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#JustHVMThingshikerkay/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:10 PM
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Mine has all but he’s 5’9” so don’t knock the shorter men ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 12:47 AM
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I posted the guy I’ve been seeing for 3 months and have no regrets. I’m also a very public person and love sharing what’s going on in my life. Him on the other hand not posting me because he’s more “private” is pretty annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 12:10 AM
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I think people on this sub might be seeking perfection and ruling out perfectly good men for small things that don’t matter in the grand scheme of things. I have my MBA, own my own house, work out regularly and I’m attractive, great job, kind, selfless, nurturing, funny, outgoing and easy to get along with etc etc but if I were to say another man is hot in front of someone I’m dating I’m no longer girlfriend material? Like jeeze ladies we need to give people some slack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:12 PM
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I am new to dating but I just assumed that is what people did was get tested after (ideally before) having a new partner? Even if he were to tell me he’s clean I would have gotten tested for my own piece of mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:41 PM
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I’m still shocked that so many woman think calling a friend hot is concerning. This kind of behavior to me is natural with a friend so why wouldn’t it be with someone you’ve known for 5 weeks and aren’t even in a relationship with? Just bizarre and eye opening that so many have commented how immature this is. But that being said, since enough people called me out on my BS then I will take a second look at my behaviors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:39 PM
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Verdict is in - I’m the LVW 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:22 PM
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I 👏🏽CAN 👏🏽SAY 👏🏽WHATEVER 👏🏽I 👏🏽WANT 👏🏽AT 👏🏽THIS 👏🏽POINT 👏🏽 We aren’t together. I am making a joke. Chill. No I don’t want to actually fuck your best friend who lives across the country 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:45 PM
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THIS! Thank you for validating everything I’ve been thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:43 PM
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For sure!! It’s just interesting that the handbook suggests 6 weeks bf/gf and 2 years engaged. Seems kind of fast to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:38 PM
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Ive never met his friend just made a comment that he’s hot (based on photos) and knowing that he would never have a threesome with a guy let alone his best friend, it was meant as a funny joke. In retrospect it was better left unsaid considering I don’t know this guy’s sense of humor yet. If he had made a comment reversed I am secure enough to take the joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:35 PM
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I probably am too LV for him tbh which is where these insecurities are coming from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:33 PM
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His dad is dead and mother lives across the country. He’s very sweet with her on the phone though and likes to show me pictures of her saying “how pretty she is.” Also, he knows no one in this state since he just moved here so it’s hard to see how he is with friends. We are both half black/half white so I don’t see any racism issues and have had similar upbringings. Will keep an eye out for the other things you mentioned thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:14 PM
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Noted!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:12 PM
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I am the big red flag haha my mind is always on overdrive analyzing everything in the beginning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:12 PM
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I think I’m more of a joker/ball buster and he’s more conservative so maybe we aren’t a good match in that sense. I’ll be sure to work on keeping my guards up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:42 PM
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Ugh sorry this happened to you! So based on that experience, would you recommend waiting for at least 3 months to be bf/gf and not the typical 6 weeks that the handbook says?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:39 PM
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This is good advice. I mentioned in another comment though - when can we determine if they are HVM? I didn’t see this in handbook. Just wanting to be on high alert so I don’t mess up again. I was joking about the threesome (I’ve never done one and prob never would) but he didn’t seem to think it was funny at all. Clearly I have some maturing to do. I don’t want to date anyone else during this quarantine and risking exposure. That’s what makes this so hard since I do typically prefer not to put a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:38 PM
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I will not be living with him for at least 1-2 years. I’m very careful about who I introduce my kid to. The only problem is we are older (32 and 35) so if we want marriage/kids in future, being patient is going to make us closer to 40s :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:36 PM
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Got it, this makes sense. I didn’t see anywhere in the handbook regarding a timeline for when you can truly know if a man is HVM or not. Guess I jumped the gun on this post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:34 PM
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6-8 months seems like a long time! I have a kid so I also need to figure out when it’s appropriate to introduce them. I appreciate your advice. Especially regarding military men having difficulty being emotionally intimate. I can already tell he is very secure just being alone/doing his own thing since he’s been used to it for so long while deployed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:22 PM
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That wasn’t the part he was offended about. He’s sort of “old school” and thought I shouldn’t have texted it the way I did “hey I’m getting STD checked because idk you lol” and thought that warranted an in person or phone convo about our sexual health, last partners etc....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:17 PM
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Isn’t it funny how we always want what we don’t have?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 10:40 PM
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I was made fun of in high school for having “nubs” and I’m still self conspicuous about my small chest and will 100% be getting a boob job when/if I can afford it but it will be for ME.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 08:14 PM
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More time to focus on my relationship with my daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 04:38 AM
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Enjoy the ride!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:33 PM
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Personally would like to slide into Mark Grove’s DMs and marry him but that’s just me 🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:43 AM
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I literally seen this same profile in New Hampshire 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 12:04 AM
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normalizethebush
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 12:41 AM
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Ok thanks for the advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:07 AM
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He didn’t break up with me. I asked if we can have sex finally and he said I’d like to discuss boundaries/expectations because sex can lead to hurt feelings. So I’m like let’s be exclusive and he said, honestly I’d like to not involve sex at all until we are both ready. So I could tell he was friendzoning me and I broke it off. I could have continued being his friend because he’s a genuine GOOD person and good people are rare to find but I knew my feelings would get the best of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:59 AM
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You’re right, we were never official so we weren’t technically in a relationship but that doesn’t mean it still doesn’t hurt like a breakup. He just got out of an 8 year relationship where the woman had lung cancer and he sacrificed himself for years taking care of her. He’s not ready. And I have to respect that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:57 AM
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I would argue that he was upfront about what he was looking for from the beginning. He wanted friends. He was way too much a gentleman, kind, humble and attractive man for me to just be his friend however.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 04:26 AM
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Same 🙋🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:32 AM
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I broke up with a HVM on Saturday because he “wasn’t ready for a relationship” and this post hits me hard. Thanks for sharing. May we both find our persons in the near future. Hugs to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:00 AM
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Playing devils advocate here. Sometimes you just want a fuck 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 11:22 AM
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My last relationship was 50/50 and tit for tat and it was mentally exhausting. NEVER AGAIN!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:09 PM
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I can totally see how some men could use this against you. I have a good feeling that this is not that type of guy tho 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:45 PM
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I recently started dating a true gentleman who insists he pays for every single date and actually gets offended when I even offer to split. It’s so refreshing. He’s out there ladies, never settle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 12:18 PM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:22 PM
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I’m new to this sub. What does HMV and HV mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:55 PM
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This just happened to me and it actually went really well despite the nerves. I told him “Thanks so much for taking the time to get to know me. Unfortunately I’m not ready for a relationship right now and don’t see this going any further as such.” His response: “I sadly understand and respect that.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 01:24 PM
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