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DATING ADVICEhiraethdawn/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 11:08 AM
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It's a lot easier to save for your financial goals with a partner. Find someone with the same values and reach your goals together. You don't want to be 28 and just starting to look, and then face declining fertility in just a few years. That was my mistake, and now I'm a homeowner but 31 and unmarried. I can tell you exactly what I'd trade my house and financial security for.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 12:01 PM
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Cleaning someone else's home can seem super rude - it implies you don't think it is up to your standards. Jump in and help with dinner, dishes, and offer to help with anything else they need, but don't just start sweeping the floors!
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/19 09:48 AM
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It sounds like you have a lot to learn but you are being extraordinarily hard on yourself. You've accomplished a lot more than many women your age who manage to marry well. He sounds so much like my ex who I left that it made me feel uncomfortable reading this - he dumped you when you needed support and reassurance that the relationship was going somewhere, and only came back to you when he was desperate and needed you to support him financially. He's using marriage as a carrot on a stick, hopin…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 12:21 PM
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Try vetting men for political views early on - men who are alt right/traditionalist are very unlikely to be poly.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 10:44 AM
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All the major things like abuse, addiction, serial cheating, dead bedroom/porn addiction, but I'd add continued financial irresponsibility. If a man expects his wife to pay the bills while he chases his passion projects or bankrupts his family, I'd say that's probably not salvageable. I think most other issues can be worked through. If there are major long term goal incompatibilities, that's something that should have been settled on before marriage. Once you're married, you should expect your h…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/19 02:19 PM
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Look on Etsy, there are some very reasonably priced moissanite rings. I also love the morganite engagement ring trend, and you can find those for under $500. I wouldn't spend much less than that for a ring you're planning to wear every day, you'll want it to last!
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/19 10:31 AM
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Absolutely degenerate and revolting to me on every level.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 01:52 PM
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I'm 29 and he's 27.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 12:34 PM
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It wasn't casual to him, but he is terrible at expressing himself! I just had no idea how he felt. I thought he was spinning plates but he's actually pretty inexperienced. I think he might have also been a little apprehensive as I have a son, but as soon as he started spending time with him and really saw me as a mother his attitude completely changed.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 12:33 PM
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I was completely frustrated and ready to walk away in December after about four months of casual dating and inwardly questioning what we really were. He told me he loved me in early January and we set a basic timeline for marriage and kids soon after. I'm sooo glad I was patient, but I honestly wouldn't recommend giving it much longer than that.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 11:41 AM
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He said it fairly recently, half way through a plate of tacos I made for him lol. It was perfect, I said it back and teared up a little. I've loved him for a while and really struggled to not tell him, but I'm glad I waited for him to say it first.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 11:50 AM
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I think having clear boundaries and knowing when to walk is a good thing for women, as long as we actually follow through and don't just use ultimatums to manipulate. You hear of too many women who waste their fertile years on men who have no intention of marrying them or starting a family, we're under no obligation to do that. The best thing to do I guess would be to properly vet potential partners and get a sense of a timeline/expectations early on to avoid this situation entirely, but I'm sur…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 02:09 PM
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My boyfriend right now is like this. I can tell he's really trying but it seems to be against his nature to allow himself to be vulnerable. He understands what my needs are, and I can see him trying so hard, but it never feels like it's something he really WANTS, which hurts a lot. It's torture because I have an anxious attachment style and I am genuinely in love with him. I don't want to end things so I'm working very hard on understanding him and not internalizing it when he is distant or shor…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/18 04:49 PM
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Why is this? I've found I'm usually the one to say it first in relationships and this has always made me feel self conscious and question everything. Should I not feel bad about it?
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/18 10:46 AM
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Woah, makes me appreciate living in the middle of nowhere. I don't even mow my lawn...
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 04:47 PM
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They are more ideologically consistent than run of the mill liberal feminists, at the very least. They do not believe in gender at all beyond how we are socially conditioned to behave. They believe in the reality of biological sex and that this is unchangeable (true), but that there is no biological basis for gender differences (I disagree). They are pretty vehemently anti-male. I identified with them for a while despite being on the traditional side, because they have a lot of great points rega…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 03:28 PM
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I have a book recommendation actually - The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. It seems super silly and it's crazy trendy, but it's popular because her methods work really well! There's a huge difference in my house now, it never gets cluttered or messy looking and I did the whole process nearly two years ago. She goes a bit into organizational tips but it's more about how to curate what you DO have so that everything feels cohesive and there's no need for excessive organization. …
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 01:04 PM
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That's just personal, nothing against men in the military but I am not emotionally strong enough to love a man who is away most of the time. My best friend's husband is an officer and I see what she goes through. I live close to a base though and am very attracted to military types, so it's a constant struggle!
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 06:35 PM
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My absolute deal breakers.... Criminal Record Alcoholism/Addiction Violent outbursts (throwing things, etc.) Cheating (or approached me while he was in a relationship) No car or drivers license (I live in the country!) It took me a while to figure these out but I feel like they're not SO unreasonable at this point in my life! My red/yellow flags I'm a little more flexible on but very cautious... lots of female friends, bad relationship with his mother, in the military, leftist politics, and guys…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 04:28 PM
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I'm also fairly new to this, but I'm pretty sure submission is central to RP philosophy. An alternative just wouldn't be RP. If you're really bothered by the concept it just might be that you're still looking at it through a leftist/feminist lens. There is nothing inherently less valuable in being the "first mate" in the relationship. Your contributions are equally valid, the dynamic is just better suited to our strengths as women. Men are their best selves when they are able to lead and protect…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 04:37 PM
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I put in my profile "Looking for something real." Guys tend to understand what that means. It's framed positively, and doesn't imply anything about my past. Of course I've had plenty of guys hit me up looking for a hookup regardless, but they make that pretty clear before an in-person date is even an option. If you put something similar in your profile, keep your interactions chaste and meaningful, and don't hop right into bed with a guy you'll be making it very clear what kind of woman you are …
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 01:41 PM
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You'll get a lot of doom and gloom responses here and a bit of a reality check, but it's honestly whatever you make of it. I'm a widow with a toddler, so I'll share my experience. When he was an infant I wasn't ready to date quite yet, but only partly due to grief. I literally had no time for at least a year and a half. I worked hard and finished school during this time, so when I was ready to enter the dating market I had a nice little career, owned a home and was supporting myself, not a stay …
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 03:29 PM
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