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In my understanding, DEER is when you start defending your original position. If I was in this situation I'd say something like 'I regretted it and i have decided it's not for me outside of a happy, committed relationship'. Then give room for my hypothetical SO to feel how he feels and decide what he wants to do.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/17 03:38 PM
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Absolutely agree with other users here. The only thing I'd say is don't have sex with someone because you've been dating for x months and because he is petulant about not getting sex because you aren't a virgin. Virginity matters a lot but not so much that you have to give it away to someone new just because you are no longer a virgin. No one is entitled to your body in that way. If it becomes a topic of contention, be honest and direct about why you decided to not engage in sex anymore. Don't D…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/17 09:57 PM
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You know, I struggle with this sometimes. Trying to be helpful can sometimes have the opposite of intended result. I'm realizing when I micromanage, I haven't gotten my fill of alone time. Still a work in progress to recognize it before the damage is done 😬
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 05:54 PM
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Haters gonna hate 💃🏻😉
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 05:51 PM
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Yes. A mission can be as RPW as helping their SO fulfill his mission. The only time a mission can be harmful is if it is in direct contradiction with his AND a compromise cannot be reached. Like in business with partners. A deadlock means there's no positive movement. A person with a mission and hope to fulfill the same is generally a happy person with an internal locus of control. I don't pay much mind to anyone bashing anyone else's path to self actualization. It seems pointless to add to the …
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 05:49 PM
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Same! We can do this! I've been keeping busy with holiday stuff so when we do spend time together, it's new and exciting changes for him. I actually mentioned I am channeling all of my 'I am missing you' energy into nesting and he said he noticed.
/r/RedPillWives11/12/17 09:33 PM
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Gosh, whats wrong with me? I agree, the teenage boy is who I feel the most sorry for. There is no reason whatsoever for an adult in an authority position to have a romantic relationship with kids. It's quite a transgression on my part because Im usually loud about this kind of 'romance' being wrong when I hear anyone talk about how they would have liked it in high school, or had a crush on their teachers. Teenagers are often pushing boundaries and figuring themselves out, it is 100% wrong on any…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 05:43 PM
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I think it's all about power and to be desired in a way only a teenager can. She may want to be the center of someone's universe. That is a place one can get to with lots of work in adult relationship. With teenagers, it's much more common to be swept up in the romance of it all without agency. A pet theory- if she married her high school sweetheart, she has never been in an adult SMP. It's much more 'threatening' in the adult SMP where there are no normalized, over the top romantic gestures lik…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 03:44 PM
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I've been making salsa in a mortar and pestle for dinners frequently. A charred tomato, some chopped garlic, a chili, cilantro, dash of salt and squeeze of lemon. It's super simple but is very flavorful specially with organic ingredients. I don't aim for fine paste, it feels more homey that way haha. I started it when my garden had too many tomatoes but i don't think I'll stop. I thought of making a jar and sealing it but I've fallen in love with the routine of grinding it. the smell and flavor …
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 05:26 PM
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Before we went on a date. We were friends with obvious attraction to each other. It felt very easy to say what I want for myself while he was a friend because it was hypothetical (like OP said) didn't put pressure on him or us. He likedhow much I knew myself. One of the first things that caught his attention was my stance on child rearing. He says it made sense to him and pushed him more towards 'maybe I want kids' while he was solidly in the middle before. I knew I wanted a life with him before…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 05:17 PM
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You sound ambitious. What kind of life do you picture for yourself? Are you trying to build a legacy with someone who is as ambitious as you? If so, it's impossible to accomplish that without the other person's enthusiasm. Has your ex moved on? Why did you break up? You can't force your ex into a life you maybe imagining for yourself. He has to want it with you too. It is worthwhile to wait and fall in love with a partner (even if you are rekindling your relationship with ex) and THEN building a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 05:05 PM
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When I started implementing red pill concepts successfully, the hardest thing was to keep my mouth shut about it. You know how anything that produces really good results has strong supporters? Like someone with chronic fatigue and pain found gluten free diet rids them of every bad feeling in their bodies and can't stop trying to proselytize? Yup.. luckily I never said anything too specific but the instinct was there. I started seeing self destructive BP patterns everywhere and it was hard to thi…
/r/RedPillWives26/10/17 04:40 PM
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A family member has been in a LDR for almost 8 years. What helps them the most is falling asleep on video call on hard nights. Even if you don't have much to say or are working on homework, leaving it on and each doing their own thing, getting ready for bed, saying things as they pop up in your head can mimic intimacy of homelife much easier than anything else. Spotify playlist is always a good one so you can see what he is listening to and match your moods. Podcast discussions. Meeting friends …
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 06:01 PM
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It's less hassle and more being yourself! I'd do it your way if my family didn't want everyone invited 😊 I got engaged this week. No idea when the date is or anything but I'm the happiest I've ever been.
/r/RedPillWives23/09/17 06:08 AM
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You absolutely didn't make it sound like you didn't know how to chat with others. I loved the analysis of female interactions built on the fsm theory. I'm sure you are great at it because imo all it takes is a personality and you definitely have that! I think this sub is not an exception from an fsm. Maybe a delayed response one but an fsm nonetheless. We like to agree on things here :D Thank you so much for writing up various conversations paths for aesthetics. I have a style that I've had sinc…
/r/RedPillWives23/09/17 05:42 AM
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Congratulations! What's the day looking like?
/r/RedPillWives23/09/17 05:31 AM
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I think stylists spend so much time in close proximity to other women engaging in mutual primping activities that there's no need for formal practice. All women want to feel beautiful and pampered which stylists are in the position to give. How exciting for you meet your SO's office! That can be nerve wracking too. Its always extremely helpful for me to look the best I can, smile a lot, be present, engage in any party activities, say 'yes' more than 'no, thank you'. If you find yourself separate…
/r/RedPillWives22/09/17 11:07 PM
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There are more ways to organise a society other than "barbaric + rapey" and "feminism". Hahahaha yes!
/r/RedPillWives22/09/17 10:17 PM
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Yay! Good for you.
/r/RedPillWives15/09/17 03:45 PM
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If he wants to do it, it is likely because he is turned on by it. Maybe have music playing in the background. It always helps me from overthinking with soft jazz in the background. If he is someone you look up to, one act cannot change that. He can bring you to orgasm which is likely one of the most vulnerable states. He can do that. That is power. He can study your body and make you respond to him. It can make him even more powerful. An orgasm changes the feeling of a woman for a man during PIV…
/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 01:58 AM
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She had fun with you. Perfect after date text. Don't overthink it. Do what you were doing.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/17 02:37 PM
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My favorite is traveling abroad with him. His coolness under pressure is reassuring and I always feel safe no matter where we are. I am getting better at understanding what he means just with body language. It inspires trust, deference and stfu when dealing with sticky situations. We have gotten closer together through every mind-blowing experience. It literally feels like we are the only people in the world when we cannot understand anything or anyone. My second favorite is hanging out at parks…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 10:25 PM
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Classic!
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 10:18 PM
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That sounds super fun and silly! I am gonna try to sell it to the SO :D
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 10:18 PM
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Small spaces, adrenaline, you vs the world. Thats really romantic! I like controlled fear inducing date nights. Have fun!
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 10:17 PM
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Thank you :) can we have a recurring post to talk about the fun of a good relationship? I always feel like I can't be extra giddy about it irl when most people are struggling to communicate basic needs to their SO.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 03:18 PM
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I am amazed by the ending. How could she be the one settling with her real name attached to publicly professing continued attendance to mediocre sex parties? Eww.
/r/RedPillWives02/08/17 05:03 PM
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I hope articles like this published in Vogue leads to reflection on the logical conclusion of what society is pushing women to do. To sacrifice biology for an interesting life...Vogue has, more or less, been guiding womanhood through the last century. The whole glorious single phenomena perpetuated by SATC and Carrie were synonymous with Vogue and style for a while. Slapping Vogue and style on Carrie's sad modern story romanticized the idea of lonely nights, brunches obsessed with analyzing ever…
/r/RedPillWives02/08/17 04:57 PM
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When he heads out for work, I sometimes walk out to the balcony and wait for him to look up. The morning crowd in our intersection sees me blowing kisses and him catching them. There's usually an older lady who will say 'Oh young love!' or something similar. Its been going on for as long as we have lived in this apartment. I love that I can still pull at his heart strings like that. We are both pretty serious people but goof off and have romantic gestures like that for small everyday things. He …
/r/RedPillWives01/08/17 11:01 PM
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Which archetypes are you most drawn to? Where do you see your husband falling on the spectrum? Don't forget that Greater Betas (and all men in general) are represented in the Jungian archetypes! I am drawn to the renegade and SO is apex renegade. He enjoys doing his own thing - mastering skills, gathering knowledge, living by his own rules and defining his own success. His archetype is mostly magician and lover. It takes time for a new social group to recognize his strengths but over time, he be…
/r/RedPillWives27/07/17 04:38 PM
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I think feminism has enabled both men and women to take little responsibilities. Having inter gender dialogs more has allowed for the hardships to come out, which, in a sense, is good but its also started a meme generation celebrating stagnancy and lack of control in life. Motive is I would never be happy by myself, doing things for myself. I mean, I still eat crackers or ramen if its just me. I will go all out if I'm sharing meals. Perfect marriage would be growing together and respecting each …
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 10:11 PM
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Sigma. Lucky girl!
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 09:10 PM
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Are you successful? Intelligent in one way or another? Do you have clear skin and nice teeth? Do you wear clothes that fit you? Do you have a nice posture? Do you have friends that you like and help you grow? Do you have joy in life? Without these things first, its futile to give up because of race and height. Its like not playing the hand at all, however shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/17 03:50 PM
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I don't care about your autobiography. Why does everyone in that sub have this delusion that they deserve love? No one deserves love. People work for it or don't. That includes you. It's tacky for people in glass houses to throw stones.
/r/TheRedPill27/06/17 02:04 AM
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Yet you are the 30 year old asking around when to sleep with a guy or not. Most girls figure this push and pull game by the time they are in high school. Flirting around in TRP, asking TRPmen if they are interested when they ask what your timeline is while answering your question... doesn't add up to be a quality woman who has it figured out. Its great to like TRP advice and find friends in men but 'I am not like other girls' snowflak-ing is just sad.
/r/TheRedPill27/06/17 12:08 AM
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"I crave deep, intense fellowship, and sometimes the early stages of friendship irritate me to the point where I'd rather just keep myself company." Ahaha are we the same people? 👆🏽 Check. Double jointed arms? Check. Tight hip flexors? Check. Writer? Check. Jokes aside, we can talk more about this on PM if you want. I think I have a good handle on it now but oh so many years of struggle.
/r/RedPillWives23/06/17 06:24 PM
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Please update us on your work with the Jungian analyst. I didn't know it was a thing but I'm very curious now :) I'm an INFP so I have different areas to work on.
/r/RedPillWives23/06/17 05:55 PM
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I think life can get hard and mundane. I'm in my early-late 20s (that's a thing I made up.. ) but life went from a guided path to 'I have to decide who I want to be' pretty quickly. That's why younger women are sought after more. It's not so much the skin or the figure as it is the carefree nature. Don't beat yourself up. I've read some other place about you dealing with anxiety. That's normal too. This is unsolicited and a bit hippie but we are trying to make sense of why we happen to be alive …
/r/RedPillWives23/06/17 05:50 PM
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That's a very good one I could revisit more often 😳
/r/RedPillWives23/06/17 04:02 PM
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I think Tempest always emphasized it. From what I know, her relationship didn't follow the most advised RP trajectory. It really helped me take RP knowledge and be happy with my own relationship and how it came to be. It also helps me appreciate him as a multidimensional human who can have many different thoughts and feelings. At its core, our dynamic is very RP but there isn't enough RP literature to define all of what we are together.
/r/RedPillWives23/06/17 04:01 PM
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I started inviting him to social outings, letting him into my life and presenting myself as a whole human in a dynamic relationship with others in my life. Dates can be intimate and escalate but there's a distance in social situations that can be just as intimate. Hopefully he'd invite the girl into his life as well. You can share new experiences that are ill conducive to escalation. But of course, conversations will go there if he's attracted. It's best to enjoy the buildup, acknowledge it and …
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 03:57 PM
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I will use your suggestions to focus on others. I've been so happy in the last two years and love talking about how beautiful life feels 🤦🏾‍♀️Doesn't hurt that he is always smirking when I go on about it. I would definitely hate to be boring! I can't forget that he fell in love with me, in part, because of my vivacious nature. It can be such a signifier of being a happy woman.
/r/RedPillWives23/06/17 03:33 PM
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This is so very important! You don't want to express dissatisfaction of 1 min and have all the other amazing qualities clouded by that
/r/RedPillWives22/06/17 05:57 PM
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Yes! Sometimes negative attention feels better than no attention. Without RP knowledge, I wouldn't be mindful enough to inspire a positive attention when I need it.
/r/RedPillWives22/06/17 05:56 PM
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Internalizing RP is descriptive not prescriptive did the most in terms of having a good relationship. When I read that the craving for drama is feminine and it's okay to seek it as long as it's not disruptive, my whole life became so much easier. I could stop being perfect in my thoughts and gossip sometimes (gasp!) without an internal crucification.
/r/RedPillWives22/06/17 01:52 PM
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Oh wow! I found someone who understands. This is the video I follow for hip flexor. I will sometimes do it twice in the evening since it's so short . https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=qZTGgEWPbLk
/r/RedPillWives21/06/17 08:54 PM
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Inner beauty - Work on a quiet confidence. I am quite sure I came upon a huge character flaw in a recent friends' getaway. I like attention too much, maybe. Anyway! I would like to be in a place where I feel comfortable being a wallflower. specially if whatever I am saying can be perceived as braggadocios in anyway. I had to work to be comfortable with attention and I guess I overcorrected. Romantic relationship - I want to restart writing love letters for him again. It has been a while and the …
/r/RedPillWives21/06/17 12:45 AM
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I haven't read the novel. My only problem has been not associating Peggy Olson from Mad Men with the protagonist on this one.
/r/RedPillWives21/06/17 12:29 AM
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Thank you! Will look for a kindle copy :)
/r/RedPillWives21/06/17 12:28 AM
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Maybe you could finish the show :D
/r/RedPillWives20/06/17 10:18 PM
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Succinct and powerful! It is very appearance heavy and nobody seems happy in the depiction. I know nobody would be dancing for joy but everyone seems to be deluded in 'their calling' even if they are the few that are not oppressed by the system.
/r/RedPillWives20/06/17 09:14 PM
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My thoughts I am not for a society as such but I cannot help but wonder if I wouldn't be happy as a handmaid if the whole world was somehow infertile but I wasn't? I am against the punitive nature of depicted society as individual problems can only be suppressed for so long before a change is forced. I was thinking why the handmaids wouldn't be provided an elite station and encouraged via controlled rewards (no separation from previous kids could be a start and a minimum). After all, we have you…
/r/RedPillWives20/06/17 09:09 PM
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I really like it! This should be discussed and it is better when it comes from a woman so the misogyny blame can go f itself. Though I have been hearing redpillwives described as a group of women with internalized misogyny... what does that even mean? Lets fight the monsters in our own minds' closets till we are blue in the face and losing actual human rights. It breaks my heart that some European countries are experiencing a very tough time with assimilation of large numbers of foreigners. Righ…
/r/RedPillWives20/06/17 05:22 PM
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Your last paragraph reminded me of the great discussion we had here. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/5hfw3x/how_do_you_define_cheating/
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 08:40 PM
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I said curiosity because it seems like my SO always wants to know 'why' while I may or may not care. It means he always has something to teach me and will go very deep into any topic. His industry also requires continuing education so ambition and curiosity goes hand in hand for him. Its nice that the same curiosity translates to our relationship, like he's always asking me why I made one choice over something else. It just keeps us talking more than anything else. I also love his attention to d…
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 08:35 PM
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Deal breakers when I was dating would have been kids from another woman lack of ambition, curiosity, self knowledge (!) lying not embellishing stories or exaggerating for effect no social circle -- huge red flag for me when no one will vouch for a person does not want a family is emotionally withdrawn is bigoted I encountered the lying in a past relationship. I was lied to about having had a college degree. I forgave him for that and was able to move on, really. We broke up for completely differ…
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 07:20 PM
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This sucks. There's nothing you can do right now. Take care of your emotional health and your baby. Let him give you an explanation, let him fix it. If you act so hurt, its higher chance that he will try to keep you safe from any future losses by hiding than transparent discussion. Money is important but if your day to day isn't impacted a lot, I would suggest this is your time to exercise the trust in your husband.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 08:46 PM
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Everything you say is gold! Sex reminds me on a consistent basis that its okay and preferred that I am vulnerable, girly and GOLF. That pile of clothes on the bedroom floor? A mountain I must tackle immediately if I haven't been intimate with him in a while. Otherwise, its something I can choose to take care of, or not, and it doesn't affect my mood. It relieves anxiety, any need for control and puts a brake on the shit tests while increasing my unquestioning trust. Fresh memory of sex in couple…
/r/RedPillWives01/06/17 11:43 PM
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I'd like to see a discussion about how a man evolves in partnership with a RPW or how RPW strive to be. Most men aren't red pill aware so I'm interested in seeing how natural alphas or greater betas respond and evolve in a non blue pill centric environment we strive to create at home.
/r/RedPillWives25/05/17 01:13 AM
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No, what's good for women will not always be good for everyone in general. Shorter distances between hubs (grocery stores, more crosswalks), sustainable lights along the streets, increased courtyard spaces will be good for families and elderly along with women. In general though, its never a good idea to cater to a group of people and say 'its better for everyone this way'. If each idea has to go through a filter of 'Will this be good for women?' the system becomes tyrannical and we will forego …
/r/RedPillWives23/05/17 07:59 PM
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So many great tips already! For decoration, lighting is key. I love string lights and floor lamps to keep it cozy. It's spring still so local flowers add a nice touch. Make a playlist or choose a couple of Spotify ones and hook up your speakers ahead of time. I always, always forget to buy ice because its the last thing I need to buy so don't forget that :P A nice charcuterie board with olives, cheese, crostini, cheese, grapes, figs for appetizer is so easy to assemble once the shopping is done.…
/r/RedPillWives26/04/17 09:37 PM
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It's your duty to yourself to get mentally healthy. If you are considering marriage, it's your duty to him and your shared life goals as well. It's difficult to turn off anxiety but the only thing you can do is covered by cliche advice you hear everywhere. Like consistent exercise, healthy food habits, meditation, forging deep social roots, CBT, one in one therapy, journaling. What you may not hear elsewhere is all these things are your responsibility no matter how hard it becomes. Someone that'…
/r/RedPillWives24/04/17 02:42 PM
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Why did you guys start dating?
/r/RedPillWives24/04/17 02:32 AM
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The top replies cover everything. Can you be happy despite the cheating? If no, don't martyr yourself and let yourself live. This may or may not apply but below is a page from the book "War of Art" that talks about creating drama in our lives (hamster) to avoid something bigger (in this book its creativity). I believe that staying in obviously incompatible relationships is a symptom of feeding the hamster and avoiding something else. Why are you in this relationship after it's hurt you and dragg…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/17 05:55 PM
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You gotta stop thinking about your own smv, I can't imagine it has no effect on your conduct. You aren't a sex object, internalize that you are an awesome experience where sex is a part of but not all of it
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 05:22 PM
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Don't have sex before monogamy. Be okay with them having sex with others before you give it up. Build relationship on family values and future more than common interests. If you build it on intrrrst, it makes sense they are fwb zoning you. You shouldn't bring up status talks but you should know how much time and emotional investment you will give before you walk away. Sex after monogamy
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 05:19 PM
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Look up girl game, read Laura Doyle 'surrendered single'. Be an experience that geishas and courtesans captured back in the day. Make them wait for sex but once you do start it, make it an awesome experience again. I'm not advocating doing things you aren't comfortable with but definitely look into his eyes, dirty talk, random bjs, strip tease, tease him mercilessly, make it fun, combine everyday things with naughtiness. That's the best thing after you start having sex to going to fiancée/wife l…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 04:07 PM
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Well the fact of the matter is you are still struggling. How RP are you? 'You obviously did not read......different ballgame' People have spent tons of time giving you suggestions that you reply to with 'I already do that' or 'it's LA, you wouldn't understand' Your whole post history is this same question. Evolutionarily, you are the one failing and almost past 30 being plated. You can't survive in your surroundings and be happy whatever those terms are for you. You are the one asking for advice…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 03:23 PM
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Your SMV is sky rocket high (according to you..) and RMV is shit from your post history. Where is the humility, GOLF, childlike wonder, cuteness, something to give men a reason to love and protect you? I bet you are a nag more than a soft place to land. this is equivalent to a nice guy who has a nice career, okay looks and NO GAME to inspire women to be with him complaining on the internet. 'I pay for her, we have fun and she fucks Chad '. The problem is you. Search for girl game and implement i…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 02:17 PM
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It is a very difficult situation to be in because even if you leave, it will take a long time before you can heal fully. You will have been alpha widowed in the most extreme sense because of true love that you have shown such great sacrifice for. If you think you can live with yourself and make a happy family life after leaving, tell him and do so. If you don't think you can, you got to effectively man up, go to grad school, get a better job and be okay with not having a family life. I only say …
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 05:49 PM
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You can't build a life with the man he is half the time. Maybe he will get better and if he does, it will be because he wills into being better. But, don't stay if you can't picture & come to terms with the worst case scenario. If you stay for the best case scenario, know that the probability of your dreams coming true is much much lower as drug addiction is like a force of nature with heavy collateral damage.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 04:34 PM
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I am not up to tackling this at all. The romantic in me wants you guys to make it against all odds and have a story worthy of passing along generations. The pragmatic side is not quite so nice. You are dealing with a lot. No one expects you to be a RPW in the face of unmanageable distress leading to a psychotic break. You need a reset. Debt is a terrible thing but if it is 20k and it props your career, it can be looked at as a worthy investment. Tell us why you are with him. Do you have a agreed…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 07:33 AM
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For sure! Now that I understand better, I see the strength of grace and poise of her femininity but when I was little, I just thought it HAD to be easy work for her to execute it flawlessly most days...smh..
/r/RedPillWives27/03/17 02:21 PM
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Some are raised in anti-feminist families to be good wives and mothers but when they are young, they look down on domesticity as drudgery, beneath critical thinking and kind of unnecessary. Like, if their moms can do it and make it look easy, IT MUST BE! When they grow up, they crawl back to their mothers tail tucked between legs for tips on how to get & keep a paradise. No, I am not talking about myself at all ;)
/r/RedPillWives27/03/17 02:09 PM
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The younger woman said you were like an uncle or second father because she thought you were being creepy, establishing familial relationship to get you to stop leering, talking down or whatever else uncomfortable thing you were doing. Women aren't running around in the wild trying to find daddy. If you are talking just as much IRL about highly private things and replying to yourself in a weird 'pseudo-intellectual' masturbatory fashion, you are making everyone uncomfortable. Glad your wife is sl…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/17 08:41 PM
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Fresh and quality is definitely the way to go. I'll have to steal the bagel spread idea. All day brunch sounds so luxurious tbh ❤
/r/RedPillWives12/03/17 05:10 AM
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Amazing tips! Thank you so much
/r/RedPillWives12/03/17 05:09 AM
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Such good tips! Thank you :D
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 01:21 AM
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I should revisit her book and blog posts! I suppose I was getting too eager & hamstering a bit with some big events in the horizon :) Couldn't agree more about being on top of anything going on in our lives. Its shocking how much of a difference self care makes. When everything is taken care of and on point (as much as it can be realistically), so much mental energy just frees up for 'living'.
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 01:20 AM
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Aww thank you! Glad you enjoy it.
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 01:15 AM
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That's great! Its important to complement our partners.
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 01:15 AM
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I love throwing parties, can't wait for the weather to be good enough for a garden party! Any tips on those? Cooking well is such a good sign of femininity. Thank you for your tips :)
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 01:14 AM
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Most jobs are not careers and deal with industries that do not further humanity in any tangible way. If someone can afford to stay home and contribute to the overall happiness of their home and family (including extended family and immediate community), it is up to them. There are studies that show after 78k/yr income, a family's happiness level doesn't necessarily rise with increase in annual income. Cultivating social circle, interests, learning ways to be an able parent or volunteering isn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 08:04 PM
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Ahahaha I love this!
/r/RedPillWives09/03/17 06:06 PM
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Off the top of my head, Look good and be comfortable in the clothes & makeup for the occasion. When I am happy with the way I look, I am engaged because I don't have to waste mental energy being self conscious. Internalize the people and setting for the event. Playing up the doting SO facet is super well received by someone like his mom vs his boss. I keep in mind who the audience is and which characters they would like to see most in him. This is baseline but never interrupt, rush his thoughts …
/r/RedPillWives09/03/17 06:04 PM
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Gotta love feminists collective hamster. Men aren't debating Emma Watsons affiliation with feminism. They also aren't the ones blaming Taylor Swifts dating habits. Men aren't the primary consumers of celebrity gossip magazines. Emma Watson (or her PR) and the magazine anticipate such headlines and raise in circulation that go with it. It's not about her stance on feminism, it's about money.
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 07:56 PM
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Thats true! Maybe an uber in the middle of the night is preferable lol
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 02:32 PM
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Yes, exactly. Was listening to an episode of "Why oh Why" podcast and the narrator's relationship died after 2 years because the guy finally decided to tell her he never wants kids. On her last night in their shared apartment, he downloads Tinder. She opines he downloaded it so he could see if he can get the same feeling again. He retorts "No, to see if I still have it"... She waited too long to have the kids talk because she wasn't sure he would want any with her. Consciously or subconsciously,…
/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 08:53 PM
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We definitely should have a thread like that. I could stand to learn more about it haha
/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 08:08 PM
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I'm under 30 and something that is happening less is actual dating. Netflix and chill, hanging out, hooking up etc seem more ubiquitous. There have always been couples that fell into a relationship but courting seems shorter, different, less personal as online dating evolves. It's not depressing to me as change of SMP is inevitable with technology. I do feel for young girls that think "being the cool chick that doesn't care about labels" is more important than voicing their true desires. Myself …
/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 05:40 PM
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Was it usually the same night or the next day?
/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 04:46 PM
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He started a new and more demanding job after our sabbatical. I'm keeping the home as before. Being sweet, happy, deferring and treating him like a King everyday helps him be just that much better at his job. We won't be traveling nearly as much this year so I'll be ensuring our social calendar doesn't hit a rut. Forging new friendships, hosting, planning weekend activities etc. Socializing with his colleagues and making him look good also falls here. We are also looking at potential investment …
/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 06:37 PM
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Meditate everyday until you know where this deep unhappiness is coming from. You are responsible for your own happiness. Spend time alone in your own thoughts - no book, radio, music, movie, Reddit. Work out to the point of exhaustion to literally tire out your hamster. Take supplements for better health and mind your nutrition. This stuff is for you and you alone. Do you want to be the girlfriend that he needs to save energy for and has to pull up all the time or his girl that he can count on? …
/r/RedPillWives15/02/17 11:16 PM
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Hah! That's really good
/r/RedPillWives15/02/17 04:54 PM
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I 100% agree that no one should be marrying someone they aren't happy with. Kind people don't break their dad's hearts doing it. In front of everyone he would hope to share his little girl's happiness with. So he isn't the greatest of men ANYWAYS! Lol, right? Her picker is broken. I think your relationship sounds lovely. Even in relationships where you are jumping out of planes and scuba diving in the same week, the in between moments need to be nurtured with laughter, love, excitement, passion …
/r/RedPillWives14/02/17 04:26 PM
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I interpret it as being your own Prince Charming. When dating without purpose wasn't very common, women were sold the idea that someone will come along and break their life's monotony. Now most women have had a couple of relationships and experienced the post honeymoon phase where everyone is solely responsible for their own happiness & wellbeing. The same kind of women that brought into the idea that someone somewhere will come along and save them from their lives are the same kind of women buy…
/r/RedPillWives14/02/17 03:46 PM
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I know the general RP narrative is women have it so easy because of attention but that last paragraph makes her life sound difficult. Not getting any attention sucks and getting that much attention when you are out with friends also sucks. Even if the receiver enjoys it at the moment, usually theres a downside of not developing a personality when everyone else your age is. Two ends of spectrum, none is ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/17 10:33 PM
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I didn't see it coming. I internally freaked out and tried to hold on to the feeling of being constantly in awe & need and manufactured moments where we ought to have felt this way or that way. Of course I got disappointed and of course he saw right through it :/ That is my biggest RPW fail. We had some talks. I realized that I cannot be so overtly obsessed with spending time with him, seeing him as often as possible and actually doing active stuff together when we are together. When we first go…
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 02:20 PM
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INFP and in an interracial relationship. The relationship was a result of combination of proximity, interest, eerily identical core values made rich by vastly different life experiences. Our families are same class but our culture is very different. I'm not an active participant in the culture for my birth country - anything I participate in is a factor of my parents' involvement. So presently, mine and his culture of choice revolve around books, good music, travel, intellectual friends and crea…
/r/RedPillWives07/01/17 07:38 AM
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My rule, for myself, for cheating is no friendship with a guy if he's not at least equally friends with my SO. Even the most intellectually stimulating friendships need to be foregone because mind is a sexual organ. I respond to guy friends I grew up with if they reach out on social media. Its never a real time conversation and never specific (generic questions like how are you? when are you coming back? how is family? etc). I would not hesitate to show these to my SO if he asked. Other than tha…
/r/RedPillWives10/12/16 07:38 AM
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That's incredibly big hearted of you! understand the compromises as we are in similar dynamics. By now, I know not to question when he wants to splurge but if I'm stressed for any reason, it's an internal battle to ngaf haha! Bleak is certainly not how I'd describe either of our lives 🤑
/r/RedPillWives10/12/16 07:28 AM
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Thank you. Congratulations on making such prudent decisions. You reap what you sow and I am so happy for you.
/r/RedPillWives04/12/16 07:31 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives04/12/16 07:29 PM
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Of course. Enjoy :)
/r/RedPillWives04/12/16 07:29 PM
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Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWives04/12/16 07:29 PM
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Done :D Thank you for pushing me to. I hope you enjoy it.
/r/RedPillWives03/12/16 09:13 PM
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I am going to post its own thread per Bella's suggestion and include answers to your Qs there. Do you really think I can just mention the traditional marriage of man as a breadwinner and wife as a housewife safely? I didn't mean to imply you should mention directly but alluding to it like how great it was if some of your lady family members stayed home to raise kids, benefits of homeschool over public education, family dinner time, homemade meals etc. Share what food you make for your family and…
/r/RedPillWives03/12/16 07:38 PM
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Thank you Bella! I would love to share what I know. What kinds of things would you Be interested in? Lmk here and I'll incorporate that into my draft
/r/RedPillWives03/12/16 04:30 PM
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Mommy does love me.
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 05:32 PM
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Maven.co has a section for executive secretary for people who need help with administrative work but don't need a full time secretary. I used to do this for a couple of different people. There is more security in this than a one off assignment because you are helping busy people and busy people don't want to look for or train a new secretary. Some universities also have data entry jobs you could do remotely that pays better than for-profit businesses because they use grant money :P There are som…
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 05:19 PM
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Ahhh I keep forgetting financial independence can also mean "have your own money". There is this concept of financial independence and retiring early (FI/RE) by investing enough money that you can live on 3-4% of vested returns every year. Like you, I always knew I would like to be SAHM. I chose to pursue FI/RE my first real job out of college (before I met SO). I didn't want to leave my dreams up to chances so I was building a portfolio that would ensure I can at least stay home for a couple of…
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 04:57 PM
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This is so similar to what my ideal life :D It is hard to ask if he would enjoy a housewife early in dating. I can tell you how this convo with SO happened. I had been living very frugally and saving a large % of my income. This lifestyle is hard to miss when you see it in dating. For example, I would suggest picnics or cooked meal for dates instead of going places. The topic of frugality came naturally. When he asked, I answered honestly that I wanted to be financially independent as soon as po…
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 03:13 AM
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Being a freelance designer or developer or online retailer is a good way to get into it. Maven is good website to look around. It has its own hassles and the sinking feeling that it may not go as planned. I strongly advise 6mo-1year of indiscretionary expenses saved before going freelance. In a corporate setting, I have seen designers, developers, financial analysts, underwriters etc successful at negotiating work from home options. Good luck :D
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 02:09 AM
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SO and I were talking about the usefulness of marriage in keeping people together despite difficult circumstances like infidelity, financial troubles, health issues. We are social creatures so it would make sense we want to uphold our social commitment and everyone hates dealing with legal things so it creates a deterrent. My rule, for myself, for cheating is no friendship with a guy if he's not at least equally friends with my SO. Even the most intellectually stimulating friendships need to be …
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 02:02 AM
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that marriage is bad for men and that men should avoid it, but it's just as dangerous for women too if they're not forward thinking or perceptive enough I think this is old school traditional thinking which I subscribe to. I actually think a broken marriage is more dangerous for women. It is precious time lost, higher n count and shorter runway to recovery. So sorry to hear of your grandma's story. It is terrifying and I hope she had other joys in life. I think in a situation like this, every ch…
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 01:32 AM
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Future homemaker :) I work from home and my work load is never same but never too stressful. Although I am known to sometimes take them stressfully.
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 12:54 AM
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We jokingly refer to it as glitch in my alien brain. Still waiting for the software update to make it more seamless... bahahaha
/r/RedPillWives23/11/16 07:56 PM
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busy being mom and feel more assertive, maybe? That's so interesting. Just the other day I was on the phone with mom in my native language, SO asked something as I was getting off the phone and I answered in detail in my native language ...he doesn't understand ... I feel that way with different languages all the time and I can feel my brain changing gears as I step out of one language into another. It makes sense to me that there would be a lag between the roles of mom and wife. In one, you are…
/r/RedPillWives23/11/16 06:22 PM
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I really like how you explained the differences in your roles and your reassurance sources. Similar here :D
/r/RedPillWives23/11/16 05:33 PM
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Like a panini press?
/r/RedPillWives19/11/16 03:38 PM
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Thank you! Understanding oneself is paramount when you are trying to make others understand and love you. Every body will react differently to period based on genes, age, health etc. I think it is more important that women know their own body and moods that go with having physical discomfort. When our partners understand our already well understood bodies, the relationship reaps the rewards. Good luck, it is an awesome thing you are doing.
/r/RedPillWives18/11/16 05:45 PM
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In descending order of my preference - light stubble, clean shaven, full beard and heavy stubble. Light stubble suggests an oversight in otherwise regular care. It makes me feel like something was so important and urgent that he just skipped shaving. Clean shaven is good self care and I like that too. I liked full beard a lot before I knew how much maintenance can go into it. It trended a couple of years ago and a friend told me about the oil treatments he does, I felt the mystery just vanished.…
/r/RedPillWives18/11/16 05:27 PM
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That is awesome! It amazes me how incredibly daunting certain physiological things (secondary sex traits) can feel when you don't have an educated scaffolding to define it by. know the culture of "well she is going to have periods eventually and it will be a nuisance to deal with". I learned the physical aspects of the cycle in middle school but the hormonal only as a college student. Perhaps incorporating info on the dominating hormones in different stages along with the effects will give your …
/r/RedPillWives18/11/16 05:14 PM
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My SO has had LTR's before me so I think the knowledge from those relationships carries into ours. Living with an ex girlfriend seems like how he learned. I appreciate that he knows reproductive cycle and how I react to it. It is never an actual topic of discussion though. The most helpful thing during PMS or period is that he remains unaffected by it! Some things he does that I have noticed - comfort tests are handled (amused mastery works the best for me), he is unfazed by any accidents and he…
/r/RedPillWives18/11/16 04:58 PM
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I am not a good baker because I can never follow direction. Improvising is my game but I have made this a couple of times now and it's not hard! It seems fancy but you never use the oven. It sits overnight so the cake itself gets very moist. Tips: Make one in a cake tin and one in a coffee mug so you can check how it turned out. It takes time but be patient. None of it is terribly hard work. I watched Gossip Girl without regret coz like "I am working.." o_o I use an Ikea cappucino frother to whi…
/r/RedPillWives17/11/16 03:21 PM
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I met my SO's family all at once and I am happy for it. I am sure your BF has talked about you to his family and they are eager to meet you as well. Time passes quickly with small get-to-know chitchats amongst many people. My recommendation is to bring something homemade & delicious (check with BF), dress in something that you are comfortable & confident in, try to remember everyone's names but know you may not be able to, listen more than talk, smile, breathe deeply and avoid alcohol. Also, be …
/r/RedPillWives16/11/16 06:45 PM
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Ooo that's interesting. I did a quick search and couldn't find much. Would you care to elaborate or point me to studies? Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives16/11/16 04:38 PM
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higher SMV men would be more likely to bring porn customs into the real world Do you think women primally attracted to their partners are willing to go further in physical acts than ones who aren't?
/r/RedPillWives16/11/16 04:36 PM
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Thank you :D There have been social studies showing a divergence in attractiveness based on your family status. It makes sense right? Better inside & out care including quality food, dentist, minor cosmetic surgeries, better style, more time to spend on grooming etc all before you are of legal age. That also bring a certain confidence that is hard to fake. I see the trendy imperfections in fashion a lot. Like teeth gap, freckles etc. But then I am not convinced they will ever be more than trends…
/r/RedPillWives16/11/16 04:31 PM
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I love all the answers here already and agree with most of them. Here are some of my thoughts that haven't been voiced yet. Do you feel like social media and the internet in general increases the sense of competition among women? Yes. I think Cindy Crawford said something like "I'd love to look like Cindy Crawford on the magazine cover too!". While women can draw inspiration to improve in the SMP in response to social media, no one can compete with the two dimensional perfect images. But most al…
/r/RedPillWives16/11/16 04:24 AM
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Him - my calm and rock. He loves me just the way I have always hoped and says no just how I need him to. For my parents. They are seemingly tireless and never have a single complaint. For a little brother who is mature, inspiring and masculine just like dad. I couldn't be more proud of him. I cannot wait to see him and hear of all his OCS stories. It's only been a month or so but I find myself thinking he will be unrecognizable. Eeee! For friends who I can disagree with and learn from.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 07:07 PM
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Something I've observed recently: the SJW community invests so much time into essentially saying "You're helping us wrong" that they're probably pushing away people who could actually have a lot to offer them. Recently encountered a woman (let's call her A) who couldn't understand why her boss would ask "Are you okay?" instead of assuming what was upsetting to her. Even if the boss KNEW what was wrong, A was nicely given a platform to speak. Instead of thanking the guy, he was being derided behi…
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 06:53 PM
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I am going to use coconut oil for moisturizing everyday. My skin could be doing better during this weather change.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 06:43 PM
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Hahaha stay, you are funny!
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 06:08 PM
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I meant it more as an excuse and definitely don't think there is a predictable correlation between merit and success. Connections and timing matter greatly! They both also need work to cultivate. Significant amount of people can't turn connections and timing into tangible success or happiness. Significant amount of people work hard without tangible success as well. Most successful people have to try many different approaches to get there. NSFW language but this is what I mean
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 06:08 PM
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Yes! It's hilarious when people complain about not having had the same opportunities or connections or whatever in the age of internet. It literally has never been easier to learn and the playing field has never been this leveled. That fact doesn't stop people from looking at finished version of success to immediately and vocally validate their lack of initiative amongst peers so they can continue not doing anything about it.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 05:58 PM
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I think you have the wrong thread, your opinions are very popular with me
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 05:51 PM
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After the age of 23-26, if you cannot establish healthy boundaries with family members or friends, it says a lot more about you than them. After any traumatic experience, everyone gets a short time to lick their wounds but you should be able to find resilience without falling into unhealthy habits. Needing to talk some things out with trusted close ones and seeking guidance is healthy. Needing to do so repeatedly without heeding advice is attention seeking. It is cruel to blame having a family a…
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 05:47 PM
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I did well on things that I could out loud say "yes" to. However, I am dealing with some anxiety so I could do better in all areas of life. The weekend was great once again but there were instances where I wasn't following his lead readily and wholeheartedly. I am journaling to see the trajectory of my mind. Will continue to work on this challenge while we move on to the next one.
/r/RedPillWives14/11/16 07:43 PM
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That is... not ideal... I don't necessarily know what you can do to overhaul your situation. You have 5 children with him so this is for life. It will only be easy if you let go. If you accept that the fortune is now lost and that you will feel some pangs of scarcity. This is definitely not RPW advice but I am intimate with the arranged marriage culture and I have seen some women in this situation make it work by "topping from the bottom". Insert My Big Fat Greek Wedding quote "The man is the he…
/r/RedPillWives11/11/16 04:48 AM
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Well this teaches me not to correlate wisdom and age blindly. Happy birthday!
/r/RedPillWives09/11/16 04:10 PM
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Ugh right? I am re-watching Mad Men and it seems like that's what the show is portraying to be true. Even if this phenomenon was exaggerated for the show, less women were "fun single girls" in that era with most tied closely to their family and community. Now, its the opposite. When you are a fun single girl among a million others in the same city (let's say in NYC where most models live at least part time and new ones arriving every day), the chances of a roaring social scene is very low. Combi…
/r/RedPillWives08/11/16 05:51 PM
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Nice and organic with a Vegas twist. Love it!
/r/RedPillWives08/11/16 03:33 PM
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That is an amazing amount of time of being together. If you don't mind me asking, what made you want to get married after successful 10+ years with him?
/r/RedPillWives08/11/16 02:27 PM
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This is so exciting and I definitely need this challenge. I am working on losing the anxious attitude so I need to be open to all suggestions without the whole "Well... what if?", "In that case, can we also..." etc inner monologue. It shows on my face and it shows on his face that it shows on mine... blergh Something SO does really well is "Yes, and.." Its a improv technique to keep a session going and seeing how far the group can take a hilarious scenario with all ideas presented on the table. …
/r/RedPillWives08/11/16 01:49 PM
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It will be! It's an absolute dream come true for the both of us.
/r/RedPillWives07/11/16 06:32 PM
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Yes! It is so lovely to be loved! I am still smiling ear to ear from it. You sound like you had such a happy time. holding his drink while he played some pool What a pretty picture ;)
/r/RedPillWives07/11/16 06:01 PM
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Thank you! I will try it soon since I am on an eggplant binge
/r/RedPillWives07/11/16 05:52 PM
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Good: Best weekend ever! Went dancing with SO and lost friends (something we did a lot when we first started dating). I love the overwhelming need to be together in a dance floor and just sneaking off to talk and make out in the streets past midnight, telling each other how in love we are, circle jerking of how good our relationship is. I get treated like a girl - he will walk on the car-side of the road, get drinks from bar, hold my ID and present it to the bouncer etc. Though I am in a room fu…
/r/RedPillWives07/11/16 05:44 PM
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I agree with you a lot. Often grandparents, extended family or nannies helping during younger years is almost the same thing as being cared for by a parent. However, molding a adult from a young one requires a lot more in tune-ness on the parents' part.
/r/RedPillWives04/11/16 03:06 PM
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I am grateful for the life that I live with my SO- to be young, healthy, in love and making so many memories together. If I weren't living it, I wouldn't think it was possible. I am grateful for this upcoming trip we are taking to get away from the cold. I cannot wait for Vietnamese food and nature to blow me away. I am grateful that I have fresh business leads so I may not have to shut it down completely during the trip. I am grateful that SO has such similar life ideologies as I do, though we …
/r/RedPillWives02/11/16 01:22 PM
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You are a mindful sis and girlfriend. Winks kill me too!
/r/RedPillWives01/11/16 05:08 PM
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"I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best." Edit: I am gilded! Thank you so much, I am having a fun time figuring out how to take the most advantage of it :D
/r/RedPillWives01/11/16 03:59 PM
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Thats a beautiful story! Standing by your man no matter what and easing his life :D There is a story in Hindu mythology where a wife begs the Gods to keep her dying husband alive till the sun goes down and then forbids the sun from setting! As a girl, I was enamored by the wife's tenacity and devotion. It was a real 'Aha!' moment as a woman when I finally could formulate in words the kind of man I want to be with was the kind of man to inspire the same loyalty in me.
/r/RedPillWives31/10/16 06:34 PM
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The whole fam in the sardine can is on the RP train! Woot! Seriously family is so important to get through tough times like a breakup when you are reassessing everything. Having good influence, discipline and roadmap can really expedite the move on process. From the limited glimpse, the ex doesn't sound like a prize so take the Freedom Kitty! I love talking to my SO of core RP tenets without the specific terms and he knows exactly what I am talking about or has real RP life experiences to share.…
/r/RedPillWives31/10/16 06:30 PM
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I used filo dough and "followed" the instructions on the box. Preheat oven to 400F and layer 3 buttered/oil sprayed Filo sheet. Cut the layered sheets into 3 widthwise. For the filling, I didn't have spinach or cheese or parsley or anything mentioned so I made eggplant, mushroom and cilantro paste (same thing right?). One table spoon of mix on the bottom of the three cut up sheet. Fold one edge onto the side to make a triangle and keep folding upwards until you've got a raw spanakopita. Pop 12-1…
/r/RedPillWives31/10/16 03:50 PM
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I love the three realizations you pointed out. Good for him recognizing the things he can change to influence better outcome.
/r/RedPillWives31/10/16 03:32 PM
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Good: Kept up with DIY projects, made spanakopita for ambitious dinner, had a really good time chatting with SO's friends. I get too swept up with friends' emotional needs but I have maintained boundaries in the last 2 weeks :D Bad: Need to cook and write more than I have been lately. Ugly: Had a bit of insecure (shark) week and didn't realize it in time. I comfort tested SO a lot through the week. The morning after drinking (depressant for me even in small amounts), I just hamstered too much an…
/r/RedPillWives31/10/16 03:27 PM
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Exchange programs are the best! Is she doing a program in China or am I manufacturing this memory?
/r/RedPillWives31/10/16 03:14 PM
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That is the cutest BFF story! I am sure it was fun designing it and all too.
/r/RedPillWives28/10/16 06:40 PM
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I like the outsider view mindset. "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle". I thought it was Plato but the origin of the quote is under contest. It is difficult to practice unwaveringly kind attitude in general but sometimes, more so in a long term relationship. When you know a person for a long time, it becomes easier to expect more and more of them without check. It becomes easier to mistakenly think you somehow know the extent and depth of any hardship they may have. It is s…
/r/RedPillWives28/10/16 06:37 PM
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Is she a trippy heterochromic unicorn? I have been looking for 3 minutes and cannot look away. So pretty!
/r/RedPillWives28/10/16 06:07 PM
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NO!!! two things I must have soon - tamagotchi and the new GOW game. Aww! My mom still plays Tom Cat after 3 years which is 30 in app world. She is very attached to her kitty.
/r/RedPillWives28/10/16 06:05 PM
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It helps your processing speed mentally as well as your reflexes. It was a lot of fun That seems like exactly how you'd make physical fitness even more appealing! I would be very open to group games a la WOW or with some God of War storyline encouraging friends to do something adventurous together. I had to google tamagotchi and now I want one :D
/r/RedPillWives28/10/16 03:26 PM
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I feel you so much on the 2nd point. I want to take care of my parents so much even though they are very capable at this point (both are around 50). It's been an unexpected and fast change from 'Are they taking care of me enough?' to 'Am I a good enough caretaker for them?' As far as the 1st and 3rd fears go, you already know its healthy to do your best everyday and also be happy with where you are. I am constantly battling these as well.
/r/RedPillWives28/10/16 03:14 PM
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Haha right?! Ooo I hadn't even thought about physical rehab application. Another medical application can be surgery practice in VR. Yeah! I am thinking it will be good to let the initial roughness smooth before investing too. You guys sound like such a great couple <3
/r/RedPillWives28/10/16 03:05 PM
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The range is up to 7km (4.3miles) with 1080p transmission videos according to the manufacturer. You have to register these with the FAA and they are banned closer to the White House. I am not sure how these are regulated. I have and I am really excited for them. I would be this guy and embarrass myself but I don't even care
/r/RedPillWives28/10/16 02:53 PM
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Okay, f*@$ Ronald... Cyanide is a notoriously painful death and to his own child... for insurance money.. :'(
/r/RedPillWives28/10/16 02:45 PM
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Ahhh perfect! I was geeking out all week over various things in technology. World history This is a crash course in human civilization (~17 mins long but I had to slow it down at parts). I was very sad for all the lost history of the Americas but its a pretty good reminder that we live in a safer world than all of our ancestors. Travel Quadcopter This is the future you guys! How is this thing as small and as light as it is?
/r/RedPillWives28/10/16 02:36 PM
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Haha happy to spread the good word! Will see you in IRC soon
/r/RedPillWives27/10/16 03:41 PM
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That's amazing! I did need extra motivation to regularly read it. I would love to talk about it with you as we chomp through it :D Book club!
/r/RedPillWives27/10/16 03:40 PM
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It could be a good conversation starter to analyze your parents' relationship. If they have an awesome relationship, its good bonding for siblings to be like "Remember when our parents got us through a hard time" or "They used to be so lovey-dovey and embarrassing" or on a serious note "I would like what they have". If the relationship isn't great between your parents, there's a lot more things you can talk about, what you think could have gone better. Conversation like this will let you underst…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/16 09:02 PM
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Someone who obviously would turn into a hairy beast without close care. Hi bestie! :D I've also always been a fan of your sense of humor so this feels special as hell.
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 07:52 PM
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Haha thank you Bella! The analogy just built itself as I was reading the post and visualizing the turns of OP's situation. I'd love to see how you use it!
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 07:08 PM
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I had such a hard time dealing with this as I am pretty ambitious by myself but to have a suitor want me to be ambitious was weirdly off-putting. I suppose you could flesh out what each suitor means by "ambitious". You can be ambitious in your SAHM role. In my anecdotal experience, I often find that younger men (brother, family friends, cousins) say they want ambitious women as a thing you just say like some women want a Chanel bag. The prospect of being DINKs is fun for someone who's finding so…
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 06:13 PM
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Healthy physique just tends to be around the root of all life's solutions, doesn't it?
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 05:54 PM
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Crabs in a bucket mentality. It is so obvious reading as an observer but it is harder to see when one is directly involved in some anxiety inducing situation like this. What has happened is you gave your nice family car keys to your friend, she's taken it for a joy ride through the desert, revved up your engine, you came home with it, your husband cleaned it as best as he could in his limited time and then she has gotten a hold of the keys again. She may try the same again which you may react to…
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 04:08 PM
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Glad to hear you are feeling better! This last year doesn't sound easy. Thank you for all the work you have done here. You are one of the first people to officially welcome me and I am sure you have encouraged so many others to come out of lurking by being your awesome self <3
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 03:58 PM
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I upvoted but that didn't "feel" enough :D The second section of your post makes me very happy for you. Isn't that the best? I always tell SO I want to love him as well as he loves me. I had never written down what "being loved WELL" might mean but your post does a great job. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 03:43 PM
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Yes!! I am reading "Understanding Vietnam" and one of the first chapters talks of Yin and Yang, how both seek balance by outdoing each other in times of disharmony. A two parent home can suffice for the check and balance of two energies, even in non traditional family structures.
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 03:35 PM
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What keeps you up at night worrying? Scarcity - I am self employed in something I lucked into. I go through the typical entrepreneur highs and lows of "I am a bada**" to "I will die bankrupt" in the same day. I find myself worrying about not having enough to be a stay at home mom when the time comes. What genuinely terrifies you? Violence, war, rape, being torn apart from family To a lesser degree - losing independence of time, not being able to express my true desires creatively. Coping Talking…
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 03:26 PM
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Same. My directions to all my SO, family and good friends is to give me a year to miraculously recover. In this year, someone please help me with eyebrow and upper lip threading (SO doesn't know this part..). Then at 1year mark, please unplug me and live a happy life.
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 02:05 PM
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This reminds me of a study on demographics in relation to revolution in a country. I'll try to find it again. IIRC the study controlled for resources scarcity so low standard of life wasn't the only reason for revolution. The conclusions went something like revolution can be predicted if the youth demographic heavily outnumbers older population, much more so when the youth population is composed primarily of men. Also an interesting meta observation (is that allowed? :3) - on the thread about fe…
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 02:01 PM
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Ahh it's beautiful and impressive what you do. Good luck :)
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 02:41 PM
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From the context provided in OP and comments, it seems the dynamic may not change between you and your husband. Have you given any thought to part time work, perhaps something with work from home option? This way, you can work out your anxious energy in resource building yourself and you will feel accomplishment. It will help your husband see you in a capable role as well and might make him more likely to take your input in financial decisions. Please don't say you don't have the right skills be…
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 02:06 PM
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The other option for an attractive woman is to pass on scenes where looks are heavily and explicitly being rewarded. Some are easier to avoid than others. Most objectively attractive women are not club hostesses and are not accepting cruises/trips. It appears there is a growing number of young women who do but I don't know how much the normalization and frankness accounts for.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/16 04:13 PM
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Meetup is a great tool to use. It keeps you active and interesting. Hopefully with enough time and exposure, you'll make new friends that prioritize health and self improvement. Once you have that, you can have different circles of friends for different emotional and social needs. Within your close circle (now and future), if you want to talk about being a wife someday, do so. No need to hijack conversation but share your dreams and the beautiful way your mind works. Maybe spending time with you…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/16 09:01 PM
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I 100% agree! However, some of my best memories come from times when I was too tired to do fun stuff but did anyway. It is always a fresh breath of air and rejuvenates me to break out of the norm. Then I can work harder, longer with a fresh mind. Sometimes it is our job as good girlfriends/wives to recognize these circumstances and keep them from being a "phase" in the relationship. Of course, men in our lives are different and sensitive to these things in varying degrees. So this has to be done…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/16 08:43 PM
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I am an occasional culprit of this same line of thought in similar situations. But of course I'm an RPW so I try to employ STFU/CTFO. Unfortunately, things don't always work out in my timeline that I made up in my head. As far as he knows, nothing is off because I haven't said anything. Just as gunfetti said, mention wanting an official date. If he doesn't quite catch, plan a date, pay for it and have him come out. Let him see you in charge of your happiness because you are :D I have, in one ins…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/16 08:36 PM
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Seeing this and the other post on "being his soft place to land" together is interesting. Any human being has certain amount of mental energy everyday to deal with things. If the men are constantly being rejuvenated at home, it makes sense they would fare better in the world. Inspiring!
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 09:27 PM
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Thank you! I'm sure your kids are thankful that you don't get swept up with everything they come to you with.
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 07:57 PM
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Haha I should definitely practice amused mastery and frame. It might be good parenting skills to develop for later on. Half listening would also keep from draining me. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 03:08 AM
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Sorry I got mixed up. I should have said your heels and not the ball of your feet.
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 03:06 AM
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I think it starts with standing straight- shoulders should be squarely on hips and ankles. Practicing against a wall helps. Always engage your core. This helps takes stress out of your back which isn't perfectly designed for long hours of standing. As for walking, practice walking on a straight line, each foot planting on the line itself. Try to make your steps length the same on both feet. An elastic work out band can help with this practice. How are you stepping? The heel of your feet should l…
/r/RedPillWives10/10/16 03:00 AM
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To me, the extent of physical alphaness I really want (not even need) is that he's able to pick me up and twirl me :) I suggest looking at guys that are confident, healthy, groom themselves without overdoing it (the over manicured beard ruins the second pic). Alpha traits are leadership skills, conversational skills, command over ones life, decision making, dealing with shit tests, amused mastery etc. If you are attracted to someone and they have some or all of these qualities, you don't need an…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/16 04:49 PM
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My boyfriend knows my passcode but I would be shocked if he actually used it without asking for a specific purpose. It's partly based on his personality and partly because I would blush to death if he saw the selfies, random google searches, how much I'm on RPW 😳 Nothing bad would come of it and I'm always sharing everything I ought to share with him but I think I'd bury my head in the pillow forever.
/r/RedPillWives09/10/16 04:37 PM
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Something the OP made me think of is my girl friends and how much I notice this behavior in our interactions. It helps to understand that this behavior may be nested in good intentions. I am sure I am guilty of it in varying degrees. I still find interactions like this to be very draining. Any ideas on combating solipsism among female relationships?
/r/RedPillWives07/10/16 09:38 PM
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I'll have to visit rainbow commune if I'm around that way.
/r/RedPillWives07/10/16 02:47 PM
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I don't know of any successful communes in the west but drop city sounds like it was good for a bit. It's kind of funny the whole dance around acid. It's definitely acid lol XD
/r/RedPillWives07/10/16 12:22 PM
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Haha I can see why :) Admiration from a distance is also great! I see so many parents don't receive that. I'm sure she sees and appreciated it
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 04:07 PM
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My best friend pointed out that my hips sway more when I'm around my SO 😳 I hate the feeling of cold and socks so I'm always on my tiptoes when cooking. Usually in a dress and dancing. The man comments on it often. He also mentioned that I always have a way of looking up into his eyes even if we are level. I sing songs and coo into his ears in languages he doesn't understand. It's usually full of romantic meaning. Sometimes when he teases me, I'll bust out some sassy or pouty songs. He doesn't u…
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 04:06 PM
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Your mom sounds like someone I could chill with and be inspired by :) It took me to my mid 20s to see my moms feminine strengths.
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 02:49 PM
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I was answering the "celebrating female beauty" thread and what I wrote ended up being an answer for here as well. I hope you don't mind me using the same answer twice. My mom definitely influenced me, my goal looks and what I crave in a relationship. She was always subtly flirting with my dad, always playful and joyous. As a child, I could discern difference in voice in talking to my dad vs anyone else. Never engaged in gossip, took everything life threw her way in stride and never talks about …
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 02:32 PM
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For me, I grew up admiring Aishwarya Rai. She has the innocent yet enticing look and her moves are exceptionally feminine. I remember trying to place my hands daintily as she would in movies - never forced but never plopped. Every move seemed intentional and graceful. More of her Mischief queen She is a mother now and I loved how she embraced her changing body while her daughter was an infant in the face of criticisms. We talk here a lot about maintaining our figure (I 100% agree) but something …
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 02:25 PM
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Thank you Phantom :) I will put more thought into in in the coming week to make it a FR
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 01:36 PM
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Thank you Jade!
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 01:35 PM
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Thank you! Yes, we do =)
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 01:34 PM
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Haha Nala aka Becky with the good hair.
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 06:45 PM
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Mostly lurker but I love this sub and the jolt of positivity & inspiration I get here. All the EC's and some awesome posts have contributed to at least one good day in my life. I am leaving this post here to make myself come out of the weeds. <3 Disclaimer: INFP, non native English speaker and writer so I may butcher grammar and/or say things metaphorically that's not always easy to understand immediately :|
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 06:33 PM
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I have never been on BC but I am so sorry for your hair loss experiences. pretty cool and authentic about experiencing my biology as a woman I resonated with this a lot and I tried to put into words so I apologize if it's rambling. I have been thinking the "emotional" part of my menstruation cycles also assist in determining how happy I am with my life. For me, I experience every emotion heightened during PMS. With introspection and meditation, I have found I can recognize the areas of my life I…
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 06:14 PM
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I didn't know about Sierra Skye but she has my ideal body too. Following for inspiration
/r/RedPillWives02/10/16 05:39 PM
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Watch till end. I wasn't expecting to get a bonus laugh XD
/r/RedPillWives30/09/16 02:45 PM
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Recently I have thought a lot about feminine and masculine energy and their expression in civilization. If it is masculine to bend reality, it is feminine to tend to conceived reality. These traits go hand in hand to create harmony. It is sad to see the comments saying "Even smart women would rather game the system" when it is so obvious that the things man (and woman to lesser extent or in an indirect way perhaps) has created aren't being taken care of (for eg: home, children, community) becaus…
/r/RedPillWives16/09/16 06:23 PM
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A cup of Tetley and Instagram feed of very curated bloggers - my guilty pleasure. However, recently they have been inspiring me to keep my home clean, my nails polished, hair styled so I love the overall and long-lasting effect. Stretching and feeling my back muscles warm up. Going to the nature and just feeling little (forest, mountain, ocean). Walking about in the city and seeing the civilization humans have created.
/r/RedPillWives16/09/16 06:13 PM
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I have your vampire taco recipes saved somewhere too :D
/r/RedPillWives12/07/16 12:26 PM
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New poster (Long time lurker, swallowed the pill ~5 years ago) here and thought the easiest way to participate would be this thread :D Good: My family was visiting for 10 days and everything went smoother than expected. Dad met and immediately loved M (my SO) while mom continued to comment on how happy I seem. Bad: I have been a business owner for a year now and it's hard for my family to see owning a small business as a long term career. I knew this was something that would come up and was some…
/r/RedPillWives11/07/16 09:28 PM
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