hfttb Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	STBX passionately wants to stay in the home		hfttb	/r/Divorce_Men	05/04/24 11:16 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
9	What is your view on the reasons for modern divorce? I could have communicated better, but often met with enough sarcasm and judgement that I took the easy road and shut my mouth. Then the gap widens	/r/Divorce_Men	07/03/25 09:58 PM
3	How the Fuck Permission granted, just don’t put too much effort into it… don’t give her that power	/r/Divorce_Men	26/02/25 02:41 AM
6	How the Fuck The fuel for your hate is your own soul. Can’t change yesterday, figure out what you want for tomorrow and just work on that. Married for 30 and recently single. No one bossing me around in my space any more.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/02/25 02:19 AM
1	What to do with the house when my wife wants to keep it but cant afford the mortgage? Would it be dumb to become her landlord? Virginia but it’s not the state that is the issue, your lender must allow it and she must qualify. Still, if she can do it, she’d retain the original terms. And of course, you gotta call the lender and explain what is happening. They won’t make it easy to find the answer.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/25 08:22 PM
12	What to do with the house when my wife wants to keep it but cant afford the mortgage? Would it be dumb to become her landlord? I went through this exact scenario a year ago. YES, you are missing a lot. On my final decree in December, she will be paying the mortgage out of the support she was awarded but she has 18 months to assume the mortgage or the house will be sold. Remember that if she lives there, YOU are responsible for all repairs (A/C, Trees, plumbing, insurance, etc.) YOU are responsible if her or any guest gets hurt. YOU remain exposed for so much liability. And, YOU will remain in her life in perpetuity and …	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/25 07:45 PM
5	divorced,living along for the first time in 15+years Once you adjust to the quiet, you will feel better	/r/Divorce_Men	09/02/25 01:34 PM
4	Too old to divorce I’m out at 53. When I 51 and all this started, I was miserable, in debt to by b-hole and all I wanted was out. I busted my ass. By the time the papers were signed, I have only my mortgage (I bought a house 6 months ago) to pay and $3k to her each month. Sounds like a lot but I was way worse off before. Now I have peace. You’re putting a lot of belief in how/when everything will come together. It never works out like you think. Solve for peace brother. You’ll be happy you did	/r/Divorce_Men	04/02/25 11:25 PM
3	Should I tell my ex-wife’s family the truth about why we separated? It doesn’t help. Recently divorced, I have not pointed out any details except that I was unhappy. Painting someone else as defective or cruel or anything else is keeping the destructive fire alive. Let it go	/r/Divorce_Men	28/01/25 12:24 AM
4	She Plotted Retired military as well, my divorce was just final late, December. None of the papers are filed, this is a negotiation. I made the mistake of being kind, compassionate, and doing the best I could for her financially and it bit me hard. Just be careful, and talk to your lawyer a lot.It’ll be cheaper in the end to get guidance in the beginning.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/01/25 11:56 AM
2	STBX passionately wants to stay in the home We each have our own attorney....	/r/Divorce_Men	11/04/24 11:39 PM
1	STBX passionately wants to stay in the home Not so much concerned of the outcome, she is entitled to a percentage of my military pension. If she can use that to pay the amount then I don’t care one way or another. I can be flexible and fair if she can see I’m willing to help, a judge will assume the 50/50 division. Avoiding court is the only way I see she can get her desired outcome. I’m moving forward with my life regardless.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/04/24 02:52 AM
1	STBX passionately wants to stay in the home Thats a possibility. For me the dollar amount would be the same but would have increasing equity making the trade.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/04/24 06:26 PM