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STAY WOKEhoney-laden/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:57 PM
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All Too Well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 11:12 PM
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I was strongly agreeing with the title but lost my way when I reached the post. I am a female and I am perpetually in "mom" mode for most of my friends, but especially so with the males. I am constantly cooking for them, shopping for them, planning our group trips, remembering to celebrate their birthdays (they NEVER remember mine), and taking care of them. I do it because I love them and I know they love me and appreciate me for doing these things for them and because I also enjoy it. They real…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 04:45 AM
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my ex fiance gave me a family ring. it had a chipped side diamond and i paid to have it replaced. when i left him, i gave back the ring because it belonged to his family and the right thing to do … he got the free diamond from me (along with all the other stuff he took from me when he moved out of my house while i stayed with a friend + all the debt me left me 🤡 never again…)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 07:09 AM
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to show that she was there and to remind him of what he was leaving behind. he may never find someone else who is sweet enough to surprise him with breakfast and a game. her kindness contrasted with his deception makes him even more despicable and would make him feel the loss more keenly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 03:13 PM
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i had my ex fiance tell me that he enjoyed contacting prostitutes from craigslist or online sites, setting up meetings, and leaving them hanging/not showing up. he said it made him feel powerful. im so so ashamed to admit how long i still stayed after that. ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 05:19 PM
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This happened to me. He would take sooo many selfies of himself and make me choose which ones were the best, even though they all looked exactly the same with these extremely practiced facial expressions. He looved social media and craved “likes” and would be jealous of people more popular than him. He reminded me of a little teenage girl. He was such a baby when he got fat and would try to blame me for making him that way. He was a monster and would blame me for everything that went wrong in hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:17 AM
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i can certainly understand this. just be wise about it and go to the best few. if you go to five consultations, that is you shopping around for the best attorney. if you go to 30, you are obviously being an ass. dont be obvious about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 01:45 PM
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The pro move is to actually get consultations from all of the best family lawyers in town so that they are precluded from representing the husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 10:20 PM
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“Equal” is different than “fair.” This is not someone worth marrying or getting serious with. If he cared for you, he would want you to be happy and comfortable and take care of you. If things were fair, you would share the resources you have between you like a team.
/r/RedPillWives07/08/21 08:30 PM
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I will look this up! Thanks for the recommendation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 07:57 AM
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Thanks so much for this. When I broke up with him, the way he worded it made it sound like I was discriminating against him as if I were some kind of bigot. It took me a very very long time to admit that I simply don't want to date someone with a mental illness, especially someone who has a cluster b mental illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 04:04 PM
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men who share their deepest hurts with you when they first meet you. they are trying to make you feel empathetic. they are manipulating your emotions by opening up quickly, but it is meaningless to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:29 AM
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after i broke up with my ex, he said (paraphrasing) “i am sorry for my actions except for what i did between the months of september to april because i was affected by my borderline personality disorder. you should have know that it wasn’t “me” and that it was my disorder. you should have known my symptoms were just from my disorder because a cursory search a google would have told you this. you dont want to admit it, but you left me for my disorder.” (part of this excerpt is directly in my post…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:21 AM
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love bombing. when they fall for you super quickly, telling you how special you are, and make you feel like an angel. love bombing is a sign of someone with borderline personality disorder. a normal person takes their time to get to know you. also, (another ex) someone who wipes his ass clean when he poops. seriously? ugh. this is real!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:13 AM
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YESSSS I think because my ex grew up in a lower socioeconomic area, he never really learned about saving money properly. Money would burn a hole in his wallet if he didn't spend it. I also noticed that he would use all of his annual leave from work every time he earned time. Like, he was just never able to save any resources he gained; he had to spend all of it right away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 12:32 PM
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he had borderline personality disorder. manic spending gets completely out of control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 02:47 PM
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yes, ive dated many men below my social class, but my last ex was the one who was the furthest below my own social class. he had so much pent up anger about being poor, that he ruined us financially with his crazy spending habits. he felt like he “deserved” all the nice things because he grew up poor. he left me with 15k in debt and was, weirdly, still complaining that our lives were so “bougie” because we didn’t pay rent. he clearly had a ton of mixed feelings that he needed to work out. i thin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 04:55 AM
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When I broke up with my ex, I moved out of my own house (owned by my parents) to stay with friends. My ex lived rent free for two months dragging his feet to get out of the house. It was ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:15 AM
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Oh man. Real talk. My ex boyfriend from college took me out one time to a dinner date during our three year relationship and I was so so happy when it finally happened. He had “social anxiety” and could never go to a restaurant (but somehow parties and restaurants with family and other outings were fine?) It was Applebees and I paid 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:22 AM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:32 AM
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Thank you. Yes. I learned this so so late and somehow was so stupid to stick around. I remember one time I had a migraine that was debilitating, but he "needed" me to go with him to pick up weed because he didn't want to go alone. We drive 45 minutes away while I am writhing in pain. When we get to our destination, I throw up multiple times and had to go to the gas station myself to get some saltines. I should have known then what a terrible partner he was, but I am so ashamed to admit that I st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:27 PM
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Yes! My salary also falls into the range of “entry-level six figures,” as she puts it. I think it’s just reasonable for me to expect about the same or maybe a little higher from my partner. I used to make the mistake of having super low standards because I thought I would be appreciated more, but I have learned many times over that men only appreciate it in the beginning and soon just take your generosity (money, time, cooking, cleaning, sex, etc.) for granted. There was a time when my standards…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:50 AM
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100% i had an ex who encouraged me to throw up as a way to lose weight. he knew i also had a history of anorexia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:22 PM
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she is wearing makeup in both photos here
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 02:18 AM
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his smile is amazing. you can tell he feels so lucky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 01:16 PM
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always use both cheeks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 02:23 PM
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i think a lot of it stems from the fact that many of the subs are populated by people who are extreme people-pleasers who are codependent (i am one of these people). i love these subs because it helps me to establish some baseline standards for myself. i used to date people who would only use me for what i could do for them, so it helps so much to hear that i deserve to be treated with basic respect, to have someone reciprocate, or to love me for me and not what i can do for them. i think the me…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:21 PM
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100% even though this scene makes it appear that emma could be in the right, it is actually emma (according to austen) who is doing the damage and mr. knightly who sees things accurately. harriet would be lucky to be with robert martin. mr. knightly, while above the station of robert martin, respects and admires robert martin as a smart and successful farmer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 05:34 PM
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thank you. yeah, i admit that phrase made me think that the poster thinks that asian sex workers have lower standards than other sex workers. otherwise, it would just say “sex workers.” i think it perpetuates the stereotype that asian women are more submissive and docile than women of other races (less likely to turn someone down, even as a sex worker), which is harmful to asian women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:31 PM
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there are too many to name. one time i had a terrible migraine and was feeling sick to my stomach, but he “needed” me to go with him to pick up weed because he didnt want to go alone and it was crucial for him to have it. so, he took me in his car while a writhed around feeling so so sick. when we arrived, i puked multiple times. he was completely unempathetic. another time, he got a dui and needed to complete volunteer hours. he waited the entire given time, and with only a few weeks before the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 04:11 AM
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he has a great voice, a strong sense of humor, and just seems like an empathetic guy in general. he gives his opinion confidently, but is respectful and allows room for others to feel free to express their own opinion. very sexy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 09:30 PM
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where did you get it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:09 PM
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my ex finace would have me buy my own gifts. i would open them in front of the extended family and had to appear happy/surprised at the gift i bought for myself. i would also buy myself nice things every once in a while and he would post them on social media pretending that he bought them for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 05:24 PM
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Thank you so much for sharing your experience. It was actually so shameful for me that I have never told anyone about this, not even my closest friends. I can't believe I put up with that. We both deserve so much better, and it took me way too long to see that. I owe a huge apology to myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:46 PM
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My ex fiance would contact prostitutes because he liked feeling powerful over them when negotiating. He would make them show up at a hotel and just ghost them. He told this to me. He *said* he never slept with them. I stopped sleeping with him once I found out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:29 PM
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Especially becuase the adverbial clause ("Although I shouldn't expect much...") is without an independent clause. It is sad because you can tell he is trying so so hard, like you said. Cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:23 PM
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beer advent calendar! pick up 12 holiday beers, place them in a cardboard box with separators between them, and cover the compartments using tissue paper with a number label over each compartment. if you want to be extra, decorate the tissue paper and/or the number labels. edit: here is another option where you just wrap each beer in tissue paper - https://www.craftbeering.com/diy-craft-beer-advent-calendar/ you can use this same technique for cookies, treats, tea, pens, etc. to suit his needs.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/20 04:32 PM
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The cage in which the queen comes actually has a little opening that is usually plugged with candy or can be capped with a marshmallow. Most beekeepers keep the queen in the plugged cage and place her in the hive. This way, the hive can smell their new queen and get used to her, making it more likely that they will accept her. The hive slowly eats away at the marshmallow to free her. So, there are a few ways to ensure the hive is more likely to accept her. Another fun fact: All the workers in th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 11:19 PM
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Real talk. I was dumb enough to date a boy who didn't wipe thoroughly enough. His explanation was that the shower would take care of it. He also said that boys are just supposed to be dirty. Another guy once sent me a dick pic with his underwear showing in the photo - It had skid marks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:33 PM
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when i read this, i had to go back to see that it was not, in fact, pony tail...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:58 PM
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I love this book! Just a disclaimer - it advises use of stiff bristles for a toothbrush; use soft to save your gums!
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 03:10 PM
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You can shave daily as you shower and you won’t have stubble?
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 12:22 AM
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Girl, you made the best decision you could with the information you had at the time. Be kind to yourself. He deliberately hid his true face from you, and the truth takes time to discern.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 05:45 PM
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I understand where you are coming from and agree that we should have empathy and love for those who suffer from mental illness. I also agree that it should be de-stigmatized. I was engaged to someone who had bipolar and borderline personality disorder, and while I still care for his wellbeing, it was just simply unsustainable to stay with him. He drained every part of my life until I was a husk of a human being. I admit it is hard to separate him being an ass from his mental illness. He took med…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:01 PM
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? he had the audacity to post the same comment again.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/20 02:34 PM
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This happened to me quite a lot with my best friend. I am quiet and reserved while she is approachable and cultured. She has a “cool girl” vibe that men love. Under normal circumstances, I would never admit that I am prettier than she us. Despite our looks, I never get approached, but men approach her allllll the time. She just has this fun aura around her that makes her super sexy and alluring. I am “prettier,” but I am awkward, self-conscious, and standoffish - especially around strangers. I w…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/20 01:19 AM
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the easiest way to get a beautiful crust is pie crust cutters. all you need to do is roll out two crusts, place one crust in your pie dish as usual, take the second crust and punch the crust cutters like they are cookies, and place the cut outs along the edge. easy gorgeous pies.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/20 05:43 PM
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i personally always love an excuse to celebrate or treat myself. i take myself to the spa every birthday. maybe if your boyfriend feels like it is troublesome to celebrate, maybe just arrange something for yourself. treat yourself to something special, grab dinner with friends, take time to pause and reflect on your life. i would pay attention to how he reacts to other things that are important to you. does he also brush them aside? keep your eyes open.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 04:01 AM
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i do this! just be casual. a quick “looking forward to tonight!” text should suffice.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 07:05 PM
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r/bipolarsos
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/19 10:54 AM
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what i really love about your post is your moderation. you really listened to his desires, and managed to submit without being a doormat. it is inspiring to see how you navigated by both explaining the realities of the weather and also agreeing with his statements. unsure if this is “unsexy,” but i sometimes manage to wear dresses in winter by doubling up on fleece lined leggings! actually very warm!
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/19 03:27 PM
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positive reinforcement is the most effective way to teach children...
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/18 07:06 AM
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i completely understand the desire to make everything from scratch and impress his family with your domestic skills. i am exactly the same way. the reality at this moment is that it is late as hell and you are tired. you will need a good night’s sleep so you can be awake and peppy around his family. go to bed. get a good rest, love. in the morning, go to the store and just purchase the dishes you need. everyone will remember how lovely and kind and loving you are. trust me - hardly anyone will e…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/18 05:42 AM
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i completely understand. i always use gloves as well for chores and other types of work with my hands! 💕🧤💕
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 09:15 PM
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have you tried gel polish?
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 02:57 PM
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i agree. many men in my social circles are educated with high salaries (doctors, hedge fund managers, attorneys); most of them want a woman who is educated and ambitious because they long to be in a “power couple.” their fantasy is to rule the world with these women.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 11:40 PM
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i think it may be healthier to look inward to find ways to be the best version of you instead of comparing with others. i think that is the best way to find happiness and inner peace 😊
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/18 10:11 PM
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wait, your boyfriend pretends to be you while he talks to your ex? and youre not allowed to see what he is saying? this sounds like a red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/18 02:26 AM
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daily habits are what differentiates those of the masses and those who stand out above the rest. being able to mold your habits day in and day out are what can change your life. it is important to understand that self discipline is a limited resource, so you need to allocate it strategically. this is what helped me: if you want to exercise and you want to make it into a habit, first consider if you have the time to do so and how much time you are willing to allocate to this routine. for example,…
/r/TheRedPill12/04/18 03:14 AM
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coconut oil is an amazing moisturizer; just be careful as it can sometimes clog pores since it is comedogenic. if you haven’t used it before, i would patch test by using it on a small portion of your face for a week or so to make sure it doesn’t break you out before applying it to the rest of your face.
/r/TheRedPill11/04/18 09:28 PM
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i understand what you are trying to convey; the details of grammar should not detract from the substance of the writing. though, having proper syntax is simply less distracting to the reader.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/18 12:51 PM
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