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Regardless of anything else (and I think you're giving him too much without enough in return), I would think long and hard about how this particular situation is likely to play out, and how comfortable you will be with his mother dictating what you do and do not do in your own home, should the relationship grow and y'all marry.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 05:02 PM
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FH had a work dinner tonight, so I got to tag along. I usually meal prep for the week, since we are both trying to lose weight and it's easier. ​ I made a pork shoulder last week and mimicked the BBQ sauce from our favorite restaurant back home. He's been eating leftovers this week and has been crazy happy about it. He brags about my cooking, which makes me happy. One of his coworkers we saw tonight missed our dinner party last weekend and said he was sorry he missed my cooking. I'll bake cookie…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 01:41 AM
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you are exactly right
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 04:57 PM
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I love this perspective. Thanks
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 04:56 PM
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That's kind of what I was hoping for advice with. Like, how do I stop from being so obviously irked? Every emotion is all over my face and I know he deserves better.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 04:40 PM
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I think that's my fear- that it will become obsessive. His dream is that I crochet while he plays, or read a book sitting next to him, or that we find a game to play together. I need to stop punishing him for other people's mistakes.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 04:39 PM
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My ex-husband and ex-boyfriend both played. It led to me being ignored and lied to and those actions both really messed me up. My underlying fear is that things will follow that same road. He knows that. And I am wrong for assuming the same about him. It's been 2.5 years and he's played maybe 3 times? I should know he can be responsible about it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 04:31 PM
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No, I Pay my bills, he pays his. We split groceries and things like laundry detergent etc since we stay at my house mostly. But he has his own place with a roommate that he still pays for. I was here before we met and my expenses haven't changed. We are planning to officially live together starting this summer, which will benefit me financially. I've been working full time and in grad school full time (12 hours last semester, graduated in December) And he's in a PhD program. He does the majority…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/17 01:12 PM
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:)
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/17 05:18 PM
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Well, we're not married and I pay the bills since he has a place he's paying for (which is, admittedly, dumb, and why we're going to officially live together). I just graduated grad school, so my obligations after my full time job have decreased significantly, which means I'll have more time home alone to tend to things and cook him dinner.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/17 05:17 PM
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This is so beautiful. <3 We talked about it last night and, bless his heart, he's been worried all week he's been doing the laundry bins wrong. It's a new system, I even put labels on them so it would be easy for him. But I've always been a lights/darks kind of girl. Poor guy didn't know what to do with his undershirts- are they lights? are they undies? what about the dark boxers? And "wait, I didn't think we could mix lights and darks?" It was adorable. And I felt awful because he had tried SO …
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 10:23 PM
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I think some of it is how I was raised. There were no times where it was okay to leave something undone. My mom mentioned this week that she had to tidy my dad's things up and I was shocked- this is the man who chewed us out growing up if we left one thing undone. So she explained that, as a child, I wouldn't have known it was important to make my bed (as an example) if they hadn't made it a big deal, but as an adult, it's okay to not do it everyday if you run out of time or whatever. That blew …
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 10:10 PM
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I came home today to ALL the same things, despite talking about it yesterday, and I guess I'm just in a better mood today because it didn't bother me at all. I just fixed them all and now I'm impatiently waiting for him to come home so we can snuggle.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 10:07 PM
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No doubt. I couldn't live with me. A lot of that is my struggle being gracious :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 10:06 PM
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I have a blow dryer brush. Conair, I think. My hair is starting to change texture from straight to wavy, and this definitely cuts down on frizz and helps it be more sleek.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 12:37 PM
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My Roomba has been collecting dust for two years. hahaha I need to throw it away and call it a loss. Thanks for the fast response! His good qualities far outweigh the ones I'm not a fan of. I mean, honestly, the only reason the newspaper was on the table was because he got it out of the driveway. It was a nice gesture; I only saw the driveway on the dinner table aspect. The undies in the wrong hamper is because I literally just this past weekend created a third bin for undies. At least they were…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 01:34 AM
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That's the best feeling in the world. Never skip shaving on laundry day- nothing beats fresh clean sheets and freshly shave legs. sigh
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 12:41 AM
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This is my favorite youtube tutorial: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=094Y63BmXZ4 I skip the eye-liner, not my thing. And my brows are defined enough without adding to them. But I love the little bit of contouring and the eyes. I had no idea contouring had been around so long! I'm big on subtlety and I don't wear it daily. When I do, you can't tell. I think that's the key. It should enhance, not alter.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 02:56 AM
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I cringe when I read some of the examples she gives of women who flip out on their husbands, because I see so much of me. I was out the other day and a man came into a waiting area. He said hi to the people working and then just stood there. I guess his wife or girlfriend or whatever was in the room, because she told him to stop being so weird and to go sit down. Ouch! (I know I'm not mean like that, at least.)
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/17 01:04 PM
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That's what I was afraid of happening, especially since I have no poker face. But I really would have been okay with either option, so there would have been no disappointment at all.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/17 01:02 PM
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Ooh, I like that!
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/17 01:00 PM
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She talked about how if you say 'whatever you think' it's showing that you not only respect his decision, but also his thoughts. It goes deeper than just letting him choose. I'm not sure I see much wrong with asking "what do you think" in a sort of transition period if you are trying to get away from "it's up to you."
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/17 12:58 PM
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Thanks for a guy's perspective! I do respect him, but I know he feels like I don't. So anything that shows it in any way is great.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/17 12:56 PM
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I was afraid it would feel manipulative, especially when she says to say it with as much kindness as you can muster. I try hard to gracious and kind, but I have control issues. And I am bad at faking things. So I was nervous. But I loved that it was such a chill moment and I genuinely meant it. Honestly, if I had said anything else, I would have told him to get what he wanted, but that still has that element of control.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/17 03:05 AM
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I've seen a lot of suggestions for The Surrendered Wife. I ordered it and omg, it's amazing. She actually has workshops, though I haven't looked it up yet. That might be the best "tutor" option for you.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/16 05:53 PM
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I am not married yet. I chose teaching as a career. I get to care for other people's children until I have my own, and I plan to stay home at least until they are all in school. After which, my schedule will mostly line up with theirs. It's something I have always wanted; my mom was home when I was a kid and I couldn't imagine it any other way.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/16 09:11 PM
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Lurking mostly, posted a few times. I finally let the stress of work and school go for a few days and I tried really hard to be softer and more attentive. It was an instant change in my relationship and he's great even when I'm not. He was amazing when I made a bigger effort. I graduate in December, and I'll be here in full force once I have the extra time :) I think this is a beautiful place and a beautiful way to live. There's just not enough hours in my days right now. (As I browse here, I ha…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/16 01:34 AM
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I am actually working on using more "I" statements. I had something I needed to talk about the other day and so I was just very gentle about it, and soft-spoken, and that seemed to help make him feel inclined to listen, instead of get defensive. I'm guessing that goes hand-in-hand with stfu and picking which hill to die on, right?
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/16 08:43 PM
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The trust part sounds like the part I'm hung up on. He has given me no reason to not trust him, he has always put me first, frequently talks about our future, we're together every day, he does things at my house he doesn't have to (yard work, mostly). I'm just scared I'll get lost somewhere along the way if I back off. And it's not true. He's proven that several times today already.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/16 08:27 PM
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I think some of it for me is that I think my way is better. He isn't awful about most anything, but there's some stuff he just doesn't know how to do because he never learned it. I'm a few years older and I've experienced so much more in life. There have been times when he has asked me to share my experience or to tell him what I would do. I guess just wait for those times and otherwise let it play out?
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/16 08:23 PM
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That's a great starting point for me. So far, I've been willing to die on every hill, and it isn't working so great for me.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/16 08:22 PM
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