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DATING ADVICEiLiveInAHologram94/r/RedPillWomen02/02/21 07:56 PM
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Not reading your post but going off the title. My friend dated and wanted to marry a bisexual guy (turns out he is a liar) so she broke up with him over that. I’ve liked bi guys and am not put off by the idea. So I don’t know women personally who wouldn’t date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 01:28 PM
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I’ve heard of it. And saw it on love is blind (us netflix) but he kind of didn’t give her a chance to actually respond fully. Or so it seems. I’d be willing and my bff has dated a bi guy. She wanted to marry him but it turns out he eas a liar so that’s why they broke up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 11:37 PM
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You HAVE to for dating and both ways tbh. Vetting includes seeing how he responds to boundaries and men should be doing that with women too. But the difference is safety is a huge reason why women need to do it. There are lots of different ways. Sorry but dating needs to be strategic and thoughtful if you are dating seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 05:28 PM
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rejection is apart of life. Sorry yes be confident, but be realistic too, and be prepared the answer might be no. Don't take it so personally though, it could be no for a million different reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 08:07 PM
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And?????
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 09:44 AM
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It’s not gender it’s a broken justice system. Because why do men who rape children get parole? Why do men who rape and murder women get light sentences. It makes no sense. Remember brock allen turner? That shit was filmed and he was still hard when the police showed up. The world is fucked up. But it treats women, children, people with disabilities, and minorities much worse. Welcome to being appalled by the justice system.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 11:23 PM
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This. My mom and a good friends mom were homemakers. My mom didn’t develop any skills and now post divorce and post alimony lives off of renting her house out (among other bad decisions). Friends mom has kept her nursing license / certifications up to date even now that they are retired. Have back up plans and never plan to be fully dependent on anyone. It will come back to bite you hard in this day and age. Life just isn’t set up for the true housewife life. And kids are not retirement plans ei…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/24 04:40 PM
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It sounds like you're just not attracted to him.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 02:49 PM
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For me, no. And there are many different countries all over the world with different religions and cultures and traditional means something somewhat different. It’s just a matter of perspective. But religion can be brought in and incorporated.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/23 02:26 AM
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So far disagree. My bf's mom is lovely and respectful. And he doesn't cross and lines you mentioned either.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 07:42 PM
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I feel like there could be ways to encourage that behaviour. When he does help / teach you, you could smile up at him tell him how much you appreciate his guidance, compliment him, flatter him, or tell him it turns you on how much he knows etc. Appeal to him.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/23 05:53 AM
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My bf can't tell when I'm wearing makeup... he doesn't notice blush, concealer, highlighter, foundation, or mascara and barely sees glitter. Sometimes I do something glittery like inspired from Euphoria with glitter on the areas you use highlighter and that he sees but he still has to ask if I'm wearing makeup....as if I just naturally have glitter on my cheeks. And in what world do you think having glitter on your cheeks is going to attract men or raise people's perception of my attractiveness.…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 01:55 AM
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Oh my bf is down bad for that. I'm willing to consider it if I make a certain amount of money or above, which I don't think will happen. But I don't think it's a good idea really as I saw how it worked out for my parents. If you divorce you're both screwed. I wish I was capable of being a stay at home mom someday but I'm not. I'd get so depressed. But I just don't think it's a good financial decision for either party.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 06:46 PM
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Idk where to even start this is so far detached from reality. Maybe go outside and talk to some women every now and then?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:05 AM
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Because it’s an experience men can walk away from when they’re done with it. Women live it all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 06:28 AM
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Sounds like this is coming from someone who doesn’t wear any. It does give confidence but it’s also really fun to play with and creative. 60% of the time I wear it, it’s at home alone. Sometimes right before I’m going to take it off. And something to connect with other people who wear it and enjoy it. The other girls in my house at college would sometimes just do makeup together with nowhere to go. Because it’s fun. How about not reading into peoples hobbies and let people live their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 05:20 PM
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I feel like men love to talk about how evolutionarily it’s okay if they sleep with lots of women it’s what they’re supposed to be doing. But in that same stream of thought women are supposed to be picky and not just get with any guy who asks. Outside of that, no one is entitled to anyones body, time, resources, or energy and that frustration is misplaced.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 09:23 PM
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....I'm 29 I've always ran hot but going into early menopause scares the shit out of me. I heard it can happen to women in their 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 07:01 PM
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I mostly like sleeping on the edge of the bed on my side. But if he’s on his side I’m gonna scoot over and spoon him. He claims I hog the bed and I claim he does. I run hot so sometimes he needs the space between us.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 03:36 PM
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You’ll find selfish partners all over the world in every class system and any gender and sexuality. This isn’t a man vs woman thing. It’s a selfish partner issue. Everyone experiences it at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 08:44 PM
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It’s called pretty privilege and it exists for everyone to varying degrees
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 06:57 PM
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Kind of. I noticed it changing my attraction to blondes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 05:58 PM
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My bf has cried twice in front of me and it only strengthened our relationship. Crying in front of a new gf or someone you've gone on a few dates with will probably not strengthen your relationship. But where one is already strong and love is already there it shouldn't weaken it. If it does let it be a massive red flag to you and leave the relationship. That's incredibly sad that you feel like you can't share how hard losing your friend is with your gf. In relationships you're supposed to be abl…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 05:44 PM
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How would you phrase to your partner you want a paternity test and when. Is this a before you even start to family plan or is this something you're going to spring on her after the baby shower? The how you have this conversation can help to prevent what you're implying and what you think of her character.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 03:58 PM
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I didn't say a man asking that is selfish I said the actions of someone who would cheat and lie about the paternity indicates that person is immoral and self serving / selfish. Please read carefully. I have no problem with it being a standard practice that a hospital does. That's not a bad idea. It takes the personal insult of "I don't trust you or think you're a trustworthy person" implication out of the situation. But that is what the request says, if the request is coming out of left field.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 03:34 PM
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Did you read anything else
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 03:31 PM
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What does the accusation say about the woman though? That you see them as being capable or there's a possibility they are an incredibly shit person. Someone who has possibly cheated, got pregnant with someone else, put all party's sexual health at risk, is willing to lie and manipulate their partner and child for security. I mean that's an incredibly selfish and immoral person. And those are the implications of asking for a paternity test. You're saying "I don't trust you and I think you've done…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 02:24 PM
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that isn't a happy relationship though if there's no foundation of trust....and an accusation of being a really shit quality person who is capable of cheating, risking both parties' sexual health (and the baby's health) with a STD, getting pregnant with someone else, lying, manipulating. I mean that's a really really low quality person who does that. With no morality and is incredibly selfish. So to accuse your partner of that does not indicate a happy relationship, and says that you see them as…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 02:14 PM
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I mean it is really hurtful. It's an accusation of cheating. An accusation saying "you're not trustworthy, I don't trust you". It would really shatter any illusion of he trusts me/this is going great/we're in a good place/we have a solid foundation. It's saying "we have serious issues in our relationship". I would get it but I'd be looking at our relationship in the light of we have serious issues and he doesn't trust me. Staying together for the sake of a kid is never really for the kid's best …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 02:08 PM
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How do you even argue with nonsense? As an average looking woman I’ve gone for a variety of guys. Some my friends agreed were cute and some they didn’t really. I liked those guys for that time period. My friends dating experiences looked the same as mine. Attraction is subjective and my friends and I dated also based on goals, values, hobbies, passions etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 10:40 PM
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Because a relationship needs trust and respect to be successful. If either party sleeps around in a monogamous relationship they are destroying those two aspects.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 07:41 PM
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I declined letting my bf move in with me at first because of a physical insecurity. We’ve gotten past that and now happily live together. I’ve declined sex when on the dating scene as well usually because I hadn’t shaved. But if I knew I wanted to hold off getting physical with someone but would feel tempted I’d also not shave to deter myself. Let my insecurities help me set boundaries with myself. I think it’s kind of funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 05:44 AM
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I think these trends are a good thing. As global warming begins affecting us more and more we are going to face food and water shortages.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 02:28 AM
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What I meant by immature too was ghosting people is generally frowned upon. I think you should have the decency and maturity to tell someone you don’t think it’s going to work out. But if someone is either dangerous, crazy, cheated, or hasn’t given you any respect to begin with, then I don’t think you owe them respect back and ghosting is fine. Just because it’s common doesn’t make it acceptable or make it not immature and disrespectful. Especially if you sleep with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 02:34 AM
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At 26 I had my age range set at 25-32. I wanted to find someone also in his 20s so we could experience it together. At 27 I met my now bf and he’s 2 years older than me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 04:13 AM
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He’s an emotionally immature person? I didn’t read the story. Maybe he was running for the hills from a walking red flag. One or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 02:52 AM
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Because they were also my housemates. And I don’t want to shit where I eat. If it didn’t work out I would have probably lost the whole friend group. I was into two of them, one more so than the other. We were all emotionally immature…by a lot at the time. One I had liked for a longer time and there was more potential with. The other less so I think his family would have freaked if they realized he was dating a white girl so there was no future. They showed their true colours too eventually and I…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 07:17 PM
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One of mine was calling me babe, baby, sweetie etc. too early. Comes off as forced intimacy and is trying to move things emotionally along faster than they should. Makes me think he’s saying one thing and means another. It’s a subtle red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 04:09 AM
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Your post comes off as men are only sex crazed monkeys and you only really talked about what you don't want. You sound like you're coming from a burnt out and negative place with the dating scene. Figuring out what you actually want and how to vet people to find people with those qualities will help you avoid the leeches and losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 02:13 AM
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I've always found it funny how the genders have different fears with dating. Men fear being taken advantage of and women fear being raped or killed. Now, no one should be expecting expensive dates or expensive anything from a stranger or from someone new they're seeing. That's just absurd and yes leech behavior. And it is better to start with lowkey and low stakes dates and meet ups. Because unless you're only looking to hookup it's not about flashy expensive things...it's about getting to know …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 08:58 PM
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I personally don't believe most people are capable of a truly platonic friendship between a man and a woman and both straight. Like 80-90% of the population kind of most. If you would fuck your friend or find them attractive but have enough self awareness to respect their boundaries...that's not a true friendship in my book. I'm not saying they don't have things in common, enjoy each other's company, and have mutual respect, but that other element of lust throws a wrench in things. That just doe…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:50 PM
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If you’re confused about how he feels about you he’s unsure / it’s a no. Move on. Don’t get addicted to the chemical roller coaster a toxic situationship brings. It makes stable and truly interested guys after feel boring. But that’s only because you’re used to and addicted to the drama / highs and lows of the toxic situationship. Find someone who is sure about you and gives you a hell yes. Aka if it’s not a hell yes it’s a hell no. I just realized you were asking advice from men. Oh well. My ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 08:04 PM
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idk I'm sitting next to my bf I met on Bumble three years ago in OUR apartment. We're talking about eloping vs small weddings vs medium sized weddings.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:58 AM
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You’re pulling these reasons out of your ass. Truly. I didn’t read a single good reason. Mind your business and let people live their lives when they are truly causing NO HARM TO ANYONE ELSE. Worry about yourself and maybe read a book.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 06:10 PM
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I feel like men are more likely to resist lowering their standards or have really high ones. But it’s definitely there on both sides. I think it comes down to ego or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 02:49 AM
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The impact of which gender though? There is no talk about too much promiscuity for men. And that’s where it’s a human right. It’s only about controlling women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 12:58 AM
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Bi guys are hot I was seeing one for a bit. My bestie was dating a bi guy for three years. Wanted to marry him but turns out he was lying about a bunch of things and she had to break it off over a lack of trust. Your comment is ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 10:10 PM
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Disagree. Does the other person know you’re settling and are they okay with that? If both people in the relationship are okay with it then fine. But if one person is not okay or wouldn’t be okay with it then you are robbing them of the chance to be someone else’s first choice and be valued and loved differently. But I also think you’re not using the right word. Idk if settling describes it. I think it’s more about being realistic but settling isn’t the same thing. Perhaps there could be overlap …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:42 PM
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You’re extremely repressed that’s why you think having sex casually is bad behaviour. And no our culture is not a shit show because of women having casual sex. Catch up grandma.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 02:01 AM
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Having sex is a “bad behaviour”?! Reeeally. Nah I didn’t stutter. How repressed are you
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 07:28 PM
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Slut shaming based on the insecurity and bitterness of the person doing the shaming
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 02:29 AM
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I would also add that there isn’t a mismatched power in the relationship. They both have their own jobs and money and can take care of themselves. One does not depend on the other for any kind of success or survival or really dependence at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 11:07 PM
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I only read your title. Many women like the idea of fixing a man
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 02:23 AM
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Obviously neither are okay. Can the man work but WONT work? In that case only that’s okay. But down on his luck or due to a disability, not okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 02:15 AM
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You made a whole post making sweeping generalizations and jump on me for the one I made. C’mon.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 03:15 PM
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Idk….my bf can’t distinguish between makeup. I had glittery eyelids and he didn’t notice. Thought I wasn’t wearing much makeup 😂 I think you’re overestimating a lot of guys’ ability to notice makeup details. There are A LOT of other things you can do to accentuate beauty not yo mention not wearing makeup has its own beauty too. I think the same imbalance you feel will still be there just perhaps shifted a different way but still there.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 05:31 PM
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Attraction is subjective though so it’s hard to make either claim
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 08:20 PM
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Dating is unfortunately very difficult and sometimes it feels like no one can win
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 04:19 AM
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It’s the directness. You can find the answer to your question by asking about their career, goals, family, friends, life etc. soooo basically but just being a normal person on a date. Asking that question is about demoralizing another person. It’s about power and wanting to make someone feel less than. If you don’t want to date someone that is totally fine and reasonable. But it’s shitty to tell someone I don’t want to date you because you’re less than me. You say something along the lines of I’…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 05:16 PM
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It’s fun, feels good, helps you figure out what you like and don’t like. I don’t recommend spending too much time in it and I hope everyone is staying safe though. Two BC methods if possible and get checked when you have a new partner
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 05:56 PM
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This is a mantra insecure men like to repeat for their ego. The dating market gets smaller for lots of reasons as you age, people being married already being a big one. I’ve seen women get married older and a second time. I’ve seen elderly women get married and date fine. I’ve seen women marry younger men. I think if this is your mantra a little therapy may help give you coping techniques. I don’t say that or mean it in a derogatory way.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 04:11 PM
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I mean…so I saw this video on YT on how men in the Faroe Islands are seeking wives from other countries because a lot of their own have moved off the islands to cities where there are better financial and career prospects for them. So the men have had to look elsewhere and most women in developed countries don’t want to move there because it’s so remote and difficult to acclimate to if you’re used to Denver or Boston per say. It would be a huge cultural shock for kind of a bleak lifestyle compar…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 02:37 AM
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Just because we’ve got a womens intuition doesn’t mean it’s always accessible or that we listen to it lol. To choose better you have to want better for yourself. I think both men and women can become addicted to the drama and the ups and downs of stressful toxic relationships Also, sometimes people are adept at hiding their red flags and toxicity. Or they tell you what you want to hear and get lost in that. So idk that it’s always fair to blame the people who “chose wrong”. Maybe we should be bl…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 08:12 PM
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I couldn’t read your title
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 07:10 PM
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I can’t control other people only myself. Of course women have the upper hand with online dating, is it fair, not necessarily, but it’s there. For the record too. Lots of men ghosted and were flakey too. Had to go through a lot of matches before going on dates. One guy told me he dropped his phone out of a helicopter and that’s why I hadn’t heard from him lol. Then disappeared again only to match with me again weeks later and say hey so it’s just a rough scene in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 01:02 AM
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My bf is an average dude. I went on dates with lots of average dudes. I’m an average girl and I’m into average guys. It works for me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 08:08 PM
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It did raise my confidence for sure in many ways. The laid back attitude was more about the date. I didn’t want to put any pressure on myself or the guy and just wanted to focus on enjoying getting to know someone new and hearing about how they live. What was shocking was how many guys were attracted to me and I genuinely thought I wouldn’t find them attractive in return but I did. I was shocked by the success of my dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 02:59 PM
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I mean I thought I was ugly. Believed it my whole life. Doesn’t help I have gorgeous friends and in truth I am probably average to slightly below average. But that might even be distorted. Growing up though I was always passed over for my friends. Always. Dating was shocking and I went into it with low expectations and low self esteem. Turns out there’s a good chunk of men who I find attractive and find me attractive in return. Some I expected and many I didn’t. I always had matches, could get l…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 12:44 PM
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Only read your title. Interesting take. I think there’s some slight truth to that but I don’t think women facilitating sex work is that much more acceptable. Like it isn’t “acceptable” and when I’ve heard about it talked in the real world people talk about it down their nose. I have heard people say online like they’re getting their bag and empowers them and in a way it kind of does at least with like OF. And one of my coworkers talks about shelling money out on OF and other online girls but he’…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 12:21 PM
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I think some women believe women of the right are playing a role they don’t actually enjoy but I don’t think that and neither do many other liberal women friends. In fact I’d say all that left women I know. We know they enjoy it but we think it’s dumb to put your trust into patriarchal values to know and do what’s best for women. That’s absolute bullshit and we’ve seen how it doesn’t serve women for centuries. So while I believe they enjoy having less agency, I don’t believe it serves them well.…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 04:25 PM
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I think what that other comment below said pretty much. The family values is a big one. I think what another person said with religion is another factor. And there are many women who value traditionalism and like the patriarchy. I like sprinkles of conservative feminism (family values and traditionalism) but there are women who lean right and love it. What I’m trying to say is that while I can see some of where they’re coming from, it’s a common attitude that women who lean left think right lean…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:22 PM
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Because women's needs are better represented by the left. There was a study done that women and men value political topics differently, for women healthcare is a lot higher up in priority than it is for men. So stuff like that. The left is much more thoughtful on feminist ideas than the right, which values traditionalism. If you think about it too, the left values progression, which women would clearly like and continue to like, and better represents women's interests. The right has no interest …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:55 AM
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I think many women are rejecting a certain type of guy (not all) that is a bit of a man child and "doesn't know" how to help around the house or with kids. Women are tired of doing it all and maybe are expecting a more equal partnership. I think the cost of having a family is becoming increasingly difficult and scary as well as reproductive rights. I think men aren't being socialized as well as they used to be and are also having less opportunity to become better socialized. I think dating apps …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:48 AM
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The mirena’s hormones are all pretty localized to the uterus and not widespread as the pill, which absolutely did have some disturbing emotional affects for me. The iud should not.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 03:47 AM
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Soooo the mirena’s hormones are localized to the uterus area. The BC pill is much more widespread in the hormones that are released. The pill gave me wicked bad mood swings. Being off BC totally also gave me mood swings and the mirena is the only thing that has if anything leveled off my mood by preventing mood swings. And those are awful to go through tbh. The mirena saved me. My guess is she’s touched you decided to take birth control on as your burden (it’s usually the woman’s problem) and is…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 03:45 AM
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I only read the title, but I think it should also be taught that just because you are treating someone right doesn’t mean they will treat you right in return and not to internalize it or take it personally. Some people just don’t know or care to know how to treat other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 07:14 PM
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In my opinion there are only a few ways this happens. I'd say 90% of these situations is it happens when the woman wants it. She might just really want sex and be really horny. Getting dates? When I was single I was genuinely interested in meeting men and getting to know them and find a potential partner. So I would talk to guys on dating apps and if we were vibing and had things in common and interesting conversations, we'd go on a date. And I never put too much pressure on myself, the date, or…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 11:49 PM
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Are you able to get an earlier flight? Does your partner know things are not working or will this be a shock to him? Being blindsided absolutely sucks so letting him know things are sitting right with you is a good thing. If you feel safe with him that he won't kick you out, try to make you stay, or hurt you, then perhaps telling him the day before you leave would be good. That ways you two can talk if he wants and you two can get closure. If you're leaving later at night, perhaps tell him the m…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/22 06:41 PM
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WHAT?! There are lots of other reasons other than abuse for leaving someone. Different goals, values, lifestyles etc. So many more. We are not here to question the validity of her wanting to break up. We are here to help her on how to do so.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/22 06:36 PM
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over text?! WHAT. 100% right about the blindsiding thing....but not over text
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/22 06:35 PM
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Because we need a year or two more of dating. I told him I'd want him to know by four years of dating, that I thought he would know by then aaaand he agreed he would too. November will be two years of dating. So we just aren't there yet. I think we need to focus on how to handle stressful situations together, de-escalate in those situations, and maybe get one or two other concerns out of the way and then personally I'd be ready. I'm not sure exactly what he needs to feel ready but that would be …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 03:55 AM
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Neither saying you’re too short or you’re too fat is NOT acceptable. Both are asshole things to say, obviously. I thought this was obvious? Anyone who thinks either thing is okay is….an asshole!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 02:28 AM
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So this is more in response to your edit 2. But I think men are sure about attraction a lot faster than women are. Like it happens almost instantly for men and women have to think on it. In response to your title I think the opposite is true for women. They’d rather be wife material than hookup material.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 02:20 PM
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On one of their early dates he set up a spontaneous nighttime picnic and she just found it really romantic. He knew what he wanted, he did romantic things for her,he would check in with her about getting home safe, they did fun things together…idk really just that she’s never come to me about another concern about anything to do with him again. She told me the sex was the best she’s ever had. Her ex had a way of making her feel like she’d only get his attention if he wanted sex but wouldn’t do a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 07:01 PM
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No she wasn’t embarrassed. She was more like walking into dating a height difference was important to her but she met this great guy who made it not feel important to her and she was surprised by even meeting someone so awesome so quickly. Idk why girls need validation or a come to Jesus talk from each other. I think we just need support from other women occasionally. But I basically agreed that he sounds like a great guy and she’s attracted to him so just drop that preference you walked into da…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 06:55 PM
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She wanted to feel small and feminine with him I think. But I think he does make her feel feminine in other ways and being torn means she had to drop her preconceived ideals she walked in with because I think she realized they weren’t as important to her as she thought they were. Everything else he offered was way more valuable and important to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 02:18 PM
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I like aspects of them, and don't many others. So I cherry pick
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 08:57 PM
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Mmmm briefly. During the first few months of the pandemic, and when I was single, I considered OF. Ultimately turned off by the idea not to mention I got my job back 2-3months into the panny aaaand got a bf and I wasn't about to disrespect him, myself, or our relationship. I do find strippers and the lifestyle fascinating. There's a few ex strippers and current strippers I follow on Tik Tok and they are small time creators and share intimate looks into what their lives look like. Strippers reall…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:56 PM
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I think usually they do. Especially childhood and teenage years and I'd say early 20s too. I think even baby girls tend to learn how to talk first? So emotional intelligence develops first perhaps. This is just the average and I think at some point it does equal out and then comes down to personal development which is probably affected by nature and nurture. At this point in time, I think my bf (m 30) is actually a bit more mature than me (28 f) in some ways. In other ways I might have a leg up …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:47 PM
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I can't really answer for myself, as I'm barely 5'1 and as long as the guy is taller and bigger than me I'm fine. And that's not hard to do. But I'm answering based on my friend's experience. I have a girl friend who is idk 5'4/5'5 and she was dating this guy who was like 5'6/5'7 and she was kind of turned off by his height. She really liked a larger size difference. She was kind of torn or looking for permission to be happy as she was telling me about being torn. But she also told me about how …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:41 PM
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Mmmmm so in hook up or ONS kind of situations it will be heavily looks (for both women AND men) as well as some chemistry. On dating apps first impression will be pictures, and yes you want to be attracted to potential partners, that's not shallow though that's necessary for partnership. You need to be attracted to your partner's looks on some level. But OBVIOUSLY there are more important things because looks change. And a partnership needs to be built on more than just attraction and sex. But a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:48 PM
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I think it looks that way from the outside. I've heard that men move on faster but it takes a little longer for the breakup to hit them. While women are hit first with the break up blues and then are moving on when it hits the men. So maybe it's that? It was that way with my first serious ex and I. And I do think as someone else said, options play a role as well. For me, when I started talking to other guys I realized they embodied or offered some qualities that I had to literally cry and beg my…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:39 PM
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Sometimes I think it's the girl. And sometimes I think it's the timing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 11:43 PM
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I think it depends on your values and what you're looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 06:47 PM
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I'd have to disagree. It's super hot. As long as he isn't too arrogant on top of that. But like teach me stuff, fix things, and know how to get shit done? Umm yes please. My bf is studying to become a programmer and I think how he can fix my shit and wants to be a provider someday is hot as hell. Super manly. Literally makes me melt. This just isn't true in my experience. and on top of that it doesn't seem to be with my friends either. My bestie is drop dead gorgeous and has had guys chasing aft…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 06:47 PM
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Being reliable, emotionally mature, honest, interested in a commitment, emotionally available, hard working, motivated, well rounded adult, gets shit done, intelligent, has a good sense of humour, loves and respects his friends and family, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 06:35 PM
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lol statistical facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 06:26 PM
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Two waitresses I work with their moms are taller than their dads. Our hostess's parents are about the same height although both are tall. My one good friend her first serious bf and first love was the same height or an inch shorter. He ended up cheating on her (was a serial cheater ew). One of my besties met a guy who was about the same height as her and she was initially turned off by that but he checked literally every one of her other "boxes". She let that go and within a year they moved in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 06:14 PM
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Mmm I stand by the need to vet and filter out people when dating. But so should men. I think if you feel financially used this is a huge big fat red flag and run. Because she doesn't like or respect you. But I think there's got to be ways to vet and filter to help minimize actually being used. Personally if a guy expects sex early I'm gonna bounce because that's a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:34 AM
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Yeah, but I think there are other red flags that you can kind of look out for, and it's really words backed up by actions. Guys who want you to come over right away and don't say anything about a date or initiate anything in public but say they want to find a gf or something are red flags. There's a lot I look out for and it's served me pretty well.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 03:10 AM
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There’s no foolproof way to 100% protect yourself against POS people. With dating the best I’ve found is vetting and filtering. Lowers your odds of finding yourself in that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:43 PM
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Those gross men are the exception. Filtering gets rid of a lot but there are some manipulators and narcissists that slip through.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:39 PM
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You can do things to not let yourself get hormone drunk. If you’re going into a ons you have to know what you’re getting into and make sure you’re seeing the guy for who he is and not how you want to see him. Keep the cuddling down and don’t go on dates. Ons are to fill a need for people. Women are not doing this while going on dates and getting to know a guy they think has ltr possibility. Especially if she’s wanting a ltr she is not having ons and risking messing up something she really wants.…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:37 PM
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Yup he fits into the will go very far for it. They sound like they were incredibly incompatible
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:13 PM
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it can happen. Some guys just like the chase and will go very far for it. But if you ask to go on dates and do platonic and bonding activities, guys who don't want to do that will not let it get to that stage.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 07:28 PM
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Because you can get hormone drunk. For women, after sex and / or orgasms we release bonding hormones and it makes me get cuddly, lovey, and see men through rose coloured glasses. So I want to date the guy a bit and see if he deserves that part of me and if I want to take a risk of getting my feelings hurt. Or hurt in any way, std and pregnancy risk included. I think it's important to get to know someone before sex becomes a thing. Not to mention, if a guy just wants sex, making him wait is a qui…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 07:25 PM
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Your post has no clear topic and no strong arguments that are in line with the topic. Reading your post was chaotic and all I got from it was whining.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 04:56 PM
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What about the guy who doesn't really have a kink? Only thing my bf loves is creampies which is also mine...but he says he isn't kinky or into anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 07:24 PM
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So I think women have it easier when it comes to getting sex. Usually it's in our court. Commitment is usually in men's court and they have it easier. Usually...not for everyone or situation. But that's what I've found. Women control sex and men control commitment. But beautiful women control both. Beautiful men probably control both as well but to a lesser extent. And the beauty is subjective to a degree. I think there's also an added element of someone just not being ready for commitment and i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:43 AM
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All you can think about is your own sex drive to such an extent that you don't think literally anything else is important or could cause other people issues. And personally this has not been my experience. Disregarding your narcissism and preoccupation with your dick not getting touched, what you might want to focus on is putting others first for a change and eventually finding a partner who is sexually compatible with you and not just someone you find attractive and trying to change them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 03:09 PM
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I personally like guys with a muscular or stocky build. And prefer masculinity. But I don't mind some femininity just not too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 03:03 PM
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I think respect is an aspect of it but so is how much time you've been with her and how serious you two are. If you unload on someone too new it will be a turn off because early dating is a time of making good impressions and getting to know each other. In a serious relationship where there is respect and affection it will be received well unless she's immature and a narcissist.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 04:48 AM
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It depends on timing. If it's really new, then no. Just mention you're going through a hard time but I don't think you should delve too deeply. This goes for everyone gender regardless and sexual preferences regardless. The reason being is early on you should be still getting to know one another, making positive impressions, and keeping it kind of lighter. Later into the relationship you absolutely should. It shows trust and maturity. Nothing makes me feel closer to my guy then when he opens abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 04:46 AM
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He found out my dad was going to need help putting his dock in and he got his friends together, approached me dad with his help, and on his day off they spent the afternoon putting a dock together in the water for my dad. He took it on himself to help my family. Found out my sister had moved and thought she was still in the process and told me he was available to help. Just his willingness to help my family is extremely touching.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/22 02:11 AM
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Wearing dresses and rompers really help because they make you look more put together and fem without much effort. I find a lot of joy and creativity through make up and skincare, it's definitely a creative outlet and a self care outlet, both that is. I don't think you have to though, the main thing is to not let other people define your femininity, only you can do that. But perhaps think about how you carry yourself, interact with people, react, and move through the world.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/22 05:18 AM
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she only said that to hurt you and wiggle out of taking responsibility for what she did, not because there was any truth to it. Goes to show what a garbage person she was. She wasn't even groveling or ashamed, she wanted you to feel shame on top of that. Truly, it was never about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 07:53 AM
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I'm a woman and I have to say the whole thing is devastating to me. Just devastating. Your trust in someone in particular, people in general, and love would be completely destroyed. I'd feel manipulated, lied to, and disgusted. I don't think it's a biological or gender thing. Every situation is just different.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 07:51 AM
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Yeah I think it is an addiction to drama and they don’t get to be a saviour in a situation that is super harmful and dangerous to me. And I feel the same way about music. There’s so much to appreciate in every genre. They all have a lot to offer
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/22 03:13 PM
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Yeah I find it really annoying, as if people can't appreciate more than one type of music. And actually fully appreciate it. And it felt like they wanted me to have had certain types of trauma or experiences and talk about it a certain way. Very difficult to describe. But they'd ask me if I ever self harmed etc and seemed happy to hear I hadn't but also kind of disappointed in a really subtle way. Honestly not great experiences with either of them.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/22 08:45 AM
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Depends on the guy! My bf loves that I play video games, loves that I bake, loves that I like a lot of the same rappers as him (drake, childish gambino, kid cudi, chance the rapper, and j. cole) and loves that I like to knit and crochet. He doesn't care for make up per say but likes to watch me put it on and when I get excited about it. He definitely does like watching me do girly things but also enjoys sharing some hobbies and interests. I think what's more important to a guy who actually cares…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 04:48 AM
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I’ve dated several guys who are bald and or balding it didn’t change anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 10:15 PM
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I’d shame the shit out of a cheater but otherwise....the only other thing I’d be concerned about is sex/human trafficking. That deserves some shaming. After that idk do what you want with your body.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 01:55 AM
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I looove this post. It’s so thoughtful and well written. Really thought provoking thank you!!
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/21 08:41 PM
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Not always true. I’ve now been in two relationships where my bf has a lower sex drive than me by some degree and has control when we sext and have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 03:40 PM
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I cuddle him to me and start kissing him. Or when spooning do the wiggle
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 02:31 AM
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Hey thanks for your response. I was asking more so what the difference between testing someone and vetting is though. Do you think there is one?
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/21 03:29 PM
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Sex loving atheist woman here and it has nothing to do with morals for me just being so desired, predatory behaviour, and a lack of control. On a side note sex should not be guilt inducing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/21 04:14 AM
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Only if he’s unwilling to learn
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/21 04:29 AM
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I think it’s both personally
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/21 04:19 AM
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YouTube, IG, and Pinterest can be helpful. Dresses and sweaters are some of the easiest fixes to that. But every now and then there’s nothing wrong with kitschy, silly, and youngish clothes. Time and place is key.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/20 09:25 PM
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I’m 26 and have pcos so I’m def worried
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 02:02 AM
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I have pcos so yeahhh I do =( and tweeze the heck out of it
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 01:07 AM
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What’s comfort test?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/20 05:46 PM
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I wish I could have them now at 26. But I hope at least to start before I’m 30. My dream is to have four, two boys and two girls. Maybe have two my self and adopt two.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 11:56 PM
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My most recent ones are skin care, hair care, and gardening aaaand getting back into perfumes and mists
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 01:52 PM
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Yeah what this gal said. There are some other comments I agree with too. Tbh you should back off and let the guy plan the date, pursue you and kiss you. This will let you gauge their interest and motivation in you AND will allow for vetting. If you had done this, this scummy guy wouldn’t have gotten through your vetting stages. A guy who wants to get to know you and focus on you won’t play games and sleep around like this guy
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 07:08 PM
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Taylor swift, Kelsea Ballerini, Maren Morris, Kacey Musgraves, Ariana Grande, Ari Lennox, Summer Walker, Mackenzie Porter, Charlotte Lawrence, Maddie & Tae, Lana Del Rey, Kwamie Liv, Jude, Jessie Ware, Tei Shi, Fergie, Ella Mai, Camilla Cabello, Selena Gomez, Lorde, Haim, Monogem, Yuna, Ciara, Jessie J There’s pop, country, r&b, alternative genres here :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 05:31 PM
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I would try to be sympathetic that she lives with so much hate, fear, and dash of immaturity / gall to speak to you like that. That sucks though and I’m so sorry you were talked down to like that. Keep in mind she may have experienced some kind of trauma and is jaded. I’m sorry about your experience though she treated you poorly. Not a worthy friend to have I suppose
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/20 07:45 PM
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I think it’s just a kink and not something grounded in reality. Maybe you guys could have some fun with it
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/20 03:41 AM
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I do know a couple guys with legit crazy and abusive mothers. I think on some level they love them but for obvious reasons need to maintain a distant or non existent relationship. That’s completely understandable. I’m talking about my ex who had a loving and warm mom who he thought was annoying and never told her I love you or hugged her. Even on her bday or Mother’s Day. Should have been a red flag. You sound like a troll but I gave you a serious response anyway
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/20 03:02 PM
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It implies the guy is not motivated or independent. He will depend on you to pick him up and visit you or go places. Can’t really take you out on a date. Possible bad at managing his finances. Possibly childish. This is only for suburban or country guys. If he lives in the city it’s likely he doesn’t need a car to get around which isn’t ideal but totally forgiven
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/20 03:00 PM
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By having a list of things to look for and look out for. Asking for money, being flakey, bad relationship with family especially his mom, not progressing the relationship, not taking care of his mental or physical health, no license or car, no dreams, serious self esteem issues Edit: oh my gosh lol obvi these are red flags guys! Not green ones.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/20 05:14 AM
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Libido?
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/20 07:57 PM
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Not big. I mean I hope the people close to me see what I see in him and that we look good together. But it’s very low on my list. I’m gradually getting off some social media sites. But in the end what matters most is my own opinion of him and everyone else had better accept it unless they’re seeing red flags I’m not. Others opinions only go so far with me. But it is flattering when friends and fam think he’s cute or a good looking guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 02:06 AM
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True, but in terms of something with long term potential, if there isn’t any of the stuff I mentioned then sexual compatibility doesn’t matter. Idk in my opinion they all rely on each other
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 05:04 PM
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Idk if I can ID one thing as more important than the other. Similar goals, values, a shit ton of interests in common etc is so important. And I’ve heard of a lot of relationships ending because one person is more extroverted and the other introverted and they prioritize socializing highly. I also think a basis of friendship is hugely important. I think it’s a foundation of a good relationship as well. I just cant ID one most important factor is all. Edit: I kinda look at it as a pie chart and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 04:09 PM
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Ah okay, well thanks for your response anyway! I personally don’t relate to the quote. I wouldn’t want a husband who only has a partner for sex only but otherwise I don’t relate to the quote. I’d want to meet my husbands needs or at least as many as I reasonably can. That’s a partnership
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 03:58 PM
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I identify with some rpw mantra probably at least 50% or more and yes have been victim to hypergamy. But I think that’s a separate issue from the quote. I think sexual compatibility is a huge factor that a lot of people when dating don’t consider. Not to mention people’s sex drives change throughout a lifetime so it’s important that the couple work through that. I think besides drive people also prioritize sex differently. I’ve heard of people who have high drives but don’t prioritize it highly,…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 03:46 PM
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I think it’s apart of self care and self improvement personally.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/20 08:32 PM
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No I think he’s probably down to earth and usually very present
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 04:24 AM
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Hmm all I know is it’s a fetish or fave porn genre for them. I just don’t know if they would date her or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 10:13 PM
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No clue if “most” is true or not but a number of the guys I’ve seated ARE into milfs.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 06:01 PM
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This is personally how I feel and I feel some deep sense of shame about it and KNOW my family would judge me. But deep down it is what I want. I want to be a homemaker very badly.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/19 11:27 PM
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Yeah that’s how I feel, you worded it better. But I like other parts of what op said about being open minded and responsible for your own happiness. I think communication is important, as it always is.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/19 07:17 PM
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Yeah I’m fine with not exchanging presents if that is what is agreed upon but I’d have a problem with being surprised with a present if we agreed on not exchanging or with no present if we agreed on exchanging
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/19 07:00 PM
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I definitely do get joy from just giving random gifts. But if my partner and I talk about participating in a holiday then we both need to participate
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/19 06:28 PM
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Because it’s a national holiday and that’s just what is done. I don’t have an overarching inner anger but if we talk about participating in a holiday then I’d be hurt if I was the only one giving. It’s the gesture not the gift. Being hurt by not being given a gift doesn’t affect my appreciation the rest of the year
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/19 06:20 PM
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I like the main gist of what you’re saying but I feel like expecting a present (the gesture not what it is) for Christmas is an incredibly basic thing to do for your family and loved ones. I’d be pissed idk
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/19 06:10 PM
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At around 97 lbs I don’t think you’ll intimidate men. This is ridiculously cute that you say so though. I think wearing cute work out gear or French braiding your hair may help you feel like you’re maintaining it. Because I think a lot of femininity is being in touch with it yourself
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 05:03 PM
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How many women did you ask on a date in uni?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 04:11 PM
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Not married, this is just super cute
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/19 04:49 PM
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Well just because they watch porn doesn’t mean it’s an addiction. As a tool for masturbation where it doesn’t affect our sex life, fine. If it’s an addiction and affects our sex life then we have a problem.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/19 08:34 PM
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Yes. All men and all women? Probably not. But in the right situation with the right people yes. I’m not a virgin and am seeing a guy now for the last nearly month and we haven’t had sex yet. We both have come to realize that sex means something to both of us and don’t want to rush into it until we are exclusively seeing each other. He actually brought that up first and I’ve agreed and we’ve maintained that. It’s both very clear to both of us that we very much want each other so that’s not a doub…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 06:58 PM
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I would start with just saying you like traditional relationships and gender roles
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/19 12:06 AM
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Hi, I do just not all that often. Check out, yes all the time. But stare, every once in a blue moon. If I’m head over heels for another guy staring at another guy becomes even more infrequent
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 12:55 AM
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They’re very very practical people so I think those types of people are more likely to instil those values, that’s my theory anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 09:23 PM
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Hmm I could see my brother and sil telling my nephews not to be pushovers
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 06:00 PM
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Yeah it’s just that was the extent
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 05:55 PM
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Idk...my mom talked more about safety and what men are after more than my dad. My dad never really talked about boys other than the need to get a big tough guard dog to protect my sister and I. And wanting to be addressed sir until the wedding day. Other than that all the warnings were from my mom... very directly
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 05:46 PM
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Yeah that’s an interesting point
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 05:59 PM
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I just read the title, but yes I agree! While I don’t agree with all of trp that sense of community it seems to give me I appreciate.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 01:27 AM
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I suppose in general I don’t care for attitudes of entitlement. But I care about how the guy I like has experienced dating and sexual issues as that could effect how our experience goes, and if I like him I want it to be a successful and happy experience for the both of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 02:35 AM
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I personally am also politically left leaning and a feminist but I also relate and value lots of RPW ideas so I’ve found a place within the sub. It’s an interesting sub with lots of perspectives that will make you stop and think and reflect on your own values and goals too. My point is there’s a spot here for you too
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/19 02:27 AM
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I mean all of these are very important to me to give and receive, so this was kinda tough to answer. To express: I struggle with staying in the moment and giving undivided attention courtesy of ADD and being an introvert who’s often in her head. So I suppose quality time is something that I have to work harder at giving although it’s something I’m happy and want to do. Also being an introvert means sometimes I need my alone time to relax so I always ration out time for myself and time for qualit…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 02:51 PM
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I agree with it not being good advice 😂
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/19 03:15 PM
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I think there are benefits you can get from a gf and different ones you can get from a wife, so levelling up in a relationship essentially. So dating for 2-4 years and having separate leases is fine but eventually I will want more commitment. To me marriage is acknowledging and making a pledge to partner for the long haul and eventually that’s what I want with the right guy. I think dating my youth away is a high price to pay too personally and investing in someone hugely emotionally without fur…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/19 05:41 AM
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I think you’re anticipating a disastrous divorce aaaand it sounds like you need a partner who is fairly independent and career minded. Like someone to stand beside you and not be too dependent. I know lots of women who went right back to work after having kids and their mat leave was up and are very career focused. They’re definitely out there. And clicking isn’t really enough of a reason to marry. You need that and a real partnership. Where your fear is coming from is completely understandable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/19 02:57 AM
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That’s true too you can’t account for abuse or mental health changes / underlying conditions. So vet the best you can
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/19 01:19 AM
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In some health or psychology course I’ve taken in the past the material covered men living longer and surviving heart attacks with supportive families. Having someone to bounce ideas off of, have a sex life with, provide emotional support, etc. I mean even cuddling and hugs lower blood pressure, reduce pain and lower stress. A good partner you should be compatible with across the boards and be emotionally, socially, physically, mentally, and intellectually stimulated by. Hopefully they complete …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 11:01 PM
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Yes definitely I’d say. But this is also why I won’t move in with a bf until at least engaged. I want to offer my partner all the benefits of a long term partner/wife but I want the commitment. I agree that it comes down to your ability to vet your partner and communicate and work through obstacles.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 08:37 PM
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I mean I was thinking more of a just oral sex scenario than rape
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 01:07 AM
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I think 7 is actually a good average for my friends and I. We are all 23-25 F: 6-9 Me: 5 E: 4 C: 1 J: 3-7 L: 9-12 C: 6 C: 9-12 Tbh my sexuality is sometimes vague to me. Like did I just cum? Did I just get wet, pee a little, or get my period? Is that the a spot and is that the gspot? Does he count towards my number? Am I going to squirt or pee? If I squirt without cumming does that count as an orgasm? And so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 07:51 PM
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There’s elements and factions of the sub I like but that top rated one IS disgusting. While I do like my man in the more traditional role of provider I don’t expect a man to be very early on in dating. That expectation is entitlement. It’s a first date, we’re still seeing IF we want to invest in one another (our time, emotionally, physically, financially, etc), expecting a guy to fill that role immediately is crazy to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 07:07 AM
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I mean break ups really suck for both sides and it’s good to do a little self care to make sure you get through it okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 12:32 AM
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I think your consideration of it and thinking about how the other person feels and sees things is very compassionate. I hope you both were able to make peace with the situation and possibly each other, and learn from the experience
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 01:11 AM
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That sounds like a painful experience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 08:13 PM
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I’ve walked away from two guys liked this and the first was PISSED and turned it around that I was manipulating him. lol how was letting him go manipulating him?! The second was confused as hell and then later turned it around to mean I wanted to be engaged. Lol just asked to go on some dates and be exclusive. * Watch out for their reaction. They’ll be manipulative and try to gaslight you and make you feel bad. I felt BAD that I had “manipulated” the first guy until I remembered I was the one wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 07:00 PM
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Yeah that’s completely a likely scenario!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/19 11:22 PM
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Golf, sailing, and gyms are great places to meet guys.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/19 03:19 PM
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I read the situation as one of two ways. I could be draaaastically wrong but here it is: he works long ass work weeks and once he’s home he’s really not up for leaving and won’t find the motivation or “get up and go”. However if this is the case I think the way he worded it harshly and should have given you an explanation. I would have gotten mad and annoyed at that text as well. Total lack of communication and harsh in this scenario. Or your interpretation that he isn’t into you. A third what s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/19 12:59 PM
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I can give my experience of it within a relationship, but can't for the dating aspect because I was a virgin when I had met him. I (f) had a higher drive than he did and we dated for 2 years. The relationship ended for reasons not related to sex. It was frustrating not having a partner as sexual and that's something I now know to look for in a partner, but we made it work. Basically we compromised but it was still always on his/the lower libido partner's terms. There was never any infidelity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 06:24 PM
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