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| 29 | Are you ladies familiar with Dr. Christiane Northrup? She has a theory that puberty causes a kind of "temporary insanity" that causes us to put ourselves last, but at menopause, we go back to thinking of ourselves, just like men do :-) | DISCUSSION | herp_derp_hag | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 10:40 AM |
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| 77 | Don't ever move for a manExactly, that girl doesn't know it yet but she is SO, SO lucky! She can start her new life and education in Germany without anybody holding her back. Amazing luck for her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 12:55 PM |
| 1 | Ladies! Here I present psycho fiancé version 3.5.8 who tried to cut his future wife’s birth control insert out of her arm using Box cutters while she was fast asleep.Aw, I'm sorry to hear that. Hope you are feeling better! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 08:10 AM |
| 5 | Whats your non fds standards ?Honestly FDS is gonna disagree but I have nothing against blue-collar careers. I would date a carpenter, plumber or electrician any time. Probably because I used to work in the trades myself. Of course a good percentage of them are undereducated alcoholics JUST LIKE ANY OTHER PROFESSION so as usual, apply standards :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 08:40 AM |
| 6 | Nerd culture and adults who refuse to grow upYou. Are. Adorable. And spelling everything correctly while drunk? GOALS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 08:36 AM |
| 5 | Are you ladies familiar with Dr. Christiane Northrup? She has a theory that puberty causes a kind of "temporary insanity" that causes us to put ourselves last, but at menopause, we go back to thinking of ourselves, just like men do :-)Happy to talk about it! What would you like to know? It does have downsides, mainly my skin is drier and thinner than before, and I'm pretty sure my brain works just a bit slower. But the upsides are huge. My periods used to go on for WEEKS and were totally debilitating. It is SUCH a relief not to have to lose all that blood anymore. I save so much on tampons and pads and ruined underwear, ha ha. And I was always rabidly against having children so that was never a conflict or a regret for me. Wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 09:55 PM |
| 4 | Listen up: A few dates, or mere texting is not enough to determine if a man is HVM!Same, one year is when the "trial period" ends IMO. Now WHY I stayed with so many terrible quality guys AFTER that, who the hell knows! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 09:17 AM |
| 7 | Listen up: A few dates, or mere texting is not enough to determine if a man is HVM!BINGO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 09:16 AM |
| 18 | Why do LVM shame promiscuous women, but at the same time expect every woman to sleep with them???🤔Mumble mumble something about "locks" and "keys" and some sort of ridiculous nonsense that justifies their position | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 08:34 AM |
| 14 | i can’t imagine how miserable this girl is. holy shitThat HAD to be written by a man. Trying to get us to lower our standards. Edit: read all the other comments to see that we all realized the same thing. BOOYA! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 07:49 AM |
| 5 | It really is hard out here 😣Oof. I'm in this picture and I don't like it ha ha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 07:44 AM |
| 35 | Do you girls find it funny how days, weeks, months can easily go by before you ever see a guy that’s even slightly attractive enough to take double take?You... are not wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 07:42 AM |
| 8 | He doesn’t necessarily prefer that you “don’t wear makeup”: he’d just hate that you might expect anything from him."has never owned an intact pair of underpants in his life" HA HA HA HA | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 07:41 AM |
| 8 | Thanks, from a widowI'm so very sorry for your loss. It's good that you're here because the dating world is a SHITSHOW. If you're not used to it you may be very shocked and disappointed, OR think a lot of this behavior is normal or acceptable since it's literally EVERYWHERE. Bonus: please be very careful letting any men you are dating near your child. There ARE creeps out there who specifically target single moms in order to get close to the kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 07:36 AM |
| 13 | Lightbulb moment about my STBXH's mistress. Thanks, FDS!Either that or your ex is super-controlling and anxious to rub it in your face how he has a new 22-year old (YUCK!) who will do ANYTHING for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 07:25 AM |
| 9 | Woman finds out dirty dick husband is cheating with his mistress again. She sues the Pickmeisha mistress AND she sues her husband since he bought a condo to use as a love shack. Looks like the condo will be going bye bye.If you cut and paste the first paragraph of the text in the post into a search engine you will find it, but be warned, that other site is nearly unreadable with all the extra stuff following you all over the page as you scroll :-/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 11:35 PM |
| 4 | A rant about some things i've learned while getting back into datingYou packed a metric fucktonne of "learning experience" into two short weeks and I thank you for posting! I appreciate every red flag you mentioned ESPECIALLY about a guy living with his parents. What a lazy lump you nearly got stuck with! Thank fuck you wised up in only two weeks! Good for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 09:43 PM |
| 7 | First FDS EncounterThat's great! I just wanted to mention, don't be discouraged if your help doesn't "take" right away, as you may know it often takes a woman an average of 7 tries to finally get out of a bad relationship. Don't be surprised if she goes back to him a few times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 09:30 PM |
| 40 | The look on his face was worth every pennyWowee he just keeps getting better. Good for you for getting out of that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 03:45 PM |
| 8 | I don't argue with men. Not over anything, for any reason.I'm over 50 and it's glorious. No more having my time wasted by overtestosteroned showoffs! Only respectful give and take and exchange of ideas with BOTH genders (yes, some men ARE capable of being friends/working together with women). Also, menopause? RULES. Not even kidding! Don't believe the hype! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 03:40 PM |
| 37 | The look on his face was worth every pennyGet ready for him to try and go back to the courthouse and lower your support payments, assuming there are any :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 03:35 PM |
| 3 | Even The Instant Pot community on Facebook has too many "bumbling can't cook husband" stories..It's been three years and I'M fuming on your behalf. What a fucktard! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 03:37 PM |
| 15 | Romantic movies that are FDS horror moviesOooh yeah that one is super-cringe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 03:22 PM |
| 14 | One way it could have happened...That explains SO MUCH ha ha ha! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 03:16 PM |
| 12 | Guy said he had a night planned and needed a date... for a sex club. Needless to say, BLOCKED.What, sex clubs? Yeah they do exist and actually you will never find a place where women's boundaries are MORE clearly understood and respected. That doesn't stop some creeps from trying to weasel their way in anyway though:-) Edited to add: I went to one just to see what all the fuss was about and it was super-boring and not my scene at all, one of those things you can do once but never need to do again ha ha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 03:14 PM |
| 38 | Guy said he had a night planned and needed a date... for a sex club. Needless to say, BLOCKED.Exactly, he is basically asking her to be his "beard" so he can get into the sex club. Where's the clown-face emoji?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 09:17 AM |
| 10 | Any stories about how toxic exes are doing years after?REPOSTING BECAUSE I ACCIDENTALLY TYPED SOME SLURS I was unfortunately brought up to think that I should give every guy a "chance" if he was "nice" enough to show interest in me. That's how I ended up with a LONG string of ATROCIOUS men. The worst one was openly alcoholic AND a drug user who could not hold a job because of his attitude toward "authority". He ended up SHOOTING AT ME and yet, somehow, I did NOT CALL THE COPS, instead I packed up my shit and moved out of the apartment that I paid fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 06:58 AM |
| 6 | Any stories about how toxic exes are doing years after?Your comment resonated with me so much that I posted my own story about my abusive ex who is now dead. YAY us for being survivors and to hell with those dudes! Wish we hadn't wasted so much of our time on them though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 06:50 AM |
| 24 | when this sub isn’t criticizing women it’s begging for female validation 💀Yeah, "women" ha ha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 05:40 PM |
| 11 | There are more fish in the sea, but lots of trash as wellFrom my experience there are at least 10x as many really good quality women as there are good quality men and I honestly don't believe each of us is going to find a good man. It really makes me sad. But you can't always get everything you want, and I'd rather be alone forever than waste my time and resources on a useless lump of underemployed gamer who doesn't share my goals or help me reach them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 09:57 PM |
| 18 | Yeah that's what I thought he was getting at 🤮Unfortunately they would probably love it :-/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 07:25 AM |
| 6 | Idea for women who “attract” bad menI'm with you on the height thing; I'm 5' 6" and have dated guys from 6' 4" to 5' 3". If it's not a problem for THEM it's not a problem for me! :-) And I couldn't agree more on hygiene. Good grooming is so important! Nice hands, YES! Not to forget nice forearms and ankles, ha ha, show me a good set of forearms in a rolled up dress shirt sleeve and I am TOAST! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:42 AM |
| 15 | Idea for women who “attract” bad menSo what type of list are you thinking of? Like "things to watch out for when you're messaging a guy"? I have a very firm list of dealbreakers and won't even meet a man who doesn't meet these standards: He must be childfree and a nonsmoker. He cannot be addicted to weed, alcohol, porn or video games He must have a job or at least a good work ethic (if he's unemployed due to corona he should at least be studying or volunteering). I need to find him physically attractive, for me that means at least… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:29 AM |
| 37 | I got the job!!That's amazing and we're all super proud of you. You say your father is abusive, you may want to be on the lookout for him trying to sabotage your new, better life. Basically lay low and quietly collect all your important papers/certificates in a place you can easily get to them and he can't. Do you already have your own bank account that he has NO access to? Make double sure about that. It's not unheard of for narc parents to clean out their kids' account and/or take out credit cards in their n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:05 AM |
| 19 | Instead of sending this reply, I blocked him. Not spending time on guys who don’t do the basics.Pretty much 100% of the time the word "consultant" actually means "unemployed". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 07:06 PM |
| 1 | What do you do when a man is late?I hope you blocked him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 08:58 AM |
| 6 | What originally attracted you to your LVM/NVM ex?LOL love this answer! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 08:45 AM |
| 5 | What originally attracted you to your LVM/NVM ex?As much work as some guys put into keeping up that faking, they could just channel the energy into ACTUAL PROGRESS and be so much further along! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 08:41 AM |
| 7 | My country just introduced new rules for going to a restaurant/bar. You are required to leave your name and contact details. I foresee trouble for vulnerable women and luck for LVMOP isn't worried about dating, she's concerned about her info being used by employees or nearby dudes. I do go out to eat where I live, the tables are outside and everyone's wearing a mask. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 05:09 AM |
| 2 | My country just introduced new rules for going to a restaurant/bar. You are required to leave your name and contact details. I foresee trouble for vulnerable women and luck for LVMWe are doing that where I live for some weeks now. I do think contact tracing is important so I just scribble a random address and then my throwaway EMAIL instead of a phone number. If anybody finds my email I don't care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 05:07 AM |
| 12 | This is why we should never play housewife (especially besides a job)Yeah it is shocking to me how totally unashamed they are to be basically a useless lump on the couch. I'd be MORTIFIED to be taking advantage of my partner like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 03:30 PM |
| 10 | This is why we should never play housewife (especially besides a job)Ugh, I was so sure that post must be fake, but then I realized... we've all been there :-( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 03:25 PM |
| 28 | This is why we should never play housewife (especially besides a job)For real. And how much do you want to bet she's losing sexual attraction to him by the second. Whiny manchildren are the least sexy thing on earth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 03:23 PM |
| 6 | Has anyone else here been banned from r/sex for no reason?OMG YES! r/houseplants gives me life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 03:20 PM |
| 7 | I'm severely limiting my life due to risk of deepfakesWell on the upside as the other commenter said, now if there IS any 'incriminating' video of you floating around the internet you can just say someone deepfaked you :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 07:35 AM |
| 9 | Trigger warning for extreme cringe lmao someone Is mad their ex wife moved on and is in love.Oh thank you! I hope it goes well for her but I've dated a lot of musicians and that usually isn't such a great idea ha ha! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 07:32 AM |
| 16 | I'm severely limiting my life due to risk of deepfakesTechnology has now gotten to the point where someone can "photoshop" your face onto the body of someone else in a VIDEO, in a sex video for example, then go around claiming it's you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 07:22 AM |
| 7 | My roommate is on a break wiith his gf and wants me as a rebound. Plot twist, we all live together with our 3 other roommates.Agreed, I have ALWAYS had male roomies and this kind of shit has never, ever, happened to me. Poor OP got very unlucky with her housing situation. OP if you're reading this, you can STOP even trying to explain anything to the dude, he does not care about your reasons for not letting him 'hit it'. Unfortunately if he doesn't move out, you may have to. What an uncomfortable spot to be in! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 07:12 AM |
| 23 | “I don’t have a child”Wowwwwww, not just a liar, but a shitty Dad as well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 07:00 AM |
| 5 | Would you simply block a guy like this?It doesn't matter so much what we all think, if YOU are feeling weird about the guy then yes you should block him, nobody would judge you for that at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:57 AM |
| 9 | Anxiety over reputation as pickmeishaI'm way older than you and I'm here to tell you it will shock you how much people DO NOT CARE about your breakup or any of the reasons behind it. Don't worry at all about what people are thinking of you. Just go ahead in life with your eye on the prize (your degree) and don't let yourself be distracted by petty people. You're already well on the way! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:54 AM |
| 4 | The truest words my ex has spoken to me after several years of him jerking me aroundYou sound amazing. I hope the next step in your leveling up process will be to block this guy who does not add anything positive to your life. Remember, the more time we waste on people who hold us back, the less time we have to better ourselves and meet better people! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:50 AM |
| 3 | Trigger warning for extreme cringe lmao someone Is mad their ex wife moved on and is in love.I'm glad you asked this; I'm way out of the loop as well :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:44 AM |
| 15 | Trigger warning for extreme cringe lmao someone Is mad their ex wife moved on and is in love.I'm old and way out of the loop, mind telling me who the tattooed guy is? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:43 AM |
| 13 | Although I’ve always had the mentality, reading the Handbook shed so much light. How do I refrain from hating men with a passion and being mean/bitchy when they fuck up.Same, the men I have been meeting are such a tidal wave of disappointment and entitlement that I had to just stop before I became permanently embittered. I definitely can't meet a good man when I'm feeling that way, so I just take breaks from even trying. It's exhausting out there! EDIT: also, LOL at your poll! :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 06:21 AM |
| 14 | Reading this post felt like getting hit by a semi-truck, because I’m pretty sure I know the “threesome partner”, and just a few days ago he was telling me he “loves” me.This is just so weird to me, I cannot imagine a universe in which I would WANT to be choked. "Breath play"? THAT'S what they're calling it these days? Ugh. Sorry OP, that observation has nothing to do with the reason for your post, I just had to chime in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 06:13 AM |
| 97 | Back on dating apps and forgotten how BORING most men are.Another FDS'er noted that "U wan sum fuk?" is exactly 12 characters :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 06:01 PM |
| 11 | “I wAS GoInG tHrOuGh SoMe StUfF PeRsOnAlLy”Oy veh! She's lucky nobody's called HR for all the sexual harassment going on over there! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 06:37 AM |
| 82 | Guy from OLD gets angry because I didn’t have sex with him after 2 weeks and 4 dates of knowing him.“When do you think you’ll feel comfortable having sex with me?” I can't even. Talk about AUDACITY! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 06:32 AM |
| 24 | “I wAS GoInG tHrOuGh SoMe StUfF PeRsOnAlLy”They're not even married yet and already they're "opening up the relationship"? Oh, THIS is going to go well for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 06:29 AM |
| 4 | What is your action plan for getting out of a date early? / Why you definitely need one.That is exactly why I usually do coffee dates as a first meeting, even though it goes against FDS principles. If I like the guy we can go on a "real" date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 01:48 AM |
| 17 | Sneak attacksI'm in your age group too and jeez, the men our age are so unappealing! They're either successful in life and super-smug about it and love to boast all night long about how wonderful they are, or they're unsuccessful in life and horribly bitter and angry and should DEFINITELY not be dating until they get some therapy. I always end up dating guys 20 years younger because at least they are up for adventures... but of course they have their downsides too :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 08:27 PM |
| 15 | Be careful of married man on OLDJust so you know, if the person is a woman, it's spelled with two "e"s... fiancée! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 04:36 PM |
| 3 | Definite red flags after dating in 20sI'm here for you! I'm over twice your age and my list of dealbreakers is as long as your arm, haha. But seriously, There are some very basic things I will not compromise on. He must be childfree and a nonsmoker. He cannot be addicted to weed, alcohol, porn or video games He must have a job or a good work ethic. I need to find him physically attractive, for me that means at least as trim as me and beardfree. I personally like short guys and find them an often "overlooked" natural resource, ha ha … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 04:32 PM |
| 28 | Reminder: LVM don't like it when you have a support systemThen I found fds. La fin Chef's kiss * | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 09:31 AM |
| 14 | LVM "friend" who I'm platonic with hmu for a quick bang after he broke things off with his perpetually on & off again gf. Needless to say, they're back together 🙄 thanks to this community, I've learnt that men are not your friends. You're just a sex toy that also gives them free therapy.I've had the same sad realization with guys I thought were my friend, some I had worked with or known for years. When I stopped reaching out, arranging social meetings/events/parties, they never once checked in with me or got in touch at all. Very disappointing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 09:24 AM |
| 1 | Scrote Wont Leave My Apt and Im SUPER Depressed" you can be told to leave at anytime" Unfortunately that is not true in most states in the US. Once someone has been in your place for 30 days they acquire rights as a tenant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 09:59 AM |
| 3 | Scrote Wont Leave My Apt and Im SUPER DepressedUnfortunately OP said he was sly enough to put the cable bill in his name :-( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 09:56 AM |
| 1 | Scrote Wont Leave My Apt and Im SUPER DepressedThat was very clever and conniving of him, that way you can't shut off the internet to get him out AND you'd have to serve him a 30-day notice to quit. I feel bad for you though that you have to lose your apartment over this. I wonder if you could move BACK in in a few months after he is out of the way? By the way don't feel like a dumbass, you only behaved like a normal, honest person and expected him to do the same. I've been bamboozled just like you in the past. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 09:55 AM |
| 14 | Wow. You girls know what this means: girlfriend experience without responsibilities. I am always chocked that women would accept to have a heterosexual male roommate.Same, I always have male roomies and it works out fine, because I own the house, ha ha. Only had to evict one loser over the years for going feral and playing WoW all day and night on his filthy, bare mattress. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 09:31 AM |
| 13 | The bar is so far underground it’s starting to melt into the core of the earthThe fact that "she" can't spell "woman" makes me 95% sure this is a guy posting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 09:25 PM |
| 7 | In Honor of Olivia de Havilland & One of my fav scenes from the HeiressWow, that was great. Thanks for posting! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 08:06 AM |
| 12 | When men complain datings so hard for them. Maybe if you put in effort...Oh my god, DYING. I just went back and upvoted every comment you made in the last two months, ha ha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 09:20 PM |
| 58 | Men stop putting in an effort, and then are perplexed when you’re no longer cheery, feminine and enthusiastic about sex.I am dying to know how you rid yourself of your couch creature. Did you have to shut off the internet to get him out? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 11:20 AM |
| 23 | Parody Band Steel Panther Tells You All The Red Flags To Look For!"Cuz you're 19 and I'm 52" I. Am. DECEASED. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 07:59 PM |
| 5 | Older women in the UK - a bit confusedAgreed, I am over 50 myself and have a really hard time with the "let the man pay for everything" idea since it was SO drilled into my head "Be independent, don't rely on anyone for anything". Intellectually I understand what the handbook is saying but I can't seem to make it true in my inner self :-) Of course that's not an issue currently since I haven't dated in over a year, ha ha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 12:31 PM |
| 2 | Are there any older women here who are happily single?You don't say how old you are but I am probably twice your age, and I've been single for a few years now. Don't get me wrong, I'd be delighted to find a good man but my standards are now astronomical and it is actually better that way. It's definitely way MORE lonely being in a bad relationship with someone who doesn't meet your needs. Being lonely while IN a relationship is the absolute worst kind of loneliness. So I'm pretty resigned to being single forever and not too torn up about it anymore… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 05:50 AM |
| 18 | Truthif I didn’t have to change my standards then no one does I love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 08:42 PM |
| 1 | A former pickmeisha in the wild! Found this comment on a trash tv show subreddit (that I love). Your WHOLE BEING was boiled down to... caretaker. That's not love. She recognized it. 👑Don't forget to be extra vigilant with your birth control, last thing you need is to be tied to this guy via a surprise baby. Keep reading here and stay strong! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 05:07 PM |
| 1 | This Post Gives Me PickMeisha VibesThanks for checking, I thought it was a man as well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 05:02 PM |
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