hsa85 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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2	Not sure if I’m being too picky and analytical after having low standards previously He doesn’t sound that promising to me in all honesty. - having dogs doesn’t necessarily mean he’s responsible. Depends how well he cares for them. - has one job. That’s normal. - doesn’t drive yet. Ok fine if you’re fine with it. All those three points are only potential pros. You don’t know how hard he’s looking for a second job or if he will take one and stick it through, although just having one job is totally normal and acceptable so no biggie. You don’t know if he is going to get his drivin…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/06/25 09:13 PM
6	Finances with a baby He is wrong. Do not spend your savings on expenses. Then what, is he suddenly happy to foot very bill and not call you a gold digger? Your entire life savings don’t even constitute one month of his wages. Can he hear himself? He doesn’t get to corner you into an impossible situation like that. Leaving you without a penny and without access to his money. For 3-5 years (at least, assuming you don’t have another in 3-5 years). I dunno but I get the impression he might be acting this way because the…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/08/24 07:15 AM
6	Dating Red Flags I guess it depends how that even came up. Like the entire point of dating is to figure out if a person is worthwhile to keep around in one’s life and commit to. A statement like this though could make the woman feel like she’s being judged a bit more than she might do without such a statement. If that makes sense. It just makes the whole measuring up aspect of dating that much more explicit as well as setting you up for awkwardness when the cheque comes.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/12/23 08:27 PM
3	My (20F) boyfriend (26M) cant let go of my past but doesn’t break up It’s not entirely clear that she made this guy wait because he’s a good guy, and hopped into bed with the other guy because he wasn’t. She said he led her on and made her think he wanted a relationship. Her previous relationship before that was a committed one. Is she wrong for learning her lesson from that one guy that played her and applying it to her future dating? And in any case. Even if it were the case that her logic matched that outlined in the TikTok you shared. He can just decide he do…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/12/23 10:56 AM
6	Alternatives to ghosting a potential partner? If I were you I’d do my best to meet up with him for that first date as soon as possible. Then you both get a taste of what each other are like in person and have a better idea of whether you want to pick up in a month or so. Rather than getting him to wait a month and meet and find there’s nothing there. I’d meet up with him and tell him what you’re comfortable to share about your situation and, if you feel you’d like to pick back up in a month then say so.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/12/23 01:13 PM
7	My (20F) boyfriend (26M) cant let go of my past but doesn’t break up I can see where he’s coming from and very much doubt he would be feeling to intensely about it if not for the fact he knows the guy you slept with and got taken advantage of. It will be a bruise to his ego knowing that this guy pretended to want a relationship with you, got to have sex with you, then discarded you. And that same guy now sees you with him, putting work into getting what he got. He needs to decide whether or not he can get over that. You’ve done everything you can to demonstrate t…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/12/23 10:37 AM
3	Is a man talking about men’s nature (polygamy, need for sex) a red flag? Yeh that would be a red flag to me. It’s all well and good saying they wouldn’t have a polygamous relationship, but the fact they believe it to be the default setting for men is enough. A man’s beliefs have a huge impact on the way he will treat a woman, and anyone else in his life. They know they won’t get another date if they say they would do it this early on. But they believe this to be such a fact that they are happy to say that part this early on. It comes across quite immature and fantasy…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/11/23 11:34 PM
8	Husband going on a weekend away, I might lose it. The age of your children at the moment is about as tough as it gets. It sounds like you’re at the stage where 3 year old develops an uncanny talent for timing their bowel movements for when the baby is juuuuust about falling asleep and wakes them up with the repeated I’m dooooone. It will get easier. So much easier. Parenting is never easy but it’s rarely harder than where you are now. Even if he did comply with your needs on those three things - it would still be SO hard. You’re the primary car…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/11/23 10:26 PM
3	Is this a red flag? Also cut him some slack. He might be nervous about whether or not your parents will agree. It’s not a small thing to do especially nowadays. To tell you to end your contract would mean he’s certain they will agree right away. It’s ok for him to not be certain that he’s got it in the bag, but he’s still being chivalrous enough to follow due process and go about things in this way. It’s all positive.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/11/23 12:24 AM
2	Is this a red flag? Well there you go then.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/11/23 09:42 PM
9	Is this a red flag? It sounds like he’s accepting your choice and maybe wants to keep it somewhat a surprise of when he will actually propose? Rather than telling you to end the contract and then being on a short countdown to do it while you’re watching and eagerly awaiting his proposal and wondering when he will do it because you’ve only got # days left on your contract and need to move all your stuff and change your bills etc. You agree it’s good to keep the flat for a final 6 months and he’s told you it will be …	/r/RedPillWomen	09/11/23 09:41 PM
15	Is this a red flag? I don’t see the problem here. If I’m understanding you correctly he’s planning to propose and is accepting and respecting your preference of not staying more nights and not moving in until he’s proposed. If he’s proposing end of 2023/early 2024 then a 2025 wedding date is reasonable. He’s asking your parents first and they are in another country that he’s travelling to to ask them and plans to propose soon after. He’s not insisting that you make a decision to end your contract next month before …	/r/RedPillWomen	09/11/23 09:30 PM
7	31 and want marriage and kids, but am not happy in my relationship of about a year It’s hard to think about the hypothetical children that you’d one day like, but the stuff that’s niggling you is the kind of stuff that will really matter when you have children. You do need to be on the same page in terms of values and working towards the same aim and sense of meaning when raising children. Otherwise it can cause a lot of conflict or just feeling like you’re carrying the world on your shoulders trying to give your children what you know they need instinctively as a mother, with…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/11/23 04:02 PM
1	Do women use the adjectives "creepy" "weirdo" "stalker" etc., as synonymous of "unattractive"? This is such a bizarre question the way you’ve based it on a phenomenon that’s universally regarded as fucking weird. It’s probably a combination of the murderers’ looks and the women’s mental illness. I do think there’s something to an unattractive man being more likely to be called creepy than an attractive one. I think there’s a lower threshold for pushiness/persistence etc for a less attractive man. More attractive men I think can get away with more. But then there are those for whom the vib…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/23 09:20 PM
1	If women can stay single for as long as they desire (as many women claim) then why don't single mothers abstain from dating men until their kids turn 18? Many do wait. Hardly any will know these statistics. Like a very small percentage of people in the world will know these statistics. It could probably be argued that these statistics might well indicate that stepparents are more likely to be found out/ reported on. Who knows. There seems to be an assumption that the women saying ‘I can stay single for as long as I desire’ are the same women who become single mothers and then dive into an active dating life. Are you ok?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/23 12:55 PM
3	Becoming my mother? That’s so fortunate for you as well, because you will on a deep level be wired that way, having been raised in this environment in your formative years. You just need to decondition from the later influences, which sounds like you’re well on your way to doing. This is so lovely to read. Wishing you all the best.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/09/23 07:46 PM