hedgehoglady Archive

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11	Average men gain nothing from being sex positive and against purity culture. Why are we talking about SAHMs? I thought we were talking about women who wait for marriage. You cited 3 separate opinion pieces that appear to raise some interesting ideas about the complicated reality of modern feminism and motherhood, but they’re not representative of all feminist theory. Also Simone de Beauvoir wrote some interesting stuff but she’s been fully dead for like 40 years. Feminists aren’t a monolith but anyone who wants to make the choice to stay home with children (and can affor…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 02:40 PM
12	Average men gain nothing from being sex positive and against purity culture. I disagree, as a feminist. If someone wants to have a lot of sex regardless of gender, and they’re up front about intentions and respectful to any sexual partners then go for it. If a woman is super selective or saving sex for marriage and that’s her choice, go for it. Both sets of choices are valid.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 02:24 PM
2	Rapper Waka Flocka walks off Fresh and Fit podcast over debate about rape culture and body count. 6 girls leave as well. Myron says rape culture is a myth. Was he being way too insensitive with this topic whether it’s true or false? There was a SNL skit within the last 5 years with a female teacher on trial for statutory rape. Pete Davidson played the student and he was blowing kisses at her from the wittiness stand. It was so gross.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 01:14 AM
6	Rapper Waka Flocka walks off Fresh and Fit podcast over debate about rape culture and body count. 6 girls leave as well. Myron says rape culture is a myth. Was he being way too insensitive with this topic whether it’s true or false? A lot of advocacy from feminist groups regarding SA has more to do with treating victims will respect and support. Campaigning to reduce the backlog of rape kits for example. Or creating non profits to match victims with an advocate or social worker who supports them through what can be a pretty arduous process. There’s been a modern push to include education around consent in sex Ed in my community. I’m not really sure what you’re saying when you say “reshaping society in ways favorable to femi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 01:12 AM
17	Rapper Waka Flocka walks off Fresh and Fit podcast over debate about rape culture and body count. 6 girls leave as well. Myron says rape culture is a myth. Was he being way too insensitive with this topic whether it’s true or false? A complete stranger pushed me up against a wall and shoved his hand down my pants, inside of my underwear. Only backed off when I unfroze and started kicking and screaming. I was young, felt like it was my fault for walking home by myself. Figured I was lucky to get away. It’s not a unique story. Many of my friends have experienced assault. Most of us don’t report. I know men who were coerced into sex they didn’t want to have, but they don’t always contextualize that as assault because of social…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 11:04 PM
4	Women's rights Vs. Women's responsibilities I generally know what the law says couples owe each other and are entitled to in marriage or divorce. None of that is predicated on gender-specifically. It's the right to be free from physical abuse, calculation and division of assets, and child custody if there are children. In my country those provisions aren't gender-specific any more. The law disproportionately effects one gender or another, which is a separate discussion. However a woman's responsibility towards her husband and their childr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/23 05:44 PM
2	How are short man supposed to date? He isn’t. Most people aren’t. He’s a kind and funny dude who has a nice face and isn’t very tall.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/23 01:47 PM
5	How are short man supposed to date? My college bf was 5’4. He’s a social worker now and he still does fine. He’s getting married to a very pretty woman. I’m not saying it might now make things harder, especially in OLD. But not impossible, certainly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/23 01:02 PM
3	How are short man supposed to date? Yeah I have only dated taller than me but I’m 5’2 so it’s not a high bar to clear, so to speak. In fact I don’t think I’ve ever been propositioned by a shorter man than I in my life. My college bf was 5’4 or so and he was a babe. But certainly not rich or terribly successful.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/23 12:57 PM
2	How are short man supposed to date? Did you ask them to step on a scale and write down the number? Or are you perhaps using 400lbs to mean somewhat fat?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/23 12:45 PM
2	Is it possible to have meaningful discussions regarding sex & gender issues without assumptions, stereotypes, & generalizations? Gender and sexuality are man-made once you get past basic biology. But the dichotomy of gender and sexuality are so deeply baked into our culture and upbringing that we simply accept most of it without thought or critique or thought until it's challenged. Then you have to be open to being challenged without becoming defensive. A lot of us come to these conversations with not just our cultural understanding of these concepts, but now they're colored by our own experiences as adults. I think it ma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 09:31 PM
2	Femininity can basically be bought from the store in the form of cosmetics, hair style and different clothes. As far as I can tell some men want women to present femininely both in appearance and demeanor, but aren’t interested in or even want to see the effort that goes in to that presentation. You want her to show up in to your life and look and act the right way. Women, or people who are biologically female have on average smoother skin, wider hips, breasts and certain reproductive organs. But women who are beautiful or cute or attractive even naturally so, almost certainly engage in behavior to acce…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 06:25 PM
2	CMV : I always hear about Low value Women claming they locked down a HVM and therefore beeing a Hoe has no impact on theyre Dating Choices. Those Dude which they believe to be HVM are not. Where do you read the following? Do you not see the difference between sex work and infidelity? Either one or both can be a deal breaker but holy hell that’s quite the resume for anyone, let alone a 24YO. Can you maybe provide us with a less extreme (and also real) example?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 05:34 PM
1	Q4W: How would you console, and what advice would you give to a hypothetical son who couldn’t get dates? Also fwiw my ex husband isn’t neurotypical and neither am I. We didn’t plan to have a kid but our decision to keep the pregnancy wasn’t informed by the fact that our kiddo might not be neurotypical either. Not did I worry about the fact that having a tall co-parent would result in an especially tall girl (she’s going to be super tall if she maintains her growth curve). She’s speech delayed and we jumped in to early intervention and enrolled in preschool with an IEP specific program. We just love…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 05:22 PM
1	Q4W: How would you console, and what advice would you give to a hypothetical son who couldn’t get dates? Empathetically listen, support, love unconditionally. Try and be honest without passing judgement on his experience. Our kids will inevitably face problems we ourselves don’t understand or haven’t experienced. As a parent you want to try and solve those problems desperately but you can’t always, especially as they get older. But I can be there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 05:08 PM
3	You should not shame people for liking someone that's fat, it's already hard enough to date as a fat person Nah. I’m in law school. If I don’t pass the bar next year someone could reasonably assume I wasn’t prepared and didn’t study enough. If 50% of my class doesn’t pass then there was a systemic failure at the university level. Plus I just told you shame doesn’t motivate. So it’s unnecessary and also, you know, not nice.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 09:19 PM
3	You should not shame people for liking someone that's fat, it's already hard enough to date as a fat person Shame doesn’t usually work to curb even those examples. Usually perception of persecution drives people further in to extremism. I’m not saying condemnation of nazi ideology isn’t a rational reaction. But when you look at people who get out of those kind of hateful groups it’s because they met and we’re able to empathize with people they were taught to hate. Think of homophobic parents who become more accepting of LGBTQ folks because their child came out of the closet. Fat people don’t fit this …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 09:13 PM
5	You should not shame people for liking someone that's fat, it's already hard enough to date as a fat person Let me elaborate. Shame, regardless of its morality, doesn’t appear to be effective in curbing rates of obesity or really any harmful behaviors. In fact in some cases it has the opposite effect, on an aggregate level. The rate of obesity in the US has increased during decades when fat phobia and ridicule of fat people was even more socially acceptable than it is now, and when beauty standards celebrated even thinner and less realistic bodies than we do today. Many fat people suffer tremendously …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 08:55 PM
5	You should not shame people for liking someone that's fat, it's already hard enough to date as a fat person You can be respectful to individual fat people while also promoting good public health policy at a macro level. Shame is not a good public policy, if it was we’d be a lot skinner as a society. Fat people know they’re fat and they’re pretty constantly reminded that their bodies aren’t acceptable to many people. You don’t have to date them but you should treat them like any other person you come across, hopefully that means with kindness and without remarking on their appearance. Everyone (IMO) sh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 08:05 PM
2	You should not shame people for liking someone that's fat, it's already hard enough to date as a fat person Weight is a single health marker, it’s visible and correlated with attractiveness so it gets the most attention. What you’re describing is fetishizing certain body types, which can be harmful. If you’re telling your partner to gain weight they don’t need to gain, just because it’s attractive to you then that’s certainly harmful. But being able to love or find fat people attractive isn’t harming anyone. In fact someone whose in an otherwise healthy long term relationship likely has more incentive…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 07:41 PM
5	You should not shame people for liking someone that's fat, it's already hard enough to date as a fat person Eh. This is the better take IMO. I see so much fat phobia with the men on this sub and I do wonder how detrimental it is for the male users on this sub who are overweight. I can hold some compassion for fat men who just see the “hit the gym, bro it’s easy” message day in and day out, even if I disagree with their ideology.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 07:21 PM
1	Men are not oppressed by women, they feel entitled to women I feel like I can never get a holistic look at where the men in this sub are coming from. Even w/in the individual RP and BP communities there is infighting and disagreement. I do get the spins when I see some men complaining there isn’t enough male representation in the body positive movement, while other men are are talking about how dudes need to gym maxx and expressing distain for fat people. Personal preferences are valid, everyone should get some exercise. But I really feel like the men in…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 04:44 PM
3	Men are not oppressed by women, they feel entitled to women And you apparently don’t seek it out. If body men’s positivity is important to you why aren’t you? Like I said it’s not hard to find, you could help promote it. From my perspective it’s becoming much more common. You literally said in your post “when’s the last time you saw a fat male positivity post” and I’m telling you pretty much everyday I log on to ig. I get new recommendations for accounts to follow, too. Your perspective is skewed because in-spite of your first comment, it doesn’t seem li…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 04:14 PM
6	Men are not oppressed by women, they feel entitled to women Femalebodypositivity actually appears to have fewer posts. Im assuming that’s because many body positivity posts are made by women, and they don’t include the words “female” in the tag. But I’m telling you all right now I’m consuming that content on purpose. For no other reason than I like to see it on my timeline. I don’t deny there’s an imbalance in male vs female content but I do think y’all could be a part of fixing that. On this sub I see an almost constant influx of fat phonic rhetoric and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 03:55 PM
2	Men are not oppressed by women, they feel entitled to women So if I tell you I follow some fat men’s fashion accounts with tens of thousands of followers that means a no one cares about them? When you shop online even the big name brands are using fat male models. I’m not denying you see more women but that’s in part because women buy more clothes and spend more time on socials. If you’re not seeing men with diverse bodies online it’s because you’re not looking for them, but if doesn’t mean it isn’t there or gaining momentum.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 03:46 PM
-2	Men are not oppressed by women, they feel entitled to women Social media operates using an algorithm. I searched #malebodypositivity on IG. 31 thousand posts. I follow several fat male influencers on IG. If you look for it it’s pretty easy to find.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 03:31 PM
5	Only women are told to ‘choose better’ whereas men are always the victim You need to learn a lil more about family law, honestly. I don’t know if I should attempt to engage in good faith with someone who uses this term but women on average fair worse economically in divorce, while men on average receive less parenting time if there are kids. Somewhat obvious and overlapping reasons for those outcomes. Also in the states the trend is moving much closer to 50/50 parenting time. There are indivisible cases where one party gets “screwed” but it’s not quite the dire situa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 01:34 AM
3	Only women are told to ‘choose better’ whereas men are always the victim What? Where I’m from (states) When a divorce is finalized that means distribution of assets have been finalized and if there are children, so has the parenting plan. You don’t just get to go back to family court and say, “I’ll take more of my ex husbands money, please.” Also if either parent violates the custody schedule they can be held in contempt. In fact not paying child support doesn’t mean parents have to stop following the custody schedule. Parents can be thousands of dollars in arrears a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 12:56 AM
1	Do men become "Beta Bucks" after kids? I disagree with the categorization of beta here, I think what your friends are getting at is a fairly typical dynamic after children were resentment between a couple compounds do to some pretty standard changes in their lives. I'm going to focus on the sexual intimacy part of you're post, but I think it applies to other areas as well. I'd recommend reading "Come as You Are" by Emily Nagoski before the baby comes. Basically in the book she talks about how we all have sexual accelerators and break…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/23 04:06 PM
6	Women should take seriously the question if they want to have children or not early in life and stick to it to avoid suffering. It's not a guarantee, but freezing healthy eggs when a woman has many is a decent bet to make. It looks like a 4-13% chance that a single healthy frozen egg results in pregnancy. People who pursue IVF often do multiple rounds of treatment, with multiple embryos implanted at the same time. It might make sense for younger women to freeze eggs when they still have plenty of viable ones, as egg quality and amount do decrease over time. Plus assisted reproductive technology is always improving. While…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 06:26 PM
15	Women should take seriously the question if they want to have children or not early in life and stick to it to avoid suffering. I think it's condescending, regardless of your intention, to assume that most women aren't aware of the concerns you're raising. If you've stumbled upon this concept on your own I imagine those women who are delaying but still considering motherhood have done a little research, too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 06:20 PM
6	Women should take seriously the question if they want to have children or not early in life and stick to it to avoid suffering. Eh. This is anecdotal but I have one and I gave birth at 28. If the stars align I’d like to have another child but I have to focus on my career and pregnancy would be a significant set back. Especially because I’m entering a new field at 33. I have a duty to provide the best possible life for my already living child. Unless I’m as sure as I can be about my potential partner, and I’m a place where I can take the hit with maternity leave and the year or two of sleep deprivation and milk production…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 06:00 PM
8	Women should take seriously the question if they want to have children or not early in life and stick to it to avoid suffering. A lot of people, myself included, find a lot of joy in parenthood even though it's extremely challenging. However you're making a huge assumption here. Young people with many children are can be influenced by other factors like lack of education or access to reproductive healthcare. Also slightly more than half of women seeking abortions are already mothers to one or more children, so plenty of women who have children at a young age are declining to carry further pregnancies to term.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 05:06 PM
20	Women should take seriously the question if they want to have children or not early in life and stick to it to avoid suffering. The men on this sub seem to have an overwhelming negative view of mothers who benefit from social welfare programs. Up and to the point of advocating for their total erasure, in an effort to encourage mothers to avoid single-parenthood.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 04:55 PM
11	Women should take seriously the question if they want to have children or not early in life and stick to it to avoid suffering. What grounds do you have for your claim that many or most older women aren’t aware of the higher likelihood of infertility as they age? Do you apply this logic of starting earlier to men, too? You seem to be avoiding responding to users telling you about how older fathers experience infertility and birth defects and higher rates as well as women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 04:38 PM
3	Actual evidence that women are treated better than men overall ? If you look at the last 15 years family court is trending more towards a 50/50 default system. Doesn’t mean there aren’t hold out states, and disproportionate outcomes for men and women under gender neutral laws, but it’s actually improving in terms of gender equity. I’m massively over generalizing (and so are you) because all 50 states have different laws and outcomes for families. Most research points towards two involved parents being best for kids assuming both are fit, and I think 50/50 ass…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/23 12:15 AM
2	CMV: The female expectation of looking physically attractive is way, WAY more easier than the male expectation of being a provider. I have parents who would be unlikely to happily support their adult daughter while she worked part time and spent all her money on cosmetics and clothes. I dislike the use of the word "simp" on this sub but truly a man who would be willing to date me and pick up the tab for my lifestyle in the above scenario, just for my company and sex would very much be a simp in my eyes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/23 06:30 PM
4	CMV: The female expectation of looking physically attractive is way, WAY more easier than the male expectation of being a provider. No one who matters in his life thinks that. Very much including my father who has a more traditional relationship and labor distribution with my own mother. I watched my brother handle the majority of night feedings for his premie newborn so his partner could recover from a traumatic labor, and then so she could function at work. He took his son to his many doctors appointments and supported his development. He cooks in their house, too. She manages the finances generally. The upshot of their dy…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/23 01:03 AM
6	CMV: The female expectation of looking physically attractive is way, WAY more easier than the male expectation of being a provider. I can point to several people in my immediate social circle who assumed a SAHD position in the relationship. My brother stayed home with his baby for about a year bc his fiancé out earns him. I promise no one in my family looked sideways for that choice. Daycare for babies is fucking expensive and a huge inconvenience when the babies inevitably get sick. If a parent can stay home and wants to, the most sensible course of action is to have the lower earned take on that role. Realistically a lot o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/23 11:28 PM
15	CMV: The female expectation of looking physically attractive is way, WAY more easier than the male expectation of being a provider. Sure. But then I’d have to do my makeup on the street because I’d be homeless. Presumably women need money to survive, too. The reason I know a lot of you don’t get out is because you assume any decent looking women can just evade homelessness by glancing around and grasping the closest okest looking dude to support our life style. While I suppose I could technically survive by glomming on to a random man who would put up with that, I do not want a partner with that little backbone or scruples t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/23 11:21 PM
1	CMV: The female expectation of looking physically attractive is way, WAY more easier than the male expectation of being a provider. What’s the deal with the assumption that dudes who work trade jobs are always less desirable to women? I’ve gone the advanced degree route and my dad is a doctor and I don’t have this preference. In fact sometimes I find the JD and MBA dudes too pretentious. I care if you’re financially solvent, and if you either a) enjoy your work or, b) you have long term plans and goals for career development if you don’t like your job. I just don’t think many women are in the dating market for who expect the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/23 08:54 PM
1	Hypothetical thought experiment: opting out of parenthood for men It’s impossible for me to hear the argument of paper abortion without applying it to everything I know about family law. Also OPs suggestion of birth control being part of the equation would raise different legal issues. Modern courts in the us have been highly reluctant to allow people to voluntarily terminate parental rights. Paper abortions would add an extra layer of burden and cost to the government. I can’t see a scenario where any state would allow a person capable of supporting a child t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/23 11:57 PM
0	Hypothetical thought experiment: opting out of parenthood for men That’s not really true. You’re painting with a broad brush, but I’ll use my state as an example. Mom would have to fraudulently claim she has no way of knowing who bio dad is in order to bypass his right to adoption. Otherwise bio dad needs to consent as well. Bio dad can even preemptively register his intent to claim the child in court before baby is born. I’m not saying it’s impossible for a mom to do this, and once the adoption is formalized it’s pretty hard to unring that bell. But there hav…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/23 11:25 PM
3	Hypothetical thought experiment: opting out of parenthood for men Let’s say moms below the poverty line, who’s pickup up the financial slack for the child after its born? Also how do you register dad’s opt out option? How much notice does he have to give mom to make an informed decision? Who’s handling the appeal process for men and women who dispute proper notice was given or given fraudulently? assuming we’re in a state that prohibits government funding for abortion procedures (like mine!) who has to pay for the abortion procedure? What about states with 6 w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/23 10:50 PM
19	The current dating situation is the result of women's free sexuality Every time I log on here I find more and more niche stereotypes that boil down to “all women are undesirable sluts”	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/23 09:59 PM
0	Things that women support the most are about avoiding the responsibility that women being equal imply That’s fucked. I’ve seen the model laws that states adopt to terminate parental rights of accused rapists and the language is gender-specific and assumes a female victim and male perpetrator. I think there’s a compelling argument to be made they should be gender neutral and if bio dad can show based on whatever legal standard is required by law, that the child was conceived during his sexual assault, moms rights should be terminated assuming she caries the baby to term. It would be a really inte…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/23 01:11 AM
2	Things that women support the most are about avoiding the responsibility that women being equal imply Let's put morality and fairness out of the way for a minute. I think points 1/2 are just issues of public policy that make the most sense. Doesn't mean they are 100% equitable for everyone. However the government generally does not want to pay for a child you conceived, if you are able to pay for it. And the government is not ordinarily in the business of forcing people to take DNA tests unless it's in the context of a criminal investigation. It's a a type of search, you need consent. If someone…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/23 12:52 AM
0	Financial Abortion Rebuttal I don’t understand what you’re asking. Both parents pay child support to who? Foster care? Are their parental rights terminated in this scenario?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/23 01:15 AM
0	Signals it's over I have absolutely acted out when I've been angry before. However the issue is usually repeat offenders. You repair once you and your partner are calm and take steps to work on the issue together, respect boundaries and move forward. If you're repeatedly acting out in a way which scares your partner or causes them distress then it's time to reevaluate the relationship as a whole. Some folks may not mind shouting as much as others, I think a lot of it is cultural and how you grew up. However in my…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/23 04:19 PM
0	Signals it's over Very much thinking of modern parenting resources and how my friends and family with little boys are raising them. All emotions are valid, expressing them is good, hurting people or things when you're upset is not OK.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/23 03:52 PM
5	Signals it's over It’s a common experience for women, certainly in my age bracket, to date men who are usually very stoic with their emotions but when they become really upset it comes out in 1. Yelling 2. Swearing at their partner 3. Property damage 4. And in extreme cases physical violence. I’ve experienced 1-3 and it’s scary. Fwiw I think it’s likely a socialization problem and now you see a lot of parents raising little boys and encouraging them to express sadness and anger and affirming those feelings early …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/23 02:10 AM
13	Signals it's over Being around someone who is angry enough to be slamming doors and shouting is scary. I see this suggestion often here that men can’t open up unless they do it in exactly the “right way” which I disagree with. But if he can’t control himself enough that he’s regularly acting out physically, and his response to being asked to not act out physically is to get mad again and blame his spouse because he feels attacked, sounds like a problem to me. And much more importantly it was a problem to her. It’…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/23 02:00 AM
1	How would Women feel about a man who wears Make Up / Enhancements. I wouldn’t care about makeup at all, but I don’t think I’d be sexually attracted to a man with a full face/lashes etc. I’ve known dudes who wear concealer or some bronzer and I think it’s fine. I think if you’re disguising your physique or hairline in a way that’s not automatically obvious you should disclose that to a potential partner before they find out for themselves immediately before or during sex. Just to not set yourself up for failure. I think things like high heels or makeup women wea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/23 06:08 PM
1	Men committing to LTR are in a huge disadvantage if the LTR ends Baseline charisma and looks might get you access to sex but the “skills” you need to succeed in the bedroom are being enthused about getting your partner turned on, the ability to communicate, and the ability not to take yourself too seriously. You said it yourself, every woman is different. You aren’t going to automatically blow someone’s mind with a sex act that got a previous partner off. I concede that the confidence of knowing you’ve succeeded before (pulled off successful ONS) is probably …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/23 06:00 PM
5	Do men really want traditionalism more than women? Half their* assets. Modern divorce in the west favors community property division. Each party being entitled to half the equity accrued in the marriage. No fault divorce leaves the hypothetical man above in a much better position if he leaves his wife for another women. Historically if she could prove infidelity and abandonment she would actually be entitled to more equity. Now it’s a 50/50 split.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 09:56 PM
10	CMV: In today's age, men are expected to take on both the feminine AND the masculine roles in a relationship, while women are only expected to take on the feminine roles. If you don’t believe in romantic love then why are you ever going to be in a committed, cohabitating relationship with someone? Seems like a moot point. Usually when folks move in together you’ve decided you love someone for a variety of reasons, and your life is better with them nearby. In those types of situations you might respect that person enough to value their time as much as yours. Again, lm coming at this as the likely “bread winner” and it’s not uncommon in my social circles to see sta…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 01:52 AM
10	CMV: In today's age, men are expected to take on both the feminine AND the masculine roles in a relationship, while women are only expected to take on the feminine roles. Because you love her, and she brings value to your life outside of income, and you want to spend your life or at least the foreseeable future looking at her butt in a tight pair of jeans. Because you want to spend time with her at the end of the day, and not at the expense of her not being able to save for retirement or have a little spending money. Certainly no one is making you date someone below your income earning bracket but I hope you keep up this same energy if you’re ever in a relationsh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 01:23 AM
2	CMV: In today's age, men are expected to take on both the feminine AND the masculine roles in a relationship, while women are only expected to take on the feminine roles. Also fwiw I’ve happily helped my guy install drywall, tile, flooring, etc. when he’s down a man or I have time on the weekends. So while I think he’s better at it, I would be more than able to help.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 01:10 AM
4	CMV: In today's age, men are expected to take on both the feminine AND the masculine roles in a relationship, while women are only expected to take on the feminine roles. The problems is the number of hours outside of working hours, you expect each person to put in. Splitting tasks based on experience and expertise and yes, even tradition, isn’t inherently bad or anti-feminist. But changing the oil in a car is a chore that occurs a few times per year, roof repair would occur even less. Ideally chasing a burglar is one-off event. Cooking, cleaning, childcare, all need to be performed daily, multiples times per day. If your only contribution as a partner is occasio…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 01:04 AM
7	CMV: In today's age, men are expected to take on both the feminine AND the masculine roles in a relationship, while women are only expected to take on the feminine roles. Assuming you live together you’d be in a partnership. Presumably one person not having nearly as much free time as the other would cause problems in the relationship? If you have time to work out, pursue a hobby, etc while your girlfriend is doing all the cooking and cleaning does that seem fair? Or maybe not even fair, but healthy for the relationship?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 12:46 AM
4	CMV: In today's age, men are expected to take on both the feminine AND the masculine roles in a relationship, while women are only expected to take on the feminine roles. Ok let’s say both partners work the same or similar amount of hours outside the home, but the man makes more money. Do you think that means he should have to do less in terms of hours of domestic labor?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/23 11:44 PM
3	New study finds men are leaving the workforce en masse, why work hard if you are not entitled to a wife nor children? This already happened in Japan by men turning into Hikkikomori and japanese economy is in the brink of collapse, men have left the plantation since there's nothing left for them Amazing. The hyperbole. Each time I see this the number of sexual partners and baby daddy’s multiply. It’s like your regularly accosted by haggard women with a cigarette in one hand and baby in the other demanding your time and money 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/23 05:49 PM
2	Women’s idea of an “average” man What comments are you referring to? I’m just not seeing many women who care at all on that thread	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/23 01:11 AM
1	Women’s idea of an “average” man I just looked at it again. Overwhelmingly women in that thread seemed to not think it was a big deal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/23 12:50 AM
-4	Women’s idea of an “average” man I think disgust is a reach. Pretty sure the consensus was it might be an awkward conversation if she notices when your shoes come off. And if a dude I’m in to could convincingly cover a zit, I’d want to know what product and technique. I don’t know how to use concealer correctly, can never get the color match and blending right.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/23 12:39 AM
1	It is OBVIOUS why there is not a body positivity movement for both genders It’s also about not making judgements about a persons morality or worth based on their physical appearance? Its weird, we don’t do this with other types of visible health markers. Shame isn’t a good public health strategy. Obesity rates steadily grew during the 80s and 90s when there was virtually no body positivity movement. If shame and distain worked you would have seen the opposite result. If we celebrated and encouraged healthy behaviors without also using weight as the indicator of success…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/23 08:32 PM
1	It is OBVIOUS why there is not a body positivity movement for both genders Who is shaming men for saying no to fat women? There’s a difference between saying “saying no fat chicks” in your OLD bio, which is rude, and just not dating fat women or accepting their advances, which is fine. It’s like the difference between me telling a guy that asks out that I’m not interested, and me saying “the idea of having sex with you grosses me out.” Also I will and have dated fat men	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/23 08:19 PM
2	It is OBVIOUS why there is not a body positivity movement for both genders Why does a woman’s esteem make or break a body positivity movement for men?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/23 08:06 PM
1	"Women on the internet aren't real women" It’s a new social media app The kids are using, I think. I have no idea how to respond to the second part of your sentence. Some women certainly lie, but so do men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/23 01:41 AM
-4	Do women really want a man who opens up in a relationship? One time I was casually dating, had a man spontaneously open up, and the broke things off. But it wasn’t because of emotional vulnerability more than realizing I wasn’t as in to the relationship as he was. Also one other time a man “opening up” was telling me about two different women falsely accusing him of rape…that was an easy “nah” from me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/23 01:33 AM
1	having sex while moderately drunk isn't rape There’s a difference between an act being immoral, and a criminal act. I think what OP describes is morally and ethically ambiguous at best. But at the end of the day it doesn’t sound like he has prosecuted for SA. Being accused of a crime is scary, but I’m having a hard time empathizing with this dude who by his own admission was getting mixed signals from a girl who was visibly pounding drinks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/23 02:13 AM
1	having sex while moderately drunk isn't rape I understand the argument. But again even if someone is intoxicated and didn’t think they were committing a crime, often times intent is irrelevant to being charged with that crime. It’s why intoxication is usually not a defense, nor is it excusable to victimize someone who is intoxicated. I can have sympathy for someone who blacked out and feels like they were unable to give consent, and I can also empathize with someone who got way too drunk and thought they just had a hookup and now the polic…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/23 11:24 PM
15	Are jealousy and insecurity more represented in men? If my partner looked me in the eye and told me “x former lover was better in bed” or ranked my performance that would hurt my feelings. He also wouldn’t do that because he’s kind and smart. I don’t care that he has a past, we talk sometimes about former relationships or experiences. Personally I only feel jealous about the idea that he’s loved other people, but I don’t hold that against him or anything. It’s just hard for me to think about, emotionally. The thing I think people fail to realize i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/23 11:14 PM
3	A Common Sentiment These Days is That Men Are Generally Trash Partners. But If a Man Works to No Longer Be Trash What Incentive Does He Have to Now Commit To a Woman? Personally I’m romantically monogamous. I want my one person to build with, and I would have trouble sharing that bond with more than one person. I also (personally) believe in life long growth, so I’d want a partner who shares that philosophy. Goals would change over time but we can encourage each other financially, to embrace new hobbies and friendships as we age, etc. Outside of personal convictions I think more than one LTR greatly complicates things like property ownership, child custody, e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/23 11:05 PM
6	having sex while moderately drunk isn't rape Consent is tricky with alcohol, blurred lines and all. From what you described the encounter with that woman sounds mostly consensual, but I also think it's highly advisable moving forward to not engage in sex with someone that you perceive as purposefully trying to get super intoxicated, or is giving you mixed signals. Sounds like your intuition kicked in and you ignored it. I don't think this means you deserve to be charged with rape, but it does seem like you were at least somewhat aware that…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/23 07:50 PM
1	Men and women not owing stuff to each other. There are a number of other reasons a contract can be thrown out even if there was mutual consent and consideration. A meretricious relationship would likely fall under this category, even in the context of a relationship	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/23 06:08 PM
2	A Common Sentiment These Days is That Men Are Generally Trash Partners. But If a Man Works to No Longer Be Trash What Incentive Does He Have to Now Commit To a Woman? If you have a partner that shares your values and can take care of themselves (baring illness or other life changing events if you stay in a LTR) then you can combine your abilities to help each other be better. My partner and I haven't met each others children yet but from what I've observed he's attentive, caring, and can perform basic household labor like cooking and doing the dishes. If things keep progressing in our relationship eventually we can help support each others careers by providin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/23 03:09 PM
4	Could "baby trapping" be underreported and much more common than we think? How on earth is it distressingly easy? Just because you can see how you might theoretically be able to access one that is not the case for many women across the country. Frankly it wasn’t the case before the Dobbs ruling either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/23 05:42 PM
-1	Could "baby trapping" be underreported and much more common than we think? Honestly in my very humble opinion you should be having sex with people who you have already discussed the outcome of an unintended pregnancy with, as well as birth control and sexual health history. I’m not knocking casual sex but you should probably know that persons stance ahead of time. Doesn’t mean a woman can’t change your mind but it’s better to talk about abortion up front. If you’re not on the same page that you shouldn’t have sex with her.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/23 05:20 PM
1	"Women on the internet aren't real women" I have seen a lot of dudes on this sub link a TikTok or tweet from a woman as evidence that AWALT. I’m going to roll my eyes at that. Like if you made a broad sweeping generalization and back it up with one social media post it’s not the mic drop moment you think it is. I think demographically Reddit users might be a little niche. It seems like there are a lot of gen z dudes on this sub but the female posters skew older. I go to school with a whole bunch of 23-25 year olds right now and as far a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/23 10:52 PM
3	Men aren't interested in becoming fathers because we have basically no rights when it comes to fatherhood I worked with a mediator to establish a parenting plan. My understanding in my state is parents who don’t come to an independent agreement with a parenting plan are all but required to attempt mediation before coming to trial. The process was confidential. The mediator can only present the parenting plan to a judge if parents come to an agreement, or disclose that mediation was attempted by one or both parents, and no agreement was reached. I found it super helpful, basically a grownup who under…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/23 03:57 PM
37	Men aren't interested in becoming fathers because we have basically no rights when it comes to fatherhood One of my biggest pet peeves regarding the discussion of parental rights on this sub is that it’s always talked about in overly general terms. Women are 2x as likely to “win” custody cases? Where? What does “win” mean? That they get the parenting schedule they want? Sole custody? Who is being awarded custody after being found to be an abusive towards their children? Assuming we’re in the US family law is super state-specific. generally in the last 10 years states are moving towards gender neutra…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/23 11:27 PM
4	What are your thoughts on child support in California? As the user below states a non working spouse often has a basic level of income imputed for them. I’m not in cali but I don’t have a ft job (have 1.5 off years of post grad program left) so exs lawyer used my hourly rate from my internship this summer as my average income. I was told by several attorneys who work in my area a judge will not accept 0$ as income for basically anyone in CS calculation. In my opinion the calculators are the best way to make things “fair” as they are gender-neutral a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/23 04:12 AM
2	How would feel if someone you were dating - received roses today - from their ex-husband? I think flowers would be fine if they’re coparenting. I get a card for my ex husbands birthday and Father’s Day and let my daughter decorate it. The long letter you mention in the comments seems like a bridge too far.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/23 01:32 AM
2	Do men have ANY advantages when it comes to dating? It’s exceedingly rare in the United States for one parent to unilaterally “win” custody in the us over another. The majority of couples agree on parenting time before they get to court. Some states mandate mediation ahead of time. States are more and more deferring to a 50/50 model that doesn’t favor one gender over the other, unless there is a breastfed baby. Discrepancies in parenting time are often part of a compromise between parents. Do you know how wildly unfit you’d have to be as a parent…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/23 07:01 PM
9	Why don’t more women like sports? I personally don’t see the appeal of watching professional sports as an adult. For children and teens I think it’s great. If my daughter wants to play a sport I’ll cheer her on and even learn the rules or whatever. I’m just not going to sit down and watch a football game because it doesn’t interest me. Also sometimes adults who have kids in sports are intense and stressful and put too much pressure on their children. Sports for kids should be about joyful exercise and teaching sportsmanship and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/23 02:26 AM
–	Hot single moms on dating apps prove that women can stay fit during marriage but they choose not to That’s what the post was about. My comment was about how I think it’s hard to know how your life will change when you become a parent. Some people might prioritize fitness just as much, others could have less capacity or desire to do so. Also, if the post is about women being lazy after they have kids, why are you talking about how women are all cheaters? Seems pretty far afield…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/23 10:06 PM
–	Hot single moms on dating apps prove that women can stay fit during marriage but they choose not to Who’s “they”? I wasn’t talking about just women, homie. I thought we were talking about fitness goals as parents. You seem pretty mad, though. Tough weekend?	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/23 09:31 PM
–	Hot single moms on dating apps prove that women can stay fit during marriage but they choose not to Difficult to argue with such iron clad logic and reason. Perhaps I was saying that you can’t know how or if your priorities will shift, until after you have children. Lots of uncontrolled variables there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/23 09:19 PM
–	Hot single moms on dating apps prove that women can stay fit during marriage but they choose not to Man I wish I could circle back in 10 with the men on this sub who are hypothetically staying fit and in shape For their hypothetical wives (who are also supposed to stay in amazing shape, but also have babies). Staying active and eating a balanced diet are great goals for the whole fam. But honestly unless you’ve been in the trenches of new parenthood you simply haven’t a clue how that might change your lifestyle.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/23 03:46 PM
1	Making the legal right to abortion available only to married couples. I’m only talking about the US. I don’t study international law. In the United States what you are proposing is unconstitutional.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 08:33 PM
5	Society tells men to step up and be better but then actively prevents them from doing so. Ah, buddy. You’d be surprised. Wanting to “settle down” in your 30s and 40s is not unique to women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 08:22 PM
6	Society tells men to step up and be better but then actively prevents them from doing so. Men who were also having sex in their 20s	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 08:16 PM
1	Making the legal right to abortion available only to married couples. We allow adults to make choices that are possibly bad for their health, protecting children from harm based on something that is universally accepted as dangerous is permissible “discrimination.” If you tried to pass a law that differentiated between groups of adults and tobacco use it might be challenged under the EPC https://www.oyez.org/cases/1976/75-628 Read this case to see what I’m talking about, about alcohol sales but quite relevant	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 07:32 PM
1	Making the legal right to abortion available only to married couples. It doesn’t matter if tomorrow it’s somehow conclusively proven that all birth control is unsafe for all girls under the age of 18. Making a law that limits birth control use to married women does not rationally relate to protecting those teens from harm. You’re leaving out the small amount of girls who get legally married under the age of majority, and the millions of women who are above the age of majority and are unmarried. It’s clearly discriminatory and unnecessarily so. Any lawmaker concern…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 07:19 PM
1	Making the legal right to abortion available only to married couples. They're very similar. The purported aim of the law being challenged in Eisenstadt was to protect public health. If you have a law which purports to protect adolescent health by limiting use of some birth control based on age, that's discrimination that is arguably rationally related to the aim of the law. A law that purports to protect adolescent health by limiting the use of birth control to married women? That's discrimination that is not rationally related to the purported aim of the law. The…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 02:24 PM
2	Making the legal right to abortion available only to married couples. I understand what the rationale of the law was. I’m telling you the Supreme Court looked at it and said, nah. Liberty interests are in slightly shaky territory due to dobbs, but discriminating based on marital status in this context raises issues under the equal protection clause. This exact set of facts has already been heard. I don’t think even our current court would try and run back Eisenstadt. https://www.oyez.org/cases/1971/70-17 Read the conclusion and look at the bench that decided it. M…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 05:48 AM
2	Making the legal right to abortion available only to married couples. Wow I just saw your edit. We’re talking forced sterilization for unwed mothers who have more than one kid? Do you live in the US? Listen our current Supreme Court tossed abortion back to the states which was completely fucked. But your proposals are just trampling all over any number of established precedents that would signal some sort of national crisis much larger than the one we have with the Dobbs decision. I normally avoid this comparison but we’d be straight up in The Handmaids Tale terri…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 03:59 AM
8	Making the legal right to abortion available only to married couples. You could say feminists went “nuts” or you could say there’s a series of Supreme Court cases (decided by all male justices) expressly stating this is unconstitutional. Also, teen pregnancies continue to decline and have since the advent of birth control, abortion access, and sex Ed so it must be working! Still plenty of room for improvement in the US compared to other countries, though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 02:42 AM
6	Making the legal right to abortion available only to married couples. Is it unconstitutional law proposal week on PPD? assuming you’re in the US, no. ETA: changed “Reddit” to “PPD”	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 02:17 AM
0	If The Red Pill is not misogynist , why do they always seem to go out of the way to portray anything women do in a negative light? They have help because they advocate for it? In my state they’re trying to pass a 6 week abortion ban. Women are organizing speaking at the state legislature. Providing scripts to call your local representative, etc. I don’t ever see men on this sub talking about advocacy work or running for local office or anything like that. Men of course face problems in society unique to them. Parental leave, unique mental health challenges, over incarceration, homelessness. But are you guys using TRP spaces…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 01:14 AM
3	There Would Be Less Angry Men If Equality Was Reintroduced What's your public policy proposal here? I think your stance is immoral but how on earth do you suggest to carry it out? I have no idea how we could quantify who would be "worthy" of support retroactively in your scenario. Are unwilling fathers filing affidavits registering their objection? How much time do you get to decide, and how much time do you need to leave the mother with in order to obtain an abortion? What about abortion access issues generally? What state do you imagine is going to ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/23 05:54 PM
6	There Would Be Less Angry Men If Equality Was Reintroduced Clean drinking water, fire and emergency services, road maintenance, health and safety standards for restaurants and public buildings, access to public defense if you're accused of certain crimes. All of these systems have their own individual flaws but you benefit from them. Unless you're totally prepared to live off the grid you gotta pay taxes and sometimes those taxes go towards things you don't like or agree with. Make sure you're voting, and advocating for public policy that aligns with yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/23 05:20 PM
5	These modern women are for the streets Not just any woman! A woman who perpetuates a virginal aura! How dare she wear a sundress, yet speak to a man with tattoos.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/23 05:43 AM
7	There Would Be Less Angry Men If Equality Was Reintroduced Do you have any idea how much it takes to house a prisoner for a year? Look up how much the average cost is in your state. Morally your post is repugnant. From a public policy stand point it’s just silly. Social welfare programs benefit you indirectly. You’re proposing something that would be impossible to enforce, politically unpalatable for almost all groups, and an economic disaster. You genuinely think a class of homeless children who are undernourished, uneducated, and unsupervised as child…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/23 05:28 AM
4	Men won’t marry or commit anymore because of women’s body counts - what do you think? A lot of men not on this sub don’t care, like at all. Most of us don’t go around asking about body counts. Once you get to know each other and talk about dating history you can make an informed decision if you’re put off by that persons past. But at the end of the day I don’t care if a dude is “ran through” as long as he’s showing me he’s committed to our relationship now.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/23 01:35 AM
3	Women of PPD, could we get honest answers about your dating life when you had (one or more) children? Seperated/Divorced for over a year. I have one young child. I am more selective about who I will go on a date with, just because I have limited free time. I also am more aware of safety issues/early red flags. I do not involve my child in my dating life at all right now, but if I am going to meet someone I'm still brining someone in to the periphery of her life, if that makes sense. On paper (or the apps) I am probably a more attractive prospect in some ways than I was in my mid-20s. I have lost…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/23 10:16 PM
1	If a woman has a lot of sexual partners/experiences, does she become harder to please sexually as time goes on? I said casual dating scene* I’m dating someone now, we met on Bumble last year. I was on tinder 5-6 years ago. I’ve dated before and after the advent of OLD, and remember the birth of Instagram. I’ve seen both sides. I get it’s hard out there for the gen z folks, and you’re struggling to meet people. Technology certainly complicates and distorts things. But if you’re lucky enough to get the opportunity to sleep with someone you really like, you’re doing yourself and her a disservice by worrying …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/23 03:41 AM
8	If a woman has a lot of sexual partners/experiences, does she become harder to please sexually as time goes on? I remained fascinated by the idea of the mythical chad and his mythical sexual prowess. In my experience, and anecdotally among my friends, the conventionally attractive tall men are not inherently “better at sex.” What makes a person good at sex is chemistry + enthusiasm. A chad as he’s described here might be hot and you might be attracted to him, but he’s not necessarily going to care if you orgasm or not. In fact if he’s really dreamy no one may have told him he’s a bad lay (selfish). And yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/23 02:31 AM
3	Why haven't women built their own independent, semi autonomous female utopia? It’s like 250 years old 🤷‍♀️ also it’s generally good legal precedent. You wouldn’t want to be able to create a housing development, or a town/city where you can discriminate against entire groups of people. Also I think OPs question is silly. I like plenty of men, they’re part of my community. I’ve only heard women discuss this as a joke or sort of a fantasy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/23 01:14 AM
1	Why haven't women built their own independent, semi autonomous female utopia? In the US it would be illegal…so kinda a moot point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/23 12:11 AM
10	If a woman has to recondition and force herself to find you attractive the relationship is doomed from the start Ah yes. A quick glance at world news shows no war or any political instability in the developing world. Also, even countries with fewer resources and global political power have some social welfare programs. I’m just really interested that the catalyst for an overnight child homelessness crisis is going to be male loneliness. I figured it would be another recession, or a natural disaster.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/23 12:56 AM
14	If a woman has to recondition and force herself to find you attractive the relationship is doomed from the start Some men can’t get a date and now it’s the purge? What about men on public assistance? Is grandma off Medicare or out on the streets because it’s hard for a guy to find a good woman these days? Now a woman would be fucking you because if she looses her job or becomes disabled she might literally die. Is that somehow better than a woman “settling” for you because she’s tired of the dating game and wants to start a family?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/23 12:47 AM
3	CMV: Makeup is live action catfishing, it’s sexual fraud No. 1. To many people her makeup-less face would still be quite attractive. 2. She used makeup and contacts (or a filter I’m not sure about the eyes) to create more euro-centric beauty features. which is a different conversation we can’t really have on this sub but it’s interesting you think it makes that much of a difference in her level or attractiveness. 3. No one would look at her made up and not be able to tell she’s wearing some makeup and also she’s clearly using a filter in the “after” f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/23 11:10 PM
2	RP and related manosphere ideologies are only going to result in women becoming even more selective, less sexually available, and purposely choosing to avoid men altogether I mean I think your political philosophy is lit. There's a lot of chatter in this thread about how access to welfare benefits and social safety nets just promote single-motherhood and so they should be done away with. Poverty is as much a predictor for adverse childhood outcomes as anything else. But since it correlates with other factors like single-parenthood I think the conversation gets too lost in the morality of either gender when it comes to child rearing. If you wanted to have a conversa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/23 07:56 PM
4	RP and related manosphere ideologies are only going to result in women becoming even more selective, less sexually available, and purposely choosing to avoid men altogether Do I think it’s “fair” that your friend is hard up because he unexpectedly became a single father x2? No. But what’s the alternative? Practically speaking what you refer to as financial abortion would be unenforceable. Its politically unsavory for those aligned with the feminist movement, as well as those who are more conservative. It raises several issues of constitutional law I can see. And at the end of the day no state would pass a law that would allowed an individual to voluntarily pass on …	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/23 06:57 PM
13	RP and related manosphere ideologies are only going to result in women becoming even more selective, less sexually available, and purposely choosing to avoid men altogether See my knee jerk reaction is the same. Like if a woman chose “wrong” it’s a life sentence for bad and promiscuous behavior. It’s just…there so much to unpack I feel like a dick for even saying this but I think some of the bad/good/moral/amoral thinking on this sub is probably a reflection of being young and not having much experience out in the real world. It sucks because a primary complaint from men on this sub is loneliness and I don’t have a solution for that. Everyone on Reddit is the perfe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/23 02:51 PM
8	RP and related manosphere ideologies are only going to result in women becoming even more selective, less sexually available, and purposely choosing to avoid men altogether I think we have some differences of opinion but I really appreciate you responding to my question. I just think they way some users on this sub talk about single moms is harmful on a societal level, regardless of how you view mom's choices the kids are blameless and deserve support. Many users on this sub also come from homes without fathers. I wonder how it feels to see single moms described in the kinds of terms I see here on a regular basis.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/23 03:55 AM
2	Alpha widow ? That’s interesting. I would hope that any person would see that someone who let them go, or someone they had to break up with because of some incompatibility or betrayal or whatever, wasn’t their “best option.” I don’t have any agency or ownership of a partner or his choices. If someone l love and want to be with is choosing me back with the same level of intensity, then that’s my best option. It would hurt to hear the sex he had with a former girlfriend was better, or her body was more attracti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/23 11:18 PM
3	Man's burden is woman's choice From the article you cited: “It was the Florida Department of Revenue that appealed the decision by the judge. The reversal meant Sinawa had to continue paying child support. St. Augustine Attorney Brandon Beardsley has been practicing family law for more than 16 years. He was surprised by the Department of Revenue's decision to file an appeal "I’ve never seen this happen before," said Beardsley.” Family law varies from state to state. In mine a man who is is court to establish parental rights a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 05:07 PM
1	Q4W: Where does this hostility towards men today really come from? Because it would take a few hours to write something cohesive, pull sources, check my blind spots. Plus I would want to participate in any discussion that ensued. I don't have that many hours to block out consecutively tonight. When I do I would have to decide if I want to devote that much time to reddit-ing. The last sentence of my comment was too glib. I'm going to leave it up because I said what I said. If we want to go back a few generations, there are unfortunately many instances of raciall…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 02:36 AM
5	Q4W: Where does this hostility towards men today really come from? I don’t have time for family court tonight. Was Thomas innocent of all of that? Or did Anita Hill blow it out of proportion? Which one is it? Clarence Thomas is serving on the Supreme Court. So is another man who was accused of sexual misconduct. Have their lives or careers been destroyed?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 12:57 AM
4	Q4W: Where does this hostility towards men today really come from? If we’re using your time frame I’d say a lot of gen x woman watched Anita Hill be completely disrespected on national television for her testimony in the Clarence Thomas confirmation hearing. Prior to the 90s sexual harassment at work wasn’t as commonly acknowledged, or was considered the price of admission for women who wanted to participate in the professional or academic spheres that had been previously occupied by men. Marital rape wasn’t a criminalized in all 50 states until 1993, and in th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 12:38 AM
0	How are there enough high value men for all of the women who feel entitled to them? Why? If you don’t want to date someone who has more sexual experience than you don’t do it. How many partners someone has had is not a primary concern for me, and I can think of a single instance where a man has asked about my “body count.” Whether or not a partner is faithful to me in the terms we set our in our relationship, and current sexual compatibility? Those are things I value. Along with other shared values around politics, finances, future goals and attitudes about kids and marriage. N…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/23 10:51 PM
2	How are there enough high value men for all of the women who feel entitled to them? “Constantly looking for a chadlier chad” made me cackle 😂😂😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/23 08:18 PM
2	A growing number of women these days act like actual incels I’ve only had one such arrangement and we stopped going on dates once we agreed we weren’t relationship material. So I dunno, maybe some people do. This lady sounds like she’s going through something. If you don’t want to spend time or money on her anymore then don’t do it. I do take issue with you panting with such a broad AWALT brush because there are many young men on here who profess to have trouble dating and forming relationships. Do you think this content with all the generalizations and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/23 07:20 PM
1	A growing number of women these days act like actual incels I’m a real human lady. And I gotta say being called a beam of light is a lovely compliment but not if you follow it up by dunking on my entire gender. It’s fine to speak from your own experience, I’m speaking from mine. If you’re going to compliment or pursue a woman in real life I would avoid praising her by putting down other women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/23 05:37 PM
1	A growing number of women these days act like actual incels What about taking turns covering the whole check? I see this as more of a compatibility issue than a gendered one. If there’s a significant discrepancy in income it feels “fair that the higher earner is contributing more fun money during outings. But that’s just my perspective.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/23 04:38 PM
3	A growing number of women these days act like actual incels Maybe I’m just an anomaly based on your experience? You make a bunch of assumptions about women in this post that I can’t really speak to because I don’t know all women. But if you’re seeing someone and they don’t want to pay for some portion of a date, or you feel they’re taking advantage of your time and help, Maybe it’s just an early indication you’re not compatible because you have different values.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/23 04:05 PM
48	A growing number of women these days act like actual incels I paid for tickets on my first date with the guy I’m seeing. Beat him to the punch and when he protested I told him he could buy coffee afterwards. That’s continued to be the pattern. It’s polite to split costs. If one person in the relationship makes a lot more I think it’s appropriate for that person to take the lead on more expensive outings. Also, I just have a hard time with the all women want the top 20% of men thing. I’m not a model, and by the standards laid out on this sub I should be s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/23 01:50 AM
3	How are men supposed to meet women these days? There’s a certain cohort of men who sexually harass and assault women. If we’re not supposed to make snap judgement about every man being unsafe, doesn’t it cut both ways? I don’t want to get too in the weeds here but I’m really interested in the idea of a woman filing a harassment case against a man for doing what I described above. How often do you think that really happens? Has it happened to you or someone close to you? Did that complaint go anywhere? If I go to my university and file a titl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/23 01:24 AM
6	How are men supposed to meet women these days? I guess we just fundamentally disagree on the first point. I can only speak from personal experience but I don’t know many woman who would call someone a creep just for asking them out. It’s usually the refusal to back down or that they keep pursuing after that fact that gets someone that label. Context is important, too. I would say a very generalizable rule is to not cold approach if you see someone you don’t know walking alone in a somewhat deserted place.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/23 06:00 PM
0	How are men supposed to meet women these days? This just seems like a common thing across any number of other types of personal interactions. Everyone is a little different, culture and past experiences inform how we relate to others. Rejection is scary and it sucks and I get that, but it’s not a grand conspiracy amongst women, some of us like different approaches?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/23 05:38 PM
22	How are men supposed to meet women these days? If you politely ask a classmate for a drink or out to coffee, and accept her “no” if she declines , it will not lead to a Title IX complaint. Or it is so highly unlikely that you shouldn’t worry about it. Cover your bases and do it with a friend in ear shot so they can back you up, if it comes to that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/23 05:14 PM
42	Women Tend To Change Their "Tone" As They Lose Options What is the point of this exactly? There is nothing in that post about her dating experience and next to nothing as far as a backstory for her relationship with her child’s father. That post has like 5 comments, no one is cheering her or telling her she made all the right moves and “all men are trash!” She also doesn’t mention being on public assistance but I already see people in the comments on this post clambering to complain about that, too. If you happen to meet this person in real life you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/23 01:45 AM