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Victim Pukehectorc329/r/askMRP31/10/17 03:49 AM
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What the fuck do YOU want to do?
/r/askMRP28/12/17 09:12 PM
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Great job on the weight loss. I know it may seem daunting but keep at it and you'll get there in no time.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 02:44 PM
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You should look into getting a steamer as well. Less hassle and you can get it done in less time
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 02:34 PM
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Most of it covered by her insurance the rest she paid for herself.
/r/askMRP13/11/17 04:40 AM
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Pretty much. That whole instant gratification mentality. She's already fucking up by eating shit she isn't supposed. She'll regain it eventually, she does zero work in the gym.
/r/askMRP13/11/17 12:53 AM
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Yup, happened to me as well. Matter of fact she got weight loss surgery a year before she was about to bolt. I was naive as fuck to think the end outcome wasn't inevitable.
/r/askMRP13/11/17 12:44 AM
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This. Fuckin A right man. I needed this today.
/r/askMRP09/11/17 11:29 PM
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OYS: 2nd Edition Overall, rough week as I discovered wife had a physical affair over the weekend. Mental health and frame have been shit because of it. Had a good week with my workouts and diet. Financials are in good order and dropped retainer on an attorney. Will take the weekend to process all of this out of town and have the lawyer get the paperwork ready when I confront her. Decision has been made on my end, I am moving on; but the stay plan is the same as the go plan. Diet and Fitness: Fit…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 06:23 PM
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OYS: 1st Edition Back to Square One, Back to the Basics After posting my proverbial victim puke a few days ago on askMRP and getting the nut punch I definitely deserved, there's nowhere to go but up. I have to kill my ego, end of story. I have internalized the comments left by all the vets and have started the journey (again) to unfuck myself. I restarted my reading (NMMNG and MAP) and committed to doing the exercises. I plan on being much more methodical and thorough in my reading and its appli…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/17 03:47 AM
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This is a great layout, I appreciate it. You're spot on, I skipped some areas, tried to cut some corners and it made things worse. That's on me. I have to get back to square one, and put in the fucking work I should've been months ago.
/r/askMRP01/11/17 02:22 PM
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I can honestly say that I didn't do all the things you mentioned (specifically the exercises, among other things). There are no shortcuts to this, I tried to cut corners and it made things worse. I admit that. I won't make any excuses and will get to work, going back to square one. I have no other choice but to do so. I needed this swift kick in the nuts. I appreciate it.
/r/askMRP01/11/17 02:15 PM
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Thanks for the response. I do want to stay in, she does provide value in our lives. I do believe that the terms of the marriage need to be readdressed, and boundaries established. You described her pretty well, she does try to manipulate my emotions by utilizing a variety of tactics, mostly crying and this "woe is me" attitude. Hence why I have kept my distance in order to prevent her tears having any effect on me. Perhaps this is her drawing me into her frame? Or a series of comfort tests that …
/r/askMRP31/10/17 05:16 PM
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I briefly read through this, and my initial thoughts are that I have not done ANY of that. I will have to look through it a bit more thoroughly, but it looks like I have not.
/r/askMRP31/10/17 04:56 PM
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I will heed your advice for sure. This has been very informative and helpful.
/r/askMRP31/10/17 04:41 PM
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Thanks for your insight, I greatly appreciate it. I think this is where leaving my ego at the door becomes critical. In trying to send her a "message" (super beta, passive aggressive bs) I missed some crucial opportunities. Worst part is, there have been SEVERAL of these instances in the past several weeks, but instead elected to give her the silent treatment like a beta faggot. Because "I'll teach her"! If I did "win" this competition, my next moves will be paramount.
/r/askMRP31/10/17 04:33 PM
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Completely agree on the fragile ego part - it's exactly that which kept me from posting back in February.
/r/askMRP31/10/17 01:51 PM
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I appreciate you taking time to answer my post, I know you are highly regarded here so thank you. Although I didn't come out and say "I need guidance", I certainly need it.
/r/askMRP31/10/17 01:42 PM
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I haven't thought of it in those terms, so the answer to your question would be no.
/r/askMRP31/10/17 01:36 PM
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I agree, identifying and passing comfort tests is an area I'm fairly ignorant on and have to research it in depth. What do I want? I want to continue improve as a man, not for her or any other woman, but for myself. I have established covert contracts for as long as I remember, and it wasn't until I read NMMNG when I realized what the hell I was doing. I grew bitter and resentful, and that's not the man I want to be. I have to do a MUCH better job at commanding my ship, whether or not she is my …
/r/askMRP31/10/17 01:26 PM
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That's a fair assessment, everyone is running on emotion. She says she wants a divorce. I say fine, you'll get what you want. She moves upstairs to the spare bedroom and gives me the silent treatment. I don't respond to her at all, and leave her alone. I continue to improve myself regardless of the outcome. Lot's of emotion running high, and two people with huge egos staring at each other to see who blinks first.
/r/askMRP31/10/17 01:16 PM
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Own my shit is stems from a shitload of covert contracts that I established during our time together. I did the majority of housework, cooked for the family, paid 90% of the bills, did the majority of the parenting, etc. In return I expected validation, endless sex, and more appreciation. I ended up bitter and angry. I was not a fun person to be around. My family walked on eggshells because I failed to lead appropriately. She felt like this was coming to an end, she then engaged in an emotional …
/r/askMRP31/10/17 01:02 PM
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Yes, you are correct - I can't kick her out, I know this based on conversations with several lawyers. Everything you have said is spot on from a legal standpoint, which leads me to think she hasn't spoken to a lawyer at all. I am prepared in case this goes nuclear by reallocating my direct deposits, opened a new account, and I have money put away in case shit hits the fan. I did not adopt her daughter, BUT came ridiculously close. As soon as I discovered her emotional affair, I dropped the adopt…
/r/askMRP31/10/17 12:44 PM
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Acta, non verba. I have to continue to put in the work, and talk less. I have to deal with constant comfort and shit tests, continue to improve my SMV, and LEAD my family regardless of the outcome. If she comes along for the ride, that's great. If not, that's fine too. Regardless the end state should be the same. To be honest with you I don't know how to "repair" her. I just have to continue to unfuck myself and see where the cards fall after that.
/r/askMRP31/10/17 12:09 PM
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I don't disagree with your post, you're absolutely right. Those two comfort tests were there and I epically failed them both. Like I completely fucked those up royally. I have to hold myself accountable for that. I do agree wholeheartedly that I need to start posting here more regularly, especially in OYS on a weekly basis. There is no excuse and I have to do better.
/r/askMRP31/10/17 11:31 AM
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