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😂😂😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 04:42 PM
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This. Also; there are women who dont do social media; yah just gotta go rural. Im in ohio; and I know lots of married farmers wife who are in barns all day in coveralls using power tools who barely know how to use FB They always got some DIY projects Plenty also don't care about weddings. My cousin just eloped in Tennessee and then had a cook out on her farm with close family/friends. They did a fireworks show.. It was a blast.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 04:52 PM
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Yeah if the man has money/wealth. Do you realize that that is rare? Most women arent marrying into wealth?? And 99% of the time kids do the opposite where women get stuck and afraid to leave?? I wont say it never happens; but just read any one of those statistics and come back and tell me im wrong. You speak like your experiences are the same when I know women who had to take their kids to homeless shelters just to get away from abusive men. The average person/family is living week to week; mean…
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 02:55 PM
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If the time is court ordered and she doesnt let you see him she would be breaking the law. And yes; ticks are bad; but does she not let him outside?? I live on a farm; we are outside 24/7 and I havent seen one ticket and Lyme disease is pretty treatable; its the lone star ticks you gotta worry about 😂 Congrats on your sobriety bro
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 05:40 AM
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If a woman doesn't work she would not even be in that statistic.The statistic is out of working adults; two; again if a woman once financial stability she is not going to have kids to do it; all she needs is a marriage; she doesn't need kids to do it
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 02:20 AM
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Having kids is expensive; so i doubt it. Even for women; if they get divorced and have kids; the woman now needs at least at 2 bedroom apartment; utilities go up; cost of living goes up as well. You now have to feed an extra two mouths; clothe an extra two mouths; worry about daycare costs. Then you got christmas; birthdays; college. If if was purely about financial stability she would just say I want to be a trad wife; quit her job; establish dependence and then go for alimony. its much more li…
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/26 09:11 PM
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Look at how they treat others; the wait staff; their close family members; shit talk to their exes (just beware some exes might be shitty and tell half truths or even lies just to fuck sht up.. A good tell is how they talk about their ex. Do they take any accountability? Do they trash talk him. You can tell alot about a person by how they talk about others, how they treat close family members; and how they treat others when they think no one is looking. Be careful of the charming type thst is gr…
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/26 07:51 PM
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I would like to say; im a woman; im not a lesbian; but i was incredibly hurt by my partner leaving. He financially and emotionally fucked me up then left me. I didnt cheat; but I was willing to do anything to not give up time with my babies. I did love him; I used too but when the lerson who is supposed to love you fails to show up for you; calls you names in front of your kids and threatens to take them or replace them even though their her whole life. Literally. He asked me not to work; he ask…
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 03:01 PM
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Oh; i have no idea about that. Now im invested.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 11:58 PM
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Congratulations to you as well!! Also so sorry for all your losses; im 37 and have been to way more funerals for frienda/family than is normal sadly. I at least take solace in the hope they are at peace now. Wild to me ppl can't see the difference between trying to keep a person safe from themselves and straight up control. Im proud of you for not falling back; so many times ive know friends trying to help other friends get out only to to fall back. What you did takes alot of strength. I hope yo…
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/26 06:15 PM
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Oh shit homie. Are you rich.or well off or does she feel her kids are just entitled? Thats your retirement and wealth should transfer to your kids. Listen; im.all for stay at home parents; but once kids hit old enough; ppl should...idk get. A part time job-even if its a side hustle; just anything. Just to stay busy you know My mom and my step dad married when I was 9 and ill never see a scent of his money and wouldnt want it either and he is super wealthy.. You.e
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/26 01:32 PM
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Damn; she sounds like she shouldn't have even been around the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/26 01:27 PM
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Nah; im a houser from new England; roots were OG midwest though (ohio)
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/26 01:25 PM
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Damn buddy. You sound like you were really not the problem.. I hope you know it wasn't you. There wasnt anything you could have done or not done to prevent her from using. She has to want to change for herself; and until she does that every relationship she has will fail. Ive been sober 10 years from opiate addiction (iv h). I got sober and 2 years later I had my kids and have never looked back. But; I had to want it for myself. Sometimes ppl like her really have hit rock fucking bottom before r…
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/26 01:23 PM
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I think I could see this.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/26 01:19 PM
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May I ask if you had kids? If you had kids Did you work and she stay home? If you both worked was childcare, planning, and house chores split evenly? I feel like most women who are happier after divorce are the same women claiming they had to mother their husbands and their children and carried this mental load that their husbands werent even aware of. I get curious when reading posts of men saying they moved mountains and she was never happy; what were the mountains specifically? (Genuinely ask…
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/26 07:42 PM
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It depends. Does she have a masters or a doctorate? Uusally ppl with higher education tend to be more impartial just because they have more training and education on how not to be bias. (I have my bachelors in psychology and there's alot of learning we do on biases) Also could depend on her own experiences. I think therapists and counselors really try to be impartial and not let biases impact us; but we all biases. But a counselor/therapist should be trained to recognize their own and not let th…
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/26 03:32 PM
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For most ppl.its about the kids. They still love their kids and want their kids last name. Its also about logistics; its hard to change names and cN mess with traveling documents (visa/license) Could even mess with you if your traveling with kids but now have a different last name. All valid reasons.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/26 03:05 PM
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Again; what point were you trying to make if you weren't trying to blame women?? you have it backwards; the pattern exists because of the cause/explanations The cause happens first Then the pattern. To say the cause doesn't matter is the same as giving a pass to the party who caused the divorce (male or female). While in some cases two ppl just drift apart; but in many cases there is a party who broke trust; a party who continuously put their needs above their partners; there is a party who cons…
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/26 04:20 AM
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Then genuinely, what is your point when using that statistic; if it wasn't to blame an entire gender?? My example is just to make the point that the person who initiates isn't necessarily the person that brought on the divorce. More importantly; it was to show that correlation does not mean causation It doesn't prove a pattern. Many, many times with many statistics there is a hidden third (confounding) variable related to the other two that creates Im not trying to be shitty; but statistics like…
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/26 03:30 AM
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Why do you think women are able to emotionally be checked out and rhat so many men don't even notice?? If you aren't noticing your partner checking out; then how good of a partner are you? Like; maybe thats the reason they are checking out???? Again; my point stands; just bc one party Initiates the divorve doesnt mean they caused it. There are third variables and other correlations one could use to blame men? Like I said; there is no one gender to blame homie and anyone who thinks that on either…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/26 11:40 AM
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Someone initiating divorce doesn't mean they caused it either. If someone cheats habitually and their partner finally initiates divorce-- who are you blaming?? Statistics arent always what they seem my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 07:55 PM
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Just because 1 woman is like this; doesn't mean they all are. The biggest mistake any person can make is generalizing a whole group of people. I know shitty women; and i know women who have stayed with shitty men. I know shitty men; I know wonderful men who stay with shitty women. Gender is not a determinate for whether someone makes a good life partner.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 06:57 PM
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She sounds super depressed.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 01:19 PM
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Groups should simply put it in rules. Though; if someone isnt being rude or mean, i wouldnt mind hearing perspective from the other side. There are moments where it could be beneficial I guess.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 08:25 PM
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Correct, I agree. Demanding attention is never good. I literally said its on neither one. I also said i could be way off and maybe he is doing all the stuff and I could be way off base. In issues like this, i really don't think its either persons fault - I think they both need perspective to how the other feels. I can't tell her his perspective, but I can try to bring some awareness to hers being a stay at home parent myself. but, its not about blame, its about them being able to understand each…
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/25 05:41 AM
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Yeah; but your third is one. So, I don't see courts making her go back to work until preschool age....at least.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/25 10:04 PM
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Everyone needs time to themselves, but have you thought about she might be drowning too? Especially if your last is only a year old. Have you considered she may have post partum depression? 3 kids and managing a household, is both demanding and isolating. She might just need time away from the kids with adults, but she doesn't have anyone to ask but you. Some context would help too- do you help manage house chores at all or give her breaks from the kids ever? Or is it the other way where your wo…
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/25 10:01 PM
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Yeah -- I dont understand how his math is she gets a shit ton and he doesnt get anything? Doesn't make sense if its 55-45
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/25 01:57 AM
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This makes you one of the good ones! My mom got remarried and I hated all her boyfriends 😂 Not that she had alot of them. Like two and she married the second one. He honestly tried for a while but my dad talked crap (hes toxic af- the divorce was bc he had a major affair). And i just was angry about the divorce and i had no idea my dad cheated- my mom to this dad has never said a bad word about him. I found out from my dads family- even they think he is pos basically. Don't get me wrong, i do lo…
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 10:19 PM
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Having a relationship with their bio-dad doesn't mean they can't have one with you too. A person never runs out of love. I have a step-mom that I adore, but I love my mom the same I always have. Plus, it isnt always true about ppl getting closer to bio-parents. Sometimes as you reach adulthood you realize your parent is kind of a pos. I would at least leave the door open and leave the ball in their court.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 08:37 PM
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Please don't give up on having a relationship with them.Because I promise you they need you, too. If they are in their late teens, then that means that there'll be eighteen.Soon enough, and you can absolutely still carry your relationship with them, if they want one. I had parents who hated me, i was just an inconvenience so good on you for being one of the good ones.And please don't let your ex wife deter that
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 08:03 PM
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This. She is taking her own kids away. We all have choices, those choices have consequences.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 07:53 PM
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This. Organized religion is the issue. Not being close to god. Churches are like a calling for wolves in sheep's clothing (at least the ones near me- I grew up going and they are all fear mongering, pro-life and push conservative views. My aunts church panders and pushes all the misinformation fox news does. It makes me sick.. Meanwhile, me, my sister, and my cousin who all consider ourselves agnostic and spiritual haven't set foot in a church in years and all believe in doing the right thing be…
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/25 01:23 PM
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This. Ppl aren't mind readers and hinting at something is not equal to clearly communicating what it is we want. We think in pictures, but we talk verbally. Many times ppl can be talking about the same thing and even think they are agreeing but are both picturing something entirely different. I.e. its good to vocalize our expectations. Especially if you said something in passing while she is busy trying to get kids to school. We should also tell ppl what we expect. Its our own expectations that …
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/25 05:45 PM
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Q
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 02:42 PM
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And if your sharing your location stop. Curious how ex-wife found new girls apartment She either sat outside movies-- watched location the whole.time.or she is tracking his car.with a GPS thing None of these options are good
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 04:43 PM
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Personally, I don't think its a gender thing. I think selfish ppl (like cheaters) seek out very giving and empathetic people. They choose nieve ppl, trusting people. They might not even do it consciously- but it happens. I am not saying two ppl can't find each other that arent both kind, giving and empathetic. But, cheaters usually have other selfish traits too- and I think they choose a certain type of person. A loyal person, a kind person- a person they think will put up with it or whatever Ki…
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/25 01:59 AM
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They also can't apologize or have any introspection on their actions bc their world will crumble. They also prioritize their feelings above everyone elses-- mostly bc they arent aware other ppl have feels and emotions like them- at the same time they are super sensitive themselves- its why any criticism- even constructive criticism (99% of the time) angers them. Imo, a true narcissist would never make a post wondering if they are a narcissist-- though there is a whole sub group of self-aware nar…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 01:54 PM
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😂😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/25 01:49 PM
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Wow. I feel stupid 😂😅
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 03:39 PM
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No, I think he was saying he had his cousin walk up and serve the papers But, maybe im the one who misunderstood.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 08:25 PM
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Birds of a feather flock together
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 04:00 PM
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Ahhh- my bad. Still ballsy though.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 01:48 PM
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Man-- ppl are ballsy as fuck Like, im not a cheater- never have been- never will be- I have enough issues in my relationship already--- but like To bring a person into the marital home and then ler them steal your partners beer. That is beyond fucked up and sickening. Sorry OP. You deserve better. Hope you find the footage so she cant play dumb. Thats the most annoying part.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 10:30 AM
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Yeah-- but she wants this-- shouldn't he make her file?? Like isnt she entitled to less if she files vs him? I feel like she must have some angle for not wanting to file first? Or am I wrong?? Genuinely asking
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/25 03:51 PM
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Start calling them on her time. See how fast she goes full Karen 😂
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/25 03:58 PM
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How do you know I don't?
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 03:16 PM
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And what about men cheating on women?? When men cheat they get called a player and congratulated and friends will cover bc "it didn't mean anything" But women cheat and we are whores/slurs If we stay we "deserve it anyway" There are two sides of this coin.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 02:35 AM
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That's not true dude I don't know how I found myself here but My parents kicked me out at 17. I started working in clubs. By the time I was 23 I had lived more than most 35 year olds. I had worked with the mob, I had been paid as an extra in movies. I had traveled to all different parts of my country. I also went through a lot of trauma and abusive relationship with a veteran for 4 years But I had no issues holding conversations with men more than 3 times my age and I don't mean like superficial…
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 01:32 PM
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I get what your saying but your also saying men who have kids aren't lucky Which in some ways is fucked lol
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 12:45 PM
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May I ask why she has blinding rage? Like what excuse did she give you to divorce you? I'm just looking for context but regardless I am so sorry for what your going through!
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/23 12:40 AM
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Don't jump off a bridge. Your ex may be a terrible person, but your kids don't deserve that. They need you, trust me buddy. My dad moved 8 hours away when my parents divorced but holidays and weekends I couldn't wait to see my dad, neither could my brothers or sisters. Don't leave that hole in your children's lives, they will never understand and have an empty void their whole life. I understand your pain though, I've been there with you. I'm married to a narcissist with borderline personality d…
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 09:32 PM
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Do you guys have kids? Did she work or pay anything?? If the answer is no to both of those than I'm sorry. Not all women are like that I promise. I hope she settles so you don't lose your house!
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 09:15 PM
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