highandtight Archive

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1	Miraculous Change of Tune Yeah to the OP I think I agree with this. I'm in the early stages and wavering hard about whether to try to reconcile even despite some really awful behavior on her end. So I may not take this advice but I have two kids and we've been together 16 years. Different calculus. There were warning signs and extreme emotional outbursts and misbehavior pretty early on. I overlooked it because she was beautiful and fun and fit my feminine ideal pretty much. But from where I'm sitting right now . . . if y…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/04/25 05:12 PM
5	It's done! I’m sure it’s been a long rough road. How are the kids faring?	/r/Divorce_Men	08/04/25 12:17 AM
1	Wife is leaving me... I know this feels ruinous and awful right now, but to be honest you're in a better position than many of us. You're still young, you'll emerge from this in a good place, and within 2-3 years (MAXIMUM) you'll have renewed financial goals and success, a more clear vision of what you want in a relationship, and it's highly likely you can meet a woman that wants to focus on kids and a family. Frankly I wish I had left my wife at around your age instead of sticking around so long for the kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/03/25 12:47 PM
2	STBXW admits why she does not apologize when she is wrong I hear you and I tried this for years but this approach makes solving ANYTHING basically impossible. Simple example: after leaving me the car and kids with very little gas and no gas stations nearby we had a big fight. We agreed that whoever is driving the car should refill once under a half tank. I mean we both agreed with a therapist on this seemingly trivial matter. Yet she almost immediately failed, I would take pictures of the gas gauge and text her, and that evidence was just deemed . . . …	/r/Divorce_Men	06/03/25 02:31 PM
3	The time has come... A lot of this resonates with me and my own experience. It can be super frustrating and if you wanted to just leave I could understand, but personally—just my PoV—these don’t sound like irredeemable issues. But of course she needs to take accountability and want to change things, which may be unlikely. In that similar situation I acted out two ways. First by having an affair with a young girl hot girl I met. That was awesome until it wasn’t and I don’t recommend that option. Second, I thought I j…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/01/24 02:06 AM
5	The time has come... I’ve been in and out of a similar situation over the years, except my wife isn’t a high earner. I am an attorney and can govern maybe some insight but you haven’t said much about the reason for the split. One view: disillusionment and disinterest is pretty normal at this age and stage of life. You guys are both grinding away at successful careers and have a house full of young kids. You live in the city and life can be very hard in that scenario. I hate MC but might recommend you try that and a …	/r/Divorce_Men	08/01/24 05:51 PM
2	It’s sad… That’s a moving story man. Can’t get that time back which sucks, but I hope you find another woman that’s a little kinder and more grateful.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/24 06:21 PM
3	Just a ‘Friend’! Definitely agree but we’re all reasonable men here! But I’m most likely taking this approach and maybe going back to the MC circuit soon. Thanks man.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/24 06:18 PM
4	Just a ‘Friend’! Wow, I feel like there aren’t many positive outcomes from MC and talking these things through so that’s helpful. Really would like to avoid the divorce outcome with two young kids but who knows.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/24 06:16 PM
3	Just a ‘Friend’! Thanks for sharing, I may be doing round 2 of MC soon.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/24 06:13 PM
4	Just a ‘Friend’! Do you think JAF causes the issues leading to the divorce, or was just perfectly positioned to pounce as she was heading out the door?	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/24 05:46 PM
3	Just a ‘Friend’! Agreed. That’s part of my problem. Do I just demand she stop talking to this person? Or ask her to tone it down and trust she’ll actually do that? Seems like a loser for me either way. I think it’s unreasonable she even puts me in this position but she won’t see that of course (unless it was me talking daily to another woman).	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/24 05:31 PM
4	Just a ‘Friend’! Right, that’s been my initial conclusion. I don’t think she’s banging this guy but I do think building an intimate relationship with a member of the opposite sex leads to comparisons and bad outcomes with your spouse. She ends up thinking he’s wealthy and generous and I’m not, when I pay for her whole life and he spends a few thousand here and there. Infuriating.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/24 05:03 PM
6	Just a ‘Friend’! I’m in the middle of this right now. My wife has her own business and has a client in his 70s that’s in love with her. They talk almost daily on the phone (but at normal hours), he buys tons of art from her (so he actually IS her best client), and the tone of their texts is way too personal but not sexual. I can’t figure out what to make of it. On the one hand, my wife is very attractive and skilled at navigating male attention. She’ll say she’s keeping this relationship in place to make money. …	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/24 04:55 PM