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LTR/MARRIAGEhoneyfern/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 04:02 PM
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You only know what I've said here. You don't know how the conversations go, you don't know the process that has been made in other aspects, all you know is the one issue I'm having a hard time with. I'm not about to give up a man I love so fucking much. People often lives their lives NEVER being able to afford a car or have their own place to live. These are just added benefits of living in western society. I'd rather be with him, on the streets, cold and hungry than not with him. I'm willing to…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 07:05 PM
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You're a mean person.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 06:36 PM
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I think I'll do that. Put us on a pause/break for two weeks if I can. Unfortunately all of my family lives hours away from here. I do talk to my mum daily though, she's my rock. So it's going to be two weeks of "Can't hang tonight, have so much to do, sorry love!" I think the space will give me some clarity and possibly give him a dose of reality. I think he's just really really comfortable. Maybe the uncomfortable reality of not seeing me for a few weeks would help. There is an international co…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 08:19 PM
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Feelings are unfazed. Just battling the inner demons now. I am wrapped around his finger, it'd be a lie to say I wasn't. I mean really, two years of promises....
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 08:05 PM
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No :(
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 08:04 PM
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Thank you for being blunt. That's typically how I dish out advice. You're correct about everything.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 07:46 PM
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Emotionally he's 100% there for me. Many men would not have put up with me during my redpilling. However, that being said - that woman has been gone for a long time and a much better woman has replaced her. No it's not my first serious relationship. I was in a LTR prior to this, 4 1/2 years. Where we were more compatible on a team front, perfect synchronicity across all the fronts but his gut smacking against my belly when we had sex was the final straw for me and I dumped him. He was also incre…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 07:25 PM
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This is the reality I'm scared of.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 06:35 PM
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Plus, that feeling is subconscious, it's most likely he's not able to put that sort of unease and feeling into words. That's what I think it is. Okay, thank you. I'll start trying to do this, detach but remain the same. Sort out my life entirely separate from his and only agree with his suggestions of commitment with affirmatives, not words of encouragement or get chatty about it. Watch his actions, made a hard date for myself.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 06:03 PM
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Does your boyfriend have those qualities? As of right now he has everything except for the "providing and leading" ones. I follow his lead, but it's making me question if we're heading towards an ice berg. Pay attention to how he phrases things. Is he taking initiative when he talks about saving for a house so you can be a SAHM? Or is that just an answer to a question you're asking him? I will start doing this, this may actually tell me a lot more than I realize. May help me figure out what kind…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 05:59 PM
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This was a good change of perspective. I'll really have to contemplete this, because in so many sense - I agree. I have worked hard on becoming a strong, independant, supportive, loving, warm and good looking woman. I am a prize tbh, and I don't mean to sound arrogant, but I know there is a bunch of guys who would jump at the opportunity to be in a relationship with me. I just feel so connected to his soul, it's hard to separate myself from it. You've basically put into words all the subtle comm…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 05:51 PM
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I was a blue-pill monster in the beginning. I don't really like to think about it hahaha so much attention seeking I could see that, but I asked if it's because of me and he said "absolutely not". He talks about artwork for the walls and what he wants for meal prep nights. He spends all his time at my place, he literally only goes home to sleep and shower (at my place from 8am - 11pm, his place of work is right beside my place). I could TOTALLY see that being the reason, as I do come off strong …
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 05:40 PM
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Yep - only thing that really matters is egarness and enthusiasm! Be willing to communicate and learn and just let the magic happen on it's own! :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 09:01 PM
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I made the pair of PJ's for my boyfriend our second year in and they were the first pair of pyjamas he ever really wore (just boxers prior) and now, 3 years later he's been bugging me to make us a matching pair for us and our cat for our Christmas card and I think I will ☺️ definitely one of the best gifts I've given him/ he's gotten.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 12:18 PM
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Make sure you're reminding him how proud you are of him, don't over do it, but I like to give the odd firm reassurance that "I am so proud of the man that you are. It's incredibly attractive to see you succeeding so much and I'm so happy to be with you every step of the way. You're the most amazing man." Also encourage his career. Supporting my boyfriends work ethic has been a huge motivator for him and it's a real turn on to see him doing so well too. Since you say he's climbing the ladder, on …
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 12:11 PM
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Is this a red flag? Nope. My boyfriend didn't either, 5 years later and he think's he's the King of the Kingdom of Love. I agree with everyone else about the texts. So many variables and it's not fair to assume the worst. Let him take the lead on this, just enjoy your time spent with him. I see no issue in asking once more to hangout on Sunday or Monday and then leave the ball in his court. Offer him an opportunity and let him take the lead.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/17 02:11 PM
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Ensure you're staying properly hydrated too!
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/17 04:22 PM
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He's my bestfriend in the entire world.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/17 04:21 PM
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I think so :) And I won't, not in my lifetime.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/17 04:07 PM
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I had my red-pill transition age 22. I was the same type of girl as you prior to that, only equestrian not cheerleading. I think it'd be worth while for you to read the Surrendered Wife book. I was already in my relationship but my friend was single looking to start changing her lifestyle. I gave her the book about a year ago. She's been dating a really nice guy for 4 months now, but the book helped her weed out all the qualities she didn't like about herself and she set herself up to be in a re…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/17 04:03 PM
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Welcome! I highly suggest you read the side tab as well, as a lot of our relationships have the same kinds of methods in them. What is it like? Absolutely wonderful How do you feel when you are with your Captain? I feel like we're in a very nice bubble. We understand each other, respect each other, are loyal and proud. Not to mention the sex is amazing. Is it fun? Do you ever get tired or bored around your Captain? Absolutely it's fun. At times I get bored or tired, but only of interacting, not …
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/17 01:49 PM
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Too add onto this, OP I wasn't the girliest girl ever growing up either. But during highschool I stuck with my poorly bleached hair and my comic book tshirts and hoddies. Come college, I started paying attention to others around me to see what I wanted to look like, by the time college was over, I met the current love of my life, dyed my hair back to a chocolate brown and now I've got a slew of young girls following me online for "inspiration" and have people call me "pretty!, you're so gorgeous…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/17 08:00 PM
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First, welcome! So glad to have you here. The more millennial women redpilled the better for us all :) My boyfriend was the first guy I dealt with having a lower sex driver than myself. I have a very high SMV, so from what I was used to, they would want me at the drop of a hat. Whenever I wanted, they wanted it all the time. This is how I expected men to be, and most of them were just that. I want to mention that his lack of initiation and such is NOT a reflection of his attraction to you. Howev…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/17 07:38 PM
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So try every trick you can think of, in different combinations/speeds until you figure it out! Took me about two months of consistently trying before I figured what it took to give him "completion" blowjobs.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 05:17 PM
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Yes, very true.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 01:32 PM
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I can do that, supporting him is easy, it's my favourite thing :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 04:17 PM
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OKAY I LOVED THIS SO MUCH LAST WEEK! I took the advice and brought it into serious consideration. Focused on the "walk" not the talk. My boyfriend is now not only buying a car so we can expand our business BUT he's decided to move in completely and quit his job to follow his passion full-time. I'm so ecstatic, I kept encouraging him that there were so many different avenues he could take to progress our futures and he pretty much took them all! My question now: What can I do to make these transi…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 02:09 PM
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I wish every young struggling young woman could read this.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 06:39 PM
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Don't do at all at once though, small changes or you won't stick with it! Start with subsituting whole grains for white grains, water for sugar drinks (great start), portion your veggies higher than meats, etc. Small changes, then slowly tweak your life as you go. You're building a lifestyle, not just a diet.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 05:43 PM
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Green beans are my go-to binge veggie too
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 05:42 PM
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Weed doesn't make you lazy. It's entirely based on the person. Lazy people will be lazy regardless. Weed is just an excuse. I smoke daily (both for medicinal purposes and recreational) I am not lazy when I smoke. In fact I typically smoke before I go into a cleaning spree or while I'm folding my laundry or I smoke before I got for a run. (switching to vaping/edibles soon thanks to the advice of the lovely ladies here) However, since OP is only 16 I 100% agree with your advice, because all of thi…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 05:37 PM
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I agree. Captain drove the ship right into an iceberg.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 03:03 PM
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I think Ivanka has that topic pretty much covered. Think Melaina's goal is just to fly under the radar. She's clearly red-pilled in a sense that she married Donald with the intents that we look for. Protection, Support, Loyalty. Fame/Presidency has always just been ad added bonus for her I think. Plus being in the public eye since her teens she has no reason to want to be there again I think. I like that's she's focused on being a mom, especially with all the disgusting stuff being directed to y…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 08:53 PM
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So you're a second wave feminist ideally (you know, the old school, ones that actually made good, equal changes) if you still wanted to call yourself one. Very far off in difference from the new Third-Wave of them.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 08:47 PM
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I started self-care late in the game too. Took me almost 4 years to get to the point of proper daily care. Forget about all the extra's like makeup and clothing, those took another 3 years. Now, 7 years later I feel like one very feminine put-together woman. Take your time, learn about yourself, learn what you like and what men like about your improvements. Focus on what accomplishments you've made so far and follow your own example.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 08:45 PM
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Yep. I'm a high level nerdy woman. Like, I made a whole youtube career out of how nerdy I am. However I am naturally a pretty attractive girl - BUT I put a lot of effort into my body/health and appearance and I think that's the make or break between myself and other nerdy girls. I've never had my nerdiness be a issue with men. Not ever. I mean, my boyfriend doesn't want to watch anime with me all the time but that's about it. I agree with you. I think it's more so about the lack of effort OP put…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 08:42 PM
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Sidenote - if he loves cooking, get him a fancy cheese or spice or something to use every once in a while too.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 02:36 PM
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Don't be afraid to use both hands! Make it sloppy if you need to. Say dirty things, look him in the eyes every so often. Wear some bright lipstick, pull your boobs out, etc etc. Get creative.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 02:34 PM
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This is probably hands-free why I love this subreddit so much.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 02:32 PM
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Sex with only 4 people (current SO included) but I had a lot of sex while in thos relationships. Sex with my first boyfriend. Both virgins, long-term relaltionship. Two flings (both long-term (5+ years) friends turned fuckboys) And now my partner. But I have a lot of sex. None of my partners have been able to keep up. Currently it's about once a day, been down to around once a week because his job has been busier. Literally can be at his beck and call if he wanted. My n-count may be high to some…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 02:27 PM
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I've been discredited on r/relationships because I was subbed to the_donald and here. (I happen to like sassy political memes) apparently that means I can't give advice on how to stop your roommate from taking your dog out without your permission.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 05:05 PM
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I'm similar and I like this sub because unlike the others, you can talk about issues without the answers being "you're in an unhealthy/abusive relationship!" or "dump them!" people will actually give you constructive advice.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 05:03 PM
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That science was too much for them eh? what a shock is must be to consider BC has something to do with her hormones being low!
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 05:01 PM
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Writing that quote down.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 05:00 PM
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That's what seemed to happen for my cousin as well! She was engaged once at 22, married to the second guy at 24, divorced at 25 (cheating on his part) and now she's engaged to an incredible guy at 29, getting married in 2019. She's given me similar advice, it's really good insight to have.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 02:04 PM
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Awh congratulations! Backyard weddings are my favourite, so intimate and peaceful! Did you avoid telling people to prevent the stigma because you were so young then? Or just didn't feel inclined to?
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 02:01 PM
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I was SOOOOO guilty of all of this before being redpilled. I'm a very pretty girl, so I manipulated men and I could do it well, really easily. This is literally a list of all the things I avoid doing now.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 07:35 PM
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Yep and I don't like getting into the politics of other countries because I don't know enough about their governments. I know here, civil union does not allow you the same rights as a marriage does as well as I personally don't agree that religion should have any place in the system of a country, that's not my place either. So I will be pro-gay marriage for any country. But different folks, different strokes :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 03:03 PM
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Yep. You hit the nail on the head with this one and it's such a sad reality.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 03:00 PM
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It is still more liberal than Australia. I have family is AUS and even . Just simply, AUS is discussing Same-Sex Marriage, Same sex marriage has been legal for decades here and now we're issuing gender-less ID's to babies. Painfully liberal. Essentially here, you have to be equals. In absolutely every single aspect or it's an unhealthy/abusive relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 02:48 PM
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Thanks for the advice! I think patience is key. It's one of the things I'm working on in the relationship, RPW has been incredibly helpful in helping with that. :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 02:15 PM
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That's pretty much exactly as my bestfriend and hers. Common law for 7 years now, bought a house and she has two kids from a previous relationship and he cant have any. They have the ring but no rush for a wedding until the kids are older.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 02:11 PM
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I'm glad you wrote more in-dept about your challenges as a RPW. This will be very beneficial for new-comers :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 06:54 PM
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Okay first of all, I am OP. Second, I'm very aware life is not a disney movie. I've stated already that this is the only thing I've ever had planned/or dreamt of. Getting engaged by 25. That's not totally unreasonable considering I've been with the same guy for 5 years now and we're in a healthy spot in our relationship and he has never taken issues with this. Third, it's not a line drawn in the sand. It's just a fantasized expectation, if the expectation is not met then life moves on but it doe…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 06:48 PM
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Wow that is so incredibly ignorant and racist of them. It's 2017, you think people wouldn't have such a stick up their ass about an interracial relationship. Like you're somehow less of a woman because you're with a white guy and you like making his life easy? Or because you're black you're supposed to be dominating? Unbelievable. The profile picture thing is just so - ugh. Nobody should be worshiping anyone, you should just be respectful and loving, worshiping them would mean the level of respe…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 05:16 PM
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Thankfully my idea of 25 and engaged lines up with my relationship. We're in a really good place right now, very healthy, our future together for the next 2-3 years is pretty set and secure (aside from unknown circumstances). Not doing it because it the "time" Moreso I want to do it because it feels like everything is falling into place like I've always dreamed and I'd love it if it didso naturally into my fantasy. You know?
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 05:11 PM
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"Dave DadBod" made me laugh. In my head he is now Chad's more marriageable older brother. This is how he's in my head now too because I also have a solid vision of Chad hahaha
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 05:09 PM
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That's part of it! We both agreed we want to start a family in our early thirties as well as buy a home. Meaning 5 years! I want to have some time for us as a married couple before we throw kids into the mix. We both also agreed we want to live in AUS for a year or two with my family. So that means 3 settled years before our plan for kids. Obv it will vary as time goes on, but we've been on a consistent path for 5 years now so track record says it's the prime time for us. That being said, anywhe…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 05:06 PM
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Hahaha I like how you put it. Thank you!~
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 05:00 PM
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Yep. I'm getting too chatty I think. He hasn't expressed any disinterested or annoyance yet but obviously I don't ever want him to either. So I've been pulling back and just jumping into the conversation when he opens it. Thankfully my best friend is working on planning her wedding so I can use that as a wedding fever outlet. I really, really, really don't want to be a nagging shrew about something that should be so pure and good, so I'm doing what I can to avoid it and it seems to be working. H…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 04:45 PM
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Agreed. Sometimes I feel like they use "strong independent woman" was an excuse as to why they can't relinquish controlling behaviours.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 04:34 PM
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I know, I agree with you. It's immature of me in reality. Thankfully It's only the age thing I've got stuck in my head, no expectations beyond that. I've always been a very free spirited and spontaneous person and we've both agreed we'll be eloping. It's just the only thing I've planned for myself since I was a preteen, which is silly because it's not really my plan to make and try as I might I can't get that thought out of my head. He's been in the loop since day one and say's that works for hi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 04:20 PM
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Wonderful! My only expectation is the time thing. I screwed myself over with that, daydreaming about that magic number since I was a preteen. I keep reminding myself that in the scheme of things, it will happen eventually, it's HIS decision and I want it to be his decision. So I just repeat that to myself haha
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 04:16 PM
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Hamster mode - OFF
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 03:58 PM
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Not good. Your partner should be your #1 confidant, no one else. Means he trusts her more than you and that would not fly.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 03:54 PM
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Hey there! I wear 4" heels daily. Use the ones your husband got you and climb the stairs at home 10 times each day. It'll be good for your butt and your balance. You'll have the railing for safety. Easy if they're carpeted, hard if they're not. So try carpet first then go to the other types of flooring. Try on carpet first, then learn to scurry run. I wore jeans and would try to run up and down the street (i fell, a lot). Try doing the classic book on your head walking in a straight line with no…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 03:51 PM
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I understand! I live in very Liberal Canada. That being said Feminism and all that jazz is full-force here, not even at an OK level but at a "A man needs to care for me but better never expect me to do the same" way. Society definitely has effected how women approach traditional relationships. Often times the "I'm a strong independent woman who doesn't need no man" becomes the headline of their life, instead of a mantra for confidence or something. I know here, collectively, people don't think m…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 03:37 PM
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Both of us don't have any real friends. Just other people we hang around with. We have talked about it and both found out that we aren't the best ones at making them. Start by addressing this. You need real friends beyond your relationship, not just people to fill your time when you're apart. Friends give you different perspectives, they help prevent co-dependence issues and are just overall good for your health. It's hard work to build and maintain friendships, so you have to work on building t…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 03:00 PM
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I did! My boyfriend was not interested in dating anyone since we were in school. The university was in my hometown so I offered to show him around. We hung out for maybe 6 hours and I invited him for dinner at my place. Before heading out I turned and kissed him. He was surprised but returned it with an even better kiss and we've been glued together ever since! Talking marriage now. As far as I know he loves that I made he first move. He said he probably would have friend zoned me and missed out…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/17 11:35 PM
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Thank you <3 I showed it to my boyfriend and he said the same thing! Thankfully with recreational becoming legal on July 1st I'll have much easier access. Right now I have to order online or from my doctor and the oil seems to be the easiest /best value. I didn't know that information before but I always assumed inhaling anything besides oxygen (aside from meds) is probably not the best haha.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 05:03 PM
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Interesting. I mostly vaporize thankfully! once July 1st comes edibles will be much easier to access ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 01:33 AM
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I haven't dated in years but I always wonder about it most just from a "how do people even date with all these apps and hookup culture?!" standpoint. I'd say the following: PROS: Well maintained and petite body small but perky boobs, bubble butt delicate features and long hair give off "cute/nerdy" vibes as well as sexy ones Cooks really well, bakes even better low n-number wants to be a SAHM active & adventurous - works out regularly self-sufficient extremely high sex drive - personally loves g…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/17 07:20 PM
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( I'm 5'5" 111LB) I think the most important key to feeling feminine is wearing clothes that are proper fitting. My daily work outfits are usually a high-waisted midi skirt and a nice blouse with a cozy cardigan. (I live in Northern Canada so warm is key). I also pay attention to my tights and my shoes. I have a few pairs of tights in different colours and pattrerns (mostly black). Allows me a lot of variety in my outfits without having to buy too many tops/bottoms. I'm very minimalist. No jewel…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/17 03:50 PM
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ohhh very helpful thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/17 03:16 PM
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I'm depressed and suffer from panic attacks (at least 1 a week, been PA free for 3 weeks now tho!) Since day 1 my boyfriend has never known how to deal with it - but he cares about the person beyond the illness and that's been enough for him not to think of me as a burden. Sometimes he tells me I'm too much, or it's gone on too long, but I think it's out of frustration. In these situations I reach out to my mom or bestfriend and allow him some room to breath for a bit. Ultimately, you have to wo…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 03:53 PM
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Oooh this seems so much fun! thanks for doing this! Okay here is my question, I believe my boyfriend is scared and hesitant of moving to the next chapter of his life (aka, full adulthood), however he constantly talks about how he wants to, is there anything I can do to speed up the transition or help him with it? I'm getting impatient with him haha
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 02:52 PM
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I get the looming of those 5 months of being stuck. I'm currently at a stuck point myself where I'll be living in a place I don't want to live for another year+ due to my boyfriend's job. I would forget about him first of all, you can respect him as a superior without respecting him as a person and once you start focusing on that, you can stop taking his jabs to heart. He's probably peaked in life, hence why he's such a hostile person. I think a good idea for the time being would be to spend you…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 08:38 PM
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You are both women, so just continue to be both women. There are plenty of opportunities to be the softer more self-conscious version of yourself. It's a great way to become more intimate, especially when you're one on one. People are drawn to vulnerability, so surely he'll still love that part of you. On the other hand, there are plenty of opportunities for you to be the feisty free-spirit you are as well. For example, when you're out on active dates, when you're visiting friends or family, whe…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 09:00 PM
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Well you know you need to address this anxiety for yourself first! Support is very welcome, but it sounds like you're looking for more of a crutch than just support and that's where the waters get murkier. Since we're working on our goals this month start figuring out what you can do to make this transition easier on yourself. Start taking that action. Work on charisma building skills because you're only as incompetent as you allow yourself to be and I'm sure you're doing better than you're givi…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 08:41 PM
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I have a few pairs of panties that not even my boyfriend gets to see. I wear them only on the days I feel icky about myself. They're really fancy and intricate and it gives me a huge boost when I'm out an about!
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 08:35 PM
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