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| 1 | How to stop giving a F?Not like this | /r/seduction | 03/10/24 01:49 PM |
| 3 | I need something that will click and "unlock" my brain.You're right and that's what makes it all the more frustrating! I, and I'm guessing OP too, know that *of course* there's no real chance of danger or anything bad happening when talking to a stranger. But the way the brain reacts to a fear in real time is just about the same when it comes to social anxiety as to any other phobia (including snakes). OP is looking for a "switch" to let them just proceed knowing full well there is no danger. My point was suggesting just practicing isn't quite so si… | /r/seduction | 20/09/24 03:54 PM |
| 7 | I need something that will click and "unlock" my brain.Simple but not easy. Your advice is basically like saying pet lots of snakes until you aren't scared of them. Yes, you can visualize doing it but in the moment, taking the action is very easy for the brain to talk itself out of doing | /r/seduction | 20/09/24 03:16 PM |
| 1 | Are we still on for todayI prefer a middle ground of "Does 8pm still work for you?". This way you're asking if she might need to adjust the time but you're still assuming it's on. Also, if you get no response using this method, you simply assume it's not on at all and don't show up yourself. If instead you just make a statement as you're suggesting, what would you do if she didn't respond? You'd probably feel compelled to send one more text. | /r/seduction | 02/08/24 02:50 PM |
| 34 | What am I supposed to do at the bar?You'll get there eventually! I still don't have the confidence to start a conversation with anyone I want to all time. But when I was exactly your age I remember pacing around the block three or four times to work up the confidence simply to hand my ID to a bouncer and step inside. There were butterflies and those went away after doing that a few more times. Then it took my a while to get comfortable standing in crowded areas inside. Then it took a while to be able to confidently respond to peop… | /r/seduction | 12/04/24 09:22 PM |
| 60 | What am I supposed to do at the bar?In my experience it's better if there's no seating available. Makes it much more natural to move around, and you'll have more people bumping up next to you trying to order, and it's less awkward to start a conversation with them when you're both standing. | /r/seduction | 12/04/24 09:17 PM |
| 14 | Does going to a bar alone in 30s make me creepy?No, not at all. I'm in my mid-to-late 30s and live in a major city and it's literally one of my hobbies. If I don't have plans on a weekend night (which is more often than not), I go to a new restaurant, sit at the bar and talk to the bartender and anyone nearby who looks interesting, then head out to another bar afterwards and hang out there as long as I'm having a good time. People open me after a while, and I've been invited to clubs the same night that I'd otherwise have little chance of get… | /r/seduction | 19/01/22 01:08 AM |
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