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| 3 | What exactly should one change or improve upon if they're called "too nice" as a negative?I'd definitely recommend checking out that book I mentioned in another comment then. When you start getting in your head about social stuff, every little interaction that doesn't go "perfect" gets magnified in hindsight. The shitty thing is you're the only one scoring the interactions so you're the only one fretting about it afterwards. It's ok to have doubts and insecurities, but it's when we let them factor in our decision-making that the downward spiral happens. That book talks about how to p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 07:32 PM |
| 2 | What exactly should one change or improve upon if they're called "too nice" as a negative?There's a very good book about shame called "I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn't)" by Brene Brown. It's written for women, but I read it and it was life-changing. If you deal with insecurities, I'd highly recommend it, brother. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 07:20 PM |
| 5 | What exactly should one change or improve upon if they're called "too nice" as a negative?There's probably a lot of insecurity then. What are the things you are insecure about? (Sorry to put you on the spot but its throwaway so wtf right?) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 07:06 PM |
| 13 | What exactly should one change or improve upon if they're called "too nice" as a negative?Yes, this is it. I don't want to make assumptions about you, OP, but often people who feel like they were raised to "be nice" see that as more important than standing up for what is important to them. As to what you should stop doing, I don't think it's that you should "stop" doing anything. You're a nice person, that's great! Start becoming more aware of your feelings and get comfortable vocalizing them with the people around you without worrying about how they will be perceived because I'm goi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 06:59 PM |
| 7 | I don’t see the appeal of marriageDude you've got to be young. Clean the gutters? Once a year. Paint the windows? Like every 10 years, maybe. Change the tires?? Why would a man take that deal? lol Not to be the old guy here but when you have a partner it doesn't work like this. If my wife feels like I'm not helping around the house enough and it's bothering her, she's going to tell me. And because she's my wife and I care about her feelings, we are going to talk about how I can help. And if I've got other stuff going on that I f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 04:23 PM |
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