM
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Why would it be disrespectful if she doesn't mind? You wouldn't need to do it behind her back
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:48 PM
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There is no law which states women should receive more lenient punishments than men for everything from murder down to petty theft, and yet it's a matter of record that they do. Okay, yeah, that's a valid example of injustice towards men in the court system... However, the topic at hand was specifically the financial consequences of divorce, and whether the laws re: alimony and child support are enforced in a discriminatory manner... They aren't. People put themselves into marriages where they w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:44 PM
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Rule justly. I would keep us in our lane, too
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:34 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:34 PM
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I don't think it much matters who it is removing physical activity during school hours. It's still harmful to the boys, and they would most likely be happier they were allowed to move about more. I don't mean crudeness. I mean just men expressing that they want sex in normal contexts, like if they're trying to figure out why their bedrooms are dead, for example. A lot of forums will be full of people shaming husbands for desiring sex with their wives, calling them perverts and saying nasty stuff…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:14 PM
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What if she still wants to have a normal amount of sex with you, but simply feels neutral about it if you wanted to have sex with other women too? Like it doesn't bother her, so she gives you that option to utilize if you want?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:00 PM
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There are definitely many instances where traditional masculinity is frowned upon by society. There's the fact that schools are starting to remove opportunities for physical movement during the day, which has been shown to negatively affect boys more than girls. There's a lot of pushback on male sexuality specifically. Don't even get me started on all the nasty things women will say about men online if they don't do any of the housework, even if their wife is there on the media post saying that …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:58 PM
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I'm not derailing the conversation; you made a bad analogy. The laws re: alimony and child support are written as gender neutral, and they are enforced in a gender-neutral way -- again, who pays who is dependent on who the wealthier ex-spouse/parent is in each situation (and also with child support, they take into account who has majority custody of the child), even if the woman in the situation is the higher earner. There are bad parents of either gender who trick the courts into giving them cu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:51 PM
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People your age should know the value of money and work to pay for the things they want themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:37 PM
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I think men are happiest when they are *allowed* to be masculine, not forced to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:34 PM
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I see
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:31 PM
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Post a photo of a woman you think is 19 BMI?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:30 PM
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Why? What sort of values?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:22 PM
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Interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:20 PM
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No. It's one-sided. I should have specified
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:17 PM
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Lisa needs to say to Tim "I'm not feeling very listened to or cared for at the moment," And Time should reply "I'm sorry love. I would like to be attentive, but I've had a really emotionally draining day at work today. Is it okay if I listen to you later?" To which she should reply, "Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't know that. That would be fine." You know, normal communication
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:13 PM
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I assume by "intimacy" you mean sex. It should be obvious to you why it would be bad for the government to force people to have sex if they don't want it. If all you feel women "bring to the table" is sex, you probably shouldn't get married in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:08 PM
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Q4M: if your girlfriend or wife was okay with you having sex with other women, would you do it? And I mean like, actually okay with it, not pretending to be okay with it but secretly isn't. Edited to add: It's also one-sided. Assume she has no desire for it to be open on her end.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:05 PM
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Because the first wife is in no condition to help care for a child
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 08:56 PM
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Sure. Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 08:54 PM
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"Don't date women you aren't compatible with"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 08:52 PM
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No; there was slavery in the US, and there were specific laws for enslaved people. To free them, we had to issue a whole Emancipation Proclamation. There are no laws that say women get alimony and child support and men do not. There are only people's individual choices, which decide who has to pay who in the event of a divorce. If you don't want to pay alimony, either don't marry at all, or marry someone who makes as much money as you do or more. Same goes for women
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 08:29 PM
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I'm glad it worked out for you
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 05:17 PM
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Nice try, Bumble
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 04:56 PM
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I've felt insecure about my femininity all my life, but once I went off to college, I had no shortage of men who were interested in me first to choose from.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 04:50 PM
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Usually couples take turns with initiating. And if the sex isn't happening for one reason or the other, they communicate about why.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 03:26 PM
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Sex tends to "just happen" in relationships where people are physically attracted to one another, at least in cultures where premarital sex isn't taboo.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 02:10 PM
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Everything is not "tilted towards women." The laws regarding marital asset division, alimony, child support, etc. are gender neutral. It just so happens that society has told women for hundreds of years that they belong at home, managing the children and the household, not the workplace. Being the ones who get pregnant and deal with the children most often, even working mothers tend to sacrifice their careers and potential earnings moreso than working fathers. For these reasons, and because alim…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 02:09 PM
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Can't gather or provide stats on something as subjective as that. What counts as "taking your husband for granted?" What makes someone a "kind, good" husband? Even if a study defined these things, not everyone is going to agree with their metrics
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 02:00 PM
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Because they are children? Not financially independent adults ?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 01:58 PM
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It's not "for just existing." It's because you made the decision to marry her and legally combine both of your finances and assets. I swear to God people don't understand what marriage actually means when they get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 01:54 PM
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Alimony is a mechanism of divorce. It is typically temporarily assessed on the wealthier of the partners "to preserve the quality of life" of the other. Income made from your business will still be considered for the purposes of alimony. You'll pay child support regardless of whether you're married, whether it's assessed through the courts, or you're an active parent in your child(ren)'s life/lives (edited for clarity: because you will be financially providing for them.) Business income will als…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 01:52 PM
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