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Goddamn I hope "Ingrid De La O" (his now ex-wfie) got some $ from the divorce. First to have to explain to your friends and family that you are dating/engaged/married to the hideous dude that wrote "the game"... 🤮 then that he cheated on you and you forgave him... 🤮🤮🤮 What are women thinking when they give these low-lifes a chance?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 05:29 AM
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Ugh what a creepy move. I agree that he has a shitty personality but I wouldn't say he's a "horrible looking manlet". I think he's kinda cute. Not at her level though (looks, success, height lmao).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 08:17 PM
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It’s interesting to hear LVM reveal the reason they “picked” their wife. They always believe themselves to be gods gift to womenkind so they will have a reason. From 2 LVM in my life: She paid for half on the first date and explained how because they earn an equal salary they should always split everything equally. She opened the car door for me. Both of these LVM are now divorced from these marriages (from their own cheating and selfish behaviors). Take note, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 06:03 AM
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lmaoooo "cummulation" if that were true women would be like the most awful dudes on the planet. lmao if only!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:54 PM
15

As a woman who wants to start traveling solo, I wish there was a place where women could talk realistically about the risks. As I've been researching I've found the same bs as you. I want the inside scoop of what is actually possible/reasonable to do in different countries as a solo woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:45 PM
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sorry for repeating it. It's super fucked up, especially since white women were monsters to black slaves. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 05:44 AM
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wtf? this has to be a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 05:10 AM
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Everything you said would have me running for the hills. Seriously. OP sounds like she is in serious denial about this dude's character. A cursory glance at her post history reveals this to be true: "Husband got a dog we didn't agree on, and it's not going so well." "Having a spouse with depression can be really emotionally challenging.... but worth every second." Sorry OP but come on. I'm really tired of this sub promoting depressing pickme behavior under the guise of FDS empowerment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:07 PM
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WHAT THE FUCK. Hahhahshahsss 😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:42 PM
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They can’t do it cuz it’s “gay”. Their sexuality is based on domination. My pleasure, your pain. You please me. If they’re the ones trying to please, that makes them a “bitch”. Plus, they can’t handle the emotional vulnerability of empathizing with a woman so as to derive pleasure from her pleasure. The only men I’ve dated who were okay in bed got around the “gay” issue by turning my pleasure into an imaginary contest with other men. (Ironically far more gay but isn’t that the always way with me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:50 AM
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I saw this on the front page of reddit. Front page is always filled with Pickme garbage. This is literally so pathetic and embarrassing and doesn’t make no goddamn sense. She’s rewarding him like a child for something he should already be doing. She’s gonna look back at this and cringe so hard. (And wish she still had that 5k tucked away.) Meanwhile front page of reddit is like, “Sigh. Unzips.” Or whatever the fuck I can’t format it correctly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:30 AM
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🚨 🚨 Pickme Patrol 🚨 🚨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:22 AM
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Yeah idk why everyone is agreeing with OP. I’ve definitely been bullied by conventionally attractive tall men, always ones I was friends with (and crushing on cringe) who wanted to make extra sure that I knew they didn’t find me attractive. A few digs at me directly but mostly a lot of tearing down of other women, even or especially pretty women. Which made me feel even more shitty because I knew the women they were criticizing were even prettier than me. They did it amongst each other a lot. I’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:22 PM
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He’ll be an over protective psycho dad because he has always viewed women as a hole to fuck “for free if you have half a brain”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:05 PM
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It’s his half a brain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:02 PM
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Imagine how you would ideally feel in your ideal relationship. Really feel into that sense. Is it the sense of being a provider? Planning dates and making sure everything is taken care of? Or is it being taken care of by your man? Knowing that he is planning dates for you and making sure everything is taken care of? Some combination thereof? Our personalities are formed by our traumas and unique initial circumstances. Everyone has personality traits that started off as coping mechanisms, like be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 08:36 AM
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Seriously. Better than “looking for the one” proceeds to furiously bond with and plate as many women as possible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 08:09 AM
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This is horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 08:05 AM
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That, and also, “He must like me a lot if he wants to hang out with me so much, like three times a week, and we have so much fun together. He’ll recognize that I’m his gf soon enough since that’s already our relationship.” It sounds like this was a wake up call for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 07:28 AM
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Yup ppl can rationalize anything to make themselves feel like they’re doing nothing wrong. “I never deemed you with the title girlfriend therefore I get to treat you like shit in every way imaginable“ is a common rationalization for men and one I’ve been hit with. Fun fun times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 07:18 AM
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I really don’t understand why a vasectomy isn’t the norm for men convicted of rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 04:03 AM
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100% a triggered dude wrote this and dressed it up in fancy Wikipedia language to make his inceltears sound legit. Women giving each other advice to stay safe physically, psychologically, and emotionally? OPPRESSING WOMEN! It doesn’t make any damn sense. Also if anyone spent 2 seconds on this sub they’d realize we’re not pushing “sexual conservativism” due to traditional/religious/patriarchy reasons but because we were all duped into thinking having sex on the first date is “empowering” and then…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 01:22 AM
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This is so depressing. “I’ll pay for my bf to cheat on me! Sure I have never and will never have an orgasm in this relationship because he has never considered my feelings or needs in any capacity, but at least I have my special Nigel to snore next to me and bring to family functions!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:58 AM
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It’s truly conspiracy level shit how libfems defend men’s right to sex - “casual” or paid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:35 AM
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Seriously, if only men were like dogs: loving, loyal, protective, empathetic, affectionate... sigh...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:51 PM
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Send nudes. Agree to be a “secret fwb”. Sext in self degrading manner. Always split the bill or pick up the tab.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:17 AM
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Ikr? I recently had dinner with a gorgeous friend of mine who is a pilates instructor with an amazing personality and her husband who is at least 300lbs. Maybe 350. Like I’m all for body positivity but at a certain point it’s too far. And then when I realize I wouldn’t fuck 99.99% of men I meet, never mind worship their smegma-encrusted dick/have their children/clean up their messes forever, the weather forecast is looking pretty single. It is depressing but at least we have each other. hug Edit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 12:04 PM
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Lmao yes wtf. Cue pickme’s with the “idc if he’s 5’2” with a micropenis, every day is steak and bj’s day for my captain~!” with 5k upvotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:30 AM
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I commented. I hope she stays safe. Dude sounds like a real psycho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:26 AM
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Lmao that excuse is hilarious. If he were actually too stupid to know how to delete an app, OP would be committing a major crime by sleeping with the mentally disabled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:47 AM
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r/tinder is a toxic dumpsterfire. Dudes patting each other on the back for their “hilarious” (sexual) pick up lines and pickme’s trying to score scrote points by sharing their “hilarious” (sexual) profiles (or even pick up lines... oh god why!!). Just looked at that thread. “She sounds like a blast” “no humor in that one” “dodged a bullet” are the top voted comments. This is why you don’t explain. Just block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:33 AM
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“Woke” fuckbois in the 60’s and 70’s turned women’s liberation into women’s sexual liberation. True feminists who don’t give a fuck about men have been slandered since the beginning. Since women were just beginning to undo a millennia of pickme propaganda, man-made “feminism” was an easy trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:17 AM
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I feel like it has to be a troll but then some parts of it seem genuine like the “tacos de whatever”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:13 AM
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Ugh. Yet 1.4k upvotes for “YTA”. Male entitlement knows no bounds. And so many pickme’s agreeing. Women need to learn to stay on code and defend our own like men do. No wonder women can’t gain a foothold in power when our ranks are constantly defecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 05:54 AM
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“ My father has never once laid a hand on my mother” I hate that this is where the bar is that it even needs to be said. But I’m glad you had an empathetic dad. I’ve met way too many guys exactly like the one you mentioned who call themselves feminists but are secretly a hair away from being a menace to society. Often in teaching roles/positions of authority with vulnerable people. Ugh. I think the biggest percentage of “male feminists” just want to be ”good boys” which includes being a feminist…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:23 PM
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“I wAnT a PhYsIcAl rElAtIoNsHiP!” No shit, Sherlock.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:25 AM
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You really be out here sis, doin ya do. Respect ✊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:58 AM
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You good boo. Sometimes these subs are kinda harsh on our vices. Life is hard. Forgive yourself and pick up where you left off. 💘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:55 AM
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Ugh this be tru tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:06 AM
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The LVM narc who broke my ♥️ and I would make out for hours, sweet and passionate and intimate. Gazing and caressing. Telling me he loved me. But nope, couldn’t be his gf. Fucking psychos. Later he told me we were “just hanging out”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:07 AM
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The overuse of emojis makes it even more terrifying. ☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:57 AM
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Chris rock is a LVM and is describing (and excusing) LVM. This is not true of HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:49 AM
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The only philosophy for women until feminism came along was Pickme-ism in western civilization. I forget who said it but one feminist writer said something like, “the hardest part of feminism was convincing women they are oppressed.” This is very non-PC and I apologize if I offend anybody but Andrea dworkin called women the “ultimate house n***ers”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:43 AM
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I think it’s impossible for men who believe they’re “good guys” to realize their horrible behavior. Men who are actually “good guys” are very aware of all the ways men abuse women and can articulate them. Men who like to believe they are “good guys” call themselves feminists but completely miss the mark of what feminism is about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:19 AM
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Feel lucky you were exposed to some socialization to have standards. Some women come from abusive backgrounds, and the overall culture destroys female self esteem as well. They are victims. They are not psychopaths, but they are psychologically damaged and need therapy to become healthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:40 PM
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He is a deadbeat if he’s posting this on social media. How embarrassing and disrespectful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:33 PM
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Better to be alone than with someone who uses you as a transaction. I’ll probably be single for life but at least my energy won’t by drained by a soul-sucking vampire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:17 PM
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I could never have sex with a man after laying out his clothes for him, or anything else on her list. Reminding him to shower? Disgusting. I am not attracted to children. Men talk about “chore play” to get their lady in the mood, aka expecting sex for performing the bare minimum of life. Just act like a responsible adult and don’t force me to be your mother. If you want sex, take care of yourself (physical/emotional), be attentive to me, take me on dates. Seduce me. That’s what it takes, not thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:05 PM
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Ah yes, the not so rare hobosexual. You can’t control your sister, just hope she wakes up and then you can be there for her. She will certainly need recovery and support after this. Pickme-itis can be a lifelong disease but more often than not women grow out of it. Stay strong in your sisterhood!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:56 PM
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Kinda tru doe... 😏 I mean I can be attracted to men who aren’t models but damn if I don’t appreciate a fine specimen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:08 PM
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Matthew Hussey is a total scam artist preying on a vulnerable population like every other male youtube “relationship guru”. I cringe so hard seeing them patronizingly lecture to a sea of “lonely women”. Their advice is always pickme 101. Also you know they’re full of shit because they clickbait every title with some variation of “how to make him fall in love with you” and then are like “haha just kidding you’ve gotta focus on yourself first” common sense bullshit. I’ve listened to a lot of their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:59 PM
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This is interesting. Trigger warning up ahead for rape. I’ve heard the argument that “sex work is work” and all jobs are exploitative, so it’s just our “fake moral Puritan code” that makes us “judge” sex work. I’ve also heard it compared to the very dangerous and health damaging jobs that men are pushed into like coal mining. Um, yeah. Men with options don’t want to be a coal miner. But most educated men don’t have to turn to these jobs to survive, where as even educated women are encouraged to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:45 PM
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A decade ago? Wtf! We are never safe. I’ve dated some guys that turned out to be abusive creeps too, hope they don’t come back for me. 🥶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:15 PM
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Beauty pageants aren’t going anywhere anytime soon. In the meantime we can support the new male beauty pageant, Mr Global: https://www.google.com/amp/s/metro.co.uk/2019/09/29/stunning-photos-show-mens-beauty-pageant-contestants-decked-out-in-national-dress-10827685/amp/ As a side note, nowadays whenever I’m thinking about being pretty/beautiful, I imagine I’m a guy and replace it with being handsome. It makes it hilariously (depressingly) obvious how much dumb conditioning I’ve absorbed about th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:55 PM
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On one superficial level you know he’s “treating her better“, but you do NOT know what is going on underneath the surface. If one were to make an educated guess, what’s going on under the surface is the exact same bullshit you went thru in a slightly different disguise. People don’t develop the ability to have a mutual, loving, respectful, reciprocal, empathetic connection overnight. At most they can create an incremental increase in their self awareness and ability to be vulnerable, IF they rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:37 AM
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“Scrotation”! Amazing! Go you. I’m about to turn 30 and spent my teens and 20’s terrified of “the wall” thanks to the internet and being surrounded by misogynistic men and pickme women (including my family). 🙄 This sub is LITERALLY the first time I’ve heard people say older women are attractive. And it’s TRUE! Ugh. To HVM, women gain value with time. Attractive older women are attractive for the same reason attractive older men are: they are developed in many areas of life and have a lot to offe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:32 AM
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Sure! It’s kinda a moot point since I already completed deleted my profile (didn’t even deactivate lol), but it was about how spirituality is important to me, the kind of stuff I do for a creative outlet (before I was being a pickme by sharing wayyyy too much detail about projects I was actively working on. I changed it to be a general summary of my interest), how I am looking for love and a deep connection, and quotes by my favorite feminist authors. 👑 Definitely giving some material for manipu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:00 AM
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Ugh. ALL the things you mentioned, it’s like they’re operating out of the same playbook. They are sick people. It’s not good to care at all about how he treats other people, but if you must, think about how subtly he fucked with your mind. I know in a despairing headspace it’s easy to think he’s treating this other woman soooo much better. But how do you really know? If he is treating her better, the mask can’t last forever. He needs triangulation to keep the upper hand. He might have used you (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:34 AM
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Misogynistic men are like “rape/kill them!!!” Whereas misandrist women are like “Avoid them!!!” 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:00 PM
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Fucking creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:54 PM
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Sofia the first!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:52 PM
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They don’t acknowledge it and they don’t care. Secretly they prefer it to be that way because it feeds their fantasy. But then they trot out the “it’s consensual!!! they’re getting paid!!” defense to make themselves feel better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:39 PM
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“Ha-penis”. 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 10:32 AM
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I know it sucks but you’ve got babies that love you. I know it’s hard to raise them on your own. When I was a kid, my dad left my mom for a younger woman with whom he was having an affair. I love my mom soooooooooo much. My dad will never get that love from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 10:30 AM
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Trust your feelings. He was subtle in his ability to make you feel unworthy. He did in through actions rather than words: you were a plate to him. I’m guessing he never went out of his way to make you feel WORTHY, you know, like real friends and partners do. His emotional distance is his “strength”, as it allows him to not care about the people around him, but it is also his greatest weakness. He won’t know love unless he finds his heart. I still think about my narcissistic ex-“fwb” (I thought w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:19 AM
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He sounds like a narcissist. They are good at getting people to become obsessed with them. I don’t know how they do it. They lack empathy. Their “confidence” is fake, an exaggerated front covering an empty shell. There are plenty of fit, attractive, confident men who don’t “play the field” and commit only to one person, honestly and without playing games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:50 AM
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I’ve stopped trying to communicate with men. They will never understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:18 PM
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Wow, I didn’t know that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:16 PM
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Chilling! That quote sent a shiver up me spine! Why tf are they like this? To be so intimate with someone say in and day out, yet to regard them as more or less a replaceable stranger? Fucking creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:07 AM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:57 AM
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I’m baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:36 AM
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an absolute unit of a Pickmeisha (tm) with advanced Cockhold Syndrome lmao 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 09:03 AM
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My group is women and gay dudes. We all hold space for each other, never interrupt, make sure we all feel heard/understood/listened to. We all know how to express our emotions without blame and apologize when we've hurt each other's feelings and change our behavior. In my experience, a lot of gay men are as empathetic and emotionally intelligent as women. Which makes me think testosterone isn't the problem. Some of my gay friends are very straight-passing- they work out and are hella buff and se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:14 AM
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I disagree. They feed on attention, positive or negative. Plus, if he's throwing shit like this out there then this is his territory. OP is probably a nice person who doesn't go out of her way to shit on people. By firing back, OP opens the gate to another angry retort, and now he's in his zone. He feels even more justified and motivated to tear a woman down, which is his favorite activity and all he thinks about. I say avoid the toxicity. Dudes like this will never let it go and need to have th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:31 AM
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If you value the ability to up and move easily, then buying property can be more of a hassle. There are other kinds of investments. It sounds like $40,000 is the dividends she can live off of without denting her inheritance. Sounds like a good plan to me. She should have a good financial advisor, and a good counselor who will help her dump this dude. Thank god she already had the wherewithal to doubt his entitlement and not just go along with his plan. I haven't found the original post but knowi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:13 AM
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I hate that gorgeous Simone Biles has had to deal with one OUNCE of negativity around her looks, let alone the massive piles of shit she gets about it online and I’m sure IRL too (tho probably more subtly). She is so beautiful in every way and an inspiration to so many girls including me. Just because she doesn’t perfectly match the “thin, white” standard people DARE call her ugly. NO ONE has put in the kind of effort into their body as she has. She is literally the epitome of power and grace. P…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 09:52 PM
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lmao holy shit they're so cute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:00 AM
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Yes. They deserve to be excluded for their bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:13 AM
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Don’t show your hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:50 AM
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Also I really hate the term “ripping a new one”. So violent and sexual, which inherently demeans women and normalizes sexual violence. So much of our language is gendered in a sexist way “that sucks” “fuck you”. I’m guilty of saying these things too but I hate that our strongest language to express hatred is rooted in sexual domination/rape. 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:41 AM
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I agree. If he went for a hug and she turned it into a handshake, that’s establishing a boundary, which requires power. The fact that OP was even hemming and hawing about whether hugging him was a mistake shows major insecurity and people pleasing tendencies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:04 PM
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Wow. That article does explain a lot. OLD has turned (below) average dudes who were never that successful with women into players, because they can meet women so much more easily. And it seems like women on OLD are desperate af for a relationship because of all the players on it. And then they sleep with them right away due to urgency to connect, which rewards low commitment. It’s a feedback loop! Also creepy how he said he wonders if he can fall in love again, given all his options and mini-rel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:40 PM
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Sorry I’m in my twenties and this is my experience too. I’ve given up on online dating- every man I met on there treated me like an object. I tried speed dating, same thing. All men want to do is talk about themselves in front of you and fuck you as a conquest. Rationally I’ve given up hope in finding romantic love but emotionally I still long for it. Wishing you luck in finding your bliss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:04 AM
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ugh all the downvotes for sanity and upvoats for pickmehell. no wonder I used to be so lost. that was when I was still on reddit when the only women's sub was 2X which was the same. it was only creating subs that BANNED men from posting that the fresh air of sanity swept thru reddit and into my mind. FEMALE SISTERHOOD AND SOLIDARITY!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:30 AM
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You mean like reddit? *orange envelope* drools *upvote/downvote* I expressed my opinion! my opinion matters! *comment* it's almost like having a real conversation! *read comment* I learned something new! the dopamine drip from reddit is real and the hardest one for me to disentangle with. which is why I'm on here right now instead of starting my laundry. send help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:24 AM
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thank you for writing this. you are a good writer and have a clear head. please don't write off all therapy even though some modalists/practitioners aren't for you. when you've had an upbringing that has led you to the kind of ordeal you just went through, those patterns don't disappear overnight. you are becoming more aware which is the first step. it is possible that you will need to go thru several more rounds of these ordeals in order to fully understand the maladaptive, unconscious patterns…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:20 AM
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men being responsible for 99.99% of global violence (90% of violent crime and 99.99% of war and police crime), women ruling the world is the only solution to world peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 07:24 AM
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I'm proud of you too! Do you struggle with various compulsive behaviors? Emotionally distant parents can create a wound that becomes necessary to fill by other means, aka addiction. For example, by being addicted to people aka being codependent, or being addicted to food, drugs, internet, sex or alcohol. I have had therapeutic experiences with marijuana, but I think it's helpfulness is limited. I've had more healing with mushrooms and dmt/ayahuasca. I'm looking into doing iboga which is the trea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 06:25 AM
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This dude sucks. I'm the same way, I got obsessed with a dude who was emotionally distant from me. It's like a jedi mind trick. You likely had emotionally distant (also called emotionally neglectful) parents. Someone who didn't have this trauma wouldn't give this guy a second thought, because they would rationally understand that he can't provide for their needs. For people who had emotionally unavailable parents, it re-opens the wound of deep loneliness and abandonment. The pain is so huge beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:46 PM
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narcissists who lack empathy no physical attraction/chemistry stingy not extremely into me/noncommittal pushy/manipulative racist/sexist lack of mutual interests
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:33 PM
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First of all, I'm sorry you got ghosted by someone you were into! That sucks. I like to define high value as the value that someone brings to YOUR life. It's like attractiveness, sure there are "objective" ideas about who is attractive, but at the end of the day we all have individual preferences. So many guys are obsessed with rating women (on looks of course). I am super turned off when I learn a guy does this and thinks it's ok. Maybe the guy you were dating felt a similar way, it's awkward t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:24 PM
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Wtffff. We really need a thymeria or whatever that woman only island was called.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:43 PM
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r/tinder subreddit is full of this pickme bullshit "humor".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:01 AM
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Let’s not forget narcissistic abuse. Probably from her dad first (or maybe mom) so manipulative “love“ is the only thing she knows. And now she’s addicted to this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:18 PM
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Yes girl build your harem. This is an excellent situation to be in. You’re basically on your own version of the bachelorette. Very important not to have sex too soon, because that really complicates the situation. Just entertain all the men’s interest who you are also interested in. Don’t tell them you’re dating other people but also don’t lie about it if asked. Let them court and compete for you. If/when they find out about each other, it will add so much fuel to their fire to want to be the wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:27 AM
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Lmaooooo the STATE of the world when men are in bars so women will buy them drinks. I know you’re hurting honey and I’m sorry. Don’t blame yourself, the fact that you feel things is normal when we’ve let someone into our hearts. But oh my god I HOWLED when I read he wanted her to buy him a drink. These dudes really are reading out of some loser playbook. Also if your friend falls for that shit she’s a pickme fool and a bad friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:46 AM
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What does it mean for a sub Reddit to be quarantined?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:04 PM
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nothing good can happen at a frat party. the core site of the development of male entitlement without consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:06 AM
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That study was so fucking stupid because it showed that women preferred men their own age. But the sexist CEO slapped it with a “50 is the most desirable age for men” headline, even though that was nowhere in the study. Let me guess... he’s 50. But I guess the headline of “most men of all ages want 18-year-olds and women want men their own age“ was too boring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:27 PM
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This reminds me of a story. I remember when my mom visited me at my first place not in a dorm in college. It was a shared house. She commented on how the toilet bowl wasn’t being scrubbed clean. I was SOOO embarrassed. I truly didn’t think to do it because it had never been my responsibility to do it. Ever since then, I am an avid toilet bowl scrubber. So grateful to my mom. Your story really shows his lack of respect for his mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 04:26 AM
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this is cute and I love the message but also r/thathappened
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:14 AM
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Sorry I'm on a feminist rampage. The anger wasn't meant to be directed at you. I'm really sorry for what you went thru. Hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:24 PM
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No shit. That’s their whole purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:28 PM
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I used to feel the same way for a loooong time, since puberty. It wasn’t until I was almost 30 that I started to achieve attractiveness in which I noticed guys being attracted to me. Often women don’t hit their physical peak until 30’s or 40’s, cuz honestly it is a mindfuck to achieve that if you didn’t hit the genetic lottery. But my self esteem was still shot from all the rejection, which led to getting used. Good luck! And remember that physical beauty, like wealth, isn’t real, even though it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:17 PM
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At best you’ll have to spend time with a potentially dangerous stranger who feels entitled to your body. Especially if he has spent money on you or given you money. Most men are predisposed to view all women as "whores" (ie not worth respect or boundaries), women they meet on dating sites more so, women they meet on a site like seeking arrangements even more so. At worst you’ll be raped (like I was) or killed (which I was not). Similar to online dating but you’ll be in a much worse position beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:51 PM
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I felt pressured to have sex due to him spending money on me. My “no’s” were not respected. I was raped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:46 PM
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I'm also a woman who has also had a very high sex drive at certain points in her life. Yes, I've made some decisions with my clit and those have turned out to be bad decisions. But nothing comes close to the way men think with their dick. Don't let shaming around women's sexuality make you wish you were more like men. Every day there are stories about men fucking chicken sandwiches, holes in trees, etc. When was the last time you fucked a chicken sandwich? When was the last time you paid a traff…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:23 AM
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True dat about the decent looking ones being entitled assholes. It sucks cuz I'm very superficial, despite not being a supermodel myself. 😂 I always thought I would make a great str*ight dude for that reason. I just want a hottie househusband to wait on me hand and foot and pleasure me whenever I want. Isn't that what everyone wants, but str*ight dudes just own it? But I don't think it works like that, cuz any dude that wants that is gonna be a scrub and gender role reversals are weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:53 AM
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being a side chick/"man-stealer" tearing down other women/ always putting men before women upholding a misogynistic worldview
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:27 AM
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Every LVM I've dated has asked to stick it in the bum. I always coyly replied, "I'm an anal virgin! Tee tee!" Which they thought was hot until they realized I would be remaining an anal virgin. Even though I've made some mistakes, I'm grateful to my past self for recognizing that as a HARD PASS. It's disgusting how much this is pushed on girls and women these days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:11 AM
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I hate men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:06 AM
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ew the comments in that sub are just as bad. I almost replied "who the fuck asked you" when some scrote wrote a long redpill diatribe to a woman complaining about her husband not appreciating her. but I decided to just post here in my safe space instead and not get doxxed. every subreddit that allows XY's is toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:05 AM
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I've stopped watching porn. Definitely a step in the right direction. Porn is so depraved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 09:47 PM
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Ew, I’ve known guys that don’t consider women they want to fuck “women”. Absolutely disgusting and dehumanizing. They’re all porn addicts too. It’s like the category of woman is only a fetish to them. Super creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 08:57 PM
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What do you do to take care of your skin?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:40 PM
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Lmao I thought this was an ironic pink pilled joke at first. She looks so good. The first thing I noticed is that she had a bigger smile, and looks happier. Inspiration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:43 AM
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All the "bad qualities" I have according to other men are "good qualities" to him. This is beautiful. It gives me hope that maybe someone will like me like that. 😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:47 AM
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I'm so sorry that happened to you. I felt the same way when I found this sub. I've been on reddit since it's origin because I like the format and I do think it's fucked with my brain to absorb so much male superiority/insecurity. I don't even have empathy for a dude that wants to kill/dox you for saying an older woman is beautiful? I don't have the fucking brain cells to concoct the worldview in which that makes sense. Oh right it's the "woman hit the wall" mass-scale neg. It's depressing becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:01 AM
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Oh, and they are always passive-aggressive. 😂😂😂 💯everything you said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 02:52 AM
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NoOoOo, don't you understand? The system was perfect until the feminists came and ruined everything in the 80's! Now men are oppressed more than women ever have been!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 10:53 PM
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Fuck. That's not normal? I've done a lotttt of work to have a more normal relationship with food, but I guess I have further to go. You're lucky that it's foreign to relate to food like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 09:59 PM
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"Do I have the right to be mad at him?" She doesn't feel permission to be mad, ever, under any circumstances. I know because I was socialized this way too and it has caused so many problems for me. Women need to LEVEL UP in our socialization, this shit is ridiculous. And then men treat us like we are pathetic because for a man to act this way would be pathetic. The vast majority of men would NEVER tolerate that kind of anger. They would come back IMMEDIATELY with even more anger. That's how men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:31 PM
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bUt He'S iN LoVe!!!!11 I never hear of 62 year old women marrying 18 year old men. He has lived lived more than three of her lifetimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:01 AM
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This is a mood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:55 AM
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This is absolute queen shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:40 AM
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I'm glad you have healed. That gives me hope. It does make me feel like a crazy person to still be thinking about him so much despite how much time has passed. I've worried that I would be holding on to this forever, like when I'm 80, even though I don't even want to see him again now. Thanks for being able to relate. They really do pull a number on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 10:52 PM
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As a ww, the fact that you accept these terms is embarrassing. A real HVM is not racist or colorist. I would feel uncomfortable if I knew the man I was dating fetishized/glorified my whiteness. It strikes me as pickme-ish to reward a dude's racism rather than act in solidarity with WOC (although certainly not inconsistent with the history of ww). You made the same post in r/pinkpillfeminism. I agree with the comments from that post: Yeah this post is something straight out of RPW idk how it's ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 09:55 PM
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This is helpful, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 07:11 PM
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I know he hasn’t spent 1/1,000th of the time angsting over me like I have over him. It is embarrassing. Thanks for the internet hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:23 PM
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Fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:19 PM
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I feel like I can kind of relate as mine was a narc lvm. And men are very emotionally distant with me, like even the ones that approached me and tried to court me. None of them were nurturing, warm or emotionally close. And yes, I know you're saying a narc isn't like that and I think that's just his mask. But I think I'm having hard time getting over it not only because of revenge feelings but he offered something that nobody else did. Yup. I relate to this. Other men offer so little, that I did…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:26 AM
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Wow. This is all amazing advice. You're right on about the feeling being like I've found the perfect mate and "the one" and the rush/addiction of that. I just searched learned what "dread game" is. YUP!! Ugh. I've never chased a dude like he got me chasing him. I feel like he faked the ability to "fill my psychic holes" by being super sweet and tender with me. And then did dread game by being unavailable. He also presents himself as being more successful/important/connected than he is. Or even i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:13 AM
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this one makes me especially sad. those poor women. it breaks my heart. global prostitution and sex trafficking needs to end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:31 AM
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This makes me so sad. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:10 AM
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At 30:00 she starts talking about how “insanely important” men’s rights issues are. 😂 Also scrolling thru the comments, they’re all from men! Shocking to see who her target audience is. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 09:54 AM
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I'm only a couple years older than you. I've dated Gen X. They're not cute even if they have a little money. Less porn use is a bonus. The best lover I've had never watched porn and it showed. But he disrespected me in other ways. Yuck. I've dated men in their 20's, 30's, and 40's like some kinda goldilocks and all I've found are narcissistic assholes who all have their own unique ways of using and abusing women. I feel so bad for Gen Z. Not only for these social issues but the (related) global …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 09:28 AM
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this is genius.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:20 AM
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Same I hate the beard trend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:17 AM
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Guys guys guys! You won't believe the most angelic, brave husband I have. After eating the oatmeal I made, I asked him to put his bowl in the dishwasher. God love him, he did it right away - even though that's usually my job! I was so excited by his profound act of generosity that I dropped to my knees on site. I feel so lucky to have gotten the chance to taste his deeply crusted smega, roasted sweaty ball sac, salty acidic pre-cum and chlorine bleach semen. It was DELICIOUS! I just wanted to te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:11 AM
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This is so embarrassing and hilarious. WTF planet is she on. I almost feel like we need a sub just for pickme cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 06:59 AM
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I'm glad you found my post insightful even though it's depressing lol. I'm seeing the connection to all the de-valuing/cheap behaviors as well since you pointed them out. How pathetic that relationships & marriage were seemingly only held up by female subservience out of necessity. Now that we don't need men for survival, they decide trying is too hard and they basically just bow out??? Well put. Our whole society was built on coddling male mediocrity. My heart aches for previous generations of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 06:30 AM
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Does this ever work???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 06:02 AM
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They are predators, if given half the opportunity. So many men are sexual predators these days. Maybe not serial killers, but men using coercion and manipulation to get sex and abuse women is becoming the norm. Or maybe it always was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 03:33 AM
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Been there sis. 😞 I think men who do this have never had sex with a woman who wanted to have sex with them. If they did, they'd be able to tell the difference. The difference between the experiences I've had with men who I wanted to have sex with, vs men who "coerced, manipulated, emotionally blackmailed, and badgered me until I said yes" is night and day. Totally different experiences. Like, ya know, being an enthusiastic and willing participant for hours of mutual fun and play vs being complet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 02:55 AM
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It's literally teaching them how to date rape. It's really scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 02:45 AM
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Thank you so much for your response! I agree with much of what you've said, that poly only ends up benefitting men due to patriarchy. And I think it's just courteous to not be emotionally close to people you're attracted to, even when you're single. Then you're just playing games. I get what you're saying, and that makes sense. I have one male friend in particular whose partner is jealous of our connection even though we have established that we have no mutual attraction. So that's hard. It's ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 02:00 AM
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I think deep down guys like this know that they repel women and comments like this repel women. Negging women in their profile is their only way to get off because no one will match with them so they can’t neg directly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 04:24 AM
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Omg no. The complete reversal. Who doesn’t want an entitled sugar baby for a bf? 🤣 where do they learn this? This is some next level pua/manipulative bs: make her chase you AND pay your phone bill! Unbelievable. Praying with both hands that she didn’t go for this. 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 04:07 AM
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You are so strong and wise to see thru the bs of this dude and your “friend“. Relieved for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:43 AM
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So many issues here: toxic friends, toxic lifestyle, toxic spending habits, toxic outlook. I would either leave or tell him he needs to get therapy or I leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:16 PM
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Everyone here is saying it’s a major red flag and maybe they’re right. but I’m going to go against the grain and say everyone -literally everyone- has physical insecurities. So I guess it’s just a matter of to what degree it’s affecting his and your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 05:53 PM
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unbearable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:37 AM
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seems weird they caught that on camera, HV except would have been better in private. tangential but has anyone noticed how the media criticizes megan's cuticles yet I have never heard a single peep about prince h's hair?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 07:50 AM
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Lmao wtf. Everyone over there is chanting “men have morals, women don’t have morals“. While talking about how important it is for men to cheat while women are faithful. always Opposite Day with these incels. and I used to believe the bullshit that The red pill and female dating strategy were the same. Notice how we don’t try to have relationships in which we are cheating and our partner is faithful. Unbelievable. is it just me or when I say “I hate men“ it’s for really good reasons, such as thei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:34 PM
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PREACH!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 06:13 AM
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Plus he died from over-training. Maybe he should have listened to his body more. Emotions are amazing, based, and important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:34 AM
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They’ve won her dignity & control over her. fuck dude. shiver.s.... this is what all the bad men have wanted of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 04:10 AM
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So true sis. I wish I knew this when I was younger. I guess we all find out in our own way. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 08:09 PM
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I agree that men take advantage of our love and feelings. I think our emotions are our greatest strength if we respond to them intelligently. It's the fact that we love so much that lets us have such deep bonds with our friends and family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 08:06 PM
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All women are socialized to be pick-me's. So proud of your for turning on the light and taking care of yourself. Nothing but compassion, love, and understanding for your past self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 04:18 AM
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It's so hard for me to act in accordance with that intuition. My trauma response is "freeze" and I just shut down. Fucking crazy. Men are so scary, and it's taboo to call it out. The world is crazy. Everywhere I look I see bullshit designed to protect men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 03:03 AM
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do NOT have sex with him to see if there is chemistry!! chemistry tells you if there's chemistry! keep entertaining his interest if you are interested. it's not a waste of time, it's being open to possibility. date other men as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 01:56 AM
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YES!!!!!!!! I am so happy for you and proud of you! You might feel crappy, you might feel happy. This is a big transition for you on your way to Queendom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:14 AM
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100%. I am obsessed with cuddling and it has always derailed my dating game. I cuddle with my friends all the time. Every time I've cuddled with a guy, it's seen as an invitation to sex, even when I've been very clear that it's not. They can't see it any other way and will always try to escalate and push for sex. And you're right about how it can trigger feelings of intimacy too soon. I'm at the point now where I would never cuddle a guy if I'm not ready to have sex with him. That's how they see…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:42 AM
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congrats on evolving out of being a pickmeisha. let him prove himself to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 12:10 AM
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