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What's the divorce rate for those who marry? /curious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:58 AM
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The difference in many of the RedPillers lie to their plates. Which is pure shit imo, regardless of gender.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:57 AM
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Right? I mean...sometimes traditions are best...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:56 AM
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Oh fascinating. Thanks for clarifying! I agree that dating when you're in a spot where your income is so low you literally could not afford the date seems insane. Living within your means where that includes your partner is wise, regardless of gender. 100% agree :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:19 PM
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If you're doing most of the child rearing, I agree. Again, in my post I pointed to how the bill split would be different for a stay-at-home mom. A woman who is picking up extra labor (cooking, cleaning, etc.) that he isn't matching is in a similar situation. My brother dated a lady who came over every day to clean his house, cook his food, and help with his kids. You bet your ass it would've been insane for her to pay 50% of dates and travel! 100% agree. On the other hand, there are women who do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:14 PM
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Hm. I actually disagree. Haven't seen this particular movie, but I do think people (both genders) are happier through meaningful relationships than money (several studies on happiness support this). The right person is worth giving up lucrative careers for. The issue is we're horrible at identifying the "right person".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 11:55 PM
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Depends on the photo, right? A friend he knows IRL not posing sexually? No biggy. But a baseline expectation in a relationship is that my partner respects me enough not to express sexual interest in other women. He's welcome to think it. He's welcome to masturbate to the thought of other women. But that's about it. It's not a matter of being insecure. It's a matter of respect. And as soon as most men imagine their partner acting the same, most of them get the respect argument right quick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 06:21 AM
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Even at 26 I thought 30 year olds were too old. It is possible that men online were lying about their age because now being in my 30s they certainly don't have the "old man" smell I often found online dating these ~30s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:39 AM
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When my husband and I were dating he told me he'd dated a woman he'd really liked a few months before me and they broke up because he refused to choke her. She declared them sexually incompatible and ended it. One of the more disturbing elements of porn is how it not only infects men's expectations but women's as well. Some because they watched porn but also because that's what most/all of their sexual experiences have been around. Both men and women who don't want to be a part of this new "norm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:19 PM
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It's strange you say this because in my experience both men and women are attracted to this type of "hard-to-get" posturing. Some people never grow out of it, some people start to see it childish posturing and unattractive as they gain experience...and some, like me, have to go an avoidance route because it's easy to override the pickmeish attitude when there's no emotional investment but hard down the road. I might be being a bit defense: "pray for" sounds like there's some uniquely broken thin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 03:28 AM
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This is a great example. I automatically feel within me a rising need to prove how special I am because he clearly thinks women are disposable and he's so awesome. And that feeling? That is my red-alert, stay far-away feeling. But men post shit like this because it does work. The only way I have found for it not to work on me is to avoid, avoid, avoid and never date or allow myself to fantasize about these sorts of guys---because once you're hooked it's hella difficult to get out of emotionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 07:07 AM
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Many women have a "must be with someone" attitude that sets them up for being with losers. I went to a speed dating event once. I wrote down no one's name afterwards. The four women I'd met while there? Each had written down several men...even tho they admitted they didn't particularly like any of them. Mind. Blown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 04:04 AM
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Dude, I met up with an ex who literally lied to me and told me had testicular cancer...I did, indeed, sleep with him out of pity. I was an idiot. Not all guys, but many guys are simply shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 12:06 AM
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100% true. My life got SO much better once I only allowed myself to fantasize about guys who had showed some interest and purposefully had a roster so no guy developed into a crush until he'd actually committed to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 08:14 AM
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Personality matters here. I have a strong personality with a lot of opinions that I want to share. But I really respect guys who ALSO have strong personalities. Two strong personalities are not likely to always be sunshine and roses. And that's okay. ​ But he's the best man I've ever known and that means more to me than everything always being easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 05:50 AM
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honestly any guy who is dropping pet names names like babe, chick, doll, etc. on me during chat within the first 2 weeks is a drop. it feels like a player.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:16 AM
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That's why OkCupid was so awesome. If a man can write well and says he's looking for something serious, well, a friggin' five paragraph essay def conveys he's taking it seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:42 AM
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Honestly, I don't think these labels should have any staying power. A friend of mine in grad school once complained to me that usually he impresses a woman and she STAYS impressed, but I needed to be re-impressed consistently. Yes. If you stop acting like a HVM, I stop seeing you as one. Fact. So, as long as you don't think the label HVM is static, then apply as you want. There is NO amount of time that it's safe to categorize someone as forever and always HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:43 AM
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What if the sex had been high effort? Everything about that was unacceptable, even WITH high effort sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:48 PM
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Hm. I've found that by removing that income restriction I get much higher quality men. If I restricted my dating pool to just men who made more than me, it'd be a small pool. And I never would've found my husband. But it really depends on the area I suppose. How is that working for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:41 PM
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...Jesus, that is indeed the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:52 AM
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I mean, I'm sure there was a time that worked. Perhaps the same time when men made money and women stayed home and were virgins when they married. Now? That's a losing strategy. ​ On that note, I would also like to be fed when hungry, satisfied when horny with zero expectations of returning the favor, have a maid, and constant backrubs. But getting that PLUS a guy with solid self-esteem? Rarer than gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:17 AM
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Guy I dated once kept going for it, despite me saying no. No was not enough. I needed to physically MOVE away or he kept going. Finally I got mad and said, "Stop! I said no!" And he pouted and told me, "You're making the same noises you make when you like it! You're making me feel like a rapist..." At which point I repeated..."Well, I said stop..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 09:52 AM
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My sisters last two douche bf's gave her this exact compliment. And when she did have opinions? Oh she had changed so much! She was now so demanding! Insanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:31 AM
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An early HVM indicator from my now husband is agreed to do swing dancing classes with me even though he found the idea of dancing terrifying when at the first class I was starving because I came right from work he brought me a sandwich for the BART ride to the class for the rest of the sessions :) Thoughtfulness is an amazing thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 01:48 AM
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Only men lacking in self-awareness (or experience) do this. Same with women. We're all easily addicted to inconsistent behavior. It takes experience to cut it off before you get addicted to someone who has proven they don't really give a shit about you. But the high from those relationships is impossible to replace with a caring partner---and it's easy to mistake that high for "love". Some people (men and women) never learn and just float from bad relationship to bad relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:48 AM
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Eh, that's a bit broad. My husband cleans and cooks more than I do. While he doesn't provide the same emotional support, the gap is closing. I make significantly more money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:44 AM
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My roommate found a guy like this. He's in his 30s, has one kid, and wants exactly what you outlined. Neither want to marry. So they're out there it just looks hard af to find.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:43 AM
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I'm surprised listening to their problems or defending them goes on this list. I mean, don't you do that stuff for friends? Shouldn't she be doing that for you? What exactly is this wife/husband relationship?
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