heatherfly Archive

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3	How does one get over shyness and uncertainty ? Firstly, if you're unable to change your behavior, that means your thoughts are getting in the way, so you have to change your thoughts. How do you do this? It's hard. Meditation and heavy introspection can help. Why do you feel frightened to talk to a girl? Try and hash it out logically with yourself. Secondly, you can just skip your thoughts entirely. Try and remember a time where you stopped thinking. This is easiest in events that require a lot of concentration, like for me when I am riding …	/r/seduction	09/12/12 06:23 AM
-2	Is it fair to assume that a 'movie night' is something more if there's been sexual tension for a long while? It's never fair to assume.	/r/seduction	19/11/12 06:23 PM
19	Looks Don't Matter Yep. Saw the title of this post and came to ask WHAT PLANET DO YOU LIVE ON AND WHEN CAN I CATCH A SHUTTLE THERE? Then I realized what subreddit I was in and that this really only refers to men. I can't tell you how much I wish I had been born a man when it comes to dating. Having a personality is peanuts compared to trying to be beautiful. /uglygirlrant	/r/seduction	16/11/12 03:17 AM
14	Any tips for being dominant in a group conversation? Most people don't pay any attention to their tone of voice, which is a HUGE indicator of how you feel about what you're saying. If you interject with something while thinking, "Oh geez, they're going to see how bad my conversational skills are and not listen to me" then that will translate into your tone and others will think "If he feels weird about what he's saying, then it's probably weird and I'd rather listen to John say something funny again instead." Group conversations as opposed to one-…	/r/seduction	29/09/12 09:41 PM
1	Strategy with Shy Girls Haha no you're not dumb, you're right. The way I deal with relationships is pretty messed up and hypocritical due in part to my trust issues. Also, I blame my mother for teaching me an absolutely terrible negative inner-dialogue. I could go on and on about my personal bullshit, but I could write a whole encyclopedia series on my "problems" so I'll spare you the details. Believe me, I know better than anyone that all of my issues are my own. How to deal with them is a different matter. :/	/r/seduction	29/09/12 02:47 AM
0	Strategy with Shy Girls You're welcome. Also, nice guys finish last is a myth. ;) Honestly most of the nice guys I know are already in relationships. However, guys who pretend to be nice to get into my pants will definitely finish last. Most girls can tell.	/r/seduction	16/09/12 01:07 PM
33	Strategy with Shy Girls As a girl who is exactly like what OP has described, this is it exactly. I don't trust people to treat me well, so instead of risk being treated poorly I will keep them out of that decision and keep my distance. A lot of times I'll be attracted to a guy, but if I feel like he couldn't let me down easily I would never ever try. Even if I think he would, I still fear rejection like anyone else. I can't speak for everyone, but I think most of my shyness comes from having a mother who was extremely …	/r/seduction	16/09/12 03:06 AM
72	[FR] Girl Sunning in Park, Lying on Her Stomach Wow.	/r/seduction	08/06/12 08:01 PM
3	Started breaking out of my shell slowly, kind of creeping people out. Not sure what to do in this situation. Any advice? While I agree that probably a lot of it is in your head, this is just a fact of life you have to deal with. Some people aren't going to want to talk to you. Hell, some people might have worse social anxiety than you. Step 1: Get used to failure, rejection, and the occasional weird moment. Try to laugh at yourself and accept that that one instance does not define you. People are always going to surprise you, because the truth is that nobody really knows what they're doing either. Humans are highl…	/r/seduction	05/06/12 03:04 PM
10	Low energy vs high energy This has to do with comfort versus tension. Building comfort is about making a girl feel safe around you. Talking to everyone, smiling kindly and being charming will do that. Tension is about making a girl feel "unsafe" around you in a sexual way. It makes your attraction to her directly palpable. To do that you would use heavy eye contact, pauses, smirking, etc. Ideal game should be a mix of the two. If you use too much tension, girls who are at first turned off by you will see that you want to…	/r/seduction	23/05/12 06:48 PM
1	I seriously need some insight as a female. Somebody else managed to find it: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SBOtj1RmaUE&feature=related	/r/seduction	16/05/12 05:50 PM
1	I seriously need some insight as a female. Yep, that's the one! Thanks!	/r/seduction	16/05/12 05:49 PM
36	I seriously need some insight as a female. When you see a guy that you like, look at him strongly. Angle your body towards him if you can. When he eventually meets your eye, give a slow smile. You'll know when you've been looking long enough because most guys will start to get an expression on their face as if they're thinking "Wait, does that mean what I think it means..." Sometimes you'll have to repeat the staring/smiling a few times, and if a guy is too scared you might just have to approach him yourself (gasp!!). When you're not loo…	/r/seduction	16/05/12 05:29 AM
3	Club Dance Whatever you do, just put yourself into it 100%. Girls aren't expecting every guy to be Justin Timberlake. The ability/confidence to dance just for your own enjoyment and laugh at yourself if you suck is attractive. I used to know a guy who was a bit funny looking and danced like an idiot, but he was so confident girls were all over him.	/r/seduction	14/05/12 03:29 AM
7	The best advice I've ever read on how to stay, "alpha." You're not wrong, but just fyi the Tao Te Ching is a Taoist text... Buddhism is a separate thing. Correct me if I'm wrong, but Taoism is indigenous to China and Buddhism is indigenous to India. Many of their philosophies are similar though.	/r/seduction	14/05/12 03:07 AM