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| – | Laura M Doyle, of Surrendered Wife and Surrendered Single, is doing an AMA on RPW June 3rd, and we're giving away her new book: "First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors: Modern Day Secrets to Being Desired, Cherished and Adored for Life?"This sounds amazing! I'd like to enter the drawing, please. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/15 10:40 PM |
| 1 | NightclothesI feel your pain! I live in Chicago and our winters are pretty rough. I'm partial to fleece-lined leggings. They're form-fitting and my husband enjoys fhe view, but they also cover me up and keep me warm! I wear them under my clothes on cold days (under jeans or a dress/skirt), and then wear them to bed at night, usually under a nightie. Investing in a good, pretty bathrobe is also helpful. The silky ones hold in a surprising amount of heat and look really pretty! My husband and I are also parti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/15 08:33 PM |
| 2 | Getting "too comfortable" and losing mystery - do not do it!I completely agree! My husband always pokes fun of me for this sort of stuff. "We're married, it's okay!" He laughs at me because I never poop when he's in the house (at least not to his knowledge), and because if I really have to pee and he's taking a long shower (we have one bathroom), I'll insist that he not look. The door has never been open while one of us has been using the restroom in our nearly five years together. He thinks I'm "shy" and it's cute, and says he wouldn't mind if I got mor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/15 12:52 AM |
| 2 | RPW, WHO ARE YOU and why are you anti-feminist? I want to find out what sort of women frequent this sub.I'm 25, and I live in the US. Born in Canada. I have been married to my college sweetheart for a year and a half, and we are planning on having one or two children in three to five years. I'm Caucasian (of Polish descent), was raised as a very traditionalist Catholic (though my father is Jewish), and am not religious myself. Affluent background, though as an adult my family is middle class. Politically, I'm extremely liberal--you could go as far as to call me a Socialist. I'm mostly here because… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/15 07:12 AM |
| 4 | how to rehab your man from his past bad relationshipsI know exactly what you mean, OP! My husband had a lot of reservations about relationships after seeing his mom's rather toxic romantic relationships in action his whole life. He comes from a single-parent family within a strongly matriarchal extended family, which is very different from my own experience. His self-esteem was also pretty low, though he hid it well (as many men do). That was basically all he knew of relationships, so when we started dating (I was his first girlfriend after a stri… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/15 07:48 PM |
| 14 | The pill is sitting in my mouth but there's one last thing. I've typed every combination into the search bar. Question about partner reciprocation.My husband goes to work every day and busts his hump so that he and I can be financially secure (he is the breadwinner), among many other things. But it's not really about that. People show love and appreciation in myriad different ways, and if you feel like your actions of love are not reciprocated and you're feeling that void, it may well be that there's something getting lost in the translation. Showing love is not a tit-for-tat thing; there's no need to quantify it or keep score. If you're f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/15 10:32 AM |
| 4 | How do you respond to people saying you're too young for marriage?I got a lot of those comments at first, even though I was 24 when I got married. One family friend even remarked, as we announced our engagement, that the only reason my husband had proposed was that I must be "knocked up." I've had people harassing me about having a baby for years. Someone told me when I was 24 that I'd be an "old mom" if I waited any longer, and others questioned my fertility to my face when I was as young as 22. So 24 is too old to be childless, but too young to get married? … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/15 10:23 AM |
| 7 | the sound of musicA beautiful line from a beautiful film. I've seen it tons of times, and it always makes me feel happy and comforted. Maria is just delightful, and despite her flaws is a loving, caring woman and a good example for all girls. In real life, she was apparently quite different, sadly. It's hard to think of other movies like this! I suppose it's not generally interesting/dramatic enough to depict such couples in film. The main character's parents in Dune seem to have such a relationship, though it's … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/15 05:44 AM |
| 2 | How has your weight affected your relationship with your SO?I've been at about 120 to 125lbs (I'm 5'5" but I have a very very small frame) for most of my relationship with my husband. A few months ago, I decided to get in shape (though at the moment I've fallen off the wagon for the holidays--after Christmas, it's time to get serious again). I've lost 18 lbs, which may not seem like much, but there's almost 15% less of me! I also reduced my body fat percentage from 20% to 15%, so I'm much less skinnyfat. I've definitely noticed feeling better, and my con… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/14 12:52 AM |
| 10 | Being his First Mate in all ways - big and smallI've been doing the same thing tonight! My husband loves strategy games, like Crusader Kings (which I have just finished watching him play), and long ago we spent an evening where he taught me how to play it (he loves teaching me about his hobbies that don't already overlap with my own) and got me absolutely hooked. I was still playing when he woke up (hooray for laptops in bed) and he was so happy that I got so engrossed in something he'd taught me. We discuss strategy together and I can remind… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/14 07:37 AM |
| 5 | Discussion about naggingMy husband has a forgetful streak. He gets so focused on the task at hand that other time-sensitive tasks (i.e. remembering to eat, calling his mom, etc.) often fall by the wayside until the primary task is completed. We're both naturally absent-minded, so I have to employ all sorts of different methods to keep myself from being forgetful as it is! I was so afraid of mothering or nagging him that I never said anything for the first few years of our relationship. If I noticed he'd forgotten somet… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/14 11:54 AM |
| 4 | FR from my 4 months LDRThis is great! My husband and I were in an LDR for the first year we were dating...it sucked! One thing that really helped me, also, was sending him emails. That way, I could write the things I might otherwise have texted him throughout the day into an email, and still feel like I'm in contact with him. At the end of the day, he'd get the one email, which he could peruse at his leisure, instead of 9000 text messages bothering him all day long. He'd know I'd been thinking about him throughout the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/14 04:22 AM |
| 2 | Holiday season is coming. Here's a recipe for toffee, and other festive sweets.Sponge Candy! It's a holiday tradition in my family. We usually coat them in melted chocolate, too. I hate making them because I always manage to burn my hands, but they're soooo good. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/14 07:44 PM |
| 1 | What do you ladies usually wear to bed?I had the same problem! When it was warm, I started switching to pretty, lacy nightgowns. A pretty bathrobe to wear over it is always useful, too. Now that it's freezing cold where I live, I've switched to leggings/yoga pants and a tank top/fitted t-shirt. That way I stay warm and comfy without having to crank the heat, and my clothes are still cute and form-fitting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/14 07:31 PM |
| 3 | Question for RPW about PlayersWhen I met my husband, he had a reputation for being a "player." Obviously things worked out alright in the end, but for a long time I ended up not taking his advances seriously due in large part to his reputation. I figured he was just trying to "get into my pants," and just really really wanted me as a plate; I even declined when he asked me to be his girlfriend because "monogamous LTR girlfriend" wasn't clearly stated and I figured I'd just be one of several "girlfriends." He was largely unaw… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/14 04:01 AM |
| 9 | Favourite TV couple?Mulder and Scully. Growing up, I was a tomboy and science nerd, and Scully was ny idol. I wanted to be just like her. I've been re-watching X-Files with my husband lately (he'd only seen a few episodes), and I'm noticing how lovely Mulder and Scully are together, even though their status as a romantic couple is debatable (though by the most recent movie it seemed pretty well-established). Scully is no submissive, dumb little Stepford woman. She's clever, highly-educated, logical, and not afraid … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/14 10:35 PM |
| 11 | How can I make someone believe that I'm a virgin? (NSFW)This is a tricky one. I think a lot of guys would be able to tell when first hooking up with a girl that she's inexperienced. Don't try to fake being experienced or knowledgeable when you have sex for the first time; just be natural and be yourself and let him guide you. Unless you're an extremely confident person, you'll probably be a little nervous your first time, and it's okay if he can tell. He'll at least know you haven't had a lot of experience, even if he's skeptical about you having non… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/14 10:01 AM |
| 2 | Sick of fending off past/future lovers. Am I being unreasonable?A slippery slope to what? Encounters that cross the line of propriety? I mentioned that it's still a good idea to let him know when something makes you uncomfortable, but to stop there and let him decide if/how to act on that. If he takes this way further (i.e. more than occasional friendly hangouts, hanging out alone with her even though he said he wouldn't, etc.) just because you're accomodating despite your discomfort, that's a bit exploitative of your kindness and is a sign of a poor captain… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/14 07:15 PM |
| 2 | RPW, what do your weekends look like?Well, my husband and I work Saturdays about 50% of the time (like this week), so our weekend is basically just Sunday. We sleep in as late as we want, then get our basic errands out of the way. (Sunday is usually grocery day--we both love our weekly grocery shop because after hitting the local Big Box Store we usually stop at a little international market and look for new and interesting foods to try together.) My husband loves his video games, so he'll usually spend a decent chunk of time doing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/14 06:41 PM |
| 14 | Sick of fending off past/future lovers. Am I being unreasonable?You are trying to control your boyfriend. I could sense it just a few sentences in to your post. This is a big no-no, and is likely making the problem worse, which makes you feel worse, which increases the urge to control...it's a vicious cycle! But I know you can put a stop to it. Trying/desiring to control who he talks to, who he sees, under what circumstances, etc. will breed resentment. Sure, the way these women are acting is disrespectful to you, but your boyfriend has free will and boundar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/14 09:54 AM |
| 6 | CryingWe're expected to be more emotional than men. They're the stoic sex, not us. I think maybe that's what your SO might find endearing about your tears--it's feminine. But our emotionality can be a bit of a curse, as well. Emote, but within reason. Take care that it's not too burdensome for him--if you worry that it's too much, that's when it's useful to excuse yourself. He knows you have strong feelings, but he can also tell when you're making a concerted and solid attempt to reign in those feelin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/14 10:37 AM |
| 6 | CryingI can be a crier depending on the situation/my hormones. My husband is definitely NOT a crier. The first few times I cried in front of him, I could tell he was a bit uncomfortable and unsure of what to do, so I explained it to him like this: for me, crying is basically an involuntary physical response to feelings and hormones. Much like sweating when nervous or getting red-faced when embarrassed, sometimes I get overwhelmed and it just sort of happens. It relieves some of the stress of the situa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/14 08:08 AM |
| 6 | "Knot Yet" - The benefits and costs of delayed marriage in AmericaYes--validated is the right word! I got married at 24 to a man I met at 19. My SiL married her high school sweetheart when she was 23. We feel like freaks compared to what's becoming the norm. We both had people tell us we were "too young" to make a decision. A family friend even snarked when my husband annouced our engagement, "She must have gotten knocked up. It's a shotgun wedding, right?" Which irritated me because it implied we were incapable of independently deciding to marry. Since when i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/14 03:18 AM |
| 3 | Can we have a Thanksgiving Dinner Recipe mega thread?Good idea! I was born in Canada, so my husband and I should really be celebrating our own family Thanksgiving in October, hahaha. I'm sure he wouldn't mind the extra turkey. I used to do Thanksgiving in college for all my foreign friends who stayed behind on break, but that was way more casual. When it comes to my husband's family, I'm a little intimidated because I want to impress them! By next year, we'll have moved into a bigger place that can fit more people for dinner. At this point I have … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/14 07:59 PM |
| 4 | Can we have a Thanksgiving Dinner Recipe mega thread?This thread makes me sad that it'll be years before I'm allowed to host Thanksgiving! My husband's grandmother, mother, and aunts insist on doing all the major holidays themselves, which is awesome, but I'd love to be able to contribute or host it myself someday! Our generation is still "the kids" of the family (we even still sit at the kids' table with my husband's sister, cousins, and their spouses and babies, hahaha), so it makes the parents' generation feel good to provide the holiday meals … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/14 06:46 AM |
| 19 | What Changed Your Mind?I'm sort of a weird case, I guess. I was raised mostly by my very traditional grandmother. We considered ourselves to be "feminist" because we were in favour of equal civil rights, believed a woman should have the right to have a career instead of a family if that's what she really wants, believed in access to equal education regardless of gender, and believed that there should be measures in place to protect women from domestic violence and other forms of abuse. My grandmother was born before w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/14 11:13 PM |
| 2 | Honest Question: Why did you choose this lifestyle?Fellow far-leftist here (anarcho-syndicalist). Here's how I see this "lifestyle." Every relationship needs a division of labour. If you have a commune of people living together, you need to decide as a group who is in charge of farming, who is in charge of first-aid, who is in charge of building houses and walkways, etc. This decision is made based on a) the abilities of the residents, b)the needs of the community, and c) the desires of all involved. In romantic relationships, you need a similar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/14 08:53 PM |
| 6 | Just a sweet story about devotionShe sounds exactly like my grandmother. She was widowed for 25 years, and her love for my grandpa still grew stronger every day, even after he was gone. I was born after he died, but I felt like I knew him from all the stories she would tell. She was buried wearing the first gift he ever gave her--a locket with each of their photos in it. When the diamonds fell out of her engagement ring while she was doing dishes, she still didn't take it off until her fingers swelled too badly from arthritis..… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/14 08:16 AM |
| 2 | Fit Friday, Fat Friday.1: How did you get moving this week? I downloaded an app called Sworkit that has all sorts of different workouts made up of manageable, 30-second chunks. I've been doing the pilates and yoga exercises, which I have added to my regular walking. 2: What was your go-to healthy food item or meal? My husband surprised me with some fresh, high-quality salmon, which I have made into sashimi. Yummmm. My SiL sent me a box of my favorite green tea as an anniversary gift, so I've been going to town on that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/14 10:29 PM |
| 4 | #NoNothingNovember - a Manosphere.com and TheRedPill sponsored challenge...This is a great motivation tool! I tend to get a little lazy as the weather turns cold and the holidays approach. Right now my goals are primarily weight-oriented. I still have 11 lbs to lose by Christmas (one of my gifts to my husband is going to be a slimmer-than-ever wife!) and I need to seriously step up my exercising from just walking to something a bit more strenuous. So, this November I will be exercising every day (no skipping workouts) and not going over my calorie goals even once (no a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/14 11:50 PM |
| 1 | Winter is comingI walk a mile one way to/from work several times a week, rain, shine, or snow, AND I have to wear nice business clothes for my job (they are very strict about appearance where I work), so I understand your issue! It got reeeeeeally cold here last winter, so I had to figure out lots of ways to keep myself warm while still looking work-appropriate. I have a brown wool trench-style coat (from Gap, I think) that falls to about the knee. It's belted and flared a bit below the waist, giving it a very … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/14 07:18 PM |
| 5 | How to deal with not being in the mood?I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this! The advice here in the comments is all very sound, but I'd like to second the part about seeing a new OB/GYN. This is something a doctor should take very seriously, as it's impacting your quality of life! They should at least be trying to help you or offering some sort of advice/suggestions. Do you use personal lubricants with your spouse? Sex was rather uncomfortable for me until we started using it. It may seem awkward or less "spontaneous," but a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/14 12:55 AM |
| 1 | Remember Susan Walsh? (Hooking up Smart) I just found her website!These are great articles! Thank you for posting this! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/14 05:36 AM |
| 7 | I would appreciate some advice please!My husband was often late while we were dating. He used to live with his mom, and she'd always hold him up at the door for some reason or other (usually loading him up with snacks or asking him to help her with something before he left). Lateness is just one of those things that happens sometimes, and it's easy to hamster your way into paranoid thoughts and anxiety (is he even coming? Is he avoiding me?). If this happens again, first assume he has a good reason for being late. Maybe he forgot so… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/14 04:51 AM |
| 2 | Fit Friday. Fat Friday.This is my first time participating in one of these threads, so hopefully I'm doing it right! 1. How did you get moving this week? I have a pedometer app for my phone that's actually pretty accurate, and seeing the number of steps I take each day has tapped into my competitive side and made me try to get as many as possible! The typical goal the app gives you is 10k steps a day, which was a bit of a challenge at first. But today I made it my goal to take over 20,000 steps. I succeeded! Most of t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/14 07:04 AM |
| 2 | Have most American women become obese, spoiled rotten brats?We seem to have pretty similar mothers! I got lucky, though, in that I spent more time with my grandmother than I did with her, and my dad is pretty damn red pill (I doubt he knows what "red pill" means, but it's right up his alley) so I got to watch how a rational human being responds to such behaviour (they were only married for 11 years before my dad got tired of her crap to the point that he decided that a brutal divorce-rape would be worth it). I learned a lot from watching them interact. A… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/14 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Beer Recipes Anyone?When it's chilly outside, I like to make large batches of potato soup--any recipe will do--and dump a beer in (I usually use pilseners, but basically any savoury beer will do). Usually I just boil potatoes until they're good and squishy, drain them and add some milk and butter, use an immersion blender until it's creamy, add butter, dill, and salt, bring it to a low boil, add the beer, then serve it (some good shredded cheddar and crumbled bacon go nicely on top). You can customize the recipe an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/14 06:16 AM |
| 15 | Observations from an "older" millennialThe economy does seem to be a big factor, at least among my peers (I'm 25). Many of the people I know are struggling to find good jobs after college. So they either stay in school forever pursuing advanced degrees or work a crappy job that pays the bills while they look for something that they're qualified for--but the applicant pool is huge! And many of us are saddled by crippling student debt, the likes of which the older generations never saw (tuition rates are outrageous nowadays). A lot of … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/14 07:28 PM |
| 2 | How do people react to your happiness in marriage?Yeah, people do seem to get weird about seeing a "traditional" woman who is childfree. I suppose people see us treating our husbands as Captains and maybe expect us to be Michelle Duggar? While I respect her greatly, having loads of babies seems to be what pop culture has reduced femininity to, not acknowledging that there's so much more to it than that one aspect. But the real crux of this issue is that "feminism" (I hate to even call it that because I want so badly to associate the word with e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/14 10:52 AM |
| 11 | How do people react to your happiness in marriage?I know what you mean! As a disclaimer, I live in a part of the USA that is generally very hostile to traditional ways of life--it's a low-income area somewhere between farmland and a large urban area that often reminds me painfully of a daytime talk show. I'm sure you can imagine. We are saving up to move away! Anyway, I've been with my husband since I was 21 (though we have been close friends since we met at 19) and we married nearly a year ago when I was 24. None of our friends are married yet… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/14 10:06 AM |
| 3 | As a woman, is it bad to have some male personality traits?As others have said, it seems like a lot of the women here are much like you! I have a lot of masculine hobbies as well. I too like metal, and I'm a lifelong hockey fan (I used to play when I was younger), I love history, sci-fi and video games, and my degrees are in STEM fields. I was nervous for a long time that this made me "manly," and got a lot of crap from people about it, despite having may traditionally feminine hobbies as well (baking, knitting, etc). But then I met my husband. Part of … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/14 07:16 PM |
| 17 | WE HIT 7500 SUBSCRIBERS!! Lurkers and Newbies--Come Out and Say HI!Hi, I'm /u/hockey_puck. I'm 25, and have been married just shy of a year. I work part-time, as we are not ready for kids just yet, but most of my time and energy is devoted to my home and my husband. I found this sub a few weeks ago, and couldn't be happier! I was raised by my grandmother. She was basically a Polish June Cleaver--amazing cook, stylish, well-put-together, and classy, a lovely and kind person, and had very traditional values which resulted in a happy, loving marriage that lasted 3… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/14 08:17 PM |
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