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| 8 | How do you date man while knowing their depravityI have been actively talking to men on OLD sites and while searching the web, I stumbled across a site called rawconfessions. I cant unsee what I saw and I can't look at any man the same again. I started crying and figuring out if anyone can trace those posts but I guess the FBI has been watching the site.. it still doesn't help me.. I feel like every man has that sinister side to them and I just can't shake that feeling from myself. I don't know what to do to make it go away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 09:55 PM |
| 111 | Let’s normalize walking awayYep. Met someone I clicked with right away, he was awesome, we felt this deep connection and had 3 weeks of being eachothers best friend before something just felt off. I tried to talk to him about what was up, he ignored my texts and so I sat and took a hard look at all of our interactions then sent him a text telling him it was nice meeting him but that I wasn't interested anymore. The old me would have waited for his reply and his excuse, the FDS me took control. This was just yesterday and I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 01:20 AM |
| 2 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)Hes dropped 🙌🙌 I stopped talking to him for two weeks straight, and then finally sent the break up text. He says you haven't seen me in so long, you just forgot how I make you feel! What about our plans together? Our future together! We dated just shy of four months.. I didn't even feel bad or sorry for him! He really just wasn't my type of guy at all. I think he was just convenient and with covid- having a companion was nice. Until it really started to just get annoying. He called me and asked … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 02:40 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Check-InIm so glad that I was able to help. Another thing that I did when it came to the funeral, was write a letter to the old me. I saw her as a dear friend, instead of myself, and wrote to her like a loving big sister would write to her troubled baby sis. I sobbed while writing it, truly grieving for her then burned it as part of my ceremony. Like that was the way to get the letter to her, because she became ashes as the new me emerged. I saw myself in the way of the mythical Phoenix, burning, but th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 10:56 PM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Check-InOh goodness, I've been there. There are things I'm repulsed by that I let happen. I refer to that phase of mine as a totally different person and that girl . I see it as the old me, the naive me, and the me that didn't know alot but knows a helluvalot more because of those experiences. I even had a little funeral for her, because I knew I never ever wanted to be her again. I grieve for her, and feel so sorry that she went through those things, and know that she was just very sad, insecure and tr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 10:00 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Check-InI reccomend a capsule wardrobe- tanks and cardigans, and even something light but a wool blend. I've created a capsule wardrobe with alot from Everlane, which is quality basic business casual. Also try to meditate if you're open to it or haven't done it. There are alot of guided ones these days, instead of the typical sitting crossed legged and hom. It can really help you just keep in the moment and to just accept that preparing for uncertainty is the best thing to do. Alot easier said than done… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 09:48 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Check-InI became a mother. Its almost like it cleared away the haze and made me realize what potential I had. My child's father was someone I was with for years, and he indulged in the lifestyle too. I didn't want to be that family. So now, I'm a single mama and leveling up to create a good life for myself and my little one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 09:14 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Check-InI used to smoke pot. Now I am 100% sober and don't want to be around people who smoke or drink, even when I really indulged in the smoking lifestyle. Those who I considered my best friends still smoke pot and live life just by the day. I miss our time together, but I just can't be friends with people like that anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 06:11 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Check-InI feel this so much. I changed my lifestyle and my previous friends still live the old lifestyle that im trying to get away from. I've been friends with them for a decade, we were incredibly close, and now I literally have one friend and my sister. Neither of which I ever see. Friend is an RN working with Covid patients and my sister is a state away. This is the only place where I see women with a similar mindset. Trying to find a friend, let alone a friend who wants to better themselves for the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 06:06 PM |
| 36 | Tinder Gold. 1300 likes.Oh believe me, it's not something I'm wanting to brag about. I'm pretty average when it comes to my physical appearance and I didn't use recent a recent picture or a real flattering one on purpose. It's stupidly obvious that they will swipe for anything. I have no idea how to meet anyone since I work with mainly women and basically just stick to the same routine. I don't drink so I don't go out to bars so meeting someone in the typical way seems impossible. I'm just going to delete the app and k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 04:14 PM |
| 8 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)I stopped going on FDS for a while and now I'm back on for that very reason. I'm taking your advice to heart and will re read the handbook and have already stopped answering his calls and texts, will be breaking it off for good in the next few days. I'm focusing on myself this weekend and reading FDS to get the right mindset before I drop and block. I have to be confident and not feel any emotional attachment to his feelings. That's what I realized is the hardest part- not feeling bad about maki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 06:07 PM |
| 18 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)And it's really I would do anything for you, but only if it's convenient for me. The guy I'm with, says it alot. Says how much he's into me and that I possess the qualities he wants in someone he could be with long term I'd do anything for you. When I asked him to pick up a specific conditioner for me from a salon that is a few miles from his work, he asked if he could just order it for me instead. When I asked if he could pick me up dinner because I had my 2nd covid shot, and felt like absolute… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 04:00 PM |
| 24 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)I've been dating someone for 4 months.i thought this one was a bit more on my level mentally and emotionally. Nope. It's almost crazy how quickly some men want to invade our lives but not so much in ways that benefit us. I need a life assistant. I turn into one when I'm with someone, but I legitimately could benefit from having that type of person in my own life. Why do we have the instincts to become that and men don't? Why do they not want to help us, when they say they would do anything for u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 02:12 PM |
| 30 | Mood for lifeI applied this type of living to my life and while it has been amazing, I still feel this void I need to fill. Maybe it's the fact that there's always a rain cloud of covid hovering above and im not accepting the way things are as well as i thought. Anywhoo, got myself better hygiene prouducts, better skincare products, sateen sheets, a silk pillow case, new clothes made of cotton that will last longer and feel better on my skin. A hair oil and hair products that actually have been giving me reg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 03:52 PM |
| 19 | Dating detox/detoxing from romantic propagandalove is not a feeling, it's an act I needed to read this. This, right here, hits the nail on the head. Its everything. Acts create feelings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 09:02 PM |
| 2 | I was usedCall your parents, admit they were right and apologize for not listening to them. See if they can help you get a divorce and out of this mess. Really try your hardest to mend the relationship with them, because right now, you need family more than anything. He manipulated you and you didn't know that it would happen to you. None of us ever think it would happen to us, thats why its so hard to see it at first. You have a big heart and it was taken advantage of. Im so sorry hun. You will get throu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 08:24 AM |
| 9 | My journey w/ FDS that might be useful for women lurking here (idk if irrelevant but)This is important. I too thought I was in love with a guy I wasn't even attracted to. My body was telling me no so much but I saw it as butterflies. I'm in the current situation where I'm dating someone, and its been about two months. He comes over with a bottle of wine everytime, which is nice, although im not much of a drinker, aside from when he brings it over. All I want is flowers. I keep telling him how much I love flowers and would love to have a bouquet always on my table. He has yet to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 08:12 PM |
| 7 | How to get guys to pursue me?And their validation doesn't make you pretty, or beautiful. You are those things without them telling you that. Whenever I'm feeling insecure, I have my sister hype me up. She goes all out with the compliments, its so funny and amazing and we just laugh afterwords but it really makes a difference. Text one of your girlfriends and ask them to hype you up when you're feeling low about your appearance, when it really doesn't sound like you have much to feel low about- but, you still want that valid… | /r/askFDS | 20/01/21 04:17 PM |
| 3 | Scared I’m making the wrong decision in letting a guy go. So scared I’ll regret leaving and end up alone. Looking for advice.Ooof. There is some codependency here. I can feel this in my soul. Been there... read Women Who Love Too Much. Codependency No More, is also a good one. Get your mind back on track. | /r/askFDS | 20/01/21 04:11 PM |
| 36 | [Mildly Trending] /r/FemaleDatingStrategy - Female Dating Strategy (+386 subscribers today; 140% trend score)Yesss, ive been mentioning this to every woman i can in other groups im a part of | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 05:51 AM |
| 2 | Video games are more important to him than helping his wife with their babyTaking it one day at a time, but everyday it gets better. Once the codependency finally dropped it was life changing. Its so much easier to be a single mom than it was with him around 🙌🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 01:27 AM |
| 15 | ASKED TO PROM TWICE: Saying NO and Being OK with itI wish FDS would have been a thing when I was a teenager. I'm so happy to see young women on here! Learn vicariously through our experiences, read the handbook, live by the handbook and you'll do amazing things. The way you handled prom was great. Im so sorry that you have to miss out on the experience but you had the right mindset when it came to it and didn't just go with some guy because they asked you to. Also really glad to hear the way your handling not being able to experience prom, also … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 06:21 AM |
| 271 | Advice to my younger pickmeisha selfAnd no, you didn't enjoy it, you were depressed and used it as a form of self harm. Oof. This hit hard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 06:14 AM |
| 25 | Jobless, Selling Nudes Online and Still Struggling...OnlyFans is ExploitationJust saw a post on r/singlemoms of someone trying to advertise their Onlyfans, as a way to help support her as a single mom. I get the desperation, but man was it sad to see. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 06:01 AM |
| 16 | Coming out of this relationship. It's been hellish. Listen to men who call their exes "crazy "My ex is trying to get all of our friends on his side. Tells me at every chance he can that they all think im crazy and a horrible person for leaving him the way I did. He was an alcoholic, who turned controlling and we had a 3 month old. My son is now 8 months, we are happy af. I could careless what people think of the situation, im just glad im out. If they believe his lies, then they arnt people I want to be around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 05:58 AM |
| 13 | The regretful LVM anthem (remember, they never change) - Bruno MarsI wasn't sure if it was my big split hat made me hate every breakup love song by male artists. I hear it and instantly think of the ex listening to those words, rolling her eyes in embarrassment and telling her friends how much of a dick he was. I realize now, im probably right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 05:55 AM |
| 42 | Video games are more important to him than helping his wife with their babyYup. Once I was on maternity leave and my ex was the one working, he changed completely. He was an alcoholic, but was never incredibly controlling until he could use money against me. It was so fucked up. He thought that he could do and say anything because I relied on him and either way I had to deal with it. Now, im the one who broke our family up. Men are repulsive. I thought he was raised better than that. NOPE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 05:39 AM |
| 3 | When Women RefuseThis put so much fear in me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 05:58 AM |
| 14 | Shoutout to all the Queens battling Anxiety/Depression and STILL leveling up unlike these trash menFor me, it's no excuse, unless they are actively trying to manage it. Ive been on medication, sought out therapy, different types of therapy, started meditation/yoga and self help books/books on mental illnesses to try to also understand it. If someone isn't even trying, I don't want to hear about their issues and behaviors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 09:26 PM |
| 11 | Shoutout to all the Queens battling Anxiety/Depression and STILL leveling up unlike these trash menSeek out a psychologist. I was diagnosed at 24. I went to a psychologist for my anxiety and she asked if I had ever been diagnosed with ADD explaining that it causes anxiety. We did the test, and sure enough I had innatentive ADD . She sent a referral for medication to my Dr. My doctor was extremely hesitant prescribing it to me, almost as if she didn't want to but with the referral she had no medical reason not to. I went a while without taking it, and decided to give it a go again with a diffe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 09:19 PM |
| 37 | Shoutout to all the Queens battling Anxiety/Depression and STILL leveling up unlike these trash menI'm a triple threat. ADD, Anxiety and Depression. Realized recently that managing the ADD with medication, significantly helped the anxiety. Also, any ladies here have ADD? I never finished my degree because of my struggle with it and anxiety at the time. Im in a much better head space but incredibly nervous to go back even though its something I've been wanting to do so badly. Tips and tricks needed 🙌 trying to do some serious leveling up but feel stuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 07:11 PM |
| 3 | What's up with guys bragging they can go for multiple rounds? And wanting women to moan?PRO TIP. Don't tell them you're taking Birth Control. Its for us, not them. Always make them wear a condom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 06:35 AM |
| 1 | Let's talk about angerI have lashed out. Alot. My mother and I are such calm and nice people but we react aggressively at times. Ive done alot to become more self aware, while she still struggles. It was horrible with my last relationship. I have realized some people bring it out in me, and I have a hard time controlling it when im pushed to my mental limit. Since I've been alone, im the most calm I've ever been. Funny how that works. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 06:29 AM |
| 1 | Let's talk about angerSeeing this link, thank you. I've been on a self help book frenzy and I had no idea I could get free ebooks. Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 06:26 AM |
| 6 | THIS is why FDS. Coming from a single mom, I will never again date someone who makes me theirs, too. Too many comments saying "those men don't exist" or "if I tell him ill give him time then he might.."Oh hun hugs this was me, too. Fighting over a cigarette was the last straw for me. I had quit once I found out I was pregnant and I went to grab one out of his pack when things were so stressful and I caved. He was drinking heavily all the time, and this was a new thing for him that started within the last year or so.. and we had a 3 month old. We had numerous crazy arguments, but him fighting over me taking a cigarette from him without asking... that was it. We weren't even sleeping in same bed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 06:39 PM |
| 20 | THIS is why FDS. Coming from a single mom, I will never again date someone who makes me theirs, too. Too many comments saying "those men don't exist" or "if I tell him ill give him time then he might.."Glad you got out! It takes the worst toll on our mental health after dealing with such neglect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 01:52 AM |
| 43 | THIS is why FDS. Coming from a single mom, I will never again date someone who makes me theirs, too. Too many comments saying "those men don't exist" or "if I tell him ill give him time then he might.."I'm single and loving it. It's so much easier to take care of my son by myself, than it was to take care of both and deal with a grown man's childis behavior. My home is peaceful, and quiet and I can parent the way I want to without having some idiot tell me im wrong when I was the one who read the parenting books. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:45 AM |
| 45 | THIS is why FDS. Coming from a single mom, I will never again date someone who makes me theirs, too. Too many comments saying "those men don't exist" or "if I tell him ill give him time then he might.."From my experience, we want to show them that we can be a wives before we are, especially if we met them young.. then before you know it, we are. We get married and expect them to start acting like a husband, and because they never needed to or felt the need to, and we suddenly need them to..they don't. I never married, just was engaged. Thankfully and having my son made me realize how much I needed the help and how much I enabled the behavior before I did. My friend, however, married a total to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:42 AM |
| 205 | THIS is why FDS. Coming from a single mom, I will never again date someone who makes me theirs, too. Too many comments saying "those men don't exist" or "if I tell him ill give him time then he might.."If single moms stopped trying to look for a man and just got together and did this, the world would be a better place for kids. Wish I had more mom friends. Id do this in a heart beat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 11:33 PM |
| 2 | Did it ever hit you that in your pickme days you didn’t date one man who was “your type” and you dropped your standards of physical attraction so much?Thats the one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 09:43 PM |
| 2 | Did it ever hit you that in your pickme days you didn’t date one man who was “your type” and you dropped your standards of physical attraction so much?Girl, then when I stopped all communication with him, he sent me messages telling me that I used him 💀💀💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 07:08 PM |
| 7 | Did it ever hit you that in your pickme days you didn’t date one man who was “your type” and you dropped your standards of physical attraction so much?😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 11:33 PM |
| 6 | Did it ever hit you that in your pickme days you didn’t date one man who was “your type” and you dropped your standards of physical attraction so much?😘 thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 10:21 PM |
| 12 | Did it ever hit you that in your pickme days you didn’t date one man who was “your type” and you dropped your standards of physical attraction so much?For me, ive always been insecure, so if someone was attracted to me I thought omg he must actually like me not even realizing that I was/am actually pretty good looking. So yeah, it was a total self esteem booster. I used the sex and the feeling of making them feel good, to make myself feel good. Currenly listening to Women Who Love Too Much* on audible and damn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 10:20 PM |
| 16 | Did it ever hit you that in your pickme days you didn’t date one man who was “your type” and you dropped your standards of physical attraction so much?FDS has been CRUCIAL to my recovery from all of these terrible decisions I've made. I haven't even slept with alot of men, but every single one was awful in one way or another. I had no standards. I thought that if they liked me, I should like them too. Don't worry, im in Therapy lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 10:08 PM |
| 30 | Did it ever hit you that in your pickme days you didn’t date one man who was “your type” and you dropped your standards of physical attraction so much?It had to be let out. I needed it off my conscience. This is why I'm here 😭😭😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 10:03 PM |
| 34 | Did it ever hit you that in your pickme days you didn’t date one man who was “your type” and you dropped your standards of physical attraction so much?I have a story. I actually feel really bad about myself and him for it, but it needs to be said and I need to just let it out. I was newly single, one of the many times my LT ex and I broke up, and a guy started messaging me on Facebook. We had mutual friends, he seemed understanding, and eventually he asked to call and we seemed to get along well. Of course, the conversation moved towards sex and being the pickme I was, totally let it. I had seen pictures of him, but apparently none that showed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 09:46 PM |
| 4 | Am i being too picky?Im with you. Its one of the first questions I ask when talking about types of shows we are interested. If they are into Anime, NEXT. | /r/askFDS | 06/01/21 09:36 PM |
| 1 | How Many of you Leveled Up and left your LVM/NVM last year?I've never had a problem with substances, but I love my mind sober more than anything and am staying that way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:08 PM |
| 1 | How Many of you Leveled Up and left your LVM/NVM last year?Oh and im sober. Aside from a few glasses of wine I had recently, because I felt like it was okay and I deserved it for a night. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:08 PM |
| 1 | How Many of you Leveled Up and left your LVM/NVM last year?Still leveling up, its a alow process but im getting there. Left a decade long relationship after he became an alcoholic and we had a 3 month old. Realized how much of that relationship was absolutely fucked up as even looking back at him demanding to see what I was texting my friends, and threatening to break my phone was abusive. Having me try the drug molly for the first time by passing around a cup of juice, while we smoked a joint with our friends and not telling me what was in the juice un… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:06 PM |
| 2 | Queen Energy TuesdayI went to a friend's house and noticed a dirty ass towel hanging on the hook in their bathroom. A what used to be white towel that was now black with dirt. Later on the husband wanted to show off the light fixture he put in, and I asked if that was the towel he used when he got out of the shower, I couldn't even help myself. He looked confused and says yeah, why? I ask if he even washes himself. My friend started laughing at this and im thinking girl, this is your husband.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 05:27 AM |
| 2 | Keeping up the energy going into 2021Yaaaasss!! I love this so much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 02:10 AM |
| 2 | Confession- I finally did it. Im free of my old pickme self and I confessed to a girl whos fiancée took advantage of my vulnerability.Imo, if the couple weren't together anymore, I would have kept it to myself. He could have already been honest and confessed to it and I would assume they broke up for that reason or a reason related and the girl is better off. I would have just left it as it is since its done. Im sorry you went through that, she did it out of spite. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 01:52 AM |
| 1 | Dude im vetting didn't social distance for NYE. Do I cancel Date?Thank you, Ive been trying but wasn't approved | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 12:09 AM |
| 3 | Dude im vetting didn't social distance for NYE. Do I cancel Date?Dammit. I had alot in common with this guy...then he does this shit. Its so clear to me now. Wtf is he thinking. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 11:33 PM |
| 4 | Dude im vetting didn't social distance for NYE. Do I cancel Date?Went to a friend's house, said there would be "maybe 5 or 6 people but most work from home" because I mentioned that we should distance ourselves for 14 days after he went, but it came out more jokingly than serious sigh so I don't think he realized that I was actually serious. This pandemic is testing so much. Ive isolated the entire time and thought he was too, but then this and he messaged me while ice fishing with buddies, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 11:14 PM |
| 1 | New guy at work found out I worked with his ex. He wanted to call for advice on why she wouldn't go back to him when hes now sober.. Found out another friend of mine ended up his therapist, too. Told him to pay for my time. He won't look me in the eye at work now.I happened to be awake since I'm a bit of a night owl occasionally, but he had asked to call and I said no. Thats also an annoying thing, he wanted to call when I barely know him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 04:56 PM |
| 3 | My ex telling me I "have" to talk to him. I only reply if its about our son.This is the best advice I could recieve. Thank you so much ❤ im taking these words 100% to heart and using this advice. I want to be nothing like the person I was when with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 04:57 PM |
| 14 | New guy at work found out I worked with his ex. He wanted to call for advice on why she wouldn't go back to him when hes now sober.. Found out another friend of mine ended up his therapist, too. Told him to pay for my time. He won't look me in the eye at work now.LMAOOO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 04:53 PM |
| 19 | New guy at work found out I worked with his ex. He wanted to call for advice on why she wouldn't go back to him when hes now sober.. Found out another friend of mine ended up his therapist, too. Told him to pay for my time. He won't look me in the eye at work now.Best pro tip. They confuse our professionalism and kindness at work for interest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 04:45 PM |
| 24 | New guy at work found out I worked with his ex. He wanted to call for advice on why she wouldn't go back to him when hes now sober.. Found out another friend of mine ended up his therapist, too. Told him to pay for my time. He won't look me in the eye at work now.Yes! THIS. Its FDS that taught me that my time is not free. So after realizing I became a therapist, and he was basically saving money from using women, I applied FDS and made him pay up. Knowing that he will never message me again for advice, is the best reward. Will be doing this from now on 🙌🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 04:26 PM |
| 24 | New guy at work found out I worked with his ex. He wanted to call for advice on why she wouldn't go back to him when hes now sober.. Found out another friend of mine ended up his therapist, too. Told him to pay for my time. He won't look me in the eye at work now.I told him no to the call. I barely know him!! And he goes "well I just have a few questions.." then just starts going in this rant about how it was all her fault. As someone who has an ex aa an alcoholic, I told him he needs therapy, to move on, she needs stability and that alanon teaches us to never date an addict again, even in recovery. I also made it clear that I was not the best person for him to get advice from, because I won't tell him what he wants to hear. Didn't want it to be an "oh w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 03:49 PM |
| 2 | My ex telling me I "have" to talk to him. I only reply if its about our son.I wanted to be able to have the whole paragraph of the most oddly arranged words. But what he said before that, was worse. Im so used to it that it doesn't even feel like abuse anymore, just the way he is. Im not sure if it would he considered one sided because he had asked why I don't reply to him and I told him it's because I didn't like him, then he responded by telling me I need to grow up and see that he's changed and that im only hurting our son. I called him delusional and pathological..H… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 05:45 AM |
| 55 | My ex telling me I "have" to talk to him. I only reply if its about our son.None at all. Thank God for that. My son is 8 months old, there's no way I would allow someone like him to care of anything. I won't even give him his cat. She's lovely and I take care of her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 08:40 PM |
| 4 | My ex telling me I "have" to talk to him. I only reply if its about our son.THIS IS WHAT HAPPENED WHEN I FIRST READ IT! I couldn't stop myself from laughing. Once I read "inconceivable" I couldn't take any other word seriously 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:33 PM |
| 13 | My ex telling me I "have" to talk to him. I only reply if its about our son.Thats what he does, hes not getting attention from me anymore and knows that I'm done and gone for good, so hes trying any tactic to get a response. I usually don't respond but for reason i entertained it with a response to him telling me I had to talk to him. Before, this probably would have hurt but now I just see a pathetic little man who really needs therapy. I'm away from him, im safe and so is my son and we will continue to stay that way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:31 PM |
| 15 | My ex telling me I "have" to talk to him. I only reply if its about our son.He clearly needed it but hes using it wrong 😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:28 PM |
| 11 | My ex telling me I "have" to talk to him. I only reply if its about our son.He doesn't even know what half of those words mean 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:28 PM |
| 4 | My ex telling me I "have" to talk to him. I only reply if its about our son.Omg YES 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:27 PM |
| 35 | My ex telling me I "have" to talk to him. I only reply if its about our son.It wasn't clear to me either 😂 a week ago he sent a message asking if we could "try to be a family again" 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:27 PM |
| 32 | My ex telling me I "have" to talk to him. I only reply if its about our son.Oh thank GOD. I want to block him so badly and cut him out of our lives, but I feel like I can't do that. He talks like he's a great father, but has no job, given me no child support and hasn't seen his son in over a month when we live 15 minutes from eachother. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:26 PM |
| 34 | My ex telling me I "have" to talk to him. I only reply if its about our son.I was laughing so hard. Hes never really been the intelligent type, but hearing him try was so pathetic. Im not sure what his angle was but it didn't work lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:24 PM |
| 55 | My ex telling me I "have" to talk to him. I only reply if its about our son.Hes an alcoholic and it clearly damaged his brain | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:23 PM |
| 4 | That time you ignored your intuition screaming at youDamn. This hit me so damn hard in the face, I felt it. I'm always self improving. always the problem adapting to everyone else so much that when changing myself almost entirely didnt change the situation, my broken mind thought might as well die if I cant change enough to change others thankfully, I survived and found FDS and got away. Too bad he's the father of my child, and wants to be involved so I cant get too far away.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 08:02 AM |
| 11 | I am speechlessOh hun, that mindfuck is something we have all dealt with, and your situation is one of the worst but Im so glad to know you're on FDS and are atleast willing to talk about it. I hope it gives you some closure, atleast. You were abused and brainwashed and that isn't your fault at all, I hope you believe that to be true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 06:56 AM |
| 15 | I am speechlessHe used your body and had no care about the fact that you could get pregnant by him just because he didn't want to wear a condom...there should be a law against this type of behavior.. how can men rationalize something as vile as this?? I am so baffled by the complete lack of empathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 06:14 AM |
| 22 | Porn causes mental illness and paraphilia and everyday there is a post like this one asking if it’s ok to be bothered by this apologetically. How to keep shifting the tide?u/daddygang388 please, please save yourself from this man and do not marry him. Do not have children with him, of all things. This is such harmful and inappropriate behavior, do not try to tell yourself this is normal. Run and run fast. This is why I wish there was a way for women to warn other women of men like this, to prevent anyone from having a relationship with someone like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 06:08 AM |
| 29 | I am speechlessOh.mygod. wtf. WTF. This is so fucked up, traumatic and im speechless and so sorry you had to go through that. Ugh and i hate the when men use "the past" phrase, like we arnt allowed to be upset by the literal trauma they caused us. For my ex, the past could be as far back as a few days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 06:00 AM |
| 3 | I feel ashamed for my past, and I don't know how to healThe memories never go away, but try to change the way you look at them. Think back and see it as a lesson learned and knowing what you will never put up with again, and that you now know the signs to look out for to not be put in those situations again. As someone who is in the same situation, and even consented to what I thought was "normal" when it was really not, I have those same memories that haunt me but I try my best to just move forward and not let them cloud my mind. They still make me … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 05:49 AM |
| 119 | Dad’s an HVM ❤️Amazing Dad. I always liked when a parent spoke up. Too bad it was my ex's Dad, and my ex never listened to a single thing he said. I should have realized, that in itself, was a red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 05:29 AM |
| 7 | FDS has led me to fully embracing how much I care about height and it feels sooo good! Boy bye 👏Oddly, 5'11 is the perfect height for me. For some reason I enjoying hugging around the neck, and 5'11 is the most comfortable height for me to do that with. Im not sure why that's a thing for me, but any taller and im on my tip toes, any shorter and it just feels strange. I always thought I was weird for that to be a preference but it is what it is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 04:31 AM |
| 11 | No surprise that most of the men say that she should appreciate his sexual assault and most of the women disregard it as him just having a high sex drive...This was my ex!! Oh dear, its crazy seeing it from this point of view and feel like it was wrote by me. Even when I was pregnant and exhausted, everyday, almost every hour, he would say something sexual, and then get mad at ME for not responding to it. I'd get so upset, and even start crying and he would feel bad..but then an HOUR LATER LIKE HE HAD AMNESIA, HE WOULD DO IT AGAIN. I absolutely felt like an object and justified it as he was just that attracted to me but after it was.so constant, I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 11:43 PM |
| 13 | A LVM grades her stressed wife.Oh. My God. And she's SMILING!?! WHAT. Hold up. Excuse me..say what?! I like .. need to sit down for this. I've let alot of really shady things be excused but THIS...!? This poor woman needs a hug and FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 06:06 PM |
| 2 | Can men please stop viewing women as sex objects?:( we learned the hard way. They are so manipulative.. "if you love me you'll atleast try it!" Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 05:22 AM |
| 2 | Can men please stop viewing women as sex objects?hugs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 05:21 AM |
| 2 | Using the Principles of War in DatingCurrently vetting someone. This is GOLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 05:51 AM |
| 3 | So happy I found this groupSame. This sub has been a life changer for me. I get the notifications and it seems like everytime I need a reminder, the perfect notification is there for me. I hop on here before and after a conversation with a guy, or when I'm feeling low or really just need to keep the confidence up. I'm on here everyday and LOVING every aspect of it. No longer being a Pickme and being around like minded people is so refreshing and so mentally cleansing. I havent been the same person since FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 05:46 AM |
| 6 | Can men please stop viewing women as sex objects?The fact that there is so much of money to be made for sexualizing women, to where women KNOW that if they make an Onlyfans, and have good physical qualities, that will make them an extra income to help their lives...is just sad. I was there! I was degraded by men because I decided to try out being an "internet model" and when I was uncomfortable with all of the remarks after doing it twice, my ex kept INSISTING we keep doing it, not caring that it made me so uncomfortable. There is money to be … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 05:43 AM |
| 17 | If you could go back and give your 23-year old self dating advice, what would it be ?I would straight up tell my 23 year old self "the ring on your finger, you picked out, hes not going to help plan the wedding because he never wanted the wedding and there will never be a wedding. Hes using you to make himself feel better about himself and he will never put any effort into anything. RUN GIRL RUN." 6 years and a baby later, I learned my lesson the hard way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 03:00 PM |
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