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SELF IMPROVEMENThomefronthoney/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 11:02 PM
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I woke up at 2AM to him standing over me/staring down at me with the overhead light on and didn’t know what was going on. I asked him if it was time to get up and go to the airport (for an early flight) but realized we had a couple more hours to sleep. It took me a minute to get recalibrated to understand what was going on since I was just sound asleep. He was angrily asking me why I didn’t turn the lamp off, yelling, cussing, etc. I asked if we could just go back to sleep and talk about it in t…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 08:11 PM
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Men aren’t generally friends with women they aren’t interested in sleeping with, unless they’ve deemed the woman unf*ckable for whatever reason. Men who say otherwise tend to be either beta orbiters or queer.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 04:16 PM
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I regret that I have but one upvote to give. This advice is perfect.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 08:47 PM
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If you’re asking for yourself, you’re being abused and need a plan to get out safely. Full stop.
/r/RedPillWives07/05/22 02:41 AM
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Conservatism may mean monogamy, but red pill doesn’t equate to conservative. And there are plenty of non-monogamous relationship structures that aren’t polyamory.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/22 03:51 PM
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Looking at your profile, it seems that you met your husband at the beginning of September, got engaged sometime before mid-November, and are now married? This isn’t a husband issue, this is a poor vetting and moving too quickly issue.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/22 07:14 PM
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You have my full sympathy 💖 At 17 weeks I’m finally over the worst of it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/22 02:29 AM
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Yay! Feel free to DM me if you need someone to talk about RPW stuff and being pregnant too.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 10:23 PM
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Absolutely! Both r/pregnant and r/babybumps sponsor monthly groups. I’m in r/august2022bumpers
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 09:32 PM
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We already have r/redpillparenting although it’s not very active. I’m pregnant and mostly browse r/babybumps and my due date specific sub.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 09:02 PM
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That probably depends greatly on the guy. My husband tells me literally every random dream he remembers come morning.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/22 07:25 PM
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I think it’s important to find a fellow believer, but waiting until marriage is absolutely possible. The ladies over r/RPCWomen probably have more specific insight for you
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/22 09:36 PM
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🥇 I regret that I have but one upvote to give.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/21 08:01 PM
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My husband bought me a cordless Shark for my birthday and I was legit thrilled. It’s so much easier to do the floors now!
/r/RedPillWives30/11/21 06:35 PM
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This man doesn’t want to marry you. If he did, you would be married my now.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/21 07:58 PM
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I’ve got plenty of self worth and nothing to prove, thanks. I do think most women prefer monogamy, which makes sense from an evolutionary perspective, but I’m not threatened by my husband’s plates any more than he feels threatened by my girlfriend. I’d be happy to answer any questions.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/21 04:55 PM
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I’m in an open relationship, and (unless my husband has been lying for the last 5 years) we’re both happy about it. That said, we’re both completely upfront and honest about who we’re involved with, and it’s not the form of nonmonogamy that liberal “sex-positive” feminists endorse. He basically spins plates and has the occasional one night stand. I’m queer and only date women, because I’m 100% happy with the man I already have. According to the polyamory community, I’m being oppressed unless I g…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/21 04:48 PM
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Still false. Many women can orgasm solely from nipple stimulation as well.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/21 12:06 AM
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Thank you. I have a new username, but I’ve been around long enough to remember that we lost a lot of good content and posters from people wanting to equate RPW to only “one true way” to have a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/21 04:25 PM
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Regarding the tights defeating easy access issue: I absolutely adore the thigh high socks from sockdreams.com They come in loads of colors and sizes and are great quality. I wear mine with a garter belt to keep them from rolling down my thighs, but I know lots of people can wear them without any garters at all. Just depends on your leg shape I think
/r/RedPillWives19/05/21 05:39 AM
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I never hated my child, thankfully, but PPD and anxiety were a trip. If I had major depression instead of PTSD, I imagine it would have been much worse. It makes sense that we’d adapt as a species to avoid it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/21 04:11 PM
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No, I meant that sincerely! I’ve wanted to learn more, but chasing after a toddler all day leaves little time for deep research. I’m very grateful ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/21 03:59 PM
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You’re a font of information! I know what I’ll be reading in my free time the rest of the day
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/21 03:54 PM
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The first link, as I suspected, is actually correlating birthrate, not fertility as it is used medically. I haven’t looked up the Pew study itself, and the articles you linked to are from highly biased sources, but the results they report are fascinating. The correlation between politics, mental health, and birth rates has so many possible explanations. I foresee myself going down the rabbit hole in the near future. Thank you for taking the time to share more information!
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/21 03:27 PM
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Do you have a source for that assertion? I find it hard to believe that political stance has any meaningful affect on fertility, although certainly the difference in lifestyle choices could affect the birthrate between liberal and conservative women in certain age brackets.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/21 07:42 AM
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Speaking as someone who also has ADHD: he’s the emotional one because he has ADHD and you’re autistic. Many people with ADHD are extra sensitive to negative emotions and tend to interpret criticism as rejection, just by the way our brains are wired. Look up Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) if you want a detailed explanation, but basically, he may literally feel things far more intensely than a neurotypical man in the same situation would.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 06:35 AM
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You can’t control your husband. Suggesting he needs a hobby or to leave work at work is just as likely to make him resent you as it is to help. What you can do is set boundaries and do things that make you happy. Keep telling him no when his ranting kills the mood, but also enthusiastically reward him if/when he doesn’t go on about this guy. If he can’t leave work at work when you go out, go do something you enjoy, just for you. You don’t have to listen to his rant for the millionth time, and he…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/21 07:08 PM
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You just described my husband to a tee! And, honestly, it sounds like you already have a solid handle on what he needs.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/21 06:46 PM
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Between your original post and the additional information you’ve provided, it seems clear that he doesn’t want to find a way for the two of you to be together long term. He’s fine with having a ready summer fling for the next few years, but that’s all he ever intends for you to be. My own experience leads me to think it’s unlikely he would be “exclusive” to you either, even if he is claiming to be. Driven young men just have too many opportunities to find companionship for me to believe he would…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/21 05:27 PM
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So there are definitely varying degrees of flirting, and my response is different depending on the situation. If it’s something that is mostly subtext—and assuming I notice, because I’m bad at subtext—I just feign ignorance and continue on as if it didn’t happen. When a man gives me a respectful compliment, I simply thank him. Anything disrespectful or overtly sexual gets “That’s inappropriate,” or a similar immediate shut down. If a man is blatantly interested but being respectful about it I te…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/21 06:01 PM
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You will get much better and more applicable advice by asking in the men’s sub. It sounds to me like you’re a beta orbiter who doesn’t want to admit that she hit a little too close to home with her reasons for not being into you. Head over to r/theredpill and learn to be better.
/r/RedPillWives30/04/21 05:37 PM
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Exactly. The only exception is if he’s gay and/or a close relative... and even then, if he acts like your female friends, he’s probably gay. I have 3 categories of male “friends”.. they’re either friends with my husband, gay, or long-term acquaintances with whom I share a common hobby.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 04:27 AM
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The RPW Glossary has a helpful list of common terms and their meanings. If you’re new to RPW, I highly suggest reading the entire wiki. It’s full of important information and things that will help you on your journey.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/21 11:36 PM
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I struggle with this too! I grew up in a really toxic home and I’ve put a lot of work into unlearning those patterns. Reading FW and learning to STFU when my hamster started going were really key.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/21 05:01 AM
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I’d have sworn we did too, but I haven’t seen one in a long time. I couldn’t find any old ones via search, either. Maybe they were originally posted by someone who nuked their account?
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/21 04:58 AM
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I’ve always felt the children section of this chapter lacks nuance. I think it’s important to separate needs from wants when there’s a conflict between prioritizing your husband or your child. In my head the order goes like this: Children’s basic needs (food, hygiene, sleep, etc) My own needs My husband’s needs My husband’s wants Children or my wants So if he’s hungry and the toddler needs changed, I’m going to either ask him to help or take care of her first. But if he wants pork chops for dinn…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 12:01 AM
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I do all of the meal planning and 90% of the cooking (sometimes he likes to cook on his days off). He regularly thanks me and compliments my cooking, or may ask me to make something again because he loves it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/21 09:42 PM
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A few thoughts here: 1: You can’t change your man, only yourself. 2: You’re scared of the mouse. That’s valid and understandable. But even if he’s ignoring the problem, it still needs taken care of. One mouse can quickly turn into lots of mice. If you can’t bring yourself to set a trap, call an exterminator. 3: There’s a blog post from The Red Pill Room that’s exactly about how to encourage your man to lead. Give me a second to put the toddler down and I’ll edit with a link. EDIT: Encouraging Yo…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/21 09:20 PM
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I was married to another woman for 5 years, together almost 11. The thing that a lot of the responses are getting wrong is conflating how masculine or feminine a lesbian (or bi woman) dresses with how dominant she is. I’m highly dominant. I’ve been the “captain” of almost every same sex relationship I’ve been in. I’m also almost always in dresses with curly hair and makeup. My ex wife is as butch as you can get, but a terrible leader. The red pill is an amoral toolbox, a way of understanding how…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/21 09:07 PM
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I have no idea how many women my husband has been with, but I know he’s had a lot of encounters over the years. I also know that he is a strong, kind hearted man with impeccable honor and a wicked sense of humor. I don’t worry about any of the women he’s been with before, because he didn’t choose them—he chose me. That said, a lot of it depends on the man’s character more than the number of sexual partners he’s had. I was friends with my husband for years before we ever went on a date; I already…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 06:14 PM
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To be blunt: he wants to keep you around as a plate.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/21 03:36 AM
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In English I’ve usually heard it as “Trust, but verify.” 😊
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/21 07:13 PM
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Unfortunately, it looks like a lot of valuable content Camille posted didn’t get backed up before she nuked her account.
/r/RedPillWives21/04/21 06:45 PM
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And we don’t have children yet, so maybe that’s a big factor. Just chiming in to say my husband and I are much the same as you and your fiancé, and we have 2 kids. The biggest difference is that he also scoops up the toddler and tells her, “We need to let mommy rest,” after bringing me tea or medicine.
/r/RedPillWives21/04/21 06:40 PM
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It sounds like you already know the answer on some level, and are looking for validation. You aren’t compatible in bed*, you feel like he’s not masculine enough, and he isn’t ambitious or goal-oriented enough to make you feel secure putting all your eggs in his basket. It sounds like your boyfriend, like a lot of young men, doesn’t have a clear long term direction in mind and is just living in the moment, while you want to start working towards the future. This doesn’t make him a bad person, but…
/r/RedPillWives21/04/21 06:26 PM
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