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5

Instagram is not a big part of the game. Just go talk to women and be funny.
/r/seduction30/11/25 05:53 AM
11

Don’t ever begin a paragraph with “like”. You’re going in with weird checkpoints in your mind. Who thinks about dating, or interacting with women, as a means to get to second base? Weird guys. That’s who. (And also, I’m 99% sure you don’t actually know what second base means, because the way you say it makes me think you think it means getting out of the friend zone). If you can’t do it when you’re sober you probably can’t do it when you’re drunk. People tend to wear rose tinted goggles when the…
/r/seduction08/08/25 03:25 AM
1

The problem is that you’re lying, don’t continue the lie, if you wanted it to be true that bad it would’ve been. Instead of faking your life to impress women how about doing the things you think would impress women (even if you’re wrong).
/r/seduction30/07/25 01:39 AM
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My question is: do you have any male friends? If you’re focusing so hard on getting women it can come off as creepy, and if you have friends it becomes way more normal to talk to women. People talk about going up to women in the grocery store, but realistically that shit is for the most part dead. Both men and women are more insulated and antisocial than ever (cellphones). If you’re constantly improving yourself you’ve just gotta keep going, not for women, but for you. That is a more productive …
/r/seduction26/07/25 08:30 AM
3

It’s just about exposure. The more social situations you’re in the more you’re going to learn how to make them pleasant. Even if you’re awkward as long as you’re not easily embarrassed or the type of person who gets offended you can make most situations work and have fun. You definitely can become attractive, you’ve gotta really get your skincare/grooming down though, and obviously stay in the gym.
/r/seduction25/07/25 11:05 PM
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You’re fighting an uphill battle for sure. If I were you I would get really involved in a bunch of weekly events (find a trivia group, find a volleyball league, maybe try acting lessons). You’re going to have to have an awesome personality as a 5’2 guy, and you’re going to have to be very masculine presenting. Bars will be demotivating to you I think. You’ve gotta get into a ton of social situations and do your best in them. Give suggestions, be fun, be open, ask everyone around you questions ab…
/r/seduction25/07/25 08:59 PM
3

Lmao u r crazy. I’ve read that too. Does that mean that I’m not needy? Reading all the pickup books in the world won’t do anything. Have you ever considered that you might be a robotic guy? Not super fun to be around? Maybe read “How to be Fun”, problem solved.
/r/seduction11/07/25 01:21 AM
7

A little too enthusiastic is an understatement. You’re wondering how you messed it up and talk about how you’re flirting and enthusiastic and showing interest. Yet you knew this person and didn’t know she was married. Usually when someone wants to cheat on their spouse with you they make it a little easier. Honestly from what it sounds like (this post and your others) you seem like a bad guy. You’re upset with this woman because you didn’t get what you wanted. She is MARRIED and you say “I overl…
/r/seduction11/03/25 04:41 PM
5

If you just found out then you should go no contact. The only other consideration is whether or not to tell his spouse. He didn’t respect you enough to let you make the decision. He thinks you don’t deserve to know that he is MARRIED. He doesn’t love you or he would’ve told you. Don’t delude yourself, this guy is BAD.
/r/seduction08/03/25 08:31 AM
3

Just saying “all ideas and thought are original” doesn’t make it true. Also this is so corny.
/r/seduction25/02/25 08:24 PM
2

I’ve (27M) slept with somewhere in the neighborhood of 50 women, some gorgeous, some regrettable, to say the least. It’s meaningless. It’s not something to aspire to in and of itself. Not to invalidate your concern or anything, just giving my perspective. There’s nothing wrong with having a fun night and meeting someone and sleeping together. But when you make it a numbers game all you’re doing is putting undue pressure on yourself. You’ll let your standards slip a little, you’ll end up spending…
/r/seduction18/02/25 10:07 PM
7

Bro if you’re >23 and are asking how to hook up in cars without taking the girl on a date you’ve got bigger problems lmaooo
/r/seduction14/02/25 07:11 AM
0

You’re probs right but I think it’s funny lmao. This guy is clearly not of age to buy drinks or he would not be asking how to fuck in the car without a date. He is 1: broke, and 2: doesn’t live alone.
/r/seduction14/02/25 06:03 AM
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Bro this guy is clearly younger. Do you not remember the hunt when you were 18? Car sex is peak when you’ve got no other options. If he’s got multiple women who he’s flirting with over text on the reg I feel he doesn’t need to do super deliberate messages to frame it.
/r/seduction14/02/25 05:59 AM
7

Large log spittin game ong This guy knows car pussy
/r/seduction14/02/25 05:57 AM
1

If you’re “talking to” multiple women and they all seem interested in you, just ask them to hangout. Get milkshakes, make jokes, have a good time. If you’re attracted to them and they’re attracted to you it’s not hard at all, especially at the age when you’re desperate to fuck girls in your car lmao.
/r/seduction14/02/25 05:55 AM
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Stay scared. Continue blaming others. What is the risk? Is the 120 lbs 5’4” person going to kick your ass or publically humiliate you for thinking she’s pretty? The only real risk is that you’re being too much of a snowflake of a human being to approach a woman like almost every male from every species on this planet. Also, if you have to claim you’re the average dude you’re probably not the average dude.
/r/seduction11/02/25 03:41 PM
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It’s okay man, you’re just in your own head! She gave you her Snapchat because she thinks you’re cute, and wants to get to know you. It’s not a miracle, there’s no “somehow”. Even just being completely logical is better than what you’re doing to yourself. Do you think the world is throwing you tests in the form of women giving you their snapchats? That’s what your post says. Stop apologizing for everything, and stop feeling inferior to others (including women, and this girl). You are clearly a p…
/r/seduction11/01/25 08:59 AM
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U seem unhinged
/r/seduction26/10/24 06:20 AM
0

Are you referring to “real social dynamics”? Because that shit is also fake.
/r/seduction26/10/24 06:09 AM
6

I’m a tall white dude who gets a lot of attention at bars. If you approached me and were hideous I would not have the heart to not talk to you. In the past I was less confident, and moved to a city where I knew no one. That, in my opinion, led me to want to talk to literally anyone. I was even hunting for dudes to become friends with. I think that most guys are really looking for a connection, and giving them a spark by approaching them could go a long way. Western culture constantly pushes peop…
/r/seduction19/10/24 07:36 AM
51

Indeed an odd yak. Busy yes, attract a girl to you no. You just gotta talk to them, get over the hump.
/r/seduction06/10/24 06:24 AM
2

Lots of unhelpful/patronizing stuff in here. I’m not saying this to be negative, but saying you have moderate autism might be a crutch. Just because you are awkward does not mean you have “moderate” autism. Severe (often syndromic/monogenetic) autism very frequently leads to someone who is nonverbal with serious mental disability (can’t say R word even though that’s what is appropriate in the scientific literature, disability doesn’t capture what I’m talking about). Mental disability is also com…
/r/seduction23/09/24 06:15 PM
2

Only thing that matters. You can’t control how she feels. If you think she’s into you, and you are into her, go for it. I guarantee from this post OP is <30. Why not ask her to get a drink after work? Especially if you’re having regular convos with her. You can hang out and get a better idea of if she likes you, and you don’t have to sit in limbo wondering.
/r/seduction03/08/24 08:23 AM
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“How do I realistically approach 100 girls in public tomorrow?” Just do it, it’s going to blow, but if this is what you want to do then you’re going to have to just do it. It takes courage. “Will I get kicked out of the store or reported in some way?” If you’re not a creep (socially awkward + unattractive) then you will not. “Will I get a reputation in my neighborhood as a creep or weirdo?” Same answer as last time. But also realistically if you are sitting in a target in a small ish area (<50k …
/r/seduction01/08/24 02:08 AM
2

It’s probably about being yourself. I have the opposite experience, every time I’ve had a girl around my friends they’ve gotten significantly more interested in me, even when they didn’t like the friends. Alternatively you could come off as a jackass around your friends, or even alone. Maybe the jokes are not funny, etc.
/r/seduction22/07/24 01:31 PM
15

This is general advice. Texting too much makes you seem unmanly and needy. If you set up a date, and she’s actually interested, she will save the date and you can check in like once a week/once every couple days. The reason for this is because men don’t get as much attention as women do. You texting a ton, to her, seems like you’re super invested, and you haven’t even met yet.
/r/seduction18/07/24 11:25 PM
5

Very cool and relevant
/r/seduction14/07/24 06:46 AM
4

Why try to make it work when you could find someone you also like that is equally interested in you?
/r/seduction11/06/24 03:40 PM
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Not going to be a lot of people, but there’s nothing stopping you from trying. There are 50 year old men who are extremely promiscuous, and very successful at it. The thing is it’s more based on money and power than looks and game, especially if you haven’t cultivated those skills yet.
/r/seduction07/06/24 01:05 AM
3

The comment you commented on is saying they should fuck in a public place I think. OP is specifically asking about hookup
/r/seduction06/06/24 03:19 PM
8

During sex
/r/seduction06/06/24 01:28 PM
10

It’s a dude
/r/seduction06/06/24 12:53 AM
3

The worst that could happen is she doesn’t want to. If she doesn’t want to then she’s either afraid of rushing things, but will still be interested in you (usually they will say this immediately), or she’s uninterested. Either way the outcome is good for you, you know where you stand.
/r/seduction02/06/24 08:38 PM
1

You’re the one posting on Reddit: “Why do I only pull fat girls?” Your response probably has something to do with it, you probably have an obnoxious personality. If you ask a question? It’s best if you don’t get defensive about answers. If you think they’re wrong, give examples as to why, don’t be sarcastic, this makes you seem like a mega dweeb seeking validation from strangers on the internet. And since you are clearly looking for validation, rather than feedback, you probably don’t have a goo…
/r/seduction17/05/24 11:13 PM
2

Could also be that you’re only interested in girls outside of your league, and they realize that they are
/r/seduction13/05/24 09:19 PM
1

The best place to live is somewhere you’re going to be happy man. If you hate cities, you’re not going to do well with women living in a big urban city like NYC. If you love college sports and don’t make a ton of money it can be great to live in bigger college towns (not usually incredibly expensive, and there will be stuff for you to do and meet women doing). If you love outdoorsy stuff you could think about moving to a city that has a population which is going to skew outdoorsy (Nashville, Cha…
/r/seduction30/04/24 09:12 PM
1

<100k isn’t really a small town, I grew up in a town of 1300. The answer in that case is to move, you have to have good logistics. <100k you’re probably best off working on your dating profiles, or going to bars.
/r/seduction30/04/24 10:48 AM
1

I don’t know if he could be more blunt, maybe you are socially awkward? Try acting classes to build character!
/r/seduction12/04/24 09:33 PM
11

Stop trying to get “her” to be very attracted to you, and start trying to be very attractive. This includes: putting effort into your appearance (gym, style, grooming), being ambitious and working towards something you want, becoming confident and hopefully charismatic.
/r/seduction25/03/24 03:12 PM
2

Just draw diff faces on your hand
/r/seduction20/03/24 12:31 PM
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Only times I’ve been called pretty they have wanted to sleep with me, usually referring to my eyes. You might have some appreciable feminine features that they’re into, like nice eyes, eyelashes, hair, etc.
/r/seduction04/10/22 07:21 PM
3

Been here, really have. Was super unhappy with my life and insecure at the time, every girl i went on a date seemed like the one, because I didn’t have many options. If you really want to become less insecure and more happy, get off tinder, get in the gym, buy clothes you think look good on you. Work on yourself for a month, don’t think about getting women for that time period. Afterwards, you will be looking and feeling better. Parlay this boost in confidence into night/day game. Put in the tim…
/r/seduction22/09/22 04:45 AM
1

Man lots of chodey comments here about fulfillment etc. Have any of you ever had friends? Women you fuck can also be friends. It is fun to go out with them, and spend time with them, and have sex with them. Not everyones life has to live to your standards of fulfillment, if op likes his lifestyle then he likes his lifestyle.
/r/seduction11/09/22 11:55 PM
28

I think the sexual psychology behind this is neck exposure, signaling vulnerability/inviting interaction.
/r/seduction03/09/22 06:30 PM
16

Idk I do this to women, for me I’m pretty clear about not wanting committed relationships initially so I feel like the responsibility is theirs to get out of the relationship if they don’t like the arrangement. I have done the getting out before when the girl starts getting too clingy/attached. It’s just hard for me, possibly for them as well.
/r/seduction10/08/22 11:58 PM
2

Since most of the approach stuff has been addressed, I will add something on the ghosting. It’s likely that you’re getting ghosted either because you’re not good in bed or you’re not interesting or fun to be around. I am not saying that you’re not interesting or fun, but if you were these things around women you’re sleeping with they would 99% of the time not ghost you, even if you weren’t good in bed. To address these issues, outside of approaching and trying to me more open in social settings,…
/r/seduction07/08/22 06:35 PM
1

Number 3 is not true lmao
/r/seduction23/07/22 10:05 PM
1

This is actually pretty accurate from my experience. A good breakdown
/r/seduction07/07/22 03:10 AM
1

Women see you with a hot woman, they immediately think you’re a hot guy, because women have much more elaborate criteria for attraction than men. They see you with her, they think: “if I can get with him that makes me as attractive as she is”.
/r/seduction26/06/22 03:23 AM
1

Use it as leverage to get more.
/r/seduction24/06/22 01:21 PM
1

This is right, the condom being too tight makes it ridiculously hard to get off. My first time I decided to get Trojan Enz, thinking they were normal size condoms, we broke 3 and my dick turned purple ish red. I would say go for SKYNs, and if that doesn’t work go for magnums or another larger condom.
/r/seduction14/04/22 02:40 PM
1

Do you night game as well?
/r/seduction11/04/22 09:50 PM
1

I think the point of a pua boot camp is the social pressure associated with approaching women. I’ve always found it easier to approach when I have social pressure from friends to go do it, especially since it gives you plausible deniability when you fail.
/r/seduction04/04/22 11:49 AM
1

There’s always the strat of recruiting her to help you pull other chicks. Also when you do this it often turns out they don’t have a boyfriend after all, and seeing you succeed with other girls makes them a lot more open to the idea of talking to you
/r/seduction02/04/22 12:55 AM
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I survey the likes. Any dude who dared like the pic, or worse commented something like “🔥🔥🔥”, receives a DM of me intensely staring into my camera, barking at them.
/r/seduction02/02/22 12:18 PM
1

You fake it til you make it by practicing. Go out and talk to women, flirt, figure out what works for you. The worst thing that can happen is you continue not doing anything and continue not getting laid/having meaningful relationships with people you want to have meaningful relationships with. The second worse thing that can happen is rejection, and really this is also the best thing that can happen to you, because becoming numb to rejection will prepare you for a lot of things in life.
/r/seduction02/02/22 03:13 AM
1

Don’t, just go out and meet people, it’s more fulfilling and way more fruitful.
/r/seduction31/01/22 10:56 AM
1

Comment of the year right here everyone
/r/seduction25/01/22 03:27 PM
3

Not sure what you’re asking here, but I’m just going to say that you need to try whatever makes sense to you. If you don’t become good at conversation, you’re still going to be bad if you ever meet this girl.
/r/seduction25/01/22 03:22 PM
1

Most likely you’re going to have to exposure therapy yourself into being okay with it. You’re going to have to go out and talk to strangers until it’s not uncomfortable to you. It’s really hard at first but once done it’s an extremely rewarding experience, it makes you better at all aspects of social life.
/r/seduction25/01/22 03:20 PM
1

All about communication brother. Unless you’re very experienced or have an abnormally girthy piece you’re going to want to get used to asking women what they like and what feels good during sex. It will be invaluable in the future, so just do it.
/r/seduction19/01/22 02:06 AM
6

As someone who is also 6’4”, height is a pretty big advantage. You are probably just very thin and awkward.
/r/seduction18/01/22 11:50 PM
7

A chubby girl is the only one who has given me a toothy bj, this is not ubiquitous.
/r/seduction15/01/22 07:26 AM
1

If she’s putting herself into your personal space and smiling touch her arm or grab her hand or something. If it works amp it up, if it doesn’t pull back. Repeat process.
/r/seduction15/01/22 02:43 AM
10

Ask her what her favorite sex position is
/r/seduction15/01/22 02:40 AM
0

Really from my experience talking to other dudes who have this problem, it’s still about confidence. If you are present in the conversation, instead of in your head, it’s not that hard to be witty and make people laugh. So, like others have said, listen.
/r/seduction15/01/22 01:40 AM
3

After college I moved to a new city and had no friends for a while, also wasn’t sarging. Honestly pickup has made me into a much more socially confident person, and I’ve made a lot of male and female friends through trying to get laid. Once you get over the fear of talking to women, the fear of talking to men kind of subsided as well. Also, if you’re good with women dudes will value you a shit ton. I have probs like 6 dude friends who have become friends with me because I can be a good wingman.
/r/seduction14/01/22 02:33 AM
1

This is the point. You have to be honest about what you want. If they catch feelings and want more usually you being honest will only reinforce the FWB status. Girls chase what they can’t have, and you not deeming them appropriate for a LTR will generally make them more attracted to you, as they will desire your approval. Also, it’s destructive to lead people on, and it will only lead to you hurting their feelings, which should be avoided if you can. Women have the right to want a LTR and if tha…
/r/seduction05/01/22 07:51 PM
2

I mean this is just something you’re going to have to figure out, not just for this situation but for like all others. Learning how to physically escalate in a natural and receptive way is important, I say that because if your perception is “I know she’s the type to not say anything even if she’s super uncomfortable, so I’m not sure where to stop.” I think that is indicative that you’re either tone deaf or unexperienced, the latter most likely being true. You don’t want her to ever have to say t…
/r/seduction03/01/22 07:35 PM
8

You’re giving us a very incomplete picture to go off. It really depends on the type of texting and calling you do, but if you were once almost dating and she still talks to you regularly there are two possibilities. She either thinks of you as a very close friend, or is still interested in you and would be really happy if you made a move. It will probably be pretty obvious, once you are in person with one another, which one of these situations is the case, especially if you’re staying together. …
/r/seduction03/01/22 06:36 PM
6

If I go out I’d say I get approached an average of 0.5 times per night, and do end up having a lot of people (guys and girls) talking to me even if it’s not an “approach”. I don’t really understand it but I can guess. I tend to smile/laugh a lot when I’m drunk and also make eye contact with lots of people while smiling. This probably comes off as an invitation to come talk to me. I mean think about it, how much more do you feel compelled to talk to a girl you see in public if she makes eye conta…
/r/seduction03/01/22 06:27 PM
1

Completely depends what you want in a partner and what you’re attracted to. Another important thing to consider is the fact that you will be exponentially more successful with dating if you’re happy where you are. Happiness and life satisfaction bleed into everything else, and so does depression and dissatisfaction. So, things to consider. What kinds of women am I interested in? Party girls? Go to a big city where there is a thriving night life scene. Outdoorsy girls? Greenville would be great f…
/r/seduction03/01/22 06:17 PM
1

Probably get a doctorate and try to contribute meaningfully to society. And maybe a lot of drugs.
/r/seduction10/12/21 12:47 AM
1

I feel like not having any friends is a big sign that you’re either socially anxious or a loner, both of which are not attractive qualities to other human beings in general. What you should do (I have been in the same position after moving to a new city where I knew no one) is either try to meet new people through hobbies, for me these were sports like volleyball and disc golf, or going out and essentially just cold approaching everyone, including dudes, to make friends. For you the hobbies coul…
/r/seduction11/08/21 01:42 PM
1

I mean tbf, if you are working evenings, you could go out after work. Also, the grocery store during the day, there you will be exposed to many women who are likely working your hours, that’s why they’re grocery shopping during the day.
/r/seduction11/05/21 02:53 PM
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