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hfthomas/r/seduction31/08/18 07:30 AM
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How about stop using people for something and actually care for and become interested in them? I dont think "spinning plates" is for using women. Its just "having more options at the same time". ​ "I use my hoes but i feel like there should be more". Yeah, you think redpill is the answer to everything in life. It isnt, and now you have no more tools in your life. ​ "Do i try to accept this directionless wandering with stoicism or try to find something new, that most likely does not exist?" Why d…
/r/TheRedPill02/03/23 02:56 PM
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I guess so. Show that you are a chill dude that does interesting things. Spontaneous trips to the mountain or things that interest you
/r/seduction21/01/22 12:50 PM
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Take some interesting photos for your instagram. You doing shit and some nice landscape so it looks like you travel and do stuff. I think it will work out fine. Of course you can slide into the dms cold, I havent done that a lot, but I get enough traffic as is
/r/seduction20/01/22 10:05 PM
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I have a simple trick. Maybe not what you want though: I go and like two of a girls picture. Only of her face or with all clothes on. If she likes back, especially the pics of me (i have some landscape/sunset photos as well), I slide into her DMs like Kramer slides into Seinfelds apartment. JK. I take one of her pictures and comment whatever falls into my mind. Like, "I see you like to travel. When are you planning your next trip?" Actually today I said to a woman:"Is your hair real? It looks so…
/r/seduction18/01/22 08:29 PM
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If I had a part time job at a pharmacy where medical students go in and out as part time workers my bowels would be empty all the time. I would shit all over
/r/seduction18/01/22 08:19 PM
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If this is tiring you should enjoy the dryspells and have one at a time.
/r/seduction18/01/22 08:16 PM
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Most girls(human beings) do. ​ What bothers me is that they only want me to do the work. Like if I am busy for a week its easier for them to delete me or ghost me/leave me on reply than fucking asking me one single time how its going or how I am. Or sending me one snap of what they are doing in their life. Several times with girls I have even fucked several times, and then there are 1-2 weeks I got shit to do (running my own business) and they are gone from my life. Either angry (if I ask them w…
/r/seduction18/01/22 08:06 PM
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And dont treat it as "Game". They are other living, breathing, thinking people with the same feelings as you and me. Btw, when a woman says "be yourself", it is a good advice. Because if you alter your behaviour for her, you are not being yourself. She doesnt want you to alter your behaviour for her. If you want to fuck her, but instead have her on dinner and buying her flowers, are you really "being yourself" then? Its because you dont want to be vulnerable and risk her rejection and then you p…
/r/seduction18/01/22 07:55 PM
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40 women in four years? Should be 40 women in one week. Get some reference experiences. And do CBT for getting rid of any anxiety/limiting belief about women.
/r/seduction29/12/19 12:18 AM
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I like daygame better too: As you say, more relaxed. I have never been comfortable in the club. Lower competition. Im not seeking women that "hangs out" in clubs. (Its of course ok to have fun, and I dont say that all women in clubs are bad)
/r/seduction01/03/19 10:05 AM
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How about starting to say Hello to people you see regularly. Whether it is a guy or a girl. It takes away that pressure a bit, because you are not just that weirdo that stares but never smiles and never talks. I always say hi to people i see in the gym, but i dont go out of my way over to a girl just to say hi. Thats creepy. When I start of with nodding and saying hello every once in a while, and maybe put in a few words to some guys, or asking if they are done with the equipment and so on, it w…
/r/seduction27/02/19 06:41 PM
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If they talk about something you can chime in with an opinion. You can talk about the location you are in. You can talk about the host. Ask people how they know eachother, what they do etc. ​ It is really about practice. Thats why you have to ask about it here. If you get in some practice and some reference experiences you will not need to ask about this.
/r/seduction26/02/19 10:15 AM
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The only reasons I think of when I am in those situations is what UrbanDevice is saying, and that women protect themselves from being slutty. ​ The previous time I had sex, she said that she does not get laid with people she dont know. Well, it took her only an hour after that to know me better. ​ I was only slowing it down, and trying some times here and there. Pushing and pulling. When she stopped me, i stopped, laid back and waited a bit. When I started again, I did a little bit more than the…
/r/seduction24/02/19 06:53 PM
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I answered here already, but do this in an escalation standpoint as well. ​ Now it is not the approach that is the problem for you, its the next step. ​ And I agree on the "painful to not approach". I have made it so painful that if I miss an opportunity to approach, it bugs me for days if I dont do it. So its much easier to go talk to her and get rejected than to miss it.
/r/seduction24/02/19 06:44 PM
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Congratulations on how far you have come! Its such a good feeling! There are good tips here already. I want to say this: The reason you are having trouble escalating is the same reason you had trouble with approaching and number closing earlier. Its a form of approach anxiety. Lets just call it escalation anxiety. You are afraid of what will happen "if you do this or that". So if you have good systems on how you got rid of the approach anxiety, I would use that over again on the "escalation anxi…
/r/seduction24/02/19 06:39 PM
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To tell him your friends will find him, cut up his tongue and put it in his ass is not "agree and amplify". That is to threathen him back. If you come out of that alive or at least not get your ass kicked you can consider yourself lucky. You dont amplify with a person who threathens to kill you. If I would say anything else than "It wont happen again" and walk away, it would maybe be to compliment him on how he must be good with girls and you want to learn from him. This depends on the situation…
/r/seduction24/02/19 06:31 PM
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I would not use money on teeth whitening before I had my clothes/haircuts/beard in shape. If you have this in order, then go for it if you think it will make you more confident. I did it recently because I wanted it, and I feel better when Im smiling. I have not been out yet to test it on girls because of a lot of work commitments. I dont think the teeth whitening in itself will do too much difference. If it makes you more confident, it is the confidence that does it.
/r/seduction24/02/19 06:22 PM
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First off: GREAT work! You now do what 95% of men wont ever do. Approacching women. If it is in daytime without alcohol its even less that dares to do it. ​ What do you say after "Hi, I wanted to meet you"? You should build that by telling them what you see in them. Do not talk about their body. But, maybe say something like: "your walk seems so confident" or "you look so energetic" or something. Slow down your voice and pause a little bit more each sentence so that you almost feel uncomfortable…
/r/seduction24/02/19 06:13 PM
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Does east asian guys never get laid? Can you find examples of east asian guys getting laid or that women find japanese, vietnamese, korean guys good looking? (i have seen it several times). How can you enhance the features women find attractive in east asian men, or men in general? You can always train and have a nice body, right? If they cant feel it, it wouldn't matter to them if you put it in there, right? ;-) So this one is just trying out for yourself. I would play with the stereotype so mu…
/r/seduction24/02/19 06:00 PM
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When I started this spring, I laid the 8th woman I talked to. That is me being not totally newbie, but its 10 years since I did PUA. I have never considered myself an intermediate with women. ​ I recently watched "Comedians in cars getting coffee", and Jerry Seinfeld mentioned that he still has a failure rate by some 70%. I consider Jerry Seinfeld a master in his field. He has done his stuff for DECADES, and still he says he has a FAILURE RATE of 70%. I think people underestimate how much work s…
/r/seduction02/09/18 12:27 AM
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It means and can mean several things and different things for different people. Find out what YOUR thing(s) is, and fix it. ​ I found that I was being way to overenergic before when I talked to women. That was partly because of who I was, and party because I thought that the more energic and entertaining I was, the better it was. Thats a total turn off for women. After meditating for years, I am more smooth. But, now the pendulum is a little bit over on the boring side. And I dont care about it …
/r/seduction01/09/18 11:49 PM
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I am going out by myself nowadays. And I should say: Learn to be uncomfortable. ​ I was so bogged down in anxiety that I couldnt even go to a nightclub with friends when drunk. By gradually being uncomfortable every time, I started to enjoy it. And now I can go out by myself, talking to girls everywhere. I usually walk around until I find a group of two or more girls, and walk in to the club with them. Then I have social proof, and ready to have fun. ​ I have used a lot of CBT the last years. Yo…
/r/seduction01/09/18 07:10 PM
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I see there are a lot of comments about making the food together. I agree on this. Making food together can be really fun, and you can easily fool around a bit here. And it dont easily get awkward like a "romantic" face to face dinner. If you make food together, you have easily warmed her up before the dinner (or even had sex). Learn yourself some knife skills for instance. When she cuts the salad, show her how to hold the knife with touching her hand. Have a dish you have made several times so …
/r/seduction01/09/18 06:57 PM
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Good advice here. I have never managed to go for instadates, and that can be a symptom of me boucing too quick maybe. I just ask for contact info because I "have to" go somewhere. I will try to go for instadates too and see how far I can go. I will try to be less contact info oriented from the start and just try to wait it out a bit more.
/r/seduction01/09/18 11:38 AM
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I like this quote from Peter Sagan (google if you dont know) "I do not want to be the second Eddy Merckx. I want to be the first Peter Sagan" ​ So you should not strive to be the next someone, you should strive to be the first you.
/r/seduction01/09/18 11:31 AM
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Good answers here. So, lets say I ask for her SM out of scarcity, what can I do to end self sabotage and actually get a REAL connection for further seduction? Ask for her number instead of SM and actually call her some hours later or the next day? Wait a little bit longer before my instinct tells me to go for it? Ask differently? Reassure that she adds back? (this is kinda beta, but I tested it once, and she added me back. We have been talking on snap a lot) Wait longer before I ask? Go for inst…
/r/seduction01/09/18 11:18 AM
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And when you say this, I actually think Im asking out of scarcity. You know: Ask for her snapchat or instagram so that if further seduction fails, i can at least watch her photos. Im setting myself up for failure here. I see what you are saying. And even if I feel it was a big thing to go up to her to talk to her, make her laugh and leaving the conversation with her social media, she is probably more used to it. And even if she is happy with people talking to her, i does not mean anything big fo…
/r/seduction01/09/18 11:03 AM
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I actually think I need to be more polarizing, so that would probably not be worse than it is now anyway lol.
/r/seduction01/09/18 10:53 AM
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Even though I am clear with my intentions before I ask her? I cant see their story btw.
/r/seduction31/08/18 09:14 AM
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