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Yes I agree..you could say the same thing dress a million different ways have all kinds of social proof or whatever but if your energy isn't right then it won't work. The right energy is everything and low self esteem energy won't attract anyone. So figuring that out really is key I'd say get good at the things you already like, notice what you're doing in life that makes you smile and happy, and maximize those, take that energy with you and respond to any opportunities that pop up.
/r/seduction15/07/26 02:40 AM
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I'd say you can't really, either they into you or they're not and it's up to you to give them and you a chance to see! Having an open mind and not making assumptions is key, plus going for the one you think you really like the most!
/r/seduction15/07/26 02:24 AM
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Yes what even worse is they will walk away and not even allow you to talk at all because they know you just want something from them and no one wants to give anything to someone who wants something, it's immediately a losing scenario.
/r/seduction06/12/25 11:00 PM
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Best experience with cold approach? Probably seeing a girl I liked at the bookstore, feeling she was too hot to approach but approaching anyway, complimenting her earrings, charting with her for about 5 minutes it was apparent she was into me and I asked her if I could kiss her and she said yes, so I did. Went on to my place and spent time together, more fun dates after that. I always wanted a kiss early and it happened!
/r/seduction10/04/25 02:46 AM
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My biggest AHA was the value of momentum. I could go from feeling like it's an impossible situation to completely tenable and even achieve enough results that I'm happy with simply by starting, building momentum and keeping it going. By that I mean start small, talk with a family.member, talk with a friend, talk to someone unknown but neutral, then talk to an unnatractive woman, then to a woman mildly interested in, then to one I am interested in, then to more and more that I am interested in an…
/r/seduction27/03/25 05:54 PM
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Interesting post because in my opinion, as someone not autistic but closer to the autistic side compared to the average person, Is to take things more literally than the average person. Seduction runs on innuendo, intuition, inspiration, creativity rather than logic and analytical, technical thinking. Someone said artists have more success and I think that's a valid point because they are probably going to be less inclined towards thinking about relationships technically. Often I feel the need t…
/r/seduction26/03/25 02:31 PM
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In my opinion no. I like Locarioe approach which is simply to let the women that you are attracted to know that you are attracted to them, then it's on them to do what they want with that info.
/r/seduction09/12/24 05:46 AM
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Approach. As much as I want to believe that doing nothing will attract the right one, and as intuitive as it feels, the percentage of times doing nothing has worked compared to the amount of times approaching has worked is night and day. Approaching isn't all there is but you will hardly ever get to the next level without it .
/r/seduction03/12/24 05:31 AM
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I learned it's not JUST a numbers game, but that may be part of it. The other part is learning how to relate. Being in the moment, finding your timing, using your intuition, learning from your interactions, these are all skills that must be employed as well. I also learned that there are a wide range of reactions and what I might interpret as a rejection might not really be because I am assuming it is. Also, I am almost always more afraid of getting hurt emotionally from rejections than I might …
/r/seduction10/05/24 01:40 AM
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It's bc ur attractive...which = intimidating. Girls are shy actually, no one will tell you this, but they have low sels esteem and feel they don't desrve you. be less attractive, like sweatpants with satins, messy hair and smell bad with choclate smeated on ur face don't give a fuck..ttTHEN u can pull
/r/seduction15/04/24 03:45 AM
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I get it that the more higher quality dating coaches are teaching things on a higher level related to being successful in life, having plenty in life besides dating to fulfill you and so on, but there are hardly ANY dating coaches that will an some poi t say not to approach...There may be a minor few who say do nothing and be happy and let them come to you...but really the idea in most cases is to create relationships, and to do that you have to communicate. And to communicate you have to approa…
/r/seduction16/08/22 04:54 PM
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I think men and women are a lot more alike than different. I think cultural conditioning has the biggest effect on how people act or appear to be. I realize that conversation and connection are really a lot more effective, that's what I was saying in my post...But you have pick up artists that preach direct game and short interactions and I felt I had to try that just to see if it had any value.
/r/seduction16/08/22 04:42 PM
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Mostly pick up artists like Mr. Locario, there's another pick up artist in Japan who will do up to 120 approaches in a day in train stations who says it's all a numbers game. It's referred to as direct approach and their arguments for it make a lot of sense. Here's what they say about it: Well YOU are interested in getting together with HER...if SHE asked YOU to hook up you would. YOU don't need time to figure out if you're into HER. It's simply about finding the girls who are into you, if you a…
/r/seduction16/08/22 04:37 PM
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That hurts too...I knew I would be opening myself up to a lot of people being nasty by posting this but the intention is to help people who may be intrigued by the concept of this sort of high volume approach idea that I hear many other people suggesting.
/r/seduction14/08/22 09:00 PM
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Nope
/r/seduction14/08/22 08:58 PM
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Oh that hurts..you hurt me
/r/seduction14/08/22 08:58 PM
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I wouldn't defuse as much ignore. Some people you really have to ignore the shit out of them. One major lesson for me recently is the power of indifference towards evil.
/r/seduction16/04/22 03:37 PM
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He's handsome and famous, that's two big attraction aspects before he even does any flirting. He's mastered performance through doing standup, and he's known for doing that type of thing, so women like him and find it exciting.
/r/seduction12/10/21 06:22 PM
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I like that one
/r/seduction07/10/21 09:22 AM
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I'm seeing a problem with the seduction idea that you need to ask other people for advice and stuff, and get your ideas from other people, just go with your own innate spontaneity and learn from there. Are you always so funny? Yes.
/r/seduction07/10/21 09:21 AM
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I agree, I've approached women that I considered to be hot as hell, and I'm terrified in the process, yet get positive results, and it's counter intuitive but it's true. Now, not all have been positive results but it does really surprise me that it works that way. Also, I'm a fan of seeing a ridiculously hot woman and sometimes I care less about the outcome for some reason, that happens too. Sometimes shes so hot that I don't care what she says, I feel compelled, I really like those scenarios.
/r/seduction07/10/21 08:55 AM
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Yeah, I actually don't know about that...it was more about how gambling and pick up type sex addictions were related...that was the insight for me. I'm not really getting any correlative ideas between drug addiction and gambling right now. I'm not the type to shun sex addicts anonymous or pick up artists, but to try to take a step in a possibly more positive direction,. I'll still work with pick up, but my experience of working with this quit while you're ahead idea is exciting me.
/r/seduction11/09/21 04:56 AM
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Does any part of anyone's intuition tell them that maybe they are doing something wrong if they are getting tons of rejections, even if success is part of it also? Before game I had several girlfriends but I wasn't going through tons of rejections also. And this is coming from someone who has definitely gone through the gauntlet of tons of rejections. Ok so maybe that may be a necessary part of the process for some people to improve given their circumstances, but I still wonder.
/r/seduction11/09/21 04:14 AM
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I agree, as much as I have trouble with a lot of "game" material, this has been one of the most amazing experiences I've had while employing game technology. Women I and society would have certainly placed outside of my league actually being attracted to me just based on an open minded, hey, I'm attracted, let me just approach and go from there type of thing. Open mindedness and being in the moment are real keys to this.
/r/seduction11/09/21 03:52 AM
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I like that, my current ideas are to approach it all with a kind of horse whisperer vibe. Extreme sensitivity, and acknowledging my own feelings and theirs as much as I can. No one has ever said it was a delicate and sensitive process...it doesn't always have to be, but I feel I'm on the right path with this idea.
/r/seduction11/09/21 03:29 AM
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Yeah, You don't want to feel like a creep either, just take note of your interactions, you could talk to two different attractive women, with one you feel terrible, with the other you feel light, free and good. It's not all about your energy but has a lot to do with their energy too.
/r/seduction29/08/21 06:27 PM
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The energy you feel during an approach is really important. If you feel like you might come across as a creep, then approach totally non sexually with no agenda or trying to close in any way. Just approach with the let's see what happens type of vibe, really open and responsive to the moment.
/r/seduction28/08/21 05:38 PM
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Attitudes, situations and feelings are always changing, but you've got some support right here. I give it because I know how important it is and how little of it is out there.
/r/seduction28/08/21 05:35 PM
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But you could be really successful in life and bad with women. I agree though, the skills you learn from getting good socially definitely cross over.
/r/seduction14/08/21 10:55 PM
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Don't worry about trying to make it the best ever. Don't worry about anything. It's a personal connection based on positive emotions, just be in the moment.
/r/seduction08/08/21 05:25 AM
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Negativity kills game...that's a great quote
/r/seduction28/06/21 05:59 PM
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Iike that you said it's not even about sex but being touched and loved, same
/r/seduction26/06/21 03:44 PM
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Meet girls by going to where girls are, literally anywhere, the street, the grocery store, the gas station, school, work, clubs, events, friends, get to know them by talking with them. You could talk about anything just read their body language, they don't always want to talk so if they don't seem receptive then just walk away. If it's a good convoy you could say you'd like to meet again sometime and ask for contact.
/r/seduction25/06/21 02:37 PM
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Anything
/r/seduction12/06/21 02:48 AM
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Tom Torreros podcasts
/r/seduction09/06/21 02:52 PM
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Well do it, that's what I'm here for...to encourage you
/r/seduction08/06/21 04:11 AM
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Do you want to ask her out?
/r/seduction08/06/21 04:08 AM
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Ok, appreciate the honesty. I think the best place to start would be: is there someone in your life that you are attracted to already? If so, then tell them and ask them out...knowing it's almost for sure going to be a rejection. The key is to simply check. One of the most amazing things about game is that some women that you are really attracted to are also attracted to you but you would never have guessed or known until you tell them and ask them out. Now there's a barrier of fear for sure mos…
/r/seduction08/06/21 04:01 AM
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Have you done daygame beforr?
/r/seduction08/06/21 02:04 AM
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Sure if you're ever in the triangle, let me know. How about this Saturday just spend a couple hours out, daygame, we'll text what's going on.
/r/seduction08/06/21 01:18 AM
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You know, just go out there..text me what's going on, I'll be the moral support, vice versa
/r/seduction05/06/21 11:27 PM
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Tell him/her
/r/seduction05/06/21 10:46 PM
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We could virtual sarge, I'm on east coast
/r/seduction05/06/21 10:45 PM
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Yes, text her one more time
/r/seduction05/06/21 10:44 PM
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Always cuties at the DMV
/r/seduction12/05/21 05:59 PM
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Also related to this is wanting love more than anything but being conditioned to live without it and feeling unworthy of it or giving up hope for it because you've been conditioned to not have enough of it. It's a real spiritual battle to admit to your love that you love them sometimes and that you are both worthy of love.
/r/seduction11/04/21 04:21 AM
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Thank you so much for saying this. Love and relationships are so mysterious and I can completely sense and understand this dynamic. It seems to be an unspoken rule that direct communication is forbidden and that love is only valid if it is unconsciously stumbled into. I myself have felt this if a girl I liked were to tell me she liked me "when I was younger" it would just kind of terrify me. I've matured beyond this point but it's good to be aware that one might experience harsh rejection even i…
/r/seduction11/04/21 04:15 AM
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This is the crux of "game." I don't think that's the best term, I prefer saying I'm in the process of forming new relationships, but you know what I mean if I say game. Yeah if I had to sum it up in one word it's approach. There are infinite other aspects and of course it's possible to form new relationships passively, but the idea is how to consciously create loving connections. "Can't keep running away"
/r/seduction11/04/21 04:04 AM
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I think there is something to it. There are a lot of things in life that have a huge influence but can't be measured. I can understand the scientific mindset of dismissing these things for that reason but I still seek to try to understand these things. If you are familiar with the concept of God mode, that would represent a shift in energy for sure. I think we've all had days when things flow and work better than others and our internal quality of energy has to do with this.
/r/seduction10/04/21 04:53 AM
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Good for you for approaching, there could be a million different reasons why she was shitty so just be glad you tried to find out if she would work or not and now you don't have to wonder about her.
/r/seduction02/04/21 10:53 PM
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I'd approach her on a friendly and comfortable non sexual vibe to see how she responded to me and talk for a bit if she's open to it, just talk about the ice bath experience. Tell her you think she looks great and your like to get together with her sometime if she's available. Be open and positive to whatever her response is. Get her number if she's interested, set up a time and place to meet, give her a hug, hold hands, kiss, and then eat her pussy.
/r/seduction09/03/21 08:57 AM
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I haven't had the best experience with dating apps I usually go out on my own and cold approach. I think motorcoach and surf club are good ideas, I've been to motorcoach plenty of times, and had the best experiences there with dance parties. I love that area of durham but am rarely out there these days. I live in south durham so I use the grocery stores and mall as the area I do most of my approaches. I'd meet over here or over there, sometimes all someone needs for help in pickup is someone to …
/r/seduction04/02/21 06:19 PM
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Holy shit that's a lot of text. I believe it though, as I'm reading it I'm thinking to myself, the self is a paradox, relationships are a paradox...
/r/seduction02/02/21 10:39 PM
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Any wingman in durham nc?
/r/seduction02/02/21 10:36 PM
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Has anyone else noticed the phenomena of beautiful women taking their masks down for a moment while they're talking to you?
/r/seduction02/02/21 10:35 PM
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Ok so it seems like you've had some success. What's your situation now? Also with all of the relationships you've been in did you think they were good or too short? Are you looking for a long term or short term thing? Also it seems like you've gone from tinder to meeting girls at parties. I don't have much tinder experience but daygame and nightgame.
/r/seduction09/01/21 03:07 AM
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Tell me where you're at in terms of game and tell me where you'd like to be. Also tell me what you'd like from me as your coach. Right now I'd say I'm willing to listen to what plans and ideas you have regarding game, give feedback, and encourage you in the areas that I think will be fruitful. I'm willing to hear how things are going for you, offer my feedback. That's basically it.
/r/seduction08/01/21 01:29 PM
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I feel you. I just chatted with James Tusk. I feel 2000 pounds is a lot but it is something I want to change. It is helpful to have that daily encouragement and follow up. If that's the main thing then it would be interesting to be a coach. People want a coach who has good results. I'll coach you if you want.
/r/seduction08/01/21 01:16 PM
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Well, now you know...Start by approaching the girls you're attracted to and getting to know them.
/r/seduction08/01/21 01:09 PM
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I like the notion, who really thinks like that though? Also, who is an example of that? I did watch a "game" video that was along these lines, they are always trying to come up with so e higher level if game, and the guy mentioned something like this. Nothing against this, it sounds great, do you think you are there, could make it there, or are striving to get there, and what does this mean to you, letting go of trying to have sex and mainly just trying to improve their lives on every level so t…
/r/seduction12/11/20 04:37 AM
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I think if you have friends who understand game then it's better to go out with them, unfortunately in my experience most don't, cockblock and make things harder, so I have to go out alone. I can still get things done alone, but it would be much better imo to have the support of people and friends who know what the fuck is going on. BTW, why is it so hard to find (friends who understand game)?
/r/seduction12/05/19 04:35 AM
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Being indirect. I think it's a good idea especially for daygame. This is a major point of contention amongst different puas though and it can make learning game confusing when some say absolutely be direct and others say be indirect. Well try both, experiment and find what works for you. I'd agree with your list but also agree 10 mins is a bit long. Anyway, thanks for post, you say it's worked for you, how many times?
/r/seduction07/05/19 07:05 AM
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Great post! Yeah for sure, as someone who is really into nutrition and supplements this is something I've experimented with a lot. On one hand, you've got the aphrodisiacs that can make you interested and other things to do such as not having an orgasm for a few weeks, 3 weeks for me and the world is an aphrodisiac, but I've tried ginseng many times, maca also, tongkat ali, cordyceps, yohimbe...I could go into detail on all of those. For approach anxiety, as someone else mentioned cbd is a good …
/r/seduction01/05/19 05:12 AM
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Makes sense, thanks. Daily practice is a good idea..and yes I was just thinking about this also, it's like a performance, the energy of it, and practicing makes sense too. I just don't like feeling worked up and jittery for a while just because I had a little conversation with a hot woman.
/r/seduction29/04/19 03:18 PM
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Good advice, and this applies to other daygame scenarios as well. I think keeping it discreet and non-sexual, saying you'd like to keep talking about whatever topic, asking for business card and not wasting time with it, all good advice. Important to be calibrated and open to feedback in the moment too gauge her interest level important too.
/r/seduction29/04/19 03:12 PM
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I feel focusing on a new relationship helps to overcome issues with past relationships.
/r/seduction29/04/19 03:05 PM
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Btw indirect approaches are usually more manageable, but I was just wondering if there were other ideas.
/r/seduction29/04/19 03:02 PM
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Yes she did
/r/seduction28/04/19 05:08 PM
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I like that...setting the premise but not going overboard with it, finding the balance, that makes sense.
/r/seduction27/04/19 07:01 PM
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Good reply, really agree.
/r/seduction27/04/19 06:54 PM
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I've done something like this a few times, I found the results to be really similar. I also questioned if it was worth it when I thought, "ok if I approach this girl there's about a 1 in 100 chance that sex will occur." I noticed that interactions worked better when I took time off, approached when I really felt like it and didn't approach systematically. It's like there's an energy that builds up that helps when I do it that way, and maybe the systematic style hurts the results. I feel I have b…
/r/seduction27/04/19 06:53 PM
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You're right, I figured that would be an opposition to this idea, I've just found personally that putting out sexual vibes to a girl I've just met is creepy and I feel more comfortable and feel like more comfort is there in general when I don't, but the idea of creating comfort while also creating sexual vibes is a good one. I do notice though when my vibes are creepy vs comfortable, for instance, good eye contact can be sexual and non creepy as you mentioned, but too much staring and I feel the…
/r/seduction27/04/19 05:39 AM
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This is great! In my opinion this is almost a perfect scenario. First thing I thought was that it was funny (as an American) that you used the term cheeky, I thought you must be in England or something to use that term, only to find out later you're in India. I thought it was a well written fr, and it was fun to imagine this scenario. I liked how you overcame all the perverts looking at her, I feel like something like that can sometimes hamper approaches. It creates a kind of sex negative energy…
/r/seduction21/04/19 07:15 PM
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I hope I can help, just know you're not the only one who feels this way, even people you think are better off than you feel this way, often. One of the problems I think with these feelings is that we imagine others are far better off than we are, it stings when we see another guy with a girl and they're laughing, but so many times we can get what we thought we wanted, and no it's not always bad, it can be great, but we see that other problems equally as severe, have simply come up to replace the…
/r/seduction21/04/19 07:04 PM
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I like your post a lot, it feels like you have useful info that shows what works and what doesn't for you as a result of actual experience. I think I'm going to try this out, 1-2 interesting questions to a hot girl, if I actually like them and connect set up date and share contacts.
/r/seduction17/04/19 05:16 PM
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Good post. I think you k ow gow to not be weird, it doesn't sound too hard, just a little getting used to again, like riding a bike.
/r/seduction12/04/19 08:40 PM
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You haven't dated me, and I'm the baddest
/r/seduction08/04/19 07:59 PM
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Yeah seduction is a fucking mystery. I guess that's one of the reasons it's so interesting. Maybe that's why "dating coaches" have such a wide variety of advice on the topic. Finding out what works for you in particular is really key with this type of stuff.
/r/seduction07/04/19 07:55 AM
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This comment makes me think...I've thought the same thought before after loads of rejections but my intuition tells me it has more to do with social norms, the energy and expectation I'm giving off, than whether they are actually into me or not. Why can I go to a club and immediately start booty dancing with a super hot babe and we're both into it, yet get so many rejections in daygame...it doesn't add up...it seems more likely that women have a knee jerk response to not show interest in places …
/r/seduction07/04/19 04:48 AM
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I hear you! I had some success with relationships before I knew anything about game. I thought game would get me more sex than I was having before, it worked to a degree, but in general the relationships weren't as good and I've gone through crap ton of rejection at the same time. I feel so much game advice is contradictory and really only grabs dudes attention because we're willing to try anything if we think there's a chance it will help us get laid. I feel I was better off without game but I …
/r/seduction07/04/19 03:30 AM
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I think the post is good for at least changing our conception of pick up. But not even really changing it that much, I mean I've heard this before plenty of times, RSD for instance, but it's an idea worth pummeling. It's about creativity, life, relationship, becoming a better version of yourself for real, even if you don't know what that means yet, in fact you shouldn't know what it means really yet...but what good is having sex if you're not growing as a person as well...have a life orgasm that…
/r/seduction04/04/19 04:41 AM
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I love posts like this...when you bring up a topic that is real yet somewhat subjective...it's really interesting. I know exactly what you're talking about. When I would work cashier I learned a lot about this. When attractive women would come up and eye contact, I could definitely feel it and I could tell they did too. What was interesting also was that some would sort of battle with it. I could either open to it or close off to it also. I have yet to try to experiment with it in field really, …
/r/seduction31/03/19 10:26 PM
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It can still work...but trying to get sex to cover up more important life issues isn't going to be good long term. Really focus on having a good life for yourself and it won't matter if you have girls or not, this is best place to be...try for that.
/r/seduction30/03/19 07:40 PM
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Next step is kino...actually you can make it part of your approach to shake hands...hi I'm so and so, reach out hand, try to keep her hand if it's comfortable, if she's not into it be really good about letting things go.
/r/seduction30/03/19 07:37 PM
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At least you went out and devoted some time to trying. You might have planned to and then chickened out...but you could make eye contact a goal, you could make a very innocuous comment like "wow lots of people out today" where it is open if they respond or not...and also make not freaking out or worrying about it a goal too...honestly I feel like all this game shit fucks me up more than not worrying or trying....
/r/seduction30/03/19 07:35 PM
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I feel it'shaving a life a love and being a person I love. The background and energy behind everything else can get in the way of the energy being portrayed when trying to meet new people.
/r/seduction11/03/19 11:43 PM
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But then you get over your fear of appraoch and do a ton of approaches and realize simply getting over your fear of approaching isn't the answer.
/r/seduction11/03/19 11:40 PM
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Yeah I have advice for sure...first of all, you have to realize and accept that you DO give a shit. It's not a bad thing, and you can even laugh about it, treat as a joke, you're the guy who has intense feelings and overplay them, focus on them, and even try to encourage yourself to get even more nervous and feel it. Even TRY to get and feel nervous as you approach say to yourself Wow I'm nervous as you approach. Allow yourself to stutter or feel weird as you approach and open. Second, notice yo…
/r/seduction05/03/19 11:57 PM
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Yeah I think it's there when you are trying and it repels. It's good to know some game theory and if it works for guys then that's good too but it's important to really see what works for you and what doesn't. I always like the idea of consciously engineering relationships but it doesn't always work.
/r/seduction05/03/19 06:54 AM
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Yes I can. It's daygame and it has worked for me plenty of times before, I just haven't applied this focused approach before.
/r/seduction15/02/19 03:51 AM
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Good point, My goal was/is sex.
/r/seduction14/02/19 09:51 PM
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I don't know if this will help but usually going out alone i give myself a lot of options to go around to so if I do feel like the guy in the corner I can leave and go someone else.
/r/seduction18/01/19 11:28 PM
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I think the biggest cue would be a girl who would come up to me, touch me on the arm or shoulder and ask me how I'm doing ( show interest ). If she appeared truly interested and was able to hold a decent conversation, listen and ask questions, maybe throw some innuendo or mildly relationship oriented or sexual remarks I would know that she'd be interested. ​ Be aware that if I'm actually interested in you also, I might not be expecting this kind of attention and be surprised and it may take me s…
/r/seduction17/01/19 12:47 PM
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Hug her when you see her. Touch her arm and shoulder at some point early on, if you can rub her back that's good. Take her hand and hold it at some point when you are sitting together. It may seem completely random but it's something you should do to communicate physical intentions. If she is comfortable with these things, and you are too you can move forward if not then don't worry about it.
/r/seduction13/01/19 08:07 PM
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I just started recording my voice and it sounds really...not the way I want it to sound....I feel I need to slow down and speak more deeply basically. It's so cringey to me to review my voice but I think it's the first step in improving it. Freeing the natural voice sounds like a great title because when I listen to my voice it feels like a voice that is smooshed, crushed, partial...not the full powerful expression of the sould which I know is there. I feel it probably has a lot to do with inner…
/r/seduction13/01/19 07:30 PM
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I may try this eye contact stand-off you speak of sir.
/r/seduction12/01/19 09:13 PM
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Hey thanks for your comment, part of me wants to say hey I know exactly how you feel and I kind of feel the same way a lot of the time. Another part of me wants to say, is it really as bad as you make it out to be? Since I've done some audio recording approaches and I listen to myself I find that I sound so lame and weak. At least I'm taking the risk and approaching but where is my energy and my humor? ​ I suspect a lot of the positive attractive elements don't have to do with simply getting bet…
/r/seduction09/01/19 08:08 PM
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Why do you say that?
/r/seduction09/01/19 07:49 PM
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Huh, interesting link and food for thought...
/r/seduction08/01/19 11:38 PM
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RSD is really pro instagram because it is such a good tool for game. In a way they are right in saying this, but you don't have to do instagram to be good at game at the same time a la Tom Torerro for instance.
/r/seduction08/01/19 10:41 PM
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I go to target and am attracted to some of the ladies that work there sometimes. I went up to one and said I thought she was kind of cute started a basic conversation about life and got her number and said we could hook-up later. The number flaked but it was still a fun encounter. You see I have a friend who worked at Target who said one of his co-workers clocked in, left for the entire day, came back to clock out and no one noticed. It's for that reason that I feel like management either isn't …
/r/seduction08/01/19 10:32 PM
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Me too.
/r/seduction08/01/19 10:28 PM
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I second all of those suggestions, grocery stores, cafes, bookstores, outdoor shopping spaces. Daygame is in my opinion best by just striking up a casual conversation for about 5 minutes, then saying you'd like to know more about their business, studies, art, ideas, etc, and getting number or email on that basis. Then be more direct in text saying I thought you were kinda cute, want to get coffee sometime? Then take it form there.
/r/seduction08/01/19 10:27 PM
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I can remember reading somewhere in the book, THE GAME, which was my formal introduction to all of this stuff, that hitting on girls wasn't "fair game" because they are taught to be nice to customers at work therefore you won't be able to get a real gauge on whether they are actually interested in you or just being nice to you because they're at work. That being said, I've talked to a lot of women I've been attracted to while they were at work and even gotten numbers and made plans. That being s…
/r/seduction08/01/19 10:24 PM
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Try not to be manipulated by the people around you and how they are acting if you don't resonate with it. Being in touch with your own feelings increases your emotional intelligence. Time to myself helps also.
/r/seduction08/01/19 09:54 PM
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This kind of touches on a post I wanted to make about downtime. I find game works better for me when I'm allowing for natural periods of time without worrying about approaches. I find trying to be social all the time every day burns me out.
/r/seduction08/01/19 09:39 PM
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Humor is important.
/r/seduction08/01/19 02:54 PM
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There are a wide range of opinions as to what is hot or not. Also you're own personal opinion can vary. There is a wide range of personality and confidence levels within the percieved "hot" women also. My best advice on this is to pay attention to your own interests and your own chemistry with women and take it from there.
/r/seduction08/01/19 02:37 PM
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Well you're 20 and you're falling in love for one of the first times in your life. Enjoy it! With some experience and perspective you may realize you don't HAVE to obsess, but right now it may feel impossible not to. Enjoy it!
/r/seduction07/01/19 08:07 PM
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Sure, of course not.
/r/seduction06/01/19 11:03 PM
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Yeah, have a blast.
/r/seduction06/01/19 11:02 PM
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if you put your two middle fingers in, palm the clit and rub up and down quickly she will cum.
/r/seduction06/01/19 08:08 PM
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I like Todd's style a lot.
/r/seduction05/01/19 09:19 PM
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I think this video has some value, it's a little bit of overload for me right now, I'm already juggling a few different concepts and sorting out the results, I don't want to be overloaded with information.
/r/seduction05/01/19 08:20 PM
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I just say something like "I saw you and thought you looked kinda cute." That's basically from Locario as a short and simple direct approach concept. Through indirect means flirting with her, using double entendre, compliments, being present and showing up to talk with her and listen to her if she's open to that.
/r/seduction04/01/19 07:43 PM
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Hey thanks for your reply it makes sense. I'm often up in the air about whether I want to do a direct approach or indirect. Just starting a conversation and taking a reading from that is a good idea! I realize one of the things missing in game is someone to bounce ideas off of, I do most of this stuff on my own so I appreciate your comments.
/r/seduction03/01/19 08:24 PM
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Yes, I've thought a lot about why I feel fear when approaching women. I mean I've really tried to figure this thing out. I notice no one else in game is mentioning this so I thought I would have my own channel or something where I discuss the things about game that would be unique to my own experience. This is a major one. Another one would be "Are you a pick-up artist, or are you a pick-up engineer???" So much of game is presented as a set of techniques, and as a left brained process. Now I und…
/r/seduction03/01/19 06:53 PM
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That's cool how did it go for you today? My day sucked. I had planned on going out for 2 hours and doing around 10 approaches. I ended up eating, taking a walk, seeing a few attractive women but not approaching. That was it really.
/r/seduction03/01/19 01:30 AM
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I think compliments are a good way to break the ice and get momentum going when you're out and trying to meet people. I don't think the compliment alone will attract her though rather it will be a way to test the waters to see if she is attracted or not, or if it would be worth having a conversation. My last compliment, she responded with a very forward and high energy thanks, but I wasn't really feeling the energy and I didn't move forward with it because I wasn't feeling it, but I wouldn't hav…
/r/seduction03/01/19 01:28 AM
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Yeah my 2018 was shitty in terms of "game" too. As long as I have been doing this I really didn't have much "results" at all, especially compared to 2017. Funny thing, I got into Tom Torrero's material this past year, and tried his 10 approaches in 2 hours technique, I got more numbers than ever due to this, and that was nice, but they all flaked. ALL of them. I think I got around 20 numbers in October due to that technique, but they all flaked. I am still going to try this shit because I'd rath…
/r/seduction03/01/19 12:11 AM
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I like the simplicity of the idea, yes girls, no girls, and maybe girls. It makes sense. Then there's also cases like this where they are so weird about being hurtful, almost drawing you in only to hurt you and inflate themselves. It can be kind of crazymaking. Good for you for being able to see that before it even happened. That type of skill is crucial for relationship building.
/r/seduction02/01/19 11:59 PM
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The problem with this information is that it is all so left brained and step by step. I think you have to get in your right brain for this to really be fun and effective. Be a pick up artist, not a pick engineer! That being said, I think this is all still worth reading and studying, but I think I have to really get beyond all the steps and rules for this to be meaningful.
/r/seduction01/01/19 10:35 PM
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Approach Anxiety: In my opinion, instead of "trying to overcome it" I don't think that works. I think it helps to try to understand it. And it helps to have experience with it. With regards to trying to understand it, I have come to the realization that approach anxiety is a glycogen dump from the liver as an evolutionary response to a potential mating system, in which the body needs extra energy to have sex. It's the same as the fight or flight response. It should be called the flight fight or …
/r/seduction01/01/19 10:28 PM
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Definitely change your attitude, I've had plenty of girlfriends and great experiences with them, despite the fact I've lived at home. I always remember that whenever someone says something that assumes this isn't possible, it IS possible.
/r/seduction27/11/12 01:14 AM
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I think the first key for me to learn was to approach and open with a statement rather than a question. I don't know if this gave me the biggest improvement, but it was really key when I was starting with all of this stuff. I'd have to agree, going out regularly works magic, momentum over the course of an evening AND over the course of a few weeks/months works magic I don't quite understand either.
/r/seduction24/10/12 04:52 PM
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I think you make a really good point. I think what to describe it as shyness or introversion or phobia is a little beside the point. The point I think is that there are some people, myself included ( a few years ago) that find it hard to even approach and are really just dealing with the very very first steps that some people may assume are easy to do, but maybe aren't as easy for everyone else. I think the idea of going out and saying hi to the first attractive woman is a good piece of advice. …
/r/seduction05/09/12 03:51 PM
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