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| 231 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their Standards | hippy_speed_ball | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/22 03:44 PM | |
| 43 | Self Esteem vs Self Compassion | hippy_speed_ball | /r/ExRedPill | 06/01/22 06:41 PM | |
| 13 | Let’s Talk About PTSD | hippy_speed_ball | /r/ExRedPill | 28/03/22 02:25 AM | |
| 13 | More Self Compassion | hippy_speed_ball | /r/ExRedPill | 24/06/22 06:20 PM |
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| 1 | Is there a possibility that I will naturally recoverTaking an active role can look a lot of different ways. My First suggestion would be to take a break from worrying about dating. If a girl (young woman? idk your age) asks you out great, if she's willing to go splits on the date great, otherwise you should just take a break since it's stressing you out. Maybe a year or 6th month break until you can get yourself in a little better order. Every time dating comes up in your head, tell yourself "I'll think about that in 2024, I've got other stuff go… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/12/22 02:45 PM |
| 2 | Is there a possibility that I will naturally recoverWhat do you mean by "naturally"? What do you mean by "recover"? If what you mean is, "will I become the person I used to be if I just do nothing and wait?" Then, no, most certainly not. You can't ever be the person you used to be, that's just how life works. You won't feel like your old self, because you're not him anymore. You've grown and matured even though you had those red pill ideas internalized. So, now that you are ridding yourself of the internalized red pill ideas, you're left with a d… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/12/22 01:27 PM |
| 8 | I don't want to fall into the red pill, but I'm having a hard time seeing how it's wrong or what's so bad about it.Well, humans don't have "alpha" males, so trying to become one is a bad plan. You want to be a confident guy who is in shape, those are some good goals. Trying to become "alpha," is not. Honestly, you should leave this young woman alone. She might be into you or not, but you having all these unproven assumptions about her character based on stereotypes you've internalized is way more toxic than anything she's doing. It's also clear you're full of self loathing, caused at least in part by the pre… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/12/22 08:59 AM |
| 2 | Is not having an ambition caused by depression or am I just making excuses for myself?I had very similar symptoms: lack of ambition, intrusive thoughts, thought loops, problems with executive function, etc. Turned out to be undiagnosed adult ADHD and anxiety in my case, but there are a lot of combinations of disorders that cause these symptoms. If I were you I'd seek a therapist that specializes is anxiety or OCD (not that i think you have OCD). Thought loops are something they can train you to diffuse, and OCD specialists are the best at that. Same goes with dealing with intrusi… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/12/22 12:58 PM |
| 1 | Ex-gf might have left me for someone else and lied about it. Help!That's why I used "and," bro. Being a little concerned about why things ended isn't unhealthy. Checking up on an ex on their socials if they're a friend afterwards isn't unhealthy. It's the combination that's unhealthy. If you up for it, can we talk about the defensiveness part and the strategy for moving on part? It's good that you can admit that it's unhealthy and you still do it. It is possible to stop. You don't "just stop." You have to recognize what's really driving you and work on that. M… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/12/22 01:42 AM |
| 1 | Ex-gf might have left me for someone else and lied about it. Help!I'm pretty sure all the down votes are for calling her a hoe. Otherwise this is solid advice. The girl is 18. Trying out different relationships and not getting serious is a reasonable life choice, especially at 18. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/12/22 12:01 AM |
| 3 | Ex-gf might have left me for someone else and lied about it. Help!He doesn't even need to self improve! (I mean everyone can benefit from improving themselves, so generally it's a good idea), but otherwise I agree. Most relationships don't work out, especially when you're 18. He just needs to find find a way to move forward without dwelling on it. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/11/22 11:55 PM |
| 2 | Ex-gf might have left me for someone else and lied about it. Help!That's what you chose to focus on out of all I said? You also cut off the checking her tiktock* part, which was a key detail there. It was fine to ask her, but why are you investigating? She broke up with you. What reason would possibly make you happy? It's unhealthy because you're not going to do anything but hurt yourself by doing it. Unhealthy behavior is in large part making choices that are likely to hurt yourself with next to no upside. That fits your behavior to a T. Edit: it was tiktock … | /r/ExRedPill | 30/11/22 10:33 PM |
| 2 | Ex-gf might have left me for someone else and lied about it. Help!It's being down voted because the person complete mischaracterized the person he was responding to. No one said, "move on instantaneously like it never happened." But checking her insta and worrying about whether she left you for someone else is super unhealthy behavior on your part. You do need to find a way to "move on." It's a process, it's not instantaneous, but it is necessary. People are giving you generally heartfelt and good advice in this thread and all I see from you is defensiveness. … | /r/ExRedPill | 30/11/22 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Ex-gf might have left me for someone else and lied about it. Help!That's just 100% not true. Lots of people get caught up on something and don't realize moving is an option. Just telling them it's an option is helpful. Maybe you're not that sort of person. Maybe that advice is shit for you personally. You're not OP though. So stop projecting. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/11/22 09:05 PM |
| 3 | Good men should not have to pay for his girlfriend's bad choices in men. I.e I should not have to pay for what your ex boyfriend did to you.It seems to me leaving her and facing the uncertainty of being single takes far more courage then staying with her and accepting her abuse. I don't see how choosing the harder path will make you a wimp. Her telling you "you aren't a real man if you don't do X" is the most problematic and abusive part of this. My first ever sex partner used that kind of language to sexually abuse me. You're partner may not be sexually abusing you, but that kind of language is manipulation and abuse. She's using y… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/11/22 12:33 PM |
| 13 | Is r/FemaleDatingStrategy just the female equivalent of Red Pill ideology?Yes. Both use self help to get members in. Both then teach their members ways to manipulate and emotionally abuse partners and potential partners. Both commodify potential partners. Ultimately both are about control. They teach people who feel somewhat powerless to control others so that they feel in control. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/11/22 12:17 PM |
| 1 | Do I need a six pack to be attractive?Sounds like you might have body dismorphia, my dude. Maybe consider talking to your primary care provider about it, or therapist if you can get access to one. Obviously I'm not a doctor. It just sounds like you don't have a healthy relationship with your own body. It's OK to think, "I want to work out to feel more attractive." It's not OK to think, "I have to work out to a certain level or else I won't be attractive." Just not a healthy head space. You should know though that it's not your fault… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/11/22 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsYeah. That makes sense. If you think your partner is hung up on someone else and isn't fully committed to you, then by all means drop them. That's just a shitty partner. I was more talking about women who chase stereotypically hot guys in their early and mid 20s, but after several failed relationships with "hot" guys, start looking for more well rounded partners in their late 20s and 30s. They are still plenty attracted to the more well rounded guys, they've just shifted who they're attracted to… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/11/22 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsWhat if they desire you just as much as they desired that other guy, their tastes have just changed? | /r/ExRedPill | 28/11/22 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsNo. Men shouldn't worry about whether they're a second choice or not. If it leads to a happy, healthy, and meaningful relationship, why do you care if you were your partner's first choice or her hundredth choice? Why would you want to be someone's first choice? Is that actually going to lead to a better more fulfilling relationship? Or, is it more about your own ego? It just seems extreme naive to want that. There are things you should actually be worried about when selecting a partner, but that… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/11/22 09:39 PM |
| 2 | I feel like being the casual sex guy is better than being the relationship guyNow for me to get casual sex I wouldn’t need to rely on any pill. I would be myself, respectful and attractive (I believe this is important and very helpful in attracting women for casual sex). If you truly believe this and want to live it, you're already ex-redpill then. The whole idea of this sub is to realize that the pills aren't the way to go whether you are looking to stay single or find or find a relationship. There is nothing wrong with ethical non-mongomy or relationship anarchy. That's… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/08/22 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsI'm not a Christian, so I don't base anything I say on the bible. It's probably best not to have an argumentative husband either though. That doesn't mean either partner should give up their autonomy or be made to feel like they are subservient. That's a recipe for resentment. If your interested in a traditional Christian marriage why would you be interested in red-pill or black-pill or ex-redpill or any other secular world theories of dating? Why not just date women through church? You're unl… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/08/22 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsLike anything. Read up on what makes someone emotionally intelligent and mindfully practice activities that build those traits. Empathy (not sympathy), self awareness, emotional regulation, and good communication skills (among others) are important parts of emotional intelligence. There are quite a few ways to go about improving those traits. You can and should learn to be self compassionate, i.e. a good friend to yourself. You can journal, read a wider berth of books, try new hobbies, or travel… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/08/22 10:11 AM |
| 1 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsSure. As long as he treats those younger women with respect and doesn't employ manipulation/abuse. If she's a fully consenting adult, and no one is taking advantage of, more power to both of you. Valuing "agreeableness" sounds a little sketchy. She has to have her own autonomy and opinions, but yeah, nothing wrong with avoiding a partner that's combative, if that's what you mean. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/08/22 09:56 AM |
| 2 | Disprove the redpill/blackpillYou sound like a Mormon who goes to an Ex Mormon space and asks to be convinced that Mormanism is wrong. No one needs to do that work for you. No one can convince you until your ready to see the truth. Not believing in the pills is similar to not believing in astrology. Just because a bunch of people have built a community around some set of beliefs doesn't mean there us any truth to any of their claims. The burden of proof is on the red/black pills, and they have never met it. Even if we provid… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/07/22 12:02 PM |
| 4 | My (Woman's) take as an observer of the red pillI'm a dude, but SAME. In high school I thought girls I liked not liking me back was so horrible. Being abused and sexually assaulted by women in college changed my entire outlook on what a bad outcome was when in came to relationships/sex. Being rejected, even by a long time crush, is such small potatoes compared to passing out at a party and waking up with someone you don't know on top of you. Or even worse, having someone you think you're really into bully and cajole you into sex acts that rea… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/07/22 03:00 AM |
| 1 | Does a man with a high body count impresses you?Yeah, depends on age. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/07/22 02:44 AM |
| 1 | Being a nerd is bad?Now im the kind of person who sincerely enjoys to read complex philosophy books and see videos of politics or history. This is good for me, but i feel bad because i know is not the kind of person that have a lot of friends Philosopher here (or at least I used to be) you'd be surprised at the number of philosophers at the graduate level who aren't "nerds." They are definitely all obsessed with philosophy, but many of them are otherwise not stereotypically nerdy. I am, but I was actually kind of a… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/07/22 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsMy original post was about personal compatibility and emotional maturity, not financial stability. I can however, understand that there are women on here who are financially stable themselves and don't want to date guys who aren't financially stable. Seems rather reasonable to me, but that's not what I was talking about in the original post. Honestly, if the only thing that can cure your loneliness is if you can have one night stands with hot chicks and be fawned over, good fucking luck. Mos… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/07/22 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsHow so? Give me some constructive feedback if you don't like it. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/07/22 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Does a man with a high body count impresses you?Doubt that. If A woman says she's slept with like 20-100 dudes, maybe, but after 100 most other women are going to be like, "all you alright, do you need some help?" I've slept with a lot of people personally, and dated women who have slept with a lot of people. It is fairly empowering to sleep with a lot of people when that's what you want to do and your doing it in a safe, fully consensual, and respectful manner. Up to a point at least. Like if you were having sex with someone new on average t… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/07/22 12:25 AM |
| 1 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsOccam's Razor doesn't work like that. We have 3 identified existing (possible) factors that could plausibly have an effect (each one could plausibly explain it entirely, but hasn't been shown to explain it entirely), and you're privileging one of the three without explicit justification. Sorry, I think I was unclear. I think there is ample evidence to think that women have more experience at 20 than 30, which is good enough to explain why they might shift their standards. I'm unclear on the evid… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/07/22 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsThanks, I try to be thoughtful. | /r/ExRedPill | 20/07/22 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsSomething is probably changing, not just wisdom. This seem improbable, not probable. If psychological changes caused by the environment both are clearly are present and are sufficient to explain the situation, Occam's razor suggests we shouldn't assume there are extra causes that we don't have evidence for. Considering most people have big dreams as young people Don't most people give up on those "big" dreams long before 30? I think most people (in most western nations) either have more realis… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/07/22 04:52 PM |
| 1 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsFair enough. It's a strange perspective to me. But, I guess it's your prerogative. I just bristle up because there have been a lot of people on here who act like sex "corrupts" someone. That kind of logic is really messed up. I personally wouldn't want to limit myself to only virgins because it can be so difficult to find a compatible partner on a personality level, why make the pool more shallow over something so trivial? I'd rather be with a former slut who was more compatible with me than a v… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/07/22 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsVirginity? | /r/ExRedPill | 19/07/22 02:01 PM |
| 2 | How many of you had parents/guardians that abused substances?Step-dad started using meth to self medicate his bi-polar. Can't have a depressive episode if you're always manic from the meth... | /r/ExRedPill | 18/07/22 08:32 PM |
| 2 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their Standardsa video games problem I feel a little called out. haha. Glad my partner doesn't have the same priorities as you. lol Makes sense though. You want a partner who is going to have a compatible lifestyle to you. My partner and I play video games and don't mind quite a bit of alone time, but if that doesn't jive with what your looking for you absolutely shouldn't settle for it. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/07/22 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsThat's just not true, but you obviously have your opinions and don't want to take any constructive advice. That's fine. Good luck. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 05:54 PM |
| 2 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsYup, most women just want approximate parity in all those areas. Obviously some want a guy who makes more than them/ in more ambitious, but most just want someone who has a similar level of those things. There are also plenty of women out there who don't care if their boyfriend is broke as long as he's not expecting her to take care of him. I know lots of couples where both people work low paying jobs. Those relationships are still way better if both people are emotionally mature and supportive … | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsI mean, the whole point was to develop your communication skills and emotional maturity so that they would find you attractive. I think you are assuming that you have those skills now, and maybe you personally do. Most guys who aren't getting any attention in there 20s don't have those skills. Most guys in their 20s don't have those skills period. An attractive guy can make do without those skills when he's young, but it will catch up with him. A less attractive guy needs to build those skills s… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 02:18 PM |
| 2 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsThe 1920s people were meeting in speak easies (in the US). I'd wager there was a lot of hooking up at all these illegal underground drinking establishments with their Jazz music and flapper girls. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsKind of the wrong forum for that question, tbh. I'm mostly addressing guys in their late teens and early 20s who are struggling to get any attention from women at all. I can understand that great guys get snatched up quick. One of my guy friends is an amazing dude. He had a gf that our entire friend group didn't really like. She was just so demanding of him and didn't really respect him. When they broke up, he met his now gf in our local bar that night. She's been a way better partner to him a… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 01:04 PM |
| 1 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsI don't think you understand what emotional maturity is. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 12:39 PM |
| 2 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsYou're making up this weird narrow scenario in your head. The whole point was she never even met you in your 20s. Like, how would you even know if she would have liked you in your 20s or not? Are you going to ask about her previous boyfriends and make sure they were sufficiently nerdy and boring enough that you aren't insecure? If you never get a date in your 20s and you just going to give up on relationships all together? Or maybe you're only going to date 20 somethings (who also wouldn't have … | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 12:39 PM |
| 2 | Why do women Cheat?Thanks, and you too. I know it's a long way off, but once you reach your financial independence goals, consider making therapy a priority. I didn't get into therapy until I hit 33, and by then I had dealt with a lot of my issues on my own, but it was still incredibly worth it. Good luck with everything. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 02:43 AM |
| 3 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsIf you really think that individual woman is just choosing you because you're a safer option, by all means reject her. I'm not saying that women never do that. I'm saying that some women genuinely are into different guys as they get older (same thing with men). You would be missing out if you rejected all women who dated in their 20s. You would avoid all the women who just wanted to use you, but you'd also avoid possible great relationships with great women who earnestly were just more attracted… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 02:39 AM |
| 6 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsI was using it ironically. Maybe I should have used quotes to make it more clear. This dude seems to be off the deep end. I have no way of helping someone who still believes this much redpill nonsense. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 01:53 AM |
| 9 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsI'm not making them feel creepy. That is creepy. A guy in his 40s who will only date women in their early 20s is a creep, what he's doing is creepy. I'm 100% okay with shaming him for it. He's getting older, they're staying the same age. Does this guy just dump them when they hit 27? 30? What happens when he gets to his 60s or his 70s? Why does he find someone who he has a major power imbalance over so attractive? Why is he objectifying youth? | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 01:36 AM |
| 4 | Why do women Cheat?So here are my questions 1.Why do women cheat? 2.Do Women cheat morethan men or the other way around? 3.How can you tell if that personloves you for who you are and not superficial stuff? 4.How can you tellif someone is cheating? Women cheat for a lot of reasons. A lot of different reasons. Some have abusive husbands. Some are abusive to their husbands. Sometimes they get bored. Sometimes they slip up. It doesn't Matter. Even if women cheat more, that doesn't mean the woman you are with is going… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 01:25 AM |
| 2 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsSorry if I came off that way, but I'm really not. If your weren't trolling: When it comes to that separate issue, I think men and women can have whatever requirements in a mate they want. If you want a skinny partner, that's your business. If my friend wants a tall guy, that's her business. I don't think that's incompatible with what I was saying. I really don't think I'm bashing anyone, except the RedPill and the BlackPill. I'm saying that the guys are hurting themselves by being bitter, not … | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 01:11 AM |
| 10 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsA high value man doesn’t care about his wife education, beauty is the most important thing and most of them prefer younger women. You think that's a high value man? Really? Guys who are only willing to date women in their 20s never end up in happy relationships. They end up with a woman who realized he's a creep and wants a divorce, lol, regarless of how much money and how attractive he is. If a guy in his mid 30s or later happens to meet a 20 year old and hit it off it might go well, but dudes … | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 01:03 AM |
| 4 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsNo problem. Lol. I was pretty sure you didn't mean that. Anyway. I think maybe "punish" is the wrong word. When I was typing it out I wasn't sure of that word, but I couldn't figure out how to better phrase it. Ultimately the one who is being punished is the guy. He's punishing himself by being bitter and angry toward someone who didn't really do anything to him. All she did was date other guys that weren't him. She didn't bully him or purposefully ignore him. There was no malice or anything… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 12:51 AM |
| 4 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsHow did you get that from what I said? Just trolling me, or are you serious? | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 12:46 AM |
| 2 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their Standardssomething younger Did you mean, "someone younger"? "Something" makes it sound like you objectify women to an extreme. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 12:45 AM |
| 2 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsThat was just an example for illustration. Obviously they aren't equivalent. Sorry if that confused you, and didn't illuminate my point. And then the women who werent attracted to you suddenly think you're their "type" later. Really it doesnt seem like you were her type. You were just a safer choice not the one she really wanted. You're really putting a lot of thoughts into these hypothetical women's heads. It sounds more like this is coming from your own insecurity, and not from how actual wo… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 12:42 AM |
| 1 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsSomeone with high emotional maturity doesn't get caught up in jealousy like that. That's not to say that they don't have some jealousy, but to the level of having a sour taste in their mouth about it, that's a sure sign of a lack of emotional maturity. Those early blooming emotionally mature guys exist, but I don't have to warn them about the redpill or black pill, etc. A guy with a high level of emotional maturity, like to the level of someone in their 30s who worked on developing it, that guy … | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 12:35 AM |
| 5 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsThis is a good point and I'll have to think about it a bit more before I decide my thought on it fully. My first take is that it's certainly an understandable worry, but ultimately everyone is at risk of being left by their partner for someone else. Being an attractive guy in your 20s won't shield you from being dumped in your 30s, and being a less attractive guy in your 20s won't increase your chances of that happening either. If someone leaves you for someone else, that sucks but it isn't so… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/22 11:04 PM |
| 2 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsHowever wouldn't your perspective imply that rare men, who focus on emotional growth and development in their 20s, are morally justified to seek relationships only with people who saw their worth since the beginning? No, because if they were focused on their emotional growth in their 20s, they didn't have that value yet. These men would be punishing women for not valuing them for something they didn't have yet when the women didn't value it yet. It ends up being this crazy chicken before the egg… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/22 10:47 PM |
| 24 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsI'm really sorry about the sexual assault part by the way Thanks! It's been 15 years and I regularly see a therapist now. I appreciate the empathy, and want you to know that I'm doing well and have healed to a healthy place. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/22 10:33 PM |
| 8 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsThe problem is obviously that while the girls were actually able to acquire the experience needed in order to learn from their mistakes, many men didn't have that privilege. You are faulting men for acting the same way that women in their 20s do (i.e. putting looks over everything). The difference is that women managed to grow out of that mindset based on personal experience which many men don't have. I'm not faulting men for being interested in looks. I'm faulting them for joining these ideolog… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/22 10:30 PM |
| 5 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsThe problem is that you can only develop emotional maturity through relationship experience. There are lots of other ways to develop emotional maturity. In fact even people who have relationships need to do those other things to develop emotional maturity most of the time. Relationship experience does help, but it's not the only way or even the most important way. Being the second choice for someone, being chosen because you are "stable" or whatever sounds like the biggest turnoff ever. Makes … | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/22 10:16 PM |
| 3 | I don't hate women for being casual sex-havers anymore.I get really tired of casual sex/hook-up culture people trying to get into a relationship with me, and then guilt tripping me, because I reject them. I'm epathetically sorry that they were being shitty to you in this way. That wasn't cool of them. No one should guilt trip anyone for rejecting them, for any reason. I wasn't trying to say that you can't have a preference against those people. I was saying that the way you are describing them is inaccurate. That's all. If I made it sound like I was… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/06/22 12:31 AM |
| 4 | I don't hate women for being casual sex-havers anymore.I’m sure if both people are into hook-up culture than it’s no different than two dare devils having fun together. This is extremely rude and dismissive to people who have casual sex. Most aren't doing it for the "thrill." They don't do it because it's risky. They don't view it as risky and they are correct. Some do, but they are rare. Also, two people who rush into a marriage could be more accurately described as daredevil like. I agree that people wanting different things is a problem, a very b… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/06/22 04:42 PM |
| 3 | I don't hate women for being casual sex-havers anymore.How risky is it if you use protection? AIDS and HEP C are very low probability if you use condoms, and most other STIs are curable or not a big deal. Pregnancy is almost zero if you use two types of birth control (condoms and IUD for instance). It's more risky than not, but the risk is still very very low. Sexual assault risks go up, but the highest risks for sexual assault comes from people you already know, not new partners. Honestly, with minimal precautions it's not risky behavior at all. If… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/06/22 03:43 PM |
| 1 | I have a porn addiction and I’m scared to talk to women. I need advice.You are absolutely correct on this one. Porn addiction isn't going to cause one to fear rejection. More than likely they are both symptoms of low self-worth/ lack of self-compassion. If he thinks of himself as worthless he's going to assume that women are going to reject him. If he thinks of himself of worthless, he's going to seek comfort in something that boosts the reward centers of the brain (porn), to feel better. (Though other people might choose food or drugs/alcohol or high risk behavior… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/06/22 04:25 PM |
| 2 | I have a porn addiction and I’m scared to talk to women. I need advice.It's the opposite, for me. Though, I didn't downvote your comment (which is sitting at a neutral 1 at the moment) I agree with your 1st, 2nd and 4th paragraphs. Especially the stuff about porn. However, your 3rd paragraph is where I think you're wrong and giving bad advice. Women are the pickier sex, and generally get a lot more attention than men do. For the average normal guy, most women aren't attracted to them, but a few will be. There is a lot of truth behind the redpill, but it does exag… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/06/22 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Why is everything about being so primal?Most of what I said would be covered in an intro to anthropology class in undergrad. Which means a lot of it is easy to find on Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Caveman This first one alone gives a lot of insight into where all these cavemen notions come from. Keep in mind as you read anything else that even if the science is unsure about exactly what early and pre-humans looked like, we shouldn't default back to the "caveman." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Persistence_hunting https://en… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/06/22 01:13 PM |
| 1 | Good v. Evil, Light v. Dark Triad, PUAs & Red Pill: Morality in the Survival of the FittestFirst, apologies because I'm a trained philosopher watching this video and I'm going to use the same jargon that this guy is throwing around. I'm not saying this guy doesn't make any good points, but he has a sort of deep blindness to the fallibility of his current situation. His life, according to his own admission, went from Christian moral objectivism, to hedonistic relativism from an objectivist's lens, to a moral pragmatism from a relativist's lens. He hand waves completely at non-christian… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/06/22 08:16 PM |
| 22 | Beta male triying to not believe in the Red PillRed pill gave me and explanation of why this happens (women want masculinity, muscles, power, things i never liked or wanted) and that sounds logical, but im not 100% convinced of that (also, i dont like that point, for obvious reasons). What is something i can think instead of that? I'm going to try to answer this for you, but keep some things in mind. First, I don't know you and you haven't given us a whole lot of information about your interactions with women. So, my reasons would probably ch… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/06/22 11:33 AM |
| 1 | recommended videos /content?While there may be great take downs in videos, I think a big part of the problem is getting info from platforms like you tube and tik tock in the first place. I'm not saying those platforms have no value, just that for political and social messages they are particularity poorly suited. Listening to some person make an argument in a video isn't a good way to get information on a topic. Your brain focuses more on the editing, diction, cultural biases that you have, etc. then it does the ideas bein… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/06/22 04:45 AM |
| 11 | Whats the likelihood a woman will dump you just because she finds another guy better? AKA hypergamy?Think about the fact that red-piller's definition of hyper-gamy never includes being left for someone who is more emotionally mature, someone who is a better fit who makes the other person happier because they get along better, or someone who isn't verbally or psychologically abusive. It's always about money, looks, status. Why do men fear being left for the later, but not the former? Why do they assume that they'll be adequate at the former, but not the later? Women have tons of backgrounds and… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/06/22 04:22 AM |
| 22 | Why is everything about being so primal?The whole concept of "cavemen" is a ridiculous concept that was introduced in science fiction at the start of the 1900s. Almost none of the concept is actually bore out by anthropologists. This idea of a hairy ape-like man barely covered in animal skins with a rudimentary weapon, whose evolutionary fitness relied on him being the toughest and most brutal hunter and fighter he could be... is all imagination. Humans were always more gatherers than hunters, and much hunting was persistence hunting … | /r/ExRedPill | 19/06/22 03:21 AM |
| 1 | Actor Allegations (Seemingly All, not just Johnny)If that wasn't your intent, I apologize. Def not my intent, so apology accepted. I apologize also, as I got a bit defensive. I'm a bit worried that we are going to see the opposite effect. That when a guy is abused by his female partner, that people will assume that, like Johnny, the guy must be as abusive as his partner. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/06/22 02:07 PM |
| 1 | Is a beta orbiter a real thing?I think it’s more of “she sees me as one of her girlfriends” Did she tell you this, or are you assuming her thoughts on the matter? Did you discuss it? We got in bed and she was naked ffs. And yet nothing happened. What did happen? What did she say? Did you say something about being naked and how that made you feel? or as she says she straight up doesn’t see me like that aka I am friend zoned or acting very “beta” as some would say. I mean, if she's attracted to only aggressive alpha dudes or so… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/06/22 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Is a beta orbiter a real thing?Probably not a great idea to have a relationship like that with a colleague anyway. (The kind where they tell you about their sexual exploits with other colleagues). Again, seems like she has serious boundary issues, and you haven't drawn a very good line for her not to cross if she even would stop. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/06/22 03:15 PM |
| 2 | Are looks actually subjective? Always been interested in this topic.Well, I meant the other person's mood. A woman you pass on Monday might be grumpy and not even notice you, but on Thursday she's in a happy horny mood and thinks you're cute. There is something to going out when you are in a good mood though. Often people find others who are genuinely happy and smiling more attractive. So, yeah, it's not a bad idea to expect more people to like you when you're happy. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/06/22 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Is a beta orbiter a real thing?What a shitty situation. I've been in similar ones. I've also been the object of a friend's crush before. It's probably a good idea to end your friendship. Why is she telling you about blowing some dude? Like, I can totally understand women who have a hard time keeping guy friends and hate when a guy friend cuts them off because he was into her and she rejected him. That's gotta be pretty shitty. But, your story seems different because of her lack of boundaries and respect for you. If you know a… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/06/22 01:17 PM |
| 2 | Are looks actually subjective? Always been interested in this topic.This is going to get a fair bit philosophical, so fair warning about technical jargon. "Subjective" and "objective" aren't totally separated concepts. That is to say some things are entirely subjective and some objective, but many or most things have both subjective and objective elements. To make this more clear, consider the meaning of the words. Subjective is a quality that arises out of our perception alone. This is our raw experience; for example how we personally experience the color pink … | /r/ExRedPill | 02/06/22 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Actor Allegations (Seemingly All, not just Johnny)What the actual fuck kind of loaded question is that? I'm saying that abusers shouldn't be used a spokespeople for the abused, even if they were abused. You wouldn't point to a guy who was molested as a kid as a spokesman and example for molested kids if he became a molester as an adult. Whether Johnny wins in court is up to the court, but we shouldn't be holding him up as an example of men being abused by women when he was just as much of an abuser as her. *accidentally used an old account stil… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/06/22 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Can we discuss how some people are indifferent to lookism?If you are doing "research" for yourself, why did you compare it to a scientist doing research. "Research" is the wrong word for what you are doing. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/05/22 12:14 AM |
| 1 | Actor Allegations (Seemingly All, not just Johnny)I'm a victim of sexual assault who is a man, and I was assaulted by a woman. Johnny Depp should not be the voice for men like me. There is a lot of evidence already documented and used in court that he was just as much of an abuser as her. They're both really shitty abusive narcissists. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/05/22 12:13 AM |
| 1 | Can we discuss how some people are indifferent to lookism?You're doing research for what? It would be super unethical to intuition pump random people on the internet without informing them of your research and what it's being done for. You'd never publish anything like that. I used to be a professor. I couldn't ask random people bad questions on reddit and use it as research to publish papers. Look. I'm just genuinely asking you to stop and leave this sub alone. You can say no. I just thought I'd reach out and ask. I thought I'd give you a chance to be… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/05/22 12:11 AM |
| 1 | Can we discuss how some people are indifferent to lookism?There are debates and researches about everything, including bullying, didn't you know? This isn't how research is done. You are not doing research. Stop bullshitting me. If you think this is how research is done, or how formal debates work, then you know nothing about research or debating ideas in academia. And call me obsessed, but you are also obsessed with people who believes in the red pill, so stop trolling with the same theme again and again. You're basically saying, "no I'm not, you are.… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/05/22 12:00 AM |
| 0 | Insecurity of girl leaving for a "bigger" dudeWhat would that have to do with being black? Do you believe race based differences in penis size? lol | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/22 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Can we discuss how some people are indifferent to lookism?You're not doing science. There is nothing scientific or even logical about your questions. You're just some dude obsessed with bullying in some random books. You always get the same answers. I've visited a lot of the places you've asked about it, and most of the time you get given really good reasons why these questions and your theory make no sense, but you refuse to accept that. If this was a large sub with a less serious theme, I wouldn't care. But this isn't the place, man! | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/22 08:23 PM |
| 1 | Can we discuss how some people are indifferent to lookism?I called you a troll because that's what I consider what you are doing to be: trolling. When someone asks the same questions on the same sub over and over that's a form of trolling. I didn't mean it as a pejorative. and why are you obsessed with the red pill This sub is r/exredpill It's literally a sub for discussion about getting out of red pill. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/22 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Can we discuss how some people are indifferent to lookism?Hey remember, when we had this super long conversation, and I tried to answer all your questions in good faith? How come you're asking the same questions on the same sub, then calling me impolite for suggesting you don't spam the sub with the same question(s)? This sub is for serious discussions about red pill and how to get out of it. Why are you using us to indulge your obsession? | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/22 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Can we seriously talk about this?The fact that you spam subs with the same stuff over and over again isn't polite. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/22 07:54 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of guys who believe girls are turned on by creepiness and aggression like randomly choking, rape or forcing make out(RSDTyler/Julien fans)?Guys go through very similar stuff. Lots of guys end up sleeping with women early on because it's drilled into their head, "You have to bro, otherwise you're a pussy." So they'll sleep with a woman or girl that they aren't interested in because they are afraid of not living up to societies expectations. They're expected to be horny 24/7 "because that's how guys are" so if their GF or wife wants sex and they aren't into it they try to anyway. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/22 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Actor Allegations (Seemingly All, not just Johnny)they all had something Not all accusations are equal. An accusation of sexual assault, abuse, or sexual harassment is vastly different than "George Clooney was accused of blacklisting a co-worker." | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/22 06:21 PM |
| 3 | Insecurity of girl leaving for a "bigger" dude~7.5/8x5" the average size is 5". And it's a bell curve of a distribution. You're in the 99.99% or more for length. Your worry is 100% irrational. Also, and more importantly. Let people have preferences that you're not going to live up to. That's their right. It's impossible that you'd fit everyone's preferences, or everyone's preferences that you like. You have to accept the fact that you can be rejected at any time for reasons you can't do anything about. That's just life, that's just autono… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/22 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Can we seriously talk about this?I deleted all my other comments, because we've already had this conversation before and it went nowhere. You've spammed this sub multiple times with the same conversation, and you spam other subs with the same conversation. Stop spamming us and being a troll. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/22 06:02 PM |
| 1 | Can we seriously talk about this?1 - I've answered this before. I was bullied in school. I read lots and lots of books when I was that age. I didn't read those particular books, because I don't like horror, but read 100s of books in my teens. None of those made me feel like you're describing. I didn't have sex until I was in college. At no time did I think it was a problem that kids were bullied in books for their looks. I can tell the difference between reality and fiction. I CARED ABOUT MY ACTUAL BULLIES IN REAL LIFE. Not fic… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/22 03:19 PM |
| 2 | Interesting discussion on the difference between Introverted men, and boring men.While learning about and following social conventions is important, I don't think that it really addresses the main issue. Following social rules doesn't make an unfunny person more funny or a boring person more interesting. Comedy comes from understanding social conventions and breaking them at the right time in the right way. Learning to understand social norms so you can tell what is awkward in a "I should be embarassed" or in an "I can turn this into a joke" way is incredibly helpful to peop… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/22 01:33 PM |
| 20 | What do you think of guys who believe girls are turned on by creepiness and aggression like randomly choking, rape or forcing make out(RSDTyler/Julien fans)?And not in the consensual non-con kinda way. In the "I really want to rape someone, so I'm constantly testing the waters and trying to justify doing it" kinda way. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/22 01:14 PM |
| 2 | Rant: the Johnny Vs. Amber situation annoys the fk out of meMan, I'm so glad to see this take on this sub. It feels like everywhere else I go on reddit it's either 100% support for him or 100% support for her. The details of the case make is super clear that they are both abusive narcissists that ended up together. They've had so many chances over the years to just end things and leave each other alone and they have always woken up and chosen malice. They've abused and hurt each other so much through so many years that it doesn't matter who started it … | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/22 01:10 PM |
| 3 | "Women don't desire stable guys and only go for them in their thirties"It's also super binary, black and white thinking. Baked into this is the idea that there are two types of guys, unstable and stable. But, that's not reality. In reality there is a big spectrum of "stability." Yeah, there are junkie dudes and super studious straight edge dudes, but most guys aren't 100% unstable or 100% stable. Most guys are in between, and most women are in between. There is no magical cutoff point where all of a sudden you're a "stable guy" or an "unstable one." I went throug… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/22 01:02 PM |
| 1 | Can we seriously talk about this?We've literally had this conversation before. Please stop spamming subs with this conversation. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/22 12:34 PM |
| 1 | Can we seriously talk about this?1 - For me personally, High school was hell. I was bullied every day I went until the 12th grade. But, what he said about it not ending after High school was false for me. After high school I could just avoid mean people for the most part. 2 - Protagonists in books aren't always attractive. That's just plain false. Movies have attractive people because it's a visual medium and a certain segment will watch the film just to see the attractive people. Economically it makes sense to have attractive … | /r/ExRedPill | 28/05/22 09:14 PM |
| 3 | My DadWow, that's horrible. So sorry you had to go through growing up with a father like that (the empathetic 'sorry'). Hope you are seeing a therapist, or if you're not you'd do well to consider it. Therapy can help you to address thoughts you've internalized from a parent like that. They have some really good techniques for correcting negative internal thoughts like, "I'm too old or my husband is going to leave me when I get too old, etc." Just a thought. has now separated from his "main gf" of many… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/05/22 08:49 PM |
| 3 | How much can you blame having too high of standard for having trouble getting women?Well that's good. Imtooshort had a whole thread about how he tried to date a woman that he didn't like, and then was angry with her when she rejected him because "even the bottom of the barrel" had too high of standards for him. I'm glad that woman had high enough standards to reject him. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/05/22 03:20 PM |
| 2 | How much can you blame having too high of standard for having trouble getting women?feeling like no one could love me This is the crux of it. You can't possibly have any evidence that no one "could" love you. You don't know what's other people's head. No one has ever approached you, or shown interest in you, but THAT DOESN'T MEAN NO ONE EVER WILL. It also doesn't mean no one ever has. The likelihood that someone thought to themself "he's kinda cute" about you is very non-zero. In a healthy situation you'd be the kind of partner you would want, and you'd gain from that a sense t… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/05/22 03:16 PM |
| 2 | How much can you blame having too high of standard for having trouble getting women?Same. How do I not feel like this? If your talking to someone and no matter what they say or how they act you'll be interested in them, that's incredibly unattractive to any healthy person Most men act that way because they'd rather have something than nothing. I really don't understand how people can't get this. People just can't seem to empathise with this They do empathize with it!!!!! You just aren't actually listening to other people. I used to have the same ideas. I used to be one of those… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/05/22 03:08 PM |
| 3 | How much can you blame having too high of standard for having trouble getting women?Don't get this twisted. My sense of self-worth is fine when not applied to romance, I love myself and know I'm worth something. But as soon as that relates to romance self-worth doesn't mean that much because it's anothe person making that decision You say this and it shows how messed up you are. We've had so many discussions on here and you never listen to anyone. Your conception of self worth is really messed up, and I'm tired of trying to explain it to you. You make assumptions about what wom… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/05/22 02:58 PM |
| 2 | How much can you blame having too high of standard for having trouble getting women?My sense of self-worth is low because I know I'm not worth shit to mostwomen. I don't see how that's being toxic. How am I supposed to feelworth something romantically when I've never had any indication that Iam? How do I create that in a vacuum? Self-worth is internal, not external. That's the "self" part. So, even if women suddenly like you it won't increase that sense of self worth. That's just external validation. You're also the guy who has claimed over and over again on this sub that you l… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/05/22 02:52 PM |
| 2 | So, what's worse, having no value, no attention from women, or being desired, but for shallow reasons?Nope, you're a good looking guy. You look as good or better than a lot of my married guy friends. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/05/22 10:20 PM |
| 2 | So, what's worse, having no value, no attention from women, or being desired, but for shallow reasons?If you don't like them, don't wear them. That's not the point though. The point is that you are making assumptions about what other people, women, think about you. That's where you are wrong. You're a good looking guy, who would look good to plenty of women in glasses or without. Just because they don't compliment you on them or ask you out or whatever else doesn't mean they don't think your attractive. Some women would undoubtedly find you attractive in glasses, to say otherwise is your own bia… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/05/22 10:13 PM |
| 2 | So, what's worse, having no value, no attention from women, or being desired, but for shallow reasons?Because you read the minds of all the women who looked at you while you were wearing glasses? You know that not everyone who is attracted to you is going to tell you about it, right? | /r/ExRedPill | 27/05/22 10:05 PM |
| 2 | Here is an example of how poisonous the cult dogma is.As fucked up as this is, it actually reads like a reductio ad absurdum to me. Reductio ad absurdum is a form of argument were you assume something and derive a contradiction or blatantly false conclusion, and therefor can further conclude that the original assumption was false. The form of reductio ad absurdum looks like: P: Assume X 1: X implies Y 2: Y is false 3: Y can't be true and false C: Therefore X is false. This guy's weird conjecture looks like: 1: "We all know women love attractive dom… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/05/22 09:28 PM |
| 5 | The more I lurk on female subseddits, the more I lose empathy towards women and believe in the Red PillI understand it. The notion of associating all problems of the world to patriarchy and the inherent evil in everything that is male. That's not what it is, but have fun with your strawman. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 09:23 PM |
| 8 | The more I lurk on female subseddits, the more I lose empathy towards women and believe in the Red PillHonestly, I was just trying to point out that you're calling something poisonous and you have a very shallow knowledge of it. You're ability to criticize feminism is zero, because you don't really understand it. You should really look into what feminism is before you call it things and start blaming men's/your problems on it. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 07:37 PM |
| 6 | The more I lurk on female subseddits, the more I lose empathy towards women and believe in the Red PillI don't see what that has to do with anything. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 07:33 PM |
| 8 | The more I lurk on female subseddits, the more I lose empathy towards women and believe in the Red PillThat doesn't answer the question. If you think women should have equality, and already have it, you're still a feminist. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 07:29 PM |
| 9 | The more I lurk on female subseddits, the more I lose empathy towards women and believe in the Red PillHow is the notion that women should have equality poisonous? | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 07:25 PM |
| 16 | The more I lurk on female subseddits, the more I lose empathy towards women and believe in the Red PillOr, ya know, maybe there is a better explanation than a highly controversial and largely debunked science. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 07:22 PM |
| 10 | The more I lurk on female subseddits, the more I lose empathy towards women and believe in the Red PillHonestly, I don't think reddit is the good place for this sort of thing. Or any social media (reddit being the lightest social media platform, doesn't mean it's not one). Go search out respected moral philosophers who are working on men's issues from a feminist frame. Feminism in the academic world isn't radical, it's widely accepted and fairly neutral. The vast majority of all current moral philosophers are feminists regardless of their moral philosophy (whether their consequentialists, egalita… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 07:08 PM |
| 27 | The more I lurk on female subseddits, the more I lose empathy towards women and believe in the Red PillThis is one of the worst, most idiotic takes I've seen on this sub. Women should change their attraction! WTF?! Maybe you should change yours and become attracted to less people. See how that goes for you. If they can't, maybe women and feminist should stop saying that evo-psych and people like Jordan peterson are wrong about them. So if they can't change who they are attracted to, they should accept junk science? | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 06:56 PM |
| 13 | The more I lurk on female subseddits, the more I lose empathy towards women and believe in the Red Pillall personal threads get removed. I haven't been there in a while. Didn't realize they changed that rule. I felt way way more free People's freedom to say whatever they want shouldn't be the yard stick to determine the quality and aim of a subreddit. The only thing we men have simialr to TwoXChromosmes is unfortuantely r/MensRights . Okay, so I just went there and the place is an utter cesspool of misogyny. I also think twoxchomosomes isn't really a good representation of feminism at all. Bo… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 06:42 PM |
| 25 | The more I lurk on female subseddits, the more I lose empathy towards women and believe in the Red PillI also follow the MRA subs because I think both genders face issues. MRA subs don't address men's issues in any kind of productive way. If you want to see a better alternative, try r/menslib | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Dangerous Black Pill YouTubersWell then, why did you bring that up? The person you were responding to wasn't making any claims about misogyny alone making one an incel. They specifically brought up that incels are misogynistic, not the other way around. Then you responded that not all misogynists are incels. If you weren't confused, then at best you were bring up a non-sequitur that wasn't really relevant and didn't add anything to the conversation. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 05:57 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend has gotten into Fresh and Fit the past year... can this be undone?I mean, I think tradition is bad. Not all traditions are bad, some happen to be quite good, but doing anything merely because it's tradition is innately bad. Just because something was done in the past doesn't mean it's good. That's besides the point though. Redpill is a warping of tradition that demeans women. This is what I meant when I wrote, "even among conservatives red pill is a particularly extreme version of traditional gender roles....RP [] got the tradition wrong." So, we are on the … | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 05:47 PM |
| 2 | red pill is scuffed as fockI agree with the other commenters that this is very well said and true. To extend the anology: Even if all you can make or afford is pre-ground commodity coffee in a Mr. Coffee machine, there are lots of people who like that. If you're worried about your coffee either buy some new equipment and higher quality beans, or keep looking for someone who is okay with the coffee you make. What you don't want to do is get mad at people for not being interested in your cheap coffee. That's their prerogati… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 05:35 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend has gotten into Fresh and Fit the past year... can this be undone?To jump in here: I think it's more so that red pill is traditionalist more than it's conservative. Most conservatives are traditionalist, but also many center-left liberal democrats are traditionalist too. I think further left socialists/ anarchists/ etc. are far rarer when it comes to red pill. I've always been pretty far to the left, but I used to have more traditionalist views about relationships, which led me to believe similar things to Red pill (This was around 2004-2007 so before the term… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 05:17 PM |
| 1 | Dangerous Black Pill YouTubersThat doesn't mean they are opposites. They are just drawing different conclusions from some of the same flawed assumptions. The assumption that only certain types of men can find women partners, regardless of whether men can change their type, is what they have in common. Reality: "Any man can find a partner, it might take more work and/or luck for some, but men of all types find women partners." Red Pill: "Only alpha guys can find a partner, some men are born alphas other have to change themsel… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Dangerous Black Pill YouTubersNever said the some incels aren't misogynistic. But just being misogynistic doesn't make you an incel. Some of the most misogynistic guys I know are married with kids. I'm not part of this conversation, but I just wanted to educate you a bit. You got the logic backwards here. The other person was claiming that "incels are misogynistic." You replied back that "being misogynistic doesn't make you an incel." The claim all incels are misogynists isn't refuted by showing that some misogynists aren't … | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 04:22 PM |
| 1 | Are women who say they want a "provider and protector" in a man toxic or hateful for feeling this way?I want to feel the same about Kevin Samuels that the majority of people in the community feel but when I hear women reduce men to a paycheck it hard not to feel like okay that's fine what's your "height weight dress size" and feel retributive justice deep down. "An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind" It's a hokey saying, but I think something like it applies in this case. Reducing a man to his paycheck is wrong. Reducing a woman to her physical appearance is also wrong. These women who a… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 04:04 PM |
| 1 | Are women who say they want a "provider and protector" in a man toxic or hateful for feeling this way?Since the beginning of our time, men brought home. Provided… And then women created home with what men provided. You should really take a anthropology course. Maybe ask if you can survey one at a local college or something. Because you are comically wrong. Like not even close to right. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Are women who say they want a "provider and protector" in a man toxic or hateful for feeling this way?This is perhaps not the same as “wanting a provider,” but I’m not ashamed to say that money matters. Because when you are a grown up, you won’t be able to live the type of life you want to live if your partner makes way less than you. This is totally reasonable. There are a lot of other women though who want their partner to straight up make more than them. I'm assuming from your post you'd be happy with any guy who could reasonably "keep up." Like if you make 80k and he made 65k, you'd be happy… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/05/22 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Men are willing to take the "redpill's harsh truths", but refuse to accept any other truths that counteract it. Why?If your best years are in your 30s that just means you struggled or didn’t have the option to have the most amount of fun in your 20s. lol. i had plenty of fun in my 20s, I'm just happier and healthier now. No, we don't want kids, but "geriatric pregnancy" is an outdated term and the likelihood of birth complications are higher but not that high. It just means extra monitoring and extra incentive for prenatal vitamins. It's not like the risk goes from zero to 50% or something. Also, at 35 we'd b… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/05/22 11:05 AM |
| 12 | Men are willing to take the "redpill's harsh truths", but refuse to accept any other truths that counteract it. Why?Surprise to you I’m not an incel I never assumed you were an incel, just really young and inexperienced/ stuck in a weird traditionalist/conservative mindset. You sound like literally everything between you and your partner is transactional. My partner and I are mid 30's, and it's definitely our best years or maybe our best years are still to come. I get that having kids is important to you, but it's not the end all be all for most people. Lots of people who want kids have them in their 30s, and… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/05/22 02:02 AM |
| 3 | 'The bar is on the ground for men'P.S. the other benefit of "finding" is that it puts women who are overwhelmed by guys who they aren't interested in and men who feel like no women are interested in them on the same page. They are both failing to find what they are looking for. Sure, the women could "get" sex, but the intimacy they are looking for isn't included with what they can "get." From the getting frame it seems like the women are better off, from the finding frame they are both in the same boat, which makes each more emp… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/05/22 12:47 AM |
| 2 | 'The bar is on the ground for men'I think it's often good advice because a lot of guys are on the cusp. There are women (or men if bi/gay/pan) who find them somewhat attractive and personable, but they aren't connecting with those women. People are worried, that if their hygiene is bad that will ruin it once they do have that opportunity. On the aside: "finding" is a better way to phrase it than "getting." You find someone who wants to be intimate. I can't comprehend the idea of a woman mutually agreeing to be intimate to me bec… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/05/22 12:39 AM |
| 6 | Men are willing to take the "redpill's harsh truths", but refuse to accept any other truths that counteract it. Why?20s are their best years? Are you under 20? LOL | /r/ExRedPill | 21/05/22 11:53 PM |
| 3 | 'The bar is on the ground for men'Why do people bring up hygiene so much exactly? I'm pretty hygeinic (shower everyday, brush teeth, mouth wash, deodorant, body spray, trim beard weekly). I'll be damned if any woman has ever noticied or been attracted to me because of that Hygiene isn't something people are generally attracted to, it's something they are sometimes repelled against when it's not present. It's also not always the case. More women than I ever really would have imagined didn't care or would tell me I shower too much… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/05/22 11:50 PM |
| 1 | How to be happy as an ex red pillerMaybe you can see if that technique works for you too. It’s probably my #1 go to method for coping with heavy emotions. I'm not in a situation where I need that advice anymore, but plenty of people on this sub do. I think it's solid advice. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/05/22 12:40 AM |
| 1 | How to be happy as an ex red pillerNo offense taken. I still think you are still misunderstanding, or more so we're not on the same page with how we're talking about it. OP and I aren't suggesting completely cutting yourself off emotionally to feel nothing when you are rejected. We're suggesting dialing your emotional involvement back to a reasonable level, which I think is what you are advocating for too. I think men tend to be in a situation where there is a lot of pressure to "succeed" in dating. Being rejected is a big emotio… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/05/22 01:10 PM |
| 1 | Why do redpillers seem to get angry at feminists/women concerning the draft?I generally support it. Rad feminism has it's good points too, and I haven't really studied and thought about the two enough to decide which I support more. Idk, if that's what you meant about how I "feel". | /r/ExRedPill | 10/05/22 01:21 AM |
| 1 | Why do redpillers seem to get angry at feminists/women concerning the draft?How does what make me feel? | /r/ExRedPill | 09/05/22 06:40 PM |
| 1 | Is attraction more about feeling the vibe than creating it?That's the "women aren't a monolith" thing again. Listen to other women who say other things as well to get more perspective. I've seen stories from women on this sub about meeting their shy/awkward partner that didn't look anything like the typical thing some vocal women say women want. I'd bet that the stories that you feel you can't live up to stand out and stick in your mind more because they are emotionally charged for you. The women who describe what they want that aligned more with who yo… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/05/22 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Is attraction more about feeling the vibe than creating it?True. They also don't focus on the human differences. People have they're own preferences that aren't based on gender. When they focus on what makes men and women different, they never get a chance to focus on what makes themselves unique. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/05/22 06:24 PM |
| 2 | How to be happy as an ex red pillerThis post comes off as the equivalent of telling someone to calm down when their panicing. These men who are harboring this bitterness and resentment need to let it go and "get over it." But, they have no idea how to. The "how to" is what they need, and isn't so simple. I agree that that should be their goal, but it takes a lot to get there | /r/ExRedPill | 09/05/22 06:18 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about this post?Loneliness isn't usually killed with a relationship, especially if you go in expecting it to. You need friends and purpose to do that. Can't say that I can help you with either, but those are far more important for loneliness than a partner. Especially a first relationship. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/05/22 05:26 PM |
| 2 | What are some good hobby ideas to develop as a healthy man?I just started disc golf. It's really fun and has a great community. It's really cheap, unlike regular golf, and a lot of the courses are in the middle of nowhere. Maybe use Google maps and see if a course is reasonably close by. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/05/22 04:31 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about this post?Because they were rejected for other reasons mostly, but are insecure about their height. I've read comments from you a lot on here and I can confidently say, as you are now no woman would want to date you because of your beliefs and additude. No man would want to date you either. Unless they're a complete masochist. You have a horrible additude in general, don't listen to other people, and have messed up ideas you're unwilling to think otherwise about. Being short is a far far secondary factor … | /r/ExRedPill | 09/05/22 04:27 PM |
| 3 | Why do redpillers seem to get angry at feminists/women concerning the draft?That's why most feminists want to end the draft... | /r/ExRedPill | 09/05/22 04:18 PM |
| 5 | How to be happy as an ex red pillerI think you are misunderstanding OP. I had a very similar outlook before I met my current gf/partner. It's not bitterness. It's moreso not emotionally investing before the situation actually calls for it. Unless you are asking out a long time friend, you don't know this person. You don't know if a relationship of any kind would work out. Getting upset at yourself or them is just kind of inappropriate. If getting rejected feels terrible, you put way too much of your emotions into the situation. I… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/05/22 04:10 PM |
| 2 | Why do redpillers seem to get angry at feminists/women concerning the draft?Because TRP is built on a foundation of chauvinism, toxic masculinity (or just traditional masculinity, same thing), and misogyny. When you are on it, you think feminism is evil, therefore something you don't like that has a gender component is the result of feminism. The vast majority of TRPers don't know anything about feminism. Ask if one the difference between radical feminism and liberal feminism is like asking a conservative the difference between socialism and communism. They have zero id… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/05/22 03:40 AM |
| 3 | Why do redpillers seem to get angry at feminists/women concerning the draft?"I think people should stand up for freedom over their bodies. Men should support a woman’s right to an abortion. And women should also support a man’s freedom from being drafted. Both genders should be equally enraged anytime the government..." You just defined liberal feminism | /r/ExRedPill | 09/05/22 03:28 AM |
| 1 | Open Thread: What would you change about this Sub to make it betterAs someone who bought into very early red-pill, got out, and now idetifies as a feminist, I think a feminist lens can help most red-pillers. I would hate to see my perspective silenced because you don't like feminism. I'm not talking rabbid misandry here. I'm talking about the kind of feminist lens they use over at r/menslib. It's a good lens to help men. I hate seeing all these guys give up the red-pill, but keep all the traditional gender role essentialism that led them down that path in the f… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/05/22 01:42 PM |
| 1 | Open Thread: What would you change about this Sub to make it betterFeminism isn't toxic overall. In modern critical theory it's widely accepted. You won't find serious egalitarians, ultilitarians, deontologists, or virtue ethicists who aren't also feminists. Of course there are non-academic feminists who have some crazy ideas, but feminism itsself is non-controversial. To purposely avoid feminism would be to divorce ourselves from meaningful ethical discourse. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/05/22 07:17 AM |
| 1 | What is your take on this video by Based ZeusNo one who cheats is justified. So yeah, you're correct in one sense... but I think the statement was descriptive not prescriptive. No one should cheat, but people who are treated poorly do more often. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/04/22 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Am i going too fast? am i doing something wrong?I don't see anything wrong with talking to this woman with serious intentions. If you're looking for something serious. Long distance can totally work when you're in adult mode, which both being close to 30 I'm guessing you both are. Manage your expectations though, don't get ahead of youself. And think now about whether you're willing to move to be with her, not that you need to discuss it yet. More importantly though, let your heart want what it wants, regardless. You got this, man. From the s… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/04/22 01:42 PM |
| 5 | Am i going too fast? am i doing something wrong?How old are both of you? | /r/ExRedPill | 16/04/22 09:53 PM |
| 1 | How does female attraction work, or rather how does a man become attractive?What an unempathic comment. I used to really enjoy hookups before my current long term relationship. I will again if my gf and I ever break up. But, it's really not for everyone. If the person says they wouldn't like it, they wouldn't like it. Some people just don't have the psychology to enjoy that. Let them be. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/04/22 12:23 PM |
| 1 | What's your take on balding ?I started balding at 16 very rapidly. It does hurt your dating prospects when you're under 24ish. But after that I'd say it's really not much of a factor. Shave your head, grow a beard maybe. Most women who are past college age don't mind at all and some prefer it. Most guys don't go bald as fast as I did. If you're older than 25 and worried about it, your worry is a bigger factor than the actual balding. Like so many posts on here, it only matters to young guys and guys who are trying to be a p… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/04/22 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Bullies are happier, have more sex appeal, says study. So science seem to confirm that RPs ideal masculinity is a good strategy and possibly just human nature... so what's your response?I don't understand what your saying. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/03/22 11:40 PM |
| 2 | Blaming mens actions on women, but not the other way aroundThat's somewhat true, but still off. People who cheat are sometimes very good at cheating, so you how would you tell? People aren't always consistent cheaters; you might get into a relationship with someone who has never cheated before and then cheats on you. Again, how would you tell? Also, you can just get unlucky. Sometimes people just luckily find someone who doesn't cheat, sometimes they just stumble into relationships that end with the person cheating. You can, and should, look out for red… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/03/22 05:03 PM |
| 2 | Blaming mens actions on women, but not the other way aroundGetting cheated on is non-consensual too. If you consent to your partner sleeping with someone else, that's just an open relationship, not cheating. Getting cheated on is just as hard to stop or notice than being mugged. There are small things you can do to try to avoid either or make them less likely, but at the end of the day you can't control what other people are going to do to you. If your partner wants to cheat, they usually can. If someone wants to mug you, they usually can. The mugger or… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/03/22 04:32 PM |
| 3 | What are the differences between a 'friendship personality' and a 'sexually/romantically attractive personality' to women?The hobbies don't have to be boring. The books don' t have to be boring. You could try industrial rave dancing, and reading books about punk rockers in 80's East Berlin. Working on yourself is mostly work, yeah it isn't exciting and thrilling to go through, but the results can be exciting in the sense of you feeling so much better about yourself and being happier in general. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/03/22 03:59 PM |
| 5 | What are the differences between a 'friendship personality' and a 'sexually/romantically attractive personality' to women?thus there must be a difference between friendship personality and sexually/romantically attractive personality if physical factors are not significatively important Physical factors are significantly important, though probably not as as they are for men. Women respond to visual stimuli as well, in fact in sexology tests women showed physical arousal to a wider variety of sexual images than men. Women have a lot of variance in what they what they find attractive. What is a friendship personality… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/03/22 01:56 PM |
| 2 | Let’s Talk About PTSDI thought I was pretty clear about that above. But, it never hurts to repeat I guess. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/03/22 01:21 PM |
| 3 | Let’s Talk About PTSDDoesn't have to be bullying. Could be some other trauma, or maybe it's unrelated. Worth looking into though. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/03/22 03:02 AM |
| 1 | Bullies are happier, have more sex appeal, says study. So science seem to confirm that RPs ideal masculinity is a good strategy and possibly just human nature... so what's your response?Growing up I kept telling myself there was no way I'd be like this, and, having it work left a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. Yup. Not surprising. And the third option: to work on yourself and become a better more mature version of yourself capable of flirting with women without trp abusive "techniques." Well, no one ever says that option left a sick feeling in their stomach. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/03/22 01:39 AM |
| 5 | Bullies are happier, have more sex appeal, says study. So science seem to confirm that RPs ideal masculinity is a good strategy and possibly just human nature... so what's your response?The red pill says that certain types of people are happier. Then they say, "here's how you can be a terrible person, like those happy people." But, if you aren't a terrible person to begin with it's not going to work. The "bullies," they aren't bothered by the terrible things they do. You will be. You have empathy. If you didn't have it, you would have been one of those bullies a long time ago. You won't be happier or sexier if you pretend to be a bully. Just because you start bullying people an… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 05:51 PM |
| 7 | Bullies are happier, have more sex appeal, says study. So science seem to confirm that RPs ideal masculinity is a good strategy and possibly just human nature... so what's your response?I was bullied a lot in school, so there's no way I could track everyone, but had an experience similar to yours. The guy who was the absolute worst bully to me in jr. high and high school ODed from drugs his mother game him on his 21st birthday. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 05:38 PM |
| 3 | Bullies are happier, have more sex appeal, says study. So science seem to confirm that RPs ideal masculinity is a good strategy and possibly just human nature... so what's your response?She noted that her findings are limited by a small sample size that lacks ethnic diversity and by the possibility of omitted variables, such as how psychopathology may influence a child’s depression level and likelihood of becoming a bully. This is literally in the article. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 05:32 PM |
| 1 | I envy other peoples lives.That's a great plan, gives you a lot of flexibility. It seems like what you really need from your original post is a change of scenery. Whether it's this college plan, or something else, if your generally not happy with your situation, it's time to change things up and get some new perspective. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 05:28 PM |
| 1 | I envy other peoples lives.Yeah so, the regular social life isn't going to apply to you. Do you think you could save up some money and then work part time during your schooling? You could try to balance your school work load so you do have enough to have a social life (with other non-tred students and your current friends). Is your career field something that has part time work? | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 04:22 PM |
| 1 | I envy other peoples lives.How old are you? Are you the same age as college kids? That makes a big difference in what kind of social life you should expect by going back to school. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 04:17 PM |
| 5 | I envy other peoples lives.Not comparing yourself to other people is a difficult but useful skill. It's the kind of thing people often learn in therapy. If your not happy comparing yourself to others isn't going to help. Do you have any constructive plans to help make your life more like what you want it to be? | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 04:09 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't hypergamous, they have more options for sex, while simultaneously having lower libidoWell, presumably that's in the book, but not in the amazon comments then. Why are you drawing conclusions from comments on a seller's site? | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't hypergamous, they have more options for sex, while simultaneously having lower libidoA lot has changed in 25 years and Pinker was never taken very seriously on this issue. He's more known for his theory of language development, which is has also fallen out of favor. I honestly don't have time to sift through and cite all that's going on: here is a really basic primer: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sexualitytoday/201808/are-women-hungrier-sex-we-thought | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 12:51 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't hypergamous, they have more options for sex, while simultaneously having lower libidoAbsolutely correct. Thanks for clarifying. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 12:26 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't hypergamous, they have more options for sex, while simultaneously having lower libidoSince you haven't seen any evidence, here is a book you should consider reading: https://www.amazon.com/What-Do-Women-Want-Adventures/dp/0061906085 | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 12:25 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't hypergamous, they have more options for sex, while simultaneously having lower libidoPlease explain why you think there is selection pressure for women to have lower libido. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 01:26 AM |
| 1 | Women aren't hypergamous, they have more options for sex, while simultaneously having lower libidoI'm sorry, but you have no idea how evolution works. obviously against their own interests and does not help maximize their offspring? There is just so much misunderstanding in this sentence. Do you mean maximize the fitness of the genes of their offspring? Why is it against their evolutionary interest? Women being horny helps them produce more offspring. Human offspring are very fragile early in life. Infant mortality was super high before modern medicine. Them being horny helps replace offspri… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 01:24 AM |
| 1 | Women aren't hypergamous, they have more options for sex, while simultaneously having lower libidoActually, there are very good reasons in evolution to have LGBT members of a mostly heterosexual society. Not that we fully understand all of them. But... For example: It helps a group take care of it's orphaned offspring if some members can't reproduce. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 01:22 AM |
| 2 | Women aren't hypergamous, they have more options for sex, while simultaneously having lower libidoI'm going to go with the consensus of sexologists and psychologists, but if you want to drum up some study or odd ball author who thinks otherwise, please post. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/22 01:10 AM |
| 3 | Women aren't hypergamous, they have more options for sex, while simultaneously having lower libidoThe population is 7 Billion. How the fuck do you think that happened? Lol If you need proof go ready the psychology today article I posted. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/22 08:13 PM |
| 5 | Women aren't hypergamous, they have more options for sex, while simultaneously having lower libidoBro, we had a super long conversation of your circumcision caused problems. I'm well aware. SSRIs killing your libido has nothing to do with how strong it was to start with. Your personal circumstances don't matter for this. Some women can be in ver similar situations. They're just as horny as you, unless you're like some super special case that's different that 99.99999% of men, in which case you really can't base how horny men are off yourself. If you knew more women and were close friends eno… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/22 08:08 PM |
| 7 | Women aren't hypergamous, they have more options for sex, while simultaneously having lower libidoThere are women who masturbate like all day long. I guarantee there are women who are as horny as you. Plus not all men are horny all the time. Some dudes just aren't like that. You might be horny 24/7, but you don't speak for men as a whole. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/22 07:46 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't hypergamous, they have more options for sex, while simultaneously having lower libidoAre you being serious or is this a joke/ sarcasm? | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/22 06:03 PM |
| 6 | Women aren't hypergamous, they have more options for sex, while simultaneously having lower libidoIf hypergamy existed solely in women, you would also have lesbian incels, but you don't. Uh, there are totally lesbian incels, my dude. https://www.huckmag.com/art-and-culture/tech/meet-the-women-of-the-incel-movement/ | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/22 05:31 PM |
| 7 | Women aren't hypergamous, they have more options for sex, while simultaneously having lower libidoThat study is about how testosterone levels affect the libidos of men. For women, it's a bit more complicated overall. Experiencing much lower levels at all times, can mean that smaller spikes can have larger effects. There are also psychological components that need to be taken into consideration. Here is a decent primer: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sexualitytoday/201808/are-women-hungrier-sex-we-thought Also would like to if not sex drive, what contributes to more men on dating a… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/22 03:00 PM |
| 14 | Women aren't hypergamous, they have more options for sex, while simultaneously having lower libidomen being hornier, i.e more hunger for sex Not true. Everything else you said [might be *] really solid. But, women are just as horny as men. hence more guys using dating apps.[]... 70% of users are male on tinder. This is true. You even have a link to the stats. You don't need to try to justify it with your claims about men being hornier. Why there are more men on dating apps is a complicated social-psychological phenomenon, but it doesn't have anything to do with the myth that men have a nat… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/22 02:04 PM |
| 2 | These pseudo scientists, destroyedOne could even apply these bell curves to assortment theory5 (the theory that mating preferences within a population will naturally screen for one another). The majority of women may prefer a man who is taller and the majority of men prefer a woman who is shorter, but there will be a small overlap in which the ends of each bell curve cover one another. Their preferences aren’t right or wrong, natural or unnatural, they’re merely a minority phenotype, and are more likely to find each other and re… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/22 01:16 AM |
| 6 | SUPPORTING MY GF THROUGH A HARD TIME AND REDPILL REMNANTSSecond question: is your gf seeing a therapist? She has many symptoms of PTSD. like low self esteem, disorganization, and attachment issues, and her libido deteriorating and her willingness to do things as well These are all symptoms of PTSD. I think she'll get better at those if she gets treatment for the PTSD from the sexual assault you mentioned. PTSD commonly sets in months or even years after the event, so she was probably fine when she met you and then the symptoms kicked in. It likely h… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/03/22 11:26 PM |
| 6 | SUPPORTING MY GF THROUGH A HARD TIME AND REDPILL REMNANTSIt really sounds like you need one again. You need someone who can hear this whole thing out and help you reason through it. Someone who is neutral, unlike us, who has the training to help you sift through your anxieties. I'm not saying other advice here won't be solid, but whatever anyone says here, me included, isn't going to be as good as a therapist's advice (assuming you have access to one). | /r/ExRedPill | 25/03/22 11:02 PM |
| 8 | SUPPORTING MY GF THROUGH A HARD TIME AND REDPILL REMNANTSFirst question, are you still going to therapy and have you brought this up with your therapist? | /r/ExRedPill | 25/03/22 09:31 PM |
| 7 | The disparity of male to female users on dating apps and why these apps have a vested interest in sowing contention between genders is explained in this refreshingly egalitarian commentThat comment is insightful. In support of his claims about dating apps, consider Bumble. In it's early days it had a better ratio of genders for people looking for heterosexual relationships. Women felt safer because they had to make the first move, men couldn't bombard them with messages. Over time Bumble changed and it's demographics started to look very similar to other sites. Once it had become popular enough Bumble decided it didn't need to work on empowering women and making them feel more… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/03/22 01:42 PM |
| 1 | I'm trying to wrap my head around this sub...They seek it because they're looking for healing, but it doesn't heal. At best it lets them vent some of their frustrations. Not in a healthy way though. Treating women the way they were treated, or worse, ends up making them hate themselves as much as the women or more so, eventually. For many that's when they end up here, or better yet, in a therapy appointment. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/03/22 12:45 PM |
| 8 | The 5 Types of RedPill Men and Why They Turn Toward Redpill! (An Original Post)This was me, but I definitely had a nice guy mentality before those women abused and sexually assaulted me. That's what made me such an easy target, I assumed if a girl was into me she must be a good person, if she was shitty she would have been into jerks instead. If anything recovering from the trauma helped keep me away from red pill. It was certainly a path I flirted with though. Ultimately, I realized it was those women were at fault, not women in general, but it's easy to see how a guy cou… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/03/22 01:35 AM |
| 3 | I'm trying to wrap my head around this sub...Things like "women are the gentler sex." Or "boys shouldn't hit girls, but it's fine if girls hit boys, they probably deserved it." All the common platitudes that are commonly told to young men about the difference between men and women usually leads to this mentality. Girls are seen as essentially good, but can be corrupted, and it's up to "good men" to protect them. These sorts of beliefs are really quite common and are handed down by family members or role models through tradition. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/03/22 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Self Esteem vs Self CompassionFair critique. I'm working on a follow up post that goes deeper into Self Compassion and how it can help ex redpillers. I'll keep what you wrote in mind while I write it. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/03/22 03:30 PM |
| 4 | I'm trying to wrap my head around this sub...A second comment: Let's be honest, it's easier to just go with the flow, and it's the social repercussions that make the pill so hard to swallow. Let's be even more real. People aren't here because they tried the redpill and the social repercussions were too hard to swallow. People are here because they swallowed the pill and the internal damage was too much to handle. Everyone who goes full red pill is either a hardcore sociopath, or ends up hating themself just as much has they hate women. If … | /r/ExRedPill | 24/03/22 02:00 PM |
| 3 | Why I almost took the Red Pill and why I'm glad I didn'tAnd u dont think dudes have a duty to protect women? I guess u never seen women be assaulted or harassed before or taken advantage of while drunk or strange guys try to take them home Would you have protected me? When I was drunk and stoned out of my mind at 19 years old and a strange sober 22 year old woman took me home from the party? Or just women? Of course I would try to protect a woman from getting assaulted. And I would try to protect a man from it. If I saw anyone not sober being taken a… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/03/22 01:45 PM |
| 16 | I'm trying to wrap my head around this sub...It's more like you grew up thinking the Earth was the center of the universe. Then a cult came along and convinced you the sun was the center of the universe. But this is the place to come to learn about the actual universe with its billions and billions of stars. Society teaches you to put women on a pedestal and treat them like glass dolls. Then red pill comes along and points out a lot of the flaws with logic. But, they also give you a lot of new false crap that makes you angry and points you… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/03/22 08:52 AM |
| 4 | Why I almost took the Red Pill and why I'm glad I didn'tI guess that's where you and I differ. I don't think I have any special duties as a man. All my duties in life come from being a person. I'm a bit of a feminist myself and I think women need the autonomy to make their own mistakes or to also fix their own problems. Of course if they're my friend I'm going to give them my advice, just like I would for my guy friends. Ultimately, many of those women are just as capable or better than me at navigating their own situations. For me, I'm here on exred… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/03/22 08:38 AM |
| 3 | Why I almost took the Red Pill and why I'm glad I didn'tIt's not just these days, my man. I hear my mom talk about when she was single in the 70s and 80s and it was basically the same but with telephones instead of social media. I'm also 35, so I know what it was like almost 20 years ago. I've gone through so much trauma myself. Step dad got addicted to meth and left my mom when I was a teenager. The young woman I lost my virginity to when I was 18 used me to cheat by lying to me and then verbally abused me into having sex when I didn't want to or in… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/03/22 11:52 PM |
| 1 | Blackpill explains my life and it’s painful, how do I get out of it?if I’m really that amazing then why do most people just straight up treat me substandard Your worth is not contingent on what other people think of you. That's a terrible assumption. If person X saved a million lives a day, but literally everyone on the planet dislikes them every day, person X would still be a good person. If person Y lives a fairly moral and reasonable life, but most of the people they meet don't treat them well, person Y would still be a good person. Those middle statements ha… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/03/22 11:40 PM |
| 3 | Why I almost took the Red Pill and why I'm glad I didn'tI don't think I missed the stuff you mentioned, I just really focused in on the stuff that sort of "triggers me" in the sense that, as I said it had personal ties to me from a different time in my life. As far as the rest of your post goes I don't have much gripe with it. I think I'm on the same page as u/yourwildlight I'm glad you see problems with the red pill, but some of the way you phrase stuff is already one step into red pill territory. How you talk about women and sex smacks of stuff I f… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/03/22 11:23 PM |
| 6 | Why I almost took the Red Pill and why I'm glad I didn'tIt made me realize that my conservative/oldschool mentality about gender roles was simply outdated I think your view of people who have a lot of sex is outdated too. and I think its gross that some women will sleep with a buncha different dudes, sometimes in the sme environment/circle of friends.. but at least now I realize, the women who do that are missing something/kinda broken. I think it's important to point out that not everyone who has a lot of sex is broken. I don't think there is anythi… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/03/22 07:39 PM |
| 1 | What does "women don't like pushovers" even mean?Cool. Glad I could help. I think you'll find it's way easier than it seems to judge for yourself if the person you are on a date with used to be like that. People who never got into that lifestyle tend to have an immediate reaction if you bring it up. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/03/22 10:56 PM |
| 2 | Is that the consequence of hypergamy?Nah. I just listen to more women then just you. You don't represent all women just like I don't represent all men. I'm not going to take your opinion over the people I know in real life. I wouldn't expect you do the same for me. Thanks for the conversation though. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/03/22 06:20 PM |
| 2 | Is that the consequence of hypergamy?I don't believe any of this is accurate even if it seems plausible. You can choose not to believe me, but I'm not bullshitting you. Maybe we just have very different friend groups. It's really weird to me that you're holding the line on this that women are all the same in this. Men definitely aren't all the same when it comes to this sort of preference. Some like unambitious types, some like highly competitive types. Most really don't care either way. I can't imagine that women are going to be t… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/03/22 12:35 PM |
| 7 | Should I study in Mexico, become a Cybersecurity, and serve a mission to exit Inceldom?You should do it because it's a great opportunity for you that matches with your personal values. You're going to get great career training and language skills as well as get exposed to another culture. Whether that affects your incel beliefs, who's to say. It's worth it either way though. Good luck. Eat some amazing local food while you're down there! | /r/ExRedPill | 22/03/22 10:58 AM |
| 1 | Is that the consequence of hypergamy?I guess that's fair. You just didn't make it clear what your audience was. Men who don't want to achieve much should look for a partner who has similar nongoals Or judge how important ambition is to the other person. Lots of women I know have way more ambition and drive than their partner, but that's not anything they care about. Like, as long as he's gainfully employed and reasonably happy, that's all they care about. One of my good friend's owns a successful business, and she's a crazy worka… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/03/22 12:15 AM |
| 15 | What are women who have hit the wall really like besides being single?What are single women like in their 30s and 40s? Wildly different from one another. Seriously. There isn't anything that's really connecting them. There are so many different paths to being in that situation. Some just don't want to settle down. Some are widows. Some finally got out of abusive relationships. Some had partners cheat. Some cheated and their partner left. Some got married early and realized it was a mistake. Some focused on their careers and waited to look for a partner. Some are l… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/03/22 11:55 PM |
| 4 | Sitting on the fence 49 yo male living in a very leftist city & state, starting to dislike wokeness & political correctness, tell me why the red pill is wrong & bad for me ??You think a right leaning Christian conservative is going to bring back personal freedom? Good luck. You say you've never voted conservative before but refer to American democrats, a social left economic right political party, as "leftists." That rings false. You thought brief lock downs and some mask mandates in order to save lives during a pandemic was a "prison"? Dramatic much? "Rainbow flag people"? Come on man. No one is sorry you have to give up a little bit of your big slice of pie so the… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/03/22 07:27 AM |
| 3 | Does evolution keep tabs on society? And if so is it an act of God simply adjusting and adapting us based on what he sees?One of the arguments for our emotion centre of our brain not changing is that we are about as evolved as our technology allows us to be and our only a few major natural disasters away from going back to the Stone Age. And because this is always a chance of happening the evolutionary part of life keeps our limbic system as active as that of our ancestors. Who is arguing this? They have the causation in evolution backwards. Evolution isn't checking on the world to see if it would be beneficial or … | /r/ExRedPill | 20/03/22 06:08 PM |
| 1 | What does "women don't like pushovers" even mean?So I can say I don't want this type of person in any capacity without falling into the trap of slut shaming. So, I think there's a big distinction that will help here. There is nothing wrong with having a bunch of former past partners in of itself. (For example, if you met series of women in the next five years and they all got the point of sleeping with you then left you out of the blue afterwards, there wouldn't be anything wrong with that on your end. You'd have a higher number of past partne… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/03/22 05:39 PM |
| 3 | Does evolution keep tabs on society? And if so is it an act of God simply adjusting and adapting us based on what he sees?If the question was about evolutionary psychology (EP) directly, or what TRP gets wrong/right about EP, or some such I'd totally understand. I'd be excited for that conversation. I'd talk about how controversial much of EP is and how out of context TRP content producers take it. But, that's not what OPs question was about. This is a question about God and evolution overlooking society, which I've never seen anyone in TRP really hit on. I just don't see how it's particularly relevant or useful as… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/03/22 03:54 PM |
| 8 | Does evolution keep tabs on society? And if so is it an act of God simply adjusting and adapting us based on what he sees?A. What does this have to do with ex red pill? B. That's not how evolution works. There is no "keeping tabs." Evolution is a description of what happened and an attempt to see what might happen. There is no intelligent design to it. It's just genetic variation + selection pressure or genetic drift = change. (There is also a bit of atomic randomness involved when atoms decompose and cause mutations on their own, but that's a really complex subject that took me a whole semester of work to understa… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/03/22 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Is that the consequence of hypergamy?I don't actually disagree with the sentiment, I don't disagree with the accuracy to be found in your statements, in a way, but the way you frame it isn't great. I think it's fine to say that one of the things you're looking for in a partner is energy and drive. So, if your partner loses that for too long you start to feel incompatible, both sexually and personally. Totally nothing wrong with that, even if that changed during the relationship. People change; that's normal. There's a couple of thi… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/03/22 12:22 PM |
| 1 | Michaela Pink and ladies who vaguely align with red pill ideologyOh yeah, for sure. I had no doubt where the envy and hate were coming from. When people treat someone like they're lesser for having a darker skin tone, one of the natural reactions is to envy and hate on lighter skinned ppl. Not that everyone is like that, but it's understandable where it comes from. The envy and pettiness is probably cranked up a notch because it's a bar and people are drinking and a lot of them are younger. TBH the whole thing gets weird for me all the time because I'm often … | /r/ExRedPill | 20/03/22 11:00 AM |
| 13 | Is that the consequence of hypergamy?Healthy couples support each other's improvement and pursuit of goals. They neither cut the other down to get them lower or expect them to keep up. I can't imagine my partner expecting me to have a "growth mindset" or expecting me to "lead" with any kind of vibe. She supports my endeavors and personal growth and I support hers. But, if one of us changes our goals or lowers our goals or has a set back and need a big break, we support that too. A good partner doesn't try to match your energy. They… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/03/22 06:33 PM |
| 2 | What does "women don't like pushovers" even mean?That's true. I think that's just how dating is. There are a lot of land mines out there. Women have to dodge a lot of guys who do things like expect them to be their maid. Men have to dodge women who do things like expect them to be emotional ice blocks or confidence machines. Sometimes it swings the other way and the guy really does treat his partner like an emotional crutch and never gives back or does any emotional labor on his end. A lot of times it doesn't. That's a big part of dating is fi… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/03/22 07:37 AM |
| 9 | What does "women don't like pushovers" even mean?On your first point, I think your red flags are in the right places. Legit, if a woman were unwilling to do any planning or any deciding for a date, I would not want to go out with her. (Unless it was purely for a hook up)... What kind of relationship is that leading to? It's possible that she thinks you should make all the decisions now and she'll meet you 50/50 later on, but it's doubtful. It's more likely she has old gender roles stuck in her head about who gets to make what decision when. I … | /r/ExRedPill | 18/03/22 07:08 PM |
| 2 | The social ineptitude of the advice given in The Red PillTo them literally spending a single day not thinking about getting laid is being a monk. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/03/22 11:07 AM |
| 14 | The social ineptitude of the advice given in The Red PillHonestly, lots of people do this of all genders and sexual orientations. It's a meme in the lesbian community that some women will pine after their straight best friend forever instead of actual dating a gay chick. The thing about the TRP or manosphere in general is that this behavior is framed as a failure to overcome instead of a failure to move on. If the other person isn't interested, you have to move on to be healthy. You can be their friend, or cut things back to aquaintences if it makes i… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/03/22 11:04 AM |
| 3 | The social ineptitude of the advice given in The Red PillAnd the fact that they don't distinguish is telling. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/03/22 10:51 AM |
| 5 | Question about being ex red pillI think you'll notice the thought process for a long while because you'll be used to looking at things that way. But that doesn't mean you're still in it. Just because you've trained your brain to notice hypergamous women, or whatever else, doesn't mean you're still red pill. You just have to accept that you've trained yourself for selection bias, shrug your shoulders and find more important things to focus on in the world. Eventually, you'll find better ways to parse the world. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/22 09:59 PM |
| 5 | Question about being ex red pillYes and No. You can always recover from an ideology in theory, but it depends on the person. Some people are more drawn to it than others though. If you already had misogynistic ideas, bought into conservativism (really more traditionalism), or have a strong sense of logic but are bad at seeing false premises... Then it's going to be harder for you to leave. Those sorts of people can get in too deep to leave because their so drawn to it in the first place. There's a chance to get them out early,… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/22 09:49 PM |
| 3 | If I don’t look good I don’t feel good.settle for degeneracy. What do you mean by degeneracy? | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/22 06:47 PM |
| 3 | If I don’t look good I don’t feel good.if you’re in you’re 20s and long overdue the appropriate time to start dating, bc in my opinion not dating/being a virgin in your 20s is. Opinion like "blue is prettier than green" or opinion like "in my opinion OJ shot his wife and got away with it." If it's the first, just a matter or taste, sure whatever. If you just think "I just seems right for people in their 20s to date and fuck, but I don't have any reasons," then cool. But if you think your opinion holds water, has merit, or gives anyon… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/22 06:44 PM |
| 8 | Interview request - NBC NewsReaching out because the term "incel" is in the news again after a NATC report on the threat of "misogynistic extremism." But it looks like some of lessons in that report are things the ExRedPill community has been talking about since at least 2014. Lol, most people under 40 know the term "incel" and about the incel community. Only boomers and genXers, who are the only demographics still watching cable news, generally don't. What a world we live in where NBC is messaging reddit forums so they … | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/22 12:56 AM |
| 5 | Starting to feel like life as man is rigged against me.Why are you looking for advice from people who openly admit we got taken in by a cult? We do give each other advice here all the time, but it's a "we're all in this together" sort of thing so we do the best we can. The best advice here is going to look similar to other places. The worst advice here is going to come from guys still mostly on the red-pill who are going to tell you embrace your fears, angers, and insecurities. I'm not saying it's impossible to get good advice here, I'm just wonderi… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/03/22 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Appreciation Letter for Men Who Seek WithinIt's really weird and problematic to compare red-pill to feminism. There are certain feminist groups that are indeed very similar to the red-pill community, but feminism is so much more broad than that. Even within feminism there are tons of different beliefs and groups. There's feminism the movement and feminism the philosophy and feminist groups with their own particular ideologies. I mean, I totally understand wanting to distance one's self from the mainstream feminist activists who really do… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/03/22 02:56 PM |
| 3 | Why have I never met a woman who is like me?I'm shy and awkward, quirky, weird, really warms up though when I get to know someone, lost and doesn't really understand his purpose yet. They're at home doing some combination of: playing video games, watching tv, hanging out with her pet(s), cross stitching/sewing/knitting, reading, listening to obscure music, writing fan fic, collecting collectables, drinking wine alone, playing board games with their 3 friends, etc. Shy awkward quirky weird people have shy awkward quirky weird hobbies. That… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/03/22 01:25 PM |
| 6 | Michaela Pink and ladies who vaguely align with red pill ideologyFor example she advised black woman to never wear their natural hair, curly hairstyles or braids on a first date. That was a major trigger for me as a black woman because I’ve already been told my hair is undesirable and braids have always been a style that I felt most beautiful wearing. I’ve also never had a respectable man not like my natural hair or braids. As an aside/ kind of off topic. I own a small bar in a mixed neighborhood in a city, but grew up in a tiny mostly white town. I bar tend … | /r/ExRedPill | 13/03/22 01:04 PM |
| 1 | If someone made you an ex redpill program that was clinically backed by professionals.A great example is Joe phobias and ocd are very similar but the treatments have to be different. Seems closer to the difference between OCD and generalized anxiety. Not the same thing, but certainly in the same family. I just don't see how asking us is going to help much. It's such a ridiculous range of experiences. Some of these guys need legit deprogramming and heavy therapy, others just need a new group of a friends and a little perspective. Also, if you're actually a researcher, it seems… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/03/22 12:05 AM |
| 2 | If someone made you an ex redpill program that was clinically backed by professionals.Literally just make it whatever works best for people leaving cults. That research already exists. Why change the wheel? | /r/ExRedPill | 10/03/22 10:19 PM |
| 1 | My hatred of women also extends to circumcision and the problems that come from it.Idk, maybe. Def good to find other shit to focus on. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/03/22 10:17 PM |
| 1 | My hatred of women also extends to circumcision and the problems that come from it.Might be? Lol. Everyone is coping with their shit all day every day. Your shit's just suckier than most. I spend a good chunk of my days catching intrusive thoughts and setting them aside. It's a coping mechanism that took months to learn. It changed my life. I use mentally spiral out of control daily from random about my inadequatecies and my past mistakes. Now I don't. Go find some paraplegic middle aged dudes and ask them how they deal with the horniness. Maybe you'll find a more effective st… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/03/22 10:05 PM |
| 2 | My hatred of women also extends to circumcision and the problems that come from it.I'm on Effexor(sp?) and mine isn't gone by any means, but it's a lot less. Before it my sex drive was a 9, now it's like a 5. Sucks that didn't work for you. You ever talk to older guys in similar situations who are happier and ask them how they learned to cope? | /r/ExRedPill | 10/03/22 09:11 PM |
| 1 | My hatred of women also extends to circumcision and the problems that come from it.Well, you seem pretty depressed. Maybe depression medication and therapy might help? (I'm not a doctor, just suggesting you consider one) Tell your doctor* you're depressed, if you are. Doctor may prescribe depression meds. Take more/different depression meds and do therapy until the meds make you happy or they kill your sex drive and you're happy because of that. *If you can't afford a Dr. in the US, and you have a depression or anxiety psych problem, it's not insanely hard to find one pro bono… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/03/22 09:00 PM |
| 6 | My hatred of women also extends to circumcision and the problems that come from it.Empathy isn't pity. I don't pity you. It's super clear you're just hurting yourself beyond the super shitty situation you're already in and being irrationally angry because you blame your mom and are projecting that on all the other women around you. But, I'm never going to be able to convince you of that no matter how obvious that is to outsiders. So, all I can do is wish you well in the future. Maybe some day you'll realize you waisted all this energy being angry at people who had no blame for… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/03/22 08:11 PM |
| 8 | My hatred of women also extends to circumcision and the problems that come from it.Sorry, I thought I could come at this with rationality and empathy, but apparently you're beyond either. I'm doubly sorry for you, man. Good luck finding some peace and head space in the future. Hate isn't going to help you. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/03/22 07:37 PM |
| 2 | I’m insecure and don’t trust my girlfriendAwesome, man. Glad you faced the fear and worked it out. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/03/22 06:02 PM |
| 27 | My hatred of women also extends to circumcision and the problems that come from it.I'm very sorry in the empathetic sense that you are part of the relatively small minority of guys who lose sensation from circumcision. The practice really should be outlawed because of cases like yours, because there really isn't an upside even for most dudes who have full sensation, and like you said it really does help with mechanical "lubrication." Hating women because of it is ridiculous though. Your mom probably chose that out of ignorance, not malace. Just like my mom. Some women do know … | /r/ExRedPill | 10/03/22 05:56 PM |
| 1 | I’m insecure and don’t trust my girlfriendAllowing yourself to be vulnerable isn't weakness. It takes strength. That's why you're so afraid to do it. You're afraid to cry in front of her. You're afraid to tell her you can't afford to pay for her. You're afraid to have a conversation with her about all your insecurities with her, including that stuff and your belief that she's much more attractive than you. If it's so frightening to be vulnerable around her, it's not the weak thing to do. You're showing weakness by giving into fear, whic… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/03/22 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Do older RP men really have a chip on their shoulder about not having gotten with younger women when they were younger? Why does it motivate them?And then we do the adult thing and we go get jobs and become average in the monetary sense and now suddenly we become interesting to women. and We didn't get to do any of that, we are emotionally stunted, cluless about how to conduct ourselves in our relationships Why aren't you trying to date women who make roughly the same or more than you then? Gold diggers are totally real. It's not the majority of women, but some women can be just as abusive as abusive men and will seek to take advantage of… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/03/22 04:47 PM |
| 3 | How the hell do you meet people?That's a very different thing, but also interesting. Those guys really ruin the online dating system for everyone. Instead of carefully selecting someone who might have mutual interest, they just spam any woman they're remotely attracted to. It creates never ending artificial demand, and makes serious suitors harder to spot. It's interesting that so many guys keep doing it despite the fact that it is so ineffective. I also think dating sites used to be better. I tried to help a friend set up an … | /r/ExRedPill | 06/03/22 07:36 AM |
| 9 | How the hell do you meet people?It's a bit sad that in the 80s, 90s and very early 2000s internet dating was tailored for people in your situation. Back then there was a stigma around internet dating and it was seen as only for lonely desperate weirdos... but that filtered out anyone who wasn't seriously looking for a partner. If you were stuck in a tiny town you could find a like minded person from across the country or even overseas to connect with. I wonder in there is a print version of that somewhere now? Like a lonely he… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/03/22 06:27 PM |
| 1 | The advice I tell all my female friends when they ask me where all the good men have gone.When someone asks "where have all the good partners gone?" They're complaining about shitty abusive people masquerading as decent people. You saying: "good partners look like x" doesn't help because other shitty people look like x too. The thing is lots of abusers learn to look like good partners early on to attract partners before acting abusive or shitty. There is no x trait that abusers can't masq. Sometime there are red flags that can be avoided. You can gain experience susing out bad actors… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/03/22 02:20 PM |
| 2 | Ex-redpiller but still MGTOW?Sorry, that was a rhetorical question. I thought it was pretty off topic. It was two men talking about one getting abused by a woman. You brought up the woes of unattractive men in response to a single line taken out of context. You also phrased it as a personal attack: you just don't see them because they're not physically attractive. You didn't say "most women" or "most people." You said "you" acting like the reader is guilty of this, which is a pretty crappy way to go about making your point.… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/03/22 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Ex-redpiller but still MGTOW?How was that relevant to this particular conversation though? | /r/ExRedPill | 03/03/22 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Ex-redpiller but still MGTOW?I'm down with the spirit of MGTOW but not with the actual group. If you want to go your own way, literally go your own way. You don't need to look to a community for that. It seems rather counterintuitive. In your circumstance I think it makes way more sense to just say that you are taking a long break from dating and romantic entanglements to do your own thing. That's a pretty normal thing to do after you get out of an abusive or toxic relationship, no pills or MGTOW community needed. Back when… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/03/22 09:54 PM |
| 1 | What are they leading?Ha. Idk if it's perfectly sound*, but thanks for hearing me out. My short stint a philosophy professor makes me want to point out that it's cogent argument not sound one because the argument merely leads to a likely conclusion not a definite one. That's splitting hairs though. Just a fun fact for you. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/22 02:55 PM |
| 2 | Redpill and narcissistic female partnersEh, that's waxed and waned. For men casual sex was always pretty hyped. Only recently has it been hyped for women, but only by certain circles and mostly women themselves. I really wish it would go to neutral for everyone. It's not really an accomplishment or a bad thing to have casual sex. It's just something you did. Fucking a lot of people doesn't corrupt you or make you awesome, regardless of gender. It really shouldn't be such a big deal either way. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/02/22 09:32 PM |
| 6 | Redpill and narcissistic female partnersI would argue it is way more common that people in their teens andthroughout their 20's have casual hook-ups and flings in this currentgeneration. How old are you? Lol, do you think people weren't doing that before? People need to stop making these nonsense statements about this current generation or this current era or whatever. People have been doing really similar shit for forever. If anything people were hooking up quite a bit more in the 70s post-pill pre-HIV. Before the pill, sure there wa… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/02/22 09:13 PM |
| 1 | I'm never going to be in a relationship, which is okay I guess, what ways are there to enjoy life regardless?You're reading way to much into what we're talking about if you think I'm using the just world fallacy. When I say it's highly likely, I'm not saying you do x things and then the world will provide you a girlfriend because it's just. I'm saying that if you actually take a look at the world, people who actually do the things that Huge-Theme6774 mentioned usually end up in relationships at some point in their life regardless of their looks. They might not be Don Juan or some ridiculous fantasy. Th… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/02/22 05:00 PM |
| 5 | I'm never going to be in a relationship, which is okay I guess, what ways are there to enjoy life regardless?Like, some of that is true, but it doesn't make what Huge-Theme6774 any less true. Yeah, in your early 20s less women care about your work in therapy, clear personal values, and consistently working toward goals... but your mid to late 20s and early 30s are closer than you think and suddenly the vast majority of women are going to care a lot about those things. Starting to work on them right now might not help OP right this moment, or even this year, but it's highly likely to set him up for succ… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/02/22 11:03 PM |
| 1 | I'm never going to be in a relationship, which is okay I guess, what ways are there to enjoy life regardless?Did you read the post? There are questions up there: what ways are there to enjoy life regardless? and also: tldr- How can I kill the desire, or just find joy knowing I will never be in a relationship? | /r/ExRedPill | 27/02/22 10:27 PM |
| 2 | I'm never going to be in a relationship, which is okay I guess, what ways are there to enjoy life regardless?Yeah. Autocorrect on mobile. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/02/22 09:59 PM |
| 17 | I'm never going to be in a relationship, which is okay I guess, what ways are there to enjoy life regardless?You're asking the wrong questions. Instead you should be asking how can I live a fulfilling life whether or not you find a someone to be in a relationship with. You can't kill the desire, and you shouldn't want to. You don't know you'll never be in a relationship. You might end up in one, you might not. You have way too much emotional stake in it. A fulfilling life starts with finding passions and setting goals for yourself and starting working towards those goals. It's also very helpful to work… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/02/22 03:43 PM |
| 2 | I'm never going to be in a relationship, which is okay I guess, what ways are there to enjoy life regardless?Highly likely that you will though. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/02/22 03:25 PM |
| 2 | What are they leading?I've seen lots of relationships fall apart because the man was making all the decisions too. Maybe it's bias, maybe it's just a lack of looking around enough. I think if you looked around more you'd see just as many relationships fail because the man was making all of the decisions. Of course relationships aren't easy and even 50/50 partnerships are going to fail, but I don't see relationships where men lead working out better than any other type. To me they seem like the most likely to fail. Ho… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/02/22 03:11 PM |
| 1 | What are they leading?As opposed to a partnership where neither party is the default "leader." Either person of either gender can make make decisions and work together and come to compromises if they disagree. Just because a man is capable of making a decision doesn't mean he should be the leader. Most people feel like they're in a loving supportive relationship when it's a true partnership and not a follower/leader relationship. There are people who prefer to follow, but they are the exception, not the rule. Many wo… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/02/22 11:45 AM |
| 1 | Being only 5ft pushes me into the dark corridors of Blackpill.Imagine trying once, failing, and assuming it's because of your height. The ultimate confirmation bias. I bet that 4 foot girl could just see your toxic personality and veiw of women. It wasn't your height, it was you. So many other short guys have girlfriends, what's different about you? | /r/ExRedPill | 27/02/22 11:22 AM |
| 4 | What’s this obsession with 18-19 year olds?I'm not angry at all. Just enjoying telling you how it is. If going to come into a place for people to detox and be toxic, I'm going to enjoy throwing that sludge back at you. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/02/22 12:34 AM |
| 11 | What’s this obsession with 18-19 year olds?Oh. My humble apologies. TLDR: You're a sad man child who will never have a meaningful relationship anyway, so no one cares what you think here. Go crawl back in your hole. Hope that helps. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/02/22 11:39 PM |
| 18 | What’s this obsession with 18-19 year olds?Down votes mean that we read what you typed here and it's so misinformed that it's not relevant to the discussion. Looking at your own sexual experience as consuming produce is really sad. You're going to live a sad lonely existence viewing things that way. You sound like a person who has never had sex with someone who was fully consenting. You sound like someone who has never had sex with someone who has had any experience. Worst of all, you sound like someone who has never had a meaningful rom… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/02/22 05:19 PM |
| 2 | Being only 5ft pushes me into the dark corridors of Blackpill.Good for them. With all your weird beliefs about women, she dodged a bullet. Short guys can find women. All my short friends are married or in serious relationships with great women. But, with all this stuff you're talking about genetics and hypergamy, you really shouldn't be in a relationship anyway. Who would want to be in a relationship with someone who believes all these gross platitudes about their gender? Who would want to be with someone who hates themself just because they aren't some ph… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/02/22 04:05 AM |
| 1 | I hate that Red Pill has made me feel ashamed of attracting men that make a lot of money. I now have a strong desire to reject them solely based on their income to avoid being seen as a "gold digger" even though I know I'm not one just to continue to "prove" myself. I'm over it.The whole concept of "gold-digging" is built on classism in my opinion. Why is there anything wrong with entering into a relationship with someone who is more well off than you in order to secure your own fortune and well being? I'm not talking about some insanely rare case of a 25 year old marrying a rich old person on their death bed to inherit their fortune. I'm talking about an otherwise normal relationship where one person is well off and the other person is a lot less well off. I think a l… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/02/22 02:17 AM |
| 3 | Having a job and being dependable doesn't make you "beta"Somewhat true, but only for some women. Lots of other women love "boring" not very spontaneous partners, but they tend to end up in long term stable relationships very quickly, so they're unrepresented when you're a single person who's looking for a female partner. They're still out there though, just underrepresented among singles. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/02/22 06:01 PM |
| 2 | Is there any reason other than validation for men to pursue sex with other people?All evolutionary psychology is controversial. Linking modern behaviors to hypothesized prehistoric conditions isn't broadly taken very seriously within the scientific community. It would be terribly difficult to prove on multiple ends. Unlike the fossil record, we don't have a psychological record to see how those changes developed over time. There's also social approval among primates, which we can study directly. So it goes a lot further back than our "hunter-gather" past. We know we are innat… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/02/22 02:53 PM |
| 2 | Is there any reason other than validation for men to pursue sex with other people?This is some really ham fisted evolutionary psychology. A very controversial hypothesis to begin with. External validation fills a lot of other psychological needs today and you shouldn't be trying to let go of it completely. Granted, many people seek too much external validation, but trying to avoid it all together is a one way ticket to a lot of mental health problems. Be careful, dude. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/02/22 02:05 AM |
| 2 | The redpill works but with certain types of woman.. If you meet girls your type u don't have to do shitOK , id like to see your status in life, i manage a big ass company my friend and mbti has proven valuable. it may seem stupid to you but it has helped me make shitloads of money Then why did you say this? Why did you outright lie instead of own up to your bullshit? Myers Briggs is utter nonsense. It has no validity. Someone pointed this out and you lied to make it sound like your belief in it was justified. Why couldn't you just say, "oh, I didn't know it didn't have any scientific basis I'll h… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/02/22 03:57 AM |
| 1 | The redpill works but with certain types of woman.. If you meet girls your type u don't have to do shitYour post history says otherwise. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/02/22 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Is dating easier if you’re white??Yes there are POC who do well in dating but I asked is it easier if you’re white?? I literally said that it was easier. I'm not denying that it's easier. I'm not killing the messenger. You completely misread what I wrote. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/02/22 04:59 PM |
| 2 | Is dating easier if you’re white??It seems like where I live everyone is into white dudes, especially the Asian girls and some Hispanic girls. The black girls mainly like black men for the most part Are we talking specifically in the U.S.? If so, yes. so am I screwed?? I’m middle eastern. This doesn't follow. Just because more women have a higher preference for white guys than any other "race" doesn't mean plenty are willing to date middle eastern guys. Yeah, it's shitty that the U.S. has a European ethnocentric culture that amo… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/02/22 03:49 PM |
| 2 | Red Pillers, you aren’t single because you’re too short, your face is ugly, or because you’re not making six figures, it’s because your personality is shitWell, I mentioned a bunch of other things besides hobbies and physical activities that you could do. So, my advice would be to focus on all those other things I mentioned since physical stuff is a non-starter. (I also said if possible, because some people have physical limitations. Maybe you have mental limitations. I'm not here to judge.) Active Listening, being a kinder and more considerate friend, being a kinder more considerate friend to yourself, exploring your values and realizing why you … | /r/ExRedPill | 03/02/22 05:32 PM |
| 2 | I posted here 5 months ago and I still can't get unmired from blackpill thought.Lot of people throwing out diagnosis like body dysphoria and OCD. I have no idea if any of those are correct, but it's a 100% true that your problems are beyond what anyone here can help you with and you need to talk to a therapist about it. Constantly criticizing yourself and thinking you aren't worthy compared to your piers isn't healthy or accurate, man. You're just as worthy as anyone else, and you need to find a professional that can help you see that. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/01/22 01:39 PM |
| 4 | I became anger fueled over power dynamics today and almost fell back into the Red Pill. I found this site instead, then found this article which I think belongs here.Men who were raised by single mother's should avoid the red pill community like the plague. Was raised by a single mother, and there are way healthier places to learn the lessons you may have missed by not having a father figure around. If anything guys without father figures are the ones who should avoid it the most because they will have the hardest time distinguishing between the real lessons and and toxic stuff when it comes time to move on. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/01/22 03:10 PM |
| 3 | Red Pillers, you aren’t single because you’re too short, your face is ugly, or because you’re not making six figures, it’s because your personality is shitbut I had hobbies and interests and friends, some of whom are/were women. Imagine if you hadn't though. That's what a lot of the guys in the red pill and incel communities are dealing with. They are average or below average attractive physically, which they can do very little about, and they also have garbage social skills, little meaningful contact with women, and only asocial hobbies. Those things are totally changeable. For you it sounds like you just got unlucky, or just didn't take enough c… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/01/22 04:50 AM |
| 3 | Red Pillers, you aren’t single because you’re too short, your face is ugly, or because you’re not making six figures, it’s because your personality is shitThen you see people saying 'oh well maybe if you were a good person then you'd get something' It's telling to me that you use phrase "get something" instead of "find someone" or similar. seeing people who I know are worse people than me getting attention Same here. I just want someone to love me. Life's unfair, I know, but fuck why can't it be unfair to me? It doesn't really sound like you want a relationship at all. It sounds like you want one sided validation from someone. It sounds like you j… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/01/22 04:14 PM |
| 3 | Red Pillers, you aren’t single because you’re too short, your face is ugly, or because you’re not making six figures, it’s because your personality is shitThere are really attractive people with great personalities in relationships. There are really attractive people with shit personalities in relationships. There are really ugly people with great personalities in relationships. There are really ugly people with shit personalities in relationships. All of this things are true. We're not ignoring anything. At least I'm not. It's a hell of a lot easier to attract someone if your conventionally attractive. It's also a hell of a lot easier to find a h… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/01/22 03:15 PM |
| 21 | Red Pillers, you aren’t single because you’re too short, your face is ugly, or because you’re not making six figures, it’s because your personality is shitIt's a somewhat slow and steady process kind of like working out. There are a lot of different methods too. It depends a bunch on what's going on with you. Keep in mind that it's not about changing fundamentally who you are as a person. You're not trying to go from Poindexter to James Bond. I would say for most guys struggling with dating they should focus on learning to be an active and attentive listener. They should also work on being a more kind and considerate friend to their friend and to … | /r/ExRedPill | 27/01/22 02:40 PM |
| 7 | Red Pillers, you aren’t single because you’re too short, your face is ugly, or because you’re not making six figures, it’s because your personality is shitOK, so you're not getting laid because you're not well above average looking and your personality sucks. If your looks or your personality were better you'd have a much better chance of getting laid. Your personality is much easier to change than your looks, but you're too proud and egoistical to admit your personality is part of the problem so all you do is blame your looks. You'd prefer it to be all genetics, all random chance, not choices you've made, not ways you've treated others and how yo… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/01/22 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Am I Wrong to be mad at my single mother for raising me without a dad and doing such a poor job?A lot of people don't love their children until they actual are around them. Like they see them and hold them and watch them grow and that's when the love happens. They don't love them beforehand and then show up. I guess, maybe if you dad gave it a shot for a while and didn't feel anything then he should stay away? But, it seems counterintuitive to stay away because he doesn't feel anything, when it's being around you that might have led to him feeling something. I mean, maybe he just does like… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/01/22 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Can we discuss how some people are indifferent to lookism?Uh. Idk. My initial thoughts are as follows. Sometimes writers do write things to make things to make people feel bad, and that's unproblematic. If you want to not support them, that's fine too though. For instance, many horror books are meant to make the reader feel really creeped out. Many thrillers about serial killers are meant to squick out the reader. They create this feeling of deep dread and unease that makes them feel like they are being watched or stalked themself. It may be the case t… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/01/22 05:01 PM |
| 1 | Am I Wrong to be mad at my single mother for raising me without a dad and doing such a poor job?Thanks for hearing me out. It's actually really interesting to go over this stuff in my head and because I rarely reflect on it. So few people I come into contact with are in a similar situation. A lot of them come from broken homes, like their parents were together for at least some of their lives and broke up or got divorced, but that's very different. Very few know what it's like to grow up with just one parent around from the start (though I did see my dad from time to time). You said it's m… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/01/22 04:27 PM |
| 3 | Am I Wrong to be mad at my single mother for raising me without a dad and doing such a poor job?I care about have a baby as a result of casual sex that you didn't even want OK, but, couples in committed relationships can and do have babies they don't want. So why did you make it all about your mom as a single woman having casual sex? Why not just be upset that she didn't want you and still had you and didn't step up properly to take care of you? Imagine if your parents were in a committed relationship, but their birth control failed, and they decided to keep you on religious grounds or som… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/01/22 09:10 PM |
| 3 | My gf recently told me that men who are “Hoes” are dicks and don’t respect women but at the same time I wonder why those men have such high body counts if women don’t like men like that.Exactly this. You can be open an honest about keeping things casual from the start and usually the other person will be respectful of that. You do that enough times and you'll have a lot of former partners (body count is such a gross term). But, if you go into every possible relationship acting like you're in it for the long haul and then bug out as soon as you get bored, you're a manipulative asshole. Both men and women both do this, and it's super shitty. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/01/22 05:58 PM |
| 1 | Can we discuss how some people are indifferent to lookism?1-When you say that the books are aimed at teens,don't it only proves what incels say?I mean,they say that what only matters are looks,and in these books aimed at teens,the love interest is always attractive. Just because MOST (you keep using ALWAYS no matter how many times I prove you wrong) the characters are attractive doesn't mean that's the ONLY things that matters. The charters are undoubtedly many other things besides attractive, correct? For instance in Twilight the Vampire is dark and b… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/01/22 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Can we discuss how some people are indifferent to lookism?Its because of this that its so important to me, theres lots of suffering in this world,so why write more? So, there's two things going on here and he should separate them out. Bullying ugly characters for their looks lookism (protagonists and their love interests all or mostly being described as being attractive) Both of these things are related, but they aren't the same, so we should keep that in mind going forward. I think it probably has more to do with how art reflects society than the othe… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/01/22 03:22 PM |
| 22 | Am I Wrong to be mad at my single mother for raising me without a dad and doing such a poor job?I was raised by a single mom too, and I think this is bullshit. You need to separate these two things: I have always resented my mother for not having a dad. Also I resent her for being and inattentive and ineffective parent. Your mom being a bad mom has nothing to do with her not having a dad around. You obviously conflated those two things and here is why I think that: I grew up with a great mom, and because of that it really didn't matter that my dad wasn't around. Your dad could have bee… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/01/22 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Can we discuss how some people are indifferent to lookism?You say you see this all the time, but Which other series are you talking about? I can name a few that don't fit the bill: Harry Potter: the movies have attractive actresses and actors, but the books actually describe the characters as quite plain. Graceling, Fire, Bitterblue by Kristina Cashore. YA novels with tomboyish, plain looking, and scarred female protagonists. Abhorson trilogy by Garth Nix: YA books, main character and love interest not described as over attractive in the first novel. N… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/01/22 04:58 AM |
| 1 | Can we discuss how some people are indifferent to lookism?It seems like you haven't really read or addressed any of the things I have brought up. You still haven't addressed any of the things I brought up. You just keep adding more stuff from the books without stopping to address my points. You may not be convinced by my points, that's fine, but you should be respectful enough to actually engage with the things I brought up before adding more and more of your own. Try to engage and refute the things that I brought up. Why is this particular series impo… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/01/22 03:32 AM |
| 1 | Can we discuss how some people are indifferent to lookism?It seems like you haven't really read or addressed any of the things I have brought up. I have a lot to say in response to this, but I feel like the conversation is becoming one sided. I keep bringing up multiple things you don't address, and you just go back to the book series and why a bunch of high school kids being shallow affects you personally. If you're not going to make an effort, I don't really want to continue. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/01/22 02:14 AM |
| 2 | Can we discuss how some people are indifferent to lookism?What confuses me is, i see all of this as extremelly superficial, how can someone read these books and feel good about themselves? Because they understand that it's fiction. One can read Harry Potter, be kind of Jealous that they don't have magic, but not become depressed about it. Likewise, I'm sure the majority of the people who read these books didn't take it personally that only attractive people were dating in Fear Street. Do you think i'am overthinking? Absolutely. Maybe even the author do… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/01/22 12:04 AM |
| 2 | Can we discuss how some people are indifferent to lookism?Can you give me your opinion on why the author did that? No, because I haven't read them, personally, but those people in that YA fiction sub gave you a lot of really good reasons including: Those books dated, and that sort of trope isn't as common any more. Those books aren't that popular any more. They were popular in the 90's, but that was 25 years ago. So, it's not really going to normalize anything. You should focus on different books. There are tons of other books with average or below ave… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/22 11:21 PM |
| 3 | Can we discuss how some people are indifferent to lookism?Why i'm being downvoted only because i said that discrimination based on looks is wrong? You weren't being downvoted for that reason at all. I went to that thread. People gave you really good reasons why the character is that particular series was bullying other characters based on looks, and why the author why have made that choice back then. You were willfully ignoring all their well thought out responses in that thread. Trauma never justifies bad behavior. Lookism exists, but it certainly doe… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/22 06:48 PM |
| 2 | If a woman's sexual history matters, so does a man's!The majority of relationships that start out with both people being virgins fail too. Being in less relationships beforehand doesn't determine your future character. Two virgins, for instance, can't know if they are sexually compatible, so might find their sex life boring or problematic. Someone whose had casual sex and casual relationships might end up in a very long relationship that ends up being for the rest of their life (it happens all the time). Either way, there is nothing "wrong" with i… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/22 04:26 PM |
| 2 | My storyOne thing I think might help for you to realize is that none of us have just one authentic self throughout our lives. Most of us go through some pretty radical changes quite a few times in life. Some times those changes sneak up on us, and sometimes certain events stick out which change us seemingly overnight. The PUA stuff changed you in a way that you didn't like and wasn't good for you. You might need to change yourself in a way that you do like to "feel like yourself again." I wouldn't sug… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/22 02:27 AM |
| 1 | If a woman's sexual history matters, so does a man's!It's okay to not want to have sex before marriage, but it doesn't make you or your future partner better people. Sex doesn't corrupt people or make them "bad." If you want to be a virgin, that's your choice, but you don't have to insult everyone who doesn't make that choice. It doesn't make you the best person you can be. That's just... unjustified and really arrogant. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/22 02:04 AM |
| 2 | If a woman's sexual history matters, so does a man's!To a degree, yeah, people are going to largely believe what they want. But, people can be convinced to think about things differently too. Idk what that has to do with pill ideologies working in the real world world though. Of course they don't. Pill ideologies are nonsense. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/22 01:55 AM |
| 1 | If a woman's sexual history matters, so does a man's!The problem with pointing out people's double standards is that they are usually willing to punish their own in group or themselves to continue their poor treatment of others. It's better to focus on dismantling their underlying reasons for their poor treatment of others in the first place. In this case if you point out that criticizing women for high numbers of sexual partners is a double standard if they don't also criticize men, they'll just criticize men (including themselves). It's hard… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/22 01:45 AM |
| 1 | If a woman's sexual history matters, so does a man's!Neither should matter. If the sex either of you have had in the past was respectful and mutually enjoyable, the numbers don't matter. It's better to have a partner who treated 200 partners well, then have one who only had one partner, but treated them poorly. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/22 01:23 AM |
| 2 | If a woman's sexual history matters, so does a man's!Why not the other way around? Why not judge you and you potential future partners less harshly? Having more sex partners hasn't corrupted you or them. It's how you've treated the people you've been with that matters, not how many people you've been with that does. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/22 01:15 AM |
| 2 | Do men prefer women without much of a sexually promiscuous past?No, the opposite. My current partner and I have had scores of partners in our past. We both went through phases where we had hooked up with as many people as we could for a few years when we were younger. It's not a place that either of is in now, we've been together for almost 5 years now, but it's a similar life experience that makes us similar people and more compatible. Neither of us has any "baggage" because of it. All of my sexual baggage comes from my first two sexual partners who were se… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/01/22 03:37 PM |
| 4 | (Serious) I somewhat believe in the red pill ideology and want to know personally why you left the ideology.One of the main things that I follow through with in their messages is to not put women as the sole focus of your life, that you should focus on yourself first and not make your whole life revolve around that of a woman as well as other stuff. This is just generally good advice you may have gotten anywhere, but the red pill and other similar content have made a concerted effort to include it in their message because it appeals directly to the demographic that they prey upon. For example, a colle… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/01/22 03:02 PM |
| 5 | This is terrible..Female Dating Strategy It's basically Red Pill for women. They mix good advice, like stop dating dudes that don't have furniture and trying to change them, with red pill type stuff like only date "high value men," and use abusive tactics like cut off contact until you get your way. They bully women they call "pickmeishas", which is basically their version of "betas." The fact that that person claimed this sub "devolved into FDS 2.0" makes me think they don't understand that, and are butt hurt … | /r/ExRedPill | 20/01/22 02:35 PM |
| 2 | This is terrible..Naw man, FDS is TRP for women. It's literally a community that teaches a gender how to comodify and abuse their partners to get maximum "value" out of them. This post is about how TRP abuses women and then brags about it. An exFDS sub could post similar FDS content. | /r/ExRedPill | 20/01/22 01:46 PM |
| 4 | This is terrible..women will leave you the moment the feel like they can do better then you This just seems like such a ridiculous statement to me. In the real world, women are just normal humans. Some of them are sociopaths who are just just using their partners, but most are just people who make a loving connection with someone and they aren't going to leave them without big and complex reasons that develop over time. My friends who are divorced aren't divorced because the women found someone better and left th… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/01/22 08:30 PM |
| 3 | This is terrible..>Redpill says to not text her as often and act as if your busier then you actually are He's being neither manipulative or abusive here. It's not not deception to not text someone frequently. >Extremely affectionate guy is called too nice by women goes over the top for women and doesn’t understand why he keeps getting betrayed by women. Redpill tells him to act indifferent and have them earn his nice guy tendencies instead of giving it up just because he likes them Again, neither being manipulati… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/01/22 07:54 PM |
| 11 | Why are single red pill men angry at single mothers?Back 6-7 years ago, I was dating purely casually. I was super up front about it. I wanted to have a good time, maybe be friends during and afterward, but I wasn't looking for a serious relationship. I kept meeting single moms on dating sites who would be like "I have to warn you, I'm a single mom." And I would be like, "oh, ok, that's cool and no big deal. My mom was single when I was growing up, so I know the deal. As long as you're not looking for a step-dad, that's not a problem." And they wo… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/01/22 07:12 PM |
| 3 | This is terrible..Explain the difference between 'manipulative' and 'abusive' as you are using them above. I suspect your definition of 'manipulative' would fit everyone else's definition of 'abusive' on this sub. At least emotionally and psychologically abusive. If you are manipulating others to get an outcome out of them, it's abusive behavior. Regardless of gender. This is what both the redpill and femaledatingstrategy teach. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/01/22 06:38 PM |
| 13 | This is terrible.."Betas" are just normal guys. "Alphas" are abusive guys. "Alphas" have abused her so much that she needs therapy and has too much trauma and self loathing to form normal connections with normal guys. That's the lesson. That's the only lesson. You pick. You can be an abusive dude who preys on women who have been conditioned to fall victim to abusers or you can be a normal guy that those abused women "leave on read." | /r/ExRedPill | 18/01/22 06:29 PM |
| 1 | How to pick a partnerI'm in a long term relationship, bro. I'm not going after anyone. I was just wondering why you were making weird and judgy statements about women with tattoos and long nails. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/01/22 02:37 AM |
| 1 | How to pick a partnerWhat do tattoos and long nails have to do with anything? | /r/ExRedPill | 15/01/22 05:26 PM |
| 6 | What are good techniques to improve humor?First, playing off of the other person is a strength, not a weakness here. Trying to drive the humor yourself is going to be harder than playing off the other person in situations where you don't know them. It may not seem like that now because you don't have that much practice doing both with people you've just met, but if you had practice doing both you'd see that playing off the other person is actually the easier way to go. So, how do you get comfortable enough to start making those joke and… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/01/22 08:26 PM |
| 1 | My experience with Corey WayneYou're welcome, man. Glad I could be of some small comfort. I have another post on here about self esteem vs self compassion. It sounds like you could use the later. Be kind and supportive to yourself. Be a sort of best friend who completes yourself. It may sound cheesy, but I've found that it makes a big difference. I used to punish myself for my mistakes, but now I try to forgive myself for them and encourage myself to try again or move on. Just not beating yourself up in little ways can go a … | /r/ExRedPill | 12/01/22 07:40 PM |
| 2 | My experience with Corey WayneSorry to reply twice, but I should have included this to begin with: Notice how you were almost entirely focused on your own "performance" during this whole thing? That's not a good thing. Woman can have red flags you can miss if you're entirely focused on trying to perform a certain role to make it as far as you can with them on a date. I fell into some very abusive relationships by only focusing on me and how I was acting on dates and not how the young woman I was trying to get with was acting… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/01/22 05:45 PM |
| 1 | My experience with Corey WayneGood on you for realizing that. It sounds like you should take some of the lessons from the book and abandon others. Find a lady that is going to split the bill or be appreciative. Find a lady that your going to be as excited about the conversation at dinner as the kiss/whatever else afterward. The book and video helped you learn to talk to women you didn't know. That's something. But a lot of their other stuff sounds like bullshit. Time to go rogue. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/01/22 05:39 PM |
| 7 | My experience with Corey WayneThe way you talk about your dates is a bit... off-putting. For example. You say you "only got a kiss." Presumably you got to know this woman a little? Had an enjoyable afternoon/evening with her before the kiss? Why is the yard stick of the interaction how far you got physically? Also, did she ask you to pay or did you offer spontaneously? If someone asks for something they have an am obligation to thank you for complying, but if you offer that thing on your own their thanks is entirely extra. I… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/01/22 05:04 PM |
| 2 | How is it possible to get a relationship when I've never even been friends with a woman before?I love how you're a woman, explaining the women's perspective and this dude is like like "no, don't listen to her, you'll get friend zoned. I know how women work better than a woman does." Lol | /r/ExRedPill | 11/01/22 07:20 PM |
| 10 | Anti black, black redpill content creatorsI've never really thought about the affect of the red pill movement on the black community before. For me, it's mostly been something I've seen grown on the internet and then start to invade certain men around me, mostly white "bro" types and introverted "neet" types. I'm a white guy, but I live in Baltimore and own a business in a mostly black neighborhood. I talk to young black men every day. I know that their community has problems with misogyny, some of which is very different then it is for… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/22 01:22 AM |
| 1 | Self Esteem vs Self CompassionAnd that's not such a bad thing at all. It's way better to think, "I'm not the greatest, but that's ok I'm trying my best." Instead of something like, "I'm awesome, except when I make a mistake, then I'm a piece of shit." We all have struggles. We all have to go through at least some of it alone. It makes it much more difficult to go through it alone while beating yourself up. It makes it much more manageable to be on your own side in those times. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/01/22 04:19 PM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]What are you looking for? If you're looking for no strings sex, escorts (woman or trans) is a perfectly reasonable way to go about that. As long as you are being a good and respectful client who doesn't hurt or abuse the escorts. If you're taking advantage of trans women's vulnerability in society pretending to date them seriously, but just using them for sex... Don't do that. It's not cool. If you're looking for a relationship, something more meaningful, you probably want to put your money and … | /r/ExRedPill | 06/01/22 10:05 PM |
| 2 | I still don't trust womenWhy does that bother you so much? Some women will sleep with Nazis if they're attractive enough. Not all women, not most women, not a majority of women, not half of all women, not a quarter, etc. The only thing that picture shows is that some women are willing to do that. Why does that bother you? Why does that scare you? There are people of any gender or sexual orientation who would compromise their values to fuck someone they think is hot. I'm a straight dude and I fooled around with racist tr… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/12/21 05:28 PM |
| 8 | Bitterness about my situationImagine if you were really into basketball. Always wanted to play basketball. You thought basketball would be so much fun to play. Yet, you never really gave it a try. You watched college and NBA games. You watched people play around at the park. You kept yourself in decent shape, just in case you ever decided to play. But... You never actually tried playing. You knew that to be good you had to be tall and naturally athletic, and you were neither of those things. You knew that most people learne… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/12/21 04:38 PM |
| 1 | fair fight"220lb whale too"... "shallow people ranks lower than my cats poop." Maybe we can send statements like this to Alanis Morrisette to teach her what irony means. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 06/09/20 04:20 PM |
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