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I’m sure they could make coherent points advocating for their own life decisions but go off queen. “You females” are the same kinds of weirdos incels can be, same lack of self awareness and all
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 10:28 PM
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I find conversations like this to be a frustrating misnomer. The platform for women you’ve outlined in your post is also advocated for by religious groups, conservatives, and people who participate in white identity politics, aside from the red pill. The idea that “women say no to this” undermines the agency of millions of women (at least in America where I’m from) who act in accordance to this set of rules to their own benefits and without coercion. The bogeyman of the red pill in this conversa…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 08:13 PM
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Girls who are legit freaks get a serious multiplier on the “reasons why I’m dating” her score
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 05:33 PM
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No, most arranged marriages come from a shared commitment to a specific culture. Pressure and accountability from your in group community gives these relationships power. I don’t have any allegiance to any beliefs that would make me or my partner accountable to an arranged marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 08:50 PM
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Fortify your spirit and self esteem and try to put yourself out there. Look for local events where you’re a natural fit like live music in a genre you like. Keep introducing yourself to people who interest you and do what you can to roll with the punches when you deal with people acting in bad faith. Most importantly though, please remember your self worth isn’t defined by someone who doesn’t really know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 10:39 PM
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Women with the most options get the biggest opportunity to communicate culturally. Whatever fantasy they may request that gets blasted out through the zeitgeist as if they represent Women™️. The rest of the ladies who don’t have the microphone get plastered with the beliefs of women who aren’t them, while never really getting the cultural cache to represent themselves. Then guys who are likely inexperienced in life hear the complaints of women who have the least to complain about and start to in…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 08:03 PM
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Blue pill/Red pill does not equal cool, flexible or reasonable person.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:20 PM
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Yep, now she's going to test her new "standards" on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 12:14 AM
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Reasonableness/Objectivity- The ability to see outside your circumstance in an era where individualism is at is highest is rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 06:30 PM
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Optimizing for agency in dating has lead to bad outcomes for men and women. Just because we have more choices doesn’t mean we’ll choose better
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 10:48 PM
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Why is the effect of testosterone 0% of this post?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:59 PM
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I don’t think they’re a gender swap, but your post is a little bit more literate than you’re getting credit for. Both are situations where you might feel obligated to maintain a relationship that you want to alter the paradigm of. The sticking point seems to be that women in situationships are having sex and are on a more equal playing field then men in the friend zone. All I would say as a counter is that sex with men is cheap, the same way women’s agape love can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 12:42 PM
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There's a post from a couple of days ago that directly applies here, saying that desirable personality traits in women should also factor into your understanding of scarcity/reasonability in selecting a partner. Specifically frugal nature, whatever you consider to be sweet, does not hate men, willing to accommodate neurodivergence, and monogamist and not jealous. Most people are interfacing with this post as if these qualities are a given, consecutively. I think these requirements might actually…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 06:50 PM
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You’re right, most of these dating conversations remove women’s experiences of dating violence because it’s dramatically more likely male to female and kills any possibility to talk about anything. In the space where we reframe dating conversations around violence women uniquely experience, what do you want to hear from men? Is it acknowledgement of your experience? Is it cathartic men ain’t shit blue pillery? Do you think incels should minimize their own frustrations to adjust for suffering exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:52 PM
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I have a hard time with posts like this. On the one hand, I agree that red pill suffers from a radioactive type of hypocritical moral rot that allows you to judge a woman as a whore for "giving it up", while being the kind of person who is maximizing their availability to have casual sex. That sounds like being the degeneracy that you want to criticize in the world. On the other hand, I know a lot of women who "wanted to enjoy their youth," in that post college phase and ended up opening the doo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:19 PM
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Contemporary women don't figure out that they can be picky, they raise their standards, and see if their options rise to meet them. There is no such thing as "allowed" to be picky, there are just women whose standards still equate to a pool of interested men. Women today don't give a fuck if nobody wants them. In the contemporary understanding, someone who; believes what they believe culturally, has the same views on family and marriage, is college educated with a reasonable job, is attractive e…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 01:34 PM
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Not red pill but I hope l can still answer. Women deal with a higher risk of STD transmission from men. Women deal with a lifetime of consequences from pregnancies they choose to have. The most common form of violence that women experience is domestic. The men women let in their space can ruin their lives or even their perspective on future relationships. I honestly spend a lot of time being nervous for the women in my life while also needing to respect their autonomy and their choices to potent…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 08:54 PM
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When women are "high value, young, thin, hot." In the red pill framing high value men are by things like career and material possessions and they hate women because to them high value women are just young (and manipulate-able).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 06:04 PM
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Honest question, why did you equate the freedom of youth that is guaranteed to literally every woman to the personal growth that OP describes which represents less a startling amount less than half of men? The "hypocrisy" you've identified leans directly into what redpill ideology outlines. As someone who despises the redpill, I'm often stunned how frequently women who think they disagree enable redpill talking points.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 05:41 PM
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I’m black and l live in an area in America where people commonly conceal carry firearms. I was shocked and disgusted by the way a jumpy cop murdered a lawful gun owner (Philando Castile) in a vehicle with his family. Does that mean l should treat the cop who pulls me over for doing 57 in a 45 like I’m about to be a homicide victim? This conversation is so difficult because l want to respond with empathy and say “you know what op, l think you’re justified in your cautious behavior” because dating…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:22 PM
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I agree so consistently that men on this subreddit are out of touch, but this response belongs squarely in that same camp. Every heterosexual man you know is married or dating? Are the bubbles we live in now so pervasive you don’t know AN unfuckable guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 08:05 PM
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The most profound thing I’ve learned in the dating context is that might makes right. Having options gives everyone immediate justification for the foul behavior we argue about on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 08:15 PM
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Every Individual text message you send in is capable of being isolated as a representation of your entire relationship. Good faith, bad faith, red pill, blue pill, man, woman, abuse happening, no abuse happening, this is bad praxis.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 08:23 PM
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The reality of women's expanded opportunities is eroding relationship formations. Women who might have been forced to be a spouse in like the 60's now don't even consider uninteresting marriages that would have previously been their only choice for a life path. If my whole worldview is the town I was born in, the pencil neck I went to elementary school with might actually seem like a catch.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:38 PM
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Women often categorize dating related trauma as growth and expect men to value women with baggage as “matured.”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 04:24 PM
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What’s the male equivalent of this post? Is it like where do l find a nymphomaniac or where do I find a pick-me?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 06:39 PM
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I shot the sherif🎶
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 09:19 PM
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Drug dealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 03:17 PM
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If they hear it, it’s coming from something dead… I think
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 07:44 PM
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I was thinking new band name lol. We make grindcore only using the vine boom sound effect and autotuned sounds made by dying animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 06:43 PM
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⚰️🍑🍆💦
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 05:59 PM
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Women often reward men who display traditional markers of masculinity a free pass to be a fuckboi, then turn around and lecture men they’re not interested in about misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 07:10 PM
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The use of insults like insecure towards men is one of several ways society enforces men's gendered standards. Men are supposed to be stoic and rational, so if they respond emotionally to something they don't like, calling someone insecure implies they're less of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 10:41 PM
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Question on the flip side of this post: What does it say about the dating market if this criticism is both accurate and coming from someone working to exploit it? Glow up and level up culture is about reintroducing yourself to the dating market after bettering yourself. That implies that the women participating in it believe they deserve better than their current outcomes. What separates the “delusion” of men who want but may not deserve better from women who want but may not deserve better?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 08:57 PM
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Question for men: would you mail yourself and improvised explosive device?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:30 PM
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I find this post to be willfully obtuse, and this specific kind of finger wagging “you should know better” attitude leads people down the path of red pill. When you speak to the experience of unsuccessful young men, there is no intermediate advice that can speak to playboys and serial monogamists with a holistic view of what someone can experience in the dating market. Instead advice trends towards the useless poles of extremism making anyone who needs help dry swallow one pill or the other. Red…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 03:37 PM
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Right or wrong is largely irrelevant here. Was his behavior obnoxious? Yes. Did he get what he wanted? Yes? Will he suffer any penalty? No. This sub is largely about dunking on people complaining about how they wish dating was, rather than accepting how it is—why does her experience deserve further analysis?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 06:34 PM
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Is the face only thing common for these kind of judgments in your experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 08:56 PM
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Honest question: Does she have nice titties and a big round ass? Some men are fine with a little cake, some men want the whole damn bakery.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 08:47 PM
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Can l ask what kind of traits gets a guy assigned to the hookup column as opposed to the relationship material column?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 01:34 PM
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I’ve had separate women ask me to slap, choke, spit on them, and ask for anal. I 100% blame porn and l was absolutely uncomfortable. My preferred sex life is 95% PIV and very vanilla.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 03:45 AM
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Why did you pick those two quotes out of the article? The post you’ve made here does a fantastic job exemplifying a common male complaint about communicating with women you flatly ignored as laid out in the article: “A parallel difference caused a man to complain about his wife, "She just wants to talk about her own point of view. If I show her another view, she gets mad at me." When most women talk to each other, they assume a conversationalist's job is to express agreement and support. But man…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 04:24 PM
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Love is absolutely separate from sex. When you end up hooking up with someone or establish a fwb relationship there is no love involved whatsoever. In relationships there is equity so there can be rapport and maybe even love there but love is drastically more rare than sexual activity.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 01:27 AM
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First off, thank you for taking the time to reply so thoroughly. Having read your response, I completely understand how you need a permanent break from relationships all together. My personal perspective comes from a series of positive experiences that l largely screwed up. While lacking in your depth of experience, l still believe that I get some jet fuel in my tank with the support of the right woman, but l would definitely be better served to lose some levels of my rosy outlook on relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 02:19 AM
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Can l ask what your personal experiences were that led you to identify as a MGTOW/Volcel? I have no interest in belittling you, I’m just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:14 PM
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Today’s men and women are too narcissistic to admit they have trauma and address it. It is so much easier to blame an entire gender for your problems and sit at home self righteous and alone, than it is to recognize dating and relationships are like getting surgery— it’s going to hurt before it gets better.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 05:38 PM
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Nah. Men should get better at re-presenting themselves as better looking and more interesting than they actually are, like women do on apps and social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 06:29 PM
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They’re not trying to make it more available, they just don’t want women going to jail for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 02:25 PM
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Women are more likely to vote than men, and more likely to vote blue. That paired with the feminist movement explains the swell in political will to pass legislation that supports sex work.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 02:04 PM
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The contemporary feminist push is about making it okay to be any kind of woman, not any kind of man. I thought this was clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 01:54 PM
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Can you finish reading your source before you make conclusions your material doesn’t support? From the article: “The disparate, often confusing results of these studies highlight the pitfalls inherent in using correlational designs to explore the highly intercorrelated factors that might underpin cultural differences in mate preferences.” This is lazy as hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 12:25 PM
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Honest question: If most of these guys have girlfriends too, why does the status of their wife they’re not always with prove your point? For each of these examples provided, there are several op conveniently avoided where a guy with a post human amount of wealth left his brainy feminist icon wife to go bang a looker.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 05:32 PM
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Every man needs to go through a phase where he works hard enough to not need to negotiate for what he wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 07:57 PM
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Pass on the revisionist history. Wolves were domesticated everywhere not just by Europeans. Africa is the worst possible role you could get in a game of civilization
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 02:25 PM
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Do you know what happens to people who try to put saddles on a zebra?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 02:16 PM
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Men aren’t intimidated by educated women period. We never were. The externalities that come from being around career women are repellent. She’s going to have high monetary standards, and she’s going to be religiously busy. She’s going to always compare you to the people she works around and will forever feel like she’s doing you a favor with her half assed presence. If a man achieves any level of success in life that earns him an opportunity for peace at home. Why would anyone who can pay their …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 01:00 PM
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I’d take the low key girl for serious and casual because she behaves similarly to the way l do, so that paring would make sense. I’m a homebody, raised religious and conservatively, mild personality, not overly stylish, family oriented and interested in being an active parent. As someone who went to business school with a significant number of girls like that, nothing has been more repellent to me than “girl boss,” high flying energy. I’m 100% more likely to take an interest in the girl in the o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:32 PM
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You’re definitely overthinking this. Each individual point you brought up is a realistic constraint that a woman could list as a turn off. The problem is every woman isn’t simultaneously applying the same standards. The only course of action in contemporary dating is to be reasonable when approaching a woman and don’t take rejection too hard if step on a hidden land mine. If you’re too timid to try and fail that’s okay too, but the juice is absolutely worth the squeeze.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 08:59 PM
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The thing that bugs me about online rhetoric about dating standards is that you don’t get to experience him or her in person. I’ve met wonderful women and have been content in the understanding that she can do so much better than me, but they were the full package in real life. So much of what you get out of dating is defined by what you look like, but 98.5% of posts on here come from avatars. I see so much 10 energy on here, but what’s your bet that it’s coming from a 10?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 08:35 PM
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Sex is more important in a healthy relationship than you’re allowed to say in polite company. A woman’s n count is overstated in decreasing her smv. My real fear is ending up with a woman who is jaded towards sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 05:37 PM
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I would say the primary variable would be raw physical attractiveness on a scale of 1-10 divided by disagreeableness 1-10. Guys all have a line drawn where the juice isn’t worth the squeeze.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 11:18 PM
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I hate how there is zero consideration anywhere on that page for her participation in her dating outcomes. It’s not shocking to me that the first group of men she has problems with put her in the fuckzone. Dating as a dude at 26? For me it’s okay because l keep my expectations low and put work first. Everyone l let into my dating concerns tells me that l have stuff to work on which is preferable to the alternative. I’d much rather feel like l have room to grow than absorb the mantra of “everyone…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 11:06 PM
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There is no unified culture pushing anyone to do anything. We all live in pockets and whether or not our environment reinforces what we believe is the primary source of strife. Don’t be a ticktok soft boy in Texas and put that macho shit away when you’re headed to San Francisco. There are different markets for different people and that’s okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 01:35 PM
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I foresee this discussion becoming quickly unproductive.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 04:08 AM
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This is going to be extremely more common in the near future than people think. The average woman’s declining attitude towards marriage means contemporary women have to reimagine what the end of their lives look like. Single people often don’t get to retire. Property ownership is also unlikely for the average single earner. Pooling your resources with a friend might be the only way to get by.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 08:58 PM
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Please get away from here, this subreddit is about scrutinizing dating at it’s most contentious and distorted. Remember, happy people who are busy don’t post here. If you recognize you are vulnerable, reading this is like taking a person with a weakened immune system to the sewer.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 08:07 PM
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As a younger man, l suffered in the dating scene because l overestimated the value personality has to women. Red pill was the first outlet that ever introduced the idea to me that being more stylish, aloof, and less agreeable would actually help me as a prospect. I moved to purple when l realized all l actually wanted to present myself better to women l want and not to spin plates or live up to some cassanova on a hill standard l made up for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 06:03 PM
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It’s exactly like buying and selling a stock, you get in early and that’s where the value is. I don’t begrudge women wanting a sure prospect but you don’t get upside if you weren’t with me when l was shooting in the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:27 PM
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I prefer “If you didn’t want me at my worst, don’t expect equity.” You honestly won’t be loved, cared for, or even be legally as solid as the woman who bet on potential and won. You can still participate in a meaningful relationship but it’s definitely a lower ceiling.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 03:27 PM
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From a black person to a white person, go fuck yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 07:51 PM
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I’m sure you’ve heard the expression champagne taste beer money before. If you’re the kind of person who is turning down interest from women, while being disinterested in self improvement, you’re planning to be alone. To me that’s worse than being an incel, a stupidcel if you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 03:47 PM
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I believe any man who doesn’t have any immediate disabilities or a truly unfortunate face, who is struggling with dating is making excuses. My perspective on dating is that men need to have the self esteem to keep introducing themselves to women in a reasonable manner. The likelihood that an individual girl you’re attracted to is the wrong person for you is extremely high. Therefore, if in your society women expect men to initiate romantic conversations, your dialogue with the right girls are 10…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 02:16 PM
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I can. Because l understand that the men that complain You can stop here. The burden of performance has been on our gender as long as we‘ve been a species. We’ve also always had complainers, they don’t reproduce.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 07:54 PM
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l don’t want a damn thing to about the dating market to change. There is so much pathetic defeatist energy I have heard from men in real life, and the market should do nothing to accommodate them. I get women can be entitled and unrealistic at times, but I can’t have empathy for someone who is ready to pout about not having what they want handed to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 07:28 PM
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If l could upvote you again l would. Men and women on this sub get so bogged down in conversation about “societal expectations,” when our lives are most commonly defined by what we have the leverage to negotiate.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 05:45 PM
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Successful independent career women neither want nor need a husband. They make a decision to focus their lives on their financial outcomes—what’s actually important in their world is accounted for. That’s what makes them “career women.” The half effort a lot of these women are capable of at the end of the work day is just runoff. Juxtapose them against the women who build up both successful relationships as well as careers and you’ll see just how different their intentions are despite similar in…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 08:28 PM
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OP are you talking about men and women making these decisions in a 2021 context or as a constant over our species’ evolution?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 05:52 PM
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Physical strength. Do I get to use it to my advantage on a given day? No? Do l deal with prejudice about what l could do because I’m strong? Daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/21 07:35 PM
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This program recognizes how important sex is for men’s mental health. Sexual surrogacy acts as a bridge between sex and therapy that helps people heal. I wish it was a more regularly available option in the US because it has the potential to substantially improve lives and mitigate the damage sexually dysfunctional people cause and experience. Imo learning to be okay without any sex life is like learning to walk on a broken leg.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 04:21 PM
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Imo porn aimed at losers and romance novels are an A+ comparison. The quality of idiot that can get off to fucking his step sister whose hand is caught in the garbage disposal is the same quality of idiot who thinks some bookish uninteresting woman is about to get swept up by a ripped billionaire.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 11:11 PM
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Why did you just ask me for logistics on a hypothetical question?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 07:13 PM
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I’d prevent people with trauma from participating in the group with clean slates. More people than would care to self identify enter the market with warped expectations and wonder why their outcomes/reception is negative. Once you’ve address your issues, you’d reappear in the market like photos in the end of Back to the Future.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 05:56 PM
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One guy not being interested in talking to another person was enough to validate your preconceived ideas about the entire social matrix? It couldn’t be that the person you described as less attractive might be lacking self awareness and maybe made the other guy uncomfortable, right? This post has an odorous combination of 20% anecdote, 80% projection which is par for the course on here. What l find to be notable here is that op has found a way to de-personify a guy who did nothing in the exact w…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 01:50 PM
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🎵People try to put us down, just because we (don’t) get around🎵
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 07:05 PM
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I am actively working on being more attractive and putting myself in more social situations. From there all l can do is my best to meet women that l would be honestly interested in and formally apply to be their boyfriend. That’s the best I’ve got 🤷🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 05:46 PM
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I disagree completely that the cold approach is disappearing. I think men are hearing more women (regardless of their life goals) talk about how unwelcome invasive male behavior is and have internalized that to “women think that all male behavior is invasive.” In my experience, women have either been receptive to or at least decent about me approaching and trying to introduce myself respectfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 04:41 PM
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My end goal is a marriage to a woman I’m proud of myself for being with and that takes moving with intent. I care about romantic relationships before my career and friendships because l’m already set for career success and my friends bring me no drama and want me to find the right girl. I also have to care more about my relationship because finding a woman who has value for a relationship between two young people in 2021 is extremely rare. A marriage minded, spiritually whole woman is worth her …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 12:24 PM
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Both you and the women you look down have exercised their agency. You’ve come to the same conclusion about them as they have about you and there is really no substantive discussion to be had. The idea that you “can’t help but feel sorry” for adults who set out to live a life in accordance with their world view shows you really think they are stupid. I find it very striking that you define yourself in opposition to them specifically because y’all both chose self satisfaction over live and let liv…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 04:14 PM
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The want for a traditionally masculine/feminine partner and dating outcome still exists and anything less for these people is unacceptable. They clearly understand and work towards their traditional outcomes and talk about how important what they want is in their forums. My question is as a self actualized person who defines herself by her agency and the results of your decision making, why do you read the posts of people who define themselves in opposition to you? You have what you want by your…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 02:24 PM
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If monogamy is strictly enforced, no. In my life, a whole relationship has been defined by a physical, emotional, and social bond—a true 3 legged stool. In my experience one partner ignoring one of the 3 legs is what kills a relationship. Men are likely to ignore the emotional aspects of a relationship and call their relationship good. Women are likely to ignore the physical and call their relationship good. Both exemplify selfishness.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 05:50 PM
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I learned that regardless of how self righteous and high minded people brand themselves, they should only be defined by their behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 11:52 PM
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Brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 05:32 PM
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Both sides fail to understand the challenges they don't face personally. Some women don't feel dating is harder as men because they give the threat of physical violence from a stronger partner or the threat of pregnancy a difficulty multiplier. No one can empathize with threats they'll never confront.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 06:34 PM
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There would be an overwhelming increase of fake friendships. When you say romantic relationships are glorified, you flatly ignore how they're glorified often to the detriment of people who take idealized relationships at face value. If friendships are glorified the same way a romantic relationship is glorified on like a CW tv show the reality of having friends would be emptier in realistic context.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 10:28 PM
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The only way there could be a working solution would have to come from men. Every guy who is sexually active would have to altruistically give up any layups and only chase honest matches. If there was a hard ceiling on the marketplace for women, that would slightly increase the likelihood that a sexless guy would be chosen by a girl who would otherwise be a fwb for a guy with plenty of options.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 06:46 PM
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In my personal life, I've been shocked to see how willing my sexual partners have been to have unprotected sex with me. I think that's primarily due to confidence in their birth control. It's varied from "It's okay if we don't use a condom, you're clean right?" to a girl I was seeing consistently saying she'd prefer it if I came in her.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/21 09:55 PM
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This subreddit is changing. PPD has had a dramatic reduction in logicians from both ends of the gender spectrum and replaced them with people looking for a reaction. 10% of the time on this sub there are actual topics for expanding your understanding, the rest is gendered gotcha posts for people who only care that they're better than someone else. In my opinion the increasing conservative lean you're noting is coming from a new group that isn't sidebar redpill/rpw or incel but still hosts a leve…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 07:00 PM
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Develop an identity and a clear sense of self. Live a life in service to your own goals and ignore every inclination you have to change yourself for anyone else's approval. Be good with yourself even if you're not currently involved with some dream girl. Emphasize your own health and becoming well rounded in your own estimation. Grow and progress in your career without letting it become your priority.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 11:30 PM
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The women your same age enjoy a wider selection of people to be with. They either excersize or value their freedom than you. They don't want a relationship because they don't need you to be their person. I really am just at a loss because it seems whatever I try to do to make myself better for a relationship Stop right there. Make yourself better for a relationship? Not just in general? Gendered judgements aside, anyone who would trade their agency for someone else's approval is not relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:57 PM
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100% I just have experienced too many situations where a girl has said she doesn't do certain things only for her to be doing that thing with me a few hours later. It's been really bad for me mentally, but that's a me problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 08:00 PM
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OP is earning her own money and isn't working a sugar daddy or selling feet pics. She's got champagne taste and champagne money and that's a turn on for me personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:46 PM
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Absolutely, that much money comes with a commitment of time or energy and a tidal wave of emotion. Whether or not someone would want to date somebody with serious career focus and expensive tastes (male or female) is completely random.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:28 PM
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Your post is buzzing around a latent truth: men aren't a monolith. “can’t Have a career forever” [guy] This guy sounds like he would date you but would feel more secure if he was the breadwinner or was in a relationship with you in a more traditionally feminine role. ​ “why am I so ambitious?” [guy] This guy would date you but seems to have much lower expectations of himself then you appear to have for yourself ​ “money isn’t everything” [guy] This guy might be concerned about not making enough …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 08:08 PM
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Do you think having a battle axe of a mom might have made your brothers them better with women? Just playing devil's advocate here, but if the women are wonderful theory is accurate as presented by redpill types, wouldn't having no coddling primary female interactions make self interested behavior with women easier?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 11:04 PM
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Hoes mad (X24)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 10:11 PM
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Our failure to rectify the fact that we evolve socially 250,000 times faster than we do physically is the source of all of our problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 09:33 PM
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Deleted post title : "The high fertility rates of conservative, religious women and of imported misogynistic people from African and the Middle Eastern Cultures, with simultaneously low fertility rates among native feminists and liberals are a ticking time bomb and a vital threat to feminism"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 07:33 PM
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They are 0% in denial about their privilege. Failure to acknowledge you've gotten lucky does not equate to being in denial. Men also have advantages in dating that allows us to behave in ways that women can't that we don't care to acknowledge. Here's an example: I am a 24 year old male with a college degree in a landscape where 60% of college degrees awarded are awarded to women. If we presume that every woman with a college degree would prefer to date a man with a college degree, there are 2 me…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 04:18 PM
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You're not crazy, her post missuses the word as the crux for an argument that doesn't make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 04:49 PM
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What do men bring to relationships? Most of the so-called "male roles" are increasingly becoming obsolete because of technology and because of women's empowerment Truthfully, nothing. We evolved to need each other, to deal with adverse conditions in primitive environments and continue our species. Science and societal progress has evaporated most concerns that plagued our species for millennia in a time period from industrial revolution to now. In 2019 relationships are vestigial. The only thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 05:21 PM
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The point I'm making is that when only one partner in a marriage is working, the other partner is increasing the likelihood that they're a victim of financial abuse. As far as I understand (as an unmarried person) financial abuse is a great reason to get out of a marriage contract, but as "legally binding contract" a marriage license would do nothing to prevent it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 08:21 PM
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Hell no. Why would you choose to be dependent on someone whose support could change with their opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 06:40 PM
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Shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 02:58 PM
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I assume you mean psychological damage My favorite thing about the internet is the near infinite access to people who are pedantic and wrong. but what do you mean they never could have avoided The kind of people who get helicopter parented and sheltered. If you grow up in a house with no cable, no internet access, and old school parents, you're going to have a tough time dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 09:03 PM
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Fewer shit marriages, more single parent households. More varied interesting kinds of sex, less interpersonal connection. More agency and access for everyone in the dating market, paralysis by analysis for the girls and feast or famine for the men. My sex life is unmistakably better than it would have been in the 00's, 90's, 80's etc, I have friends who are legit decent people (if not herbavorish) dealing with the psychic damage from painful relationships they never could have avoided. We traded…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 07:40 PM
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I strongly wish I could disagree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 10:21 PM
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If every man believes that every woman is "on the CC", "getting consistently pumped and dumped by Chad", what impact does this have on the average girl who isn't doing either? There is no average girl whose behavior you can aggregate or predict. Are men, as a result of believing they're being made to "jump through hoops", deflating the value of average girls? If men feel that it costs undue time and attention to get the attention of a girl on social media, he feels like he's being priced out of …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 09:56 PM
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Sad is reserved for victims, she is a phony. She deserves the same quality of sympathy Vanilla Ice got in the 90’s after Suge Knight extorted him for playing gangsta.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 11:44 PM
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I love how her sexuality is supposed to be subversive and mature but she wilts like spinach when someone comments on her breasts. She is 2019 in a nutshell.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 09:16 PM
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Did I have the lobotomy before or right after the first girl and I started dating in this scenario?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/19 08:52 PM
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No, I wouldn't wait for her. From the context of this post, she's only chosen romantic interactions that have left her feeling less than. The "used" feeling she's dealing with comes from a pattern of behavior that will take time to change. It sounds like she wants to have a mature relationship after being burnt, without having matured. In my opinion you're not a different person the day you decide to make a change. To me, that would be like an incel thinking they're a different person after havi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/19 07:56 PM
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That’s as nonpartisan of an answer as you can possibly give but thanks anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 12:53 AM
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Honest question: If a guy knows you let some other guy smash night one and and doesn’t agree to your new twenty date terms, does that make him a jerk?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 12:33 AM
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Violence Sexual aggression. From personal experience, if I meet a woman for a date who doesn't know me from work or school, she's looking for a forward-dominant person 0 am black in Colorado. No, contemporary feminism is about how it's okay to be any kind of woman. I feel no pressure from expectations because, for the most part, my outcomes in the dating world have nothing to do with my planning or forethought and have often defied what I'd expected The conversations people have about finances a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/19 08:03 PM
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Mo big tiddy goth girls for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 03:49 PM
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If women can hit on us in our workplace, why shouldn't we be able to return the favor? HR departments are primarily staffed by normie white women who represent corporate interests over finding the truth of what happens in a work discrepancy. Any disagreement as to what's considered flirting, tie goes to the woman, especially in 2019. I don't wear a seat belt because I'm convinced I'm going to crash my car every-time I leave the house, I wear it because I might crash.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 09:48 PM
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To be fair, his understanding of lifting is par for the course on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/19 07:47 PM
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It's actually kind of sad to see him flounder like this. He's made a whole host of assumptions based on what he doesn't know he doesn't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/19 06:02 PM
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Who?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 11:57 PM
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Who cares lol. Whatever decent job it is she ain’t getting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 11:43 PM
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She has a premium Snapchat that costs 100$ that she’ll block you from if you screenshot. That’s porn or sex work or whatever you want to call it. She’ll never have a professional job after this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 11:29 PM
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Careers in porn are notable for their longevity and the positive effects on the lives of the girls who do it. She's smarter than girls that go to school, or start bands, or learn a trade. What I don't understand is why more girls don't do this kind of thing, it's not like there could be any possible consequences down the road.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 10:35 PM
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The muscle is the end of the lifting journey. What never gets addressed is the amount of anxiety you overcome getting started, improving your lifting technique over time, perseverance dealing with injury, tailoring your diet to make sure you don’t waste your workout, building self esteem by accomplishing goals. All those hours might make you look more attractive to some, but the benefit of the gym is that it’s potentially a place that can make you a more well rounded person.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 02:11 PM
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It's obvious that it's important to be attractive in a dating situation. What highschoolers, particularly men, fail to realize is that individual people weigh attractiveness differently when considering who they'll accept as a partner. Many fail to realize HOW important their looks are. The underlying point of this chadfishing thing is that you can get away with murder if you're good looking enough. I know the biggest problem I had when I was younger was worrying about what my prospects thought …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 10:40 PM
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Right? Where in life do we benefit from having a finite inflexible opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/19 10:37 PM
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When we're talking about 80% not getting enough exercise, I reckon whatever gets you there is better than nothing I hear you, but in my grander philosophy on life, having your efforts categorized as better than nothing is not something to aspire to. Also, for my standards, putting on "relationship weight" would be disrespectful to my partner. Finding someone worth spending your time with never made me want to get comfortable, but instead push harder. Like what if I could get her to respect my ef…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/19 10:07 PM
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The only way to progress in the gym is consistency, and everyone who finds themselves in the gym for someone else will surely quit. Who cares what women think about your workout or your gains? You're there for you and the attention your body gets is whipped cream on top. Men who truly have agency in the dating market get with women as a result of who they've made themselves, not because they tooled their lives to entice women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/19 09:34 PM
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I don't believe in "women." There's no larger female zeitgeist and I talk to every woman as a singular person. I think the halo effect is the other half of the coin of inter gender delusion that fuels men who unrealistically dislike women. To me both grouping women and assigning them characteristics and unrealistically under or overvaluing them is what defensive people substitute for experience with women altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/19 03:49 PM
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No, not at all, completely different context. You can improve dumb and boring, so you aren't stuck being dumb/boring. You can't fix ugly. Plastic surgery can make it appear you're better looking but you're still ugly on a genetic level and is potentially financially prohibitive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 09:32 PM
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Devil's Advocate: People who are excluded in a dating capacity because of their looks don't have the same ability to be discerning. Your original post defines you as a person who feels like she can find someone who fits multiple criteria, when the ugly have to worry about finding anyone regardless of who they are on the inside. You posting that you feel like you should be justified in being choosy in the dating market (and potentially excluding them) while being above judgement could definitely …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 09:16 PM
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If you can justify it, I'd suggest raising your standards from where they are. Relationships make everyone an annoying pain in the ass over time, so why not enjoy looking at what's giving you heartburn?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 08:30 PM
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I think your logic is consistent and reasonable. I don't envy or belittle women for making these kinds of decisions, because I do the exact same thing in an "everyone is a little bit racist" kind of way. That being said, if we grade your own preferences on like a 1-10 scale, a dude could get a 5 on the looks and a 10 on all other categories and still get turned down because your stated preferences weigh appearance/sexual attractiveness ahead of the others. By the same criteria stated in the post…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 07:56 PM
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I agree with homeboy said in the reply above but not with the tone. I think people call your preference shallow because it's exclusionary. I might have misinterpreted the original post, but it sounds like facial attractiveness is a barrier to entry, but you care about other stuff on top of that so that's why you're not shallow. Again, by my interpretation of your post, a guy could tick 3/4 boxes, but if he's not attractive enough, it's a no go. His looks don't seem to be a sticking point in in y…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 07:35 PM
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If your personal agency has more value to you than your relationship, you aren't made for a relationship. I think that's black and white. Like when people call off a relationship and go "I need to find myself," that means what I want/need at that time will probably violate what the other party wants in a relationship, but I'd rather have whatever I want than a relationship with you. All of the extra rhetoric about relationships is garnish. I think literally every "debate" on this sub can fit int…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 07:15 PM
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You're 100% percent aloud to discriminate against whoever in a sexual context for whatever reason. You can't negotiate sexual attraction so why even consider why people have a preference? As a black dude in the dating market, I don't have a problem with people not choosing me because the color of my skin. My actual problems come from well meaning liberal types who won't put a racial filter on the user side of Tinder so they can self select out of my pool and quit wasting my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 08:41 PM
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This reads like a blue pill fan fiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/19 03:07 PM
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14 years of a quasi relationship with this Vanessa equated to no ring from Johnny. 1 year of a relationship with Johnny netted Amber Heard a ring. Johnny chose Amber over Vanessa because one year of time with amber was worth way more to him than 14 years worth of mid 2000's Vanessa's time. I'd guess Johnny was having a mid life crisis, but had too much money to scratch his itch with just a sports car. Next best alternative? A 1/10,000,000 famous beautiful wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 07:48 PM
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The article you've dug up is pure shit. The Reward Foundation is " a key source of trustworthy information about the risks of watching too much pornography," not a public health research institute. It's not shocking that they'd scrounge up some studies (that aren't cited) to prove a point they were founded to prove. Also the patent for Sildenafil expired in December of 17 meaning that the expansion in the usage of Viagra comes from the growth of use of generic Viagra. That 14 to 35 number(again …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 08:19 PM
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I'm going to rebut your rebut. Captain Marvel Carol Danvers got her title as Captain Marvel in 2012. She was originally Ms.Marvel which was a female duplicate of Mar Vell (a male Kree general) created in the mid seventies to give Marvel Comics a better female representation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 07:37 PM
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No. I'd never belittle a woman for enjoying her beauty and sexuality through interpersonal relationships. Once money enters the equation, she becomes a pussy contractor--for all intents and purposes, a sexual object by choice. It would be impossible for me to feel secure knowing my LTR is on PornHub shaking it like a Polaroid. A girl from a high school down the road from me did amateur porn for a pretty notable company and instantly regretted it. I didn't know her but a friend told a friend who …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 07:26 PM
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The problem with this argument is the assumption that people become wise as they get older. Thoughtful people do. Driven people do. Connected people do. However we've all met people who regardless of gender who are behind socially, emotionally, or in terms of personal success. For people who never worked to get a foothold in life the passage of time erodes their natural gifts that temporarily make up for their lack of development. For people who have a coherent plan about the future, the passage…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 04:06 PM
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I think the expansion women's agency has decreased the value of marriage and the family. When people lived their whole lives in the states they were born in women had to chose from men in proximity regardless of behavior. Marriage provided some meager level of financial and legal protection giving a marriage cert a financial value higher than they could practically get their hands on. More proportionate representation in the workforce, and increased visibility on women's issues (especially young…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 10:26 PM
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I wouldn't date a girl with a premium snapchat.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 03:56 PM
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So I write a post to say I don't really care about stretch marks and that she should think about excersize more, and your response is to say I'm wrong because only some women get stretch marks?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/19 08:00 PM
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Stretch marks and sagging breasts are part of the territory when a woman gives birth so I'm not really a huge fan of the "mommy makeover." My problem with the before picture is that she's clearly not dealing with body fat beneath her stretchy skin that's definitely necessary during a pregnancy, not so much afterwards. You can deal with that without surgery if so inclined.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/19 07:42 PM
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It's like I temporarily put aside what other people are feeling so I can extract whatever short term gain from an interaction. To me selfishness is one step past doing good for yourself, and one step closer towards damaging someone else for personal gain.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 10:34 PM
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I think both genders are fucking terrible at romance. Plenty men are pathetic at relating to and seducing women which is the source of all this incel type stuff. There is no archetypal woman whose preferences can be applied to all women, so men stuck on a singular opinion of what would make a woman happy are often lost. That imo is where the line between creepy and dating behavior is both drawn and crossed. Women on the other hand are used to being courted. Dating is primarily about what a man c…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 09:49 PM
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I have a guilty conscience. I can't sleep well when I feel like I've been unfair or selfish beyond rational self interest. For me guilt is a representation of me objectively trying to minimize behavior from myself, I wouldn't appreciate in others. This has been a gift to me because, when I think my behavior and feel like I didn't overstep any boundaries, I can move on without the nagging feeling that I'm in the wrong. People who don't feel guilt are not lucky, because they will never understand …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 09:33 PM
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Read the story "The Tell-Tale Heart."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 07:44 PM
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Expectations change over time. I started out wanting to gauge where I stood on the dating market. My experience on Tinder cleared that up for me and now I have a clearer expectation about what I want in life. I still don't understand where your judgement holds value. Like when you say you were a part of the dating market, how old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 06:54 PM
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Why is your opinion important?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 06:37 PM
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All the girls I slept with were college educated and at least above 6s by my standards (whatever that's worth). Most of them were 15-20 pounds overweight though because if you want a girl who keeps in shape you have to pay a heavy premium. Women who aren't on Tinder love to paint everyone on there as trash and that's crap tbh. I think the biggest problem is a combination of timing and what I bring to the table. A: Is the girl in a head space where she's settled enough in who she is to want to wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 05:29 PM
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Last year was my first year really online dating. I went on about 15 dates off of Tinder, slept with 7 and feel pretty meh about the whole experience. Real life approaching yielded worse results but better openings with girls I would be more likely want a relationship with. I really got no traction on the relationship front with my cold approaches other than more hooking up. Cold approaches are tough offline because everyone's standards for when it's appropriate to ask someone out vary dramatica…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 04:49 PM
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Problems with Redpill: I find it to be a men's group without any group emotional support, laissez faire mods who let legit racist stuff in the comments fly because if they de-platformed any edgelords from the reddit there would be little to no active red pill, too much pseudo science, too many 18 year olds with literally no life experience allowed to post. Problems with Bluepill: Bluepill is an aggregator for all bad behavior across the man-o-sphere which they then use to bludgeon everyone who i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 09:48 PM
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Any success I've ever had in the dating market has come from accomplishing things that have nothing to do with women. Graduating college and consistency in the gym were all about self improvement. That gave me a level of self worth, confidence, and capital to make ground on the things that are important to me. Doing what has made me happy has given me a different energy and a natural confidence that I don't have to fake. I've had women clearly express interest in me without having to peacock bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 03:36 PM
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Absolutely more red. I'm not ecstatic but it's the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/19 03:20 AM
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4.) no seriously, become super hot. It's a trusted negotiating tool if casual pussy is off the table (and you're not interested in religious men). This is literally the only useful advice for OP. If you have high standards for your guy, and you want to make a worthwhile guy wait, the only way you can prevent him from feeling like he's missing out is being a grade A smoke show.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 09:21 PM
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The answer is simple: you aren't worth what you're asking for. There is nothing to debate here, better yourself and become a prospect that a woman wouldn't want to say no to. They clearly don't need you. You sound so god damned entitled it's clear how women would want to avoid relating to you for more than a night. You're literally a man getting pumped and dumped and complaining about it. I don’t wanna hate women so I’m taking a year off from dating to work on my career. Waaah they won't give me…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 09:28 PM
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That's true. What really rubs me the wrong way is how mom gets to skate by. Her actions left him suicidal, 4 million dollars and 20 million years in the hole. Who are the kids mad at? Dad. This reminds me of that joke about how dad spends all his time making his kid into a super athlete and the first thing he says on tv is "Hi Mom."
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 07:46 PM
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Men's skin ages better than women. Holding all extra factors constant, men age in terms of facial appearance better than women. Men have thicker skin with more collagen than women to begin with, which decreases at a consistent rate over time. Women not only start with a disadvantage in the collagen department, but it only gets worse after menopause. Low effort post. https://link.springer.com/article/10.2165/00128071-200304060-00001 http://www.dermalinstitute.com/us/library/17_article_Is_a_Man_s_…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 07:20 PM
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He did all the leg work of raising the kids which entitles him to be dad. He was defrauded by a woman who lied consistently which might give him legal standing to get his money back. He, if anyone, is the kind of person who deserves to have his cake and eat it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 06:53 PM
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Interactions with everyday women make men jaded and at a much faster rate than red pill. Like dramatically faster. Also where did you get your opinion of the mindset of single guys? I can only speak for myself through the lens of my experience, so I'm absolutely fascinated to hear where your understanding of the male perspective came from.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/18 04:26 PM
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If you aren't already using condoms, start. Maintain your own condoms and before you use one check it for punctures. You can do it by trying to move the air bubble naturally in a condom from one side of the other. If there is ANY indication of a hole, ditch it. Also, consider talking to her about how she's feeling. That might be easier than being paranoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 04:21 PM
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So in this context, why wouldn't she go find someone who would be a better fit sexually?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 11:39 PM
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To me, it begs questions about the difference between guy the previous guy and me. Like lets say anal is off the table for me but the ex became accustomed to it. What was it that kept you from saying no to him that I'm lacking? I totally believe in a woman's right to take things off the menu, and I also believe in a man's right to not agree to hang around in that circumstance.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 10:44 PM
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Slavish devotion to brand names "I'm bad at texting back." Lying about being independent while spending other peoples money Having an attention span too short for movies Having a bad relationship with their family Lack of self awareness Listening to pop country music Being a social conservative Trying to substitute all the places you've traveled and the stuff you own for having a personality Owning a pickup truck without needing to haul anything ​
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 09:49 PM
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I think it's possible, but the man in the friendship has to have his own autonomy as a dating prospect. I think it's too easy for a guy who is struggling in the market to try and make a hookup out of someone who only has space for them in their life as a friend. In my experience, that has been the number one problem. If she enjoys things you do as well and isn't interested in playing games, I don't see why male/female friendships shouldn't happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/18 04:56 PM
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Men absolutely shouldn't wait. Waiting around and not trying to improve his own value is how men end up in situations where they feel like listening to that type of shitty advice, minimizing their own agency. You only are worth what you have the leverage to negotiate, so build your leverage. It's neither rocket science, nor controversial for any color pill. She doesn't want you, move on and make something of yourself you can offer to a woman with substance.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/18 06:56 PM
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Moisturize, my guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 10:09 PM
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4.) Talk to other people at the party because its a damn party. I'm not really an insecure person and some chick who drags me to a party to ditch me and get railed by randos isn't really someone worth my time or attention. I would strike up a conversation with people who look interesting and try and get my hands on someone else's weed. If she was enjoying talking to new people, why should I insert myself only to come off like a clinger? Plus I'm a big nerdy black dude, so if she was really inter…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 09:52 PM
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I'm positive that the dating market is filled with shameless dudes just looking to get themselves off so the numbers posted by op don't shock me. What I find to be the most interesting about the sources op posted is that 38% of women wont orgasm when they're masturbating solo. If 73% of women leave sexual encounters unsatisfied, it's conceivable that around half of that population of unsatisfied women could be dealing with personal sexual difficulties regardless of who they meet in the sack. Num…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 10:36 PM
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Your demonstrated understanding of economics and market factors makes me think this is more your speed. http://www.abs.gov.au/websitedbs/a3121120.nsf/home/statistical+language+-+correlation+and+causation
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/18 10:34 PM
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Okay pedant, who cares what the number is, the method to get the number is the real problem. Whether you believe women are exaggerating their economic woes, or you feel there's legit discrimination in the economy, this study, and every one like it is, evidence for nothing. Most of the contention around the wage gap conversation comes from people using this crap for evidence of anything. Look everyone I can conduct a big ass survey and take an average! Take me seriously!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/18 09:56 PM
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The interpretation and contextual understanding of what this study is about is key. If we take a global average of all of the salaries men and women make, women definitely make less. That's a reasonable place to have a conversation about access to education and encouraging women to take all different sorts of jobs. If however, you take the "women make $.79 to a man's dollar" argument to mean female neurosurgeons make 79% of what a male neurosurgeon makes, this study doesn't support that. This qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/18 08:56 PM
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