hsar15232 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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3	Divorce/Rant: Need some tips or experiences to keep moving on u/ddbatage One of your sentence caught my eye and here it is: " Long story short it literally sucks to hear reassurance or encouragement from an ex who has a BF and still doesn’t get the hint that we’re not a couple anymore, especially when boundaries have been established. I’m her first stbx as well, so I’m not sure why she’s acting like this…" I differ form your assessment. She is in another relationship - she KNOWS you are not a couple. It is you who THINKS she is confused. Women, in genera…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/07/23 02:16 PM
2	Tell me it comes back around u/saddivorcename I assume when you say 'sort things out', you mean that custody details, property division, etc. If that is the case, keep a detailed log of all her outings, neglect for kids, neglect for house, etc. But don't let her know. If possible, use it to get better custody/property share - if possible. You will have to talk to your lawyer about this. Also know this - you haven't mentioned any skeletons in the closet on your part. So, while the above paragraph is enticing to act up on, be…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/04/23 07:53 PM
3	Ex's car broke down, can't make exchanges u/cryptus-maximus As mentioned by others, in the court you would look idiot, if you pursue emergency hearing. IMPORTANT: Do you have these exchanges in writing? Fro contract perspective, if you let some behavior go on, they may be considered part of contract. If it's just verbal, then she could come and say that you let this happen and now want to change it back. While looking ridiculous, that claim will have some legs. HAVE THIS IN WRITING. After having that in writing, give her some benefits o…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/03/23 04:43 AM
1	Need advice on what to do about my situation Yes, getting a lawyer where the marriage is registered, is better. At the same time, its a matter of the universal laws - most countries recognize marriage, birth, divorce, death - that took place somewhere else. If its amicable, I'd say go for the US one, otherwise an Indian would do it too.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/02/23 09:19 PM
1	Need advice on what to do about my situation u/loveyourselfpls Lawyers are the best bet, of course. My understanding is, once you both are separated (you are in India, and I assume she stayed in the States), it takes some time, but it speeds up the process. Unless she contests it, the process should go easy. One thing, are you in touch? If not, and if she moved or changed phone, etc. and you can't contact - even better. You can legally declare that you tried to contact her, but couldn't (don't abuse it though). In that case, a news note is…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/02/23 12:59 PM
1	There has to be more to the story. u/DraftPuzzleheaded677 Brother, you yourself gave the answer in your post. You need to do this for YOURSELF, right? Then why give her that power, even for a revenge that your satisfaction/happiness/(even) anger is dependent on her? Just do whatever you want, however you want, but without ANY REGARD for her. Build yourself so great and know that she wouldn't get that best version of you. Be so happy and know that your happiness does not come from her. Be You, without her.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/02/23 02:01 AM
2	So my ex wants to bring her boyfriend to mediation... u/Feinixaway Doesn't matter whether if "she can't do anything alone and so she need to bring a lapdog". Few things, if she along wasn't able to do things, she still started asking different schedule, etc. So be ready to meet the person you DON'T know. Don't go overconfident. The laws generally favor women and one wrong step can cost you much. Let's say I agree with you for a second on her inability to do much. Are you confident on the same level for her new BF? If he guides her, what will you do…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/11/22 11:17 PM
2	Anyone here from Calgary? I am from Calgary (work out in the East though). But I am also not on D track (yet).. May be in the future, I'll get advise from you.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/11/22 12:29 AM
1	Sad, Remorseful, Regretful, Betrayed, Alone u/sad_confused_alone You are I are at about the same age and I can see where you are coming from. Of course, what I read and understand would be my interpretation of what you wrote, so take it accordingly. Writing is on the wall - she has most likely cheated and still is. Why no divorce? Because you are supporting them. You see, she is taking stuff out of the house, even if bit by bit. You will have to keep record as what is already taken by her when time comes for actual split. Not denying your…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/10/22 12:36 AM
3	I need help u/organic_Ad_1930 Even though she asks you not to be at sports, I'd say you should be there - after telling her (not blindsiding her). Why? Because the sports is for kids, right? They don't want to feel (or worse case, be told that) you stopped showing up there for them and you are not part of their life. There are many things can be said and others will tell you - but this is my opinion.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/10/22 12:35 AM
3	How can you afford divorce I am in Ontario too.. A question. Don't they pay taxes on the spousal support they get? Or if you could get tax deduction (reduce your taxable income)?	/r/Divorce_Men	24/09/22 01:32 AM