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| 1 | Netflix has been producing lots of pick-me and lvm propaganda latelyThe Ultimatum disgusted me, I couldn't even finish it. The way things were portrayed made all of the women seem so desperate. So much pick-me behavior, so much trash. This kind of content is scraped together just to get subscribers and views. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/22 03:08 AM |
| 5 | is planning the same weekend trip with a different girl one year later an issue?You're right to feel that way, it shows he's lazy and you're upset because he didn't put in the effort to plan something unique. One of my exes was the same way, so many of the things we did were the same things he did with his ex (who he will never ever get over and was still obsessed with). In the beginning he was more open to doing activities I suggested but after a couple of months he never wanted to do anything that wasn't his idea, and I only found out about the unoriginality of it later b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 09:36 PM |
| 7 | Pickmes in the media and the perpetuation of misogynyYeah, the way she carried on made it sound like a lot of projection on her end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 05:57 AM |
| 46 | Pickmes in the media and the perpetuation of misogynyThat's true, it's a really twisted coping mechanism. It still makes me sad to see women tearing each other down like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 05:45 AM |
| 12 | Straight from the horse's mouthThe coffee/walking date trend is so weird to me. I get coffee with my friends. I go on walks with my friends. It's an activity that - you guessed it - is usually associated with friends. These things on their own possess zero romance, I don't want to feel like I'm going on an interview or relive my school trip days. I've made a couple of exceptions to this but they were specific and still romantic in some capacity: - I'm very active and walk/run a LOT. If a guy can't keep up with me and manage a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 05:37 AM |
| 12 | 🤡I'm not trying to generalize here, but don't most men view women that pursue them as weird and needy? The ones that act like this guy are just looking for something convenient and low effort, not anything that's actually substantial. As long as he gets consistent sex and emotional support it likely doesn't matter who the woman is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 05:26 AM |
| 41 | 🤡The whole argument of why they won't just pay a professional is really fascinating but also makes me lose even more faith in the dating scene as a whole, I've encountered way too many men that think they're good at masking their true intent. My bullshit detector is above average because I've been through it all and know what to look for now. It's all about control and having the upper hand, getting the girl hooked emotionally and manipulating her is what gets that type of man off. A professional… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 05:22 AM |
| 16 | 🤡Love it. No sandwich for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 05:12 AM |
| 45 | 🤡I always think of a video I saw a while ago on Reddit, this guy was getting his ass dragged by his own 10 year old sister because he chose to spend $10k on some computers and gaming equipment but wouldn't spend more than $500 on a ring for his fiancee. All his sister kept saying was 'You love your stuff more than you love her, oh my god'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 05:10 AM |
| 113 | 🤡Don't threaten me with a good time... 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 05:07 AM |
| 12 | What does it mean if a guy has no friends?People drift away, especially as you get older, but to have NO friends? Yeah, no. Just a couple of anecdotal examples from my personal experience but: Ex-boyfriend currently has no friends because he got mad at them all for staying in touch with me and keeping me in the group, so he completely stopped responding to everyone except maybe one or two of the guys. They don't even meet up anymore. We've been broken up for two years and he's still trying to find out who I'm with and what I'm doing wit… | /r/askFDS | 22/02/22 05:00 AM |
| 26 | “You don’t need to wear makeup around my boyfriend lol”I used to have friends like this. They would say similar things, or tell me to my face 'where are you going with all that eyeliner?' It wasn't anything crazy, I just really like makeup and playing up my eyes. It's my little morning routine to start the day, kind of like painting.. but on my face. Point being, people like this are wildly insecure and can't handle that you're presenting yourself in a way that they perceive as better, even if you don't particularly feel that way. Insecure people wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 06:31 AM |
| 26 | Men are so used to us accommodating them that when we don’t, they think we are being dramatic.My ex actively tried to convince me not to go back to school for another degree because it would 'take up too much time'. This was after I finished my first degree and purposely scheduled my classes so that we could spend weeknights together, even though evening classes would've been a lot easier for me since I was also working full time. This same man kept saying he wanted to move to another city and that I was being silly because the one he wanted to go to wasn't, in his opinion, that far away… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 02:31 PM |
| 17 | "Women aren't funny"I'll never forget this for as long as I live - women think men who make them laugh are funny. Men think women that laugh at their jokes are funny and have a sense of humor. The fact of the matter is that a lot of men just aren't funny, and can't handle it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 04:32 AM |
| 65 | if you're in doubt remember all those lies: "men's desirability peaks at age 50. But women's desirability starts high at age 18 and falls throughout their lifespan."What I find so funny about the myth of 'experience' is that once you get to be the same age as these predators it becomes extremely clear how much this argument is total bullshit. In high school I was often hit on and catcalled by men in their 20s and 30s, mid 30s was the most common age range. A few of my friends had much older boyfriends, but the story was always 'I'm 18 and age doesn't matter! He's so smart and experienced!' I never bought into it because it seemed weird, but I also didn't se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 05:17 PM |
| 78 | if you're in doubt remember all those lies: "men's desirability peaks at age 50. But women's desirability starts high at age 18 and falls throughout their lifespan."It's like the whole situation with Leo never dating women older than 25. Gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 05:12 PM |
| 29 | If he’s not escalating the romantic relationship, MOVE ON! 💕This isn't harsh advice, it's GOOD advice. I dated two men regularly for six months each, both around the same time. They were fun, supportive, and always made an effort and often traveled to me rather than making me travel out of my way. Both were clearly interested and were not pushy. And yet... no talk of a relationship, so I told them both it seemed like we wanted different things. I suggested remaining friends (I know, I know) and both of them agreed and said they'd be happy to stay in touc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 05:40 AM |
| 77 | The absolute AUDACITY of men who want to have their cake and eat it too.I'm usually the same way, so tired of hearing them mansplain as if I don't know anything. According to my mom she spoke to a woman on the phone that was supposed to help us once we came to the store, but that woman then had that scrote take over for her. It was a really weird experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 05:16 AM |
| 110 | This is what we mean by all men. When they’re left alone, they allow misogyny to thrive.It's no coincidence that we all have similar stories about things like this regardless of location and background. Even if it's not literally all men, this is the case with SO MANY men that we have no idea which ones AREN'T like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 05:12 AM |
| 51 | This is what we mean by all men. When they’re left alone, they allow misogyny to thrive.It sounded like one realized she was there and said it directly to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 05:11 AM |
| 126 | This is what we mean by all men. When they’re left alone, they allow misogyny to thrive.Same here. The comments I've heard and received literally make me want to vomit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 05:08 AM |
| 215 | This is what we mean by all men. When they’re left alone, they allow misogyny to thrive.Unfortunately many schools wash their hands clean of any responsibility in this type of situation by providing 'awareness training' about things like sexual assault and other things related to Title IX. Under the guise of educating students about sexual harassment and assault, they become legally free of any repercussions by claiming they attempted to prevent an incident. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 05:06 AM |
| 142 | This is what we mean by all men. When they’re left alone, they allow misogyny to thrive.Absolutely! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 05:02 AM |
| 400 | This is what we mean by all men. When they’re left alone, they allow misogyny to thrive.Unfortunately I know this situation all too well, being the only woman in many of my STEM classes. It only takes one other person agreeing to make an opinion feel valid, regardless of how ridiculous that opinion is, and when it comes to a room full of emotionally stunted men it almost becomes like an echo chamber. Things will never change as long as behavior like this is allowed to continue. So many men are afraid of speaking against misogyny like this but honestly? Men listen to other men much … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 05:01 AM |
| 22 | (I work in retail) How do I build rapport with male customers without looking like I’m flirting?Unfortunately men will often misconstrue friendliness as interest no matter what you look like, say or do. It sounds like you're handling the situation gracefully, the best option is to remain professional and friendly without being TOO friendly (no discussions about personal life, just stick to the product). | /r/askFDS | 29/06/21 05:10 PM |
| 23 | The guy is 55!!! 🤢Ought to, absolutely. But LVMs are too lazy to actually put the effort into critical thinking. This guy is all me, me, me. And also, as you said, stupid. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 05:04 PM |
| 47 | The guy is 55!!! 🤢Likely because LVMs are only loyal BECAUSE of their lack of options, and assume it's the same for women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 05:01 PM |
| 52 | The guy is 55!!! 🤢Part of it could be related to how young he was when he and his wife got together. He probably hasn't dated around much otherwise and thinks it's easy to find a partner because it was so easy with his wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 02:01 PM |
| 3 | Rant about a man who wasted my time tonightThe point was to get a woman's attention and feel good about himself, they don't care about wasting our time or energy. | /r/askFDS | 29/06/21 02:00 PM |
| 27 | The guy is 55!!! 🤢That line about feeling smothered is probably what bothers me the most about this whole thing. He's setting her up to lose with his obnoxiously unrealistic expectations. Whether she tries to prove she loves him or backs off because he's clearly an asshole, he's going to complain about not being happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 01:56 PM |
| 49 | The guy is 55!!! 🤢Unfortunately yes. And who knows if his coworker feels the same way? LVMs project their feelings onto women and make a situation out to be more than it actually is, then get angry or confused if their feelings aren't actually reciprocated. It's never about women being seen as actual people, just objects to throw their feelings at. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 01:52 PM |
| 63 | The guy is 55!!! 🤢Sounds like it's a one-sided affair to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 01:50 PM |
| 63 | The guy is 55!!! 🤢It's always amused me to hear people say this as if there's no such thing as emotional cheating. Catching feelings or being attracted to another person will happen and is totally natural, but it's up to the individual not to pursue those feelings if they're already in a relationship. Bonding with someone other than your partner with the mindset of being interested in them sexually and/or romantically, even if nothing physically happens, IS STILL CHEATING. It is a conscious decision to allow thos… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 01:49 PM |
| 194 | The guy is 55!!! 🤢Narcissists tend to lack empathy and often act on impulse, I bet this guy is gonna leave his wife and pursue the other woman just to find out she doesn't feel that way about him. I wish we could get her side of the story because I really wonder if she's just placating him since they have to work and travel together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 01:44 PM |
| 44 | The guy is 55!!! 🤢Truly. His wife clearly knows what's up and is trying to do what she can to save the relationship. This guy doesn't deserve her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 01:40 PM |
| 70 | The guy is 55!!! 🤢They probably think of him as a creepy old man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 01:39 PM |
| 66 | The guy is 55!!! 🤢I think about that post often, it was so satisfying to see that whole thing unfold in his wife's favor. It seems that whenever men like that guy suggest an open relationship they don't think their gf/wife will find anyone else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 01:39 PM |
| 90 | The guy is 55!!! 🤢What I find funny is that this guy is probably imagining that he'll be dating much younger women, not women his age. He's in for a harsh reality check. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 01:36 PM |
| 155 | The guy is 55!!! 🤢His wife will be devastated, but if he does flush his life down the toilet he'll be saving her from himself in the long run. Say this situation with his coworker doesn't work out. Who's to say it wouldn't happen again with another woman? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 01:34 PM |
| 90 | The guy is 55!!! 🤢He's probably jacked off to the thought of her so much that his sense of reality is skewed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 01:32 PM |
| 7 | Ladies NEVER ignore your instincts or dealbreakers. Here’s yet another scrote having broken a woman’s heart after stringing her along for a year.Thank you for that, it helps to hear. ❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 01:58 AM |
| 67 | Ladies NEVER ignore your instincts or dealbreakers. Here’s yet another scrote having broken a woman’s heart after stringing her along for a year.This is very similar to what happened to me with an LVM ex. The main difference is that I was very up front about what I wanted in a relationship and in life, and we were exclusive and officially in a relationship after a month of dating. Also, not sure about the guy in this post, but my ex was a narcissist and master future faker. He was literally obsessed with me for the first six months. It's painful to look back and realize how much I allowed and tolerated. It's also really hard not to blame… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 03:34 PM |
| 47 | And they wonder why we don’t even want to acknowledge them in public 🤦🏼♀️I've taken to making eye contact and immediately frowning in disgust, because the majority of men that I've noticed are staring me down as I'm walking from halfway down the block tend to be old and/or gross. The worst is when they're with their girlfriend and blatantly checking me out when she's not looking. Like dude, that's creepy and really messed up, don't fucking do that. I used to feel so uncomfortable making any sort of eye contact because of the implication of interest, but I then realiz… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 02:53 AM |
| 22 | The author said both positions were “totally reasonable.”I don't understand why he can't just buy her the Precheck pass, men like this guy waste so much energy on doing less than the bare minimum. LVMs will create problems and then blame everyone else for it. It's something like $100 for a year and would be exponentially easier if he just put in this minor amount of effort instead of making it into a whole thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 04:50 AM |
| 10 | Friend says I’m being a ‘psycho’ but I don’t agree. This is a huge red flag right?This seems like a shit test to me. Even if he really was having some expenses come up, and let's hypothetically say his friend picked up the tab, it's still weird that he went out drinking with only her while having a complicated history with this person. I'm a bit surprised he told you all of this, which is what makes me think he's testing the waters to see how much shit he can get away with. My ex did this a lot but I didn't realize what was going on at the time because I naively thought we bo… | /r/askFDS | 25/06/21 02:53 AM |
| 41 | "Only after a person has fulfilled the basic reproductive responsibilities, such as having two children, should he or she have the right to use contraceptive products." - China's policy for declining childbearing age womenSo we're literally living the Handmaid's Tale now. Great. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 02:16 AM |
| 2 | Why is someone like you single???God, what a creep. Your status isn't even slightly relevant to buying and flipping houses and yet he felt totally comfortable with making that kind of statement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 02:50 PM |
| 12 | HV man with communication issues?Seconding this. I went through the same thing with my ex, he made me feel like a goddess for the first few months and eventually I found myself wondering what happened and why things were so different from the beginning. He turned out to be a massive narcissist, not the HVM he had me convinced he was. | /r/askFDS | 21/06/21 02:22 PM |
| 3 | Just started talking to this guy on Hinge (28M) and he's already tryna make me (22F) his motherGrooooosssssss. Future faking is such a turnoff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 05:31 PM |
| 4 | At first it looks like a good answer, but then you realize the first part is about him, the second part is about you helping HIM achieve HIS goals (!), and the third part is a hastily assembled mishmash of Good Qualities he put in at the last minuteFunny enough I've been considering giving Tinder a try solely because every other app sucks at this point. As anecdotal and unlike as it is, I know a few people that actually met their future spouse on it. All these guys seem to be looking for is a hookup anyway so why not try the one that's open about it? 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 05:14 PM |
| 605 | Women are getting it now. Slowly but surely.The saddest part of this is that it's clear she doesn't trust her partner to take care of the baby, otherwise she'd go to the store herself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 02:08 AM |
| 51 | At first it looks like a good answer, but then you realize the first part is about him, the second part is about you helping HIM achieve HIS goals (!), and the third part is a hastily assembled mishmash of Good Qualities he put in at the last minuteBelieve it or not, my ex was still in love with his ex and she was exactly like that. Mean, overly serious, and cheated on him while taking his money. But he's still loads worse than her. 🤣 Some LVMs associate chaos with love because people like that are more of a challenge. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 01:02 AM |
| 58 | At first it looks like a good answer, but then you realize the first part is about him, the second part is about you helping HIM achieve HIS goals (!), and the third part is a hastily assembled mishmash of Good Qualities he put in at the last minuteHinge has been especially overrun with these lazy mofos. About 50% of the time I actually accept a match, the conversation comes to an abrupt halt because the guy doesn't understand that I'm not there to play 21 questions. So many guys on OLD are too self-absorbed to realize that the discussion isn't (and shouldn't be) solely about them. It's not my job to to carry the conversation, and as soon as that expectation becomes apparent I unmatch them. It's been really frustrating, why is it so hard t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 12:57 AM |
| 10 | More young men are living at home, not participating in the workforce, and playing more video games. What a surprise! /sSeriously! I could never. 😂 Maaaaybe back in college, but these men were both in their mid thirties. I've realized that men are really good at hiding things or conveniently omitting something if they think it's going to get them sex. I hadn't slept with either one, and they never made an issue of it, but I realize now that they were just playing the long game and their HVM masks slipped. Even after 4 months of vetting, there were some unpleasant surprises. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 10:28 PM |
| 16 | More young men are living at home, not participating in the workforce, and playing more video games. What a surprise! /sI've been noticing this a lot and the amount of single men living at home compared to a few years ago has grown exponentially. The difference really is staggering. The last two men I dated and recently cut things off with were living at home, but they both had great jobs that paid very well. In a way that made it even worse because they didn't have an excuse like unemployment, mental illness, etc. They were just lazy and didn't want to grow up. Had I known about their living arrangements in the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 10:07 PM |
| 7 | “Build with him”What I always find funny about this mindset is that these dudes are totally convinced they'd do better, as if they're god's gift. And what's even 'better'? A better looking woman? Grass is greener syndrome is so pervasive and it's really sad. Even literal supermodels get cheated on and put down by their partner. It's never actually about anything deficient in the woman they're with, it's really just that so many men are convinced they'd be able to get someone even better than their current partn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 06:38 AM |
| 133 | When friends and relatives start listing things I need to change in order to be "successful" on a dating marketIt's crazy how so many people still have an antiquated mindset, as if women HAVE to alter themselves. Getting a man to pay attention to you is not 'success'. It's not the 50's where women depended on men to be the sole provider and tolerated everything out of self-preservation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 03:40 PM |
| 3 | Reminder: Don't get transitioned into being the *forever girlfriend* if your goal is to find a life partner. It's counterproductive to allow a man to 'try on the relationship' for multiple years with no commitment.Thank god he's out of the picture, that's just too much shit to handle 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 03:45 AM |
| 8 | Reminder: Don't get transitioned into being the *forever girlfriend* if your goal is to find a life partner. It's counterproductive to allow a man to 'try on the relationship' for multiple years with no commitment.Yeah, definitely. We all need to learn to be kinder to ourselves but god, it's such a process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 03:44 AM |
| 4 | Reminder: Don't get transitioned into being the *forever girlfriend* if your goal is to find a life partner. It's counterproductive to allow a man to 'try on the relationship' for multiple years with no commitment.True, but how is that not embarrassing? I'd be mortified if I was still living at home for no reason. Finding this detail out about them both was a big reason why I ended things, I hadn't known of it when I started dating them. They both ended up being very emotionally immature, unsurprisingly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 03:43 AM |
| 33 | Reminder: Don't get transitioned into being the *forever girlfriend* if your goal is to find a life partner. It's counterproductive to allow a man to 'try on the relationship' for multiple years with no commitment.This seems to be a super common thing now, I dated two guys who also made a lot but were living at home. Both were in their 30s. One kept saying he was only there so he could save up to buy a house, the other kept telling me he was looking at apartments and 'just couldn't find a good one'. Both absolutely bs stories, so I cut things off. What the hell is up with men living at home that aren't unemployed? I don't get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 09:35 PM |
| 21 | Reminder: Don't get transitioned into being the *forever girlfriend* if your goal is to find a life partner. It's counterproductive to allow a man to 'try on the relationship' for multiple years with no commitment.So they can get a steady and reliable supply of sex. That seems to pretty much be it for these LVM assholes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 09:32 PM |
| 43 | Reminder: Don't get transitioned into being the *forever girlfriend* if your goal is to find a life partner. It's counterproductive to allow a man to 'try on the relationship' for multiple years with no commitment.It's hard not to look back and get upset with ourselves about the crap we've all tolerated from LVMs, but I think it's important for all women going through this and finding FDS to remember that we're fed a bunch of crap from childhood onwards about how to be a good girlfriend and wife. Always be agreeable, don't complain, etc. In reality we're indoctrinated not to have standards. You're free to live your life fulfilled and without that dead weight sis, I'm so glad you got rid of him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 09:31 PM |
| 90 | Reminder: Don't get transitioned into being the *forever girlfriend* if your goal is to find a life partner. It's counterproductive to allow a man to 'try on the relationship' for multiple years with no commitment.Seriously. They call us gold diggers, but they're everything-diggers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 09:28 PM |
| 4 | A HVM won’t be in contact with his exEven before FDS, my intuition was screaming at me to leave my shitty ex the moment he told me he was back in touch with his ex-gf. There was absolutely no reason for them to be in contact, and I wouldn't be at all surprised if he only told me as one of his many shit tests. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 06:26 AM |
| 39 | Pickmeisha behavior does not pay off...a case studyI hadn't known this and now my ex's behavior makes even more sense. He used to ask me to go on expensive trips all the time which he said he'd fully pay for, and then cancel or 'forget' at the last minute. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 06:19 AM |
| 62 | Pickmeisha behavior does not pay off...a case studyA PS5 and 'some games' would likely amount to about $800. Or, y'know, as much as the ring she bought FOR HIM. And almost as much as the ring she really wanted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 06:17 AM |
| 9 | “Lorena” - the Lorena Bobbit documentary on PrimeOvercook chicken? Dick cut. Undercook chicken, believe it or not also dick cut. Sorry, I couldn't resist making a P&R reference. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 06:11 AM |
| 10 | I can’t unsee this now…That's so goddamn creepy. Men think it's a compliment to mistake us for being younger but in reality, this guy made a move under the assumption that you're a 20-something while he's 'in his forties'. Ugh, no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 06:07 AM |
| 11 | Is it common for men on OLD to act like this?This seems to be really common in my area. Whenever I've actually met up with these guys it's been underwhelming, their profile usually paints a very different picture than how they are in real life. But they figure as long as they manage to get you to meet up, who cares? I actually recently made a post about your second point. I've noticed a lot of dating apps are limiting the number of likes you can send in a day now and it's most likely because men would swipe right on everyone and filter the… | /r/askFDS | 15/06/21 02:41 AM |
| 6 | Older queens if you woke up as a 20 year old again, what would you have done differently?I would've stopped letting people take advantage. I was raised to be super agreeable and it's taken so much work to feel okay with asking for more than the bare minimum. I still feel like an asshole whenever I set a boundary. 😂 All those years of anguish wasted on being "too nice", ugh. Especially with men. Don't let them push you around or make you uncomfortable. Don't just grin and bear their shitty behavior. You deserve to be happy and comfortable in not only your own space, but also in publi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 01:52 AM |
| 5 | Billie Elish bf is 10 years older than her.At her age I would've never considered dating a man that much older. Even before FDS I just always found it creepy that a late 20's dude would want to date a literal teenager, regardless of whether it was legal. 10 years isn't as big of a difference later on in life, but the period between 18-30 involves massive changes in mindset, maturity, etc. I used to really respect her for her 'fuck you guys, I'll do what I want' attitude, and liked that she wore baggy stuff because she knew being in the s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 01:43 AM |
| 9 | FDS cured some major wedding FOMOGuys like this need to come to terms with the fact that maybe their bros are the ones they really want to marry. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 06:41 AM |
| 14 | Honest discussion; let’s talk about the solitude that comes with being a HVWI always keep telling myself that moving forward is better than moving backward. Being a pickme got me nothing but abuse from NVM's, and my last relationship with one was especially scarring. It's not easy to keep your standards high in a world that's constantly feeding women the message that we're not valid unless we're with a man. I try to remember what's most important to me and that I shouldn't be settling. We all deserve to be happy. I was seeing two men up until recently, both regularly fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 06:34 AM |
| 27 | Straight men are faking their deep voices 😂My ex was the same, and he would get mad at me for not understanding him. Not only not understanding what he was saying, but he claimed I didn't understand him as a person, just because he was using a speaking register outside of my hearing range. This wouldn't have been a problem at all if he spoke normally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 04:36 AM |
| 2 | After nearly 10 years of being a Reddit lurker (never even made an account) this subreddit has had such an impact on me that I finally had to sign up, so I can say to all of you...That initial realization of being a classic pickme is always jarring, but it also helps to know that we're all fed the same message from birth and basically indoctrinated to think that we have to be a certain way, otherwise we'll be alone forever. I was in the same exact position before finding FDS and feel so free now that I know what to look out for. It's also helped me to form a more solid idea of what a healthy relationship looks like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 02:05 AM |
| 86 | The CheckMen like that are emotionally homosexual but physically heterosexual. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 11:12 PM |
| 14 | Why I hate Hinge: An ObservationI imagine it didn't show whether or not those better looking men were psychopaths. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Why I hate Hinge: An ObservationLol well, that's what FDS is for. I've never been a ONS or FWB type of person but I feel so much for the women who think they need to be test driven like a car just to make a man want a relationship. We've all been fed this message our whole lives. The fact that anything exists that might make it easier to take advantage of that is disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Why I hate Hinge: An ObservationRight? It's so lazy. It feels weird to me not to send a message with the like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 11:01 PM |
| 14 | Guys on Bumble are the epitome of passive.Unironically, every guy I've dated off Bumble seems to be exactly like that. A narc ex that was controlling but wanted me to be 'challenging' for him, another guy didn't have a clue what he wanted, and the one I was dating recently was waiting for ME to initiate 'the talk'. He kept dropping hints and everything. The last two always expected me to make the plans and decide where we went, I often felt like a fucking tour guide even though we were all from the same city. My #1 rule in dating is to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 10:59 PM |
| 3 | Why I hate Hinge: An ObservationOh my god. 😂 Maybe they're trying to neg you? Either way, it's so dumb. Why is it so hard to just send a nice message, or even 'hi how are you?' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 10:56 PM |
| 2 | Why I hate Hinge: An ObservationThat's brilliant, love it 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 10:54 PM |
| 2 | Why I hate Hinge: An ObservationI usually do some form of the same just to call them out, but you're right. Why should I teach them not to tell on themselves so openly? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 10:54 PM |
| 218 | Guys on Bumble are the epitome of passive.I've noticed that Bumble attracts a very specific type of man most of the time. Doesn't matter if they're fuckboys, passive, alpha incel, what they all have in common is the expectation that women should be doing all the work. While yes, most men in general are like that, the men on this app are like that 1000%. Not only are they passive but also resentful if you expect them to do anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 05:50 AM |
| 19 | Why I hate Hinge: An ObservationTo be honest I didn't think things could get worse than 'idk hbu?' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 05:41 AM |
| 24 | Why I hate Hinge: An ObservationGod that's like a neg mixed with a ridiculous demand, all to put you on edge. Gross. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 04:58 AM |
| 20 | Why I hate Hinge: An ObservationSame! I was around 18 when OkCupid first came out, and hooooly shit the amount of ridiculous messages from creepy men. But... they were full messages lmao Probably because I was barely legal and they were desperate to get someone they thought was too naive to know how much they sucked. Now it's exactly as you said, a lazy 'hey' or them trying to make you jump through hoops. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 04:56 AM |
| 9 | Why I hate Hinge: An ObservationIt's true, I'm not a fan of Bumble for that reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 04:53 AM |
| 43 | Why I hate Hinge: An ObservationI don't like most of the guys that send me likes though... 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 04:51 AM |
| 9 | I see so many guys complain about how easy it is for girls to get matches on dating apps and how much it sucks that they get so fewSis, I didn't believe hobosexuals were a thing until I broke up with my NVM boyfriend and got back on the apps. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 04:50 AM |
| 15 | I see so many guys complain about how easy it is for girls to get matches on dating apps and how much it sucks that they get so fewWhen men say this and talk about how nice it would be if things were reversed, it's because they're imagining that they'd be getting matches with only attractive women. Even in the hypothetical, women that are unattractive in their opinion aren't even part of the equation. They aren't imagining the reality that women face in getting hit on by creepy guys, old guys, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 02:00 AM |
| 36 | Why being string along in a relationship is bad idea.Disgusting. They only see it as a waste of THEIR time if they break up, not their girlfriend's. Meanwhile she's getting her time wasted by some idiot that doesn't know what he wants and is too lazy to figure it out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 01:54 AM |
| 8 | This is for all the ladies going through a breakup with a LVM/NVMOh my god, is my ex your ex? This sounds exactly the same. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 01:50 AM |
| 13 | Just because I’m nice to you scrotes, doesn’t mean I want to sleep with you.I'm sad to admit that it was fairly recently that I realized the reason why this is such an issue for women. A lot of men cannot fathom being nice to a woman unrelated to them that they don't want to sleep with. I've seen this happen a lot with the guys I've dated short term. If I feel like it's not working romantically but still really like him as a person I always suggest staying in touch as friends, and they often answer with some variation of 'yeah you're a great person and I'd be really gla… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 01:46 AM |
| 4 | Going through relationship subs makes me nauseous now. Women have been brainwashed and gaslit by society to put up with so much disrespect and abuse"I'm okay with insults". This whole post makes me so sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 01:36 AM |
| 2 | The nerdboy syndrome is just as toxic as the f*ckboy🤣🤣🤣🤣 Oh. my. god. yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 10:59 PM |
| 48 | He Who Does Not Wash His Ass has nothing of value to say to you.I already disliked anything more than a 5 o'clock shadow on men, but knowing this has ramped up that dislike into absolute disgust. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 10:59 PM |
| 277 | The nerdboy syndrome is just as toxic as the f*ckboyThis explains a lot. My NVM ex had admitted to me not long after we became exclusive that he hadn't had much luck in dating, mainly because he didn't feel like he connected with most women. Fast forward 1.5 years later, once he got a better haircut and more confidence (thanks to my constant encouragement) he would openly stare at women while we were out together. It didn't matter that I did everything I could to keep him happy, look good for him, all that stuff. My dumbass cool girl pickme self … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 04:36 AM |
| 105 | Husband eats all of the food in the house leaving his wife and children hungry. Gets mad at wife for not giving him more food when she replaces what he ate that night.His wife was able to figure something out by ordering takeout. Why couldn't he simply do that? It's really baffling to me that he couldn't figure this shit out for himself and decided to eat the food he KNEW was meant for his own children, what a selfish insufferable prick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 02:51 AM |
| 162 | "They're like brother and sister"Just gonna say, Hailey and Justin were like 'brother and sister' while he was still with Selena. 😂 The sister-friend is just a pickme waiting in the shadows to pounce when an opportunity arises. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 11:05 PM |
| 14 | Can men ever truly be friends with you?I depends a lot on the guy and his circumstances. Single? Nope, definitely not. Every single one of my straight male friends (except one) that wasn't in a solid relationship when we met has tried this same bullshit. One friend had been my roommate for a bit but he kept 'admitting' that he jacked off to the idea of me and kept trying to touch my legs whenever we were sitting together to watch something. I told him to stop and he kept doing it, so I left. So. fucking. creepy. The only exception to… | /r/askFDS | 07/06/21 11:00 PM |
| 14 | I regret giving back my diamond engagement ring after the divorceOh god why. That's so sad ): | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 04:51 PM |
| 26 | I regret giving back my diamond engagement ring after the divorceHe's probably going to give that ring to the pickme.. poor woman has no idea what she's really dealing with if they're still together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 04:43 PM |
| 26 | Guy (41m) keeps suggesting cheap first dates. Does this matter?Low effort bullshit, he's not worth it if this is the impression he's willing to make. People are generally on their best behavior on the first few dates and this is apparently his best, so it'll only go downhill from here. | /r/askFDS | 03/06/21 04:51 AM |
| 9 | Guy stopped talking to me in the talking stage after I told him I'm seeing multiple menWhat a baby. 😂 Imagine if a woman asked for exclusivity after two or three dates? This idiot probably would've cheated while you were 'exclusive' just because he wanted to take you off the market and have you to himself. He knew that you'd find someone better if you kept exploring your options. | /r/askFDS | 02/06/21 11:59 PM |
| 7 | Men believe that women exist solely for their sexual pleasure. Vet carefully - if he doesn’t appreciate women’s art/music/literature it shows what he thinks of you.Question -- what if he's so obsessed with one female musician that he has a tattoo inspired by her? I can't help but find his level of obsession kinda weird lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 05:07 AM |
| 10 | I saw this going around on Facebook with women swooning, I need a break from it 🤢Even for a pickme, this is NOT swoon-worthy. What the actual fuck? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 07:36 PM |
| 8 | Embarrassing reflection from my clueless dating days.I'm sorry you had to experience that, but honestly, this is the best sentence I've read all week. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 04:48 AM |
| 10 | Boyfriend trying to be ‘alpha’Dump him, he's not worth the time or energy. | /r/askFDS | 21/05/21 09:31 PM |
| 5 | Smelly scrotesI think it's a combination of diet and daily habits beyond hygiene. My ex showered and did laundry often but somehow always smelled like what I can only describe as day old McDonald's fries. He only ate meat and bread, no veg, and drank a LOT. He also drank a ton of coffee every day. I don't know how I tolerated it for as long as I did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 03:06 AM |
| 40 | Yes you CAN be intimidatingly beautiful and that's why scrotes don't approach you (a blessing in disguise)!What's interesting is how they purposely try to date 'down' in terms of what they perceive as us having lesser achievement or personality, but still expect to date up regarding appearance. That's why LVMs go for women they think are dumb but hot. My ex literally made three times what I did, but he couldn't handle being expected to do more than the bare minimum emotionally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 01:29 AM |
| 19 | Yes you CAN be intimidatingly beautiful and that's why scrotes don't approach you (a blessing in disguise)!LOL. Translation - 'I'm sorry you make me feel inadequate and threaten my lifestyle choice of being lazy af'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 01:27 AM |
| 17 | Yes you CAN be intimidatingly beautiful and that's why scrotes don't approach you (a blessing in disguise)!One thing FDS helped me learn quickly is that LVMs want a woman that doesn't look too high maintenance because if she is, they have a higher bar to reach and know they won't be able to rise up to her level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 01:23 AM |
| 8 | No sex until exclusivityDon't do anything you're not comfortable with. Guys are really good at showing up in the beginning and acting like they're HVM but most of the time it's because they want sex and will do a LOT to achieve that goal. By going to his place he's going to assume you're okay to take that step, and if you are that's totally fine, but it doesn't sound like that's the case. I'd suggest changing the date to somewhere out in public. Not only is this safer for you but the way he reacts will tell you a lot o… | /r/askFDS | 13/05/21 02:08 PM |
| 1 | It's safe to assume that every man you date only wants sex from you —until proven otherwise.I realized through FDS and a lot of introspection that they pull this shit solely because they KNOW when we improve ourselves it raises the bar that they have to meet. If they can do something to keep us 'humble', they will. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 10:47 PM |
| 2 | It's safe to assume that every man you date only wants sex from you —until proven otherwise.Yeah, I definitely learned my lesson from that relationship. I hadn't experienced anything like that before and honestly, in the beginning it felt pretty amazing to be complimented and doted on like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 10:46 PM |
| 29 | It's safe to assume that every man you date only wants sex from you —until proven otherwise.The only problem with this theory is that when LVM/NVM narcs are involved it's a whole different game. My ex was an absolutely manipulative psychopathic narcissist, but at the time I didn't recognize that what he was doing was lovebombing. I felt like I was swept off my feet because he was very romantic and always planned dates in the beginning. He used to talk of the future, dote on me, give me gifts for no reason other than just because he wanted to... and then the mask slipped a few months la… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 02:40 PM |
| 1 | I'm not the babysitter, I'm not the parent. Let's share the stories where you were expected to be either of those in a relationship with a grown man.This is exactly what I should've done when my NVM ex kept using being a 'bad communicator' as an excuse for his shitty behavior and even shittier unrealistic expectations. Instead I gave him a second chance lmao. God am I glad I found FDS, never gonna let this crap slide again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 06:27 AM |
| 10 | He gets itThis is amazing and so incredibly true. 'Get a skincare routine' 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 05:32 AM |
| 2 | The women in the comments were adamant that for a husband this is appropriate but it’s too risky to do this for a boyfriend (yes!). Unsurprisingly, the men said this is how a relationship should be.In all honesty I'm still learning just how far this extends, but you're right. They desperately need someone to blame. Society has put the blame on women for so long that we're literally always the scapegoat, for everything. It's really depressing to think about how we just can't seem to get our heads above the water long enough to catch a breath. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 05:23 AM |
| 21 | Why is waiting 3ish months to have sex seen as such a deranged/controversial thing?What I find so interesting about the argument of sexual compatibility is that often it comes down to what the woman is willing to do outside of her comfort zone. Meanwhile, ACTUAL compatibility is more about high/low drive because everything else about what the other person likes can be learned. Just because you don't know what someone needs to get off now doesn't mean you never will. They don't think in those terms though, it's not about what women actually want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 03:39 PM |
| 12 | Why is waiting 3ish months to have sex seen as such a deranged/controversial thing?Because men are used to being allowed to use women for sex without the commitment, while claiming they 'might' commit to you if you're good/interesting/hot enough. They constantly compare us to test driving a car, as if we're also objects. It's all bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 03:34 PM |
| 31 | The women in the comments were adamant that for a husband this is appropriate but it’s too risky to do this for a boyfriend (yes!). Unsurprisingly, the men said this is how a relationship should be.Ouch. I feel that. I learned the hard way that it doesn't matter how beautiful, caring, giving, kind, etc you are for a man, if he's the type to cheat he's gonna cheat on you anyway. Hopefully she'll use this as a learning experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 03:30 PM |
| 9 | The women in the comments were adamant that for a husband this is appropriate but it’s too risky to do this for a boyfriend (yes!). Unsurprisingly, the men said this is how a relationship should be.I was thinking the same thing! The gesture is nice but she really shouldn't be doing something like that for a man until they're married. Imagine if he buys her an engagement ring at any point in the future now, if he actually does. It's HER money that would likely be going towards it. So sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 03:29 PM |
| 30 | The women in the comments were adamant that for a husband this is appropriate but it’s too risky to do this for a boyfriend (yes!). Unsurprisingly, the men said this is how a relationship should be.I've never understood this, honestly. They want a woman that isn't a golddigger but one that also won't hurt their precious feelings by paying for something in front of people? I had a NVM ex that always had an issue whenever I tried to contribute and would literally make a weird face and get all squirmy whenever I did something like pay for our groceries while we were at the store. Ironically, because he made so much more than I did I was desperately trying not to appear like I was just using h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Ghosted after not putting out on a dateYou should do a thorough check of the bathroom for hidden cameras, it's really weird that he'd make a request like that after only one date. Usually hidden cameras connect to wifi so I'd recommend downloading one of the apps that lets you see which devices are connected to it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 05:40 AM |
| 12 | Creepy men taking pictures of young women will never be okay.Disgusting. This is such a widespread problem, has been for a very long time and cell phones only made it 1000% worse because men can't resist being depraved assholes if they think they won't get caught. They get off on the fact that they shouldn't be doing it. The worst part is that men seem to think it's totally okay until someone speaks up about it, and usually the people speaking up are women because guys can't be bothered to correct each others' shitty behavior. Do they really think we don'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 02:18 PM |
| 6 | Words men use to insult us that are actually compliments? Let's get a list going!I get 'too nerdy' a lot from LVMs. I'm not going to apologize for liking to read and learning things for the sake of learning just because their insecurity is showing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 02:55 AM |
| 25 | LVM trying to keep you from raising your valueThis is exactly why I don't hide my intelligence or level of education anymore, LVMs are so triggered by not being better than women even when they know nothing of a particular area. I have a PhD in my field and while I was working towards that degree, my ex of a few years ago kept trying to sabotage me by scheduling things right when I had a big exam or had to work on an important assignment. Studying for final exams isn't important compared to having a bunch of his friends over, or a surprise … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 03:13 AM |
| 3 | Once again, from the horse’s mouthIt's so funny that people keep perpetuating this myth, including other women. It can't be a coincidence that we all think most men over 30 look like shit BECAUSE they don't use any products or take care of themselves, yet they wanna say women age faster and look old? Maybe part of it is also because the goalposts are always being moved further back so that even 25 year olds women look too 'old' as well? Society will never give women a break with this kind of shitty attitude. These people need to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 02:29 AM |
| 2 | I got called “high maintenance” at work 😁It's so funny to me that guys like this are insulted when a woman won't accept their half-assed attempt at doing something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 03:47 AM |
| 11 | Not enough communicationIf he's too busy to send more than a couple of texts per day, he's too busy to date. Just because he's a good guy so far doesn't mean anything. That's the bare minimum. I learned the hard way that a lot of men will push our boundaries to see how much he can get away with, and right now you're showing him that being distant this early on is okay. It's not, in my opinion, and it clearly isn't working for you. I'd say to let this one go and look for someone more interested in getting to know you be… | /r/askFDS | 04/05/21 12:20 AM |
| 6 | How to stand up to men?Glaring back and frowning as hard as I can has worked wonders for this. I used to think ignoring them was the best thing to do but it only makes THEM more comfortable, as if you're allowing them to stare. By looking at them directly, either with no expression or a frown, they will immediately look away. | /r/askFDS | 04/05/21 12:03 AM |
| 10 | Ready to date again with FDSAbsolutely. I struggle with anxiety and would often tell myself it was just my imagination, but nope, my ex turned out to be a manipulative jackass. My gut was right the whole time but we as women are taught to justify things as long as he's not physically beating us up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 11:48 PM |
| 10 | No, you shouldn't do whatever you want'Should' doesn't mean anything, men are still going to use these pics to get off. I used to think libfem values were how we SHOULD be progressing forward and always felt weird about having conservative tendencies about showing skin. Turns out my instinct was right, that shit isn't empowering when it benefits men. Somehow these idiots have us convinced that giving them even more of what they want to use and discard us for is 'empowerment'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 11:38 PM |
| 5 | No, you shouldn't do whatever you wantI'm really confused by what Billie Eilish is doing right now, to be honest. I was totally on board for her whole 'fuck you I wear baggy clothes so you can't judge my body' stance, because we don't exist as ornaments for the male gaze. Not long ago she released a video about body image, body shaming etc. and people claimed she was being too provocative because she was in a tank top in a pool. It seemed to go against her previous message but I was like okay, she can do whatever she wants, and it w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 11:34 PM |
| 7 | The women in my life keep telling me sex is not a big deal and that I should just do it because I'm 23 F and a virgin. But I don't want to allow men to have easy access to my body. How do I explain that casual sex is not empowering to me?You don't have to explain anything, 'I don't want to' should be enough. If they keep pushing, just keep saying that. Also maybe consider dumping what sounds like a really shitty friend group.. But also, casual sex isn't empowering at all and is SO rarely satisfactory for the women involved. A lot of women do it thinking it's 'normal' even though most of us aren't comfortable with it. Why bother having casual sex and one night stands if you don't even get off? Your friends might only be doing it … | /r/askFDS | 01/05/21 02:32 AM |
| 1 | Men and skincareOh my god 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 02:27 AM |
| 31 | Men and skincareI'm 36 and every time I hear a man talk about women hitting the 'wall', I look around at guys my age and wonder what happened, and why they all look so old in comparison. As soon as men hit 30 it all goes to hell, while women look amazing and fresh well into their 60s. The secret? FUCKING SPF, IT'S NOT HARD GUYS. PUT SOME ON. Maybe even wash your face with something other than the same bar soap y'all used to (maybe, not likely) wash your ass. The bar for men really is in hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 07:06 PM |
| 4 | How to tell if it’s genuine or if it’s lovebombing?It can be hard to tell the difference, but I think what's most important is that if he's doing something that makes you uncomfortable, you have every right to ask him to slow down. My ex lovebombed the hell out of me in the beginning of our relationship and I kept pushing aside my apprehension and telling myself he was just being forward because he really liked me. He turned out to be a controlling psychopath. Be careful, and don't be afraid to speak up! I regret that I hadn't back when I should… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 04:10 AM |
| 30 | No ones asked for your opinion and you have no room to talkCatch his ear with a hot iron 'by accident', and see how quick he changes his tune. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 12:45 AM |
| 24 | "A WOMAN turns 18 every minute". Suddenly they're calling us women not FeMaLeS when they want to justify paedophilia 🤢🤬Grooooossssssssssss. They wanna claim women are more manipulative than men, then do shit like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 12:44 AM |
| 33 | OLD Red Flag Words & Phrases' New to this or never tried this before or looking for new experiences: He's been there, done that and already used the t-shirt as a cum towel ' I'M DYING. All of these are so good! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 11:59 PM |
| 41 | No ones asked for your opinion and you have no room to talkIf he expects all of you to keep your hair up to his ridiculous standards, he should be subjected to the same. See how he likes having to sit with relaxer for 20 minutes while his head feels like it's literally on fire :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 11:56 PM |
| 77 | "A WOMAN turns 18 every minute". Suddenly they're calling us women not FeMaLeS when they want to justify paedophilia 🤢🤬The creeps that always tried to groom me ALWAYS called me a woman. It was most frequent when I was between 13-15. Don't be fooled ladies, they're only using this language to justify it to themselves because they KNOW it's messed up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 11:00 PM |
| 6 | He likes me but doesn't want anything serious???Block and delete! He's a loser that isn't worth the time. | /r/askFDS | 22/04/21 10:53 PM |
| 18 | Some nonsense, and people calling it out lmaoSo rotten that it's probably liquified. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 12:11 AM |
| 39 | Some nonsense, and people calling it out lmaoOh my god stop 😂 How has this become okay? How has the bar really fallen so low that men literally cannot bathe properly and need women to set them straight? This is so sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 12:10 AM |
| 14 | Some nonsense, and people calling it out lmaoDon't tell me the butt crumbs thing is real, I JUST got over The Nest.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 12:08 AM |
| 9 | Some nonsense, and people calling it out lmaoThis woman sounds so proud of herself for coming in to be someone's mommy. Girl, please come to FDS, you need us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 12:07 AM |
| 51 | Some nonsense, and people calling it out lmaoSHOWER NEST AND REGULAR NEST | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 12:07 AM |
| 22 | I literally cannot remember the last time a woman approached me in public for anything.To be honest all of these behaviors sound like that of a spoiled toddler. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 05:29 PM |
| 8 | I literally cannot remember the last time a woman approached me in public for anything.I'd literally climb the shelves just to get away from these weird assholes that think they're masters of conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 05:27 PM |
| 21 | I live in a van down by the river - is this a turn off?He asked a near-stranger to go up the mountain, to what I imagine is a secluded viewpoint type of spot, in his van. Which he lives in. And he seriously doesn't get how creepy this is? Just because HE knows he wouldn't rape that woman doesn't mean she knows that too, and that's why he's having trouble finding someone willing to go to a deserted area alone with him in his nasty nest van. What an idiot. Also, I wonder if that line about 'pixie wanderlust fairies' is a reference to when he was 20 ye… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 04:51 PM |
| 68 | I live in a van down by the river - is this a turn off?I'll never hear the word 'nest' in the same way again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 04:45 PM |
| 4 | Just found out my manipulative, abusive ex still follows me on Spotify and apparently there is no way to block him or make him unfollow me.I believe there's a way to make playlists private. Not 100% sure, but it's worth checking out rather than deleting everything and starting over. I'm kinda glad to see I'm not the only one who feels like this about playlists, sharing music, etc. My NVM ex and I curated a 'special' playlist together, which I now think had originally been one he shared with his ex because it had a lot of songs on it already when he added me to it. After we broke up it was gone from my account and I assumed he delet… | /r/askFDS | 18/04/21 06:56 AM |
| 5 | I see a lot of ladies here feel shame about the way they used to be. But please understand that most of us have been some level of pick me in the past. Some still have remnants of pick me mentality yet to overcome. Please forgive yourself. Keep growing and becoming.It's ingrained in us from childhood to be pickmes. Sometimes I have moments of wishing I hadn't been like that and hadn't let so many things slide. But we all have to try to remind ourselves that the odds are always stacked against strong women because it's not convenient for the patriarchy if we're not subservient. By finding ourselves we're going against the grain. Placating men and society in general is the path of least resistance, and most of us have been downtrodden to the point that we do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:35 AM |
| 32 | Stop normalizing pedophilic beauty standardsAaaand this is why I was followed home from school multiple times by random men while I was between 11-14. It's not exactly a new phenomenon, pedos have been around since the beginning of time, but I'm so glad we're all waking up to how problematic it is and doing something about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:29 AM |
| 2 | A lot of criticisms of women are just male projection when you really think about it.Lmao it's a situation that feels a lot like trying to get the good kernels out of a pomegranate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:27 AM |
| 1 | A lot of criticisms of women are just male projection when you really think about it.It's the only way I can describe it! The pornsick dead serial killer eyes alone send me running. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:26 AM |
| 1 | A lot of criticisms of women are just male projection when you really think about it.I know right? I've been seeing a guy for a while that takes good care of himself in general, it really makes such a difference. Sun damage is real and it definitely starts to show around 29-30 if you don't use sunscreen and/or have had a lot of bad sunburns. Whenever I see those posts on skincare addiction I try to upvote them and leave a positive comment, their friends are probably just jealous because they all look like crap in comparison. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:24 AM |
| 2 | Dating during a pandemicAh, I forgot about that sub! Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 01:25 AM |
| 51 | A lot of criticisms of women are just male projection when you really think about it.I mean... it's nearly ALL of them... 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 01:25 AM |
| 12 | I dumped my HVM.Yeah, the need to have a baby right away is really weird. He couldn't wait another couple of months until after you were married? Very odd. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 12:47 AM |
| 138 | A lot of criticisms of women are just male projection when you really think about it.The 'women age like milk' line especially makes me laugh, because women as a whole not only look great for their age in general but usually know how to look good without much effort. Brush your hair and use moisturizer with SPF, it's not that hard. Society doesn't expect men to put on makeup, use skincare, etc... the bar is on the floor and yet they still struggle to reach it. Meanwhile here I am, a 36 year old woman that looks much younger than she is, trying to find a man my age that doesn't l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 12:41 AM |
| 110 | They hate confident women because they can’t control us!It really is weird. They can't handle the idea that they might have to actually level themselves up to keep up with us, if we're knocked down and don't realize our own greatness as women the bar for men gets to stay buried in hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 11:37 PM |
| 4 | Online dating programs you to settleI know right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 04:04 AM |
| 22 | Online dating programs you to settleThere was a site similar to that back in the day called Don't Date Him or something along those lines. They were shut down because the NVMs on there sued for libel and won. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 03:20 AM |
| 8 | Online dating programs you to settleIt's kinda already like that.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 03:18 AM |
| 78 | Is anyone else dreading the end of WFH?My boss is the epitome of NVM. Back when I was still on his 'good side' he'd tell me messed up stuff as protips for working in our office.. like treating people like shit to get them to do what you want. Well, a few months later one of my coworkers told me he was constantly insulting her to the point that she often cried in her car after her shift ended. I told her to go to HR. Aaaand that was when all hell broke loose and he started doing everything in his power to push me out. Everything from … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 04:23 AM |
| 12 | So now women must help men who struggle with lust?! 🤮 This is why i unfollowed theses guys, they want to seem HV when they're not. The comment section is just full of nonsense some even used the "Testosterone excuse", "biology" (just to name a few)and all sorts of crap to back it up!This is also in line with the argument that men are visual creatures by nature. So does that mean women aren't? No, it just means that the patriarchy has made it acceptable for men to blatantly stare at and lust over women they don't know, objectify and dehumanize them, even if their gf/wife is standing right there. This happened to me with my ex while he was holding my goddamn hand, it really sucks to be made to feel like you're overreacting over something so outright disrespectful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 11:08 PM |
| 3 | Another day of men having the audacity. Yeah my gf is a PhD candidate, works full time and works part time, but calculus is so HaRd!!It's so funny to me that he's like 'engineering and calc are hard I don't have time ):', which yes, they are... but then he lists everything his girlfriend does (which is a LOT more) and adds a big goddamn 'but' at the end to negate all of the things she does IN ADDITION to cooking and cleaning. Just because she's working or attending classes from home doesn't mean she's free to clean up after him, he's a grownass adult. And as if that isn't audacious enough, he goes on to say her workload isn't… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 10:51 PM |
| 21 | Another Reason to Ditch Online DatingIn all honesty I feel like regardless of where we meet someone, it's near impossible to know their real intentions without a lot of vetting. Yes, OLD is a dumpster fire, but I've noticed a lot of men tell on themselves in their profiles and it makes it a bit easier to vet them. When meeting a guy in person it's harder because he can act normal, seem great, and then turn out to be a total psychopath. My ex was this type. Very narcissistic and manipulative, but he was SO good at lying and acting l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 09:29 PM |
| 4 | Don't threaten me with a good timeIt's the best when their threats are exactly what we've been asking for the whole time. Really shows how out of touch this type of man can be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 09:21 PM |
| 7 | From Instagram. Speaks for itself - so much garbage behaviour gets dismissed by men and pickmes as "shyness".Let me fix that for him: 'I'm shy but my dick isn't.' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 09:20 PM |
| 0 | Yay Utah!I'm genuinely amazed it's Utah and not somewhere more stereotypically progressive like CA or NY. Even so, good on them! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 09:19 PM |
| 47 | Found on an Instagram meme page... women are waking up!It's so sad how I as well as nearly every woman I know, and for that matter every woman they know, was catcalled and harassed the most when they were between the ages of 11-17. When I was in middle school I often changed out of my uniform into baggy gym clothes for the two block walk home, because wearing my uniform was like wearing a target on my back. I was ALWAYS catcalled while I had it on and was by myself anywhere outside of school, as early as 11 years old. I became agoraphobic because I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 09:17 PM |
| 6 | The "Jokesters"As soon as I see a profile that says 'fluent in sarcasm' I swipe left. This type ALWAYS gets twisted over getting the same treatment they give to everyone else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 01:04 AM |
| 3 | Is there a word for this?100% my ex. In the beginning we seemed to be on the same page and I was extremely forthcoming in what I wanted out of a relationship, i.e. kids, where I'd like to live, etc. He was on board for all of it, supposedly. Then later on we experienced a lot of problems because he was acting hot/cold, flaky, made big loving gestures only to pull away and act like I was crazy for being invested in the relationship (and he lovebombed me for three months in the beginning), and ultimately he couldn't handl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 12:59 AM |
| 15 | Never date men who use their shyness/ reserved personality as an excuse to be low effortMy ex was similar. Not 100%, but even while he was busy lovebombing me he was really terrible at communicating. When I literally told him 'we need to communicate, I can't read your mind' he said 'I'm just really bad at it' and never actually made an effort. Then as we were breaking up he told me I should've known things were heading in that direction... while he'd been breadcrumbing me and telling me it was just stress from work and family, and that we were fine. Very glad he's an ex. So much to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 12:48 AM |
| 11 | Never date men who use their shyness/ reserved personality as an excuse to be low effortWhat a self-absorbed jackass. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 12:46 AM |
| 116 | How to not catch feelings for men and protect your heartDo I want to be treated like crap until he finds something better (again)? Absolutely not. After my last relationship with an extremely narcissistic LVM who lovebombed and coerced me into a lot of physical things before I was ready, I'm not allowing a man to access my body or emotions according to anything other than MY timeline ever again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 12:26 AM |
| 38 | Don't Date Men Who Devalue Your InterestsMy ex was a major narcissist and went from being super interested in my hobbies and accomplishments to not even paying attention to them. Whenever I wanted us to do something together it had to be on his terms. I'm so glad we're all waking up to the fact that this crap isn't okay. All of us ladies deserve better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 05:36 AM |
| 13 | Men assume all bisexual women are open to being Pick Mes who help them exploit other womenI remember when I told my first boyfriend, his reaction was 'ooh, threesome!'. We weren't exactly kids.. I was 22 and he was 26. Even at that age I expected to be treated with more respect than that, and this was pre-FDS when I was a total pickme. But scrotes are forever and I put up with his shit for another 3 months before finally saying I couldn't take his bs anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 02:03 AM |
| 2 | Men assume all bisexual women are open to being Pick Mes who help them exploit other womenI'm bi. Only the first one actually applies to me, the other two are an absolute hell no. Most bisexual women won't openly tell people their orientation for this exact reason, so many men seem to automatically assume we're into this kind of thing. Maybe some are, and that's fine, but to apply it as a blanket statement? Nope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 02:01 AM |
| 29 | How to find out if a man watches porn: it’s easier than you thinkThe dead eyes are usually a pretty good indicator if he doesn't want to admit to watching porn lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 01:59 AM |
| 1 | I was reading though a thread and found a funny story about a TWO YEAR OLD child. Someone made a joke that said “[her father] is going to regret how fast she can undress when she is a teenager.” When someone pointed out how gross it is someone else got mad.'Any comedy in the last decade'.. Chris D'Elia and Louis C.K. come to mind.. but they're totally wholesome and pure so it's fine. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 05:07 AM |
| 8 | “fDS wOmEn ArE gOiNg To EnD uP SiNgLe AnD aLoNe” — Sounds pretty good to me if men like this are the other option!Thousands of years of ingrained patriarchy have given men the opportunity to prioritize only themselves and their own interests while women have been commodified and objectified. It's going to take a very, very long time to undo all the work they put in to reduce us women to ornaments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 04:50 AM |
| 18 | “fDS wOmEn ArE gOiNg To EnD uP SiNgLe AnD aLoNe” — Sounds pretty good to me if men like this are the other option!Also because the first question always seems to be 'what were you wearing tho??' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 04:47 AM |
| 23 | “fDS wOmEn ArE gOiNg To EnD uP SiNgLe AnD aLoNe” — Sounds pretty good to me if men like this are the other option!I'm so sorry to hear how he reacted, he's the one that's disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 04:47 AM |
| 9 | “fDS wOmEn ArE gOiNg To EnD uP SiNgLe AnD aLoNe” — Sounds pretty good to me if men like this are the other option!Sis my LVM roommate does this exact shit without any of the relationship bs added in, and yet I still feel like my soul leaves my body every time he 'vacuums'. He doesn't even wash his hands, I honestly don't expect him to know how to clean, but god I'm not here to give lessons either. Google exists for a reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 04:44 AM |
| 29 | “fDS wOmEn ArE gOiNg To EnD uP SiNgLe AnD aLoNe” — Sounds pretty good to me if men like this are the other option!This is what confuses me the most about that kind of mindset. Someone goes through a traumatic experience they had no control over and some of these losers think it's totally okay to dip just because things aren't easy and fun all the time? AND it's totally normalized that men aren't expected to do emotional labor of any kind but women are, and would be seen as a monster if they left their boyfriend/husband had PTSD? The fuck?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 04:43 AM |
| 9 | This is why love-bombing and boundary pushing are red flags. They always escalate into poor behavior.I imagine there are a million reasons depending on the man, but in my ex's case I think it was solely about control and looking like the 'good guy'. He's a virtue signaling narcissist, the type that posts a black square with #blm for the likes without knowing or caring why doing that was harmful to the movement. It didn't matter that he was contributing to flooding that hashtag and hindering people from getting real info they needed. He clapped at 7 o'clock every night during the early days of t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 04:37 AM |
| 16 | This is why love-bombing and boundary pushing are red flags. They always escalate into poor behavior.I cut that friend off for good not too long ago, we have a lot of mutual friends so it felt awkward to block and delete before the pandemic. He was always either really encouraging, fully supported my decision to finish my degree, etc.. but at the same time he negged me a lot and it pissed me off. He's not from the US so I brushed it off as a cultural thing but god, I got so tired of it. He made that 'too easy' comment only a few months after the breakup without knowing much about my ex, when I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 04:28 AM |
| 11 | Well this is a new one. Even if he's actually disabled, why would it matter what the woman looks like if it's not for anything except for "therapeutic and health reasons!"Age and looks aren't a factor. *No uggos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 02:05 AM |
| 15 | Being a predator is relatable!It's not his fault, he was testerical. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 01:42 AM |
| 30 | Being a predator is relatable!I find it similar to the rape counter-argument of 'Would you expect a dog not to eat the steak you put right in front of him?' Meanwhile I remember the most amazing response video to this being a woman that showed her two dogs patiently waiting to be told it was okay to eat, in spite of literally having steak in front of them. At the end she was like 'Do you see this? My dogs have more self control than most men apparently'. Pure perfection. Same idea though, men wanna argue that it's a biologic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 01:34 AM |
| 5 | Being a predator is relatable!Even if a 15 year (or several minors, as it sounds like) is throwing herself at him, he should have the sense as a fully grown adult to be like 'hey, this is wrong, they're too young for me'. Most people don't have their shit together until their prefrontal cortex finally finishes forming around the age of 25. Guys wanna talk about bIoLoGy when it's in their favor, but biologically speaking? A girl that young isn't as capable of making the same level of decisions as someone ten years older, and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 01:30 AM |
| 78 | This is why love-bombing and boundary pushing are red flags. They always escalate into poor behavior.This is 100% what happened in my last relationship. I went from feeling like a goddess to feeling like a total fuck-up three months later and couldn't figure out why, until I was eventually discarded because he thought he could do better. Not long afterwards a 'friend' (turned out to be another LVM) told me it was my fault for making things too easy for my ex, which made him lose interest. I'll admit, I was absolutely a pickme, but I did have boundaries pre-FDS and whenever I enforced them was w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 01:12 AM |
| 5 | Would probably sprain my thumb from the force of that block and delete'You can just suck me off' like it's a privilege? Gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 02:05 AM |
| 6 | This has to be a joke...if it’s not this is reaching new levels of pick me status.I wouldn't be surprised if this was written by a man to be honest.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:39 AM |
| 6 | Woman asks men who are into exploiting their wives sexually for other men (wife sharing etc) why they enjoy it, gets this response. Imagine seeing your wife as a sex toy that’ll earn you brownie points with The Boys.Why do they ALWAYS use car metaphors? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:37 AM |
| 3 | Hannah Gadsby - Nanette (on Netflix)She is AMAZING. I especially loved Douglas, she has such a gift for subtle humor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 04:46 AM |
| 1 | I think it was a emotionally abusive relationshipThis sounds just like my ex too. You dodged a serious bullet! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 04:42 AM |
| 1 | "Men want to be judged on their intentions, not on their actions"This is exactly why I've been making an effort to listen to actions, not words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 04:39 AM |
| 3 | "YoU'rE sO JaDeD!!" and "nOt aLl MeN" are not valid retorts for women setting boundaries.You'd know what a prize he is if you'd just give him a chance! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 04:20 AM |
| 18 | Sexism with men in STEMThis is my biggest fear when I graduate and get a job. ): | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 04:09 AM |
| 67 | Sexism with men in STEMGirly girl STEM major here -- I like makeup, I do my nails regularly, all that fun stuff. I've been told more than once 'You're surprisingly attractive for a nerd'. It's not a compliment, guys! STOP SAYING IT. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 04:06 AM |
| 25 | Nice guy is confused why woman won’t text him backThis sounds like that Second Date Update show, I wouldn't be surprised if it is. Some of those calls are RIDICULOUS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 03:36 AM |
| 9 | Yikes, they’ve somehow found something worse than walk dates.Sounds like he's watched too much of the Office.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 01:59 AM |
| 3 | A man who only values you for your fertility and beauty is no HVM: never give up studying, advancing your career or your financial security for a manMy LVM ex was so bothered by the fact that I was taking college classes instead of doing an intensive certification program for the field I'm looking to switch careers to. Said program would've only been possible if I quit my full time job, and it cost several thousand dollars. There were a few occasions where he tried to sabotage me during the semester, namely waking me up to mess around at 2 AM the night before a big exam and planning a trip during my midterms. That's just the tip of the night… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 01:58 AM |
| 50 | The first time a new guy takes 24H+ to text, call, or reach out in any form? Don't bother acting chill, move on.W H A T Points? No. Nope. Bye boy bye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 01:34 AM |
| 1 | How to Maintain Boundaries During Relationships with Men (EW YUCK)That was apparently a big part of it, yeah. He got off on coercion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 01:06 AM |
| 2 | Just saw this on Tiktok and SO MANY GIRLS IN THE COMMENTS ARE AGREEING IM SO HAPPY!! The message is finally spreading. 🥳🥳🥳So weird and creepy. ): It's totally about power, not at all about respecting women as people. Yet they claim it's 'biology'. Yeah, sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 01:05 AM |
| 20 | How to Maintain Boundaries During Relationships with Men (EW YUCK)The best is when things get turned around on them. My ex was very pushy about pretty much everything but especially when it came to sex. I naturally have a very high sex drive, always have, it's just in my nature to be a once-a-day kind of person. He didn't know this, because I kept resisting and he kept pushing. I hadn't been entirely ready to move forward in the very beginning but eventually gave in. Once I came around and started getting more comfortable with him he couldn't keep up with me. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 12:26 AM |
| 33 | Message to all LVM/NVM 🤬Because the guys saying 'not all men' have it in their minds that a miniscule percentage of men are doing all this widespread harassment. 1% accosting 97%. Meanwhile it's their mate, their neighbor, their uncle. Every single woman we all know has her own story and experience with this. I saw a great quote on this sub that really sums it up. There have been a few variations of this floating around but I love the message it sends: "Not all snakes are venomous. But do you know which ones are?" Ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 04:13 AM |
| 16 | Message to all LVM/NVM 🤬I know right? I've watched this 5 times in a row already, so good | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 04:08 AM |
| 12 | Just saw this on Tiktok and SO MANY GIRLS IN THE COMMENTS ARE AGREEING IM SO HAPPY!! The message is finally spreading. 🥳🥳🥳As someone that also looks much younger than their real age, I feel that. It's such a good indicator of where someone's real intentions lie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 04:06 AM |
| 82 | Just saw this on Tiktok and SO MANY GIRLS IN THE COMMENTS ARE AGREEING IM SO HAPPY!! The message is finally spreading. 🥳🥳🥳Sis they can't maintain an erection let alone any type of love language. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 04:04 AM |
| 39 | Just saw this on Tiktok and SO MANY GIRLS IN THE COMMENTS ARE AGREEING IM SO HAPPY!! The message is finally spreading. 🥳🥳🥳Seriously! She's gorgeous. The fact that these guys are trying to bash her really shows that it doesn't matter what we look like to an LVM, it's solely about how much they can manipulate us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 04:03 AM |
| 7 | Men that don’t perform oral sex. Giant Glaring Red FlagI agree with you to an extent, they shouldn't expect us to go down on them if they're 'grossed out' or say they don't like giving a woman oral. People are allowed to have boundaries but in this case it seems like it's coming from a place of misogyny. Imagine what happens if a woman tells a man she doesn't like giving blowjobs? The part I disagree with is using it as an LVM/HVM indictor. Two of my exes were LVM and LOVED giving oral, neither one could get enough, and the more recent one always ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 02:55 AM |
| 1 | Sex posi women are not our friends. You cannot change my mindPlease tell me this is satire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 02:26 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, be aware of your surroundings at all times, ESPECIALLY when you're about to walk into your house or apartment.Even the elderly aren't safe, what about all those cases of sexual assault in nursing homes? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 01:48 AM |
| 6 | Ladies, be aware of your surroundings at all times, ESPECIALLY when you're about to walk into your house or apartment.In spite of all the evidence that what we're wearing doesn't matter, they still go to that. It's so disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 01:46 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, be aware of your surroundings at all times, ESPECIALLY when you're about to walk into your house or apartment.Ha! Right? And even after that, they still don't get. This seems like something Billy Eichner would do, I wonder if he's taking any suggestions.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 01:45 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, be aware of your surroundings at all times, ESPECIALLY when you're about to walk into your house or apartment.LOL. Absolutely going to apply this to my life, maybe the only men allowed to see me as female should be the ones I pick out. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 01:44 AM |
| 2 | "Twin flames" and "Soulmates" are psychopaths and narcissists mirroring and grooming youOh man, exactly the same! It's so crazy that they have such an issue with us bettering ourselves. Mine was supportive at first because it was in his field, but then got so weird and squirmy about it when I was actively learning and improving. He dumped me, we got back together later the same day, and then he dumped me again a few months later. I was deeeeep in trauma bond pickme mode, I cringe just thinking about it now. A couple of weeks after the breakup he reached out again and was like 'Thin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 01:40 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, be aware of your surroundings at all times, ESPECIALLY when you're about to walk into your house or apartment.Grooooossssssss. I'm sorry you had to deal with that. It's so funny to me that a guy would think to himself 'yeah, this is an appropriate thing to say to a stranger.' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 01:35 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, be aware of your surroundings at all times, ESPECIALLY when you're about to walk into your house or apartment.Actively working on finding another place right now! He's a real piece of work, beyond his creepy attitude. Luckily he works most of the day and there's a third roommate with us, so at least I'm not entirely alone with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 01:34 AM |
| 54 | He just ended things because I was making him wait for sexMy ex was so good at faking it that I was 100% in denial about being treated like garbage, because in my mind he wasn't that type of person. I blamed it on his anxiety, his depression, but it was never his fault. Then I found FDS, and realized he's actually an uninteresting narcissistic piece of crap who regurgitates all of his ex partners' interests as his own, and is really good at playing the part of the ever-doting caring boyfriend while resenting you for being human and having goals. Bye bo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 01:30 AM |
| 15 | Other Women’s Subs Are Starting to Slowly Figure Out What We’ve Been Saying All Along About Males In Women’s Spaces. It’s Starting to look a little FDS-y out here.I see it as a panic response, like trying to put out a fire before it gets too big. The mods shutting down these subs apparently aren't threatened by pedophiles and incels. Women getting too strong though? Hell, it's the fate of the entire species we're talking about, keep them in the dark so they have more babies! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 08:36 AM |
| 53 | Ladies, be aware of your surroundings at all times, ESPECIALLY when you're about to walk into your house or apartment.One thing this sub has made me realize is that LVMs have two categories for women in their mind: dream girl wife material, and everyone else with a vag. Falling into the 'everyone else' side doesn't mean they won't still try to bang us. I've lost count of the amount of times men that were complete strangers openly undressed me with their eyes while I was out in public. OPENLY, like I'm supposed to be okay with it. Low value guys really are the worst, the second they see a woman their first thoug… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 08:28 AM |
| 67 | Ladies, be aware of your surroundings at all times, ESPECIALLY when you're about to walk into your house or apartment.What I find funny is that they stare no matter what someone wears. Big hoodie, jeans and Docs? Staring. Puffy winter coat with the hood up? Still staring. The only skin I typically show is my face, it's not like there's anything to look at. Do they really have nothing better to do? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:18 AM |
| 20 | Ladies, be aware of your surroundings at all times, ESPECIALLY when you're about to walk into your house or apartment.I always have my keys ready in my hand just in case, but honestly? This shouldn't have to be something we worry about ): Guys have no idea how easy their day to day lives are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 06:32 AM |
| 27 | Seeing how some men treat their aging wives sickens meTwo stories came to mind that I'd like to share on the subject: First: While riding the bus I watched the man seated directly in front of me openly stare at two young women standing nearby, then look at his wife with contempt, then back to the women to fully look them up and down, then back to his wife. He must've been at least 70, and the women were in their late teens or early 20's. It made me feel sick, not only because I knew what was going through his mind but also the fact that he was doin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 06:17 AM |
| 15 | Where’s the ring, sis?This is what worries me the most about dating and marriage in general. No matter what we do or how sexy, attractive, smart, caring, etc. we are, an LVM will find some fault in you, imagined or not, and use that to tell you to your face that they can do better. For my most recent ex I wasn't sexual enough, then too sexual, not challenging or outspoken enough, then too much of both. I know for a fact that I wasn't the problem, it was him constantly moving the goalposts because he couldn't handle v… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 06:00 AM |
| 34 | Saw this on Twitter — horrifyingI had that exact thought. Like the others have said, soon enough it won't be enough of a rush to just follow them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 05:49 AM |
| 51 | "Twin flames" and "Soulmates" are psychopaths and narcissists mirroring and grooming youMy last relationship was a trauma bond with a narcissist, and let me tell you, even in my full blown pickme cool girl mindset I knew the things he did were messed up. I went from feeling like (and literally being told I was) a goddess to feeling completely worthless and inadequate as soon as things shifted from lovebombing to devaluation. Instead of breadcrumbing he was throwing whole slices at me -- expensive trips, expensive gifts, etc. But then things would turn cold again as soon as I leaned… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 05:40 AM |
| 25 | This is the standard I’ll be holding all human men to in the futureShould be: 'His most favorite activity is playing with other good doggos'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 05:27 AM |
| 168 | Imagine being ashamed of absolutely killing it in your career because of one man 💀If she's doing well that means he has to step up his game and grow, it's so uNfAiR. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 05:25 AM |
| 1 | 5 lies about FDS in Vice's latest hit pieceI remember reading this article when the whole situation came to light, and Rolanda Hollis stating the this bill was put forth not because she thought it would go through, but because she recognized the importance of shedding light on how ridiculous it is to use the law to restrict reproductive rights so heavily with women but not men. In spite of the abortion ban stating it wouldn't cover cases in which the mother's life is in danger, we've too often seen how women are treated in medicine. Alth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 03:46 AM |
| 3 | How much of women's birth control use is simply to accommodate men?Oh my god! That explains so much! I had such a bad time on it and couldn't understand what the difference was. Thank you for letting me know, now I know it wasn't all just in my head, haha. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 03:21 AM |
| 7 | How many of you “developed” issues while in a relationship? I’ll go first: depression and anxiety. Cured as soon as we broke up.It's so interesting how we don't even realize how much outside forces can affect our mental and emotional state. Women are so often taught to minimize our emotions for the sake of others but when it comes down to it, self neglect is the fastest way to a breakdown. We need to take care of ourselves and each other, regardless of whether or not someone thinks it's 'selfish' to leave a situation that's damaging us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 02:57 AM |
| 19 | How much of women's birth control use is simply to accommodate men?I'm currently taking it to manage endometriosis. It took a lot of trial and error to actually find one I could handle, and it ended up being a pill with the lowest possible amount of estrogen while still being effective (Lo Loestrin FE). Before this I was on the generic version, Junel. It was HORRIBLE..I was experiencing vision problems, suicidal depression, nausea constantly. If it wasn't making my endo symptoms better I would've stopped it, but I'd rather deal with this than three to four days… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 01:50 AM |
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