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Escalation & Calibrationherbdean00/r/seduction18/06/24 02:58 AM
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I mean, the obvious example is, you meet a girl, things go really well, then out of nowhere she just wants to be friends, invites you to hang out with that framing. Based on the quote you're referring to, in most cases the man he described would tell the girl "no" since he wants more than just friends, instead of abandoning himself and going to see her anyway with the hope that she'll change her mind.
/r/seduction26/03/26 12:28 AM
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What can you do if you DON'T like to be visible in such a way? Is there any hope? I agree with what you're saying - women are attracted to men who are known already for something - but selling myself online and doing something visibly well is very challenging for me.
/r/seduction25/02/26 12:27 AM
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You have to remember the regret you feel when you freeze up and don't do it. You'll probably never get another chance to approach the same girl again. Pick an approach style that isn't so hard. Literally smile and say hey how are you and see how they respond. If they respond cold, you have an answer. If they respond normally then have a conversation and ask to keep in touch.
/r/seduction12/03/25 03:30 PM
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Friends first is not a bad idea per say, just as long as it's not something she's straight up saying to you. Better to be her friend first through actions if you really care for her. But that she's saying it to you on a dating app is not promising, not just because you want more than that. But because of what it shows about her, honesty. If she really really liked you do you think she would be saying that? Do you think she's saying that to every guy? It's possible she just wants your attention, …
/r/seduction08/11/24 12:17 PM
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I genuinely think their app is broken and is banning people left right in the center. Check out the better Business bureau website for hinge. There are thousands of people who are complaining about it. I think they have an algorithm or something. That just bans people. To be successful on the app I think you need the subscription. You will get so few wipes without it. Definitely I was getting multiple matches per day. And I'm not crazy good looking by any means lol. But I do have a decent profil…
/r/seduction05/11/24 03:16 PM
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If you have the option, try regular therapy. Not for anything in particular. I think what you're describing is something related to a baseline of how you're feeling. So once you feel really secure in yourself the baseline of how you feel will be higher than what it is currently. So even if a beautiful woman it doesn't work with her you might not feel great but your baseline will be higher than what it is now. And I'm not saying I'm succeeded in this. I'm on the journey as well. But the confidenc…
/r/seduction05/11/24 01:56 PM
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Hinge did really well for me. In fact, the amount of matches I was getting was higher than ever before and then guess what? I got banned. And it really made my dating life much worse. So yes Hinge works, But there are thousands of stories across the internet of people who got arbitrarily banned by the fascist company. Other than that I find everything else pretty weak. Tinder is literally for models. Bumble I almost get no matches. I think it's similar to tinder. I've tried a couple off-brand da…
/r/seduction05/11/24 01:52 PM
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It doesn't sound like you are making your intent clear romantically. But honestly you need to shift your perspective to one of abundance. And also having some understanding of the laws of attraction. So the woman you're putting an effort for is not interested in you funny how that works right. We want what we can't have. You are making yourself available it's not attractive. So what you need to do instead is to put yourself in proximity with other women talk to them and get their numbers try to …
/r/seduction31/10/24 11:06 PM
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The one thing i will say is it seems generally unlikely that a woman will want to come over for a first meeting (assuming it was your first meeting here which I think it is from your details). I ran a pretty big sample size where I was inviting chicks over off dating apps and it just didn't work. Now I might be a bit older than you and also I'm not sure I could rate myself as an eight or above. And we know that women on dating apps have so many options. However once or twice in my sample size it…
/r/seduction31/10/24 09:57 PM
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This is one reason I do day game. Literally approaching women in the streets. Hi how are you. It's that simple. See which wants to make conversation. Less shit testing, don't have to pay for club or bar.
/r/seduction22/10/24 08:22 PM
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Being anything other than calm and collected is unattractive. So if you get too excited (extreme laughter) or angry or nervous or frustrated. It's okay to smile and chuckle just don't overdo it let it be because you amused yourself.
/r/seduction15/10/24 08:25 PM
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I agree with not being too specific. In fact if they try to get more out of you keep being vague it will increase mystery and attraction.
/r/seduction14/10/24 03:03 PM
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Maybe consider being comfortable in silence for a moment, or, amuse yourself, google something from the menu or something you guys talked about. "Oh that's what that is."
/r/seduction20/09/24 05:40 AM
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Hot take. It doesn't really matter what you say. "Hi how are you?" You need to see how they will react to your initial approach. You can say the smoothest coolest thing but if you don't have a playful, carefree, attractive energy, it doesn't matter. Or, she has a boyfriend. Yes, try different lines and such and find what works for you. But just remember it's all about how receptive she is, doesn't really matter what you say. Me? I open with a hi how are you? See what she says. Does she say "good…
/r/seduction16/09/24 02:56 PM
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I'm in a similar boat. Here's what I would recommend. Don't try so hard. Let the woman come to you. And do this with as many women as possible. Slowly but surely they will start bubbling to the surface and will start wanting to see you. It's okay if you're not her top option at first. Play it cool. Let her miss you. Let her situationship end and she will start looking at her options again and the mystery you've left will make her intrigued by you. Anything can come off as needy. Being too intere…
/r/seduction16/09/24 02:47 PM
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Could you share some examples? Thanks
/r/seduction16/09/24 02:58 AM
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Check out Peter on TikTok. I think his account is just called Game
/r/seduction16/09/24 02:03 AM
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Hey, could you expand on the text game and some examples?
/r/seduction15/09/24 03:28 AM
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Hello, how long do you think it takes for someone to get that genuine high self esteem through the ways you mentioned? Are there any resources you'd recommend? thanks
/r/seduction15/09/24 03:17 AM
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Hello, I have the same issue. What's your end result, do you still go after girls? I'm chronically single and where I live is populated so I don't know why I wouldn't talk to girls but understanding this trauma has been a strange experience. If one feels unworthy should they be cold approaching women in the first place? I guess just being very aware of this trauma can help, little by little.
/r/seduction15/09/24 03:11 AM
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Very lucky to still be young and in school where there are infinite opportunities to speak to women. You need to talk to her and say "hey I just wanted to say hi, I've noticed you in x and y classes." It doesn't matter if you don't want a committed relationship. You're just talking and working on your social skills. Maybe you can be friends with her. And other girls will see you talking to her. Also it doesn't matter if she's from well to do and you're not.
/r/seduction07/05/24 12:21 PM
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A girl in the elevator said that to me but as I was making conversation she was also asking me questions back. Unfortunately I only had a brief time to chat with her and didn't ask her out then and there which I regret.
/r/seduction11/04/24 05:46 PM
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I'm pretty new to game but here's what I'm doing this weekend. I have two coffee first dates with two separate women. I know of two shawarma places nearby where we're getting coffee. First date is coffee and a bookstore. We both love books. Seems like a nice idea. 15 minute walk away is a shawarma place so there's 3 places to hit up. Second first date coffee date also a coffee place near another shawarma spot. In both cases I'm also thinking "do I like her enough to take her for a shawarma" so I…
/r/seduction05/04/24 12:40 AM
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