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How do we tell the child? Assuming you have a cordial relationship with the mother, you should discuss this with her. She knows that kid best, for now. What are my rights? You have a right to see your child, and have some level of involvement. What form that will take will be up to you and the mother. The best situation for you would be to keep things cordial with the mother, so that you can make an agreement that works for both of you. Responsibilities? Right now, you have a legal duty to suppo…
/r/MensRights02/10/14 03:13 PM
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Unintentionally hilarious. Be well.
/r/MensRights02/10/14 09:45 AM
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If she filed for support from an un-named father, at some time in the past, so there is an open support case, it's possible that there would be "back" child support owed. It would not be awarded by default, if she only recently has filed for support, however. With all due respect, check your facts.
/r/MensRights01/10/14 04:31 PM
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You can't owe for support that's not requested or for periods prior to a support complaint. Don't be silly. His support obligation going forward from the date of filing will be significant, but you can't go back in time in court filings.
/r/MensRights30/09/14 10:20 PM
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Sorry, I didn't respond to this earlier. Try this for an idea of what you'll need to do: https://lawhelpinteractive.org/login_form?template_id=template.2012-04-12.1590256367&set_language=en If your ex claims that she's living in a place in court records, and Sheriff's attempt service there, and a competent adult is served, she is properly served in the eyes of the law. Note that the relocation procedure requires at least 60 days of notice. If you anticipate difficulties in serving her, you shoul…
/r/MensRights21/02/14 02:49 AM
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What? If you wouldn't mind, PM me your case number, that's completely different than how mine was done. If you don't want to do that, register for the dept of court records site yourself, and then you can look at the docket for your case yourself. You can register here: https://dcr.alleghenycounty.us/wills/security/RegisterExt.aspx You don't need to be an attorney to register there. I found it very helpful in keeping track of my case. The partial custody hearing will be in front of Laura Vallez,…
/r/MensRights19/02/14 10:30 PM
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Maybe your county is different, but in Allegheny county, interim orders produced from mediations or conciliations are signed by judges, and are court orders. If what you're saying is true, don't be intimidated. Conciliations are not that big of a deal. There are no Perry Mason moments. Even if you go without an attorney, you won't get screwed, from everything you've said so far. No conciliation officer is going to give her half custody. If she won't agree to living with what you have now, you'll…
/r/MensRights19/02/14 09:58 PM
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Don't sweat going to a conciliation without a lawyer. If you're reasonably assertive, you'll do fine.
/r/MensRights19/02/14 08:45 PM
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As someone who divorced a mentally ill spouse with substance issues and a child endangerment charge, you're not going to get her parental rights terminated. Supervised visits is about as good as it gets in PA. I am guessing that what you mean by "full custody" is primary physical, and sole legal custody (ability to make medical, educational and other decisions on your own). I don't formally have that, and have been advised that it's nearly impossible to get. I have primary physical, and shared l…
/r/MensRights19/02/14 08:34 PM
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If there is no custody order in place, she didn't kidnap the kids. I don't approve of the woman's actions, but it wasn't kidnapping.
/r/MensRights07/11/13 08:27 PM
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I've run into this too. Don't sweat it. When you sign up for something, make sure to tell them where your kids live, and which of you is to receive what. If you're clear at the beginning, most places either get it right, or only screw it up once.
/r/MensRights23/10/13 02:20 PM
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She's already close to the primary villain. If she had a kid with mental or behavioral issues, why weren't her weapons properly secured? The mother is as almost as much at fault as the shooter.
/r/MensRights19/12/12 08:20 PM
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Make my wife actually pay me something, I literally get nothing from her, and I have my son full time, she has only supervised weekend visits.
/r/MensRights24/09/12 02:57 PM
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Your lawyer is correct about filing with a magistrate, you should also have your lawyer file a civil contempt petition (or whatever the equivalent would be in VA) for your ex's refusal to let you take your kids. You'll be able to use that recording in your contempt proceeding--it will matter. Hang in there!
/r/MensRights12/09/12 05:32 PM
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I'm truly sorry for you. I hope you can figure out a way to recover from that hurt; I'm still trying to help my son understand and work through it. Peace, and an e-hug.
/r/MensRights07/09/12 07:30 PM
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I am now divorced from an alcoholic, who is also a compulsive hoarder. I have custody of my son. I struggled to get the local courts and child welfare authorities to understand hoarding, and its impact on my son, mostly unsuccessfully for a year and a half after I moved out. During that initial period, I shared custody evenly with my ex. I died a little inside every time I sent my son to her pathologically disgusting house. Finally, last April, I'm home alone on a night my ex had custody. At abo…
/r/MensRights07/09/12 07:14 PM
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I'm a single dad, I won custody from my wife, and I did most of the legal filings and negotiating myself. It's possible. First: there is no magic bullet that will give your brother custody of his kids, unless his ex does something so colossally stupid or illegal that he'll be guaranteed custody. In my own county, the presumption is for 50/50 custody, absent any agreement. You'll want a real family law attorney to advise you on the situation in your own area. Second: I was able to represent mysel…
/r/MensRights30/07/12 08:33 PM
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Let me paraphrase "Despite a counter-example offered as evidence to the contrary of my generalization, I'm sticking to my guns." Gotcha.
/r/MensRights16/07/12 10:18 AM
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Not in my state--my ex was convicted for child endangerment and 2 DUIs in the space of 6 months, during the pendency of our custody case. My state has a statutory requirement that those convictions be taken into account in child custody cases. My case is certainly not the norm, but "Never. Ever." is too strong.
/r/MensRights14/07/12 03:42 PM
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I did, and have full custody of my kid, and pay no spousal support. It can happen, but it helped in my case that my ex is certifiably batshit insane.
/r/MensRights13/07/12 07:01 PM
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combat medics do not have the same training as RN's sorry
/r/MensRights13/07/12 06:58 PM
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Your bias is showing: in neither case was a termination and loss of pension mentioned. In the second, the two were only ordered to stay away from students temporarily, arguably, despite imposing more stringent strip searches, their discipline was less severe. Did I miss the prosecutions that you or others said would happen to a man in a similar position? Hurts to be wrong, eh?
/r/MensRights22/06/12 03:15 AM
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You have zero evidence, not inadequate evidence. Here's an instance in which a male administrator ordered a strip search in violation of a district's policy: http://forum.prisonplanet.com/index.php?topic=143245.0;wap2 He was not prosecuted, and was allowed to resign. Same here: http://news.google.com/newspapers?nid=1314&dat=19981209&id=hGNWAAAAIBAJ&sjid=7fEDAAAAIBAJ&pg=5170,8767155 o, why cling to the idea that men and women are treated equally as regards sexual assault I didn't say that. In thi…
/r/MensRights21/06/12 09:56 PM
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Um, no. Some responders have said that a male principal would be criminally charged in the same situation: I contend that a man would have been treated the same, and that the treatment in this case was appropriate. That's not the same as forgiving or condoning her behavior; I don't. I'm all for ending female privilege when it comes to children, and ending the stupid all-men-are-pedophiles prejudice. Having those beliefs, however, does not allow me to suspend rational thought.
/r/MensRights21/06/12 06:14 PM
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Forgive me, but where does it say that the male principal in that case was charge as a result of an inappropriate search? You're comparing apples to oranges.
/r/MensRights21/06/12 06:01 PM
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Kindly produce a single quote of mine in which I said anything approximating a belief that a woman should be treated differently than a man in this situation. I disagree that a male principal in this situation would have been treated differently. Principals search kids all the time, sometimes inappropriately. I again defy you to produce a single incident in which any principal, male or female was arrested and charged for an inappropriate search. A male principal in the same situation would, and …
/r/MensRights21/06/12 05:09 PM
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I don't see this incident as different whether the search was performed by a man or a woman: it's the same behavior. Please produce a similar incident in which a man (or woman) principal was arrested for a strip search; you can't do it. You feel as if a male principal would have been treated differently, but have zero evidence to back up your claim. Not everyone who disagrees with you advocates female privilege.
/r/MensRights21/06/12 04:36 PM
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Principals are not unionized, so it's much easier for school boards to get rid of them. While I don't believe her to be a saint, given that she was allowed to retire, I think it's likely that she had many years of service that was at least acceptable to her employer, the school district in this case. Your "what ifs" and "might haves" don't mean much, as she continued to work there. Given that, the fair thing to do is to let her retire, and move on with life.
/r/MensRights21/06/12 02:55 PM
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I don't believe that. There was no sexual contact here. At worst, this was an inappropriate search--I defy you to show me a case in which a male or female principal went to prison for an inappropriate search.
/r/MensRights21/06/12 02:50 PM
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What's likely is that she was allowed to retire, as she had enough time in the system to do so. While I think the actions of the principal here to be deplorable, I also have no doubt that she had a long career, most of which she didn't make huge mistakes like this. I don't think the fair and just thing to do is to terminate her for cause, denying her a pension for which she probably worked her whole life. She no longer works there, and rightly so; there's no need to ruin her life.
/r/MensRights21/06/12 02:24 PM
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I get literally nothing from my ex-wife, and won't for 3 years, and I have custody of my eleven year old son. She gets him for one overnight every other weekend. Yay for female privilege.
/r/MensRights07/06/12 01:33 PM
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When I see this, I feel like I dodged a bullet--I have my son full time, and don't pay his mother a dime (although she doesn't pay me for his support, thanks female privilege!).
/r/MensRights11/05/12 02:56 PM
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The risk of negatively affecting my custody situation would not be worth it. If it comes down to it, I'll scrub floors on midnight shift to keep my son out of her hell-hole hoarder's den.
/r/MensRights13/03/12 06:50 PM
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That's not a legal conversation to have in my state. Children are not chattel, and you can't use child support as a bargaining chip in equitable distribution of marital assets in a divorce.
/r/MensRights13/03/12 05:47 PM
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Even with the grand a month that I'll pay her in child support APL, I won't qualify for any assistance of any kind. As for bad mouthing my ex: I have to walk a thin line. I don't say things that are outright disparaging, however my son needs to understand lots of stuff: why he can't live with mom, even part time; why he can only visit with her when her parents drive her to pick him up; what hoarding is, and why she is unlikely to move closer to us, or ever clean up her house. I can't paint a Pol…
/r/MensRights13/03/12 04:10 PM
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She has an obligation to support her kid, but in reality, her obligation to support will only mitigate any payments I have to make to her, as her income right now is zero. I've already filed for child support.
/r/MensRights13/03/12 04:05 PM
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The field trip, my son will get over. The camp is a serious and probably recurring issue, as I need to provide for his care during the summers for at least the next few years. Getting a better job salary-wise is perhaps an option, but my current job is near to ideal in terms of hours and benefits for a single parent. Working in my field (MBA/IT type) nearly always involves some amount of travel, and as a single dad, I just can't do it. Even a 10G bump wouldn't help a ton, as if I had to travel, …
/r/MensRights13/03/12 03:28 PM
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She worked throughout our marriage, losing her job only after we separated. APL in my state is based on a straight formula. I call her a deadbeat for a lot of reasons, mostly because she doesn't contribute to my son's care, at all. My biggest concern is that I won't be able to care for my son. I can't pay for day camp if I'm paying her what I think I'll end up paying her. I absolutely need to send him to day camp, as I don't think an 11 year old should be left to his own devices for 10+ hours pe…
/r/MensRights13/03/12 03:14 PM
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Not alimony, APL, lasts until the divorce decree. I am much less worried about the actual divorce, as my ex has a 20 year stable work and salary history. I'll be able to have a vocational evaluation done, and be able to impute some kind of income to her. I know I'll probably never get a nickle from her to support my son, but at least she wouldn't be stealing from both of us.
/r/MensRights13/03/12 02:55 PM
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It is fake. Pell grants are a pretty standard Federal educational benefit. "There is no such thing as an Obama grant for moms," said Robert Shireman, who until early this month was deputy undersecretary at the U.S. Department of Education. "Moms are eligible for federal financial aid generally -- Pell Grants, student loans and other aid -- but nothing specific to moms or single moms." Nevertheless, the Obama mom ads have become "ubiquitous," he said. http://www.propublica.org/article/bogus-obama…
/r/MensRights29/02/12 07:17 PM
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Fake. Just because it's on the internet, doesn't make it true.
/r/MensRights29/02/12 04:50 AM
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Nothing worked for me until my ex ate a child endangerment charge, then it was "game over".
/r/MensRights03/02/12 07:18 PM
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I had that feeling when I first "won", but honestly now, it doesn't feel much like winning. I know my son is safe all the time now, but I am also dealing with the fallout of helping him figure out his batshit insane mother, and am a single dad. Winning custody was just the first step.
/r/MensRights03/02/12 06:30 PM
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Pennsylvania. Presumption here is shared physical; proving that either parent is unfit here is very difficult. To be clear: when we were in the first phases of our custody dispute (mandated mediation), and we couldn't agree, 50/50 custody was imposed on us by the court, because it's the default option here. I still think that there is some degree of favor towards women, as I truly believe that had I done some of the shit my wife did, I'd have gone to jail. That's entirely different than a presum…
/r/MensRights02/02/12 03:44 AM
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Given that I am a man, and have fought for and won sole physical custody with shared legal custody (and am in the process of getting sole legal custody), and that I formerly had shared (50/50, in a 3/2/2 rotation) physical custody (again with shared legal custody), don't presume to tell me what I do and don't know about different types of custody. In my state, the presumption, in fact is "joint physical and legal custody", and that is increasingly the case nationally. My kid was not awarded to M…
/r/MensRights02/02/12 01:04 AM
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If you're in the US, know that most states (35 of 50 according to this site: http://ancpr.com/joint_custody_laws_in_the_united.htm ) presume that custody will be joint. Women are not in the driver's seat as much as they used to be. That said, it's hard to give you advice that will allow your friend to not feel ruined. Divorce is crazy expensive and contentious, and hurtful. Even if he gets 50/50 custody he may feel like he "lost". Sorry.
/r/MensRights01/02/12 08:32 PM
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He was born without teeth. Even if that were not the case, a child in his teens is old enough to reason and give consent, an infant is not.
/r/MensRights29/12/11 09:21 AM
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When I was his age, the last thing I ever would have done was admit that I had looked at, let alone noticed the characteristics of the penis of a friend. Even today, as a straight man, I have never had a conversation with another man that included the words "It's about your cock...." That's a ridiculous reason to perform surgery on an infant.
/r/MensRights29/12/11 01:37 AM
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As a parent, and coach of young boys (in judo) cleanliness can be an issue with any kid. Children do not magically learn cleanliness, it's taught by parents. I do talk to my son about pulling his foreskin back, but only as much as is comfortable for him. From the reading I've done, it's entirely normal to have a non retractile foreskin even into your late teens, although most teen boys work at it enough that it retracts during that time (ahem). At 11, I ask him about it, and tell him what he's s…
/r/MensRights28/12/11 07:45 PM
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I didn't have my son circumcised. I'll address her concerns. Cleanliness - totally a non-issue. In young boys, the foreskin does not retract. You teach them to wash the same way you teach any boy to wash, with soap and water. My son is 11 now, and I don't think his foreskin has retracted, although he's embarrassed to talk about it. I occasionally have talked to him about the need to pull back the skin on his penis and wash. No big deal. My son has asked me about why he doesn't look like his circ…
/r/MensRights28/12/11 05:31 PM
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I have custody of my son, get no child support, and instead have to pay alimony. Her support obligation essentially only mitigates the money I have to pay her. I want to tell her "Hey, come over for dinner. I won't set a place for you, instead you can just take the food right from our son's mouth."
/r/MensRights09/12/11 05:02 PM
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