healthyelegant Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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10	How can I encourage my husband to dress better/have better hygiene? This seems like it would be a huge issue in the bedroom with UTI’s galore. I have no advice other than maybe ask his mom? I usually hate asking my MiL advice, but if this wasn’t an issue with him living with them, she had to have some influence.	/r/RedPillWives	31/07/22 11:02 PM
3	Embracing Your Truth Loudly I don’t find it necessary to be loud about it. I live the way I want and it brings me happiness. I don’t need others approval to dress up how I want or stay home with my babies. If people see you are happy and you don’t give a damn about what other people think, then it might influence them, it might not. It’s not up to you to worry about them. Just focus on what makes you feel happy and confident.	/r/RedPillWives	04/05/22 03:25 PM
1	Do you personally think we should all avoid bleaching as much as possible, especially for us dark haired ladies? Is the color change ever worth the damage? My hair is naturally a very dark brown color. Anytime I’ve attempted blonde in the past, even just highlights my hair becomes straw like and the blonde comes out so yellow even when using toner over and over. I’ve come to the realization that I just can’t bleach my hair after many expensive attempts. I’ve also tried multiple hairdressers, but no luck. I’m resigned to being a dark haired beauty. Now I do an all over black brown color to cover up the few grays that show up. I don’t think it should…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/06/21 05:33 PM
7	Which current beauty/makeup/hair/fashion trends do you love and hate and why? I personally hate the new hair trend that people dye chunks of blonde at the front of their hair. Looks skunky to me!	/r/RedPillWomen	08/06/21 05:27 PM
3	I am about to move in with my bf and I am nervous This is exactly what I did with my husband when we moved in together. Granted we were only 22 at the time, but I said if we move in together, I expect a proposal within the next two years. He waited 18 months and we got married 1.75 years after that.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/05/21 04:13 PM
3	What makes you unfriend a Guy on FB? (Personnal story) I believe Facebook is kind of “out” right now and will eventually die off. I personally unfriended half of my friends a few years ago because I didn’t care for those people to know about the tiny bit of life I do share on that platform. I barely knew them in real life anyway. Any men I may have had a “thing” with are certainly not my friends on Facebook any longer. It comes down to privacy for me. I’m also married, so I think it comes down to relationship status as well. If I were still single, …	/r/RedPillWomen	17/05/21 07:37 PM
2	Listening to music while homemaking I love listening to podcasts and audiobooks if that’s your thing!	/r/RedPillWomen	21/04/21 07:51 PM
6	Husbans Presence at Birth My husband is the only want I want at the birth of our children, but I have never once been worried about how he would handle it. I think men should see us birth their children so they understand that even if it's traumatic for them, it's also traumatic for the mother. We've only gone through labor and delivery once so far and even though we didn't have a live child, it brought us closer than ever before. He truly understands that it's a magical, but definitely primal experience.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/04/21 08:32 PM
2	How do you style your hair? I use Verb ghost oil right now and it’s super light and I don’t get greasy from it at all, even applying to top of head. I did use argan oil before I started the Verb product, but I did find I had to be extra careful not to get it on my roots or it would get super greasy. I’m definitely a greasy haired girl, so my whole routine is structured around keeping my roots as clean as possible, but also making sure my strands are hydrated enough.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/03/21 03:25 PM
4	How do you style your hair? I use a 1” wand and wrap random sections of my hair with the wand pointed downward. I also make the curls face away from my face. I find that tourmaline wands work really well for my hair. I have naturally straight hair, but with tourmaline I don’t even have to use hairspray if I don’t want to. It holds the curls very well.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/03/21 08:19 PM
8	How do you style your hair? I barely style my hair really as far as everyday life goes. Mine is long and the hairstyle I have is very low maintenance and can look good by itself. Face framing and long layers. I just blow dry it after washing. I mainly use products to help keep the health of my hair. Lots of oils for shine and heat protectant. On very rare occasions I’ll do loose waves, but I’m trying to grow it decently long and keep it healthy.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/03/21 05:51 PM
3	Where did you find your partner? I met my husband when we were 14 during CCD class, he was from a nearby school. We saw each other once a week during the school years, but barely ever spoke to each other. We connected again the day we graduated high school when he was crashing my best friends graduation party with some kids from his school. We were both 18 and have been together for 10 years now, married almost 3. In high school, I was desperate for a boyfriend, but none of the guys that were interested in me were good guys. Th…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/03/21 03:34 PM
2	What did your family teach you about gender roles and relationships with men? Mother had me out of wedlock, Biological Father in and out of the picture, Step dad showed up when I turned one. My mother is not a good role model when it comes to dating, relationships, and marriage. She always dated the weirdos until my she met my step dad, who is dad to me. She told me to "Flaunt what I got" when I was a teen, because she was obese and wanted to live vicariously through me, even though I wouldn't tell her anything I did anyway. I made some bad decisions due to that advice, b…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/03/21 02:57 PM
4	In this holiday season, a reminder to RECEIVE RECEIVE RECEIVE (+ mini field report) I’m glad you posted this as it’s very hard for me to receive gifts from my husband. The only issue is, he usually doesn’t try very hard. When I know he tried hard to find me a gift, even if it isn’t the best, I truly show my appreciation. He really hates giving gifts though because he hates putting in the effort, hates spending money, and doesn’t think I actually need anything. He’s more of an acts of service/physical touch guy. I was definitely a receiving gifts love language when we met, but a…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/12/20 05:19 PM
21	How to make him feel special? Since it's a honeymoon birthday, I definitely would get a cute little lingerie outfit, but "bridal" themed. My husband's love language is acts of service, quality time and physical touch, so I just make a point to have a good time together on the day of his birthday and make sure he comes home to a clean house. I usually get him a gift, but he doesn't really care for gifts. Sometimes I'll make him a cake too, but he's also not a sweets person, but the thought counts!	/r/RedPillWomen	01/12/20 09:28 PM
1	Do you shave your face? I do! My facial hair is very dark and skin is light, so it’s very noticeable when I have any hair there. I use an eyebrow razor and wish I would have started sooner! Been doing it for about 2 years now and hair has never come back thicker or darker. It also makes my skin much smoother, so all my facial products absorb better and my foundation looks more smooth.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/11/20 01:46 AM
5	Which is worse in your view? Remaining a spinster or marrying a man you're really not attracted to? Oh I agree on that as well. Bad vibes are honestly something women should always listen to. Intuition is real. I guess I also assumed they would be making an effort to also be healthy. If anyone is heavily overweight and not making an effort to at least make healthier choices in diet and exercise, then that’s not attractive to me. Male or female. My husband helped me realize this when we started dating very young. He didn’t care to much that my body wasn’t model perfect, but he expected me to ta…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/11/20 07:12 PM
9	Which is worse in your view? Remaining a spinster or marrying a man you're really not attracted to? Agree! If he's not attractive because he's a dud at all other aspects in life, then I would totally choose to be a spinster. I honestly think it would be hard to not be attracted to someone who who has all the other characteristics of the relationship that you would want and need. The effort they make creates the attraction, even if they aren't the best looking.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/11/20 02:54 PM
2	My favorite color is green— how do I embrace this in the way I dress without looking masculine? Purple is also my most-suited color, how do I combine these without looking like Barney or “off”? Dark green is my color! I barely buy any other colors other than gray, beige and black. You absolutely can be feminine looking with these colors. Think dark aesthetics. I have light skin and black brown hair. Get some cute skirts and sweater dresses that are in dark neutral colors. I live in yoga pants and cute sweaters at home, but when going out I wear black tights and cute sweater dresses. Assuming you live in a colder climate though! It's already very cold here in the Midwest.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/11/20 11:39 PM
2	Anyone else grinning and bearing through a career while hoping to be a homemaker one day TW Loss: This is me 100%. I have no interest in work, but I have to keep face until we have a baby. The sad part is I was so damn close. I was supposed to be done in January 2021, but we unfortunately lost our son who was born at 21 weeks just 6 weeks ago. I just started back up at work this week and it's so upsetting. I begged my husband to just let me quit, but mentally I'm able to work and I have nothing else to do, so I'm just going to keep pegging on and hope we conceive our rainbow soon.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/10/20 07:35 PM
7	What’re you girls doing for Halloween? We just bought a house this year, so I’m hoping to get some trick or treaters! We’ll be hanging out on the porch and probably have a bucket of candy that the kids can grab from! I’m pregnant this year, so I want to get some type of cute shirt that showcases my bump and Halloween.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/09/20 04:28 PM
-1	Ms. Midwest I agree, but the mainstream does not, so she will be dealing with all that for a while!	/r/RedPillWomen	02/07/20 07:30 PM
20	Ms. Midwest Yeah she's also completely disappeared from social media since the protests started. She says it was due to something personal, but it's been awhile now and she hasn't made a peep on it at all. Her husband being a cop puts her in na strange situation, but a lot of people are very mad at her for not addressing it at all. I do wonder if maybe she was going through a family loss or a miscarriage or something, but who knows!	/r/RedPillWomen	02/07/20 05:36 PM
23	What’s your frequency of sex? Wow, reading all of your answers makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong, but before I became pregnant I would say maybe once or twice every two weeks? Obviously we had to do it more to conceive, but that was our standard. I wouldn't say we are low sex drive people, but we've been together for 9 years and we are both each other's firsts. We are both 27.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/07/20 03:42 AM
5	What are you working towards? Well my goal was to concieve and after some surgery, we finally did! With covid, my new goal is keep this baby alive and not get covid. I'm up for a pretty boring year after this! I've barely left my house because of it!	/r/RedPillWomen	10/06/20 02:17 AM
19	I Took Paid Time Off Today... I completely get what you mean! I’ve had this set date that I get to finally quit my job and stay at home and that date is when I become a mom. It took a long time for us to get pregnant, but I finally am and that date is officially set for this January, if this little bub sticks! I'm not afraid of the hard work of being a sahm, in fact I can't wait for it, because this mind numbing office job I have isn't hard enough. Good luck on your journey! I hope you get there one day!	/r/RedPillWomen	04/06/20 12:35 AM
6	What are the ways to NOT get pregnant besides abstinence? Apart from birth control you can get from a doctor, if you don't want to use medications or hormones, you can use the fertility awareness method or FAM, you basically learn about your body and cycles and prevent pregnancy by not having unprotected intercourse during your fertile week. You can Google it for more information and there are a bunch of podcasts that discuss how to use it properly. It's much more work than just taking a pill every day, but if birth control isn't available to you, it's…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/05/20 03:43 PM
2	My husband doesn’t like his job. I wonder if maybe he would feel better in a non managerial position? My DH works in software engineering and enjoys what he does immensely. He has basically two career tracks to go down and one offers managerial opportunities. He says he would hate that though since it would be more working with the people than actual developing software, so he's going the other way. It may seem like a step down for your husband, but if it will make him happier, it's some food for thought! I can definitely relat…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/05/20 04:26 PM
1	Should you quit your job to have kids I do think it's important to bond with your newborn, and I think your boyfriend is wrong in thinking it's so black and white, but I think you have two different ways of viewing how you want your future to go. If you want to be a sahm, you need to have a SO that supports that decision. Seems like you are on two different paths.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/05/20 03:20 PM
4	Advice on maintaining a long term relationship from a young age It's definitely not inevitable as long as you both have the same goals in life. I met my husband at 18 and we've been dating ever since, we are now 27 and have been married for 1.5 years. We wouldn't have worked at all if we didn't have the same end goal. Our goals were to finish college, then get engaged, then save for a nice big wedding for all of our family, then buy a house, then get pregnant. We've done all of that, but it wouldn't have been possible if we both didn't want this outcome. It …	/r/RedPillWomen	18/05/20 02:35 PM
1	How to deal with "daddy issues"? Wow that's beautiful! That teacher sounds amazing! This is something everyone should do! At least to establish a relationship and then to remain close during adulthood.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/05/20 08:21 PM
4	How to deal with "daddy issues"? I was in the process of cleaning up my act when we met and I was unknowingly already practicing red pill women values. And yes there were some issues in the beginning from just learning who we were at 18 and learning how we both work. It takes some compromise, but we got lucky and we both wanted the same thing eventually, so it worked out! His father is kind of the same, so he understood and we have plans to not be that way with our future children.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/05/20 07:51 PM
7	How to deal with "daddy issues"? Wow, are you me!? I grew up in a similar household. My mom was the breadwinner, paid all the bills. My dad worked hard in construction, but he was always so passive. My mom would complain about him all the time and I hated it so much and vowed to never be that way with my future husband. Luckily I was able to find him right after high school, but due to my "daddy" issues, I definitely made some mistakes in high school. I was promiscuous and loved to "flaunt what I had" as recommended to me by my…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/05/20 05:33 PM
1	About to turn 27, and I've realized the truth about "The Wall" I use a good amount of micellar water and a cotton round to remove it at the end of the day, then I use my regular cleanser. I'm sorry, I don't know of anything natural you can use. When going the natural route, my skin breaks out and scars so badly. Acids and moisturizers are my go to.	/r/RedPillWomen	24/04/20 11:52 AM
3	How to build mature wardrobe I'm kinda of in the same boat. 27 and I used to shop at American Eagle and Hollister. I'm trying to find capsule wardrobe things right now, but also trying to build it a little bit more femininely. I'm a neutral girl, so I don't normally buy many colorful things. I've been shopping on Lulu's looking for neutral skirts and dresses. I also buy dark wash jeans once I go through a pair, usually American Eagle or Target. I go through jeans often due to work, so I don't mind buying cheapish jeans. I t…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/04/20 03:17 PM
9	Ladies, have you told your SOs that you that you read RPW/consume this media?How, why or why not? My husband knows I view this subreddit, but he doesn't personally believe in following this philosophy, even though we have been following it for years unknowingly. He doesn't like to put labels on things. When I do the strategies advised on this sub, I don't point it out to my husband, but I do smile to myself knowing I'm making our relationship stronger because of it.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/04/20 07:58 PM
3	How to deal with loneliness and shame from being single? Yes OP, please explain more. From your explanation it sounds like he just said he wanted to travel a little bit before getting married? That sounds like he was open to getting married, but he might have just wanted a little bit of a breather after college to find his bearings. Was it your intention to marry him immediately after college? Weddings are so expensive and if you have a large wedding, it can take years to save for it.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/04/20 09:38 PM
4	About to turn 27, and I've realized the truth about "The Wall" Yes, if you want to go that route as well, go for it! I personally couldn't because I am trying to conceive! Once I'm done having kids I'm going to town on the retinoids!	/r/RedPillWomen	16/04/20 05:49 PM
6	About to turn 27, and I've realized the truth about "The Wall" I scoured the skin care addiction sub and attempted to create my own routine based off of my skin type. I embraced the use of acids on my skin, when previously I had been trying to fix it by going "all natural". Don't buy into the all natural thing. It made me scar so badly because my skin wasn't healing correctly. I looked like I did drugs, it was so bad. It was frustrating too because I had a very strict beauty routine, but nothing was helping. Eventually, I caved and got a Curology subscripti…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/04/20 05:46 PM
21	About to turn 27, and I've realized the truth about "The Wall" I only discovered Red Pill last year, but I found I had been living it my whole adult life pretty much. I can't stress enough how important a good skin care routine is. I think all women should start as soon as possible, but I started sunscreen at 25, now 27 and my skin is glowing! I fixed my hormonal acne and I'm a sunscreen fanatic like you. I tell everyone I know to wear sunscreen everyday, but no one listens. They still go outside and tan. Luckily my husband is starting to catch on, but he's…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/04/20 02:14 PM
5	How do I support my man in his life choices, which his mother doesn't appreciate? My husband is a software engineer for a Fortune 500 company and he was able to get that amazing job about a year after he graduated. He's doing very well, but the reason he was able to get in so early, was because he had experience at an internship, which then turned into a full time job once he got his bachelor's. I asked him at the time if he was going to get his master's and he said it's not necessary in computer science. It's actually overkill and pretty much a waste of time and money. Exper…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/04/20 04:11 PM
2	Cut my hair? Are you talking about Stuart? That is hilarious!	/r/RedPillWomen	08/04/20 02:36 AM
7	Covid-19 and RPWs I'm an absolute mess right now. I got laid off indefinitely from my job and I'm terrified of the economic impact this will have on everything. I'm lucky that my husband is a software engineer and makes enough to support both of us, but we are in the process of buying a house right now and it will take a decent chunk of our savings. I always planned to be a SAHM, but we don't have kids yet. This is all happening much sooner than we anticipated. The unknown is making me so anxious.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/03/20 09:33 PM
11	Self Improvement: Quarantine Edition Unfortunately, I just got laid off due to all of this, so I'm planning on using the time I'm searching for jobs to become a better homemaker. I have plans to bake some bread and cookies next week (we are out of bread at our grocery store - poor hubby had to use rye bread for his daily PB&J's this week). We are also moving soon to our first home, so I'll be packing up the house like crazy while he works from home. I'll also be taking our dog for long walks and attempting to finish the scarf I've …	/r/RedPillWomen	18/03/20 03:08 PM
46	Receiving compliments with grace One thing I've learned about taking compliments, is to accept them. Don't tell them some excuse as to why you don't believe it. Just thank them for it and continue the conversation. I used to reject compliments which people hated and then I used to take the compliments and then compliment them in return, but then realized that came off as very in-genuine because I would just look for something to compliment them on after they complimented me. Sometimes if they compliment some type of clothing I …	/r/RedPillWomen	10/03/20 06:52 PM
3	Degree or not degree I would think that unless you plan on working for life in the business field and want to be a competitive candidate for future promotions, you really don't need a masters. You can make plenty of money in business with just a BBA. I'm in the same boat as you, but my husband is in computer science, so he didn't need his masters either. Once we have a child, I will be a homemaker/sahm for awhile. Your logic makes sense. Why spend thousands on an education that you won't use that much? I would just …	/r/RedPillWomen	05/03/20 03:52 PM
–	What's for dinner? Hubby is out of town for a few days, so he asked me to do his meal prep for him. Normally we meal prep together, but make separate dishes on Sundays. He's currently "bulking", so I'm planning on making him a nice hearty tater tot hotdish for his lunches and some lemon chicken with rice for dinner. (can you tell I'm from the midwest?). This week I made chicken breast with snack foods like cucumbers, carrots, and strawberries for lunch. I also made taco meat for dinner with all the fixings.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/02/20 04:19 PM
0	Do I compromise? Or put my foot down? Holidays - my husband isn't into the whole "holiday" thing. I love it and still feel like it's very magical from when I was a kid. I do all of the decorating and decide on all the decor, because one - he doesn't care and two - he doesn't want to help because he doesn't care. I suggest you try to start making your own holiday traditions with your boyfriend, but also know he may not be as into it with you. Bake some cookies together, but maybe do the decorating yourself. I know it's frustrating, b…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/02/20 03:58 PM
12	Thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend so I can date someone else. but he drinks and smokes weed/cigarettes constantly and sometimes mentions how "hot" other women he knows are. He can't drive because he has gotten a DUI. I don't even need to read further. Dump this guy and go for the other one. If it doesn't work out with the new guy, vet better on the next one. Your current boyfriend is not your captain.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/20 08:14 PM
3	Conditions for young marriages? My husband and I started dating at 18, but we decided not to even think about engagement until we were done with our education at 22. We both only received our bachelor's though. We didn't plan to go to grad school. Things probably would have been different had we decided on grad school. We both wanted to settle down with jobs and not continue our education. We got engaged at 23/24 and married at 25. We both were stable in full time jobs when we got engaged. My parents were expecting it, but my …	/r/RedPillWomen	31/01/20 03:30 PM
1	Tips for Wearing Dresses for a Curvier Woman Please don't dye your hair. Many woman strive for that jet black hair - including me. I dye my hair black, but I naturally have dark brown hair. I also have olive toned skin and I think my skin and dyed hair go so well together. I'm also curvy at 5'4" and I recommend dresses that accentuate your waist. You can also buy some midi skirts that go up to your waist and include some cute booties or sandals depending on the weather. I dress pretty girly in the summer, but where I live the cold is bruta…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/01/20 04:38 PM
2	We are buying a house! Yes! Our budget is between 300-400K, but believe it or not, most of the houses in that category are in terrible shape around here, or they just don't work for a growing family. Most are split levels with only 2 bedrooms on the upper level and maybe a basement bedroom. That doesn't work for having at least 2-3 kids lol. This is only our first home, but we want to find a forever home without breaking the bank. I plan to stay at home for a few years while we have little ones, so we want to be able …	/r/RedPillWomen	29/01/20 03:44 PM
4	We are buying a house! Congrats! That house sounds like my dream! We are currently looking for a house with some land, but we live so close to a big city it's really hard to find and the cost of living is much higher because of the big city! Good luck on your house buying adventure!	/r/RedPillWomen	29/01/20 03:26 PM
26	Do not fall for the lie of having fun now and settling later while you in your twenties or be involved in meaningless relationships. This is all so true. I could have fallen into the trap of "exploring my possibilities" and the pressure from society to do it really did get to me. Hell, even my mother encouraged me to sleep with men before committing to them so I can make sure we were compatible sexually. While her reasoning made sense at the time, this made me a little more promiscuous than I should have been when I was a teen. I never lost my virginity, but I had a bad reputation in high school for making some stupid drunken…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/01/20 03:14 PM
12	My husband and I are going to start trying to have a baby All of this, and start taking prenatals. Folic Acid/Folate is vitally important in developing healthy eggs and a developing baby.	/r/RedPillWomen	28/01/20 04:01 PM
3	Managing finances together vs separately My husband and I didn't merge money until we were officially married, but when we lived together for the 3 years prior to that, we split bills based on our income distribution. I made significantly less than him, so we split the rent and bills based on that. He payed more in rent and bills, but it was taking the same amount distribution wise from each of our incomes.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/01/20 03:50 PM
2	What is your skincare routine like? Interesting! I didn't know there was a difference! I'll still be staying away from both though for awhile.	/r/RedPillWomen	24/01/20 02:22 AM
1	What is your skincare routine like? Yes definitely! I'm TTC, and I found out about retinol just before trying, so once I'm done having kids, I definitely want to add it to my routine, but that's probably 5-7 years away - hopefully!	/r/RedPillWomen	23/01/20 05:01 PM
1	What is your skincare routine like? I find the simpler, the better, be consistent, and always use SPF during the day and moisturize at night. You can use acids or retinols if you want to clear up acne or help prevent aging, but don't use retinol if you are planning to become pregnant in the near future, since it can cause birth defects. You don't have to spend a lot of money to have nice skin, you just have to find what works for you. The subreddit skincareaddiction is a great place to help you figure out what works for your skin …	/r/RedPillWomen	23/01/20 04:58 PM
3	What advice would you give to a teen girl? I second the shaving bit! I was so so hairy in high school! Even my face was hairy and I had terrible sideburns! For a while I would use one of those creams to basically burn it off, but now I buy those cheap face razors and just touch up my face every few days. I'm still just as hairy, but you can't even tell because I shave everything off, literally everything! I also wished I would have appreciated my youth more in high school and practiced more self improvement and tried to be more social. I…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/01/20 04:06 PM
6	Which transformative experience, if any, was it that made you join RPW? what was your redpill? I was the same way, obsessed with Victorian Era and even Laura Ingalls Wilder. I've always been old-fashioned and my mother was very big on me doing the "traditional" way in all areas of my life. She didn't do it the "right" way in her eyes, so she wanted it for me. I grew up with enough problems in my family that I understood I didn't want to live that way when I was an adult.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/01/20 05:19 PM
7	I got banned from r/breakingmom seconds later after posting in this sub! I got this a few months ago as well! I was a lurker there for awhile, but ultimately left because it was making me not want kids and feel like my husband was going to be a terrible father. I had not been in the sub for about 6 months and I just made a comment on this sub and I got the message. I was honestly shocked.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/01/20 08:48 PM
6	We're eloping next week! Congratulations! I second the new dress and flowers! Those were the only two things I was excited about for my own wedding - which was way bigger than I wanted it to be. My husband insisted on inviting everyone though. I still get compliments from that day on my greenery and flowers, but getting a cute bouquet for the day will make it even more special - and you can save it for a memento. I also splurged on a photographer, but only for my husband and I. I will cherish the photos we had taken tha…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/12/19 03:24 PM
3	Hiding my redpilling from my captain? My husband doesn't make fun of me, but he does think I take the whole RPW thing a little to the extreme. I'm more conservative than him by a long shot. I don't plan to push red pill on him, but I try to implement it into my daily life as best as I can. We always were in a red pill relationship, we just didn't have the official name for it. I would just implement what you can and watch it transform your life. You SO will see that and may ask questions, which you can then elaborate on. My husband …	/r/RedPillWomen	26/11/19 09:52 PM
1	How to stop buying things? I have the same problems as you! What really helped are the below things: Read or Listen to the Magic Art of Tidying Up if you haven't already! Then if you find you really like it, maybe start delving into minimalism a little bit. I haven't gone full minimalist, but every time I think about buying something now, I really think about if I actually need it or if I'm just bored and wanting to spend money.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/11/19 03:40 PM
15	Being looked down on because you are a well kept feminine woman, anyone ever been there? It must just be a thing in the midwest to act less feminine! I felt this way in high school too! Everyone made fun of you if you showed up dressed up or wore anything different than the normal tshirt or hoodie with jeans. I was one of the first girls to get skinny jeans when they came out and got a lot of flack for it! Low and behold two years later they are all wearing them because flair jeans went out of style.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/11/19 03:24 AM
1	I can't function unless I get more control over the furniture in my home. Ugh I feel you on the mattress on the floor front! It took me 6 years to finally convince hubby to buy an actual bed frame. He kept saying, but when we buy a house it's just another thing we'll have to move! I don't care! I want a nice inviting house, not a frat house!	/r/RedPillWomen	30/10/19 04:46 PM
21	Homemaking on a Budget Amazon has a decorating style quiz that you and your partner can both take and it will help you both determine your decorating styles. I thought hubby and I were completely different, but we do have similar styles in some aspects! I hope that helps! https://www.amazon.com/stylequiz/ For cooking, our tastes differ greatly, so we meal prep every Sunday and cook our own meals for the week. This is what works for us right now! When we have kids and I stay at home, this might change, but I prefer bla…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/10/19 08:10 PM
16	I had always followed rpw philosophy but didn't know it had a name until today I stumbled upon this sub a few months ago as well! While I didn't follow this philosophy in my teenage years, once I met my boyfriend at 18 and now husband, he had such a traditional way of living his life, I embraced it and never realized it was basically a red pill relationship! My husband doesn't like to put a label on it and has heard of the red pill for men, so it kind of scares him, but I like having some guidelines and validation for being the way I am!	/r/RedPillWomen	14/10/19 10:05 PM
4	Let's talk about nails! I go for the classic oval shape since it slims my hands! I used to do square, but the kept breaking on me during housework too.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/10/19 01:43 PM
2	My boyfriend wants to move across the country, but I’m not ready for that. Everyone else has made some good points in their comments, but I would also just suggest to you that you continue living where you are. Finish out your semester and let your boyfriend move back home. You may have to do long distance for a little while, but if you aren't ready to leave home, he should understand that. Just as you should understand that he wants to be close to his family as well. If you have no interest in living near where his family is, you might want to tell him that too. He ma…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/10/19 03:48 PM
1	I can't seem to bring myself to do anything for my SO when he doesn't do the little things for me. First off, you are awesome for acknowledging that you know your love language. I would highly recommend you find out what your boyfriend's love language is because that is definitely part of the problem with how you are feeling. My husband is also like this and we had the same troubles that you currently having at your age. I felt like since my friends had boyfriends who did little things, it meant that my husband should too. That is not the case at all. No matter if the "little gift" I get is $…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/10/19 07:14 PM
2	Engagement Ring Shopping Show him what you like. Hubby and I went browsing one day and I tried on a few and determined the ring size, carot size, band width and prong style I liked. He then used that information to buy what was in his price range at a different time. We never discussed pricing, but I made sure he knew what my style was.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/19 04:58 PM
4	I'm afraid that I will end up loveless and alone and i'm probably right I went through a similar situation as you at 15 and I made a ton of mistakes with a couple guys after that. I eventually did meet my future husband at 18 after I graduated high school and let me tell you that your whole world changes after you graduate high school and you become so much wiser. I still think about my first love and I pined after him for years, but nothing compares to the love I have now with my husband. What I wish I had done at 15 was not focus so much on finding love, but culti…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/09/19 07:47 PM
1	How did you meet your boyfriend/husband? We technically met in 8th grade at our weekly church class. We started talking/flirting on the night of my high school graduation/the day after his graduation at a friends grad party. He showed interest first because I was thinking I would be single that summer and just have fun. He messaged me on Facebook the next day and the rest is history. Together 7 years and married almost 1 year now.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/09/19 02:33 PM
10	What's the one thing you disagree regarding TRPW theory? I agree that screening before getting married by living together is a good option for some people. I chose to live with my now husband after being together for 4 years. We knew within 6 months of dating each other that we would marry, but we were very young and going to college, so we discussed waiting until after we both graduated to move in together and get engaged. Once we moved in with each other, I made it clear to him that we needed to be engaged within the next 1.5 years. So he was able t…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/09/19 02:45 PM
30	Gender Euphoria Having a vanity to do my skincare, makeup, and hair routine makes me feel so feminine. I just get to sit, relax, and take my time with it.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/08/19 05:58 PM
2	[Discussion] Feminism & RedPillWomen I do believe there are different variations of what feminism is, but like the other commenter said - it is tarnished because of the current extremists in the group. There will always be extremists in groups, but due to media today, they are more well known. For this reason, I do not identify as a feminist. But you are correct in your thinking that we make our own choices. We have just taken "The Red Pill" and see society as how it is, not how politically correct it should be. We use this knowled…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/08/19 09:10 PM
6	Friend is being judgemental of my relationship I don't think saying I love you 6 weeks in is too fast. I was 18 and dating my bf (now husband) for only 6 weeks when he said I love you. We both entered into the relationship with the goal of finding a spouse and also talked a lot about our values and life goals. We actually have a very similar relationship to what you described of yourself. Some women think you need to "live a little" before you settle down and obviously your friend is one of those people, but you have different values than he…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/08/19 04:13 PM
2	Help with really embarrassing problem (NSFW) I'm 26, but I've always had wetness problems, except when I'm fertile/not on birth control. My main problem is not drinking enough water, but I also usually dry up after 10-15 min anyway. No shame in using lube!	/r/RedPillWomen	31/07/19 04:37 PM
3	Meal ideas to bring to boyfriend’s place? My husband and I meal prep every Sunday to cover Monday-Friday and here are some meal prep ideas we love: Tater Tot Hotdish Steak or Chicken Fajitas with Rice Pot Roast Pulled pork or beef sandwiches Honestly, I bet if you just google or search reddit for some meal prep ideas, you could find an abundance of them. It may not always taste as great reheated, but the extra time you or your boyfriend get during the week is well worth it.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/07/19 09:27 PM