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ADVICEhoneywilds/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 05:32 PM
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I agree completely. I legitimately do not look at other men, I never fantasize about other men. I don’t find other men attractive. Maybe if I were single, I’d be able to? But I’ve been with my husband almost a decade, and I just… do not find other men interesting or attractive. It’s like… they’re “greyed out” in my mind. They’re non-sexual to me. They register in my mind the same way a cousin or something would — no chance of any sexual or romantic thoughts because we’re related, so my mind simp…
/r/RedPillWives29/10/24 06:02 PM
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I more so meant like, she has her own business, she just chooses to work only a small amount per month. Why disclose that if she doesn’t actually want to? I would just say “I’m self-employed, I do X”… she doesn’t really need to tell them how many hours she works! If she doesn’t want to say SAHW. She literally has employment. She doesn’t have any obligation to disclose how much or little she works just because she feels compelled to say she works or stays home.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/24 08:38 PM
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Also you don’t actually owe anyone this info just because they ask. It’s fine to just say, “Hmm, I don’t remember off the top of my head” or something similar if a topic comes up that you don’t feel like you want to discuss in depth.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/24 05:34 PM
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If one of you is neurodivergent and one is neurotypical, then the neurotypical (NT) person will need to do some of the work to understand generally how neurodivergent (ND) people communicate. Keep in mind that NDs have been having to learn NT communication as a “second language” their entire life, and often been punished or excluded for not getting it right. You speak 2 different “languages” when it comes to communication and socialization. Time to bridge the gap. Is there something common you’r…
/r/RedPillWives01/10/24 04:10 PM
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Yeah I was trying to be fair and brief on a long post, so some lines were meant to convey my nuanced feelings and history. clearly I did not communicate effectively bc more ppl were hung up on that than answering my questions, when my goal really wasn’t to form a cohesive narrative lol. i know what happened, i just clearly didn’t communicate it well. oh well. thankfully some people still gave great advice, and I have a lot more clarify on my feelings and approach to this situation going forward.…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/24 12:29 AM
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Thank you. I agree completely. It is so hard to know how to act when he’s asking for one thing, wanting another, then asking me directly what I think. I am not good at lying to him and in this big of a situation, “whatever you think” or “I can’t. I just can’t.” etc only works so long, because he genuinely wants my input. I hear he wants a peaceful relationship with her. It just seems he sees a way to do that without faking it on our end, and I cannot see how, and he doesn’t want me to fake it… B…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/24 05:40 PM
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So then deny my husband’s desire to reconcile? If I were choosing, purely for me, I would not reconcile. My husband clearly wanted to try to reconcile, which is why everyone said to do so. No one likes MIL. We were at a funeral, my MIL did not attend, my husband felt guilty. (MIL is trying to comply with his requests from 2.5 years ago.) Imo, no contact is likely in the future for the reasons you mentioned — she is not going to change. I feel I must have misrepresented things because a lot of pe…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/24 01:27 PM
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Thank you, I appreciate your insight.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/24 11:34 AM
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Thank you, this is very helpful! I do know she is more traumatized than the average person and that plays a role, but I understand trauma really well. I don’t get her culture well. And that does play a role too. I’m not sure what she expected in the first place, but your comment is very helpful, and contextualizes some of her comments. I was very shocked she had any expectation of me ever speaking to her again after the time we fought/yelled, it seemed self-evident to me that I wouldn’t be havin…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/24 04:14 AM
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I don’t over-empathize with her. I recognize she is rightfully mentally ill. I don’t know why you’re calling her evil, when I didn’t. I don’t consider her evil and you do not know her otherwise. Her behavior isn’t even dangerous, let alone evil. It’s annoying and uncouth, but evil…? If that’s your impression then I misrepresented the situation or you’ve projected too much. I am not asking for advice on if I/we should forgive her. I already do forgive her for her past transgressions against me. B…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/24 12:57 AM
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Well no other guest ever says things like “You should’ve tried harder then you wouldn’t need a c-section” lol. I am saying I know she’s unhinged but in the moment I’d like strategies to remain composed. I do overall see her behavior, however unsavory, as a trauma response many times. So when not around her, I feel much compassion and I don’t hold a grudge after. But in the moment what is it I should do? (I have gotten good advice from other commenters so I am just clarifying.) And I gave my advi…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 09:37 PM
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This sounds exactly like our situation. Thank you for sharing. We have only seen her 1x and that was yesterday, planning to chat with her this weekend, hence why I am posting seeking some guidance. thank you for sharing your experience!
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 08:36 PM
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Thank you! “Doing it for the bit” totally resonates.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 08:34 PM
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I feel I didn’t describe it right because more comments have implied I brought it on us, lol. He had a death in his father’s family, we were around everyone except MIL/her parents, and then my husband started feeling some regrets about having cut her off (and maybe that was why she didn’t come to the funeral). He asked me/his father/step mom etc. what to do, if he should reach out, and we almost unanimously said he should reach out, if not to reconnect then to have closure. I did mention that, b…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 08:31 PM
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Thank you for your advice. This is just what I need. My follow up question would be, how to deal with my husband after?? Essentially at this point, he is more upset by the disrespect than me (sometimes in the moment, but mainly after we see her). In the moment, I don’t always react “the high road”, I will occasionally roll my eyes or pull a face (I try hard not to but it’s automatic when she is particularly unhinged)… usually I just ignore she spoke, and most of the time we are with her I feel l…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 08:11 PM
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I left out the story for brevity’s sake but he was reconnecting with his father, the kids meeting his grandmother, meeting his step-mother, step-sisters, all at a funeral… and then he decided (everyone discussing this, which my husband welcomed to input from everyone) to reinitiate contact with his mother. Essentially my husband was seeking clarity about some things, turned to all of these other ppl, who then told him the same advice: you should talk to your mom. So no, I didn’t randomly push hi…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 07:44 PM
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