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| 3 | Where can I get nice but cheap in priced shower towels?Thrift store | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/09/24 12:58 AM |
| 12 | I scored a huge win, but feel like shitShe will find a new guy and weekend responsibilities will be inconvenient, you’ll have every other weekend sooner than you think. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 09:01 PM |
| 3 | Is it just me. Am I the reason the word gaslighting was invented?It’s an overplayed term, ranks right there with another overused term…. Narcissist. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/09/24 02:10 PM |
| 6 | DatingIt all depends on how you feel. I’ll forewarn you though… there are a lot of broken people in the world and the dating scene is crazy, while loaded with crazy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/09/24 12:31 AM |
| 12 | Why do I do this?Because you are high on Hopium and doing the pick me dance, hoping she sees your value as a man and takes you back. The next guy will appreciate the work you put into her house. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/09/24 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Push the Button, $2,500 - Crapping My PantsMine was $7500 and reilled every 3-6 weeks. Brutal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/24 04:54 PM |
| 1 | I make double what she does, I pay no support @ 50/50 custodyDhe can fileca motion to modify child support based off of your income only | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/24 04:51 PM |
| 2 | Complicated situation, please adviseFile & have her served. Its not that difficult. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/24 02:33 PM |
| 8 | Push the Button, $2,500 - Crapping My PantsThe $2500 is really tough. Whats even tougher is continuously refilling that retainer many times throughiut the divorce process an realizing you spent several thousand dollars. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/24 11:09 AM |
| 2 | I hate thisShe is committing what is called Parental Alienation. Look it up, it’s serious & is devastating to relationships with your child. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/24 06:16 PM |
| 10 | I talk a tough gameYou are sad & weeping because you are mourning the person you THOUGHT your wife was, and all the hopes and dreams attached to her. Sadly, your wife was/is not that person. The pain will get easier over time but it will never completely go away. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/24 05:43 PM |
| 13 | Just an update since last year…NOT YOUR MONKEY, NOT YOUR CIRCUS!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/24 05:24 PM |
| 4 | BirthdaysTake them to a dollar store & let each of them pick a gift. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/24 11:52 PM |
| 4 | What was your final straw?ALWAYS fight for 50/50… you & your kids both need it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/24 04:44 PM |
| 8 | Splitting BillsOnce you file with the courts they will schedule a status conference where you will be instructed to continue paying the bills as you were during the marriage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/08/24 05:28 PM |
| 6 | Would you ever reconcile with your STBXW just out of obligation to your family/ kids?You are NOT the “love of his life”, you are his Plan B… remember that when he tries to comeback. Be somebody’s Grand Prize, not the consolation prize. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 08:14 PM |
| 11 | What red flags did you see at the very beginning?She had ZERO long term friends and very few regular friends. She took pride in describing herself as bitchy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 05:30 PM |
| 2 | What to do when wife has checked out from the marriage?Keep in mind that you will most likely be paying 100% child support with zero custody for the first few years of the baby’s life for nursing. Don’t take my word for it. Don’t take Reddits word for it. Ask an attorney….. Good luck! | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/24 02:28 PM |
| 3 | Cheating WifeYou don’t see it now but she is actually doing you a favor. Imagine having multiple children & being 15-20 years older. She is a piece of shit that isn’t worthy of your love. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/24 03:33 PM |
| 4 | What is one line or quote you can share to help fellow divorced men?Keep. Moving. Forward. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/24 02:04 PM |
| 3 | Leaving my wife.Do it! | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/24 01:41 PM |
| 12 | Friend insults my ex-wifeHe is speaking the truth, you are just wanting him to speak a version of truth that you want to believe in. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/24 09:33 PM |
| 11 | Did you ex change her name back and if so did that bother you? Because it did for me.I WISH she did, she doesn’t deserve the honor to carry my last name. Fuck her! | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/07/24 01:19 AM |
| 2 | what have others done with their house?I bought out the Ex and paid her part of the equity. I'm in Colorado & it's not cheap but it was well worth it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/24 10:13 PM |
| 5 | Told wife that I will be filing for divorce.You are handling it the best you can. Start the process, it’s a shitty journey but you will find yourself in the process and come out the other side a stronger man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/24 10:38 PM |
| 3 | Took my kids to surprise their Mom at work for Mother's Day; Big MistakeYou had expectations of somebody that has always let you down…. Think about that for a moment and let it sink in. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/05/24 04:59 PM |
| 2 | GriefYou’ll still feel better even if it’s an ugly woman playing with your penis | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/24 10:43 PM |
| 1 | A civil/agreeable divorce?GET A MEDIATOR! | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/24 02:33 PM |
| 4 | Attorney recommends petition for full custody, though I want 50/50. Is that right?Sorry, I just saw it was a 5 year marriage. You wont pay alimony. Sorry you are going through this, divorce is tough | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/24 11:30 PM |
| 3 | Attorney recommends petition for full custody, though I want 50/50. Is that right?Then be prepared for her to ask for alimony. You both should have tried a mediator first. If you are in a no-fault state, you both will end up with 50/50 custody w/ joint decision making. Divorce is always a lose/lose, the attorneys are the ones who win. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/24 10:34 PM |
| 19 | A random surprise this morning.Not responding to her text will be the most powerful message you could send. Grey rock her, do not respond because she is fishing for something. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/24 04:56 PM |
| 23 | She filed for divorce, but now wants to call it offFinalize the divorce… then date her. You will understand real quick that the divorce was the correct option. That Leopard didn’t just change her spots. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/24 02:48 PM |
| 14 | Ex MeltdownYou love a person that doesn’t exist. You need to properly mourn the death of that imaginary person & move forward because she never existed. She is what she is. Or you can live with the hope of always being her plan B. Time to Man up, DAD up! You are the fucking GRAND PRIZE, not the consolation prize! Time to buckle up and do the hard work at being the best parent possible for your children without this co-parenting “support” nonsense. You are a co-parent, that’s it. There isn’t going to be any… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/24 06:34 PM |
| 10 | I’m not going to callThis will not work out the way you think it will. Doing the pick me dance, rugsweeping, minimizing, blame shifting etc… it’s all a recipe for disaster. Dont worry, we will be here for you when it happens again & again & again etc. Updateme! 1 year | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/03/24 05:10 PM |
| 1 | I want to be a dad. I can see my dream crashing.It’s all good. You are at the age where you need to date quality over quantity. Don’t settle & don’t rush. You got this! | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/24 11:16 PM |
| 12 | I want to be a dad. I can see my dream crashing.I was 41 when my first was born. 4 total. You will be fine. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/24 04:17 PM |
| 12 | My wife came home from work today and asked for a divorceYou’re not going to want to hear this right now but she is actually doing you a favor by deciding to keep finances separate, talk to a lawyer, she might be on the hook for all $50K. She would bankrupt you in the long haul. Your daughters NEED you, all kids need their Dad. Be the emotional foundation that they need and set an example of what a healthy parent should be. You deserve better. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/24 02:25 PM |
| 1 | Stbxw writing dumb shit via co-parenting appMy Ex was too. My lawyer broke it down to me, every single email was billed at $50. My ex cheated ALOT & my attorney told me point blank “she could be in a 50 man gangbang & the judge won’t care”. I live in a no fault state & everything is split 50/50 so it really didn’t matter if my voice was heard regarding her cheating, that’s when I went grey rock on her and my life completely changed for the better. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/24 04:37 AM |
| 2 | Stbxw writing dumb shit via co-parenting appHonestly, Lawyers LOVE clients like you & your STBXW because the senseless bickering and one upping puts more money in their pocket. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/24 12:39 AM |
| 4 | Wife confessed to affairDid she “confess” because the other betrayed spouse found out & was going to expose her anyway? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/24 11:52 PM |
| 19 | Has anyone’s Ex-wife ever apologized for putting them through hell?You are not going to receive the closure you are seeking. Your wife wasnt the special person you described early in this post, but she is exactly the person you described in the latter part of this post. People are what they are in their core | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/24 02:02 PM |
| 6 | Crazy first week…one conclusionRecord every interaction with her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/24 04:32 PM |
| 12 | Did anyone else have sex with their ex wife during the process?Its referred to as Hysterical Bonding, its a thing, it clouds your judgement and fucks with your emotions. Been there. Done that. Wasnt worth it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/24 02:00 AM |
| 9 | When Did This Forum Get the Ridiculous Mod?Its a Mod projecting their own marriage failure. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/01/24 03:45 PM |
| 2 | Mediation tomorrow can it really be OVER after this???Updateme! | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/24 12:00 PM |
| 5 | To spend now or wait?Furnish basic necessities from second-hand thrift stores. The best advice I can give you is to make your place a comfortable 2nd home that your kids will want to visit and be comfortable/safe while visiting. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/24 01:16 PM |
| 2 | ED after divorceI had the same exact peoblem with Viagra, I switched to Cialis and that worked perfect for me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/24 05:56 PM |
| 1 | What to expect if there's not much money?You might re-verify your statement. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/23 08:43 PM |
| 1 | What to expect if there's not much money?Most State websites have a child support calculator and an alimony calculator. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/23 09:31 PM |
| 8 | Friends with your ex wifeGo on a double date with her & her new boyfriend, that will end any idealization that you can be friends going forward. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/23 04:42 PM |
| 4 | Wife trying to come back after leaving me for affair partnerThere will always be another man in the picture whether you divorce or not. Think about it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 03:12 PM |
| 3 | Wife trying to come back after leaving me for affair partnerYou are Plan B. Carry yourself like you are the Grand Prize & not the consolation prize. She has done absolutely nothing to change, nothing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 02:45 PM |
| 3 | Passive aggressive stbxw (rant)Start your parenting plan NOW My X and I followed a one week on/ one week off plan. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/23 12:35 AM |
| 1 | Wife having second thoughts? Need to get your opinionsI’m not sure which of you committed the infidelity, but I will assume it is her. What kind of wife will you be getting back? The version you loved cheated. Know what true remorse looks like, not regret at getting caught. For your emotional health, I hope she is remorseful & things work out but I also know the odds of that are really low and it feels like you are rug sweeping this and that will always come back to haunt you. I speak from experience. I’m sorry you are going through this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/12/23 02:26 AM |
| 2 | Where/ when did my rights go?What was their reason for needing a continuance? | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/11/23 11:47 PM |
| -3 | Ex-wife asked me if I was interested in becoming "friends with benefits". It was the greatest day of my life....You should have told her, “no thank you, your pussy is dirty” | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/11/23 04:53 PM |
| 2 | What does online dating look like for you?It’s a world of broken people. In the dating world, you are just exchanging this set of baggage for somebody else’s baggage. Everybody dating in their 50’s has baggage. It just is what it is. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/11/23 01:18 AM |
| 1 | OpinionDo an internet search of chump lady, doing the 180, GAL (get a life), grey rock, rug sweeping, survivinginfidelity dotcom. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/11/23 01:21 PM |
| 3 | OpinionYou are masterfully performing the “pick me” dance. STOP. You are literally doing everything you’re not supposed to do in this situation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/23 08:49 AM |
| 5 | Wife divorce (update)Be ready for the “we just kissed” defense. Followed by the “it was just one blow job, only oral”. Followed by…….. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/23 08:28 AM |
| 1 | Double standard?Your wife is seen as an easy target. When I was in my 20’s, divorcées & soon to be divorcees were the easiest to smooth talk & get laid. I’m not saying it was right, but I was young and loved the ladies. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/11/23 10:07 PM |
| 5 | Re-entering Dating SceneBe prepared to meet MANY emotionally broken women. If you’re looking for just “physical” connections, it will be an endless supply like shooting fish in a barrel. Deeper emotional connections? those are like hunting for Unicorns. It’s not impossible to find what you’re looking for but the journey can be somewhat frustrating. Good luck! | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/11/23 07:41 PM |
| 31 | Alimony QuestionHer attorney is getting the best deal for their client… YOUR WIFE! Retain your own attorney! | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/11/23 10:49 AM |
| 3 | Met another womanGood luck in your new rebound relationship | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/11/23 06:59 PM |
| 2 | Self respectIt’s a classic case of walk away wife syndrome. You need to do a hard 180, search it if you aren’t sure how to do it. Do what I’d best for YOU. Work on being the best version of YOU. Go full grey rock & show her what life without you actually looks like. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/11/23 03:24 PM |
| 3 | Not sure if I should divorce...but wife moved in her ps5 guy friendWell, then don’t leave her. Let her continue sleeping with the other guy and you can maybe sleep with her sometimes too. The kids will be happy, Mom & Dad & Mommy’s friend all living in harmony. Is there any way to trade places with him & he can stay in the home while you stay in the trailer? It will give you some peace & quiet. Maybe take the kids to a movie so that they can really get in some sexy time without worrying about the kids hearing them. Then you all can go to church together so ever… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/10/23 10:20 AM |
| 2 | Not sure if I should divorce...but wife moved in her ps5 guy friendYou need to step up, be a man & advocate for yourself. She is literally cucking you right in front of your face and you are still clinging to your Christian hopes & Christian denial. THE GUY LIVING IN YOUR PROPERTY IS IN AN ACTIVE PHYSICAL AFFAIR WITH YOUR WIFE! | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/10/23 02:54 AM |
| 2 | Does my wife (30F) regret this? I (33 M) am so confused, any advice welcome.Nesting is a great option until divorce is final. Many people can't afford two mortgages or renting two homes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/10/23 10:33 PM |
| 5 | I’m not crazy, right?I totally agree with you. She is desperate to find the same stability you offered and will believe anything a guy tells her… including an old flame from her childhood. Pop some popcorn and watch her shitshow of a life unfold.. Be the stable parent your kids need because she is the asshole that is mindfucking your kids while trying to mindfuck you. She is a special kind of piece of shit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/10/23 10:00 PM |
| 4 | I’m not crazy, right?The easiest pieces of ass to target are divorced single Moms. When I was younger, they were pure gold. She will be a play toy for many for awhile. I just hope she keeps the kids out of the picture or they will be meeting lots of “Mommies friends” for awhile. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/10/23 05:28 PM |
| 5 | Does my wife (30F) regret this? I (33 M) am so confused, any advice welcome.Complacency is a problem in most marriages by both parties. Separation should give both of you individually time to reflect on where you have failed the marriage. She isn't taking the time to reflect on her shortcomings and is deflecting the blame on you. Research “Doing the 180” and “Walk Away Wife Syndrome” Since you are already employing the “nesting” method of separation with the kids staying in the marital home, you need to grey rock her and let her experience what life really looks like wi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/10/23 03:24 PM |
| 15 | I fucked upCheck your State website & search for child support calculator & alimony calculator. Most states follow these. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/10/23 10:36 PM |
| 7 | I fucked upFind a divorce mediator. Cheapest option. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/10/23 10:35 PM |
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