heatbender Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Sad conversation Thanks for your info. I too have been living/gathering this type of information thru my process...	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/24 08:28 AM
5	What did you gain through divorce? Wow, Im living almost the same things. Im starting seeing as a blessing after all the stress and depression.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/12/23 05:17 AM
4	I still miss her... Very true, thats also my aproach after 1.5 years of separation. I could still miss her sometimes but that person I miss does not exist anymore. The Person that still carries her name and body is not the same person you spent those years married. And its very unlikely a relationship with this new person would work because this new person is someone you know you cant trust anymore after the cheating. This applies to all the men she meets now after they find out she is a cheater, most of them wont …	/r/Divorce_Men	16/11/23 03:21 AM
1	What we all knew already Very similiar story here. But what about the script we need to start following as divorsed men? I really dont think MGTOW is the solution but nowadays in some countries you need to pat alimony just for being in a relationship for several years, or if you cohabitate. Is the solution to just date always new women until we die so we dont get screwed?	/r/Divorce_Men	21/08/23 03:21 AM
15	Let's be honest here. No macho answers, and no judgement. In reality, how many guys here would be happy to get validation from your ex that the divorce was not your fault? Congnitive dissonance was my answer, and what gave me some rest. It's a metal conflict in the majority of women that makes them act or speak against the truth or beliefs. They can even die before they accept they were wrong, because as soon as they realize they are to blame, they go deeper finding an other way to prove they were right, no matter how dumb is the new invented reason. Is like the girl that endures an abusive relationship because she doesn't want to accept that she was wrong picking…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/07/23 04:47 PM
3	Let's be honest here. No macho answers, and no judgement. In reality, how many guys here would be happy to get validation from your ex that the divorce was not your fault? Happened to me as well. She changes versions every 6 months.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/07/23 04:05 PM
1	becoming a ladies man-post divorce You are so right and I learned it the hard way. I was "the nice guy" with the first ladies I met and it didnt go well, I wasnt even able to get a hug sometimes, and it felt akward for them and for me. I listened to their lifes and issues, offered comprehension, tried to sheer them up, telled everything about me (for them to know my good intentions) and it always killed the mood. And it hitted me twice because I dicovered later they did find me attractive and cool. The thing is, when you end a ma…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/02/23 05:54 PM
5	Anyone elses ex or stbxw really hot? I also struggled with that, but I found a phrase of a womanizer who helped me understand better (think as someone like Sean Connery or Chalie Sheen). This guy was presented with a very beautiful lady, a 10+ who wanted to know him after a concert. The staff that let her in asked him "so what do you think about her!?". He responded "believe it or not, for that hot lady with perfect curves and beautiful face there is already a guy that is sick of her and wants nothing to do with her". Meaning that …	/r/Divorce_Men	20/01/23 12:23 PM
2	A man’s guide to life after divorce. yes, im Interested	/r/Divorce_Men	09/10/22 03:33 AM