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Kindred spirits indeed. Funny you mention, I look back on high school and smile now. Allow me to share. I can count offhand at least four attractive women I could have slept with on a moment's notice but didn't know how to go about it. There was even one who gave me a note that said she wanted to have sex with me. Straight out. Fuck me: please check [yes] [no] or [maybe]. Guess what I did haha! But, you know... 10 years later, one of those girls came crawling back to me, desperate, trying to re-…
/r/seduction07/12/12 12:13 AM
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Dude, I love you. This is the answer I've been looking for all along. You're absolutely right!! Whenever things began to go stale, I'd try harder. Or give up altogether. Now, I don't blame myself for the latter and it sounds like you don't either: some women are just fucking boring. As for the rest, I really shouldn't be ramping up my game when I could make her win me over. And it's funny... this is straight from Magic Bullets when you think about it: it's like you're reverting to a Qualifying s…
/r/seduction06/12/12 07:21 PM
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Since your comment is now the top comment, I want to address it. I wrote a long response yesterday but then decided not to post it because it made me sound like a douche. I guess I'll risk it by saying: I'm pretty different from the 14 other guys she has gone out with. Now... does that mean I'm not falling into the same old traps and asking generic questions that I never should have? No! But this is why I posed this topic to Seddit. I'm sure other guys here have been on dates where they did all …
/r/seduction06/12/12 03:36 AM
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Second, dates should not be expensive... most cost me no more than $7 for a beer or drink for myself. I agree that they shouldn't be expensive, but I play it by ear. I live in Manhattan so the venue you pick often has a lot to do with demonstrating value. I'm clever about it, but a couple good drinks can sometimes add up. Plus, I like scotch and Manhattans... so I'm not a cheap date myself :) I'm just saying as a life philosophy, trying to force chemistry isn't a winning solution. You're right. …
/r/seduction05/12/12 12:34 AM
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In a word... sex. Just because two people know they're wrong for each other doesn't mean they can't enjoy each other's company. Remember, dates take work to set up and make happen, plus they can be expensive. I believe that if you're already on the date, you might as well salvage something from it -- even if that something is only a bit of temporary mutual enjoyment.
/r/seduction04/12/12 11:47 PM
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I'll absolutely take your advice to heart. That said, I doubt that's the primary problem. It may be secondary, but I tend to keep the topics on things they're interested in and make sure that they're talking about themselves in a context that make them feel happy/positive. Like, when I'm out with a teacher, they'll love to tell you about their students. That's an hour long conversation on its own, there :) Now that I've said my piece, what kinds of questions do you focus on?
/r/seduction04/12/12 11:18 PM
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Meds can help.
/r/seduction15/11/12 08:59 AM
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That has happened to me a lot of times when I cut a girl off rather than chasing/playing her games. Like clockwork, two weeks later, 11pm text saying "hey." In my experience, though, those girls are a waste of time. You got lucky... or you did something very right.
/r/seduction26/09/12 04:41 PM
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It's being said a lot in this thread, but seriously, rejection happens. I've been rejected scores of times this month alone (in one way or another), and I'm good at hitting on women, extremely physically fit, and pretty good looking. I've also had lots of successes that it makes up for it. I used to hang with a guy who was a model. A fucking underwear model. He got rejected all the time. It blew my mind. But you know, he was forward and confident enough that he made it natural, as some of these …
/r/seduction16/09/12 11:35 AM
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Remember man, there's no "angle." I noticed you used that word... and it's dangerous territory if you try to do this stuff like an actor. You just need to be confident. And also keep in mind, just because you steer the date (even to her apartment) doesn't mean you're necessarily getting laid. That part is always the woman's decision at the end of the day.
/r/seduction13/08/12 06:25 AM
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You're psyching yourself out already. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself, man. This is borderline oneitis in the way that you're obsessing over one girl, btw. You're young so it'll happen I guess. I sure did back then. Here's the thing -- if you approach, you have to make it seem unplanned, and you should do it within seconds of running into her. If you stand there for 30 seconds before opening, you'll be finished before you even start. Smile with your whole face, own the space around you…
/r/seduction12/08/12 05:47 AM
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No... that's a question and you sound uncertain saying it.
/r/seduction12/08/12 01:55 AM
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No. Make it casual. Last night I was with a lady on a date and when we were leaving the second bar, she asked, "where are we going?" I answered with a smile, "your place." And that's where we went.
/r/seduction11/08/12 09:23 PM
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You don't let her know that it's not an option. You simply tell her that she's inviting you back to her place.
/r/seduction11/08/12 05:34 PM
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Real female insight on r/seduction? I'm new here so... well... I just never expected! :) I always get the feeling that if my female friends read the things I've written and discussed in this thread, many of them (though not all) would be appalled. At first, I blew off your first bulletpoint. Duh, I don't show too much eagerness. But then... maybe I do. It's hard to suggest the idea to a woman that she should invite me up to her place -- or come back to mine -- without a twinge of eagerness. Rega…
/r/seduction06/08/12 08:10 PM
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I think you need more positive reinforcement to make you feel comfortable approaching. My suggestion is to go to more mingling-/social-oriented events where you're expected to socialize with new people (male and female). Try meetup.com. It will be a trial by fire, but you'll get to practice approaching without the apprehension.
/r/seduction06/08/12 07:43 AM
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And that's the material I'll be following. I'm glad we see eye to eye. I'm in my 30's so it's basically the same as what you did. I think my biggest blunder has been pointed out, though: I'm not a touchy guy by nature and it's working to my disadvantage if I want to F-close. Last night, I never really touched the girl. No kino, you'd say. Then again, 10 years ago I wasn't a charismatic guy... or a sexual one, really. It looks like it's time for a change, even if it takes me out of my comfort zon…
/r/seduction06/08/12 06:53 AM
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You know what, man? I was being honest and candid with you. If you want to be immature about it, that's your prerogative, but that attitude of yours will only serve to hinder your learning and hold back your inner game. Every moment of your life, you have to choose between being a child and being a man. Consider the latter in the future.
/r/seduction06/08/12 04:41 AM
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Wow, that's a lot of reading material! Thanks so much!
/r/seduction06/08/12 02:41 AM
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Thanks so much! I'll do just that.
/r/seduction06/08/12 02:40 AM
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nobody should judge anyone else in this board! Tell that to Delightful_White. Anyhow, FWB could be ok, but my mind has never worked well with those. I wish I could explain it... There are a few girls I could sleep with again if I suggested it, but I don't. Not interested. I guess what matters is that my goal is a series of ONS. Why? I'm getting on in years and I might (gasp) even settle down one of these days. Maybe even soon. But I've spent most of my life working or studying my ass off, poor a…
/r/seduction06/08/12 02:18 AM
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I don't take a woman on a date if I want to fuck her; I take a woman on a date because I see a potential relationship with her. Dating for sex is, IMHO, silly, time-consuming, and provides poor odds of success compared to other methods. FYI: Hotel bar: 2-3 drinks each plus one appetizer with tip = $100 easily. Splitting the bill is a faux pas if you want another date. The kind of women I'm going out with are used to much more lavish dates than I provide, believe me. I'm not sure what you're doin…
/r/seduction06/08/12 01:47 AM
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To address the personal note, there are many reasons that are personal to myself. I'm not selling my opinion nor recommending it. It's solely mine. Now, in general, if you don't go for the ONS, you get a phone number. If you get a number, you have to date the person. I don't like dates. It's a pain, and much worse here in NYC than anywhere else I've lived. Also, if you move to dating territory, women have rules -- usually 'don't sleep with a man until the 2nd/3rd date.' So we're going from a che…
/r/seduction06/08/12 01:39 AM
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This is great! I was unaware of the idea of calibrating based upon goals (I certainly do calibrate depending upon how attractive/young the woman is) but that certainly makes a lot of sense. I keep asking everyone in this thread the same thing but no responses: what are some good reading materials on escalating sexual kino and language? Any thoughts?
/r/seduction06/08/12 12:36 AM
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I'm no PUA master so take my opinion as you will. I think that what you're suggesting is an awful idea. But hear me out! :) Aside from slutty girls (not usually my type and they shouldn't be yours either) high value women want to enjoy the romantic roller coaster of meeting a man that they like. For them, it's an emotional journey with a potential for the future. That's why people suggest you tell stories about what you and the woman are going to do in the future, even though you've never even b…
/r/seduction06/08/12 12:30 AM
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split the bill. $20 each maybe You can't be serious. I really really mean no disrespect with this question, but what kinds of women were you dating? SES? and where were you taking them? and would you really split the bill?? Arguing this point is silly, but an average "cheap date" in NYC is about $100 for me, and I go on the lower end of the spectrum. If a woman is not a drinker, though, it can actually escalate into a pricier date rather quickly.
/r/seduction06/08/12 12:19 AM
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Get what message? Creating jealousy (if it has that effect) wouldn't make the woman more likely to sleep with me. I personally think that that is dangerous territory. Even being subtle like, "I promised a friend I'd join her for drinks," only creates a disqualifier. It makes her interested in me... but in what way? Sexually? Relationshippy?
/r/seduction05/08/12 11:41 PM
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Interesting. I recall that Savoy said in Magic Bullets to avoid making out in a bar/cab, etc., but I'm beginning to wonder if I need to consider a bit more escalation/teasing? I get that I'm totally failing in sexual kino, as Digestivee said. That's very clear. But is it that bad to escalate in a cab? It seems like I've had success in making out in a cab with some heavy touching, just to make sure the woman knows where this is going. Also, any suggestions on reading materials related to directin…
/r/seduction05/08/12 10:58 PM
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...why? EDIT: Since you're probably not going to answer, allow me to at least say that we are all at different experience levels in this subreddit. Berating me for my challenges would be like berating a weight lifter in /r/fitness who is struggling with their left oblique definition, simply because you're still trying to jog your first mile. I'm an old man now, so I'm damn well happy that my issues with PUA are about fine-tuning rather than learning the basics!
/r/seduction05/08/12 10:42 PM
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Any suggestions on a resource to read on specifically-sexual kino?
/r/seduction05/08/12 10:01 PM
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