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I struggle with over sharing. I don't do it immediately but months into things. I'm better off being stoic and not expressing sadness or anxiety with women that I'm romantically interested in.
/r/seduction07/02/26 04:07 PM
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Life is unfair and then you die. Looks, money, age, intelligence, etc all matter. The only thing you can do is play as best as you can with the cards you've been dealt. No one deserves anything. It's just how it is unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 04:10 PM
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There are good reasons why she originally lost so badly in the primary in the last election. She's still better than Trump. I do realize how low the bar is.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/08/24 10:10 PM
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Tate is a symptom of the problem and not the cause. What's the solution? I'm not really sure.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/07/24 09:09 AM
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Unfortunately very true.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 04:31 PM
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Being able to easily get first dates and being a good long-term partner are very different skill sets.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 04:22 PM
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Maybe in some weird way true equality will be reached when everyone identifies as a woman?
/r/MensRights12/03/24 03:48 PM
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I'm really sorry about your experiences. A lot of them seem to come from bad women in your life. Being single can be lonely but it comes with the freedom of not worrying about pleasing other people. I say this as someone who has been single for long periods of time.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/02/24 01:27 PM
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Yeah being rich is life on easy mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 12:46 PM
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This is very enlightening. It's just not easy to change overnight. If it ever changes, it's going to take years and years.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 09:19 PM
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Different types of childfree men and women exist. Some are happy, some are unhappy and some are somewhere in the middle. I will say that parenthood is extremely hard on your personal life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 11:24 AM
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Men are the workhorses of society.They all work the most dangerous jobs. They fight our wars. The moment you become too sick to work, you become useless in eyes of society. The majority of the homeless are men.
/r/MensRights04/08/23 11:02 AM
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I really appreciate you being an advocate.
/r/MensRights28/07/23 03:37 PM
4

Is Master Chief the purple pill? What about the Flood? What are they?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 08:29 PM
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Happened to me also.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 02:29 AM
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Don't shit where you eat.
/r/MensRights03/03/23 01:43 AM
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Don't shit where you eat. In a perfect world, decent people wouldn't have to worry about being falsely metooed but we live in a imperfect world.
/r/MensRights21/02/23 01:58 AM
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I do care about women's issues but generally feel men are only valued for the utility they potentially bring. If a man is poor, sick or handicapped, then society sees that man as useless. Think of how many homeless men there are. Men also do the most dangerous jobs. In my most cynical moods, I feel disposable.
/r/MensRights14/02/23 11:36 PM
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This sounds about right. Good observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 10:27 PM
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They both give unhealthy expectations. Porn is made to look sexy not teach you how to be a good lover. Tv/book romance is written to be exciting hence all the cheating, miscommunication, stalking behavior and fighting. A happy well-adjusted couple with no problems or miscommunication is harder to make interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 06:36 AM
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Believe it or not i was there. I was the one taking the pictures though. I enjoyed our time together. We talked about our feelings in a productive manner and a few manly tears were shed. We then compared our stock portfolios and exchanged tips. On a whim we decided to volunteer at the local shelter for orphaned puppies and kittens. Who needs women when you got bros like these. We should do it again sometime.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 10:55 PM
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Yeah agreed. Money can easily be converted into other benefits and assets. Someone with money will likely have a more attractive lifestyle that people want to be a part of.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 09:01 PM
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I'm not interested in having kids. I would only consider getting married after knowing her for a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 07:42 AM
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I've heard dating for men compared to looking for water in the desert. For women it's looking for drinkable water in a swamp.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 11:29 AM
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It really shouldn't matter but it unfortunately matters to a lot of people in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 11:12 AM
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Good looks get your foot in the door. After that it's you can mostly swallow blue pills.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:08 AM
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I've seen it both ways. A sexual woman is just someone comfortable with her sexuality. A sexual man is just a dirty pervert that needs to go to jail. It really depends when, where and who you're talking to. For better or worse, being attractive lets you get away with more.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 06:06 AM
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Pity is pointless. It's not like anyone is going to befriend or date someone else out of pity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 05:45 AM
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Yeah I would say online dating mostly benefits really attractive men interested in NSA relationships. 90% of your success is dependent on your looks. That's not to say that meaningful relationships can't be found online. You'd be successful in spite of online dating not because of.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 11:58 PM
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This reminds me of that woman who lived as a man. She wrote a book called self-made man. She understood that each gender has different perks and struggles.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:41 PM
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Pretty much this. We can close the thread and go home now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 04:06 AM
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I get a certain amount of satisfaction from accumulating money. But otherwise yeah i have a hard time relaxing or enjoying anything. I hate the fact that I'm preoccupied with being single. I wish there was a "off" button for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 03:49 AM
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Most women are going to give you well-meaning but unhelpful advice. Dating is drastically different for men so they don't usually understand. That's one of the reasons why men end up falling into the redpill manosphere.
/r/ExRedPill16/08/22 01:30 AM
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Being good at getting dates and first impressions is unfortunately different from the skill and willingness to be a worthy relationship partner. Some men are great at dating but once they get commitment from their partner they seem content with half-assing their relationship.
/r/ExRedPill15/08/22 09:40 PM
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This all goes back to life being unfair. Nothing can be done except playing with the cards you've been dealt. No one is going to date a disadvantaged person out of pity.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 09:07 PM
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Supposedly conventions are a good place for awkward people to befriend each other and date. I'm in my 30s like you so most of the people there are too young for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:49 AM
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I've only been wooed by women a handful of times. It didn't work out for one reason or another but I still remember them fondly. Most women make me feel like a monkey responsible for their entertainment. There needs to be equity otherwise you end up with people burnt out on dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:11 AM
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If look at the statistics, men, when compared to women, are struggling with suicide, not getting college degrees, homelessness, etc. Boys and men seem to have a lack of purpose and support systems. What's the answer? I not really sure. Aside from other men, i think that the only people who seem to understand tend to be LGBT folks.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/22 08:13 PM
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Virginity is overrated. I don't why it's prized by some folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:06 AM
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Fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:58 AM
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Just like women, men are not a monolith.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:34 AM
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Bonobo chimps supposedly bang their conflicts away. Maybe they're onto something.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:15 AM
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If I'm complaining it's about not getting dates period. Not every man is a sex-obsessed horndog.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:04 AM
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Churchgoers tend to want kids. I don't want kids. I'm not sure if church is a good place for agnostics and atheists. Most people nowadays are not religious.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 11:59 PM
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I would say this is the case for really good looking guys on Tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 11:11 PM
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The only women that I know are acquaintances from work. In retrospect I've never really had female friends. Reading through all these responses it looks like female friends wouldn't help my dating life. Interesting food for thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 12:55 AM
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Really the only thing you can do is not use their services.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 12:44 AM
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Personal experience has taught me to not share my struggles with women, even anonymously on reddit. I now understand why so many men don't live as long as women. Hopefully one day things will get better but probably not anytime soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 10:13 AM
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Women on average, have a natural disposition toward subjects, persons, and physical anatomy (sensitivity to disturbance in inner and outer physiological and psychological fluctuation). There is an objective and subjective form of this. The female seeks logical consistency in the subjective making of internal physiological, psychological, and anatomic states of their own self and project this outward to attend to other selves, she makes sure it is not disturbed by illogical irregularities. In oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 09:22 AM
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For relationships to begin and to last, there needs to be some kind of transactional value whether it is superficial or substantial. I think a lot of women are thinking in terms of wanting net positives. But it is something that is very difficult to quantify. Yeah i think romantic relationships are a lot more selfish than we'd like to admit. You have to bring something to table, whether it be good looks, being funny, money, athleticism, intelligence, etc. Being a decent person is just the bare m…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 09:13 AM
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I think this is what most women are concerned by. There's a heavy implication out there, even if it's unsaid, that all these premises ultimately lead to a conclusion whereby society, the state or whatever it might be should step in and take some kind of action to limit women's freedom in order to rectify an unfair and unjust situation and ultimately try and redistribute this important thing (Female love, sexual attraction and companionship) more evenly. That, I think, is the crux of the debate. …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 08:49 PM
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In the USA, you generally need a master's to do anything with a degree in psychology.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 11:37 AM
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I'm barely old enough to remember dating sites before tinder, hinge, etc. They still sucked but sucked less. I think a lot of people have been conditioned to not talk to strangers irl because social media is less work and you can do it from home.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 03:07 AM
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At different points of my life I wanted to major in psychology, sociology, philosophy and video game design. Thankfully I ended choosing a practical STEM degree. Not everyone is that fortunate. I think a lot of academic and financial aid advisors are predatory or don't care about the future of the people that they're advising. There's too many people with degrees that have no practical use.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 02:55 AM
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You need a physical connection to even be considered. You're just friends if you only have an emotional connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 02:34 AM
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“Stop listening to the idea that ‘oh the good boy that follows the rules will always get the girl’ in the end. Be better, do better and stop worshiping women but treat them how they treat you.” In a vacuum, i see that as pretty healthy advice. It unfortunately got twisted and turned into something toxic. Regardless I feel like romance has lost a lot of its magic. It's like finding out that santa claus isn't real and that we live in a world where you don't matter unless you are capable of produci…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 01:34 AM
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It's a somewhat depressing conclusion but yeah i generally feel like success with women comes from following those three steps. I have a six figure salary along with lots of investments. Step 1 and 2 remain elusive for me since they require so much discipline.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 12:40 AM
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Lol this is a masterpiece.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 06:46 AM
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I have no issues with single moms. I'm just not interested in dating them. Kids are a huge responsibility. The life that I'm planning for doesn't have space for kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 06:43 AM
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I don't really blame or hate women in my case either. I just blame life in general. Life is inherently unfair. I think a lot of people have a unrealistic worldview where decent people don't end up alone. I'm curious to see what your viewpoint will be once you reach your 30s like me. Romance seems to be your thing. In my case i focused a lot of my attention to just making money and living comfortably. That's my cope. Hopefully you'll find something.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 06:34 AM
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Unfortunately romantic love is not unconditional. There's always a catch or cost.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:29 AM
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I work too much. Dating takes up too much time and emotional energy that i don't have. I'm not interested in single parents either, which is most people in the dating scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 11:56 PM
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This is my opinion also. They're designed for profit not happy relationships.
/r/seduction18/06/22 11:03 PM
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I've been attracted to different ethnic groups and sizes. I'm open to different things in women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 12:58 AM
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Yeah I generally feel like LGBT+ folks better understand the struggles of heterosexual men in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 01:47 AM
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I used to think that but then I ran into ghosting. Someone that I knew for a year ghosted me out of the blue. How do you communicate your way out of that?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 02:37 AM
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As a society we see men who struggle as worthless. When I was depressed, I've had an intervention from my family (mostly women) to explain to me how my depression was affecting my mother and I should snap out of it. My point is men are not seen as emotional as women are, the negative side of it is society almost thinks we have no emotions and all of our downfalls come from careful choices we made, theres not a lot of space for nuance. While is nice to voice your struggles from time to time, ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 12:38 AM
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Something that stuck from me from TRP even though I don't visit it in like 6 years. "You cannot change the world, but you can change your life. Society won't change, do what you can to improve your life. It's really really tough but yeah it's better to be self-reliant and not dependent on anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 12:31 AM
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Yeah i feel like men are viewed as disposable unless they're somehow useful. There are definitely downsides to being a woman but generally people notice when a woman is in trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 12:27 AM
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Yeah it's probably pointless to ask for empathy. I don't bitch a whole lot in real life cause no one likes complainers. I do that here so i don't bother anyone in real life. Dating is emotionally exhausting for other men and me but no one cares. Life is inherently unfair for most people though. From personal experience, life in general sucks less the more money that you have. I focus most of my energy accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 08:21 PM
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Indeed. Those trucks guzzle gas too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 03:44 AM
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Most people spend way too much on cars. There are definitely people with cars nicer than their homes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 03:21 AM
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After highschool and college most people's social circles are pretty small. We're out of luck then.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 02:34 AM
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If you're not interested in kids, marriage carries a lot of legal, emotional and financial risk. More and more people seem to be doing unmarried cohabitation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 12:15 AM
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I definitely agree. In my case, I'm burnt out and not really interested in anyone who doesn't return the same amount of effort. That's most people unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 11:39 PM
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I like romance within an established relationship. I don't enjoy the whole song and dance involved in flirting and asking out strangers on dates. It feels like wining and dining a company rep on a business trip. It's a lot of work with few "buyers." Anyone who has worked in sales understands how exhausting it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 11:25 PM
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Attraction has nothing to do with respect. There are definitely women that i respect, regardless of their looks. Ironically though I have trouble being platonic friends with women. It just never happens. I feel like a fish trying to hang out with a bird. We just don't have much in common.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 02:15 AM
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I think they mean well but dating is extremely different for men. Most women just have no useful frame of reference. Also Technology and culture has changed dating in ways no one quite understands. The last girl that I confided in about my dating woes was completely lost and did not understand at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 02:08 AM
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If you look through most people's family trees you'll find a decent number of cousins who married each other. It's just much less common nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 12:10 AM
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This was my experience too haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 12:22 AM
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This has continued to violently clash with reality, where the decades of simply being ignored as a potential dating option on sight alone, and repeatedly told by women to give up hope of dating and kill myself, led to massive depression. People can be cruel. I'm really sorry that happened to you man.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 12:19 AM
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"Treating women like people" is just human 101. Sure some guys need to learn it but that minimal baseline is not going to give a man romantic success. Flirting/dating is a completely different skillset that comes naturally to most guys but not all of them unfortunately. I don't think you can really teach it either. You either eventually get it or you don't because you have autism, low emotional intelligence or whatever. Modern age dating skews everything because humans didn't evolve to find love…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 06:01 AM
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Not getting married and not having kids. To be fair, I'd be open to marrying the right person after hashing out a prenup that's fair to both parties. I'm not interested in children or stepchildren. If you already have kids abandoning them would be a dick move.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 09:27 PM
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Yes, I'm comfortable with international travel and being in European cities. I ended up in Alaska for the sake of a longterm investment in my career. With that experience under my belt I'm now a more attractive employee. I'll likely end up in Germany and I already have family here. I've been to Germany already. There's a LOT more women there and weekend travel to major european cities is easier and cheaper. I definitely appreciate the information.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 09:00 PM
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Yes, i know. That's what gets to me. Most people marry with plans to stay together forever and not be like other couples that fight. Their love is different and deeper. Then life happens and people get divorced. Your divorce is definitely better than average. Friends or not, you were tied down until your kid grew up. In your case, you were fortunate.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:49 PM
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Glad to hear that you found someone. I'm hoping the same will happen for me once I move somewhere more cosmopolitan.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:11 PM
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That's part of the reason why I don't want kids. If you end up divorced with kids you're now chained to your ex for 18+ years. Modern marriage seems to unnecessarily complicate everyone's lives. A break up is hard enough already for everyone. I can't imagine having to deal with legal issues at the same as a break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 08:09 PM
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Indeed. Wealth can be relative. The wealthier you become, the more you realize just how little you have compared to people in the 1% Regardless i live a comfortable life and most of my money gets invested. I'm able to splurge too. I make more than median couples do combined. I don't live the champagne lifestyle and I'm not interested in anyone who is. I'm not looking for runway models. My biggest dealbreakerers are single parents, being unemployed and being overly obese (thickness and chunk are …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 03:25 PM
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Generally you're not going to change the opinion of the person you're debating. You might sway an open-minded person in the audience though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 12:25 PM
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I'd say that the quest to become "high value" can seem like a neverending task with no end. Also I've noticed that the more "high value" that I become, the more I expect from the other party. It's gotten to the point to where I rather be single than lower my standards after putting in so much work.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 09:12 AM
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My dating pool is mostly single parents. I don't want children so unfortunately I'm not interested in most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 10:25 PM
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I think men and women are becoming less and less able to meet each others needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 10:22 PM
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Unfortunately true.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 09:19 PM
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Yeah the joker is supposed to be sympathetic but ultimately a bad person not to be admired. And yes sometimes society doesn't take action until desperate people do stupid things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 08:33 PM
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Most guys fortunately don't become the joker. Most just give in to a life of apathy and depression. Porn, Netflix, video games, no job and no friends. Regardless it's worth fixing as a society. Look at Japan and their hikikomori.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 07:49 PM
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No worries. I leave most of the embarrassing threads and replies up on my profile so people have an idea who I am, warts and all. Sure I'd like talking with you. I've been trying to have more platonic relationships in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 11:25 AM
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Good looks and other superficial stuff unfortunately gets your foot in the door. If you're initially unimpressive most people are not going to take the time to get to know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 08:16 PM
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I've noticed that I'm less picky with women i see in real life. Pheremones, poise, voice and what not can't be seen on pictures or video.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 08:12 PM
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With marriage becoming less common I'm wondering if we'll just see serial monogamy but without marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 08:00 PM
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That was very empathetic and insightful. Thanks for posting that for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 07:38 PM
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Yeah if you're a guy just getting a date involves a lot of work. It's basically an unpaid part-time job.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 07:32 PM
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I'm not really interested in having kids. It unfortunately makes dating hard. I could maybe maybe be persuaded to date a mom with one child but it would be a long shot honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 08:38 PM
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All I know is that getting dates is too hard. I had to stop because it was affecting my self-esteem.
/r/ExRedPill27/03/22 02:35 AM
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I'm the shorter side. Night clubs were unfortunately bad for my self-esteem.
/r/ExRedPill26/03/22 05:11 AM
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I have no idea. I wish something legitimate existed though.
/r/ExRedPill26/03/22 05:08 AM
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I understand why redpill media and coaches are so addictive. Clearly there's a lot of men who don't understand dating. There's a huge demand for it so that brings out all snakeoil salesmen. There's unfortunately a dearth on legitimate dating experts and media. Professional counselors can't directly help you with dating.
/r/ExRedPill26/03/22 05:06 AM
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I grew up religious and I think it gave me unrealistic disney-like expectations. I sometimes miss being that naive. From my experiences I see relationships and marriage as more selfish and practical than we'd like to admit. I think we all have expectations that are hard to meet. Kids are really expensive nowadays. Around 300k and that's for a healthy child. If I were a woman I'd be terrified of getting pregnant because of how dangerous it can be and how much of a toll it takes on your body and m…
/r/ExRedPill26/03/22 04:58 AM
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As a shy introverted guy I feel like there aren't really any options for us.
/r/ExRedPill26/03/22 04:30 AM
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As a guy who doesn't really date cause he sucks at flirting and first impressions, there are definitely times where I feel like my life would be easier as a woman. No one pursues me. No one ever compliments me. I feel invisible to the opposite sex. That being said I'm cognizant of the fact that there are times when I would hate being a woman. Women have their struggles too. Regardless there's no avoiding the gender roles in dating for me. I'm introverted, I don't enjoy talking to strangers and i…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 09:02 AM
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As a man I feel disposable. Men are the ones with the high suicide rates and they're generally the ones doing the dangerous jobs. My biggest worry is becoming permanently disabled and then falling through the cracks of society. I say this despite having a white collarish job.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 08:43 AM
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When I think about it too much I sometimes feel like life in general is every man/woman for themselves. Nothing is free so it makes sense that relationships are being commercialized.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 08:34 AM
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For me the more important question is if women are attracted me. From my track record the answer is a resounding no.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/22 03:57 AM
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The tinderfication of dating has made dating a terrible experience for both genders. After college, meeting new single women is tough unless you're a extrovert with big social circles. Introverted and socially anxious men are out of luck. It's interesting to see the economy react to this need with camgirls, onlyfans, sugaring, etc. There's apparently a lot of lonely men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:33 PM
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I never really wanted the dating life that sounds like a penthouse magazine letter. I just wanted one person to love me unconditionally too. My last dating experience was really bad so I gave up and focused on my career. I don't much now except work. I just want to retire as soon as possible and finally have the time to get a dog so I feel less lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 08:43 PM
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It sounds like involves a lot of luck. The time and disappointment became too much unfortunately so I gave up and just focused on my career and retiring early.
/r/ExRedPill30/01/22 10:17 PM
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I don't really buy into the redpill mindset. I already knew that women are humans. I understand women as casual friends, relatives, coworkers, etc but not when it comes to dating. There are a lot of unspoken rules in flirting and dating that I don't understand and never will after trying 35+ years. I don't think that it can be taught either. It's just something that you get or don't get. The majority of women expect men the pursuing but if you don't know how to do that then you're out of luck. T…
/r/ExRedPill30/01/22 09:58 PM
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I wish I could of had this drilled into me when I was a teenager. Maybe it would have made a difference. Romance is pragmatic and not anything like a Disney movie. Vague platitudes like being yourself or you'll meet someone eventually do more harm than good to boys and men. That being said, doing all the above is just going to increase your chances. There's nothing that you can do that will guarantee results. In my prime, I was working out an hour a day five days a week. I also bought and read a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 07:22 PM
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When a significant other, male or female, gets rich it really seems to change the whole dynamic of the relationship. It depresses me to see this because maybe relationships are more pragmatic and selfish than we'd like to think.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 06:57 PM
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From experience I can say that discussing your worries and fears is generally a good way to sabotage your friendships and relationships with women. There's a lot of lip service paid to saying that real men should be allowed share their feelings. I haven't seen it much in practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 03:11 AM
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The self-improvement treadmill is neverending. No matter how hard we try we're told that we're not trying hard enough. Dating is so tiring. After a certain point I got tired of all the ghosting and disappointment. I apparently was never good enough for anyone. I gave up. I'm naturally a quiet and introverted guy so talking to strange women was rarely enjoyable for me. All my energy now goes to my hard but lucrative job and grad school. My goal is retire early and comfortably or to work remotely …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 04:49 AM
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4ish. I have an above average job but I'm introverted and socially anxious around women. I gave up on dating so I'm just focusing on work, investing and early retirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 06:38 AM
1

I'll keep that in mind, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 06:56 AM
3

I figure most women feel this way but are unwilling to admit it. I appreciate the harsh truth over sweet lies. Putting in all that work sounds pointless for the average joe when he could easily be replaced.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:35 AM
1

I totally hear you. I wish I could rewire my brain and change myself. Unfortunately I'm not a people person though I've tried. Because of social anxiety and my introversion I need way too much time to recharge my socializing batteries.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 02:59 AM
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Dating apps make money from thirsty men desperate to get any attention from women. Generally men do the pursuing unless the man is really good looking or special in some way. There's no economic incentive for apps to change. Also any halfway decent-looking girl is going to get attention, unwanted or wanted, from men just from being out and about.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 02:54 AM
1

Men unfortunately have a hard time developing support networks. Society expects them to always be strong, stoic and a problem-solver. When you can't live up to that image you isolate yourself and suffer alone rather than risk looking weak.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 02:00 AM
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Just trying to get a date is a LOT of work especially if you're naturally introverted and socially anxious. If you struggle IRL you're going to struggle online. Aftet a certain point, I let dating go by the wayside and just focused on my career. I have big investments that should pay off in a couple years. I would be making a lot less if I had a wife and kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 01:43 AM
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If you're an introverted man you're generally going to blend into the background in group stuff. Most of my social groups generally had couples, single guys but no single women. Unless you tailor your life around social events you're generally not going to meet single women. It's easier to do in college but after that it's tough. In my case, I work long hours and do online grad school. I actually like doing social groups while with a woman but not on my own. Otherwise they feel like work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 01:09 AM
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I appreciate you being honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 12:56 AM
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I think true love is rarer than we'd like to admit. Look at the divorce rates. There's a lot of single parents. A lot of people stay together for pragmatic reasons and inertia. Getting divorced is expensive and a huge hassle. Marriage used to be seen as a business contract. Romantic love is still relatively new and it's very conditional.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 09:47 PM
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I usually don't see many women in social activities unless they are with a partner or friend. If you're introverted and socially anxious there's no easy way to meet women after college.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 08:54 PM
1

I think guys are slowly becoming like the humans in wall-e. Porn, video games, grubhub and egirls.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 11:34 PM
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Living with your parents is not a deal breaker if you're otherwise a great catch. A lot of people live with their parents because of the economy and high cost of housing. As for video games, there's so many choices and some are cheap but provides lots of hours of entertainment. VR is slowly becoming better than real life. Dating is rarely fun if you suck at it. I kind of disagree with the porn. I see 4k quality porn on demand, egirls and onlyfans as easy copes for guys who have trouble with dati…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 11:25 PM
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I kind of feel like this is the best scenario that I can hope for. Someone who's willing to settle for less in exchange for financial security. Dating if you're an average guy is really tough.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 11:22 PM
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I think that's one of the many reasons why so many men decide to just stay at home and watch porn instead. It's cheaper too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 04:21 AM
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You can get countless hours of entertainment from a new video game. Booze is expensive especially if you compare it to video games.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 07:58 PM
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