hwillis891 Archive

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8	Okay 100 approaches to learn is cool. But how do you guys deal with the fear of being labelled as creepy or guy who tries to hit on every girl? I think the best way is to be willing to lose her. Meaning, don’t be afraid to be who you are and go after what you want. As long as you let fear dictate your choices you’ll continue to be paralyzed by inaction. But if you embrace the concept of loss, of not worrying whether or not she’ll respond positively, and simply approach with a curious mind, you’ll be surprised how well you do. Don’t be afraid to say something stupid. Don’t be afraid to flirt a little. Don’t be afraid to ask her out. Don’…	/r/seduction	18/01/26 03:50 PM
26	Okay 100 approaches to learn is cool. But how do you guys deal with the fear of being labelled as creepy or guy who tries to hit on every girl? I think the best way to not come off as creepy or weird is to be selective with the women you hit on. Whenever in my mind a woman is completely my type I tend to act differently. I can’t describe it in words but I feel very comfortable around my type of woman, and that isn’t always the best looking woman or the hottest woman. I think most women would love to be hit on by a sexy, receptive, and classy gentleman who’s unapologetic about what he wants. I think if you look at it from the angle of th…	/r/seduction	18/01/26 11:59 AM
2	Even though she is a smoking hot baddie that turn every head when she walks. Should I just approach? You have to reframe your perspective on how you approach women. Don’t think of it as a chase, think of it as you are finding the women that fit you and your frame. If you think of yourself as chasing the woman you’ll always come from a place of neediness and insecurity. Guys who get laid often have options. To show you have options, you become the one that’s the chooser. Of course because you’re the male you have to open and talk to her, but women are just people like anyone else. You decide if …	/r/seduction	07/01/26 10:19 PM
2	Even though she is a smoking hot baddie that turn every head when she walks. Should I just approach? No I’m saying think of HER like that. Reframe your perspective. Think if she’s enough for YOU, and not the other way around. Don’t be arrogant about it, but you are the one choosing.	/r/seduction	07/01/26 10:12 PM
2	Even though she is a smoking hot baddie that turn every head when she walks. Should I just approach? I would actually say to feel it out. Looks gets you interested, personality and how you carry yourself makes you stay. You’ve got to take her as the full package because sometimes beauty is all a pretty woman has to offer and outside of that she isn’t a good person, isn’t interesting, or isn’t wife material.	/r/seduction	07/01/26 07:15 PM
1	Noobie here, haven't gone on a single date, confused about what characteristics to show. No, moron, because if you’re telling a woman to go to my place and watch a movie she already knows what you want and you have also voiced your attraction beforehand. How is talking to people pressure??? It’s how you learn how to be more sociable. As you get better you can dial back. But he’s at baseline. Chat up the gorgeous woman next to you because even if you crash and burn you’re training your mind to seek for more. To me it’s loser thinking to work your way up. Masculine males get laid a sh…	/r/seduction	06/01/26 12:31 AM
1	Noobie here, haven't gone on a single date, confused about what characteristics to show. Dude, to get results in anything you have to start embracing a different mentality. I see a lot of “I can’t” or “this just isn’t the norm” in discussing cold approaching and relationships. How do you think babies are made? By going to the library every day hoping to find some bookworm sex pot who is a literary genius? Life doesn’t work that way. You’re going to have to adopt a new mentality. One that is radically different from the one you have adopted so far. First off, cast off culture norms. …	/r/seduction	06/01/26 12:08 AM
2	I only ever seem to attract people I'm not remotely into and have trouble attracting anyone who's even slightly my type. Why? All the way this bro. You need to open with attraction, then get to know her. Make her feel comfortable enough to want to hang after expressing your intention.	/r/seduction	05/01/26 11:21 AM
14	I only ever seem to attract people I'm not remotely into and have trouble attracting anyone who's even slightly my type. Why? Ohy, you have Asperger’s and social anxiety? You’re probably going to struggle a bit more than normal males because there is one 1# rule of attraction with women. Social skills. Men who have social skills no matter how rough they look get laid with crazy numbers. Men who can charm effortlessly with no weird pauses or expressions are what women crave. Your eye contact may be nonexistent or strange. You may talk about one topic endlessly. You may have weird ticks, unsettling and awkward body langu…	/r/seduction	05/01/26 11:19 AM
3	Men, how the hell do I know when to make a move while on a date with a woman? I would say and agree with all the other posters, to know when the right time to make a move is to just make a move and let her respond. Typically if she’s into you she’ll like it. You might get a rejection or two, but at least you’re honest with your actions.	/r/seduction	05/01/26 11:08 AM
2	How to find other guys to game with? What major city? Go to the Reddit city posts and post there. You’ll be surprised at the people who will answer back. Just make sure to meet in a place with good lighting.	/r/seduction	04/01/26 04:30 AM
1	I really like this girl in my class but i don't know what to do. Next time you see her, talk, witty banter, then ASK HER OUT. You actually either want to have her or get rid of her in your mind.	/r/seduction	29/12/25 12:01 PM
24	Does being nonchalant or confident work? You talk a lot with the girls you match? No. Don’t talk a lot with prospective dates. Get a little chemistry going, then ask for the number. Talk on the phone a little so she knows you aren’t a stalker or creep, then make the date. Frame it like a date, and make some sort of move when you’re ready. Keep it simple man. The more you talk, the less she’ll be interested because you haven’t left anything to the imagination and you’re too outcome dependent. Talk a lot with your buddies, they don’t giv…	/r/seduction	29/12/25 01:06 AM
5	How do I stop caring? The best way to get out of your own head is to just do it. I’ve scheduled myself to go out at least three days a week in places I’ve never been. I commit myself to it even with the fears. And you know what happens? I have a good ass time and realize everything I’ve worried about was just noise. Even when something bad happens I don’t really remember it because I’m having so much fun. Just push yourself past your weakness and fears. Let go of results and just go for it. Worse thing that happens i…	/r/seduction	29/12/25 12:07 AM
2	20+ Hinge dates , 0 second dates [ SF ] Dude you should do more cold approach. Attractive women only match with Ken dolls on dating apps. Out in the real world vibes get you further. Double your rate of going out and hitting on women.	/r/seduction	29/12/25 12:01 AM
6	20+ Hinge dates , 0 second dates [ SF ] So, are you genuinely attracted and interested with these women? No offense, but I can count on my hand the number of women I was genuinely invested in and it showed. It made it easy to escalate and let things go their course. If you aren’t excited, why would she? I think sex is pretty natural if it’s the right woman. Why not instead of going on all these nonsense dates with women you aren’t into, get into doing things in real life or going places in real life that you’re interested in. At least…	/r/seduction	28/12/25 03:55 PM
3	Girl that I like has genital herpes. Is it worth continuing? No.	/r/seduction	23/12/25 07:59 PM
1	All i think about is dating and it's sucks , One thing that will help is if you look for women who are into your same interests. I’m into art, and most of the girls I click with are the same. Find things that you are into where people gather and go to those things. Talk to everyone, and don’t worry if you don’t click with the same women, just keep trying. Also, work on the things that are in your control. Work out, make your body look good, make more money, polish up your fashion, become better at socializing, find a cool hobby women would…	/r/seduction	20/12/25 03:59 PM
3	All i think about is dating and it's sucks , So I went though a period when I saw my cousins getting women and they would be all cocky and fun and girls would flock to them. I was envious and I tried doing the same thing. I got clowned, laughed at, and treated like shit. That happened for a while. And then, for some odd reason, I started to relax. I lost the mindset of judgement. I stopped caring about what other people thought and wanted and cared more about what I wanted. I never pushed for sex unless it seemed plausible, I had fun witho…	/r/seduction	20/12/25 12:42 AM
36	How to approach girls? I would say the best way to approach girls is to think of it like diving in a freezing cold pool for the first time. You’re scared to do it because it’s going to shock your system, but afterwards you can basically “dry off” or stop and give yourself a break. Memorizing lines is cool and all, but I think the better way to approach women is to say “excuse me, I just want to say you are stunning/you have great style/I couldn’t let you pass by without talking to you” introduce yourself, and do small…	/r/seduction	15/12/25 09:27 AM
1	The quickest way to success with women is... This is terrible advice. Not only does it make your mentality weak with women, it makes your mentality weak in general. If you are a man and you have been birthed on this beautiful green earth and you have survived infancy, you are a complete anomaly. Who knows if this life is the last you could possibly have. So why waste it not going after what you absolutely want with everything you have? If you fail, at least you weren’t weak to settle for a terribly innocuous life of quiet desperation and m…	/r/seduction	08/12/25 09:42 AM
6	Sexual / desire advice If you feel that way and you think you’re going to cheat be honest with your wife and let her go if necessary. In my perspective if you know you are sexually promiscuous, you need to stay single and not have children and be honest with your partners. A person that has a high sex drive and their partner isn’t enough for them will end up causing major trouble for their partner. Don’t cause her to be traumatized by you because you aren’t willing to be in a monogamous relationship. She’s for someone…	/r/seduction	05/12/25 04:03 PM
125	Stopped Chasing, now everything flows naturally Hey whatever works for you bro. I’m of the belief that every man has a different “sweet spot” that makes him attractive to women. Some men have the gift of gab, some men play strong silent type well, some men can joke a woman’s panties off. Finding your center and strength where you feel comfortable is so important. You’ve found your best skill, now just advancing it a little bit and still approaching, just with a perspective of enjoying the approach without being hung up on the end result.	/r/seduction	04/12/25 08:21 PM
1	Thinking of taking a break Honestly it’s never a good idea to hit on someone at work. Movies glamorize it, but often people who work at establishments just want to get their paycheck and go home. They aren’t in a true sexy and flirty mood, and flirting with customers could affect their job. I believe you’re thinking of getting girls in the wrong way. For me, I celebrate the fact that I had enough courage to even talk to a woman, much less flirt with her. I don’t worry if I’m not a woman’s type, or that I get embarrassed, …	/r/seduction	03/12/25 11:24 AM
1	Why do girls want to do only foreplay but not have sex? Man I’ve had a few. Trying to escalate too quickly when the woman wasn’t ready, trying to escalate when it’s too late, forcing seduction, I have a laundry list. I would say that just have fun with the interaction, and be comfortable with weird silences. I was over this one woman’s place and we were watching the lion king. She had a kid and we didn’t talk for a little bit and she went to go check on the kid. I was kind of sitting there thinking maybe I should head home when she came back and we i…	/r/seduction	03/12/25 10:57 AM
26	Why do girls want to do only foreplay but not have sex? I’m kind of weird sometimes when I’m with a woman. I think the best way to go is to invite her over, chill together, and just let things follow their course. If you don’t have sex with her, just relax. Don’t make it a big deal. If she resists, let her, don’t push it, make her feel comfortable and safe. The times I had amazing sex I didn’t push anything. One woman told me one time in her room when we were on the bed: “you know I don’t like you like that, right?” And instead of me overreacting I j…	/r/seduction	02/12/25 09:58 AM
1	How can I flirt sexually? There is your problem. You can’t be afraid to lose a woman if you’re attracted. Flirt, play and tease, and go for the kiss. You can totally ask. But if you don’t do anything and you are attracted to her, and she gets a boyfriend, you can’t act up or be petty. And you need to figure out what you want. Either way, you need to learn how to get women alone with you and sleep with them. I would leave this girl alone, honestly it’s way too late. She sees you as just a friend. I don’t know what happene…	/r/seduction	23/11/25 10:41 PM
2	How can I flirt sexually? Hand, shoulder touch for comfort, silly wacky handshakes, hugs, stuff like that. But the rule of thumb is you don’t start touching her until she touches you a couple times first. You gotta think of her like a bratty little sister you’re picking on. Girls love men who pick at them, it turns them on and makes you a “bad boy” in the sense that you go for what you want and you don’t sweat the end result. Making a girl laugh is PARAMOUNT. I can’t tell you how many dudes get laid like crazy because th…	/r/seduction	23/11/25 09:50 PM
3	How can I flirt sexually? You gotta be willing to take some risks. Be playful, touch her slightly to see how she responds, test the waters and see if she’s receptive. It ain’t creepy to show sexual interest though teasing and playing, but it IS creepy if you try it and you don’t notice she is uncomfortable and you don’t stop. You gotta push the envelope with women. Women keep men as friends because they don’t feel that thrill, that daring that he’s going to jump her. She wants to feel that from a man who is in control an…	/r/seduction	23/11/25 09:28 PM
2	Guys need your help So, next time you interact with her ask for her number and get the vibe. If she isn’t feeling you MOVE ON. Women aren’t as complicated as we make them out to be. Sure they love drama and overthinking everything, but at their core they are just like us and they know when a man wants to get with them. She knows you like her bro. And the longer you spend needlessly pinning over a woman that may not even give a shit about you, the more desperate you are going to get and you’re going to act completel…	/r/seduction	15/11/25 03:04 PM
3	How do I keep girls? I think that if you want to keep a woman just date until you find a woman that wants to be kept. Also keep your place clean, work out often, have positive hobbies, and like everyone else said don’t be needy.	/r/seduction	13/11/25 09:40 PM
96	How to become a good talker The key to becoming a smooth talker? You don’t immediately. More specifically, if you want to have stronger social skills then you have to start pushing your socialization to a much higher volume. It’s similar to working out, learning how to push to failure will breed more comfort and interest. You have to be a bumbling fool and embrace it for a while. It’s best to start in your interests. I like helping others, so I volunteer. We have volunteer group meet ups, so I go to EVERY ONE. Without exce…	/r/seduction	13/11/25 07:41 PM
1	Responding to "not sure if you're my type" Man I had a woman full on tell me “you know I’m not into like that right.” when we were on the bed together watching hey Arnold. I just said “that’s cool,” continued to watch with her, turned off the lights, and had a full on sex session. Girls say a lot of things.	/r/seduction	26/10/25 07:54 PM
8	Women like being approached a lot more than you think Exactly. Being up front is so important.	/r/seduction	26/10/25 07:52 PM
2	I don't think race that matters when it comes to seduction Man I totally agree. Have proper diction and vocabulary and all of a sudden you’re Bryant gumbel. Speaking well should always be something celebrated without the connotation that you are “white”.	/r/seduction	22/10/25 11:17 PM
2	I don't think race that matters when it comes to seduction To be honest most people think I’m pretty white as a black dude and I still get play. It’s all in perspective and types. Some women love me, some hate me, but though it all I stay being myself.	/r/seduction	22/10/25 12:18 AM
0	It's time i admit it: I suck with women, and i don't know how i can change that The first thing you have to do op is to relax. You’ve put a ton of pressure on yourself to be successful with women, and it can really destroy yourself as a person. The first thing you need to have is perspective. 24 is super young, and it’s an age where you are learning about yourself and others the most. Your 20s are often going to be difficult in part because you believe the world is ending half the time because you simply don’t have the experience in a lot of areas. As everyone else has said…	/r/seduction	20/03/22 12:06 PM
11	Need help Improving my game. Kinda shy? Dude. When you get the number, ask them out. Have a clear venue in mind that’s close to your place when you want to bounce her there. When she comes with you, fuck her brains out. You play it cool when you guys are chatting. When you have a number you get the date, and then the lay. Don’t play games when she’s giving it to you on a sliver platter.	/r/seduction	16/03/22 03:08 AM
24	Need help Improving my game. Kinda shy? Girls say a lot of things. One time a girl said she wanted to date me. Guess what she did? Got with some other random dude. One time, I was laying on the bed with a girl who invited me to watch hey Arnold with her. She said point blank: “you know I don’t like you like that, right?” I was like “yeah it’s cool let’s watch hey arnold.” Guess what happened. We fucked literally all night and the next day. This is why it is so important to socialize with women constantly. Women don’t communicate their…	/r/seduction	16/03/22 02:55 AM
1	How to avoid getting a reputation in college? If you gotta sneak in that bitch go forth. Join activities on campus too homie, the more friend groups you have the more chicks you can get. Be active socially in college you’ll have a leg up over the idiots that just hit the bars with no luck.	/r/seduction	16/03/22 02:48 AM
36	Need help Improving my game. Kinda shy? You’re going to have to learn. One thing I have learned with women is that the guy who can entertain the best socially will get the most panties down no doubt. Start slow if you have to, but women love social, aware, understanding men. Men in Europe are highly desired by women not just because they are foreign but because they understand the sexual subtleties of women. Eye contact that lingers a bit too long. Body language that’s positive facing you. Laughing at everything you say. Touching you …	/r/seduction	16/03/22 02:46 AM
77	Need help Improving my game. Kinda shy? Honestly dude you need to learn how to be social. Willingly put yourself in situations where you have to talk to people. You need to join some sort of group like a biking group or a painting group and get to know other people before you worry about trying to get laid. Sex is all about social skill man. The guy who is most skilled socially will get all the women.	/r/seduction	16/03/22 02:36 AM
2	How to avoid getting a reputation in college? I know bro. Diversify too. Don’t just dip into engineering girls, all the dudes are trying to get them. Go take a fashion or art class. All the guys in there are gay and you’d have your pick of the litter. Go to frat parties. Tons of sexy girls wanting to get laid. Travel to other campuses. A different environment may make you score big time. You gotta lengthen your social circle and don’t overthink it much.	/r/seduction	16/03/22 02:34 AM
14	How to avoid getting a reputation in college? Honestly dude to get laid consistently you need to let go of trying so hard to ask girls out and just get to know people. I get laid playing it cool and hanging out without any explanation. Don’t just be random, get to know them first. Invest in them first and then suggest a change in location. Let it go organically from there. You really don’t want to be known as that dude who creeps on all the girls. It’ll make your experience with college worse. Get to know people, men, women, everybody and j…	/r/seduction	16/03/22 02:24 AM
1	How do I stop girls from assuming I'm just a player? Dude, chill. Help the guy out. Explain what exactly he can do to present himself in a way that will attract the women he wants. Don’t just say “present yourself better.” Op I think my advice for your situation is better. Don’t give the women who don’t respect you as a human being time or attention. Find the girls that do, and try to process these things in a more positive way. You are blessed with height and attractive features that’ll help reel in a wonderful loving woman in your life.	/r/seduction	12/03/22 09:22 PM
2	How do I stop girls from assuming I'm just a player? There’s a limit. Girls won’t stop lusting after op just because he changed a couple of things. It’s wiser to just seek out the people you desire and don’t worry about the rest that aren’t showing you the level of respect and emotional validation you want.	/r/seduction	09/03/22 12:27 AM
6	How do I stop girls from assuming I'm just a player? You can’t stop people from making their own assumptions. But you can stop yourself from overthinking and find women who want to get to know you beyond your looks. Remember you only really need one significant other, if the other girls make assumptions about who they think you are that’s their insecurity not yours.	/r/seduction	08/03/22 11:38 PM
2	She called me hot and then shut me down?… Niceee	/r/seduction	01/07/21 08:40 AM
2	She called me hot and then shut me down?… It just sounds like she wasn’t into you which is ok. You’ll find a girl that’ll want to play pong with you.	/r/seduction	01/07/21 01:14 AM
2	She called me hot and then shut me down?… Yeah bro you screwed this up being too thirsty. Let the girl come to you ALWAYS. Don’t interpret a girls complement as “I want your dick”, girls complement each other all the time and they aren’t fucking all the time. You gotta play it cool.	/r/seduction	30/06/21 09:18 PM
20	What do you think of SR (semen retention)? I think it’s ok if you have just been jerking it and not going out to meet women. But holding it in during sex? Man fuck that. Some pussy is so good you can’t help it.	/r/seduction	28/06/21 11:53 AM
1	New to cold approach, have some questions for more experienced guys. Well, it sounds like you want a genuine connection homie. Why not join like a cooking group or a dance club? Things like that are packed to the brim with women. Cold approach ain’t the best way to meet relationship material for a number of reasons. Find someone that digs your hobbies and get in a group with them. Makes talking easier and you know people are there to meet other people.	/r/seduction	28/06/21 11:50 AM
2	I hate the fact that men have to play games with women to get them interested. It's so exhausting If the right one comes along games are unnecessary. You have to know that not every woman is going to like you. That’s just how it is. You’re not entitled to a women’s attention, but you can control finding a woman that will genuinely enjoy you and you enjoy her. The worst thing to do is to think that every woman should cater to your whims just because you have feelings for them. Here’s what you need to do instead of thinking you have to play games. Be straight up. Feel the vibe. Are you guys vi…	/r/seduction	27/06/21 12:40 PM
0	Making life work for you when you’re not conventionally attractive or charming The only thing you need to do is deal with rejection. The key to getting women is being able to be rejected and still pursue without letting it affect your ego. You should also be improving yourself, but if you can go up to that super beauty and ask her out then you know eventually you’ll be making out with one one day. It is rejection, not women that men truly fear the most. It is a fear that many women won’t understand and can’t understand. It is the single reason why you aren’t successful wit…	/r/seduction	08/06/21 02:23 PM
1	If you struggle with attracting women and/or dating, please read this! So let me get this straight: instead of finding ways to improve myself and make myself more attractive to the women that I want, you are saying to subvert those expectations and get with women I’m not attracted to just because they might be the girl that I want. If this ain’t some sorry bullshit loser talk I don’t know what else is. When I had sex with my first real hot girl I was so excited I literally fucked her eight times. It was fucking magical. I fucked a sexy chick at the beach and I felt…	/r/seduction	28/05/21 01:42 AM
1	An old but relevant article highlighting the dangers girls have to face when rejecting a guy. It's important to be considerate. This is one reason why 1) You're given a wrong number by them and 2) Ignored over text on the follow up from a receptive Cold Approach. This is super awful. Goodness gracious. That poor poor woman.	/r/seduction	07/08/20 04:01 PM