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| 3 | How do we feel about this movement? (also don't be these guys) | heyyou11 | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 01:49 AM |
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| 1 | How can I stop focusing on finding a girlfriend?I think if you just reread your own post (and also scroll through this sub at essentially the same thing posted daily), you should be able to come the answer on your own. But as you want support from the internet, here’s a little: 24 is fucking young. It’s the age many are barely out of college and figuring out life at the highest rate ever. But yeah the sooner you make at least some sort of 1, 5, and 10 year plan (with 100% permission to change it later) the sooner you get real goals and the be… | /r/seduction | 08/10/22 12:44 AM |
| 0 | How can I stop being interested in women?Why do you not have time? What is so time consuming? Also why are you consuming your time with something you aren’t even passionate enough about to not be distracted from? In other words, you’re either deluding yourself in how busy you are or you’re keeping busy with things that don’t have meaning to you. Hang out with those friends, man. Meaningful social relationships fix so much. | /r/seduction | 03/10/22 11:33 PM |
| 2 | Is it a bad thing for girls to see me approach other girls after closing with them ?No problem. Trying to do something other than downvote. There’s a lot of negative aspects of pick up, but a lot of the user base has thrown out the baby with that bath water. All the best, man! | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 09:08 PM |
| 3 | Is it a bad thing for girls to see me approach other girls after closing with them ?“Wanna go somewhere more quiet?” After parties are kinda the gold standard. Smoking outside (less universal, but an option if it applies). Food is a pretty great one. Non-dangerous outside options (well lit parks, boardwalks, walks to said food, etc). | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 08:54 PM |
| 3 | Is it a bad thing for girls to see me approach other girls after closing with them ?I mean it could ultimately lead to f close, but I mean mainly just pulling her from the venue, either home or (higher success) an alternate venue. Just anything more meaningful than one conversation and separating from each other. Number close is fine if you just REALLY made a connection, but otherwise it’s dime a dozen for both parties and leads to flakes. But taking leading her through an “enhanced version of the night she had otherwise expected” is more meaningful | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 08:06 PM |
| 2 | Is it a bad thing for girls to see me approach other girls after closing with them ?I mean if your goal is just number closing, that’s already a high flake rate. If she’s sees you approach another girl, that increases the flake rate (but it increases the numerator of the equation). It comes down to how the vibe was with the number close and what your perceived chances are with any additional option. Ultimately pulling is going to be a better way to go anyway then trying for these number closes. If that seems difficult, why? Is your text game just next level? Or is there somethi… | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 07:55 PM |
| 1 | What are some good plausible deniability ideas (excuses) to bring a girl home?Yeah in no way is the plausible deniability a “scheme”. It’s “plausible” in name only, just to check a box essentially. You both should know what’s up. And I agree with kiss/mood comment. Like another of my comments, escalation should already be well along by that point. | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 01:16 PM |
| 1 | What are some good plausible deniability ideas (excuses) to bring a girl home?It can be anything that was a topic of conversation before (pets, apartment view, cooking skills to show off, artwork, new AV/electronics thing, a game, etc). The centuries old is “Would you care to come up and see my etchings?” But what works best is escalate before taking her home. If you’re far enough up the ladder, it can just be as fingersnap as “my place?” | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 10:33 AM |
| 4 | What are some good plausible deniability ideas (excuses) to bring a girl home?Yeah knowing what’s up isn’t the issue though. Google “plausible deniability”. I remember seeing videos from years ago on it. It’s actually pretty interesting. The age old line is “would you care to come up and see my etchings”. Even if both parties KNOW what that means, the mere fact you DON’T state it gets by anti-slut defense a non zero percent of the time. You will never find a girl be like “no I don’t want to see your X collection, but otherwise would have come home with you”. You will, on … | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 10:28 AM |
| 5 | any advice on how to better my chances with white women?The fact that you notice a disparity means either (or combination of) two things: *some (honestly it’s probably more than this thread is admitting) white girls can just be racist *your frame is different with them Just don’t let the former affect the latter. Assume the former isn’t true until you get shut down, don’t take it personally, and move to the next. Numbers game and confidence. | /r/seduction | 07/07/22 11:38 AM |
| 2 | How does one not "smother" a person who never initiates?It's not a bad thing to initiate. There's a wide berth before it becomes smothering. I think you could probably figure out the line, but I'd say in this situation text her maybe once during spring break. Don't do it out of boredom or fear of her slipping away, do it out of relevance and from a confident self-sufficient state. | /r/seduction | 12/03/17 03:29 AM |
| 1 | 24 hours in the day?I think posting on Reddit cannot be a part of a 100% efficient day. | /r/seduction | 15/03/16 10:36 PM |
| 2 | Being a bad listener is killing your game. Here's how to be a good listener.http://www.npr.org/2015/09/22/434597124/trying-to-change-or-changing-the-subject-how-feedback-gets-derailed | /r/seduction | 26/02/16 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Stop asking this subreddit what you should do. Do something and make a mistake. Learn from it. Your fear to make mistakes is why you are failing.100% agree, but it's still technically the point of that subreddit. Oneitis questions get called out as being such. A legit question should have a place there. | /r/seduction | 22/12/15 10:09 PM |
| 1 | Stop asking this subreddit what you should do. Do something and make a mistake. Learn from it. Your fear to make mistakes is why you are failing.Also there's /r/askseddit for that | /r/seduction | 22/12/15 05:00 PM |
| 1 | I'm on fire guys. I'm on firetrying to get my ex number a few months ago ? | /r/seduction | 11/08/15 01:47 AM |
| 6 | Was he running game on me?ITT sedditors defining "game" as only canned lines and also getting overly defensive of pick up when it's not even on trial. | /r/seduction | 26/07/15 06:21 PM |
| 1 | How do you stop being a "hopeless romantic"?The only place these thoughts come from is fantasy. Romance movies are no more real than any movie. You don't expect to have super powers after you watch a super hero movie. Why do you think you life should be like a romance film? | /r/seduction | 18/07/15 05:55 PM |
| 3 | Does anyone else feel good when actively flirting with women, but when you don't have anyone to talk to for a couple of days, feel anxious/stuck in a rut?All the fucking time. I notice it a lot less when those in between times are filled with something else, though. It's hard to miss girls pawing at you too much when you're devoting attention to another passion. | /r/seduction | 23/06/15 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Struggle at expressing my sexualityCorrect me if you explicitly stated this and I just missed it, but what is your experience level sexually? I'm assuming limited? | /r/seduction | 20/06/15 10:57 PM |
| 1 | How do you beat the "out of my league" feeling?Girls want to fantasize about (and maybe even hook up with) guys more attractive than you. But as far as anything with a tinge of romance and relationship, more looks hands down help you less than personality or any life hack. | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 02:03 PM |
| 1 | Getting over the feeling of shame for expressing sexual desire.There's a time and a place for sexuality. If it was 0%, none of us would be here. If it was 100%, shame wouldn't exist. Find what works for you. Don't be swayed by others opinions. It's perfectly OK to ask why others deem something unacceptable, but whether or not you accept it should be based on your values. | /r/seduction | 04/06/15 10:14 PM |
| 1 | Getting over the feeling of shame for expressing sexual desire.Not true. There are definitely shameless creeps. | /r/seduction | 04/06/15 10:11 PM |
| 3 | Female Orgasm 101: What every guy should know but few doI haven't had many hate clitoral. I know a ton that see it as a tease and want it inside them the second they are turned on even just 20%. I've also noticed the girls who cum easiest with clitoral happen to be of one ethnicity, while those that only cum with penetration are of another (maybe that's just too small of a sample size to say it's a significant categorization). | /r/seduction | 28/04/15 10:09 PM |
| 3 | What would be the point of not telling me she has a boyfriend?Not to be pessimistic, but even if she smiles and flirts, the "I have a bf" line doesn't necessarily mean she'd have gone for it otherwise. It is an easy line for her to use to ensure everyone saves face. Hell it's even an easy way for her to say no if she doesn't have a boyfriend bc somehow we as men stop at that more than most other "no"s. As far as the "trading up" theory, absolutely. However caveat is F close is not a trade in the female mind. So getting anything out of this than possible fu… | /r/seduction | 14/03/15 03:34 PM |
| 1 | I never grow balls enough to approach, its starting to depress meProblem number one is you said "her" constantly and not "them" once. You will never have success with her if you don't have success with them. Talk to other girls. Find the least threatening and work your way up from there. | /r/seduction | 28/01/15 08:55 PM |
| 3 | Sit next to that girlUpvoted for the edit. Question I'm surprised hasn't been asked yet: what's your attractiveness level (including how "done up" you were for class)? | /r/seduction | 20/01/15 11:42 PM |
| 1 | Welp, I'm finally leaving guys. It's been fun. Here's what I learned.I can't complain bc I'm too lazy to write field reports (or too drunk to remember what I did to close), but it feels like everything on my front page is either: contentless motivation (e.g., "just fuckin do it, man" or "PSA: girls don't bite") links to other pua sites that are either rehashing (like OP said) or complete shit FR that are basically like "old me would just go home and jack off to the mental image of the peripheral vision of the girl on the bus, but guys I actually looked at her" I … | /r/seduction | 15/01/15 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Push-Pull Texting Guide?Then she's interested. If the answer is "I'm busy", convey it (you will look like you have priorities in order). If you aren't busy, then meet up. But in general I agree with original response that texting should be kept more for making plans then as an actual means of generating attraction. However, sometimes schedules don't line up. | /r/seduction | 12/01/15 12:02 AM |
| 1 | 4 'Simple' Tips To Meet More 'Quality' & Sexy WomenThanks! Nothing novel, but still a good list. | /r/seduction | 02/12/14 09:26 PM |
| 5 | 4 'Simple' Tips To Meet More 'Quality' & Sexy WomenCliffs? (for those of us taking a shit in public restrooms without headphones) | /r/seduction | 02/12/14 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Why I hate clubsAll the "just have fun" comments are correct, but semi-forget the subreddit's point. Yes DGAF gives you a better chance than being one of the prowlers, but find a happy medium. Attempt the approach without depending on it. | /r/seduction | 19/11/14 06:05 PM |
| 2 | Nonverbal escalation - this guy is a f**king master. Great social modeling for noobs. Take notesAlthough he doesn't say, this would be my thought: 1st I think a lot of it is not how you respond as much as it is the "canvas in your head". I think girls can sense genuineness a lot, and so how you "use it" shouldn't be as important as just making that painting in your head. Just having the picture can guide your interaction too. I think this ties in a lot with calibration. If what you glean from personality traits lets you know a girl is X, use one approach. If she's Y, use another (I could g… | /r/seduction | 18/07/14 03:56 AM |
| 1 | I’ve been a good girl, a slut and everything in between: tips from a different perspectiveI realize this is your throwaway, and you likely won't get a notification for this comment, but you promised a lot of future posts... Lost cause now? | /r/seduction | 18/07/14 12:53 AM |
| 2 | [FR] fear is not real. Just approach.. Solid number close"no wonder you are pissed" money line. I see AFCs use the "you should smile"/ "why so serious?" lines all the time, but this line validated its use (along with the delivery I'm sure) so well. gg | /r/seduction | 23/06/14 01:05 AM |
| 16 | Why girls like guys who don't give a shit about themI was just trying to find an excuse not to read the whole thing. Nice tl;dr | /r/seduction | 12/04/14 11:08 PM |
| 1 | Major Bullet Points From 2.5 Years of Seddit.Bullets 2 through 7 were kinda "Duh.." for me. Guess I needed bullet 1. | /r/seduction | 12/04/14 05:16 PM |
| 1 | How do I go out alone?Yeah. I haven't actually tried online dating. It seems good in theory, and I hear success stories. I think within a year I felt comfortable with at least a decent-sized group of friends. I don't know exactly when it clicked, but it slowly got there (eventually you hit some critical mass and it becomes exponential, but it's hard to pinpoint the exact time of that). Keeping in touch with old family/friends helps a lot in the meantime. Another thing that helped me was going to more school. It makes… | /r/seduction | 10/03/14 10:17 PM |
| 3 | How do I go out alone?When I first moved to the city I live now. I moved quickly into a single room apartment with no furniture and only worked with people 10 years older. It takes time to get off the ground. Despite what people say on here, although it can be done, going out alone is really fuckin tough and inherently creepy if you don't have a natural positive unshakeable energy. Enjoy your time alone. Get used to chatting strangers in all settings. Further relationships at work with those that seem worth your time… | /r/seduction | 09/03/14 06:34 AM |
| 6 | Why are we less witty with the ones we're attracted to? And seem to be a stand-up comic with the one's we're not attracted to?This comment needs to be farther up. Obviously outcome independence/DGAF are the reason why, but "stand up comic" shouldn't exactly be the role we try to fill for a girl we intend to fuck. | /r/seduction | 27/02/14 07:37 AM |
| 2 | You have a girl over to "hang out" who there is obviously a fair amount of sexual tension with. What is your go-to move to get things started?I think the litmus test is the hug hello. If you get a nice one, transition it into the lifting. If she is resistant to that normal gesture, then yeah escalate later, but you're already in a slightly shittier position. | /r/seduction | 29/11/13 11:46 PM |
| 10 | You have a girl over to "hang out" who there is obviously a fair amount of sexual tension with. What is your go-to move to get things started?What if I'm only into chicks large enough that I can't lift them? Should I invest in a dolly and Hannibal Lecter her in? | /r/seduction | 29/11/13 11:43 PM |
| 3 | An evolutionary biology approach to eliminating approach anxietyI've been thinking about this a lot recently. It works both ways too. A VERY sizable portion of the girls I've closed in bars the past year are from out of town visiting friends in town. | /r/seduction | 28/11/13 11:47 PM |
| 1 | This article deserves more attentionI had trouble trusting the science with all the blatant typos. | /r/seduction | 21/10/13 11:48 PM |
| 1 | How do you get in state when your friend(s) are better than you?If this is actually your friend (as opposed to an acquaintance you happen to go out with) he should naturally work more as your teammate than the opposition, and even if it is unintentional he would adjust and help you out if it was brought to his attention. | /r/seduction | 21/10/13 01:31 AM |
| 1 | Dear r/seddit I'm currently feeling like shit but have learned a painful lesson that might help others - It has NOTHING to do with how you look.There is always the chance she was dating this guy during the time period you were trying to arrange meetups. Heads up you might have still crushed this guy. It's hard to know, and though you claim you have no game, you still have no proof this guy does either. He could have just gotten lucky. | /r/seduction | 13/10/13 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Don't let the game define youYeah based on the experience you laid out in the post, I'm sure you're fine. I'm still on the journey myself too. | /r/seduction | 12/10/13 07:02 PM |
| 17 | Don't let the game define youIt starts with conscious thought (i.e., practice makes perfect), but should move beyond that. Eventually it should get to the point where every once in awhile you're just like: "I wasn't even trying to, but damn that was alpha." And when you see beta in others, or God forbid every once in awhile yourself, you just cringe. | /r/seduction | 12/10/13 06:44 PM |
| 89 | Don't let the game define youFirst: If you are still consciously thinking about what to do or say to be alpha, you haven't internalized it. It should be less of a thought process during every decision and more of who you become. Second: Telling an expert PUA to not overthink is all well and good, but telling a newbie to just text a girl whenever he feels like it is still bad advice. | /r/seduction | 12/10/13 04:47 PM |
| 4 | 10 life hacks to become a better seducerPatrick Bateman? | /r/seduction | 06/10/13 11:27 PM |
| 2 | Why a Girl Won't Text Back & The Importance Of ControlCount your blessings. At least you ended up with pics. :P | /r/seduction | 04/10/13 12:09 AM |
| 2 | Why a Girl Won't Text Back & The Importance Of Controlstranger things have happened | /r/seduction | 04/10/13 12:07 AM |
| 10 | Why a Girl Won't Text Back & The Importance Of Controlor don't ever come back | /r/seduction | 03/10/13 05:53 AM |
| 3 | Alcohol: The Reason I Chose to Stop DrinkingLast time I ate a diary, I had a bad time. I have to stay away from journals too. | /r/seduction | 22/09/13 10:30 PM |
| 5 | Alcohol: The Reason I Chose to Stop Drinkinghaha yeah. I could have edited in the 2nd thought, but the tone was just too damn different. | /r/seduction | 22/09/13 10:29 PM |
| 28 | Alcohol: The Reason I Chose to Stop Drinkingbut seriously, good shit. a lot of it is you specific of course (how your body deals with the stuff). I really love #4 both in relation to alcohol and in all areas. | /r/seduction | 22/09/13 03:36 PM |
| 192 | Alcohol: The Reason I Chose to Stop DrinkingI'm reading this hungover | /r/seduction | 22/09/13 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Conversation is not about wordstonality | /r/seduction | 06/09/13 02:05 PM |
| 3 | How to avoid getting overly attached to one girl?Or better yet don't reflect at all. If you actually get something out of it fine, but if it's only pain stop doing it. You can't help where your mind goes but you can make an effort once you notice to think about something else and not dwell. | /r/seduction | 03/09/13 01:08 AM |
| 1 | I have a female wing(wo)man. How do I best use her in seduction?I like this in theory... How field tested is this? And how long do you leave your friend in the lurch before you pull her over, if you don't get asked "where's your friends?" | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 02:02 AM |
| 3 | [FR] 5 Minutes from HelloIf nothing else, way to not fuck it up. I think the biggest balls you showed was in the isolation. Is there a reason you insta-bounced her? Was this a serious eye fuck? Have you tried that before? I ask because I feel like I would naturally (and possibly/probably incorrectly) try to build rapport with her first with that guy as somewhat of a wing and look for an opportunity arising later. Obviously worked. Just trying to see which things are take aways that can be applied later (meeting people a… | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 01:54 AM |
| 3 | A way to fight the friendzoneNow a lot of guys would freak out at the possibility of telling a girl that they liked that they were dating another girl. And we call these guys AFCs. I like your idea, but ideally if a girl can find out you are a man with balls that enjoys the company of multiple women another way, I like to avoid the give me advice route. It shaves a little of the edge off of knowing what the fuck you're doing with the opposite sex IMO, but done in this way not the worst I guess. | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 01:42 AM |
| 10 | Something that always works for me as a college studentTIL out of school and have your own place = girls won't let you feed them | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 01:35 AM |
| 1 | Condensed notes from "What Women Really Desire" by Zan Perrionyou're not afraid to say it. Women can tell the difference immediately yet "how can they not see that I'm faking the whole thing?" "how can they not see it - its so obvious?" Everyone (EVERYONE) thinks this This: You don't need anything more- you don't need another self help book, another affirmation, another article to read or more advice. yet what is this entire article Great work on summing up OP, but the content itself seems to be either feel-goodery or advice that's been beaten to the groun… | /r/seduction | 30/08/13 01:33 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Warning: Long! #/K-Close, dealt with an AMOG and an AFC, intentionally said no to F-Close (explanation within)She was waiting for a guy who had stood her up Fish in a barrel... lol. Well done through and through. | /r/seduction | 20/08/13 02:46 AM |
| 1 | Girls WANT to be approached.Maybe I've been going to the wrong places recently, but I feel too often any girl even remotely attractive is already engaged in conversation or with another guy. If there is an attractive girl being shown no attention then yeah sure, but I haven't noticed lack of attention to be much of a problem for girls. | /r/seduction | 18/08/13 06:20 AM |
| 3 | How to make a girl choose you over another good-looking, funny and accomplished guy?how do I make a girl choose me Make? I hope this is just accidental poor wording. | /r/seduction | 13/08/13 02:28 AM |
| 3 | An inner game trick I've been using for short-term but high-magnitude state boostI think a lot of it's the "WOO" and the hands in the air, but yeah physical and mental prep is good for state | /r/seduction | 05/08/13 11:23 PM |
| 2 | Lessons Learned: A few hours Daygaming in a small town by a 21 year old who was out of practice, and samples of what I learned from the dayHaha. I thought the same thing with how often he described himself "running". However I think he did an amazing job applying and gaining experience. So yeah don't hate too much. | /r/seduction | 05/08/13 11:16 PM |
| 11 | If you're out by yourself how do you handle that situation?Look over one shoulder, then the other. With an almost laughing ain't-that-the-darndest-thing smile say "I have no idea". Then give a small amused chuckle and keep going. | /r/seduction | 29/07/13 04:37 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Meeting a Girl I Stopped Talking ToCongratulations! Good for you to have standards. Maybe it's because my standards are too low and/or I'm underestimating your abundance, but could you not still have played off the interaction for some meaningless one night physicality? | /r/seduction | 22/07/13 04:05 AM |
| 2 | I can approach, but I feel like I have nothing to say.You've probably heard it a million times, but talk her (Or them if it's in a group setting) like you would a friend. Or an acquaintance, at the very least. I like this, and we all already know it (just need to remind ourselves). However my problem with this is silence. I'm comfortable with silence with a friend. I know (and have multiple times read here) that you should be comfortable with silence with strangers (i.e., targets) too. But until you've really hooked a set in, she will NOT be comfor… | /r/seduction | 22/07/13 12:29 AM |
| 1 | I can approach, but I feel like I have nothing to say.So simple. Yet one of the biggest lightbulb moments I've had here in awhile. Yesterday I was day drinking brunch then a brewery tour then the bar across from my apartment with various combos of friends and couldn't think of how to go about talking to the maybe 2 HB7+ I saw all day (NOT AA though). Yet I opened and continued with at least 6 different sets of guys or less attractive girls based on commonalities I noticed in clothes/tattoos/conversations. If any of those sets contained an HB, it wo… | /r/seduction | 22/07/13 12:22 AM |
| 5 | What are your favorite non-typical places to meet people?On a related note: yoga class (disclaimer: not personally field tested) | /r/seduction | 21/07/13 01:53 PM |
| 3 | I can approach, but I feel like I have nothing to say.Have you found something cooler to talk about, though? If something you're using is more successful in rapport building, cool. Otherwise, wouldn't you rather scare away girls that don't like what you like in hopes of maybe actually landing one with similar interests (or at least tolerance towards your interests)? | /r/seduction | 20/07/13 09:35 PM |
| 1 | I can approach, but I feel like I have nothing to say.I just had this same thought running through my head before deciding to come to Seddit. My 2 biggest hang ups are: changing my confident open into continued confident conversation transitioning to an (anything)-close if crunched on time or if logistics are wedging between It's really tough if you open ask a few questions get a few ans and don't get a rejection but also no real bait taking either. It's hard to keep jabbing until you land on one extreme or the other. | /r/seduction | 20/07/13 09:30 PM |
| 4 | Don't Act Abundant. Be Abundant.It is mostly a compilation of info already in the sidebar, so in essence yeah I guess... | /r/seduction | 18/07/13 11:33 PM |
| 1 | Why Your Text Game SucksMaybe I #-close too many HB7s and not enough HB9s lol | /r/seduction | 20/06/13 05:50 PM |
| 1 | Why Your Text Game SucksHow do you deal with girls that text you too much, particularly ones you're interested in but don't want to necessarily deal with right now? I feel like I've seen this asked before but don't remember a satisfying solution. | /r/seduction | 20/06/13 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Good place to sarge on a Monday Night?Understandable. Saw a cute girl across the pool at my apartment complex last night and couldn't make myself do it. Got 2 other numbers later on in the night, though. Still expect more from myself. You'll get it next time. | /r/seduction | 18/06/13 11:21 PM |
| 2 | Good place to sarge on a Monday Night?Any results? | /r/seduction | 18/06/13 04:22 PM |
| 3 | Good place to sarge on a Monday Night?I know you say not bars but (especially during the summer) this is where compliant females will be found. Try Happy Hour first to get in state and numbers for later meet ups. Then later on try that one place that is always happening on "off days" (e.g., ones with ladies nights, industry nights, frequented by college kids on break etc). | /r/seduction | 17/06/13 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Good place to sarge on a Monday Night?Perfect for Boston or Rhode Island.... | /r/seduction | 17/06/13 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Why Rejection is Good - Mark MansonThreshold is exactly what I'm saying. It's just where you set it. And if your lukewarm impression is only slightly below her threshold, there's a world of difference from being way below it. I don't think it's all or nothing/ black or white. | /r/seduction | 12/06/13 11:13 PM |
| 1 | Why Rejection is Good - Mark MansonI think the misunderstanding here comes from your perception of the word, "compatibility". Manson doesn't appear to be using this word in the frame/context of "forever after", but in general, for ANY kind of interaction or relationship (disposable or "serious"). I agree with everything you're saying, but this is what it's contingent on. Where on the scale of 0% to 100% do we settle? I'll take sex with a 69% over no sex at all any day, but in all honesty might pass on a 13%. I don't think a flake… | /r/seduction | 12/06/13 03:39 PM |
| 4 | Why Rejection is Good - Mark MansonSounds a little bit too much like your mom telling you "just be yourself." Yes congruence helps, but this advice seems a lot more geared towards finding "the one" than pick up. If being yourself scares her away, yeah good you saved rejection in the future maybe, but you sacrificed a possible F-close in the nearer future. | /r/seduction | 12/06/13 12:06 AM |
| 1 | How to Maintain Attraction en Route?I'm convinced you can still kino some. Brief non invasive touches on the leg to emphasize points. Also, I too am working more on the eye contact but was born with the conversation part. 20 minutes goes faster when you're just having fun. Try to get a banter going about your date so she's anticipating and not bored in the moment (e.g., set up a competition if you're doing something like rock climbing, or make jokes about setting "pasta limits" if you are eating. Just be stupid and have fun) | /r/seduction | 30/05/13 01:54 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Hit a plateau on Wednesday: transitioned out of the friend zone into a full night of making out with an HB9.5 in the back of a bar.I think your case was helped by a few things: Phone conversation instead of over text (much better at controlling perceived tone) Not making one bit of effort after saying this until she made the first move The amount of cursing you use in non-angry conversation (e.g., "what the fuck" and "bullshit" seem a lot less anger-driven when somewhat common in conversation already) | /r/seduction | 13/05/13 07:55 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Hit a plateau on Wednesday: transitioned out of the friend zone into a full night of making out with an HB9.5 in the back of a bar.Thanks, Ollie! Obviously it worked for you, so kudos, but in my experience if I react like this (and even less aggressively so) the girl gets defensive/hurt. And just based on the general principles around here it feels very emotional and reactionary. You obviously can't roll over, but I just feel like coming across as pissed might not necessarily help one's case. | /r/seduction | 13/05/13 07:22 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Hit a plateau on Wednesday: transitioned out of the friend zone into a full night of making out with an HB9.5 in the back of a bar.Yes please! I find it hard to walk the line between putting my foot down and not coming across as hurt/offended/pissed off. Like to see an alpha application in this area. | /r/seduction | 13/05/13 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Billy's Guide to Shit TestsYou always run the risk, though, of not being called out and still being judged. | /r/seduction | 13/05/13 04:35 AM |
| 1 | Im embarassed to ask but im a 24 year old male and I have no clue on how to officially ask someone to be my girlfriendunless I have misread information on this subreddit quite possible | /r/seduction | 13/05/13 04:24 AM |
| 11 | Above The Game Part 7: Physical Escalation & SexIf I had a dollar for every time Orson Welles clapped for Tofu... | /r/seduction | 08/05/13 01:10 AM |
| 3 | Above The Game Part 6: Logistics (getting the number, texting, setting up dates, etc.)But what if the bar by my place is super awesome? Whatever will I do then? | /r/seduction | 07/05/13 12:17 AM |
| 5 | The Poker Analogy: Why Your Self-Esteem Shouldn't Be Dependent on Your ResultsTo keep it in poker terms. These guys sound like they have huge VP$IPs. Basically you can err on the side of being a loose fish or a tight nit. But it's all about playing the most profitable range and outplaying postflop. And yeah you gotta have game. P.S. I like how it's literally called "opening" both in pick up and hold em | /r/seduction | 28/04/13 07:30 AM |
| 1 | A Reminder To Not Let Love Pass You BySo Beta | /r/seduction | 24/04/13 12:34 AM |
| 5 | [FR] Made 2-set fall in love with me by inviting/embracing onlooking m+f setVery nice. Not exactly a move everyone can implement because it's very situation dependent, but you did well with the situation you were handed. | /r/seduction | 22/04/13 03:03 AM |
| 6 | [FR] WingmaningTwist ending: he was winging you | /r/seduction | 22/04/13 02:47 AM |
| 1 | [FR] First date! Still new and struggling and looking for advice, but the progress I've made in 1 year is ALL thanks to this subredditVery strong work for just starting out. Still a lot to improve, but you seem to realize a lot of it already. And the things you're doing wrong are more "sins of omission" anyway. My hands were shaking with terror and it felt like I was on the verge of panicing out my heart immediately goes to 100mph Obviously this didn't hinder results for you, but it helps so much to have more experience and not have to battle tachycardia while making your moves. During the movie I was too nervous to try anythi… | /r/seduction | 22/04/13 02:06 AM |
| 2 | Seduction at Summer Music Festivals?In Julien's AMA he recommended one of Tyler's videos on the topic of self amusement that is very fitting (though brief, somewhat vague, and basic) on how to pick up girls in these environments/settings. If you can't find it I can dig and look. | /r/seduction | 22/04/13 01:34 AM |
| 1 | Seduction at Summer Music Festivals?strong work, sir | /r/seduction | 22/04/13 01:31 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Goin out for fun, near close with HB8 but chose to back out for not "feeling right"didn't #-close since i felt like her first impression of me was utterly terrible and i'd be looking too needy (and once again i just wasn't feeling the mood or in state) Obvious interest from her. At least #-close for when you get your mojo back another day. You don't even have to call her.... | /r/seduction | 15/04/13 05:50 AM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 4/12/13 (please upvote - zero karma)I'm not asking for just one line. I was just seeing if there was general advice on whether to avoid the cliche lines since you want to be "VERY different". | /r/seduction | 14/04/13 04:46 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 4/12/13 (please upvote - zero karma)I agree that going out alone to a club is tough shit despite being treated like nbd by a lot of the community. I can't claim to have personal experience with this, but what about starting going out earlier (e.g., happy hours) at quieter/chill places and making friends that you can then drag with you to a club/bar later in the night as a little confidence boost. | /r/seduction | 13/04/13 06:27 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 4/12/13 (please upvote - zero karma)Yeah I have no problem being confident, funny, or both with waitresses (I could probably stretch it further with that whole role play and pulling her into a game thing), but I assumed at the end of the day direct had to be the way to go. What's a good direct approach? Obviously "what time do you get off?" or "what are you doing after this?" are way generic and overused. | /r/seduction | 13/04/13 06:23 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 4/12/13 (please upvote - zero karma)Waitresses: Is there a way to filter IOIs from standard Hired Gun behavior? Is there a best approach to making it happen with one who seems to have interest beyond the tips? | /r/seduction | 13/04/13 04:11 AM |
| 3 | Alpha male mindset: Conveying high status and high value through your actionsOr even worse as your conscious mind realizes your subconscious posture, frantically going back and forth between the two and looking like an even bigger chode | /r/seduction | 12/04/13 02:35 PM |
| 2 | Alpha male mindset: Conveying high status and high value through your actionshaha... apparently it's a problem that has plagued us since the dawn of time. It was easier back when we could just drag our knuckles along the ground. | /r/seduction | 12/04/13 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Alpha male mindset: Conveying high status and high value through your actionsYeah I've been a big fan recently of the thumbs in pockets, 8 fingers pointing to the dong. I feel like it looks pretty confident, of course with shoulders back head up yadda yadda yadda. | /r/seduction | 12/04/13 01:41 PM |
| 4 | Alpha male mindset: Conveying high status and high value through your actionsDon't put your hands in your pockets. Don't cross them. I feel like Marshall Eriksen or Ricky Bobby. Where do they go? | /r/seduction | 12/04/13 04:29 AM |
| 1 | FR: "Aren't you going to say hi?" I questioned him.Agreed. Thanks, OP! | /r/seduction | 10/04/13 06:51 PM |
| 0 | Use Tinder to work on texting girlsI feel this is detrimental to your image. Not saying it's an instant dealbreaker, but it already gives off the vibe of needing a crutch to meet girls and of fearing rejection (though not implicit, this is the whole intention of the app). It doesn't matter much if you will never run into the girl anyway (or if you are an instant and easy yes or no in her mind), but if you do run into her and are more borderline to her, you have a little ground to recover on your image IMO. | /r/seduction | 02/04/13 05:32 AM |
| 2 | [FR] 1. Not give a fuck 2. That is all.Boldin, and his girlfriend Rice LOL | /r/seduction | 30/03/13 04:57 PM |
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