heyaanaaya Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
4	Blocking all my screens outside of work hours. Day 4 update. Inspiring, congrats!	/r/MenSupportMen	11/05/23 04:05 PM
3	Why do men feel like no one care about how they feel? For a long time, there was a pattern in my relationships that's clear in hindsight. My partners would get upset at me for not being vulnerable enough (lots of crying), then even more upset at me when I would try to express myself more deeply (lots of name-calling, eye-rolling, invalidation of feelings). This kind of conversation happened all the time, and I remember taking it on as some sort of axiom: I'm bad at expressing my emotions, and she's right to be upset with me about it. I really start…	/r/MensRights	01/03/23 06:10 AM
3	I’m a women that’s an avid supporter of men’s rights.. but some discussion here is concerning… lol your post got instabanned, right? I definitely agree generalizations are uncalled for...though I could make a few about "all feminist reddit mods"...	/r/MensRights	09/02/23 02:35 PM
3	Weekend check-in That critical voice in my head usually shuts up pretty quickly when I'm out with good friends. Hope the second night brings the same thing.	/r/MenSupportMen	24/07/22 12:31 AM
2	saying all feminists are radical misandrists is the same as saying all mens rights activists are like incels. Well, I guess I'd say that the idea of a "movement" is sort of amorphous to begin with, so I don't worry too much about trying to define it precisely. Everyone who considers themselves a feminist (or MRA, etc) has their own idea of what that means. There are certainly some loud and well-credentialed voices saying atrocious things in the name of feminism, and those people deserve every bit of criticism that comes their way. I also have a lot of friends who identify as feminists, but what they act…	/r/MensRights	09/06/22 02:12 AM
0	saying all feminists are radical misandrists is the same as saying all mens rights activists are like incels. You're saying reasonable stuff OP, I imagine plenty of people here agree with you even if they're not commenting. There have always been both shitty and good people who call themselves both feminists and MRAs.	/r/MensRights	08/06/22 08:18 PM
59	please don't downvote me, just genuinely curious! i just like to learn haha In a perfect equal-opportunity world, everyone would be able to choose what they want to do, and have an equal chance of achieving their goals as anyone else. In a perfect equal-representation world, the government would force some people to do things they don't want to do, in order to achieve equal numbers of both sexes in all professions. The first one sounds a lot more egalitarian to me :) See, for example, the gender-equality paradox: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender-equality_paradox. In…	/r/MensRights	07/06/22 02:11 AM
3	A feminists take on men's rights Kudos to OP for the post, and keeping it civil in the face of some vitriol in the comments. I’m on board with a lot of the ideas here, with a few notable exceptions…for example, I think innocent-until-proven-otherwise is a bedrock of civil society, regardless of how emotional a case may be, certainly in the courtroom but also in the public square. Nonconsensual MGM (and the attitudes surrounding it) also belongs on the list, as OP seems to agree. I do feel, though, that a lot of this stuff kind …	/r/MensRights	12/05/22 10:19 AM
2	What my mom texts me Heartwrenching read. It's so taxing to be the adult in the room with a parent who uses love as a wedge for manipulation and guilt.	/r/MenSupportMen	12/02/22 03:28 PM
1	In regards to "slut shaming" why is men having standards sexist to women? This is just a shaming tactic. Never been married, but if I ever am, yes that preference will probably be the same.	/r/MensRights	08/02/22 10:30 AM
2	In regards to "slut shaming" why is men having standards sexist to women? This is just a shaming tactic. Yeah. Personally I've never really felt that - I actually prefer dating women with more sexual experience - but I'm likely in the minority. The cultural standards could certainly be borne out of something very primal, which isn't going away any time soon.	/r/MensRights	08/02/22 01:36 AM
4	In regards to "slut shaming" why is men having standards sexist to women? This is just a shaming tactic. Obviously personal dating preference shouldn't be mislabeled as slut shaming, and it's quite frustrating that that happens. Though on a broad level I do think there's a cultural double standard on this issue, i.e. women seem to get called out more actively than men for being promiscuous.	/r/MensRights	08/02/22 01:16 AM
8	I think I got sexually assaulted. I don’t know how to feel. Harsh but true. I have total sympathy for OP feeling taken advantage of - and it's true, the other people in this story had only their own interests in mind, and lied/fudged the truth to coax OP into an uncomfortable situation. Those people are assholes. But, assault is something different...there were opportunities to bail out, and when it comes down to it, we all have to be responsible for saying no when we mean no.	/r/MensRights	23/01/22 05:23 AM
2	Feeling defeated as a man True.	/r/MenSupportMen	19/01/22 04:53 AM
0	Feeling defeated as a man I feel like there's more than manliness at issue here. Governments, medical authorities, media, businesses, redditors, etcetcetc are backing up this guy's approach. It's not just you versus some guy yelling, it's you versus some guy who's representing....whatever the hell psychosis is possessing the world at the moment. "Standing one's ground" is complicated right now, and carries real consequences for those of us who feel the regulations and cultural shifts are out of sync with reality. IMO the…	/r/MenSupportMen	19/01/22 02:56 AM
1	Here's some art for the challenge Very nice!	/r/MenSupportMen	15/12/21 04:25 AM
2	Mid-week check-in Sounds devastating, man. And sounds like you really love your son. If you do have anger issues, I hope you find a way through them. Keep going, he needs you.	/r/MenSupportMen	07/12/21 08:36 PM
5	Mid-week check-in Been wrestling pretty hard with processing my circumcision as an infant. It feels like it's been sitting in my subconscious forever, and this year I'm finally letting the pain come out. I feel violated. One of my first experiences on earth was the violent theft of something sacred and deeply human.	/r/MenSupportMen	07/12/21 08:22 PM
3	Make Male Genital Mutilation (Circumcision) an offence unless medically required Btw, there's an even more comprehensive list of info/resources at https://www.reddit.com/r/Intactivism/comments/qj1vm4/master_list_of_intactivist_resources/	/r/MensRights	28/11/21 02:40 AM
9	Make Male Genital Mutilation (Circumcision) an offence unless medically required Yeah it seemed like you were just genuinely asking and saying what you felt. Hope this info is helpful.	/r/MensRights	28/11/21 01:05 AM
19	Make Male Genital Mutilation (Circumcision) an offence unless medically required Circumcision drastically alters the experience of having a penis, both in a sexual sense and a broader physical sense. To some extent this is just a tautology, like stating the obvious fact that removing your index finger would drastically alter your experience of having a hand. There's a huge set of experiences that simply are not possible after circumcision. See here for one example (nsfw, and trigger warning for those who may be sensitive about what they or a loved one have lost as a result o…	/r/MensRights	28/11/21 12:51 AM
7	Please share your own experiences of your significant other ignoring your statement " not tonite honey " and proceeding to undress you get on top of you etc. Aka rape that can't be prosecuted as such in all 50 states. I was sick with an illness that kept me basically between the bed and the couch for a month or so. Woke up to my girlfriend pounding on my door at 4am one night, loud enough to wake me up as well as the neighbors. I assumed it was some kind of emergency. She told me she just wanted me, started kissing me and took me to the bedroom. I told her I felt terrible and needed to sleep. She kept pushing it, climbing on me, etc, until I gave in and we had sex. Afterwards, she told me she had wanted to ma…	/r/MensRights	02/10/21 02:41 PM
2	Study from 2012 shows men more likely to be hired, given higher salary Seems like a reasonable study that provides evidence of pro-male bias in this specific context. It's a small study, and doesn't really imply anything about the gender wage gap in general. Still, it's an unfortunate result, and gender-based favoritism should be condemned in any form.	/r/MensRights	13/09/21 08:55 AM
2	Erections are not a gauge of intrest, being erect does not mean consent! I also have no idea why you're getting downvoted, it's a reasonable question. And from experience, most women seem to know very little about the "mechanics"...I suppose it's just not something that gets taught or shared very often. As others have mentioned, they can really be pretty random. They're often at least loosely associated with something sexual, but not always - and "something sexual" might be simply a passing thought of someone attractive, or a movement that feels stimulating for some …	/r/MensRights	30/07/21 07:07 AM
0	How do I convince my husband not to circumcise our son? f	/r/MensRights	20/07/21 08:10 PM
4	When will we be ready to have that conversation. Speak up men who were cornered and had sex just to get it over with. 👋 me!	/r/MensRights	11/09/20 10:50 AM